I'm 74, a USMC Vietnam veteran, a retired firefighter, husband, and father. Since the Marine Corps, fitness and a “can-do” attitude have kept me young and able to meet any challenge. Your lessons are excellent in this life, and may I add one: be resilient when the day doesn't go as planned. Have a plan B, adapt and overcome. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
Well said Marine! As a retired Army grunt myself. The "terrian dictates" and "adapt and overcome" principles I found are adaptable to everyday life. Im only 47, and if someone had told me 5 years ago that men would start to become soup sandwiches, I wouldnt have believed it. If you see something wrong....do something, sound off like you've got a pair! Get along to get along, to each his own and I always reserve the right to agree to disagree. I still uphold the oath I took back in 91'. I applaud all of you gentlemen for maintaining your bearing and driving on! God Bless you all. God Bless America🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Respect. As corny as the saying "Age is just another number" might be, you can always better yourself regardless of age. I wish you strength to continue! All the best to you!
The greatest gift I gave to myself at 25 years of age was to 'enjoy my own company'. I started by learning to cook high quality meals for myself in small portions. Some of the best reading a man can do to improve himself (next to the words of Jesus) is Marcus Aurelius. I am now 64 and have achieved the goals that I set for myself in my youth. Best of luck gentlemen.
Completely agree, on reading the Bible as well as Aerelius. It took me a little bit longer than you to realize I need to take care of myself above all else, and I focused too much on "keeping up" with "friends" and women for years and years. The most valuable things I have learned in my 41 years so far are self care, leaving toxic situations and people immediately, and focusing completely on leaving the rat race as soon as humanly possible. Godspeed brother.
Forty in October big brother and I planed a real estate empire 25 years ago that's firing up now after buying the property's in 17 for pennies on the dollar like in the movies where the government has a little known about public land auction website. Developing a couple to sell this year. Make the plan then die with the plan, never have a Plan B that just brings up the conversation quitting could be a option.
I am 40 too. I was always a "good boy". Now I just take care of myself first. 100% me. From 35 to 40 it was an eye opening. Stopped sabotaging myself too.
Few things I did. I stopped smoking and drinking. Stopped dating toxic females. Love them, but they are not good for me. Stopped watching too much TV and working exessive hours. I workout more, more active and spend way more time with my kids. Good diet. Also take your vitamins (especially Vitamin D). Few things that have made a huge difference in my life. PS My kids live with me 70% of the time.
@@hjsegui I'm 42, divorced, and live with my two boys 100% of the time. Was scared as to how I was gonna raise them by myself. 2 years down the line my life is taking shape, my body as well. I no longer tolerate bullsh!t in any relationship. I come first.
I just stumbled onto this video. I turn 47 tomorrow. I've spent my entire life following people and desperate for validation that never comes. Between toxic relationships, horrible choices with vices and excuses all combined with feeling sorry for myself I'm at a strange place. This video was a breath of fresh air. Time to put in the work. Thanks for your message. Subbed.
At 63,losing all I loved & strive for my spouse,mother,father & son,taught me the most valuable lesson,life happens,the how come,what for & why will tear you down if you try & figure it out,we spend 2/3 of our life's chasing down dreams,when we retire we're to physically & mentally wore out to enjoy it,my point is enjoy what you have,not what you want
I'm 54, been retired for a year, no debt, cash in the bank, in great shape & single...on purpose. I've gone monk-mode & I know a lot of men will look down on me for this, but my life has NEVER been better. A peaceful, quiet lifestyle is such a huge flex.
Don't spend money you don't have on things you don't need to impress people who don't matter. It doesn't matter what you do, all that matters is that you take responsibility for your actions.
I just wanted to check in and briefly share my story. I can relate to a lot of what was discussed in the video. I’m 33 years old. Had a good upbringing, did well in school, had a good family. But I had a lack of focus and purpose. I started drinking and partying, and years just ticked by. Eventually things completely fell apart and I lost everything. Dropped out of school, lots jobs, destroyed relationships. Addicted to heroin and meth, homeless on the streets, in and out of jail...it was a nightmare. And I created it. Now that I’m older though I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. After trying rehab over and over I finally managed to turn it around. I reestablished my faith in God, and got some clean time. I really dig deep and did some soul searching. I got a job, then a second one. I have an amazing girl friend. I started saving. Now I have 5 years clean from the hard stuff, and I’ve been working and saving for two years. I hope to own a home and get married soon. If I can do it, so can you. Be blessed, every one!!!!
Thank you for sharing your story. It would seem, based on the broad strokes you shared about your life we have some trials in common. By recounting not just the "good parts" but a whole picture you've managed to communicate hope for better times to me if I continue the "grind" forward. Very encouraging.
Brother, it is a rough journey leaving the Army life. Find another mission immediately. Don't linger it is weird becoming a civilian. God bless you, and thank you for your service.
More changes than you can imagine. Hopefully you are debt free with savings. Keep active don't let yourself go. Try to find ajob you like. Seek the Lord Find a good church, the support of other godly men is really helpful. Will pray for you
I'm 45 I've learned don't lie to yourself about your situation we tend to say everything is going good. Always keep yourself in shape, never break your word because it's the core of who you are.
Having a planner (calendar) filled with what you need to do that day, and tactical and strategic deadlines is liberating: you don't have to remember all of the stuff, but you don't let it fall through the cracks. On paper you look like a crazy man, but in you own head you are organized. It eliminates so much chronic stress so you can perform in the present.
47 this June. Recovering from COVID/hospitalization. Yes you are correct, definitely more mentally and emotionally comfortable. Life has become simpler. Less white noise. Like David Groggins said, "Stop caring what other people think of you". Being in isolation for almost two weeks, I learned, for me, it's to live for God, Jesus and my family. Do them right, and He will provide. Many blessings to you and yours man.
If Jesus helps you I think that is great and awesome. But I ask this of you Brother.Turn to your Ancestors and talk to them ask them for Guidance in life. They will speak to you and come to you.
As a 26 year old who feels lost and stagnant in life. I’ve had my share of mistakes and detours from the intended path. Resulting in not being where I thought I wanted or needed to be. Not being the person I know I am capable of. This video and the stories of these amazing men in the comments, it’s electrifying. It gives me confidence and motivation to challenge myself. It’s time to look inward and work on myself.
I felt the same way at 26. Now, at 46, I’ve accomplished everything I set out to do. My kids are raised. I built my own house. I’ve paid off all my self-sabotage(ing) debts. It takes time, sir. The days are long but the years are short. I hope this is helpful.
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Invest in a few books about self-care. When you've established healthy eating, sleeping, and exercise/work routines and you become interested in forming a relationship with a woman, stop. And ask yourself how well you know yourself and your own mind. Or what you want to accomplish in life? Internalize your own locus of control-- this is the step that will allow you to continue to make truly independent choices and keep you from getting manipulated and caught up/used in other people's (a woman's) plans. Learn about attachment theory. It governs how past significant relationships have influenced another person's thinking and/or actions. Learn about boundaries in relationships that are the way to safeguard your own self-respect and helps define the differences between you and others. And, never surrender the good relationships you've formed with male friends to placate any woman you might be interested in getting to know better. That's how you build loyalty in your friendships.
I’m almost 40 now. After fighting atypical major depressive disorder for 35 years, I’d say don’t let anyone who hasn’t been where you are tell you where you ought to be going. We are all constrained by our own horizons.
I’m a ‘75 vintage, and so I’ve been around the block a couple of times. Had a few wins, but tripped over every mistake (often in multiples). A woman is a byproduct of the success or failure that you make out of the mission you face in navigating the challenges of your journey. She should not be your central focus, and her behaviour will reflect the degree to which you have managed to comprehend that. God knows; I’m still working on grasping this, and cleaning up the mess created by my ignorance. I like this channel - subbed.
38 years old and have made some severely bad life choices up until the beginning of 2021. What I've gained since then... it's never too late to get started! I will say when I added in the planning out everyday, my productivity went up at least 50%! I want to thank you!
Im 40, Your comment just inspired me bro. I know Im not alone. My whole life has bee trauma and horrible choices and friends Ive had in life. I am fighting depression but if we dig deep, we will grow. Monk mode for me. No distractions. Salute.
@@teshmorrow605 the only way I'm going to stop trying as if I know today is my last day (even then I'm going to try all the way up until my last breath!) we can never give up! we have people that depend on us as men to provide for them and protect them. Somehow it has become socially acceptable to let your loved ones down (we have to change that) Keep fighting and find your purpose brother! once you find that purpose,everything else falls into place
I am 62. I am below 25 on the BMI scale. I am a better off-road motorcycle rider now than when I was 18. I could go on in this vein, but I won’t; you get the idea.
65 here. Lifestyle of exercise, nothing stupid. Been told I’ve got the heart of a 18 yr old endurance athlete. We all have our bad days, up and downs, stay focused. It pays dividends when you get older. Getting ready to retire in a couple of months. Stay strong, men. Our country will be calling on us very soon.
I'm 55 and just found your channel. I feel like I have spent my whole life rolling 2 feet forward then 4 back. Too many times I felt lost when trying to cross the wall that I placed in front of my face by past poor decisions. Now, I see someone to look at as an example. Not fan boy worship, but as an example to strive to achieve. Thank you.
Ive heard and believe: we have no heros...we as Americans have no age for Rights of passage . Heard Columbine may of happened simply because nobody told him any better. I believe Good people are out there and we need to surround ourselves with them. Good luck! Have a great day
Good video, thanks! Of all of the points you made I believe that the most important is to accept yourself. Not be satisfied, but accept yourself where you are. I'm 59 years old and it took a long time to accept myself. I have done good things and bad, but at my inner core, I'm a servant. Serving, protecting, and providing for others brings me joy, as well as achievement. Achievement requires goals. Defining for yourself what you want and how you want it to achieve it is a foundation for "success" how ever you might define that ideal.
I'll be 40 years old in October, I'm happy, but I can definitely improve. I've been married for almost eleven years and have a son. Only thing I'm definitely unsatisfied with is not having a career. Maybe being content is partially dangerous. I definitely feel that the wife and I grow stronger each year and am happy in that respect.
Dude, I am 35, about to complete PhD in electrical engineering, divorced my wife at 31,about to change job, sold house got cash, bought a decent apartment, about to change the city but involved in a 2 month relationship with an almost 30 year old gal, however since I started treating her like a princess, her dominant behaviour is coming up that is bothering me, and my plans are changing as they are circled around her, but thats making me unhappy, hence I decided to leave her, stick to my career goals only and that will make me happy which I wanna be at 40
Good move stay focused on your carrier stay single learn to just talk to a couple of girls here and there but no attachment sex will come of it but move on and stay focused on your carrier
@He IsLord actually the world isn't that a fine place after all, so though staying lonely might be difficult at 80 but it will be better than having a bitter taste all through out till 80
maybe she had other ideas of what a princess is guy...theres so many mistakes here i dont know where to start but for the good of all mankind, i will try: *slaps the sht out of you through the internet* tell me when you find something that makes us happy out here...we get a fleeting glimpse at best. suffering is the price of life. its unrealistic to expect having any kind of control over that. thats why love is worth the struggle. the helplessness, that unstoppable surrender, the uncertainty, its all normal. cant control that either. the joy when we find our worries had no merit? life changing. but rare. we lose faith and stop looking before we get there. we get hurt past any point of bearable and we shut it all down. we rationalize, stigmatize, ostracize our hearts away. it gets cold, we buckle up, double down. we get stiff. hard. and befre you know it *bink* big ole scary lookin block of ice, out on a glacier, sliding towards the water. and you start wishing you could feel anything agian. broken hearts included. how anything suppoise to spontaniously hapen in that. its rare because its hard to not fk it up almost immediately out of fear. but thats because nature wants the best of the best. love is the absence of fear. you can of course fix an unhealthy upbringing and a lot of relationships are these natural battlegrounds of the heart which lead to break down and failure. but then learning and growth. and eventually it whips you into shape, or it doesnt and you repeat lesson 1 over and over.
One thing I've learned in life is that everything takes a plan. And that without a plan, nothing gets done. I'm so glad I found your channel. Maybe now I can figure out how to be that man I'm supposed to be. Thank you!
I can relate to being Confident with myself and not needing to prove myself to anyone!!! Am currently 39 and I feel like I just woke up to a much productive life, thanks for all the advice it is very helpful
I find that facing fears, letting the truth lead me, maintaining my humility and constantly desiring to grow and act spiritually, mentally and emotionally has really helped me to develop into my manhood. I’m almost 38 and I’m finally learning what it mean to be a man and it’s really a process but it starts with faith and humility and asking God to help you in this life for his glory, and honor. Amen 🙏
Im thankful for you brother ... Ive been feeling a bit lost and behind in life. However as i indulge deeper into your content and prayer things are becoming more clear. I truly desire to be the Best Man i can possibly be. Your words and speaking cadence definitely has helped gain more understanding of being a man. Thank you
Anyone you encounter in life look after their own interest. That don't make them selfish. What makes a person selfish is that he only look after his own interest and disregard everyone else's.
@Swat Im loving this comment bro! ive heard this before, but you brought it back to memory. Im dealing with rejection from this woman I'd been dealing with for sometime and your comment rlly helped relieve a little bit of that pain... thanks bro🙌🏾
Respect!!! I’m older than you and know you are speaking truth to power. Your service is needed for young men (and older men too) who are now growing up in a society that often neuters their potential and growth as MEN!!!
Fantastic video Sir, it’s taken me 30 years to find myself completely and be comfortable with myself. The last comment you made on that part of being a man means more to me than you will ever know, “You Can’t Beat A Man Who Has Fought Against Himself All of His Life” my own saying. Thank You
Very well stated. Thank you. Gonna be 45. Thought still being around at this age ... no way. But got out of my office job. Completely self-sufficient. Working outside doing construction now. Feeling better than I can ever remember. Great stuff. Thanks again.
I found your channel though recommend. Glad I clicked on this video. I'm 31 and lost with no direction in life. I just work my 9 to 5 and go home. No real memories with friends, family or girlfriend, it's just work and home for me and I'm tired of living like this... I've been like this since I got out of high school in 07. I can't get my 20s back but I really want my 30s to be better. I wanna win.
I could almost copy and paste this comment, because I'm the same age and feel exactly like that. Also this is the first ever video I've seen on this channel.
There it is! Finally an episode that I can say that all content truly hit home with me. I have listened to many many of your tutorials within the past few weeks since I started listening. Thank you for what you are doing and thank you for helping and guiding.
I’ll be 40 in December. I have a wife and 3 kids. This is great content and I was happy to stumble across your channel. Subscribed 👌🏻 Keep them coming, sir.
I appreciate what you are doing. My mom gave me, “wild at heart” years ago and I set it aside. Until I found your channel after a break up because I acted like a little bitch did I see the importance in standing up. I’ve been listening to all your content, sharing your content and just trying to find my strength to overcome adversity. I have a better life than some yet finding it difficult to keep pushing forward. You are like a big brother to a lot of us younger guys in this world of misleading influencers, dating coaches and life coaches. I am grateful for this movement. I don’t have any questions because it’s right here. Thank you my friend. Through hardships and depression accountability be the answer. Others to Blame is the Number one cause of the helplessness we all feel sometimes.
Nothing more attractive or interesting or relaxing or inspiring than meeting a man who is all and completely comfortable in his masculinity. No to be confused with macho behaviour which is the opposite of true masculinity. A man who stands fully in his masculinity and is very comfortable in his own skin is how men were always supposed to move around in this world. No thanks to unisex and onesized approach. The same goes for women and femininety. Stand tall and comfortable in your masculine or feminine nature. 🙌🏻
I’m an architect feeling my mission is to address this at a large scale hope I can stay focused needing to plan is my problem, trying to organize myself to keep adding value instead of just having great ideas that go no where.
Thank you for your service brotha. Many of us have a sleeping lion deep inside of us and all we need is to be taught how to unleash it in a productive & positive way and I believe what you are doing can definitely help us to do that. Thank you 👍
Thank you very much for putting this together. God bless you richly. "Act like men" from 1 Cor 15:33-34 "Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act as men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love."
Besides learning from David Goggins, this is single-handedly the finest golden nugget of wisdom, concerning manhood that I’ve heard in the last four years of my life.
Brother this was so insightful and the clear cut truth. I myself just turned 41, and am now at my happiest in my life. I have so much respect for myself and worth. That’s the most important thing needed to propel into that “future version” of self you described. Thanks for your insight! Blessings to you and family. New subscriber and look forward to more of your content. Peace and love brother.
Really enjoyed this. Very inspiring. Starting the same Journey you started in your thirties, in my 40s. Hopefully I can be as successful and inspire men like you have, but for the Glory of God through whom all blessings flow. I'll definitely be listening more to your stuff.
I think God for you and your The Order of Man, Ryan. It truly is a godsend to me and so many others. Praying for you, brother for all those involved and all those who listen.
At 38, realizing that finding my own lane and achieve what I can do for my daughter. Toxic relationship will no longer have a hold on me and attack my life with routine and being resilient in my approach with what I want.
30 years old and a single dad. This video was recommend to me on a Sunday. This is my Sunday blessing for directions of what I needed to do. God bless u sir
Interesting topic. I feel you on a few of your comments you made. I'm now 47 years old so that makes me Gen X. I was grown to be a slave, beta male, bow to women, being a slave to debt. I've killed everything that could have been good in my life and my life sucks and has no real meaning. I've had to self educate myself but my anger keeps me down and I take a few steps back very single time. Once you start to understand the human race, it feels like it get worse but at least you know so you can deal with it.
I'm 42, and I'm so thankful that I found this Channel!! I'm a newer Sub here so I have some catching up to do on past videos, and I can't wait as more content is Uploaded!! You are hitting every point! I'm in my 40's and more lost in my life than in my younger years!! Married for 20+ years now, 4 kids, just lost my job 2 weeks ago, for reasons to dumb to explain! Pointless firing of a great worker that was just finally getting back on his feet after being Unemployed for a majority of 2020 due to the Pandemic!! Tired, Depressed, Failing my family, failing my wife, failing at everything here lately!! I will over come this, just gotta organize and plan accordingly!! Love the shirt and hat Brother!! Thanks again for the content, I can't wait to watch more!!
Love this episode! For some reason, I'm not sure why it sounds very powerful. Ryan's delivery is on point. I wish this video is capsulated and shared with the world 50 years from now. Men, stand up.
Great insights. I like how you prioritize relationship building. It’s just as important- and maybe even more important than other aspects of manhood that are generally given greater emphasis.
This was very very inspiring and so far... Its only been a day.... But much progress brother. U woke my butt up!! Thanks!!! Seriously i wanna cry thanks..
Thank you, very authentic speech. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and knowledge. This will change my life. Together we will make this world a better place.
Congratulations to you! I wish you strength for the future. Become the example and role model that your son needs to succeed in life. All the best to you!
I know this video is a older one but you said it’s your 40th and this is from the last 6ish years of your life. Well I’m 34 and I’m here for the wisdom man. Thanks for everything you do.
Love your encouragement and support for men, God knows in today’s world it is not easy for our beloved men - but you are LOVED and NEEDED!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Do you know of a 12 week plan for women and femininity by chance? Much love ❤️
Honestly, femininity can easily be learned right here in the manosphere simply by reading between the lines. Woman tend to be quite good at that?😜 A few examples to start you off on the right foot. Paul Elam has a few designed to help woman improve themselves in order to become more attractive to a man. Here is the problem though, they are geared toward men, and few woman have the ability to simply turn the talk 180 degrees in order to apply to them. Karen Straughan has many similar videos, again, geared toward men, but useful for woman with introspective.yan Alexander Grace, Courtney Ryan, Dianna Davison, there are literally thousands of MGTOW videos that would be a gold mine for woman, if they could just learn to let their feels at the door.
Im 66. I retired well off from lots of hard work ABD perseverance through tough times. . I have 2 rules for myself. 1. Don't lay down for anyones crap. Be a man. 2. Never ever hold your wife's purse. Its their way of cutting off your manhood. In other words.. be a man. Men today are soft. They want to be accepted as a nice guy. The world and feminism eat their lunch. It will always be true... nice guys finish last.
That is great advice. I would add to the younger guys ... learn to fight, so you don't have to. We have been taught to surpress our anger but in reality we need to listen to our anger because that gives us the courage to speak up when things are not right.
In my 41 years here I've learned ,if you want something ,GET IT if you want to do something DO IT! AND Last but not least; Lead your life with LOVE,there's enough ignorance in the world already
125% true. I started to learn this around my early 30s after my life came crashing down on me. By 36 I had accomplished more than I ever could have imagined. There are definitely other things beyond these 5. But this is awesome. Thanks for sharing.
I experienced the prime of my life at 40 but the decline is so rapid. By 50 I am the weakest and slowest I’ve ever been. My time in the ring is limited to just coaching now.
cannot speak to time in the ring, and of course, The Decline is inevitable for ALL our physical bodies. but it does not have to happen at fifty. as these other two commenters point out: you CAN rejuvenate; tho yes, you'll have to be deliberately consistently focused on it (54 since last week)
almost forgot: look up and study Charles Atlas and Jack LaLanne. not just about how long they lived, but the shape they were in til their last days on earth
