Danish! You’re saving people’s lives and helping us heal from such wicked and treacherous behaviors by people who are trying to destroy us in the name of love. Thank you so much for so much insight and healing. God bless you and keep you safe and healthy!❤
@@nicoloclemente6564 Yes, from the Bible, 2 Corinthians 11:12-15, NASB: "But what I am doing I will continue to do, so that I may cut off opportunity from those who desire an opportunity to be regarded just as we are in the matter about which they are boasting. For such men are false apostles, deceitful workers, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. No wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. Therefore it is not surprising if his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness, whose end will be according to their deeds." The Scripture says such people who "disguise themselves" as angels of light and righteousness, will NOT have a good end: Same thing as what Danish is saying ...
What I don’t understand is how these narcissistic individuals manage to escape accountability for their behavior. Their actions undeniably have a detrimental impact on one’s mental health and life. Why do they persistently evade consequences? Such behavior should be recognized as a form of harassment. It’s frustrating; I’ve spent five years in therapy addressing the aftermath of what one individual did to me, only to witness them repeating the same harmful pattern with someone else. And honestly, they need to face the consequences. There’s no healing I’m already damaged OK so what do you do?
Man, as a survivor of npd abuse this brought tears to my eyes bro. ❤ So true, they see our empathy as a weakness, when in fact it is our biggest strength 💪💪💪 thank you for the message
I agree with everything you stated. As a recovering surviver of 8 years (30 years of abuse) I can assure anyone reading this, life is so good on the other side! 🙏🏻
As one who considers herself (finally!) healed - this message is refreshingly uplifting and fills me with renewed hope for this New Year. Thank you, Danish.
So true. Even when I asked why you did all these to me his answer was: Because you are a fool, so I made you a fool. It was shattering to hear that trusting your husband with their words is foolishness in the modern world.
When you go through the healing phase and see all truth. You will never go back. You won’t want to. Be honest and forgiving with yourself. Learn to be truly independent and happy. Then you won’t be lured into bad peoples web. Let your freedom ring. Look within for your happiness.
I was married to my narcissistic partner for 38 years before he was diagnosed. Knowing what was wrong truely empowered me and gave me strength to grieve and learn to set boundaries and not put up with his nonsense. I now state things very clearly back to him that he is a narcissist and what he is doing in plain language. He admits he hates the word which I throw at him when he is out of line. I deal with him with fast and hard consequences and now I see the fear in his eyes when he backs down. They are basically bullying cowards and must be strongly called out on it.
I wish I could talk to you more. I remarried my narcissistic husband during my cancer. I struggle to set boundaries and give severe consequences. I’m almost 60 years old and I feel trapped. I don’t know if I have enough strength to leave again.
Danish Bashir you should know that there are signs on RU-vid that you are being catfished. Thanks you for encouragement being offered to us here. While following your channel my self-esteem and self-worth is improving while I am practising better self-care by preparing for a healthier old age for both me and my adult now children too. Thanks for reminding us about the kind of solidarity which is being supported by the devine when doing god's will which is loving and kind. His justice always will prevail.
I agree 100 percent. These so called people are inhuman and downright evil. And the sad part is that there are so many of them and possibly so few of us.
This is some of my closest family members textbook. I have been thought of by some of them as naive and "having dust on his head" just like the way you described it. These people were unaware of what was going inside home and what was I going through. I have no contact with most of them and minimal contact is maintained with some others, it just died with time as I also started to withdraw. They know they can't go on with their BS for long.
You are the absolute best at explaining narcissism and the abuse. You make my day better and for that many thanks and may you be blessed highly for this.😊
We as codependent or just compassionate people or slightly broken ,some would say, we see ourselves as forgiving when we make mistakes, lash out or just come short. We believe, as I did that all human beings have the same ingredients, compassion,forgiveness love charity etc... I never knew there were people out there that would say wonderful words, periodically display affection and charity and be the most self absorbed, hateful, money grabbing people. People who are as deep as a sheet of paper. Took 30 years!!!!!of my life my youth my weekly paychecks to come to the awful realization of just what I have been married to. I feel foolish,stupid and lost. But I am awake, hallelujah!!!
Thank God I've found this channel Danish every word you say is so accurate even down to letting the housework slip not looking after myself not wanting to go out and meet people Slipping out at night just to get bare household essentials so I won't meet anyone and if anyone tells me to pull myself together they better run very fast and of course our main star of the show the very ex narc is telling anyone that will listen that I'm lazy dirty and almost cracking up Well I suppose after years of being told he would get the men in white coats out for me I'm such a disappointment to him I wouldn't give him the satisfaction I have survived 😀
This man is phenomenal. Brilliant, he's so hearted. Most of he validates me. It really important cuz i know I'm not crazy , worthless, socially undesirable and vile.... And she is a huge financial parasite!!!!! Thank you so much for helping me, your amazing 🙏
Every episode of you Danish is so authentic & awesome .you every episode answer questions that every survivor have in his/her mind.thabk you from bottom of heart for sharing awareness & giving us strength to develop from survivor to thriver ❤
This is all very true. I think the biggest one is that the narcissist doesn't understand your ability to grow and heal, and leave them in the dust. Eventually, largely by interacting with others who perceive your true worth, you begin to understand that the narcissist was merely an outlier--a strange, random person who was unable to "get" your awesomeness, something that is readily apparent to others
My empathetic response to the narcissists in my life has been some of the greatest pain I have ever felt. Finally realizing that they could never realize or accept that empathy helped to heal me. They honestly are incapable of any love.
Is video ne heart ko touch kar liya, rula diya😭 really how strong we are ❤ survival ke baad pata chala, shayad kabhi soch bhi nahi pata ki itna strong hu mai andar se. Feeling proud ❤
Thank you sooooo much for all your wisdom and so accurate - I never tire of hearing each of your videos , you are such a blessing - I find myself saying / omg , yes , soooooi true / it’s been two years now since my horror ended - I know I’m not where I need to be , but thank you Lord I’m not where I used to be , and I’m OK and I’m on my way each and Every day . 🙏
Very well worded Danish. It is good that you remind us, the victims of narcissistic abuse, that we do still have our qualities even though we are not allowed to use any of them by the narcissist. We are just temporarily stunted. Great work.
Thank you this was great! What you said had depth. We are often underestimated and sometimes we are forced to play that role lest we lose that friendship. Also Not to mention we are highly intuitive. We see thru them but think they will change...and also think we will hurt them by telling them the truth. We are empaths and being unkind and hurtful is generally speaking, not in our DNA .
Thank you Danish! I have been watching your videos, and have finally got rid of my narcissistic partner. Long awaited, the relief, I thought I will grieve this lost relationship that I held onto for years. But, no I am much happier without them and so are my kids. 😊Thank you
My therapist LOVES that I found you. Through you, I have been learning and coming into my own self. Evolving into an uncrushable survivor. Thank you so much Danish. 💯🙏🔥
Thank you so very much ❤❤❤ My son is walking away from this and has a great deal of healing to do. I felt compelled to send this to him in hopes that it will be Validating for him. 😊❤. Something that has been sadly lacking in his life for a very long time. Validation. Thank you so much ❤❤❤❤
This so true. Every bit of it. And your description of the narcissist and the victim is spot on too. Thank you for putting all this in perspective and easy to understand terms for everyone.
Wonderfully put! from the moment your eyes are open to them. They look so pathetic as it dawn's on them that you are not stupid any more. Thankyou Danish for putting it into words in such an easy to understand way. 👍♥️♥️
Thank you, Danish. You make me feel better about myself as I have had trouble forgiving myself for giving my narcissist husband almost 2 decades of chances to be a nice partner, coming back and forth ....this is the last time I leave him. It is so much easier to stay on track if I watch you and others' videos every day. It will soon be 3 months since I told him to leave and 2 since he left. Let the healing begin!
We can heal ourselves and fuel ourselves from the inside. We can love ourselves and others. They can't do any of that. This is why they are the prisoner and not us. My last ex knew that I was very aware of narc abuse but he still tried to manipulate and crush me. I am 18months out, healing childhood wounds, chasing my dreams and passions and learning from the hell he put me through. Whereas I have a chance of a very happy future they are empty and are made up of a dark void. That's something that cannot be healed. My ex will fail alone and pass away by himself never having known love. I will fulfill my dreams. He will only ever suffer alone and in darkness. Nothing more.
I'm really free now! It's finally sinking in a year after he died from a heart attack 💔! It's still takes a long time. What made it worse was for 3 years after the divorce, he lived across the street from my house 🏠 😢. He was stalking me and my son, who is profoundly autistic! I was afraid to leave my house! I love your videos, and have a happy New Year 😊!
This is definitely a ray aid sunshine. This is the kind of uplifting we all need to help remove any doubts we may have had. And it is also a confirmation that all the suffering was not in vain.
Your last part is so true. At the end of the relationship I completely forgot who I was, missing my true self. But 3 years after leaving that toxic marriage I am 5x better version of myself.
You are Amazing Danish..N the way you speak is a music to ears.., your terminology, understanding..facts..all....you really made me think so powerful today in this vid...my worth..my quality as blessings from God.....Thanks Dear. Keep up the good work..
Thank you so much for your insight. I find a lot of the things you say pertain to me and my relationship personally. I feel grateful that I’m not alone in this. This is my second marriage I found myself completely dumbfounded, with something was always itching at me, but I could not ever place my finger on it, but something was wrong, if wasn’t for your videos..to let me know that whatever I think about my relationship is not what the other person thinks. And they never will. I watch your videos on a daily basis, sometimes two or three times because they make so much sense and I’m trying to reprogram my brain. I am trying to save my two children through this divorce process and your videos have helped me immensely you speak my language.
After five years of separation I signed final papers for divorce on last day of year. Weirdly, it was a sad day for me.??? I can't stand him 70 percent of the time. Then something even weirder is happening. I feel different in a good way. Am I the little boat that was discarded and left adrift to my doom or am I the little boat that is now on an adventure and have hope of safe harbors. I am on an adventure and I can feel the ropes falling away!! Freedom.
This makes so much sense! Since they are unable to build a connection to gain deeper insight in your true character, all the narcissist can do is project their own traits on you. So yes, bound to underestimate you. This is because they’re actually never as intelligent as they would like you to believe 😂
Awesome video!!! Thank you for your work. This resonates with me & I’m beginning to talk to my son regarding his father. A man I chose to be in relationship with although he had a substance abuse problem. I knew I could love him so much so, that he’d give up drugs. Well he didn’t and 30years later our son struggles with a relationship with his father. Here’s to praying my son will accept what I’ve learned so he can become healthy and protect himself. Time will tell.
Pray for your inner healing: ask God to deliver you from trauma bonds! Once you come to terms with the toxicity of the situation you are in, close the door and move onto freedom🙏 Thank you Danish
Happy New Yeaaar 🎉❤🎉 And Danish, keep educating you lighten my heart ❤ P.S.: 3 Months in No Contact from my abusive Expartner. No shared houses, apartments, finances, kids or pets. Single as a Pringle, loving to go on night outs alone and even more enjoying wholeheartedly saying "NO" to any approach. Oh well and my Boxing training is thriving yaaaallll byeeee😚😚😚
I recommend reading a book called "The Indoctrinated Mind" by Michael Nehls. It goes into great detail the effect of PTSD and C-PTSD on the brain. It has helped me to reverse engineer what the narcs did to my psyche. He focuses a lot on the hippocampus and hippocampi. He teaches how memories are formed and stored and what happens when your hippocampus can't properly rebuild new neurons on a daily basis. He also goes into how narcs use trauma to erase you and replace you with the version they want. It's a very insightful book that'll help connect some dots for you.
True NPDs are quite rare, although we can ALL exhibit such narcy traits. I believe the point of all of these videos is to show us what unacceptable/intolerable "assholery" looks like... whether it be in ourselves, or in others.
@@jbrown2908 No doubt. I've also observed that many marcy-types gravitate towards the comments sections of these videos, in search of confirmation bias in effort to convince theirselves that someone else is the mean old bad guy. Scroll through some and you will find countless comments from posters that are in heavy makeup up, done up hair, provocative/revealing attire in their thumbnail photo insinuating that 100% of the problems that they just incurred in a relationship were entirely on the other person. That would be textbook, classic narcissist projection. Funny how that works!
Yes,Danish, you certainly do understand us and you certainly do know your stuff. I can’t believe how strong I’ve become-strong and determined never to be abused again. Thank you for all of your explanations.
Always love your videos Danish. Makes me feel like you understand and know what I am going through. I am just now trying to leave an abusive husband of 35 years. Looking forward to getting back to my old self again.Thank you.
Thank you daanis for helping people who are going through difficult phase of life and treachrous environment from the people whom we call ours. God bless you.i wish all happiness comes to you
From my experience, narcissists are usually in a constant state of willful denial of their narcissism, which allows them to believe they are really good people. So I don’t know that narcissists believe all your kindness and compassion for them is just your weakness
Always insightful, always helpful. Being brought up by a narcissistic mother I constantly and repeatedly attracted the same narcissist in my life, friends, partners but now I understand who, how and what a narcissist is together with my experience with them I can now spot one a mile away just be aware of those who appear to be charming.
Danish, this is excellent!! You precisely 💯 explained what I and lots of others experience and have experienced. I appreciate your spot on insights on the thoughts, motivations, and the playbook of these individuals and how our strengths get us through it and on the road to healing and beyond. Thank you so much! I enjoy all your content.
Danish YOU ARE AMAZING, I am amazed and at the same time astonished of your knowledge and understanding, and empathy you have for others, I saw one of your recent videos that revealed the reason for my lack of energy, my house being so disorganized and my anxiety and depression and having no energy to take care of myself, I appreciate you more than I can express, this video coupled with that video is a God send it has given me answers beyond hoped for, thank you 🙏, thank you ☺️ so very much!!!!!!
