If she monkey branched and then tries to come back later, let her know you’re not trying to get involved. It’s not worth it, because she will do it again. Close the door on that chapter of your life and find someone else. Stay in the gym, workout, keep your diet good, and stack money. Don’t ever go backwards. She needs to realize that she can’t just leave a good guy for someone else and then think you’ll take her back with open arms.
I had that situation, he dump me and then he came back after 2 month and promised everything to me to take him back, the only thing I asked him was go to therapy but he was just delaying and delaying that till I dump him due to not attending. He hurt me went left me and I didn't trust him any more, he didn't kept his word of going to therapy so I just could stand being with someone I don't trust, he can't keep a commitment and wasn't willing to put the effort so I felt like he just didn't worth a second chance.
Hi Nissem, if your ex is going through a traumatic event or a difficult life situation, it is best that your ex would seek professional help for better intervention. You can be a support system for your ex but remember, there are things that you can do and cannot do. All the best.
She says she loves me, we reconnected and had a wonderful emotional time. But she says she has to deal with her mental illness before going back into a relationship with me. She regrets the breakup but she just won't commit again. She calls me everyday now. Do I give an ultimatum and leave? She says she can't lose me in her life
I hope you ended up putting some boundaries in place because ultimately, she's going to proceed to emotionally unload on you to the point you're fulfilling specific roles that she needs like, full time therapist, part time partner, bff, cuddle buddy... She'll start to get the picture once she sees that you're no longer offering her the courtesy to go ahead and play mind games on you showing you that she wants to have her cake and eat it, too all because of HER mental illness. My ex has reconnected with me consistently since 2009 and as if 2021 revealed himself to have covert narcissistic traits that got worse and worse and he unapologetically started to use the value I place on marriage and children to use against me because he needs me to CHANGE first. So, he discarded me and from time to time, tries to get my attention but he will just get so emotional and insecure and starts gaslighting and baiting me to defend myself about something. He wants me to commit and show that in order to make him feel better about himself, meanwhile, I'm in pure despair. These people just use others as their supply and have self-serving commitment issues. It doesn't occur to them that they are toxic, selfish and need healing isolated away from others as to not use them.
My ex very much still wants to keep in contact even though I told her I wan't nothing to do with her after she lied during our relationship and kept lying after the breakup.
My ex and I went 8months without talking since she started dating someone new. She texted me a few weeks ago to wish me a happy New Years, we talked for a few hours but eventually she stopped replying 🧐. I no longer care, but I’m still curious to why she would text me after ghosting me for months. FYI she’s still dating the same person.
My ex girlfriend contacted me 3 times after dumping me. First time 2 months later, I cut her short. Second time , two years later, pretty clear her ‘plan’ derailed - I entertained it for a day. Really those two times where clearly what is known as “breadcrumbing’. Third time, 20 years later, I just ignored. Treated me like dirt for the last year of the 4 year relationship. Not sure what the agenda is, but i must admit the third time - some old wounds have opened, which has me thinking. I have ZERO interest in connecting with my ex on any level.
I've watched so many of your videos Clay! You have been such a great help to getnme through this. It's been 45 days NC and today my ex reached out saying she can't stop thinking about me and asking that I not use that fact against her which I never would. We did talk for a bit and she admitted she misses me and we are talking about if we want to eventually go for coffee down the road. Thank you so much for your help!! This is a great first step and I've been hoping for this to happen
1,2,4 & 5 for me. She “monkey branched” or whatever they call it these days and we work together. Given my circumstances I was a bit surprised she hit me up after a period of no contact but whatever, guess we’ll see what happens.
Mine migrated then broke up with me not long after, she ask 2 time to get back together for a long distance relationship, but both time she gave very little effort...we are apart 2+ years now
My ex married this april and after 2 weeks of marriage started calling and texting me and still trying. I blocked him from everywhere but he managed numbers from his friends..still doing but am not answering since he left..am fed up now
3 months ago my ex admit to cheating and left me for the girl he texted me a few times asked to meet up for coffee and he wants to give me Xmas gift his mom got me. He texted me Friday said he has the flu maybe we can meet up next week and comment on a pic of mine letting me know that I look hot. Said he is just working and home wonder if he’s even with the girl he dump me for
With all due respect the majority of people are not nice or warranty the fair thing the majority are mean. I appreciate your video did but you’re way off base on the first part
My only problem is this, she tells me that she’s gonna take our daughter to school, I’m always available to take our child to school, and pick her up. Come to find out her bf drops our child off, then she reaches out by asking me if I can send her a picture of her outfit when she could have asked her boyfriend to send her a picture. They live together. Rebound at first, now they live together. So why ask me at those moments?
This is coming from my heart! Protect your daughter. Who the hell does she think she is introducing a new man into her life? It’s going to confuse your child you need to forget about this bitch and you need to act like a man and make the rules quite clear that your daughters gonna come first and if you can’t do that then you are pathetic!
Apparently all you can think about is her! I think you’re pathetic! The most important thing in your life now needs to be that little girl of yours and if you can’t do that then you’re a pathetic excuse for a man. Wake up she’s fu..... somebody else she doesn’t give a sh.. about you, and probably didn’t give a sh.. about her daughter. My question to you is you you gonna act like a man and set some rules and put your little girl first because if you can’t do that I think you’re pathetic!
She dumped me after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids , she is with the rebound for 5 months , we ended our mariage badly , i am not asking if she will be back one day , i don't need this kind of woman, we have kids and i want to know how long she need to realise that kids need there father and i will be a part of there life whatever
After dating 10 years, he broke it off because i insisted going to the store with my car he had been using. I wanted to shop. He didn't like shopping in depth. Had been months of asking to gather things to make meals. It was necessary to go... He dumped me over it.! He still comes twice a day to handle a pet medical issue with a needle that I can not physically do for RA and multiple surgeries that make it impossible to even write. Anytime I have a man in the house who is not my sons, when he comes he freaks out. I have no phone to call to tell him when a friend is here every single time I get a random drop in from kids friends or even a neighbor. I love him and am trying to move on with visiting more people. I didn't know a lot of people to begin with. Only my kids friends. and former neighbors., people from school or work. I don't ever really go out. . But am not allowed to even have a male in my house for dinner. It is obvious to me he may still love me, but why won't he just come home then and make it work? I am devastated and constantly embarrassed when he shows up and determines I am in the wrong company? He knows i love him and share our pets like babies. Its getting old and I need some killer advice from anyone who has an idea. Had a new neighbor over last night and invited to eat dinner. My ex showed up and flipped a gasket. It embarrassed me. 20 minutes later he came and took my dogs and made a show. I am frustrated and it was embarrassing/ Another example was went to the corner pub last week and he showed up because I wasn't here. Came in, walked me home and then took my wallet, keys and phones. 10 at night. I wanted to go to the store and couldn't. Its a massive control issue and I am not sure what to do....
@justicejudge7858 I'm sorry to hear about what happened and I understand that this must be confusing and emotional for you. It sounds like there's a communication gap between the two of you that needs to be worked on. How do you feel about doing a same team conversation to have a clear understanding of each other's needs and expectations while not being in a relationship? Sending more positive energies on your end.
