Why An Ex Reaches Out And Then Disappears 

Getting emotionally attached to an avoidant person is a recipe for constant pain. With these types of people you need to be like a cat. Enjoy them when they're around but don't miss them when they're gone.

Chris took 12 minutes and 23 seconds to tell me that my ex has issues & trying to make a relationship work is pointless 😂

If it was meant to be we wouldn't be here. End of the story.

nowadays, my ex kept texting me nonstop after breaking up with me about 2 weeks ago. during the first week, i wanted to get back w him and did no contact. yes they alwaydndo come back after that. but im kinda over him and got sick of the constant texts. so i said insults that had been harbouring in my heart for weeks. gosh its so satisfying 🤣 i know people who watch this wanna get their ex back, but remember the reason why they left. its not worth it if they havent changed at all. live your life, do the things you have always wanted to do and glow up for you ❤️

They reach out because they're selfish and egoistic. Do not respond. I don't know how many times I have distanced myself from my ex and tried to move on. Just as I've started to feel better he crawls back as if he has some kind of a radar. He pretends to care just enough to stir me up emotionally after which he starts acting as if I am needy! I am so DONE with this bullshit. We need to move on, people. We deserve better than that.

I just experienced that exact cycle. After 2 months of no contact, my ex reached out and asked how i was doing if im still working abroad. I answered and we wrote back and forth the whole night about out time apart from each other, and so on. And the next day i was blocked again.

This is really very sick how avoidants operate. Really… One can go mad having all this poured on his mind. How do they get married at all, if their tipping point is taking more responsibility upon themselves?

Hi Chris - great video topic! Reaching out and then retreating again.... it can be confusing right? I am a Clinical Psychologist in Australia and hear this often

This makes so much sense, thank you!!

Amazing video, thank you! It helps me to understand quite a lot people.

Hi Chris, would it be possible if you can do a series or a video about short-term relationships? I recently got out of a short-term relationship and I'm feeling somewhat hung up on it than long-term relationship. I would be interested to hear from your point of view or opinion on it. Thanks.

I started off avoidant then tables reversed and he became avoidant - so I’ve managed to work on being secure and feel much stronger and won’t go back if he reaches out otherwise same old story - best to break away unless he works on his stuff if not the it’s Good bye - unlikely though he would work on his stuff

my ex reached out to me just to tell me to move on (while i haven't contacted him for a long time in order to heal) i got mad and told him that we broke up so what is he talkign about and he ignored me ,at this point i just told myself "is that really how you portrayed your soulmate? non" so just decide to give up on him and date out with a guy who woul treat me better even if i still have feeling for my ex,nobody need to be treated like crap.

This video helped a lot

Can you do a video on co-parenting with an ex you are trying to get back?

Sounds like my Da/FA 🙏🏾

So what should we do?

So can a person like this ever change and let you in?

11:54 Coach Corey Wayne said once, you must love in a way that the other person feels free..

So how do I end the cycle?

My avoidant brutally discarded me Came back 2 years later on the heels of her latest breakup with a vague apology. Had dinner once, feigned enthusiasm then a bunch of rude or superficial texts. Feels like she reached out to me and then a couple weeks later met somebody ultimately, I just think she’s crazy.

But what if a person only wants to talk about themselves and Recents it if anybody else talks about themselves?

This all just happened to me.

I reached out to my avoidant ex first after 6 months of no contract. She responded initially to the first message then took 41 days to finally respond to the second one. I completely ignored her then she sent a 2 text trying to get a response out of me. It has now been 25 days since I ghosted her. I always wanted her in my life to some capacity but I’ve learned to live without her and her unhealthy ways. Also she lied. The whole year we were together she was in a 4 year relationship with a guy who is constantly cheating on her. I think they are going through another rough patch with him cheating again which is why she sent me 2nd text to use me as a rebound. I don’t think I could be a true phantom ex to her because she was in a long term relationship while we were together. I know if it were me I’d be thinking about my long term partner and still upset about the relationship to truly think of someone who was like a year long fling. We spent a lot of time together though last year. I met her friends and family and spent a lot of time with them too. All of our old memories will constantly be resurfacing on her phone over the next 12 months. So that will be interesting. They are appearing on mine.

Advoidant needs Space and Time distance and independent. Independent aka single.

My ex did this he dumped me because he supposedly lost feelings a week after that I started no contact and he called me once every week for 3 weeks straight then I told him i knew about his rebound because i know hes having something with someone else And I sent him a message saying if u ever wanna fix things you know where I live He didn't replied or nothing its been almost a month since then still no contact from him but I know he is still thinking about me I just know it

The Phantom Ex aka Ghost. A ghoster.

Can u do a video about how they reach out, cause i doubt they would send a love Letter 😅

J broke up with mu bf 2 months ago… reason: i got realt sick and boring because of that…. He has a new girl and im still sick at home… it realy hurts!! He wants to be friends but idk i think its because of guiltiness! Im in no contact but he still reaches out to me once in a while! When i respond he ignores me idk why i realy confused

All answers no solutions. I guess if this is the case just move on

Looking for love? You mean sex...

a couple days ago, my ex reached out with a song (after 96 days of NC)... wasn't a sappy song or anything. But then disappeared after that.