Shout out to you Kevin , after working on myself i learned how to avoid toxic woman. I finally found my FBI and as of today we are on the way to Bali for vacation 👍🏾
Women were tricked, and then came under attack from several ELITE level position's in the West to let go of their Natural function. When I hear any woman express "disgust" at feminine behaviour, thoughts, expression, my guard immediately goes up and I'm on defense. If I I have to interact with such women, I'm straight forward and all facts of whatever situation we are involved in. No emotional interest. If I become a target of perceived vitriol or hateful behavior, I ghost them. I apply these tactics especially if I work with them. And i work with several.
My first instinct is to smile and keep it moving. I definitely don’t argue with men. I’m a quiet and gentle person by nature and I don’t not like confrontation .
Che' Monae I don’t like confrontation at all either but others sure want to pull you in on their mess they can’t get out of! Other people can make me toxic, their energy rubs off on me wrong. That’s why my ⭕️ is very very small
Leland Redwine I get the exact same word thrown at me. These women constantly say , “ Oh ... you are so weak! I wouldn’t let him do that to me or say that to me!” but these same women get butt hurt when the drinks start coming over to the table for me and not them.
You can been feminine without a lot of money or expensive items. Poor behavior is unacceptable. Don’t knock people who cannot spend thousands on a purse.
He’s 100% accurate about the “Quick to square up” being a very subtle tell... how a woman responds to perceived aggression from a man lets you know she’ll put you in danger to feel emotionally satiated... self defense and self delusion signals should NOT be ignored fellas 💯
If my husband raise a hand to me, I'm fighting back. If he talks down to me to me i talk back. However , I've learned how to deflect... Men, be kind to your lady... That's all some of us want.
And I'm actually being treated well. I don't have to worry about abuse or a bad attitude. There is mutual love and respect in my home. And our kids see that. And when people come around, they can tell there is love in our home by how our kids act and interact. And no neither one of us have children from previous relationships so both kids are by my husband. He knows how to treat me and he's kind to me which is why no other man will ever get a chance...
@@veevii8747 Cuz he's literally scared walking on eggshells. Poor guy.He can't risk the cops being called and he losing his life and children and being dragged through family court.
That's right. Women who cuss like sailor's I'm not at all desired by High strong intelligent successful men. They walk right past them. And it's sad because so many black women fall into that category and then they wonder why they can't find a high-value man. Watch out for Becky she's out to get your men.
I think he was referring to women being professional because they usually have a good sense of etiquette. Being able to manage money well is a good ability for women to have, and makes her more useful to high value men; women who want to be around wealthy men have to be sophisticated. Broke women don't have to be.
Only 1 I disagree with is going to dollar store for my cleaning products-- I'm a professional but I also value my dollar & some of these dollar places have Clorox, Ajax ect
@@LittleMissDeeDee I would think that's because it's not the same Idk about cleaning products, but as someone that enjoys soda I've recognized that soda tastes different depending on where you get it, and I'm not talking fast food soda which is fresh and mixed there; I'm talking canned/bottled soda
Micah Vincent in the country I live in, you can literally get the exact cleaning product - same brand, same ingredients etc from the dollar store for a fraction of what they sell it for in mainstream supermarkets. So with that knowledge, I’m not going to buy those items from your everyday grocery store. Food is another ballgame.
I feel severely flawed after watching this.. I want to be feminine so this is helping me learn more about myself.. I am from NY so this is hard. I've never met a real feminine woman here.
My daughter is so feminine at 13 and softly spoken and quiet and I tried to change her to 🤦♀️be more tough because she kept being bullied at school 😭So thank you Kevin for this, I have told her that she is a natural woman this way and never to change. I apologised x
My daughter at 14 is very feminine buf if you bother her she will handle you. And afterwards her favorite statement is " mama you know I dont bother nobody but Im not going to let no one bother me" And all I can say is "ok baby"
One thing you missed in if you can tell if a woman is truly feminine is how she interacts and talks about OTHER women. A fake feminine woman will say she’s feminine but will talk down on other women or dislike them over petty things. Real feminine women embrace and support other women without vitriol.
So true!! I find so much strength in sisterhood and with my girls :) any women who hates other women is probably just struggling with her own femininity.
@@feletriapatterson4214 Exactly. As ive gotten older my circle has gotten smaller because theres just too many yes woman that will praise you while you drive your life into the ground.
Exactly.. Women.. Who try.. To fight men. Not men who start fights with women and then they respond trying to defend themselves. I've seen women start swinging at guys and I honestly wouldn't feel bad if they had caught a stiff jab. But those guys spared them the ass whooping. Equal rights..?.. Equal Lefts.
@@victorscott7982 I agree . I've seen a lot of that growing up in N.Y.C. and I still see this going on , especially. with black women. My mom used to tell me, I don't care how good a woman can fight...you cannot beat a man. That testosterone and his strength will overpower you. Getting in a man's face and being loud is not feminine. That's just my opinion.
Thank you. I would never tell any black man to yell at a woman he doesn’t know in a parking lot. If she calls police and gives the description of the man....they can be at risk for a bad police encounter. Even if a man tries to laugh it off later the police will still be called. No black man should do this ever. No man should but especially not a black man.
So true! Can you please explain the "no broke girls" rule? Is it the amount of income or how she spends it? Or both? I don't understand no broke girl if men are the providers. Just wondering, thanks!
I lived in downtown Los Angeles for 4 years. the area has come up to the point it is considered a mini NY but its still a little rough. I hardened myself in order to avoid harassment after I was grabbed up by random man as I was walking down the street. I used my femininity to get the guy to let go of me. But after that I started carrying myself in a different way. This video was helpful in reminding me that I don’t have to harden myself all the time.
Sorry that happened to you sis. This is something I've struggled with do past experiences. I had to learn to turn my emotions off to deal with certain traumas and survive. After I became a mother I softened alot but I'm mostly only in my femininity energy with my daughter's. I working on it but it's hard to turn off and being the only present parent didn't help. I'm going keep working on though.🥰🥰
Exactly, I got attacked when I was younger. The guy wasn’t really big either. I thank God I had my mace but it made me feel too vulnerable. I always envied women who had that bark to them, because no one messes with them. IDK about that one comparison- being in a dark parking lot VS being at a bar??? I LOVE ME some KS but that comparison isn’t a good one.
😂😂😂 at the parking comment. I went to Whiskey Mistress last week with a friend and we had a blast. At the end of the night, the guy I had been flirting with walked my friend and I outside to wait for our lyft. And as a disclaimer I am using the word friend loosely, well she ended up making comments about being from nyc and how she’s bout that life blah blah blah. How she don’t need no man to wait outside with her because she can take care of herself. I was so embarrassed 😩 I know her behavior reflects back on me. I have to distance myself from her because I think she became obnoxious because she didn’t have a guy showing her chilvarous (yep, I made up a word) attention. I made a rookie move and I know better. Her and I hang out occasionally but after last week I have to re-evaluate that association. Kevin can you talk about how keeping the wrong company will keep a woman single?
Wow, Ricki that's too bad. I used to hang out with ALL poor associates who were not worth a darn. I just walked away from them, cold turkey and they never said anything so that made things easy! That's what I can recommend to you. Act fast, make a clean cut now for your level up for the New Year especially. If anyone asks what happened to you and asks to hang out together, just say you've been very very busy don't see any openings in your schedule for several months. Most people will get the message that you don't want to hang out and they'll quickly move on.
That’s so funny you said women pull in. 😂 my husband always backs in all the vehicles. You can tell who drove what car that day by the direction it’s facing in the driveway.
@Jasmyne Haywood lmaooo I just asked this question. Pitching someone in THE DARK and approaching someone in the dark deserves two completely different outcomes. He lucky he didn’t get hurt if she had something else on her 👀👀👀👀👀
Protecting myself is not my job it's my man or another representative of the Masculine to protect me. Haaaaaaaa...wonderful reminder Kevin! That was the gem right here!
Ok. Since it's your man's job to protect you, you should do EVERYTHING he asks if you, no question. Anal? "Yes, Baby!" "Getting me a girl for the night!" Go shake your ass for her.
It’s this type of thinking why there are missing and dead women now. Y’all keep thinking you don’t need to defend your virtue if you want. My husband brought me a 9mm for Christmas because there is evil in this world.
I don't drink when I'm out, I don't stay still closing time, I check exits, and I'm 6'9 and work out. It's no reason why I should be more safety conscience than our ladies. They be high and black out drunk and be surprised when it goes poorly.
Femininity = Softness Being feminine means having quiet strength. I never understood why some people choose to humble themselves when the word defines as a low view of one’s importance. People should only humble themselves for God the Creator.
Lions Hunt I mentioned nothing about the Bible. My God concept differs from most. The Bible is filled with metaphors. The God of the Bible created humanity both male and female in his own image. Genesis presents gender equality, rather than male leadership. It teaches that man and woman together have dominion over the earth. Gen 1:26-28. Gen 3-19 speaks directly to both, announcing specific consequences of their sin. Both are responsible for their own acts. And if you think about your interpretation of 3:16 man’s ruling over woman is itself a result of their fallen nature and man must not have ruled over woman before the fall. The practical result of men ruling over women, even in the best of circumstances, is that women are deprived of the corresponding authority with men that God granted them in creation.
Lions Hunt Men and Women have different roles according to scripture. There’s a difference between having a role and having higher or lower value. They’re not the same thing. “Nevertheless, neither is the woman without the man, nor the man without the woman, in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 11:11 “For as the woman is of the man, so is the man also by the woman; but all things are of God.” 1 Corinthians 11:12
“How you gone stop him?” Glad you asked... that heat baby! Period. You’re right she would have not been a proper match for a fight with a man. But that’s what that steel is for. No fight is needed!
Great points here Kevin. There are times I thought there was a personality conflict between myself and certain women but in retrospect, we butted heads because they were in their masculine energy. I can sense some women fighting with themselves between the two energies, it's interesting to watch.
Great video, glad you address this topic. I used to get picked on or teased from women in my family and some friends because I was polite and proper. They used to call me stuck-up or thought I was better than them because I didn't cuss and act rachet. I agree too many of our women too quick to fly off the handle. Why not assess the situation first before going off.
Pretty simple if she is dirt broke she doesn't know how to adult = would not make a good partner . But yes her money dosnt matter to us on the smv scale but she does need to be self sufficient. Pretty simple
I wish I learned this earlier in life. I turned 25 yesterday so I still have time to make finding feminine women a habit. The thing is if you are a naturally aggressive man you cannot deal with a woman who is always confrontational. You already have to deal with the bs of the world. Why would a man with his life together want to come home to chaos? Great video!
💪🏽 😎 Respect @King, I'm turning 26 this May and I'm naturally Assertive and Stern. I get called Aggressive but it's actually just being MASCULINE and showing ASSERTIVENESS . I can not stand a woman who is confrontational and just as aggressive, but I just about melt when a woman is very feminine 😍
Istg I'm naturally aggressive, thought I was getting a feminine woman and ignored the signs now I'm stuck with a woman who is prime in her masculinity. I need something soft not a woman that's ready to fight just because she think she is more of a man than me
When you are bargaining you are trying to haggle, argue, demean etc to achieve a result that causes you to get a net positive benefit and the recipient a net negative deal. Men bargain, women persuade. Yeah persuasion can be toxic at times but it's still feminine.
If men with means are interested In her and she’s moldable why are these minor things like cleaning products important?? As long as she’s responsible in paying her bills and caring for herself ;If he likes her shouldn’t his masculine provider instincts kick in
Hi Kevin, the Smiths Driving system teaches that Reversing in avoids accidents/incidents and allows a quick exit for women traveling alone. I reverse in wherever possible including in my garage. It’s the practical and safe thing to do. This is also reinforced every two years in industrial training. I work in the oil and energy sector.
Growing up I seen my Mom be aggressive and independent, unfortunately I ended up like her. I was never submissive. It was my way or the highway. My son's father wanted to marry me, he's a respectable millionaire who would've gave me the world and instead of me doing as I should have, he got the blunt of my ignorance.( I walked away because I wasn't always in control.)😳 Looking back, it was my fault for being selfish. The past seven years I've been working on rewiring. I'm remarried now, and my husband is reaping the benefits. My life is full of joy and peace now. 💕
Question: Do masculine men augment their cursing around feminine women? I notice men who curse regularly when they socialize around me, they clean up their language. Some don't but they still don't do it as much in the conversation. Men should watch their language around feminine women as well. A man cursing alot is a turn off to feminine women as well.
Ok my 3rd video! I love the realist views he is covering. I am 40, originally from the hood and moved to the suburbs where I was taught etiquette, grace and class. I am proud to say I have never in my life had to fight! I will work on my FBI even this late in life.
Thank you brother for these tidbits. They're very relevant and true! I'm 48 but I'm still learning from your channel!! Keep it going blackman! Peace and love from Chicago!
I was raised by poor example of women on my moms side. Smoking, cursing, argumentative, loud and boisterous. I was picked on for being feminine and girly. I have kept my current date under wraps from them. It is like they secretly hate men. Dads side is more balanced.
I used to teach my ex to put her shoulders down, stop trying to compete with me, we're on two different levels, I don't compete with females... She never got it... I started to make preparations to leave after so much BS...
Woooow yup 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I’ve been in this position with my female family members and I’ve had to walk away like “I ain’t dying for a fight you started” nahhh nope.
I never heard that backing into a space is masculine. I was in my first and only car accident backing out of a parking space my second day having my license, so I always back in to lessen the risk of it happening again. I guess I will have to learn that adjustment.
I back in everywhere I can🙈. I am kind to men and respect them. I'm kind to them even when they are disrespectful. Im changing the narrative that black women are loud, disrespectful and rude. I enjoy basking in my femininity these days🥰
My dad would always tell me not to curse. He really doesn’t like when women speak that way. I understand why. It’s so masculine. My friends would make fun of my for using alternative words lol.
To answer your question: My first instinct is to avoid altercation, confrontations, tic for tac, needing to have the last word, and anywhere, anyone, or any job that put my safety in japordie. If it is to make money at night or during questionable hours and in questionable environments, I would rather teach English online to chinese in Hong Kong and eat dry bread... or enroll to one of those international programs and relocate to a village in Uganda. Both cases seem to be a better alternative than verbal / physical confrontations.🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏾♀️
I disagree about the the last one. A woman looking or acting weak just makes her a target for predators. Predators prey on on the weak. They typically won’t go after anyone who they think is gonna give them a run for their money. I’m not saying a woman should be quick to pop off. But if her life is being threatened she has every right to defend herself even if it mean using deadly force. You can be feminine without looking or acting weak.
chizplayaz I am so called Hispanic and have trained in MMA to protect myself from being kidnapped or raped and to protect my future kids or other kids around me. It’s not a pride issue to fight to the finish. It’s more like fight off bad guys and get away. Could you please give me suggestions to not come off masculine to Alpha men?
chizplayaz I understand what to say and not what to say. What I am in questioning about is my non verbal communication. For example, I notice men try to get my attention by brushing up aside me and I see that from a mile away and learned to use my body to follow the laws of physics so my curve game and effortlessly strong lol that’s just one thing I noticed about myself. I also learned from the video that it’s “combative” when a woman stares back or parks like a man which I am also guilty of..maybe due to my southern upbringing. So I am asking if you can spot our a woman who knows how to defend herself and what can I do to not come off combative (non verbally)
chizplayaz yes I always hear men reminding women to smile. I now understand how important it is! I also agree with treating strangers with kindness even if you’re not being watched. It’s a reflection of how you feel about yourself and showing people how you expect to be treated. I just need to work on my facial expressions “thinking to myself” or thinking too much while men are attempting to vet me. I also need to work on walking slower and allowing my hands to flow more graceful and feminine vs balled up lol Ive always felt like non verbal communication is louder than verbal communication.
@@ameliagray1618 You are speaking for men. Women should listen to the men and not other women on what we want. He just told you and you are saying he's wrong.
Kevin, you opened my eyes to a that i have and i didnt even know..i am quick to anger if a man says something that I dont like. Thank you for making me realise how masculine this is. I will work on keeping myself calm under pressure. Xx
I don't understand why a man would aggressivly engage a women on a dark parking lot, for research purposes in the first place. That is not something that man should do. I certainly would have been trying to get away from a man who is approaching me on a dark parking. But being surprised that a physically weaker individual would try to scare off a predator is unfounded. Science flight or fight, people are hard wired for one or the other. When hiking and one encounters a black bear one is taught to stand up tall and make noise to try and ward off the treat. I heard alot of taking about women being stomped and otherwise physically assaulted and no rebuke for that type of behavior. May God heal your heart.
My brother in law taught me to back my car in so that in case there is car trouble, it would be easier to be have access to the hood in case of a jump or to be under the hood. 🙂
I think everyone should learn some sort of self defence in general but yeah.....we not jumping on men lol. Like fight back and struggle if someone has laid hands with intent to harm on you and no one is around to hear your screams. But fight with the intention to escape and find help. Otherwise avoid dangerous looking men like the plague. I will never understand women who are first to jump on men or to be honest boys past puberty. Once that testosterone kicks in it's mostly a losing battle with few exceptions. I think internally we think men won't hit back?????
I am very aware of the huge biological difference between men and women. No matter how much self defense, as a woman I can be over powered. The only true neutralizer is a gun. If I’m. But feminine in that matter wherein my life depended on it, I honestly wouldn’t care. Guns are probably masculine, but I’ll be masculine then, but I’ll be alive
That’s literally why one, man of woman to be fair, should carry pepper spray. It’s practical and it blinds them for a good minute to give you time to book it
I can't tell you how many women berate me for suggesting they not step to a man or talk crazy to man because you don't know who will actually take them up on a fight.
The smell of onions and garlic tend to linger on the hands after chopping them up. Everyone doesn't know how to get that smell off and you need more than just hand washing. After I cut up onions/garlic I rub my hands on my stainless steel sink (clean and dry of course) and then wash my hands, that is the best way to remove that odor.
Fran Brown Fran you may not know this but if you peel garlic or onions with your hands while under running water they will absorb none of the odor and you won't have to take steps for removal.
donmckee90 The smell doesn’t really get on your hands from peeling, it’s when you are chopping them up is when it gets on your hands. It will be kind of difficult to chop onions/garlic under water.
@Best Peace He means that the woman should’ve ran away instead of tried to fight him. Of course, most of us would pull out the pepper spray and make a run for it, which is more realistic 🤷♀️
My Mother was a athlete...sports Junkie always demeaning to My Dad ...so I always thought being the loudest in the room made you the toughest... I hated it and even though I loved Fashion and makeup and Being Cute I was Quick and always ready for confrontation....I’m now 42 and I didn’t get Kevin’s point until My mid 30s ! You are what you attract and I attracted a Woman Beater for over 20 years....I literally thank God for self awareness and Change
Don't forget cigarette and pot smoke smelling like also. Lol 😆 Gotta quit that to level up because those drag down any good hygiene attempt. PS. carry an unscented hand sanitizer gel and hand sanitizer wipes. When you can't get to a sink to wash your hands.
I agree. “let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious."
I learned to combat park before any other kind. I'm going to continue that "masculine" quality for all the days of my life, especially if the spot is tight.
I will not curse a man out in that parking situation.. but I’m not gonna say sorry for a parking space that was free to all. What am I sorry for.. who are you!?
Thank you for your perspectives and those are great highlights. Number two is definitely a flag; when you take into consideration that we are mothers and must transfer healthy practices and good behaviors to our offsprings. Poor hygiene is detrimental. No-one should be comfortable with oneself to the point of neglecting the essentials of good hygiene. This is beyond finding a good man. It is also to keep your family on a right track.
Growing up my mom and I would watch "My Fair Lady". Its a great musical where a man coaches a woman to be feminine. It's an incredible movie that would probably resignate with other women. It shows that femininity never goes out of style and although its fiction, its serves as a reminder that it's never to late to change. Feminity is timeless and neccessary.
I agree with so much of this. KS is mentioned in many other relationship channels and the women are mad at him.. I don't really understand. He is right on so many things.. harsh but true. My grandmother went to "finishing/charm school" she taught me SO MANY THINGS I loved her charm school books! My Grandmother was taking about shaving off under arm hair AND pubic hair forever she's 90 years old now! Cleanliness was of the upmost importance ........... I have a 16 year old daughter and I am on her behind and I realize there are so many things that I know and practice but this world/ social media is giving people some very bad messaging. It is a challenge to train your child to be the highest and best they can be! when every one and everything is showing the ratchetness! I don't care I have high standards and a moral compass. In my house the way is goes is " THAT"S WHAT THEY DO ! NOT WHAT WE DO!"
In the animal kingdom animals have certain markings to let other animals know if their dangerous so do people. With human's not allways true but use your judgement.
@@marlinshanklin1855 I've thought about that. Brightli colored dart frogs are highly poisonous. Chicks with loud color hair and dresses to match, kinda scream the same thing to me. Not saying women need to struggle more on what to pick to wear... BUT if you have neon green hair...some are classy with it and it's elegant. Most don't seem to be. If I'm lying, let me know.
Unfortunately, we live in an era of the feminine man. Gratefully, there are still a great amount of masculine men still out there. Most, men today don’t realize when he is being/acting feminine .
@@rmac8012 I agree, it is difficult to help someone that has the mind-set of a child, Kevin attempted to help and almost got his expensive trousers snagged by the teeth of a bulldog because her so-called first question wasn't answered in a timely fashion as if she the Queen of England has arrived SMH. I wouldn't doubt if her entire channel is filled with hair hats and wig tutorials
Women shouldn’t be fearful of men but I definitely believe we should respect that we can’t compete with the superior power of a man. I think that’s why women get defensive because making me feel safe shouldn’t be in exchange for being afraid and feeling like they need to defend themselves.
Men are "afraid" of men. This is why when two males meet, we become friends. Both males know there is an under current of violence that could erupt if one person perceives the other incorrectly. Such violence can result in one or both sustaining lots of damage or even death. All ALPHA males INNATELY know this. Beta males and women do not. This is why women can get all up in a man's face and never expect to be hit. Another masculine energy getting in another masculine energy results in violence. These are masculine traits. Backing into a space. Yes. Hand washing and drying car? Yes Loud? Yes Curses? Yes Ready to defend herself physically? Yes
I’ve been calling myself working on my femininity, other than the backing in of cars (a police officer told me I should always back in [he did say it’s for safety]), I’m more feminine than I thought. Thank you for this insight. My parents would be proud. Though I would like to add that guys tend to look at me as if I’ve lost my mind when I apologize. I had a guy say to me that he doesn’t know what I was apologizing for and I shouldn’t when I’m not actually sorry... but it was an honest mishap and I thought it was only right to apologize. I was confused by his anger.
@@leonelorozco2514 so if I'm minding my own business and am confronted by a man in a way that makes it known he intends to do me harm, I'm supposed to just curl up in the fetal position and prepare to be assaulted instead of reaching for my pepper spray. Got it.
I'm curious do all men do this? I've had encounters with black men, where they'll say something outlandish to me. I'm usually baffled and after saying " Excuse me" or " I'm sorry" they'll apologize and smile at me. Being from the Caribbean I just assumed that all the men here were just weird. Now I'm starting to catch on. Its all a test. Hmm!😊
I disagree. Backing a car in to park is a convenience, not a reflection of masculinity in women. I do it because I have a rear camera, so it's easier. 🤷🏽♀️
@@miss_sea_lou2318 I hear what you are saying but it is what it is. Just because you don’t have the vision does not make the action any less masculine.
Please be patient with us. Many of us don’t realize our survival skills we were raised up using is masculine just like many men don’t realize they are being feminine because these toxic behaviors have became habitual.
OUR PATIENCE IS AND HAS RUN THIN.. WE HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TELL YOULL ABOUT THE WEAKNESSESS YOULL POSSESS FOR DECADES AND YOULL WILL NOT AND HAVE NOT LISTENED.
All the beautiful women in the comments who confirmed what u said is “the truth” is enough to let me know your message resonates with real, feminine, attractive and cooperative women 💪🏾
Most women can't parallel park but he is talking about a parking lot space. Why would you pick that small slice? How many people back into parking spaces? Of those that do, how many women?
Its just Kevins opinion which I dont agree. In the scope of things who really cares about this. Half the men I see cant paralle park or back in straight...lol
I see this was posted about a year ago but lots of people lost their good paying jobs after the pandemic lockdown and had to be wise enough to scale back on their purchasing habits.
So with the protection part. 1 comparing a woman in a parking lot by herself at night to a woman that is in a bar that not only came with 2 men but is in a bar filled with people its like you just want the black women to look bad. I don't know much on the white race but I do know as a black women and little black girl I was taught by my uncles and my 4 brothers of different ways to try and protect myself when alone. Now I must say when was 17 I wasn't the type to jump straight to fight I did try the smile and continue to walk away. Until the day I was raped by a man when I was leaving Walgreens after work. Most of the times people will pretend to be friendly to get close enough to harm you. They're not going to let you get to someone or call 911. Im no longer approachable at night in any parking lot when I'm alone. If you did this what you call "bark" thing to me I will get myself in position to protect myself. Because you are a stranger being aggressive with me for zero reasons. I have no idea of what you're trying to do or going to do. I can try to reach for my phone but you can easily knock that out my hands. Like you stated your a man and can over power me. So no going for my phone 1st when your already coming off as a person that may want to harm me is a no. knowing multiple ways to protect yourself like mace,teaser, knifes,a gun and even your keys can be what stops you from dying. Also acting crazy in that type of scenario was something they taught me also. Being loud draws attention to the situation it also gives you a little time to set up whatever defense you may have. If you were to attack. After the situation I went through canceling,group therapy and self defense classes. No a woman may not be able to over power you but she can scratch you to have your DNA under her nails so you can be caught. All this to say you put the black women at a disadvantage by putting her in a situation where she felt she had to protect herself ex in a parking lot by herself at night but you gave the white woman the advantage of being in a protected situation ex with 2men she came with in an public place where people are all around you.
Sorry to read that. These are generalizations to take with common sense. Of course if you are alone in a parking spot with a guy the tiger needs to come out and you need to act crazy and bring attention. But were talking women acting crazy in crowded places when they are safe jist for the sake of acting crazy.
Well if a man says “ so you just gonna take my spot?” I’d think he was flirting because men say things like that all the time. I’d just laugh it off knowing that was a way for him to introduce himself in some corny way. I’m def not ready to fight..... that’s craziness.
