The most important thing I have learned over the years: The dating/texting stage is not supposed to be complicated (if you're pursuing a relationship). If you have to think about playing games, or not texting back immediately... it's probably not going to work out anyways.
"get yourself a girl that actually wants to hang out with you, because if a girl wants to hang out with you, she will hang out with you" -- Courtney Ryan, 2021
I've heard this called the Brad Pitt rule. If she makes up an excuse to not do something, ask yourself if she would use this excuse with Brad Pitt. Would she ditch her friends for Brad Pitt, yes, and she doesn't like you. Would she ditch Brad to go to grandma's funeral, yes, and she may still be into you.
5 things : 1) she texts or calls you first 2) making plans and follows through with you. She really enjoys your company. 3) she asks you questions 4) she really likes your outfit and gives you a compliment 5) she remembers things you said (aka excellent memory).
Spot-on Courtney. The biggest thing for me is this: If I ask a girl to hang out, and I get a response that's "Uh, well, I dunno, I'm not sure, I'm really busy, etc"... then I don't pursue it because she isn't interested. If she is, I'll get a response along the lines of "Yes, that would fun! It would be great to hang out!", then I know there's something there. Also... it's been my experience that if a girl is interested in a guy, then it doesn't matter how busy she is, or how busy she SAYS she is... if she likes him, she WILL find the time to be around him.
Videos like this are actually very helpful because as guys, we often decide not to flirt with girls that we like so that we don't come off as creepy or presumptuous. It helps so much when girls put aside the games and just flirt back.
i know right. God forbid the guy be genuine and nervous because he likes her that much. Then again what do i know. Im just the nice guy who finishes last.
I had all of these 5 signs appear in a girl I was talking to. We were best friends and talked every day for over a year on top of having obvious chemistry. She said she wasn't ready for a relationship but it felt like we were basically in one and it would happen eventually. Then i went back home for summer break and was gone for a month before I got the "life update" text. Within that one month she met some guy who "gave me the strength to take the leap of faith." I'm sure most of the time you're right, but boy did I fall hard on my face when she yanked the rug out from under my feet.
Basically you've been her emotional/attention provider for nothing in return and as soon as chad walked in you got left behind. That's how it works with women🤷 there's no such thing as being girl and boy best friends. There always will be sexual tension from one part or both. But if the relation doesn't or can't evolve quickly in something more, just the girl benefits from it. She gets the company, the fun, the help. And you, what you get in return? Just thinking about her naked everyday and get dumped when she needs to start thinking about her life. Friendships for women are just a benefit, they don't have the problem like us to find someone else to entertain with. They can get free attention everyday with zero effort. You are repleaceable, when she decides so. You should never commit all this time to a woman without nothing in return. Hope you got to learn the lesson.
That's why you can't have opposite sex friends most of the time. Girls and guys can't be friends. Coworkers, colleagues - maybe. But ultimately what happens in a friendship is 1 party develops interest and the other doesn't. And then you are left feeling exactly like how you describe. Better make your intentions obvious from the start, and if there is no immediate mutual attraction then just move on. Don't waste your time
5 signs that Cortney is a GOOD RU-vidr: 1. She constantly replies to your comments 2. She keeps making plans to constantly upload quality content 3. She asks you questions like what do you like to see, what type of content you want etc 4. She gives you compliments in the comment section 5. She remembers everything we say :)
Great comment and spot on. I haven’t commented much but have seen everything you pointed out. Courtney is definitely good at this. Teddy’s got a good woman.
I was lucky enough in my life to have that experience of falling in love so deep it was like being in a fairy tale. It lasted 17 yrs. I hope everyone in their life here experiences it. There is nothing else in life that will compare to it.
This is true, it’s way too much work and seems counterintuitive. It almost seems like men have to put in all the work just to go on a date, and your not even guaranteed a lay.
The 5 signs: She lets you take out the Garbage She allows you to pay here phone bill She tolerates you paying for ALL her gas She provides you the opportunity to pay the FULL rent She gives the opportunity that when here male friends want to do sleepovers for you to sleep in a tent in the backyard She does this all for you, and only when she truely likes you.
As an older man, I know most of the things that you share. Your emotional intelligence is inspiring, and I find your voice very soothing. Thanks for posting.
Had to laugh at number 5. ALL women remember what you say. When the time comes, they use what you said against you. If you have ever been married or in a long term relationship, you will have experienced this.
Pretty much, but it goes for humans in general. Whenever you open up to someone, you have to do it believing that it one day come to bite you in the ass. Very few people are genuinely trust worthy. Hence the saying: “Never let them see you bleed”.
What a clear, sincere, helpful summary. Thanks Courtney. Your earnestness comes through which is really appreciated because there are just too many people trying to lure 'suckers' in with unrealistic promises and insincere advice! In addition, you are attractive in an earthy way without all the razzle-dazzle which makes your podcast all the more appealing. Thanks again.
i rather live with my parents and develop good work skills and avoid the noise of society today, doing without a woman does put lonliness on me at times but my strength is when my family got my back in my own personal growth, it does not matter if you remain single or not, what matters is you made the choices you support and your family supports, this is how a good family sustains challenges
@@sharkbait4616 well im not dating thots or fwb. Anybody I date is looking for a relationship too I make it quite clear from the jump. Also been dating the same girl currently for 2 weeks no more than kissing we are not rushing anything.
@@bricklayerlzdp9825 well you do understand women get attention very easily from men and that they get a little less interested they move on to the next guy, why do you think marriage is in decline, cause men are in this cycle of where she "chooses" and you "loses" cause she wins in court she wins in getting your resources she wins whatever you gave her, have fun with your 2 week gf, she will loses interest when she "choses" another guy will be interesting to her, it will happen nowdays, guarantee it
@@sharkbait4616 its funny, i read about people like you and I've hung around some pretty shitty, toxic assholes, but i didn't really believe it. Actually i looked up the manosphere yesterday for the first time and found out about women hate from dudes like you. The extremists doing the hate killing and regular guys just mad at women in general and i don't really get it. I mean, i'm a pretty hateful dude and dont tolerate much bullshit, ive been cheated on, done my own cheating, raised kids that weren't mine and been the financial leader while the dads did nothing. I've never seen a cute girl smile at me in a store and immediately thought how even if i do fall in love, she'll crush me, cheat on me, and take my money. If you pre screen women better using these courtney techniques, change the issues you dont like about yourself or that fuck up your confidence, and start living a good life for YOU, then you will find women that are good. They will flock to you, homie....get healthy, feel good, be kind and strong, be trustworthy, and (maybe get a motorcycle? 😁) you will be getting the glances, smiles, and signs from new women and women who work at stores you have frequent for months. Drink water, flush your body of toxins and negativity, try yoga or meditation, pursue health and happiness for YOU and it will blow your mind how many girls change their behavior towards you if you pay attention. Good luck, i hope you try it.
We boys overanalyse things. I was in love with a girl in my class. After I’ve finished school I wrote to her at Snapchat but she friend zoned me brutally. So don’t believe the signs I don’t wanna be negative. My one tip for you is make your move and if it’s a no you can always move on. If you never ask you will never find out and that feeling is way worse than the feeling of being rejected trust me. Good luck everyone I believe in you!
The last time I had a girlfriend, there wasn't any such thing as "texting" yet. We had "pagers", and my ex-girlfriend would never respond to my pages. And that's why she's an "ex".
I dated a girl a few times that would cancel at the last minute and stuff... It's really screwed up. She even canceled going to a music festival -- that SHE invited me to go with her -- while I was driving to pick her up. Next day she paid me both tickets, since I had bought them, and we never talked again. Good riddance!
She definitely went to hang out with some other guy. Women have an abundance of options. If the right guy text's them they will cancel their wedding day and hang out with him. Atleast she paid for both tickets.
@@mikewhite8848 oh yea, she was most assuredly high as a kite and hanging out with a certain co-worker that always stuffed her naive brain with stupefiers for probably obvious reasons. I never had full certainties, but I'd say it was pretty much like 2+X=4.
I've been there dude, it sucks. Girl canceled a date on me, when her dad was in town for Father's day. Especially when you find out, that she was at a pool party the whole time drinking instead of being with family for Father's day. Definitely a sign to move on, she wasn't responsible, or knew who she really was.
6. If you catch a woman staring at you and paying attention to the conversation you're having with someone else she might be into you. I've been really paying attention to people's body language after watching a lot of these types of videos and I've picked up on this a few times while talking to other people.
@@Brucelee89896 Sure!! There was a girl that was really into me at work. I worked at a law firm as an intern. So, I graduated from university back in December and she gave me a gift! When it was Christmas, she gave me a 007 themed dry martini coated chocolates! We got to flirt, chat and go out on dates and suddenly, she just gave me the cold shoulder. She actively tried to avoid me and refused to talk to me anymore. Very weird for her to act that way so suddenly. Dodged a huge bullet for sure!!
Great video and I love your content. If I must add one thing, talking about herself is a different situation if she's sharing intimate/deep/personal things with you. That means she trusts you and she's opening up to you so that you can understand where she's coming from which will help you two connect on a much deeper level. In that case, it means that she either really likes you or at least she sees you as someone special.
I think when we are into someone, we often find ourselves trying to transform "any random sign" into one of these 5 signs. This video makes the signs very clear... but yet I know men who can't see that the girl is not really into him, she is just bored and you are there only for the sole purpose of entertainment. Great video, thanks for the great content you make.
She literally did everything you mention here and even said to me that I was handsome, but when I wanted to get more serious she denied that she ever liked me and said we were just friends. I know I was a plan B for her, so I get why she didn't wanted to go further at that moment, but what upsets me is that she denied everything that happened, just say ''I like you, but I like the other guy more'' is that so difficult?
I had 5/5 of these with a girl I met at the gym in late November. I went out of my comfort zone to talk to her because she had a PlayStation T-shirt on. As soon as I started speaking to her, she couldn’t stop smiling & looking into my eyes. Her smile was incredible & the spark of attraction that I felt was so legit. I even walked her home a block away & she told me to text her when I got home. “Long story short”, two days later, she distanced herself from me & that was pretty much it. 💔 Everything ended so prematurely. Still not over her. 😔
That's the worst when you are not even given a reason why. Even a phony one would be better than nothing. I remember years back I went out with the most beautiful young woman twice (she was easily a 9 without makeup). She blew me off after 2 dates. Never knew why. I saw her 7 years later and she had become a 5. Pear shaped and wrinkled. Could not believe how much she went downhill in only 7 years. I can only imagine what she looks like now, roughly 17 years later. I thought, man I dodged a bullet there! Regards, NS.
@@RuddsReels This is what happened. Here are the details. I’m just copying & pasting a post I made on another one of Courtney’s videos. Here it is: For pretty much the first time in my life, I stepped out of my comfort zone to talk to a random girl. It happened at the gym some months ago. She happened to have a PlayStation T-shirt on which really caught my attention (she told me she’s actually not a gamer). Her eyes lit up when I spoke to her & we couldn’t stop smiling. The eye contact was very strong & her smile was absolutely perfect. I sensed a major spark of attraction & it felt like I had known her for a while. So there was mutual attraction & I had that working in my favor. I got her number on the spot. We did a little bit of grocery shopping after we got done at the gym & she was down for me to walk her home just a block away. Gave her a hug & she told me to text her when I got home. Sweet! Everything started off perfectly that night but I was cautiously optimistic. The next day, we texted for a bit (I learned her mom passed away in the Summer) & at one point, she enthusiastically scheduled plans for us the next day. So we ended up hanging out for about 3 hours. She was so sweet & wonderful, i.e. didn’t want me to be cold, held a door open for me, paid for my drink. Now at one point, after I had told her a bit about myself & after she commented on how nice the night sky looked, I put my arm around her & she asked if we could be friends. To say I was confused & bummed out is an understatement. I thought she liked me!! This soured my mood & I barely remember most of what she told me, most of which was about her issues. She really opened up to me. After I walked her home, again she told me to text her when I got back to my place. The following day I received this: “Hey Luis I think you are a really cool person. But I’m really scared I’m gonna fall for you and I just can’t handle a close relationship right now. Please know it’s not about anything about you or something like that. You didn’t do or say anything wrong. You are pretty perfect. I just am really fragile and I need to take care of myself and I am afraid to get close to anyone. I’m going to distance myself. Please try to understand where I am coming from and don’t take it personally 💕” In another text, she said: “Hey Luis I felt like you were perfect on the day we went out. You didn’t do or say anything wrong or anything I didn’t like. You were great. I’m distancing myself not cause of you, but because I am not in a good place right now in my life. And I know that this is not the right season for me to be dating anyone. I can’t gamble with how I am doing emotionally, if I date someone and it falls apart that could be really dangerous for me mentally and emotionally since I am already struggling and going through a lot. That’s where I am coming from. It’s not about how I felt about you. I hope you believe me because it’s true.” Now about a month later, I asked her if she’d be willing to meet up or at the very least talk over the phone to discuss a few things & that I’d respect her decision either way. To that, she said this: “Hey Luis I am only replying late cause I’ve been thinking about what you said. I’m messed up and I wanna keep my distance. There’s nothing wrong with you and this is not about you I promise 💗 I didn’t want to just say nothing at all and make you feel weird for no reason.” This was her final text to me. Over a month later, we happened to be crossing the same street at the same time. I said hi to her & she ignored me. It felt very cold & weird. I had to know why, so I texted her to find out but I never got a response. I’ve seen her several times since but I’ve left her alone. Some people think she has a fear of intimacy/avoidant attachment style. I’ve also only seen her at the gym just a few times since all this happened some months ago. It’s as if she’s trying her best to avoid me. On one hand, I feel she may have been telling me the truth. On the other, I feel she came up with those very elaborate lies to avoid hurting my feelings but at the same time, everything she said seemed too genuine to be a lie. Whatever the case may be, this has been the most confusing experience I’ve ever had with another person & unfortunately I have not been able to get over her. I’ve been really depressed about it. The girl left such a lasting impression on my soul to say the least & I wish I wasn’t so attracted to her (she’s 5’9”, has a very feminine walk, perfect smile & stands out). This entire ordeal has really deflated me & makes me not even want to go out of my comfort zone again to talk to any other girls. Everything started off really well. It was so organic & unexpected but of course it was all just too good to be true. We would’ve made a ridiculously attractive couple. 😔
@@Form44208 Haha wow. The girl actually gave me a reason but I just kept it short in the original post. I just went into detail though with a new comment. But yeah…I don’t know if she was telling me the truth or told me elaborate lies to avoid hurting my feelings. I kinda hope to see her let herself go just like the chic you went out with did haha
@@Lordran__ Hey thanks for the post! I nearly spit out my tea looking at how long it was! lol! Good job you copied it! Yeah, it all seems a bit weird doesn't it. Is she just open to being friends? I know you and her want something more, but if you both see how you are with regular friendly interaction, something could organically develop and it may make her feel more at ease over time, into being in a romantic relationship? It may be worth asking. Not being funny, but I get the feeling something more is happening here. Like her ex showed up to try again, a couple of days after you both met. Of course I am totally guessing and are most probably wrong, but I'm using this as an example, because I get the feeling from her responses that there is something she is not telling you. Her mother passing would mean she would look for company in some form, rather than pushing it away. So I don't think it's that. Get back to me if anything happens in the future. I hope you get to resolve this.
Courtney you made it PLAIN even to those"slow-on-the-uptake"with:"I'm only hanging-out WITH you,if I LIKE you and ENJOY your company." Simple, logical,direct and TRUE. The opposite is true as well:"I'm only making excuses for not sharing lunch,together and AVOIDING you,because I DON'T like you and I DESPISE your vapid,vacuous conversation and overall company."
Just keep your focus, as a guy, on pursuing friendship with her from the get go. If you do that, and she opens up to you then the relationship can grow and blossom. God gave us two ears and one mouth and that should be a guide of how much of each we need to do!
@cv97035 - When a girl makes it clear that you are a "good friend" to her, then make it clear that she's the same, and in fact you can tell her, "I'm glad we're able to just be friends because too often someone puts pressure to become more than friends and thankfully you're not like that!"......
1) she texts or calls you first 2) making plans and follows through with you. She really enjoys your company. 3) she asks you questions 4) she really likes your outfit and gives you a compliment 5) she remembers things you said (aka excellent memory).
THAT’S IT! I’VE HAD IT! I speak for every person on planet Earth when I say I'll never get a girlfriend, I don't wanna step outside, cringe when I hug my OWN mother, and never hugged any other woman in years. I'll be moving my interest to my Xbox series s were there's REAL love. Time to play some good exclusives!
Thank you Courtney, I love this one girl who has adorned my life simply with the beauty of who she is (inner beauty.) You nailed it in one point. She does text me first. One thing she does is apologize for taking so long to return my text. It really melts my heart that someone is so caring and thoughtful. Your video has really made my day thank you for sharing it. I'm thankful I found you. I gave you a like, and subscribed. Have a great day 😁👍
Years ago I was part of a conversation with some girls that I truly had just a platonic relationship with. They were on the subject of a girl showing interest in a guy and one stated this : “If a girl is interested in a guy she will beat his door down”. For some reason, this always stuck with me. I agree that if a girl really likes you, you will have no doubt !
If you're autistic, be best to steer well clear of women at all costs. They defy logic and scramble your mind. I'm recently diagnosed after years of abuse at the hands of a woman, I thought it was love but it wasn't normal it turns out. I couldn't see it due to my condition as it happens.
Sometimes if a person doesn't text you back right away then it means that they're probably busy and they would get back to you whenever they can, if they don't text you back after 2 days then that person doesn't want to chat anymore. Thank you very much for these videos Courtney.
From my experience all the advice in this video generally rings true and is a great guide, however you must always remind yourself that people express themselves differently. The one scenario that is difficult are the truly shy women, they can come off as totally disinterested but they actually have a mad crush on you! I have had a women say she was intimidated by me becuase of how attractive I was to her. I was like what? Never even thought I guy like me could intimidate women like that. In the end this video is a great guide and just go with the flow when dating, and keep your mind open to differences between how inviduals express themselves and dont get discouraged, especially when you just strat seeing someone.
She "remembers things you said" is not always a good thing, especially when she brings up something you said 5 or 10 years ago and throws it in your face to argue a point.
I love listening to her tips. She's not confusion and very accurate. I actually experienced all of these so I now know that I am actually datable. Thanks Courtney!
Hi Courtney. This is going to be slightly long winded so please bear with me. My wife is a sports coach, she's from another country. We met in my country when she was here for an assignment, things got a little bad on her side and she was about to be sent back, but we got married so she got to stay. Fast forward 5 years and she found herself another assignment and a motivated student. Her name is A. A was a popular girl among some of my wife's male students. I was their technical guy and I thought nothing of helping her out. We sometimes went on holidays in a group. A went off to study in the UK and returned a few years later and we established contact once again. By the time she was back here, My wife and I had separated, but not many people know about it. A was kinda close to me in a sense that we cooked meals for each other and we talked about private matters that we don't usually casually tell others. These are not sexual issues (well, save for one, but I'll let that pass) and one day she asked me, what's going on with me, and her coach. I've never told her about our separation. Turns out she'd notice some small details. A tells me about her boyfriend, one of my wife's students. This has always bothered me but I didn;t want to ruin their relationship. She's mentioned that she's been going out with him for less than a year and she doesn't know if they will be together for long. A likes my cooking, and she's occasionally taken pictures of the lunches I make for her and posted them on Instagram. She's come over to my place of dinners without her boyfriend, and she's gone out with my group as well without him. I've given her a puzzle (a trinket) that I got while on an overseas assignment and the first thing she did was to bring it to a christmas party where she let all her firends and her boyfriend have a go. Apparently it raised some suspicions but she kinda brushed them off. SHe told me that she had wanted to see their reactions when they knew it was from me (these people didn;t like me, some old vendetta). I was, kinda shocked. About a year ago, I confessed my feeling to her in a letter. She replied in a message that she'd always considered me as husband to her much respected coach, and that she won't see me ever again. About 4 hours ago while I was having dinner with my wife and some family friends, A turned up with her bf at our table to say hi. A turned to me and said hello. Courtney, what's really going on?
I know this is an old comment but.... she considered you like extended family in some capacity and trusted you as a male confidant, but for you the relationship was extending beyond that into something romantic. Because you're her coaches husband she pairs you with that same role. She probably did want to keep her distance but she also didn't want to be mean because of your long term relationship. She was still trying to be respectful.
I think I can add something here after having years of experience myself ... if she calls the police on you after you found out where she works and innocently offer her dinner while you were waiting by her car .. then she has "daddy issues". Its very common, don't get discouraged.
There is this girl that was doing all these things, she would always text me, hang out with me, we would talk a lot, she would make plans for the 2 of us all the time and we'd go out every single week multiple times a week. At first I didn't make a move because I wasn't sure, but then I started liking her and after some time I finally decided to tell her how I felt and she didn't reciprocate. Due to certain circumstances we still face each other frequently, but everything is ruined now. And because we still see each other it makes it even tougher to get over her.
These signs are correct, but based on my own experiences literally all of these can be experienced when you are deeply in the friendzone. Which means she treats you no more than just a friend, and she is just being kind.
This girl I like always touched me and always seemed happy in my company and for a while we always messaged each other and we would always compliment each other but I recently found out she was never really into me romantically so I don’t even know what to trust anymore.
Nothing wrong with this. Some women are just simply well-mannered and kind enough while keeping boundaries. If you care that much, you make a push. If you simply fade away after you realize she is not into you romantically, your loss.
No matter how much I tried to follow all the tips and refined all my texting habits, it just never happens. No one has ever liked me back. The same signs keep coming back again and again in everyone I meet, no matter what I tried to in the self improvement department. COVID just put the final nail in the coffin as everything just switched online and dating apps are a total unlucky shithole for me personally. Mind you I tried all tips to make a good profile there as well. Oh well, back to DCS I guess. At least the yoke of a good ol' Mikoyan jet won't be unpredictable and actually responds back to you.
Courtney is so cute, calm,very professional and always be giving me some good positive vibes everytime when im watching her on youtube channel...thanks for the heads up sweetie ❤❤❤
This one girl told me she didn’t like my buzz cut. Then a couple days later she and my sister came to watch my soccer game and she told me that I looked very good w my buzz cut. I pressed her bc she made it pretty obvious she hated it at first. I swear girls are so confusing and tbh it’s so hard to tell if they like you depending on the girl.
Dude by her saying she hates your buzzcut A: She is commenting on something about you(teasing possibly) B: A buzzcutt grows out pretty quick so its clearly not a deal breaker for her. C: Makes sure you get word that she likes the cut..blah blah But yah they as confusing as all f
When it comes to dating and relationships, I feel like I'm constantly tap dancing for the woman's approval and trying to not blow it. I feel like it's never enough when it comes to women. Am I crazy? I'd love to hear your thoughts Courtney and anyone else's for that matter. Keep up the good work.
Hey brother. I would very much encourage you to spend time on yourself. What you described indicates a lack of confidence. Invest in yourself those things that improve you and grow you as a man, a brother and a friend. Mind, body and spirit if you will. By doing so you will improve how you see yourself and your intrinsic value you bring to any table as well as any woman’s table. Remember, of all the characteristics that attracts a woman, self confidence is chief among them. And for good reason. Please understand that I’m not talking about some false bravado where you’re just trying to self talk yourself into the veneer of being confident. I am talking about a real investment of time, energy and sacrifice that grows you in tangible ways. When you do that good work you will create value in yourself that you will see and appreciate. And you will cultivate a deep and quiet strength that a woman of real quality is hoping to find. And trust me, she will find you. The other side of this will be that you will no longer feel what you described. A lesser minded woman who cannot or does not see your value inside and out will indeed keep you at arms length and feeling as though you’re not enough. Because she will only be looking for the superficial. And you don’t want that type of woman anyway. But inside you will be relatively unaffected because of the value you have placed on the work you have done on yourself, hopefully a man of genuine qualities. Anyway, probably more than you were asking for. I remember feeling what you described as a younger man and I wanted to share my perspective. I hope that it helps. Rock on
Saw these 5 traits.. always calling or texting me 1st, compliment on things no one else does, remembers my childhood stories.. then out of the blue.. "i really like you as a friend"
A woman talking about herself a lot can be a red flag, but it could be a sign of nervousness or youth. I find that most younger women are better at talking about themselves than being inquisitive about others... I think it's a lot easier to ask questions when you are more cultured. When you aren't it can be difficult and make a conversation feel less natural.
So I stopped being friends with a girl I liked, I basically told her straight out after a year of being coworker friends. We messaged everyday but she didn’t like me. Anyways we haven’t talked in over 2or3 yrs and she added be back on Facebook. I messaged her to see how she was doing and etc… I ended up asking her why she added me back? She told me that I was fun to talk to🤷♂️ what does that me? I was positive she hated me because when I told her I couldn’t be her friend anymore she told me that I was like her best friend…. Yeah i liked her too much to just be friends and it was messing with my mental health.
I've had an easier time with that versus irl. It's pretty straight forward. If she doesn't want to meet up or reschedules, move on. She doesn't respect your time.
I like the positivity of your videos Courtney. You put a finger on problematic spots but retain a romantic and positive outlook on relationships. Keep up the great work! 😁👍🏻
.. thank you Courtney.. ive remembered this video when an employee from a restaurant had came to me offering me candy.. had mentioned to her i dont eat candy and she remembered from our previous small talk that im on a no-carb, no-sugar diet and choose not to have that stuff.. she mentioned she remembered i told her before knowing also offered me if i ever would want anything from her work to feel free to ask.. i thanked her and mentioned i cook all of my meals and showed her pics of my dishes.. she mentioned shed like to get in to meal prepping possibly hinting something to me saying she lives alone?.. i dont bother with it and am not interested in her.. i have another one that had actually complimented me on my sunglasses i wore out of the blue that she noticed.. and most recently after losing so much weight she said I an looking good.. shes older and understood why she gave the compliment.. brave of her.. i thanked her and did not give her validation in return as much as i would have liked to since she goes to the gym or spa at my work.. i wanted to let her she too always looking fabulous whethere its the gym or spa.. not being able to tell the difference from a workout or spa skin glowing.. ive come across some videos where its said to not give my power as a man and giving her validation too soon or depending on the type of validation.. i see as a guy we want her (women) to earn it.. shes expecting one from ive learned is theyre always getting them being hit on..
Came across your channel recently Courtney and I just want to say I really appreciate the work you're putting in. Nothing is over the top or click-baitey, just practical and well-explained content. Keep it up! :)
I have never been in a relationship in 52 years and a VERY PROUD virgin.. Brother has been in one for 35 years and has 2 kids. Brother is extremely miserable, almost always broke and never has any time to himself. I have never been happier, have 100% of my time to myself and am a lot wealthier and healthier! Stay single! It's the perfect life!
You either have the balls to ask someone out, or you don't. The only sure way to know if someone likes you is if you ask them out and find out that they like you. Needing hints says you're afraid of rejection. Giving hints says you're looking for attention. What's the worst that can happen? They say, "no"? It goes with the territory. No one ever said that you had to "cold-call". Just put yourself in their proximity, and feel them out a little. Ask or say anything that's "safe", and look right at them while you're talking. Pretend you're talking to someone you already know. And avoid the shy routine. Just say something normal, and don't look afraid. Look at them. Confidence is EVERYTHING. They don't know who you are. If they think you're intimidated... you're done (unless they're looking for someone to take advantage of). Don't be afraid of not being liked. Waste of time. You're in the game for someone that likes you. Impressing yourself is more important than impressing someone else. When you've impressed yourself, you've gained confidence. Confidence is king, and may probably prevent you from settling for someone that may ultimately bring you down. If someone really wants to be with you, they'll follow you to McDonald's. If you actually need the type of advice in this video... you belong on a dating site, where you don't actually have to face anyone.
That's absolutely not my experience. It depends on what you show to people around you. If you make it obvious you're not into making that kind of a deal, people like that will stay away. If you show you have something to give and take other than the obvious stuff, that attracts transactional relationships. That's just my experience.
Don't fall into that trap, my man. That can lead to a dark place that can exponentially make you feel worse about yourself. Get out there, take risks, and don't put all of your self-worth on how someone else feels about you. Dating is so unbelievably fickle, and it's best to keep the attitude of not taking things too seriously or to heart. These are not my words.... rejection does not define us, but how we handle rejection does! Use it all as a positive learning experience and keep moving forward. Keep your chin up and don't let that negative ego get the best of your life.
Well, no idea if the woman I like is really into me or just faking it but I think I am beginning to like you! So nice to hear from someone who is genuine & down to earth
These are great tips. I honestly couldn’t agree more as some of these have happened in conversations that I’ve been in and it shows. Thanks for the great video! You are doing amazing
Wow, for more than six months I’ve been watching you! Amazing! You have only gotten better and better with your talks, and advice. Love it! I tell my friends about a wonderful woman counsel I seek all the time! Why? Because of the incredible valued content you have helps make me a better man! As now I near constantly review myself for improvements like never before. Unfortunately too is the fact that a ‘marriage’ drove me to seek out ideas, and counsel as yours. YOU ARE A GAME CHANGER! Thanks times infinity for being a trusted source for life and relationships. Thank you!
There’s this one girl that I’ve had my eye on. I wanted to get to know her a little better so I’ve been following her around for the past month or so. Now when I talk to her, she’s telling me that she’s going to call the police. Is she just playing hard to get?
