9 Biggest Turn Ons For Women | Courtney Ryan 

1. Confidence (be sure of yourself, do what you love) 2. Chivalry (be a gentleman) 3. Sense of humor (don't take yourself seriously) 4. Kindness (be respectful to everyone) 5. Compliments (give genuine, non-physical ones) 6. Be punctual (value other's time) 7. Cleanliness (self-care, take care of yourself and your living space) 8. Keeping your word (integrity) 9. Be vulnerable (this ties with confidence)

Her voice is so calming

I like that you put confidence as your #1 turn on. It takes a lot of inner work to know you are, accept it, love it, and go after what you truly believe in. So many people are afraid to confront themselves and then embrace what they find.

So So Great to see a video without the drama. Great advice for men at any age, I was taught this... from my dad, I taught my son who highly respects his older sisters just a couple years older. Now I'm a 1st time grand dad showing my 8 month old granddaughter how she's suppose to be treated, with love, kindness, respect, make her smile feeling secure. Great video!!

"When you look your best, you feel your best." Definitely a true statement.

Sad part is, she may like the "5" or "6" but her friends influence tells her she can do much better and all she is doing is settling. In turn, she leaves in search of someone her friends approve of and not her choice. Women nowadays seek validation, not happiness. Social media and this materialistic culture we consume everyday are actually hurting us and not helping. My advice is to shut off your social media and live life. It's more enjoyable

I've been happily married for 11 years and I would encourage other married men to watch this and follow her advice as well. We should all be winning over our wives again and again 💪

The last part.. about being vulnerable. Has been monumental for me and my current relationship. For instance; my gf recently told me that her mom was moving to Florida in about 9 months, she lives with her mom. And she wasn't sure if she was going to be going with her. Now.. we've been dating for about 5 months. And things have been going great. She's even started moving some things over to my place. Towel, lotion, shampoo, etc.. the good stuff essentially. But we're both a little bit reserved emotionally.. so we hadn't said I love you up to this point. Even though the writing really seemed to be on the wall. So when she told me about Florida.. I of course was a bit nervous. Though I was hoping that she was dropping the hint to get me thinking about her moving-in. That was over a week ago.. and a few days ago, after I had talked to my family and friends about it, I decided to open up and tell her not only that I love her, but that I wanted her to stay here in Indiana with me and not go to Florida(I know.. tough sell). But if I didn't open up to her then what would I have been doing? Accepting that I could be just wasting my time? Because I'm not in this for the short-term.. and I needed her to remember that. So I sat her down.. and told her that her telling me about Florida has forced me to do some deep thinking about our relationship. I told her that 9 months from now I wanted her to be here with me.. because I'm serious about her. Then the words came.. "because I love you." We laid there for a moment.. both absorbing the moment and racing with thought. Until she turned to me with a big smile and said, "I was wondering if you loved me back.. and I already made my decision. I'm staying." For me.. absolute best case scenario. And this isn't the first time that this sort of situation has happened in our relationship. There's actually been many times that I've been nervous to open up.. but whenever I did... she's always responded with an either equal, or even greater positive reaction. But needless to say.. I was very nervous to open up to her. There was a chance that she could've rejected me and I would've been heartbroken.. but I also would've never gotten to where I am now without taking a chance. Honesty is truly imperative in a long-lasting and healthy relationship. Don't let an opportunity slip because you're afraid.. that fear is trying to tell you something. 😁

A very wise man once told me the cheapest thing you own is the hardest thing to keep and that is your word. You are nothing without your word.

1) Get shredded brah 2) Be on your purpose 3) Delayed gratification > Instant gratification 4) Level up social skills All the above points will strengthen the others and will also give you confidence (you should act confident regardless) The points in the video are good as well but looks do matter, or atleast the effort that goes into getting an aesthetic body, do not worry about unchangeable features, focus on what you can improve and then do it, always maximise your chanses of getting what you want, there is no reason not to workout. Were all gonna make it brahs! 💪🏻

Hi Courtney, I have studied and enjoyed many of your videos on this channel. This is one of the best. I feel that you are not only a great friend to men for grooming advice on all levels but also a fantastic role model for women. Keep it up and I am very grateful for these practical advise to help me to be better person. With my best wishes.

Thank you Courtney, this is helping me I have a lot of emotional damage and issues from my troubled past and upbringing, but your videos are helping me to be a better man. I really appreciate your genuineness and practical demeanor.

“Being rude to a service worker is a huge turnoff” *Laughs in Gordon Ramsey*

Having a sense of humour is also a lot about being intelligent. When you're smart you see the different funny angles of things.

"Confidence and vulnerability go hand by hand". So true, Courtney. Thank you for this incredible video !

Courtney, I appreciate that you make the effort to make us better companions -- and that even applies when you're in a committed relationship, as I am. You really do an excellent job of explaining the "common sense" things we need to work on, and do so without being defensive or judgemental, which I also appreciate. The guy in your life is a lucky dude! You did miss "listening" in this list -- I know this because it's one I struggle with -- too many things running thru my head, and I don't pay enough attention to the gal I love. (Hint: If your guy is like this, try saying his name and getting him to meet your gaze before talking. Guys, you really need to make an effort to show her that you care about her and her thoughts and opinions. Gals, try to cut us a little slack and appreciate our effort. Acceptance that we're less than perfect is a major step in winning our heart!

Went on a first date with a girl this afternoon and spent the whole morning beforehand watching your videos. It went really well and we're meeting up again in a few days. Thanks Courtney, you were so helpful at calming my nerves and helping me show my best self!

I've been married for fifteen years, and I still watch videos of this type to keep my boots polished. Men, you must keep your game tight. A good woman is going to hold you to a high standard.

Thanks for ur realness, Courtney. U give very good and healthy advices; nothing compared with other's content, where they ask u to do very extreme things, such as getting toxic with ur couple, changing ur body, etc. And with u, well, ur very comprehensive; and I love how u communicate that certain of things. Ur great!

I love the fact that you care for us men out there who are fighting to be staying traditional. You have helped restore my will to fight on....

One of the biggest turn-offs and red flags for a lot of men that prevents them from wanting to get too involved with women is women who are checklist taskmasters.

"I'm so proud of you!" I said that to a good old friend of mine who is doing really good in life right now and I had not seen in years. She was so moved she started crying. It was one the most honest compliments I've ever given.

This is very helpful. Being in a new relationship is sometimes challenging, but tips like yours help so much. Thank you for all you do. 🙏

I didn't think that ladies like Courtney still exist. Even in a world of people who praise themselves, she has an axiom of morals, and truth considering relationships, and I just wish there were more like her.

Confidence is also about acknowledging your weaknesses, owning them, but pressing on in spite of them. You're never going to get to a place where you love everything about yourself, but you can get to a place where you recognize your value and stop caring so much about what other people think.

There’s a big difference between and gentleman and a “nice guy”. Some women just aren’t going to want a gentleman..and gentlemen, those are not the women you want.

I’m genuinely grateful for these videos because they ease my anxiety. I know I’m decently attractive, but socially I’m not sure how to carry myself and I had no idea what women preferred until I found your channel.

Well made video, Courtney!! You are very humble, genuine and down to earth, and i love that you take the time to answer comments!

I never realized until recently how much women love a sense of humor. My 52 year old bald cousin married a 27 year old woman. His biggest draw is his sense of humor.

Courtney I just got divorced in February and just getting back into the dating seen and your advice has really opened my eyes thank you for being so sincere

You show the most kindness and humility you use down to earth that works too but you’re the real deal and that is the most unique thing about you. Thank you for reaffirming that if I do the little things they will not go unappreciated it’s tough Nowadays

It's obvious you were raised right. EVERYTHING that comes out of your mouth is common sense, truthful and conveyed with a sense of responsibility and humility. I'm 56 years old, 21 years military (enlisted and officer / combat veteran), 22 years married (10 divorced), I've worked in the corporate world and now own my own contracting business. More so than ANY other other woman I've found on the internet providing relationship insight and advice I trust YOU. There's no gamesmanship, flirting, b.s., validation seeking or any other immature, insecure, low-quality junk about you. You are obviously an incredibly high value individual and you treat yourself and others with decency, kindness, consideration and respect. I don't know if I've ever met a Unicorn, but if I have you're probably it. Your husband is a lucky / blessed man. Thanks for what you do and for how you do it. I'll keep listening.

You’re extremely honest and I think that’s what makes your advice worth listening too. Great job you’re killing it.

I absolutely love that you put “keeping your word” in this video. This is something I grew up with and do believe everyone should follow. There’s only two things in this world that I truly believe you have 1. your word and 2. your name. Everything else is borrowed and can be replaced. I’m really enjoying your videos. Keep up the good work! 😊

Thanks for your thoughtful and lovely advice Courtney. This is absolutely the tips I wish I could have got when I was in my late teens and early 20s.

I have only been following you for a couple of months Courtney, but i appreciate the work you're doing helping men. Keep doing it 🙏👏

Recently stumbled across your channel. Love the calm, measured demeanor; the carefully researched subject matter and, of course, your sincerity in its delivery. Keep up the solid work ✌️

I'll add another compliment! You articulate yourself well. It's unusual to find a 25 year old girl these days who composes sentences correctly and speaks with coherence! You're in touch with pop culture and style but you don't talk with "like" in every other word or have a Valley Girl accent like you're on Keeping up with the Kardashians!

This was very empowering for me as a man Ty, I struggle with the confidence thing and I think part of that is knowing your worth. I always feel like I’d be the lucky one to get with this girl and never see it as I have a lot too offer so thank you I really like the video. Subscribed and liked!

Hey Courtney! Thank you for approaching your topics with a sweetness that is just palpable. You are obviously a kind person. The kind of person that would stop and pray with a homeless person and help them get something to eat. Guys like that kind of person as well

Don’t take yourself to seriously and have a laugh/be humble Have motivation/ambition to do better in life Be yourself/confident Have hobbies and interests Eat clean and exercise Be a gent and show care for other people That would be my list as a man

I like the tone of your voice. You're not loud and trying to be animated with your body language like the other RU-vid channels. Keep up the good work!

Courtney is absolutely incredible. She comes off as someone who is so real and who genuinely cares. You can tell by her tone of voice that she is not trying to be a hype salesperson. Although the vulnerability can be so hard for us guys it does appear to build a stronger connection with others that are real.

Courtney, I wanted to tell you have a real gentleness about you and the way you speak. I’m not just saying this to be frivolous or disingenuous. Thank you for all your advice. I’m sure the man you’re with appreciates you. My gratitude goes out to you and those who make your videos happen!

I've come across these videos and can truly appreciate the approach given here. For all the guys, love yourself, work on YOU, and love those around you. Life will provide you with that all you need when you're in the "position" to receive them, don't fret over the small stuff. And don't ever put anyone over you, there's not a single person on earth that can judge the value of another.

Thank you Courtney... just making sure I am not missing anything. Using emotional intelligence is a constant practice. I learned that doing the thing's that benefit yourself and the people around you molds you. That applies to everything. People, actions, habits.. everything. It doesn't happen if it doesn't benefit. Thank you for your work.

This video felt nice, thank you! :) I think everybody knows confidence is the main turn on so you included it first. But I really liked the emphasis you did on vulnerability because it's probably the second most important turn on so I guess you saved it for last :)

I remember in high school the counselor telling us how important it is to have self confidence. I just wanted to hide because I knew I had zero self confidence. Telling someone to have self confidence who doesn’t is painful. I grew up in poverty and no father. I knew I was worthless and had no self confidence. What the counselor didn’t do was tell guy like me how to gain confidence when you have zero. You didn’t offer that either Courtney. It was only after years of counseling and non-verbal therapy did I develop confidence. Just know for men with low self confidence they cannot just turn it on like a light switch.

I love how you always remind people the difference between simp and being a good human. Some guys nowadays dont get it yet. Awesome video!

The fact that Courtney was tearing up when she was talking about all the nice people leaving her compliments shows how down to earth she truly is! Also, Im not sure about most guys but personally hitting the gym daily and getting a haircut are the best ways that make me feel confident and also growing up and not really caring so much about what other people think! Great Video Courntey yet again :)

You are great! I've met a few women like you and have always felt that the counsel you provide on your channel is spot on. God Bless You

What I love is the softness and warmth in your voice. You speak with confidence, with that comes trust in what you say. Thank you 😊

I don't know who trolled you here on RU-vid. We can't force others to love us. You speak naturally and you deliver value to your subscribers. You are doing a great job. Keep it up Courtney!

I opened up to my ex and she used what I shared against me. That last part gonna be hard

Your video is spot on, great content. The only thing I would add is your actions shouldn’t be forced and unnatural, you’ve got to have these characteristics engrained into your personality so as you react instinctively and naturally each day and night for sharing together life in the moment. Congratulations for your your abilities to share your insights with others.

Don't be vulnerable. Not at all. Not one second. Never show them your weaknesses. Don't be stupid!

Right on and thank you. I have found all of this to be true. In my 20s, I was so insecure and stressed about what people thought of me. But in the last few years, even just between how I behaved at my last job and my current one, I have changed. I used to be a pathetic doormat. But after making some big mistakes, I learned to have confidence in my own principles and values. Women in general used to ignore my existence. But at my current job, I get a lot of respect and I can tell a few of them like me- even just in a friendly way. Women have never treated me with so much positive attention in my entire life. I just had to shed that doormat attitude. I am still deeply insecure, but I no longer project that into my relationships. I just do what I do best. Kick ass and help whenever I can. And hygiene for sure is a priority. Thank you, Cristine.

Courtey's voice is such a stress-reliever!

Courtney! I was shocked when I heard you say people leave mean comments (guess I shouldn’t be in the current state of civility in our world). I almost NEVER leave comments, but I just wanted to leave you a word of encouragement. I consider myself a pretty confident guy, but I’ve been out of the dating scene for 30+ years. I’ve looked at numerous RU-vid channels with “dating experts” (you probably know who they are, and their approach). Your channel is SO incredible. You are genuine, sincere, and you give such incredible insights. I intend to watch ALL your videos. Great job! Keep it up!

Love watching your awesome, well researched smoothly delivered content. I’ve been happily married for 20 years and still watch content like yours to continue to improve to be the best I can be.

Being vulnerable is definitely hard for a lot of guys. There are times in the past where I was vulnerable to females, one of which is a family member, and they would later on down the line make fun of what I told them. In my experience you shouldn't want to be with them if they do something like that.

Your Mom and Dad did a great job at raising you Courtney, you're so grounded and just, fair and sensitive. You're not afraid to be honest about the shortcomings of womankind nor pointing out the foibles of mankind, you say it how it is, but always with kindness and without any malice or attitude and it's very refreshing. I hope I can find a fine lady who has at least some of your qualities one day.

I love the way how you confidently convey your message.

Courtney, I kept thinking that I've seen you somewhere other than your own channel ... a few months before I even found your channel... The penny dropped when you mentioned the watch giveaway... you're Teddy's fiance, and I saw the video where he gifted you your favourite watch (I forget what watch now, though). I can now see how like attracts like. Teddy and you are so similar. Your poise, demeanour, knowledge, delivery, confidence, and just general calmess are so similar to each other... God Bless you both!!!

I wish more girls were like you Courtney! Love the content.

Very insightful, some minor things we guys tend to take for granted and overlook that sets us back. Thank you for bringing them to the forefront to remind us men that the small things matter. 💯🙏🏼

I love that you make so much sense and normal thinking Courtney. Your so refreshing to me thank you, you give normal guys hope. I've stayed single now for 13yrs and gave up on American women. So thxs again 😊⚘

Not sure if I'm going to be dating but this really helps me set a good tone and attitude with maturity. It's easy to get lost in the meanness of life, this helps.

Thank you for sharing tips like this! Its always reassuring to know that you a reliable person is giving us info about things, thank you, it helps a lot, keep up the good work.

The positive vibes you bring to these videos are so contagious :)

I have been binging on your videos, they are not generic advices and are so insightful. would highly recommend you to make a podcast.

You are a brilliant creator, please keep it up. These tips have been amazing

As a woman, I am so so so happy that there's someone like you out here combatting all of the advice that these scummy pick-up "artists" are giving. Thanks, Courtney!!

Hey Courtney, I just came across your channel today and I’m glad I did! There’s something I’ve noticed about myself recently: The less I’ve been focusing on girls the more attention I’ve been getting from girls. I used to be a smart introvert but a couple months back I’ve been improving myself by exercising and becoming more confident. When studying in the school library I’ve caught a few girls looking in my direction and as soon as I lift up my head they look away. Last week I had this cute girl approach me. Yesterday was Ash Wednesday and I told a group chat I was in that I’m going to Church if anyone else wants to join. I ended up going with around 10 girls to mass. I only knew 2 of the girls so I made several new friends that night. My point of this is not to brag but to point out something I’ve noticed as I’ve become more confident. I wanted to know what you think Courtney about the observation I noticed about myself: The less I’ve been focusing on girls the more I’ve been getting girls attention. You have a new subscriber. The thumbnails are really clean and not cluttered.

You are so right, I've been married for 30 plus years and it all still works, thank you

I also liked how you say to be vulnerable, because yes, that will reveal very quickly whether she is a caring person or not.

I really appreciate female dating coaches like you!! Men think completely opposite of women. Men think if I don’t think I’m super attractive or they think they have to have 6 pack or something. It’s encouraging to know that being kind of being a gentlemen is a big turn on to women. Guys think it’s all about looks. If men actually knew that they could get a beautiful woman to love them just by being nice, kind, chivalrous etc. Lot’s of men wouldn’t give up so easy. I know of at least one friend that is a male friend who has completely given up on ever having a gf. If more men knew hey I’m not the most attractive dude but if I can make her laugh I’m golden. Also a lot think also that if a woman is super beautiful and or thin and attractive. Oh, she’s so hot I can’t get someone that pretty to date me they second guess themselves and sabotage themselves by thinking I’m not attractive enough to get her. Where as being kind, being a gentleman have nothing to do with how physically attractive or not you are. I think women are less shallow and more accepting of someone no matter what they look like. It’s encouraging to know hey I’m funny hey I can make her laugh. Maybe I can get her. Again goes back to #1 self confidence. I don’t think this is just a male issue either I think both genders struggle with having confidence, they have self esteem issues, etc. It’s hard to teach yourself to have confidence and to have self love that’s hard. Cause a lot don’t like themselves let alone love themselves. And not in a cocky way but a healthy amount of self love I think helps in the confidence factor. I don’t think you mentioned that one but the loving yourself I think goes a long ways in helping anyone devolop some self confidence. Thank you Courtney!! I appreciate especially the female dating coaches cause a lot of guys think again it’s all about physical looks. So when men know hey just being a good person and being a gentlemen will help you get the girl I think is very encouraging!!

Thanks Courtney for keeping us up to speed, this secret women’s business is a tricky thing to get right but we’re not giving up!

I completely agree on the topic of how being vulnerable is a path towards building a deep emotional bond. This has been the case for all of the close relationships I have with people in my life, except for dating relationships. With Women, every time i have reciprocated vulnerability, it has driven them away. The line between vulnerability, and over sharing, or sharing too much information too soon is so confusing. It's almost daunting.

I am glad you included the caveat for vulnerability - that it's a red flag if she doesn't appreciate it. I had a couple of relationships where as soon as I let down my stoicism / self-sufficiency / independence, thinking it's time to open up more, the female switched from admiration to contempt! The feeling I got was that they were only interested in somebody who had everything together, more than they did, in order to support them and be their rock. Both had personality disorders though, so it made a lot of sense that it wasn't a fair and level playing field.

In that Brendon Fraser movie Blast From The Past, they quoted his character about what being a "gentleman" is. It's really quite simple and beautiful; a "gentleman" or "lady" is someone who cares more about the comfort of their company than they do for their own. I love that definition!

Bonus secret. These things do not just turn on women, it’s also the other way around

I love listening to your voice! I can really feel your genuine help for others.

These videos are so helpful. Thank you for sharing your beautiful soul with us.💜💜

Thank you Courtney! This educational "men with special virtues" video really accentuates my personality. So I played it loud and clear in my truck while driving with my beautiful wife of 20 years, (pretty much to honor my lone-self) and her reaction to the topic was none, zilch, zero. 🤦‍♂️ I will always be me, but I'm starting to believe that after so much time together, some women stop appreciating our endangered species.🙆‍♂️🤷‍♂️🙋‍♂️

My first time watching you Courtney. After listening to your heartfelt advice, one word came to my mind above all the others. It's a word that has somewhat fallen through the cracks in social media America, and that word is class. You are a very classy young woman in every sense.

I haven't seen a women who tries to understand both side your man is very lucky. I found your channel recently and just got hooked into it so much research and data no one sharing to the right audience in consumable formate you are doing great and nobel work you got blessings from my side and hopefully the community again thanks from bottom of my heart 🤗 i got many questions where can i reach out to you?

I love the way of your explanation each single aspect. Rise N Shine Courtney

Thank you Courtney for the very much appreciated sage advice for those of us who tend to be on the shy side most of our lives in order to better ourselves is a great gift again thank you !

all of these are spot on. especially confidence, vulnerability, and chivalry‼️

I like the fact that your videos are very “real world.” Always good stuff. Thank you for what you do.

well spoken, I hope your comfortable presence can be a motivator for some guys and girls, also to see other and themselves like a all over better, helping person, and remember there`s no reason to stop improving, I say this because I think flirting is not only a sexuality and romantic affair but also a "tool", and a skill for persons uses to use every day, both subconscious and with intention(s), like... public relations work or a walk in the park...those "skills" can help you/help other a long way, by understanding and learning carefully, everyone is different!

"This girl SUCKS!" Lol I loved your delivery of that line. Courtney you would be a great relationship counselor

I freaking love you Courtney. Your channel is different! I love how candid and genuine you are and how your advice is based on true principles! 💛

Hello Courtney, as I was watching the video around 6:30 you mentioned "I love that you reply to comments"(something a viewer commented). Yesterday, I watched one of your videos for the first time-and normally before subbing or watching more videos from a channel I look at the comments and see if the RU-vidr interacts with their audience via, q&a, replies or that 'heart reply', etc.-and I saw that you even gave the 'heart' emoticon to some. When I saw that, I immediately 'knew' that it isn't just an act and you are genuine, and I think that is very remarkable and I'd like to say that you're an amazing person. Hopefully you remain to not say statements that folks want to hear, but what they need to hear. Thank you :D

Just wanted to say,.. I love the advice you give.. Added you on other social medias.. Love the way your reality, is more important than the way you alternately describe a specific bias that less important than the people you try to help... Love the meaning behind the words you put in... And hope you gain more people.. Because of more honest way you act.... Also, don't burn yourself out... We want content you make,.. So be yourself....

Confidence is huge. It is important to define this, as Courtney says, as self-love, to accept ourselves and to be secure in this love. And to extend it to others. I believe this extends to being honest and even vulnerable, but having a positive mental state, having hope, to offer ourselves and others. The honesty is important. I know I have struggled with this and my wife had to push me in this area. But she also said she liked that I was humble and not cocky. So there is a real balance as other times she said I was not honest or had low self-esteem (partly because she is very pretty and smart and confident so deep down I have had doubts that she should be with someone else as guys have always paid her attention and see her as being attractive). It took real struggle and facing these hurts and doubts to finally just let go of it all and realize I only have control of myself, and so the best decision is to be the best version of me, not compare with others, and seek optimal results and my own happiness, and that's when our relationship actually really improved in every way. And yes, married men also appreciate Courtney and the female perspective that often our wives will not give us or we feel awkward to ask. :) I like Courtney because though she is pretty and smart, she is honest and humble. Hope she inspires more girls and women to be like her and not follow the Kardashian example or the opposite extreme where some women do not even try to be pretty or think being pretty is something bad or superficial. Both sexes appreciate people who are clean and healthy and seek to be attractive inside and out.

Hi Courtney! Yes I agree with you when it comes to vulnerability. It is the mother of all intimate connections, whether romantic or not. In other words, this isn't just something men and women should do with each other, but with the same gender as well. I think that a lot of the advice you gave is definitely applicable not only to men, but also to women. Men and women aren't these totally different creatures from different planets (ie Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus). However, we do emphasize more on different things, and these are guided by our biology, culture, personal preferences etc. I know you're not trying to explain the science behind it; you're only trying to give simple and straightforward advice. But I just thought I'd mention that it's extremely important to know that these are good general guidelines but they are by no means rules that are set in stone; there's a lot of gray. For example, I've become more confident, but I'm not always going to be perceived that way, nor am I always confident. I accept that I will be insecure sometimes, and if a woman doesn't understand that or finds that to be a turn off, so be it. I think one thing I would add to your list is compatibility on certain issues. If there isn't much in common in terms of personality traits, political and religious agreements, etc, then the above list you mentioned would only help in the attraction process but not in maintaining a healthy relationship. Good video though!

Thank you dear for the things you told. I guess confidence is something I still need to work with. I do think I can check the rest of them. I know I seem quite confident outside but my wife knows the constant struggle I have inside. We've been married for 15 years or so but I do think spouses really need to work on themselves so that they can keep enjoying each others company.

Hey Courtney.. Just want to say that I really love your work. You seem like a really nice person and you bring a great energy and simplicity and honesty to the table. I fully agree that confidence can be learned. I used to be painfully shy and I actually read woman's magazines to try and understand women better. I lost my virginity at the advanced age of 28, and even then the girl made the first move. Today, at 50, at a party, I'm that guy that every guy wants to be. Even though I still have social anxiety, I push through it and it is getting easier and easier. One thing that I have learned is this: Be the watering hole, not the hunter.