5 Signs to Leave a Relationship 

Hey Psych2Goers! Are you...single? Taken? In love with food? Are you free next Saturday to go on a coffee date?

You watching this video it's the first sign...

Leaving a relationship is really difficult, I hope everyone who's going through it will find the much needed happiness and peace....😢

I left a damaging relationship in 2013. I was too scared to leave because after 7 years together I was convinced that my life would be empty without him. Nine years later, I am about to receive my PhD.

Everything was my fault, never owned up to his mistakes, unapologetic, argumentative, never wrong.

Often times I find myself giving a hundred percent while my partner is only giving 25% into the relationship and I had to make a difficult choice in leaving them.

When his actions dont match his words, it is very hard to trust.

I want to leave the relationship why can’t I just leave? It’s like something pulling me back all the time but I don’t want to be there anymore and I pray I have the courage to leave . Now I understand why older women just decide to be alone for the rest of they’re lives.

I dont wanna leave my relationship.... I just want us to heal ourselves so we can be better and better for eachother

"I will miss you" "me too" - gosh that hit me HARD.

When love turns into ever-lasting pain you're probably better off ending the torture before it kills you

Lack of empathy is usually when I hit the eject button on a relationship

I haven’t trusted him in months. I love him but I feel like he’s a child and I’m mothering him from the way he acts and the way I talk to him. He never listens and never picks up when I call and need him. There has been many small events that have led me to hate him.

Leaving a relationship should not feel like punishment, it's just 2 people, shared experiences, added value to each other, now moving on...

The signs are all there already, but I can’t leave him 😭 Edit : I’m finally over that relationship and I’m far happier now 🤩 thank you so much for the support y’all 🥺💝

When his words doesnt match his actions , and he rather let me suffer than anyone else.

It's very painful to end a relationship. We were together for 8 years and have a son in common. However, if deep inside you feel you are not 100% happy or that your partner doesn't support you or love you for who you are, don't force an unhealthy relationship. Over time will be even more damaging to your emotional wellbeing. It's been 1 month, I am now starting to feel slightly better. You are not alone in this. Your life starts now, stay strong everyone who is going through this.

I always feel like I'm the toxic one in any relationship. Update: I'm still toxic.

Ive left a lot of relationships because we weren't working together, or I couldn't see us in the future. I wasnt satisfied, and it was just extra stress, and I didn't want to lead them on.

I’m only 22 but when my dad died earlier this year, my boyfriend of 3 years at the time didn’t know how to react I guess and just distanced himself. He didn’t provide any real emotional support. When I told him that the relationship was causing me additional stress on top of my grief and that I needed a break, he went out and got drunk with his buddies and made out with some girl and sucked her toe in a Denny’s bathroom. But you know “we were in a break”

After she said “What’s a spongebob?” I knew that it was time

When we are together we are happy it’s when we arnt together he’s flaky inconsistent which makes me feel insecure.

I found this video while trying to calm myself down. I'm ending my 13 year relationship, and right now I'm in what I think is a real life panic attack. I think I'm terrified of being alone. ..!

when they stop saying i love you, are more distant, stop calling you babe or any other names, and start's calling you by your name witch they never used-

I honestly thought I was the only one experiencing this signs in my relationship with my ex partner. I'm truly happy I'm not the only guy going through this storm. I really believe us guys have the heart to leave our toxic relationships no matter how hard it is. I'm with you my brothers!!❤❤🙌🏾 word.

Sometimes it hurts you a lot more holding on to something that is just making a deep wound. Let it go and watch how you heal ❤️ your future you will be thanking you.

my girlfriend today told me she’s no longer happy. and that’s the worst type of pain, because there’s nothing you can do about it.

Yes, for some reason I couldn't trust her. This has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy. We didn't experience that at all, to my knowledge. Trust isn't about that. Trust is the assurance that you can always tell your partner about your worries and life complains without being met by a slap in your face metaphorically speaking. Trust is to be able to tell your partner that you have a feeling of not being enough for her or ask her how she felt about your not responding in the same manner on those rosy messages without being accused of being selfish. Above all, trust is the confidence that you will eventually sort things out together in the long run even if everything is a complete mess at the moment and you feel deeply hurt and devastated.

"I never wanted to let you go. But I never wanted you to stay, and see you continue in pain."

Love is just dangerous in my opinion. No matter what you do, you are always hurting someone in it. That’s why I’m so afraid of it. I don’t want to hurt anyone or put ANYONE into the pain that I went through.

I don't know what to say. None of these perfectly fit, but I'm bored in my relationship. Things used to make me consistently excited and happy, I would look forward to seeing him, but now I feel like I've been on the same date nineteen different times and I'm no longer growing. I feel like I keep having to stop my progress in order to go back and make sure he's not feeling left behind, unloved, or insecure.

Lying is always there. There is lack of feeling of being secure. I always feel like if this relationship is not made for you ,better you leave it quietly.Let them hook up with whoever they want to. No more holding up.

Never accept less than what you deserve, Ur amazing and you deserve the best❤💫

I just got out of a very meaningful relationship, even if I was still in love with my partner. What made me leave was the lack of attention and care to me, the efforts put in the relationship that were not equivalent (because of circumstances such as school, homework) and it also made me realize that me and my partner didn't expect the same things from each other, and right now both of us needed to let go, at least for a while, and maybe change. I appreciate all your videos a lot, this helped me getting more comfortable with my decision, so thank you guys !

This video is beautiful. I really love how it explains that you shouldn't be guilty after drawing a line if there's no future in the relationship. Instead of creating more issues in the future, it's better to let go now.

I just want to be loved the way I love.

I love getting relationship advice from this channel. When we need someone else to tell us what we already know.... then we know what we need to do. Good bye doesn't have to be the end, it can be the start to a new and improved you! 👏🏼💜

My dad told me if my partner hits me even once to leave. I've never forgotten that advice. I've never been in a relationship though but I'll take that advice with me if I ever do.

I feel like we're becoming toxic for each other.

Exhausted of feeling jealous and lack of trust even though I had no reason to not trust her

He made me realize my self worth, how I shouldn’t be a choice at all...I was his second choice. I was his backup plan. It’s my tone to leave him because if he can’t choose me or if he even had to think about us being together, it’s not it. My only problem is I hate doing this to people, making them feel bad. But I can’t lead him on for any longer because that would hurt me and him even more. I will work on my self love more and it will be a good life. Wish me luck! 😞❤️

I was always complaining about being single, until I got into the most toxic one side narcissistic abusive relationship, that made me think I must have serious issues to have attracted such vile being, moral of the story, HEAL HEAL HEAL don’t chase any relationship, as you are fully healed you will automatically attract the right person.

After I left my ex, all my friends have noticed me getting happier. That I'm finally me. My friend finally said last night, "You're generally more happy, less worries, and you can express what you want without having to feel like walking on eggshells," It made me so happy. I'm free.

Its very hard to break-up with someone with whome you loved ,cared,trusted,and lost youself in remembering her... But I have to do it 😭😭😭

My trust was broken too much and I was no longer safe emotionally or physically. I chose myself over the bad situation and I am happier and safe now.

list of reasons to NOT leave a relationship: • you don't have one • you don't have one • you don't have one

I.. okay... I’ve gotten the answer to a question that’s been nagging me for a while.. it’s so crazy how things pop up right as you need them 😞

I've watched enough psych to go videos today on the topic, and I think I've gained enough perspective. Thank you

I love this video ! So true ! Time for me to go now...- total misery ! Verbal, psychological and financial abuse ..not to mention other terrorizing ...destruction of property, stolen property etc...

First thing you do to save yourselves time. When you get with somebody, ask them what their main goal is, if they want kids, if they just want to work and want money, if they want to get married. If you contrast from them, treat it like an interview in the date and then accept that they want different things despite you maybe liking eachother. It's cool to gain friends instead. Dont let your emotion outweigh your logic

I've declared myself single! Tired of broken promises! I'll be dating myself from now on!

My relationship taught me to be less egotistical but more selfish in a self-caring, kinder way. In a set up boundaries and respect them way. I’m coming to terms with it. Letting go has been really difficult for me, whatever happens here, I am thankful that I’ll move on somewhat wiser and ready to love myself more.

We just can’t stop fighting. I hate being around him at this point.

When the other person starts comparing you with other individuals, and not in a good way...

Can you guys do a video on looking at your own individual behavior in a relationship? IE: considering if maybe you're the manipulator or you're the source of conflict/toxicity?

Two mature people who know what they want should talk logically about the things most important to them before going through with any commitment. Both should know what they’re getting into. If you want marriage, say so. If you don’t, say so. And then be mature enough to accept each other’s answers. Stop leaving things to chance.

You used to be one of the channels that I made fun of but now you gave me the confidence to step in the right direction. Thank you

I mean she actually left me but deep inside I wanted to break up with her before so many times, but I stayed because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and ended up getting hurt more than I would have if I had listened to my guts. I was blinded by my feelings towards her and always thought that we might still go on the same road. In the end we went different ways and had different expectations from our relationship. But I'm glad that I don't have to suffer anymore. I felt like a part of my life was taken away, yes, but I regained a part of me back which I lost in our relationship.

Just found out that my ex is recently seeing a mutual friend, from whom I've taken advice from and knows the story. Both played me good.... Sucks to see what you've worked towards burn and crash, but people are selfish, and by understanding your worth and not settling for bs, I was able to move on.

For me, it’s not even the toxicity or unhappiness. The spark is just kind of dead, at least for now. It’s so hard to give up because our relationship started over quarantine, and how things are is no way to have a relationship. But who knows

I dont feel lile my gf cares about me. I text her everyday, ask her how she is and so on, but I dont get the same support back. Im constantly wondering if she loves me, and im beginning to overthink. I had a conversation with her but she ofc told me she loved me, but she didnt seem invested in the convo at all. I spilled out my feelings one time and she responded with a single letter afterwards. I dont know if i should stay or leave.

This video helped reassure me that I made the right decision in breaking up with my ex. I had a hard time admitting that I wasn’t happy and going to see him began to feel like such a chore. We argued over everything and I felt like everything was always made to be my fault. And we weren’t even together for a long time before the arguing started. Communication got worse because I didn’t wanna say anything that could trigger an argument with him. I’m relieved to be alone and work on myself

The fact that you are watching this is a clear sign

I'm so scared to go through the pain of breaking up with him that i choose to believe that we can fix those signs.

I'm in a toxic relationship and everytime I try to leave...my partner tend to justify his actions and influence me he would change. Our compatibility is way out and becomes difficult to navigate through.

3 months ago or so I had to leave a group of friends behind. They broke my trust too many times and hurt me emotionally without noticing and made me an outsider. I saw this video while I was writing about it in my diary. Thank you psych2go for your videos they always help me feeling understood. And for everyone whos reading this-don't be scared of leaving people that don't make you feel supported and happy. Thanks for reading :)

adding a copy of one of my replies to someone because I feel it's actually an important point: As someone who was a former manipulator, and who still has those traits, it took a lot of work for people in my life to get me to see that in myself as I actually was unaware. Most people are doing it subconsciously and too afraid to admit it or change once it's brought to their attention. Having to make that change alone, I found it very difficult. If I had an educational platform to rely on, my transition would have been easier. I still believe that having videos on this topic is essential, because there ARE people who want to change and don't know where to start. These blanket statements you're making are equally damaging. Everyone is manipulative and abusive and toxic at some point. Something this channel should acknowledge. Few people are this horrid on purpose. There are still plenty of them, but not in comparison to those who wish for better.

Her voice is so soothing, it helps.

I just went thru this. I left my GF about 2 weeks ago. I feel better after watching this video. It’s helping me realize it was the best thing to do for both of our sakes. I’m definitely feeling separation anxiety, loneliness and of course sadness.

I was consistently unhappy for the last 3 years. I finally realized it and it was me. I was severely depressed and it hit me hard this last year but we got help and have been better than ever before. Our therapist is very good and has helped us a lot individually and as a couple. Like it's almost like he's an interpreter for us so we could understand each other better and learn how to communicate more effectively.

I’ve left for pretty much all of these reasons on a certain occasion. I found out that she had been lying to me about stuff involving my friends to make me get distant from them. She had also been keeping our relationship a secret from her family for reasons that I’d rather not say for the sake of her privacy. She had been using me and an emotional outlet to dump all of her crap onto. There was never a point where she didn’t try to shove all of her problems, grudges, and rage right into my face, and there were almost no times where I was able to talk about things that were making me feel depressed, and even suicidal at times. Everything was always about her. She was always the victim, she was always the one who needed to find justice, and she was never a part of the problem in any and everything she told me. After a while, I had had enough of it. I apologized to my friends for my and my girlfriend’s behavior, promised that I’d changed for the better, and asked them for the truth behind her lies. It’s safe to say that I wasn’t very happy with what I had learned, so I decided to confront her about it, and was prepared to break off the relationship if necessary. To put it simply, she saw the writing on the wall and thought it was a good idea to shout out “we’re through!” In the middle of the cafeteria, during lunch. It hurt more than I though it would to realize that we were apart. I had honestly hoped that we could work it out and be happy. And even after all that had happened, it was my friends that comforted me in my time of grief. Just another reason why I stick by them to this day. After the not-so-quiet break up, lots of people came to either ask if I was ok, what had happened, or to just tell me that I’m an asshole for pissing off my girlfriend. I then had to explain and tell them what REALLY happened just to get then to leave me alone. And this happened for a full month. Here’s what pissed me off. About 2-3 months after the breakup, I had already gotten over her and she decides to walk up to me and start a conversation as if nothing had happened. I wouldn’t have minded at all if it weren’t for the fact that she never apologized for what she did and what she put me through. But I kept my anger suppressed for the sake of curtesy... and because she had brought a friend with her to basically be a witness. What really pissed me off was when she said that she wanted to get back together, and smiled as if she wasn’t the one that broke my heart. My instinct was to say “Fuck No!” and leave, but unfortunately, I did not listen to that instinct. So here’s what I said “We were in a toxic relationship, and I don’t think getting back together is a good idea. I’m sorry, but my answer is no.” She took it surprisingly well, and her friend then took me to a place with no other people and asked why I said no. I then explained why and thanked her for asking me in private. It turns out that there was a rumor that my Ex was already dating someone, but in all honesty, I could care less. I was just happy to be out of that nightmare of a relationship and had no intention of going back. Unfortunately, she continues to ask if I want to get back together with her to this day. So I’m terribly sorry, but there is no happy ending so far.

I made this tough decision today.my happiness comes 1st. Eleven years down the drain.im gonna be by myself for a while,a long while and get to know ME again.

Right now my wife and I agree to separate and get a divorce. Before we had separated for awhile but during that time I had understand my flaws and a great understanding of myself while going to therapy. After that we decide to get back together but there was a change during are togetherness. I had noticed that she was still not happy. As for myself I always saw the world happy. I knew that she was stressing herself out. Always hating her life because things never get her own way. Never patient on things. I try to show her in little dose on what I learned in therapy. But still she was too negative. So now we had a understanding that we need to separate and just go on own paths. I know she has a good heart because she was afraid to tell me how she felt about not in love with me anymore so I wouldn't get hurt. I explained that it was good you told me because I felt that it was not going to work being with her if she was not happy. It's good to let it out with out holding that guilt and it would just keep hurting her. I know it's sad to get a divorce but it's are own path to happyness. Like I learned If love someone set them free because they do not belong to us. It's there path in the universe to go on with life.

Narrator: one, you’re constantly unhappy Well boy i am dead

Trust is the most important thing in relationship

Thank you for this. It helped me better understand what I have to work on.

Goodness. It's difficult seeing the aftermath of your reality when watching one of these. It's TRUE it comes down to the other person and what they're willing to do, change and put up with. Never settle. It's a waste of your time and energy and emotional and physical wellbeing.

He took advantage of my kindness. When he wanted something I’d try my best to get it for him, whether it was material or personal or something i could do and he’d do the same. But later someone else came into the picture and he’d try les for me and more for them. I was an afterthought.

I have never been in a relationship, my mom had to leave my dad because of physical and emotional abuse. I feel like growing up in that environment was damaging, but it taught me a lot about who actually cares about me, and who wants to take advantage of me.

Thank you so much for the video...powerfully insightful...

5 Signs It's Time to Leave a Relationship 1. You're consistently unhappy 2. You're traveling on different paths 3. Lack of support 4. Abuse of any sort 5. Lack of trust :)) like the video and dont forget to subscribe (if you havent yet)

Sending this to my friend because she has experienced most of these reasons but still believes she should stay in a relationship.

Thank you I needed this tonight while I cry I just now understand.

How do you cope with ending a relationship where the other person has done nothing wrong, but loved you, but you know you aren't right together? To the extent where most things they say give you anxiety, you just don't know why. What is more, you know that if you end the relationship, they will try to cause themselves physical harm?

After 10 years, hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life... 😔

The moment I felt I was receiving little to no emotional support, I left the relationship. It was hard but I was ''clingy''.

I really loved this video it came to me in a much needed time

0 KB of information in 4 minutes, this is amazing, worth a startup.

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THESE GREAT TIPS! I wish more women would look into #1 critically. I hear of too many people who stay in relationships that don't make them happy only because they are desperate they won't find anything better and therefore decide to settle. It's heartbreaking! THANKS FOR SHARING

Anyone else notice the “bea” as in, “before else anyone” instead of “before anyone else”

I have mostly experienced all. I was never good enough for my partner, mental and emotional abuse happened year after year without change! Now experiencing apathy toward the relationship! It's freeing to be in this state actually. Very freeing!

she broke my trust and I could never trust her again, then the jealousy because of the trust issues. She made it seem like it was my fault when it her who lied. I am now just happy to be single. No more stress.

I just had a recent (30 mins ago) mutual breakup on our 10 month anniversary. I watched this to gain confidence that breaking up was what was best for both of us and it was, we both wanted diffrent things and there was a lack of trust. I still love him and he was a big part of my life but sometimes, love isn't enough. Thank you for helping me through this

I think it's important to remember that these points don't have to just exist in romantic relationships. I'm in a relationship and I love my boyfriend to pieces, we're both very happy together. I came here because I feel my grandmother is toxic and I've been needing reassurance that walking away from her was the right thing for me to do. This video has confirmed to me that it was so thank you for your support. You've just earned a new sub 😊

I like hearing this it’s my first time getting advice from a video

I lost myself a long time ago. That’s when I I knew it’s time. But as a man, I was at the point where I became a provider versus someone who is in love with that woman. It really is hard to go.

Ive just broke up with my ex boyfrind and watching this im feeling a bit better. He wasnt emotional or just supportive in general and it was beginning to become emotionally abusive. Im glad its over now it wasnt going to last.

I was being emotionally manipulated. Thanks for this video!

I experienced all the signs, so I decided to leave. Despite the fact it was good for my own, it hurt. It's been 2 years, I sometimes think about it and I made the same mistakes again with other person. But I'm proud because I'm starting therapy in two days! :)

I may not be in a relationship right now, but this would help me big time if I found one. 🙂 Thank you for this Ma'am! 🙂 For someone who's experiencing this, I know very well how it feels like to be in that heartbreak episode of your life, it's okay to be on that state of hurting, that way, it'll improve your tolerance once you've learned the lesson. 🙂 I know you can do it! There are other people out there who's experiencing the same thing as yours, atleast think of it right now, your feelings are valid, but don't be a prisoner of it! Remember that strong people experience hurtful situations first before they will be considered to be a strong person, because smooth sailing don't make a great sailor! Hope this would help you! 🙂