5 Signs You’re Addicted To Stress | Mel Robbins  

That's so true; it's a horrible puzzle and you have to find out how you got there. It's like an ordinary person being asked to go to someone's home for lunch, then staying, then realising that they've closed and locked the door and you don't get out for years; when you are getting sane again and seeing things as they are you wonder how you got there. I have nightmares after talking to someone but I can't avoid life and all of TV in case of violence, or books or friends in case they accidentally raise their voices for any reason. I think that my friend has the best way; just talk about it if anyone asks, like where did you go on holiday or what did you buy you know, ordinary things. It wasn't you, it's just something that happened so treat it as everything else that has happened; you went to the shops, you bought a jumper and once you met someone who abused you in some way.

I believe that there is value in your words. I love Mel and I have grown as a person in the year I have listening to her. This is a short. I hope the full episode expands on this topic. This list could apply to anyone under certain circumstances. I read another comment that mentioned ADHD. The things in this could easily apply to ADHD, to anxiety, to anyone living in a stressful situation, certainly to anyone who has been through a trauma. I’ve encountered many people in my life that my mom called pot stirrers. Those people are secretive and masters at blending in so the chaos they create doesn’t appear to come from them. This list wouldn’t apply to them.

@@destrygraves good point. I guess that's the danger of posting RU-vid shorts. If people don't normally watch the content creator they may not know their character and values and things could be taken the wrong way. Content creators would be wise to consider this when they create this type of content. Thank you for replying as there is certainly value in what you've said as well.

@@rosemaryclarke2348 thank you for sharing that. I am witnessing you with compassion. I'm sorry you went through that. You didn't deserve to be treated that way. Lundy Bancroft's book, "Why Does He Do That?" Is so validating if you haven't read it yet. I think the number of people with ptsd is higher than we realize especially because people associate it with war etc. But experiencing any form of abuse on a daily basis can certainly cause a form of it. You don't have to share personal info here but I hope you've been able to work with a trauma informed therapist yourself.

Processing things repeatedly with a competent therapist seems different than what this conversation contemplates. Trauma bonding is real and often does not facilitate healing. Offering your vulnerability to people who don't have the inclination or capacity to truly help does not seem wise.

You’re not screwed… we can always change anything we want about ourselves at any time we like

You're not screwed, don't listen to that guy! I've always liked Mel and use some of her techniques, but this guy has much to learn! Some of those things he listed could apply to many different things. Just because he said it doesn't make it fact!

Some people have many activities because there are many things they want to learn/practice/experience, some people have (too) many activities to escape from being at home with their families, some people by having "not time to even breath" consciously or subconsciously try to avoid painful feelings not giving them time and space to show up, some of us just have periods when Life gets on our way and suddenly we have so many "activities" because we have to take care of member of our family or close friend who ended in hospital while already being 24/7 taking care of our baby or small child - my bestfriend was in this situation...so in my humble opinion, there are countless reasons why person could have (too) many activities. Turning 54 in January, it is what I can say based on my own and my loved one experiences, and last but not least based on what I've learned on my psychology classes at College and University, various seminars and during psychotherapy. All the best from Croatia 🙏😇🫶

I agree I retell stories to figure things out or get others perspective.

​@@cathycarney-prescott5160, thank you for sharing your reasons for repeting "stories" i.e. important life events ❤ Find your reasons very smart and will try to remember and use!

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I AGREE! How about CPTSD? Complex Post Tramatic Stess Disorder? Which I BELIEVE HALF of the population suffers from! Have you seen that Al a non commercial on TV where they say one out of TWO families suffers from "Alcoholism" or the negative effects from it? What do you THINK happened in those "family dynamics?" ABUSE of ALL kinds, spiritual, emotional, physical, financial, sexual NOT getting into the horrible details AND looong term consequences of NEGLECT and the cumulative affects OF those ABUSES! Sometimes MORE than you can imagine! ARE GENERATIONAL from the trauma, causing even Mental Illness in innocent family victims! I disagree with this man. Watch Dr. Gabor Mate and Dr. Sam Vakin if you really want to get educated on trauma, narcissism and addictions that ALL seem to be inter connected and Go hand in hand with what's going on in our world! I say: "SHOUT it out" and get rid of those toxic memories and tapes! Replace them with "Happy memories" and tapes! Talk about it till you get it ALL out BEFORE it consumes you and makes you sick with ALL kinds of spiritual, emotional, mental and physical ailments such as "heart disease, and cancer" the number one killers right now! NOT including ALL these other ailments and auto immune diseases that never seem to end! These people are making money TELLING you what you should be feeling AND doing! Ewww...of course a LOT of people DON'T want to listen BECAUSE they are narcissistic themselves, and want to control the narrative of YOUR life! Developing a personal relationship with God as you understand him is a VERY important key to healing. EVERYTHING starts with the spiritual, that affects the emotional, that affects the mental, that affects the physical! N e way, Happy Healing and Health to ALL that choose the journey towards a BETTER Blessed Life! AMEN! 💯🙏👆💖🔥💪💥💫🌴🌈🌅🕊️💞

Agreed Please!!!!!

No one is picking on you or me for that matter & I'm sure I win the prize for not letting stuff go ... glad you survived them , they are deadly .

Don't take what he said to heart. He has no idea what he's talking about!

Aww. OMG same with me. Maybe that's why we feel the stress. Need to find a good way to get through it. I did stop talking about it. Although less than a hand full will ask about it. Need to shake it off. How are you doing though?? Like for real? I know it's a difficult thing to process