@@FPT84 imagine living the rest of your life this way as it gets worse. The person obviously isn’t the right person for you. Stress is the #1 killer today. Find your place/level of being at peace, then find someone who at the least will maintain it and at best will enhance it. That it the best person for you.
Agreed. If the partner does not bring you peace of mind most of the time, you are with the wrong person for you. How they treat you is how they feel about you.
@@aliciaj1727 Then have him prove that at a relationship counselor ~ because once fear enters, peace makes a quick exit...a counselor can ID & can help see how deep that wound really is. You have no idea, and he obviously has little knowledge of what happened somewhere/sometime, to cause him to be this way. (Accept his offer, and hold him to it, for the sake of his future And Yours.)
As a female in law enforcement, if something feels off ladies don’t hesitate or feel guilty about blocking these men. And thanks for the part about blocking the men who waste your time, I’ve got one of those in the early stage and it’s time to cut my losses.
@@christineribone9351 Professional intuition. They’re trained to spot subtle things that most people would be oblivious to, plus they’ve dealt and seen certain things many many times so they know what to look for
I totally agree. I have no problem with blocking someone. The signs are there. The younger me used to overlook issues, which caused me so much pain. Now, I have no tolerance for issues that causes me pain. I don't have a problem with being single if it brings me Peace.
Don't let you niceness be your downfall. Most women are natural nurturers... Don't nurture someone who wants to humble you, put you under his submission, and break your bubbly spirit🦋
I've been on silent treatment for 3mth out of 6. I told him I don't want him last wk. He's called..he's been angry cause I mailed his belongings. Careful they do rage. I answered the call ..he said, "you said you're the one to walk away but how far did u reach??😮 he's right block block block with spam so it doesn't show n tempt u! Be strong everyone male and female. Narcissicist ppl are REAL!!
I bounced to not only protect MY PEACE but to protect my PHYSICAL HEALTH from stress related illnesses caused by the stresses HE caused No! Thank! You!
That's me, if I had just walked away right in the beginning, I would not have wasted 10 good years of my life. Hard lesson learnt, thanks for your videos Derrick
I definitely admit I should have never dealt with my ex from day one……17 years later I’m out! Lessons learned along the way but damn that’s a lot of wasted time!! I raised him for real, I am just now realizing I can’t fix him! So now I work on myself and acknowledge my part, what I allowed and be better at my block game and really seeing the red flags and shutting it down asap!!!!
My priority is God Almighty (Allah SWT) and Myself. I got NO time for anything or anyone else. I am growing so I refuse to have BS distraction. Lesson learned so thank you!!
I can totally admit it. Been there done that TOO many times. Took me decades to let go of the negative curse of hanging on to dead weight and collateral damage.
He crossed the line where he has no regard for my time or my efforts towards him... But doesn't walk away... I had to block him alot sooner... Itbwas onky me that could put his treatment towards me to a stop because he was just going to continue
Nah. I don't block him. My lick back is completely ignoring him. Like, COMPLETELY. I leave his bullshit babbling on "read" He got pissed enough to block ME. A**hole will return and he'll find the same result. No access to my thoughts (good bad or indifferent)
Same here, I don't want him to have the satisfaction that he hurt me that bad to even block him. I think it would show that I checked his FB. I ain't blocking him but he will never hear from me again. 😊
It's so hard...but staying tells him you're OK with it...especially when you are friends first, but friends talk...ends the whole thing, but you will be so heartbroken when he takes it to someone else. Don't let yourself feel unworthy more than once...speaks of desperation to him no matter your intent. Been there. Someone will be a lucky woman. 😢
I like how this speaker gets attention for the right reasons and not the wrong ones. I listen to this for reminders on how I should be treated, even though I’m in a happy relationship.
We need more men out there with your knowledge (and women ) If my ex thought I did wrong, He would wait and ignore me all day till the next day. And then act like nothing was wrong. And I wasnt supposed to be mad, when in reality what he was doing, was trying to punish me because I did something or said something that he didn't like. which honestly was pretty much, everything. Lord, what a mistake he was!
Unfortunately a lot of women are raising someone's child. Which isn't our burden to deal with especially when God has called them to lead, protect, & cultivate.
God bless you more and more my brother, Mr. Jaxn. May you continue to go from glory to glory and have a good life. May suffering and pain be far far far away from you in Jesus name. Amen
BIG UP! YESSSS… I love ur passion and REAL TALK. I shoulda blocked from day 1!!! …I was put thru hell while I allowed him access to my heart. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom and helping to protect us from the BS and massive potential pain. ❤ sending love to everyone here…. We deserve to love someone that we’d never need to block 🙏 ☮️ CHOOSE PEACE
I have blocked my partner and unblocked him . I just thought I was so done … he would be outside my home sitting in the cold waiting for me for hours . I felt so bad and I’d let him talk me into working on our relationship and I’d give him another try.
You hit “the nail on the head”! It does not matter the age, nor the occupational endeavor, as an older professional women, the five issues mentioned regarding men applies to young and very old too!
10:21 worse… if he gets an attitude (which men like that are more likely to do) after you’ve set a boundary, then you need to go to the bathroom and never return OR decline another date.
I have left so many first date’s behind. I have yet allowed a second date in years 🤪 my last date he talked crap about his ex’s so I was like NOPE 👎 he’s toxic. I have my own stories of horrible ex’s however I would not bring that up, like hello that’s insane to me
The downshift happened to me recently and I did cut him off quick but it still was disappointing. Your reaction and explanation is just giving me life right now haha
I'm not here to waist my time with anykind of relationship , if it ain't helping me evolve going go to the next as focusing on myself and want and do better for me
4 years later he didn't call or text fro 3 days before Christmas. He didn't need to have access to me after that. I Blocked him in the 27th of Dec. I am done allowing him back in.
