A bare minimum/breadcrumbing boyfriend gave me so much anxiety and self doubt completely lowered my self esteem. They don’t care about your well-being. He absolutely has narcissistic tendencies!
They can have an avoidant attachment. If they don't care about your well being then they need the heave ho! Never settle for anything less than you deserve. Bare minimum equals breadcrumbs. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix IMAGO Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft
Don't do it, you will set yourself up for failure and loose yourself. I settled for bare minimum for 17 years of lonely while in a relationship. Time lost that you never get back . Finally found myself and my strength to leave
I too gave up 17 years of my life and I’m now in the mindset to do me and grow into my better version of myself and to continue growing more in my relationship with God good luck to you on your journey and God bless you
Broke up with my bare minimum boyfriend last night. He’s more worried about his friends than investing his time into our relationship. I refuse to ask him to take me to dinner, the movies, or for flowers ever again. His loss!
Also, I felt a pull to tell you this. Anything you put out there such as your goodness and love. It will come back to you tenfold. Nothing is lost in God.
Great Post!!!! " I;d RATHER MY BABY GIRL BE DISSAPOINTED THEN TRAUMATIZED" Enjoy HER OWN COMPANY INSTEAD OF SHARING IT WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT DESERVE HER COMPANY""
Your right my father always showed up like you did when I was a child growing up teens and grown I always expected more than the bare minimum they would act in the beginning then slack I had zero tolerance and that's how come im in the space now and im not complaining I rather be alone happy with a lot of love to give my family and close friends then with bare minimum my words for the vulnerable if you dont do anything else pray 🙏🏿 try and grow closer to God he is the sweetest gift I know as long as you have God you are properly loved and just be consistent on how you show up for your children, yourself love yourself love you first everything you have been through In God timing things will then start to turn around for your good in sweet Jesus name Amen ❤❤❤❤
S... This was happening to me. He was doing the bare minimum. I got damn tired of he's B's do I stopped giving him all my attention. He is now texting nonstop and sending me songs I'm sure he's playing me. I'm done
@@Lavon_Professional not even I have been staying distant and don't have a desire to see him. He hasn't stopped reaching out to me and sends me songs. I'm not sure how to tell him that I'm done with him. He doesn't value or appreciate it me.
Yes! I upgrade the upgraded! That is what I do. The reciprocation must be there and the result will show. You speak PURE truth. It's the simple things😊
I give thanks to THE MOST HIGH for the gifts you possess to teach, educate, enlighten. TRUELY. I'm learning SO MUCH about how and why I allowed the horrific toxicity I used to call a relationship. I'm very proud to say that my healing journey began sometime back, but encountering your content has propelled me to new heights. Thank you 🙏🏼. As soon as I economically navigate myself out of this DV experience I will be signed up, so eager, and sincerely ready to take part in any CHALLENGE courses you present.
I'm picking up what you putin down. These types of Men/boys are the worst. And your right were expecting them to go hard and they go ALL THE WAY WET BREAD SOFT When I see that, I excuse myself and keep it pushing
I really appreciate you Derrick for telling us what to expect in real and loving relationships. Hearing the message so strongly from a brother is powerful and much needed! xx
When those BMM come into my life, I’m loving kind and respectful, and I request what they should be willing to give matching my energy efforts, etc. they bless me when they just disappear out of my life
Thank you. I resolve to stop giving me bare minimum. Break bad habits, start with a new habit and be consistent; talk to me as nicely as i try to talk to other people... etc. This feels good. I am going to watch it again. Thank you. ❤
@@Lavon_Professionalexactly!!! Cause I’m sick of seeing all the crying and hurt. Yet keep going from one to the next. Not listening or seeing thinking somehow it’ll be different. This is insane.
I complained about everything you spoke about and he never put any effort in the relationship; he just complained i was trying to change him and said his exes didn't have a problem with his personality.
I just left one of these. His Breadcrumbs and lack of emotions was just so hurtful to me. His reaction to my upset was completely immature. Thing is, I never signed up for the situation he put me in but for him, the perfect situation regardless of how it made me feel 😢
You are on point big brother concerning your daughter in pouring and demonstrating your love to her while she is young. That will speak volumes to her and when the time is right, she will know how to avoid bare minimum men. Very good!❤️
The only bare minimum I will take, at the very least, is minimum wage pay not men. I’ve learned to just keep walking and don’t turn back around to men like that.
People place TOO much emphasis on being in a relationship. In particular, Black individuals are carrying historical environmental, and emotional trauma. Please read Post traumatic Slave Syndrome by Joy DeGruy. Black people HEAL, HEAL, HEAL! which means you need time alone to develop into your best self.
I asked for my fiance to sing to me and dance with me for my birthday a couple years back. He gave the first excuse that his leg was still hurting, "you know I dont sing because it makes me miss my fav aunt ". The final one was I had a conversation with a mutual friend trying to make him feel better about that happened with his gf and used us as an example and how he can move forward/fix it. He said he didn't do what I asked for my birthday because I was spreading our business with someone who isn't my therapist. I can't talk to anyone about him/us. Mind you that was the last adult I had yo have a conversation with besides him or therapist (got 3 kids). Still waiting on that gift 2 years later
I said “when can we spend a minute” He said “stop pressuring me” I silently gasped. I said “i want someone who feels that I’m their happiness-not their pressure.. and I said..”I mean this in the kindest way possible- “we.are.done” and I fkn meant it.
Well Done! You did the right thing. 💯 I just ended something, he was always too busy at work. I told him that I hope that they are happy together 😂 I know my worth, and wont be treated like an option!
We should have the right to warn the next woman to stay away from these men so they don't have to go through with us and the women before us and the women after us go through
Oh my goodness have you ever heard a relationship coach be more real and tell you go ahead and be you and deal with what you're accepting and think it's alright and you know in your heart it's not because why else are we watching these videos anyway ladies????
