1) Your Needs and Feelings Are Ignored or Invalidated
For instance, you might express that you’re feeling overwhelmed and need support, only for the narcissist to dismiss your concerns and redirect the conversation to their own issues.
They might say, “You think you’ve got it bad? Listen to what happened to me today,” without acknowledging your emotional state.
This pattern indicates that your role in the relationship is to bolster their ego and attend to their needs rather than to engage in a mutual exchange of support and understanding.
2) You’re Constantly Trying to Earn Their Approval
This might manifest in always going the extra mile to please them, changing aspects of your personality to fit their preferences, or suppressing your own desires to avoid conflict.
This dynamic suggests that your value in the relationship is conditional, based on how well you feed into their need for admiration and affirmation rather than being appreciated for who you truly are.
3) You’re Only Contacted When They Need Something
A clear sign of being narcissistic supply is if the person in question primarily reaches out to you when they need something.
This pattern reveals that the relationship is not based on mutual care but on fulfilling their needs and maintaining their self-esteem.
4) You Feel Drained Rather Than Energized After Your Interactions
Healthy relationships tend to be sources of joy and energy, where both parties feel valued and supported.
However, if you consistently feel exhausted, diminished, or unhappy following interactions, it’s a sign that the relationship might be one-sided.
5) Your Emotional State is Tied to Their Approval
If you find that your emotional state or sense of self-worth becomes increasingly tied to the narcissist’s approval, it’s a sign you might be their supply.
This dependency develops because the narcissist has conditioned you to seek their validation above all else, often through a cycle of withholding and then giving approval in a way that keeps you unsure of your standing.
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7 сен 2024