Thought I'd been doing really well until last few days ,having to fight the urge to contact her, even though I know she has no interest in anything Id say. I'm hoping it's just a temporary feeling cos it's all consuming and upsetting. And I don't know where it has come from. 🤯
SUCH A CONFLICTING ISSUE WITH DEALING WITH SOMEONE WHO IS A NARCISSIST. ONE SIDE OF YOU STILL LOVES AND CARES FOR THEM AND YOU FEEL THAT BOND. -BUT THE OTHER HALF THAT THEY HAVE SHATTERED/CRUSHED AND DESTROYED AND CARNAGE THEY SERVE YOU AND VIOLATE YOU WITH. OMG ITS LIKE GOING FROM REALITY INTO A LINGERING NIGHTMARE THATS FULL-ON MIRAGE/TOTAL DISSILLUSIONMENT-SOUL DESTROYING -TOTALLY EPIC PAIN AND ENDLESS QUESTIONING OF WHY?. STAY STRONG -EVEN WHEN TERRIBLE AND CRUEL NARCISSTIC BEHAVIOURS COS YOU TO DOUBT YOURSELF OR THE WORLD OR EVEN LIFE AND EVEN WHEN THEY ENDLESSLY GUILT TRIP YOU -THAT ITS YOUR FAULT - NO ~ITS THEIR HANG-UP'S -NOT YOURS
My Dad is a narcissist and he just doesn't believe he is, while he clearly is. He always needs to have the last word, always needs to be right, hates being challenged, doesn't believe friendships are real, loves pointing out when he's right in judging someone... which is another thing he loves. Laughs the loudest about his own jokes, never takes me seriously, knows 'the silent treatment' can be used as torture... yeah, the list goes on and on.
Hey, we have a free course called "How to Set Boundaries with a Narcissist" that was created by a therapist who comes from a narcissistic family on our website. Here's a link:unfilteredd.net/how-to-set-boundaries-with-a-narcissist/ We thought you might be interested in this, it is super detailed. Sorry you have to go through all of this :/
The fact I grew up with a parent with narcissism and border line personality disorder hurts so badm I suffer with severe depression and she doesn't care. It's all about her.
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Their Narcissim alone can cause and create depression big time - it takes a little out of you and takes a lot to keep afloat-you constantly feel sunk. Sometimes pushing yourself to go for a walk or listening to birds chirping in nature or listening to happy songs that lift you or with an awesome beat or tune that gets you- like singing. Try to avert your mind talk so you can alleviate negative emotions -mind thinking is powerful -let it all go if ya can it's not easy but try let good stuff fill ya head and go with the flo -or as taylor sings -shake it off
My partner is a narcissist and wish anyone would have educated me about mental conditions like these. The subject of mental health needs to be part of school curriculum, so the younger generation can be vigilant.
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A recent realization (pointed out by a good, trustworthy friend) was my habit of saying out loud what I was doing/thinking as I was doing. Specifically, anything I was doing or looking at on my phone. I’d read texts/emails aloud. It was my way of avoiding baseless accusations.
We're really sorry you had to experience such a huge boundary violation. The example you just gave is a clear example of someone not respecting the limits you set, and that's not okay. We hope you're now in a place of peace and surrounded by people who respect and honor your boundaries.
The problem with that is there are actual victims out there who are getting attacked by narcissists and these videos are giving them the fuel to project there narcissism onto victims and say oh look there playing the victim and people just jump on the band wagon and say oh look at this person there a narcissist. And there not looking for praise and validation there looking for support so the don't fucking kill themselves cause there is a whole group of narcissists attacking them. People have to realise that we all have narcissism and it's where you land on the scale of it. If you haven't done that then I don't think you should even talk about this subject cause it's getting beyond a joke now. Example im am part empath I can't stand seeing people suffer and peoples energy effects me quite alot I counter it with yoga and chi gong but I am part narcissist too i can struggle with self worth and sometimes get a bit up myself I have that side too. im a generous person I love to give and help people but I've seen my darkest side the deepest darkest side and I know im part physcopath too if I see animal abuse or child abuse there's a part of me that could do horrible things to those people even torture them I believe everyone has this if you think you don't you haven't been pushed enough or to your limit where you explode. Because don't sugarcoat the reality where in people do horrible things to each other where a bunch of sick fucks wearing masks pointing the finger at people going narc he's a narc look narc you suck cause the reality is we are multidimensional on the dimension level the emotional level and on the ego level the spiritual level but I think it's very dangerous linking someone being a victim to narcissism cause there's a lot of abuse in this world and I know for me I would not want to be one to turn my back on a genuine victim and have them take there own life don't underestimate how stupid and cruel people are by linking someone being a victim to being a narcissist I couldn't live with that on my conscience if I turn my back on someone who genuinely needed help and I scapegoated them as the narcissist especially if it's cause everyone said they were a narcissist and I didn't talk to them myself and the reality is there is so much narcissism in the world on a scale of narcissist empath I'd say it's sitting at about 70% narcissism 30%empath and according to outwitting the devil there is 2 good souls to every 100 but I hope that is not the case I don't think narcissism is a disease that you can't get rid of but we need to deconstruct the programming of us not being able to look at our traumas and do our healing so many people walk around like there balanced and don't have trauma and they don't need to heal everyone has to do it even if you don't have any from this life time we have generational that gets passed down personally I think we all do cause as a whole we have the emotional maturity of a 3 year old and where raising kids like that where just to stubborn and ironically narcissistic to admit that. OK I finished my rant don't be offended but if you are and have to vent feel free to direct your frustration in my direction . And support each other more less judgement or in the very phillisophical words of Jim Jeffries don't be a c@#t
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Nah there is no definitive correlation between antisocial behavior, high IQ and high income. Some high IQ individuals with antisocial traits might achieve high income but there are even more anti social people with average or below average IQ and without a high income
I used to house sit for my brother when he went away. My ex decided I was being taken advantage of cos I was not being paid to do it. Pressure was put on me to not do it again causing a rift with my brother.
That Gloria Gaynor song “I will survive” says it all. “As long as I know how to love I know I’ll stay alive”, among other things. I was in therapy for a while and started saying no to my ex-, refuse to listen to him when he would start to criticize/ belittle me - once I said to him “WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO SO I DON’T HAVE TO LISTEN TO YOUR BULLSHIT? STICK MY FINGERS IN MY EARS?” Then i stuck my fingers in my ears and started going “Lalalalala”. Long story short, he started having an affair- moved on to another source of supply. When I found out about her 8 months later (having been separated, co-parenting 3 small children) I told him I would send her a sympathy card. Breaking up this 24 year relationship was very painful but definitely the best thing that ever happened to me. I also got completely sober, got involved in AA, which was a great support group. I definitely could not have gotten sober if I stayed with him
This is where I am now after 35 years of marriage. I am hurt and in pain for working so hard to make this relationship work. All this time energy blood sweat and tears straining every nerve. Fighting for this relationship all by myself for absolutely nothing...what a tragedy...what a tragedy for me. How my heart bleeds for itself, for me. I'm grieving over me, over many many things.
