I’m Italian and used to wearing good quality and design clothes and shoes...yet I agree the mainstream habit is to be sloppy and not realize what fits us best. I’m 46, a bit overweight but with light makeup, the right simple outfit for every occasion and a smiling/gentle/confident behaviour towards other people I can assure you I still make heads turn. If you love yourself and take care of you, you’ll always be gorgeous
My grandparents taught me dressing appropriately is more important than the amount of money you spend on an outfit. I switched to neutral, more simple underwear, made life so much easier. Looking healthy is the best foundation and a great investment.
Thank you for this🤗 1. Dress for the occasion 2. Dress comfortably 3. Show more show less 4. Don’t follow trends blindly 5. Wear the right lingerie That’s it - five clothing rules for EVERY woman! My addition #6? - Dress to please yourself first.
Thank you for this video! I’m a photographer who’s 70, doesn’t look it, and I need to up my fashion styles to convey the professional, boutique brand of my business in order to attract the right clientele. This helps me A LOT!!
The one style rule I always follow is to have a beautiful smile. There is something so confident about a person who can put people at ease. True style comes from within. Peace and beauty to all.
I completely agree! Also, when my confidence is a bit thin I always smile in the mirror. The result is a more confident image which translates into more confidence for me!
Also Hv a nice temparement..be patient and speak less.. Never gossip too Your absence should be felt... by loudbehaviour..they'd wish u weren't there... Always remember psople speaking less are more heard...and weighed too...having right perfume on you...subtle...not overpowering...😀😊
I agree with 'honour the occasion'. I used to dress up when going to watch a ballet because my mom said it was to honour the dancers. But today I see people wearing everyday clothes, even jeans to see a ballet. Pity.
I truly believe people really don’t feel the event. I’m always excited to go wherever I’m taking time to go. I cannot believe how people feel about weddings. I’m appalled that people can’t party and celebrate a couples love and marriage. Or to spend a lot of money for an opera, musical, etc. but dress as if you care
Indeed your observations are world-wide. Flip flops/jandals at weddings together with cut off shorts and tank tops. Just common, common, common. Vulgar and disrespectful. And remembering my beloved grandmothers immortal words of: Always wear lipstick and a smile. Dress with respect for yourself, the occasion and to honor the company you are in.
I agree. When my daughter was younger she was involved in several music groups & appeared at theatres/venues. My OH & I would drress up, but 90% of other parents there would turn up in grubby jeans, fleeces & trainers. Ugh!
I always dressed for church also. These days, the people will wear jeans and if lucky, clean ones. I guess I should say that at least they go to church.
Hi. I love watching Beths videos.. I always try to look my best whatever the occasion.. I am a young 73yr old and always take time with Hair and Clothes. Many thanks Beth. from Manchester UK for some good tips.. x
Thank you for addressing us as ladies. Since the hard fought women's lib movement, and decades of change between then and now, suddenly we've become "guys". I'm not a guy. All my life I've striven to become and be a lady. Great video! I agree with your rules. Edit: also, new subscriber!!
I think these really are the most important rules, but I would add these two: wear the right size, not too small or too large, fit is essential, , and don’t over-accessorize.
I had my colors done years ago and found that I am a Winter which is the bright darker colors such as fuchsia, black and purple. I wear classic timeless pieces that don't go out of style. Having a happy attitude also goes a long way for looking and feeling great.
Good advice Beth, I always say that style is not about age it’s about your weight and you’re heights. What I mean by that is ... there is no point in trying to copy a influencer who is 5.6/5.7 tall and slim if your 5.2/5.3. And carrying any excess weight, Jackets, knitting dresses (can’t be altered so easily) will look and have a different affect on different heights & weights. If your 5.6 say... a longer blazer will look great on you but if your 5.3 it will shorten your legs. Also, cropped jumpers, jackets etc will look great on a shorter person and make them look taller but, not so much on a taller person. Another example with your weigh, skinny Jeans will look great if your a size 8 up to say 12/14 but anything above that not so much, it will make everything look a lot bigger but mainly your knees and backside, if your above size 16, European size, best stick to straight leg or boot cut. Bags also play a part in getting it right for your size and height larger bags on a shorter person will swamp you but on a taller person looks great. So, it’s not so much about age but more about getting it right for your size and height. Match your weight & height to the right cloths then you will feel confident and look great irrespective of your age.
You remind me of a serious style challenge I faced once. I was on temporary duty at a rather remote US Army installation (within US borders). One of the enlisted men was marrying a local girl, and they kindly invited me to the wedding. The dress code was “no uniforms,” but the only formal clothing I had with me was my dress uniform. There was no dress shop within 100 miles, there was no online retail back then, and I had no time to travel. There was a small Walmart, and the choices there were unacceptable. (It would be more accurate to say that there were no choices there!). Fortunately, there was a thrift shop in town, and I found an old dark red silk shirtdress. The fabric was somewhat faded & definitely limp, but I decided that an occasion-appropriate style was the most important factor. So I bought it and wore it, and felt fine in it.
Lesson learned. Always have at least one outfit for a special occasion no matter where you are. I insisted my daughter's friend take a nice, packable dress when she went to Bolivia with the Peace Corp. She wore it to an official welcome dinner with Peace Corp executives and Bolivian dignitaries.
This is really i do follow this rules too,and added with not to tight not too lose if so depends on how im gonna put the outfit together according to the occasion
My mother would quite the Bible about dressing appropriately for a wedding , (your rule honor the occasion); I remember going to a specific wedding & most people were wearing what they would wear to work... I dressed up & was so happy with what I wore...
My mom is the classiest lady I know, she shared this tip that has saved me from embarrasment more than once. When in doubt it, it's always better to be over dressed than under dressed. If you are over dressed for, the job interview, wedding, cocktail hour, you will feel much better about yourself than if you slightly over dressed, are under dressed and feeling like you somehow didn't get the memo.
Interesting. That has worked for me. Lastl memorable time was dinner at the harbour front home of the CEO of the very large company where my husband worked, along with top management and the board. Casual whatever seemed impossible for what I had in my closet, for such a venue. I dressed appropriately. The board and the CEO adored me.
Ignore labels, whether they're size labels or designer labels, unless they consistently work for you. For instance, I love Nine West shoes; they aren't super expensive, but there is something about the way the manufacture their fit that works for me. I was gifted some "red soles" (you know who they are) and they were the most uncomfortable shoe I've ever worn. And don't worry if the size label says 8 or 28; the fit is all that matters.
Excellent advice! I wear DVF wrap dresses (always purchased from Ebay, consignment stores, or other second-hand places) because the wrap dresses of this brand fit me well.
I agree! The same “you-know-who” brand of shoes were indeed very uncomfortable, and I don’t think I wore them more than 5 or 6 times before I donated them.
I agree about the “red soled” shoes. They were a leopard print wedge style, and I thought I’d really lucked out when I found them at a quality consignment store. They hadn’t been worn more than a very few times - and I soon realized why. Truly the most uncomfortable shoes ever. I redonated them after a couple of months.
A very appropriate point, it’s about being realistic about your size I am a buxom wench and I know full well what I should and shouldn’t wear. Leave the hot pants to the skinny girls!
Beth thanks for your advice I agree and love your style it's important to dress your age and be elegant!!!! Your shirt is great like you!!! Thanks for your advice
Hi Beth, I agree with all of those five rules women should NEVER break, one stands out for me though, is comfort always the first when choosing an outfit. Thanks love that video. Deanne x
I have two points I would like to make about this video. The first is how happy I am that these points struck a cord with me, I've believed in these five rules all my adult life. The second is 'why don't I follow them'! In my defence having lost my job two years ago along with the strain of the pandemic my mind is not in a good place. So glad this 'popped up', I will use it as impetus to get a grip. Thank you.
I found that when questioning appropriate attire for an occasion pick the more elevated of the two options and wear it with confidence. I went to a baby shower recently. I wore a dress and heels and honestly did not question my decision as it is what I was taught was appropriate for the occasion. When I got to the party everyone was wearing jeans or shorts. I just wore it confidently because honestly I loved my outfit and felt beautiful in it. I received so many compliments at the party. This works almost every time (not for more formal occasions as the rules are more precise for the occasion).
I'm sure you put the ladies in jeans to shame. I'm from an Oregon farm, grew up wearing jeans as work clothes. We dressed up when going to town... wouldn't have dreamed of wearing work clothes to social events or shopping!!! Jeans, no matter how hyped, priced or branded, are not appropriate if you wish to be taken seriously anywhere... except, of course, the barnyard or other casual work areas.
I think sometimes we are afraid people wh=ill thing we are overdressed, and then it turns out that they envy and admire us if we dress appropriately. The tyranny of "no rules" is that many people haven't learned what is appropriate for an occasion.
@@cindykelly8466 That's fine .. I'm sure the norm has changed, many changes happen. It's about the same with language... after so many years of struggle, getting the vote in 1920, in the US, and making so many advances, I often find people call me and other women "guys". Mixed groups are referred to as "guys", the status of being a woman is ignored. I hate being called a guy. Did we really do all that work to come out with no feminine identity... at all, to become just one of the "guys"...?
Watching this six months later (I love this video), I’m adding my old maxim “shoes set the tone of the outfit”. Wearing the right shoes for the level of formality of the occasion is so important. I used to see a lot of really casual outfits, like Daisy Dukes and a tank, worn with high heels, ouch. The pandemic has, I think, made more comfortable footwear popular.
She is so correct. I am over 60 and I love younger clothing styles from Anthropologie, but I also dress it up a bit to make it classy. And I cannot take the couples that wear jeans and shorts to the opera, really. If you all follow these simple rules you will do just fine... Thank you!
Modesty has always been in my wardrobe. I wear appropriate clothes to occasions. Trends are fun but not always necessary to follow. It’s what flatters your shape and your certain style. I really appreciate your tips Beth.
I do like a striped shirt ...I like the cuffs turned back...when I worked in an office I found they could get in the way so....I wore mens stretch arm bracelets to keep the sleeves clean and tidy then removed them when I left the office...top tip....Jane North Wales UK 🇬🇧
1. Dress accordingly to the occasion 2. Dress comfortably, feel good in what you wear! 3. Show flesh but without overdoing it. Example: if you show legs, don't be so revealing on the top. 4. Don't follow trends blindly. Stay relevant and fresh nonetheless 5. Wear the right lingerie
I agree with your 5 rules. Being a 72 year old, I have always tried to dress appropriately for the occasion. However, in this day and age, “casual” attire seems to take precedent. I wear dresses/skirts/nice pants to church but find most of the women are in blue jeans or other casual styles. I am comfortable with what I wear and have noticed a handful of women seem to dress up a bit more for church. I’d like to think I influenced that change..lol!
You are so beautiful, classic, and smart! I always leave your videos having learned something & at 54 THAT’S saying something! You’re not old enough to be my mom, but a lot of the things you say remind me so much of her. Thank you for being here. I miss her and you do remind me a lot of her in so many ways. She loved fashion and raised me to love it too! Blessings to you!
wonderful advice, I totally agree! I am from Europe and here we do tend towards more formality, on special occasions. But to me, so many occasions are special! Concernning undergarments, did you know that RED undergarments under a white shirt or dress are invisible? Yes, yes, try it... Love from France
Favorite line on this show, "I'm a big rule breaker", but you need to know the rules before you can break them. So true, massively so. In ALL cultures! I generally go with classic pieces, and do something to "disturb" the look. One example of that would be the combat boots with a tiered skirt. Tell you what, I was doing that in the 70's 80's, and it's pretty ubiquitous these days. Golly, may not be disturbing enough when everybody's doing it. What it does mean is, wearing sensible combat boots or other comfortable shoes under your skirts means you dont have to wear heels for an outdoor wedding where the ground might not be level. I welcome the wild, "bushy" trends that are so prevalent in America's wild west! Save the stilettos, and that beautiful tailored suit for church weddings where you know you have pavement. Nothing worse than wobbling around and sinking your heel 3in into the rose garden sod! No matter the rebel you are, these 5 rules always apply. Just brand them into your brain!
Hi Beth! Greetings from Northern Germany, close to Denmark. I‘m glad having found your channel. Your tips are always very smart and helpful. Your style shows modern chic, and is somehow classic, which I like very much. Thank you.
Yes! One thing I have always stressed to my daughters is dress for the occasion. It’s also applicable to conversation, as that too should be appropriate to the occasion and the company you’re in.
One style 'rule' I discovered, after yrs of wearing contact lenses, and wearing beautiful statement earrings, I needed to switch to glasses (dry eyes)! No more dangling, or big chunky earrings, which I loved! It's just too much 'face furniture'. So, I do still wear hoops, but smaller ones, and if I also wear a necklace, it's long, not a choker or pectoral style. I do have a small face, but my neck is fairly long, if your neck is short, and your frames a statement style, I would definitely wear studs, or finer, shorter hoops and dangling earrings.
@@dianelodico2166 I know! But it is a dilemma for the 'four-eyes' population. Get statement frames, then what about your beloved statement earrings? How to look 'dressy + sexy' in glasses? I have a very high-index prescription, so can't wear thin frames...lenses are too thick for that. Even understated frames don't really make me feel dressed-up and stylish🤓.
Great comments ladies! I would like to add one important thing which I found and that's a postural alignment. How we walk, sit, stand? Bring awarness to that and enjoy your body.
I have transformed and dressed women for many years especially plus size women and one thing they often ask is ' what shoes to wear with this ? ' ( especially in the evening) and I always say ' what you are comfortable in' ! There is nothing worse than jiggling on new tight shoes or having to sit it out. If you are comfortable people will see and react to you, if you are uncomfortable then it spoils the event, the evening and the look.
For me ( and this applies to any age) it's about knowing how to camouflage your defects and highlight your good points,plus never following fashion but rather buying quality items that suit your figure. Be different, unique,but always maintaining decorum. Vulgarity is shocking.
New to your channel and am glad you are over 50. I already had a good style sense from years of personal study of wardrobe basics as I learned I am 15 years older than you. I also advocate the right lingerie and realize that is where my wardrobe is lacking somewhat. I plan to fix that soon It's nice to see you fashion bloggers in dressy shoes; unfortunately, I am now in orthopedic shoes until my feet get better. I am blessed to have a few quality shoe brands in storage I hope to be able to wear again: Naturalizers, but now I opt for the medically necessary ones and am thankful I can walk with a walker, but had to give up car ownership temporarily,. I am an advocate of hats, casual berets, and similar styles and also know how to style scarves, and necklaces, to keep the focus away from my feet. I don't know where you live but you sound as if you live in the U S. One favorite blogger lives in the UK and I love her accent-not sure who pays for her wardrobe--I know one Colorado blogger uses a shopping app that I hope to sign up for in future. I come from an office assistant background and bought quality pieces, and then recently ventured into wearing blazers in prints. Since I am basically retired and live in a very casual small town in western Wisconsin, the dress code here sometimes seems dismal to me. However, I have been able to find my own groove in that regard, since I moved from the greater Seattle area 12 years ago and most of my wardrobe came with me, being very basics. I also know how to sew, knit, and crochet and can make my own accessories--one funky crocheted hat looks like a platypus and is quite playful. I made knitted hats a few years back and before my mom died last year, she still had a nice hat I had knitted for her some 25 years earlier. Wow. My sewing machine is a bit mad at me, since I bought it as my dream machine, a Singer 2001 Touchtronic in either 1978 or 1979 in Fairbanks. She's been through a house fire in 1982, down the Alcan in 1987 and shipped to Wisconsin in 2008, and not ready to be retired. I have a couple outfits in the works and know how to modify garments since I have a long torso. I enjoy your channel now that I have found it. Keep up the good work and keep looking and feeling great. Thanks for showing us gray haired ladies that it's okay to have gray hair and look great. I know a few ladies who have also embraced their gray locks and I think it is a great time to be alive in 2020. There are so many more opportunities for women now in all areas of life than 200 or more years in the past offered us. God bless you and keep living a good life and looking great in blue jeans.
Thanks for sharing all your style rules I always match my lingerie with my outfit and it made me feel so great all the time. When I watched your video clip it was so wonderful to hear it from a pro like you too as a style rule 👍👍
Hi Beth! I'm new on your channel but loving each one of your videos!! I'm from India so certain styles don't suit us but still you style tips are really useful as I have to pick from them to suit our Asian colour and styles! Do give some tips for plus sizes too as we all kind of put on some weight but perpetually trying to shed it off!! Looking forward to some tips ! You look Gorgeous and Graceful Bless you! Inspiration to all of us who follow you!
Dear Beth, I allways followed those rules. They are essential, I think, and "normal", I thought. But the worst case I ever experienced relating to dress code was this: my Danish husband and I were living in Northern Germany and as often in Denmark as possible. About 12 years ago both of us were going to be knighted in DK. Dresscode: tails for the gentlemen, long and black for the ladies, so we had 2 suitcases. I wore casual at the car ride, navy t and maxi skirt. I had proper new clothes in my suitcase. But looking for it after our arrival iI didn't find it. My husband had forgotten to put MY suitcase into the car, though he promised to take care of them. Imagine:I had NOTHING with me, and as it was Saturday afternoon ALL SHOPS were closed. Nothing to wear to go to the rest room in the motel, no make up, no lingerie, no long black dress.... He isn't my hubby anymore, not only because of that day...
I would have asked the hotel concierge for help. The discarding of an otherwise good husband for forgetting a suitcase, Not. The concierge could have solved the problem -they know how to call their contacts to get the guests fast help. A good tip afterwards is the right thing.
@@maryellenrioux2494 it was a little hotel with no concierge. And no, he was no otherwise good husband. I don't want to tell here, what he was up to later on. Glad, he's gone.
"don't follow trends blindly" is the best advice. Not all silhouettes flatter every body - for example, the loose/wide jeans make me look dumpy... ditto light wash - so I'm not going there. It's ok to sit a trend out if it's not going to make you feel your best.
Beth, we are living today in a very casual kind of dress way. Most of the time at home and home schooling our children. Can you show us some styling comfy styles for stay at home. Thank you
Hello Beth. I recently found your channel while searching for ways to style blazers. I'm 51 (as of October 6). I have about 8 more years of work before I can officially retire (Administrative Assistant for a local college). I believe the style rules you listed are very important, but for me, "Dress comfortably" has to be my number one. I sit 9.5 hours in a day and if my clothes aren't comfortable, the day is a bust. I look forward to watching your videos.
Just want to see the return of quality basic clothing and not just fashion . Buying clothes has become a stressful experience . I am in RSA and our best shops have closed
@@kerrythomas4147 I don't know if I'd even call it clothing. I live in a nice suburban area and I see a ton of teens and young ladies wearing shorts so high you can see the bum and rips and holes in jeans and flip flops.. I went to have lunch one day and there was a huge group of girls wearing bikini tops with shorts!! Just atrocious. This is the fault of feminism that has been pushed in a bad way. We need rules of modesty to maintain dignity and respect. People treat you the way you dress.
@@cindykelly8466 has everything to do with it. Ladies held standards and were also held to a standard in older days. Doesn't matter the age... the demise of femininity and softness has led to less work to put into beautiful tailored clothing and grooming..and a lesser sense of self respect in being modest and refined. Madonna from the 80s , while cool as she was at the time, influenced alot of sexy sloppy wear like showing bra straps under a tank top and grown mature women didn't dress like that 20-30yrs ago... too many jeans and t-shirts made in China is the de,-feminized uniform of America
Sadly, it seems that many Americans break your first rule all the time. So few people seem to want to honor the event, such as a wedding, funeral, or dinner date. Times have really changed in the last decade or so. :(
Good morning ☀️ from the Shining State FLORIDA. I’m totally agree, It’s not only American problem. It’s worldwide. Have a bless week to everyone and don’t forget to Vote 🗳 it’s very important for our COUNTRY.😊
@@rosemarycooper1572 bullshit. If most Americans don’t have $400 for an emergency why do they have $50 for a formal thrift store dress? You are well off and you don’t appreciate it.
My husband and I attended a wedding of a dear friend a few years ago. Even though the wedding had a country theme, the daughter of the bride showed up in short shorts and a tank top, with no bra on. She was eighteen. Yes, it was a July wedding. I believe afterwards she was leaving with her friends. I would have dressed for the wedding and brought shorts and a top for later.
Great rule reminders, these are all givens to look elegant and appropriate. Dress for the occasion is the one that stands out to me. Why is it that there's a levelling down of special occasions to the most casual possible? Casual is great for a good portion of our day to day life, but not all the time. Even dinner at a friend's should be a chance to wear something a little elevated or at least different, for example a skirt or pair of faux leather pants. Sadly, this idea seems to be disappearing in society; everyone wants to be as casual as possible 24/7.
Here's a style tip: don't buy garments that are 100% polyester or acrylic. Try not to buy these materials at all. Stick to natural fibers, maybe a little spandex.
Dear Beth, a warm hello from Hamburg, Germany 🛳⚓️ Can you believe that 5 years ago you startet this phantistic Journey. Thank you for your tips👗😀I Agree with you. You should dress according to the occasion🎩😀🌷Your tips are always appropriate. Love your Fashion Videos. Have a nice week. Last one in October😅 Best Wishes, Susi
I am almost 62 and love to dress up Your tips are always spot on. Could you possibly list your outfit and jewelry you wear during each video? I see you always get lots of questions about that so I think it could be very useful even if the items are no longer for sale. Thank you for helping us keep looking stylish as we age
Im from Tokyo, Japan and the first time I came to the US was really mindblowing ! People are fat abd they dress casually and sloppily EVERYWHERE !! While in here most people always make a conscious choice to dress nicely. Even the ordinary housewives doing everyday errands here would be considered dressing up by the US standard !
I am also very sad that people /woman dress so sloppy these days.I love to dress properly (no need for expensive )just be proud to be a woman and respectful
Lots of good rules to be reminded of, Beth. My mother taught me these ideas and I tried to pass them on to my daughter. Speaking of trends, I will be so happy when the jeans with holes go out of style! They just ruin a perfectly nice outfit and older women look ridiculous wearing them! Come on ladies, dress appropriately for your age, trend or not. Love that shade of lipstick, would you share the color and manufacturer? 💙
I am so impressed by your intro...! You look breath-taking. You are a great looking woman, but this hairstyle is the cherry on top. Your clothes you wear in the intro are so chic, also the sun shades, very young and elegant. Compliments from Germany!
Clothes are like paint on canvas . . . but if you can't separate yourself from what you have on, once you have it all decorated, you will never feel comfortable. Put is on the best you can and then forget about it and enjoy your activity.
You ooze class lady....I to am a lady of a certain age...I knew your five tips but just goes to show I have class too....my best wishes from Jane...North Wales...UK...
Beautiful fashion and a very pleasant good morning to you from crispy, chilly Canadian fall. I love my fall weather, gives me the reason to bring out my scarfs and sweaters. Thank you very much.
I needed to watch this video! Especially with Rule #2!.. And #3... Okay All of them! LOL😅😅 I’m definitely subscribing bc what you’re saying is honorable! This info helps me as a 26yr old Bc I’ve made some unnecessary fashion mistakes. And as I mature more, I do notice plenty things that I can do better on.. Thank You!! 🙌🏾💕
