While you do have some good points, I think your perspective is a little skewed and you're focusing too much on how to be an easy client vs how to pick the right DJ for your event. I have some experience on both sides of this. That being said, here's some constructive feedback. Do what you will. #1 "...when the men get involved..." That comment sounded sexist to me tho I don't think it was meant to. I don't think the men make it interesting, I think including both the bride & groom (or both parties) in the choice of music is what makes it interesting. To clarify I don't think he was trying to make it sound like that, I think he just said it like that because oftentimes the bride is already proactively involved in every aspect of the wedding. #2 Remember this is YOUR wedding, NOT the DJ's wedding. If you want the DJ to "run" the reception, look for a DJ who likes to do that (and probably get them in contact with your wedding planner ASAP). If you'd rather you or someone else "run" the reception, make sure the DJ is willing to accommodate your requests. If they're not, they may not be the right one for your wedding. #3 If you want to allow song requests during the reception, that is YOUR CHOICE. I can certainly tell you that taking live song requests is absolutely possible. Just make sure the DJ you hire is prepared for this and find out if there will be reliable internet at the venue. I recommend at least 50 Mbps but preferably higher than 100 Mbps. And for any specific songs that absolutely MUST be played, make sure the DJ has those songs ahead of time & that they know when to play those songs as it's impossible to guarantee every song requested during the event. I personally love new challenges and am constantly striving to find new ways to give the bride & groom EXACTLY what they want. After all, this is your wedding & you are ultimately in charge. But definitely don't do everything alone because just being the center or host of the event will keep you busy & you will need other people to save you time.
