twan cush absolutely right, it is easy to tell who is jealous. They disrespect you if you have more then them. They justify their failure by belittling more successful people.
I sometimes feel really stupid for calling people my friends so easily and telling them my hopes and dreams. I found out down the line that while they were smiling in my face they were haters and jealous people.
Katie M This took me a long time to learn as well. At the end of the day, you really just gotta stick to your goals, believe in the process and do you. Take care
I am in the same boat as you are. I am50 and I am a LONER. I've got absolutely zero friends, i spend my time reading , travelling and decorating my home. I rather to be alone than to be unhappy. It's a brutal world we are living in and we have to decide on who we entertained in our private circle. I certainly regret crossing path with some rather highly undesirable people. The beauty of it is that I am not lonely but get bored sometimes.
@@leslieoconnor4111 WELL I LOVE PEOPLE TOO MUCH. That can't possibly feel good because God didn't make you that way. Unless you have a "calling" from God to monasticism, your condition is a state of PTSD and NOT an example of "optimum mental health". That's absolute folly. Sorry.
People communicate period 1 to justify themselves and 2 as a result of insecurity.. 1 believe in self to achieve. Doubt causes confusion , be assertive and trust your self. Nobody knows you more than yourself. Be assertive and do your homework think before you speak. Know your strengths.
I always new many Americans were idiots but I never knew just how bad it was until the scamdemic and the amount of sheep that caved to lord god king Fauxi and the rest of the goobermint stooges. The state of the American fighting spirit is absolutely terrifying.
I have my own business. No support from friends or family. Thank God I'm a strong determined woman and made it happen. Now my business is rocking and they are shocked. Trust only yourself.
Yes, when I was younger I thought that I had friends. Now I realize that the people that socialized with me were only trying to use me. Unfortunately, in America you have no real friends.
So true 👍I am changing a lot in my life this year. Being always honest & open but many used it for their personal goals. It was all about manipulation & speculation. I used to think that some people at work could become your friends, unfortunately this is not true. My motto - The more people smile to you the less you trust them, the same goes in personal life 😊Reasonable distance is the best advice 🙏
Anthony I was married 55 years and am widowed, I love that you have that trust we need to hear from more people that have good relationship with their wives or women friends..
You got it! Often the ONLY people that have your back are those that understand that if you make it, there is going to be something in it for them!!...Robert from daytradingwiththelight
This is really good. I had a so-called friend, who had most of these traits. I always had a gut feeling this was not a true friend. Finally walked away.
Yay, I get all this but what if u had a great plan with ur sister and all of a sudden she starts to get weird on me mind u this has been both of our dream (mAy be its her new boyfriend) she’s in a transition my sister and I have always supported each other until tonight I’m so hurt 😭
You’re technique is something I’ve been doing my entire life. I’m 40 now and it’s something that some people are naturally born with but anyone can do. I was brought up in an abusive home so my personality naturally developed this way. Whenever i got push back from my family or friends it motivated me more and more until I became so successful I literally couldn’t stomach having my energy drained by those people anymore and let then go from my life. It works i always see haters as a sign that I’m on the right path because the devil doesn’t want you successful so he’ll try and use the people around you to stop you before you’ve even begun.
So true ☝🏾 I’ve come to a level in my maturity where I realize that I don’t have to be talking period. And I definitely stopped talking about my plans to certain family members and so called friends 🙄
I'm planning on furthering my expectations to becoming a Drug and Alcohol Treatment Specialist or make fierce attempts to be educated in that area as well which by far will anger my parents even more.
Just because we share the same bloodline doesn't mean that we're family. "Blood is what makes you related loyalty is what makes you family". Your family will support you, your relatives are the ones who'll talk you out of your dreams and goals.
They will not support your dreams and goals, and actually be jealous of you and any improvement, as long as your mediocre, they are ok, but as soon as you improve any part of your life jealousy creeps in real talk
No friends is the way nowadays they can stay sleep in my opinion and I leave family members too. I was born alone and will die alone and make my own decisions. When I do what someone else says it never work for me because I need the key 🗝 not the answer to the door 🚪
Thanks for the thought but you sound more of an ass. He took time, made the effort to explain or justify as to why not to trust such people. Your advice sounds lazy and dumb.
@@princesskf5157 Love them from a distance or love them with your actions. Not necessary to love them with conversations that can be misunderstood and repeated or used against you. Just my experience...
I’m 63 and have been severely burned by EVERYONE who’s told me they “love” me, including my own parents, siblings and kids! I no longer speak to back stabbing abusive people whether they are related to me or not! I stay by myself and I love my own company. My life is a hundred times better now because I’m a LONER and I have dumped all the trash!
why dont we just simplify this. Dont trust ANYONE EVER!!! All are deceivers, liars, and cheats. The best you can hope for with loved ones is to be used, abused and lied to, but dont ever believe it will stop there. The people you love, depend on and seek to protect, are the very people who will bind you and CHEERFULLY hand you over to your enemies for their own gain. People bein people thats all. Thats what they do.
I remember several years ago, I asked someone for an advice. Then I discovered the advice wasn't that good, and went in a different direction. Oh boy 😦 I was scolded.... some people can't handle the fact that you don't follow their advice. The main comment usually is: "Why did you ask for my advice if you don't follow it???"
Just trust in yourself . Lot of truth to what he saying , I seen how people can be in life , experience it many times , family the worse lol . Trust , loyalty , straight out the window . Look after you and trust yourself
All well and good to follow this guys advice, but you really need to get tough to do it. Let people know your rules. They need to respect you. If they dont like it, well, get serious, get angry if need be and do it. Worse case, push them away. Be tough to be successful.
Eliminate weak minded people out of your life. This includes drug addicts, alcoholics, narcissists, manipulators, essentially losers. I have one friend. That's God. I stay alone and there is less loss on my part and less betrayal. I keep my trust in God because I have cared for and loved people and got hurt so bad. I'm not coming back for more pain. I'm done.
So accurate and so necessary. People tend to support what they can understand. I’m the black sheep and I usually do my own thing. It’s funny how the same people that have made fun and tried to discourage me are now exact replicates of who I USED to be. Lol crazy right? Now I’m private and guarded. I throw off my plans and tell them all sorts of things and work quietly on my goals and dreams. God is gracious but people really hate when you constantly succeed and when they can’t figure out how to surpass you, they turn around and FOLLOW you to get credit and recognition. Story of my life.
Great Advice Thanks Wish I could've listened to this 20 yrs ago! The PREACHER extremely good point. I have a preacher felt like he was trying to put me "back in the box" in terms of "success advice"! He seemed convinced to advise me to get a "job"! I've had jobs"! I made a major leap in my life and have experienced great success after I walked off the job 3yrs ago and pursued my higher God purpose/calling! I thought about it, and was like how about if I were to suggest to you " oh quit ministering and go get a regular job @McDonalds"! How would he feel about that? Lol
All very true Daniel! I went to highschool in the states and Univ. there is very costly. I heard from God about what school to attend & he said Howard Univ. When I shared that the family hit the ceiling & tried to stage interventions to "stop" me. Well, I chose God's path for my life, they didn't know he had been speaking to me saying go to that school & after return to Africa to perform a great work in my name. People were upset but I followed through, and again after school when I left the return to Africa. It was the best decision I could've ever made because I saw everything God promised me manifest.
I live by a simple code, in that, I do not let ANYONE direct my life, not my parents, siblings, wife, children, friends - no one, I do what I think is the best thing to do - no matter what anyone else thinks about it, if I'm wrong - I will learn from my own mistakes, and if I am right - then I did the right thing. I must ALWAYS be the sole and absolute master of MY own destiny, for good or ill. FREE WILL is the most important thing to me, not living to please anyone else.
Yes, I wish I knew this growing up. You can love people, learn from them, but it’s best not to trust them fully with your choices. It’s very brave for you to tell people this. I think because you are telling the truth with such positive vibes, it makes it much more effective 😇
Communication is IMPORTANT. CAREFREE CHEERLEADER SUPPORTIVE PAL!!! Some FREELANCER S NEED TO LEAD THEMSELVES BETTER. FAIL ON YOUR OWN. FALL ON YOUR OWN FACE. DO YOUR BEST TO MAKE YOUR DREAM IDEAS COME TRUE. Then you have your own proof to get APPROVAL & a trustworthy CREW to Continue making money. 👌👀👍🏆 PROVE YOURSELF FIRST with your abilities tallents hard LABOR day after day proof Needs to be DONE.
One time, I mentioned to someone that I liked to sing and was doing open mic. She looked at me disapprovingly, and said, "really? what does your family think of that?" She acted like I said that I was into, "stripping". I did get a jealous vibe from her. I mean, what the heck is wrong with singing?
@@wendyhannes4626 i know you are ok.i went through a similar one but i was always wondering how a marriage can be good if each partner keeps secrets from one another.
How can you tell who the "slithering snakes" are in your life, when snakes often come in disguise. Some of this advise is very good, as long as you keep it in perspective and know your audience. Otherwise, you will become too suspicious, fearful, divisive and cynical against people who mean you no harm at all, but are only thinking futuristic, and making you mindful of the "what ifs" in life. The key operatative word he uses is "some", which warns us against generalization.
Thank you alot sir for these inspiring words of knowledge. I am a person who knows a person before I know them and the way I know them is by there words and action. I have alot of haters,gossipers,jealousy people that try to turn people against me but that doesn't move me because I always told myself that I am secure and they are insecure and we don't match. I am a possive person who help alot of people through the God given knowledge that God has given to me, I hate to see people suffer but what I realise is that the persons I help they are the ones that hates me the most.
What is your highest purposes? Peers. Friends? Recruited one's. The ideas man. They have NO PLANS FOR THEIR IDEAS. IDEAS ARE NOT PLANS. CORRECT? Cheerleaders?
Wow! am just seeing this vid after 3 years of posting and bro, you're very right. The common thing amongst all of them is that they are all very close to us, some even under thesame roof! How twisted can humans be?
I have family members whom so jealous of us because we're happy have a job, make decent money drive a new car. While her life is a mess. She stopped coming over to our house lol. To be me that is a indication of jealousy. Just glad they don't come over anymore. Toxic inlaw.
+Daniel Ally, you are an old wise soul in a young man's body. I unfortunately experienced what I should not have done. What is awful is the fact that the people who are the ones that I trusted and expected only good advice. OMG! You mentioned my spouse. Sad. But I am going to be much better. Daniel, it is basically almost everyone that I trusted. Everyone you mentioned. But what really gets me is my own spouse for thirty-five years. My mind and eyes are wide open and it isn't too late for me to fulfill my own life's calling. To build my own dreams. Yes!
Dear Ally - There is no need to wear so much jewellery. A confident person doesn't overfocus on their appearance or to show off their wealth - 'Look I am rich' A watch and ring is fine.
All my life I've been a kind and loving person and I'm 48 years old just realizing now that people don't think the way I do and that's why I have no friends Nice guys finished last But I love Jesus
So so true just had an altercation with w family member who is constantly ruining my peace I've felt guilty in the past for distanciating myself but not this time around ..cos she's actually jealous of me having a good relationship with the other family members she only wants to be popular u don't want to be in that competition so I'm out ,and loving it ...peace
That's hundred100% my brother some people are not to be trusted!because in life we have to two people in life one is there to push u to your destiny while next one is there to pull u back so that you don't reach to your destiny.
I have never been used to speaking my business to anybody. I have been stabbed in my back from others who was supposed to have my back. So there you have it nothing from me but a lot to look at. So enjoy the veiw.
Your people tell you the truth. They dont backstab. They encourage you to improve. They dont manipulate you. They dont gossip in order to be liked. They dont sell you. They treat you the way they wnat to be treated themselves.....
I agree 100% but what if your spouse tells everything he knows to anyone who will listen even after you ask them not to tell things about you bc you are a private person. When confronted, he says no one is going to tell him what to say to whom. Makes me feel sad and betrayed when he does this. He is otherwise a good provider and non abusive.
This video is Powerfully and painfully honest. When I was broke and living in a dirty little room, I realized there wasn’t much to lose by getting into day trading with the last of my dwindling savings. Asked all the people I believed had my best intentions, everyone said DON’T do it. I ignored them!! Today my net worth in in the hundreds of thousands, all due to day trading, meanwhile the naysayers all have regular jobs and living from paycheck to paycheck and don’t have a pot to piss in!! Robert from daytradingwiththelight
I consider myself very fortunate. Most of my friends, family, and others I know, have always stood by my side and encouraged me to follow through with whatever choices/decisions I made. I feel sad for people who don't have sound support in their lives.
Family members that tell you not to invest or start a business but then go on to themselves get scammed out of thousands of dollars from get rich quick schemes from people they don't know.. lmao .
