"Ignoring negative people doesn't mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it just means you care about your own well-being" I found this concept impressive. Perfect for people-pleasers, and I think their description was quite accurate too. They suffer because of the toxic relationships they create themselves and someone needs to tell them. Thanks for having done that.
In my community, pleasing people is given importance. People should hear about you what they think it is good and right even if they are wrong and you do not.agree with them
Is it a fact of life, why then bother, if you fail, ignorance should be used, is it selfish to not care, blame society, avoid drama, do you distance yourself, demanding attention makes you unlikable, unforgiving people won't feel pleased, if your insecure you'll disappoint others, remind people that your only human, and nobody's perfect, nothings impossible, don't let people steal your life from you, annoying habits deserve to be punished✅⛔🆘💲🈵🚩
“You think you’re being nice but you’re not living true to yourself.” (Being a people pleaser.) This is completely true and I’m 21 and just now learning this because everyone- especially jobs, will encourage these people pleasing behaviors and make it feel like a positive quality.
My life right now is the exact opposite. I go back to old memories that I honestly didn't care about when they said them to me but, now I think about them and I just feel depressed and shed some tears.
@@omegasbathtubgangshitposti9275 thats because your depressed eat right get sun and exercise stop using cheap highs like drugs and you wake up one morning soon thinking wow Iam so happy I forgot what it felt like.
@@missmygamergirl445 Well first of all I don't do drugs (I'm literally in middle school lmfao) and second of all I'm not always depressed it's mostly when I'm alone and I have nothing to do and all I do is just get stuck on my thoughts. I just seem to be happy and laughing half of the day and the other half feeling gloomy and I just switch between the two constantly (Idk read some stuff online, might be manic depression).
So freaking true! Lol and the oldet I get, the more other people should worry what I think about them, as well. ☺ With age comes wisdom... Getting better all the time at spotting the ppl I want to avoid pretty quickly, at last.
Lol so he disrespectful himself and brags about it lol.lamf negetitive man manipulate men druma man. Druma queen Paris Jackson lol.lamf Don't need anyone approval either way. They manipulate anyone. Still ingore them either way. Set boundaries standards privacy and avoided them. Not dont rewards them. Dont have time for negetitive people distance myself need time for me. Dont waste my time on dating sites and not a person pleaser anymore. Living on the life that better without negetitive people online so I cut them out. Yes they have a problem with everything else. Dont care to please anyone either way. My protorties come Frist. And want them to stop bullying me around push bossy me around stop abusing me harrassment and Naysayer Keith Martin narrastic Andy Murray Paris Jackson who are that yes I need to ingore them. No all of them. Not look for there input there annoying eleimated all of them. The manputior men online Keith Martin narrastic Andy Murray and David Cameron are Anderson cooper dump them cut them out of my life. Don't accept there bad childish behavior. So proud of myself dump all those posers and those mean girls who are not good for me and those who harrassment bully or hate himself or his mother who doesn't know what they say bullshit about innocent people online and not childish comments about it. Cut them out of my life. Close the doors in there face. Rise above them. Be my own hero im my own supergirl 8 🙂😁
I just want to thank whoever put the time into creating this masterpiece. I recently just broke it off with my best friend of 4 years. In reality, she is extremely manipulative and a toxic person in general. I felt guilty and blamed myself for HER behavior. I was afraid I made the wrong decision until I came across this video. Thank you for this 💕💕
Nagetive people are always course by depression and family problems and that's why they are always rude to others everyday they will become unhappy everyday.
We all take turns at being every one of these so called 'negative' types. It's perfectly natural. It's doesn't mean you're a terrible person it just means you're a human.
That's the issue, when your immediate family is toxic, its hard to manage them. Best is make new associates networking and make that a constant process so you never feel left out. And people who will value you will keep in touch, else they self filter.
Sum up: 1) Avoid people that dramatize too much 2) Avoid people who you can never please 3) Avoid people that try to push you down by laughing at you and your goals 4) Avoid manipulators 5) Avoid people who complain that you have changed over the years
You just summed up 70-85% of the human race. This is why I wish more than half the world's population will disappear. Just imagine how much better life would be without dramatic, controlling, arrogant, narcissistic, stupid, manipulating, greedy,non sympathetic, backstabbing, war loving, disgusting, filthy, rotten people. When they ask me why am I so quiet,or they tell me I need to be more social and go to social gatherings. My response is "what's so fascinating about humans?" "Why should I get to know humans?" The fact of the matter is,most people are trash,so I choose to walk alone.
This video showed me that I could be the drama queen sometimes and that's why some people ignore me sometimes. Thank you for this video, I wanna change myself for the better. ❤
I personally think being a critical thinker is the most positive thing you can do. Yet critical thinkers are often seen as negative. To understand the world as it really is rather than how you want it to be. I know many so-called "positive" people who are miserable because they are often really just pretending, and the reality is not matching their positive view and they really have no idea why.
@@phenomenalmusic5034 negative maybe but idiot not. The negativity and positivity is more like what you focus those things that are good or those that are bad. You can be critical while you are in positive or negative mind set.
This is exactly what I'm doing, that’s why there are a lot of people that hate me, but so there are a lot of people who love me. I Can be so rude at joking, but I deeply care about people who I think is good for me. (Not for me, but for society. I do respect.)
@Sangeeta Gupta This line sounds a lot like what Kurt Cobain said. “I’d rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not” I don’t know if that’s the exact quote, but pretty close.
Oof thats me then i get disrespected for who i am all the time at school lol i get called annoying a lot but it doesnt rlly bother me haters can hate!🤷♀
@@vsatonthebeat4101 I was thinking the same thing .I have a so called friend we live in the same city . She has a kid I am have 5 kids. But unfortunately I am just trying to keep an distance from her. Because I felt she wasn't a friend to me
Ignoring people is very important - it's one of those subtle things that dont really make sense because it seems so simple. Until it just works itself out.
I am completely lonely now. I had many friends in High school like 15-20 close friends. Half of them were completely negative and others wanted attention. I am starting my own business and I don't need any negativity. I have started networking with people I want to be around with and be friends with them. Life is so easy when pricks are not around.
Jay--- Most friends are the "fair weather" type, no matter where you go, or what you do. Society has taught the past couple generations to be completely isolating, even more so now in 2020. There is good news, though. The hyper individualism that creates all that loneliness in the 3d realm can be cured by delving into the 4d realm of consciousness and oneness. I suggest picking up a couple books by the Dalai lama, to get started.
One story I never forgot hearing about from my mother was when I was in elementary school and I got left out from our class and when I told my parents, they asked me if I wanted to change my class and I’d always refuse and say “if they don’t want to be friends with me then I don’t care and I won’t let it hinder my academic progress in school or my happiness in life” and I used to get 90-100% in every exam which would make me happy enough at school as well as at home. I still have that type of mindset, if a person I know is obviously uninterested or toxic, then they aren’t worth my time.
👍You are so going places. . I'm learning to not bother myself with toxic people anymore - I either don't tolerate their schemes straight out on their face or just avoid & ignore them completely - it's sooo freeing 🎉😆 Some folks learn this late in life. . but it's never too late 🙏
I used to do something I called, pulling a disappearing act. When I had collected too many toxic people, I would just move and not tell anyone where I went. Fortunately, I am much better in choosing my friends now so I haven't had to do that in decades, but when I was young I was a magnet for all six of these types of people!
MyBrainEatsEverything One of the best comments I’ve read If I could like this again I would I got rid of toxic people went as far as deleting all social media account all I have now Is Sc and I rarely post
So I guess most social media lol but the ones that people can keep tabs on you like Fb Ig got deleted It was hard getting rid of them but once you do you feel so free
@Deliq I just want to share my thoughts about this. When it comes to these things. I cannot confirm whether if god is true or not. Things will remain a mystery for me.
I instinctively knew this as a child. As I aged, parents, teachers, and other adults told me I needed to engage with others. I had to concern myself with other’s problems and feelings. Now I’m retired and studying Stoicism. I lost 40 years of my needs.
We need to do so much better with raising our kids to have strong boundaries. I am also delving into Stoicism. Its a relief to not be focussed on others all the time.
Same, when it's your own parents and close ones who tell you to do this & this, you can't really do anything about it, you can't simply say "no I am gonna do it my way, let them say whatever they want". You follow it while barely questioning it. It really takes some loses to realise you have been obeying the wrong people.
Thanks. I'm an introvert that used to be a big extrovert, and when people notice how much I changed, they think it's strange and that I should go back to how I used to be. I've been pressuring myself to make friends, and because of that I tend to please people. I was certain that I was a strong person, and that I wasn't a people pleaser, but it turns out that I am one. I did ridiculous things people asked me to do, and in the end when I did what they asked they laughed at me, and embarrassed me. Tbh I thought they were laughing because they thought I was a funny friend. I never thought people could be so mean. I didn't believe it when people said they were evil. Turns out people can be really, really mean, I don't even know if these people have consciousness or guilt anymore.
I always felt social insecurities because I don't like having to deal with people complaining when I don't agree with something. But this video does help me remember that "If they actually cared, they would see why I disagree" and I don't need people to always like me lol
I don't know why I'm here, I've mastered the art of ignoring people ever since I've had to sit and listen to my mom go on tangents everyday about how crappy of a person I am.
@@Dude-cf8hb It's easy? If you are being screamed at you could daydream. Don't take it heart too, and respond back however you want in your mind if you aren't in the wrong. If it is just someone annoying you, focus your attention on something else and their voice will fade to background noise. (Read a book, do homework, draw, watch something, etc.)
@@funmitalabi9607 I'm not sure if you're implying your mom is abusive, but mine was so I'm leaving this in the comments for anyone else who has to put up with it: The only thing you can do in that situation is get out. Being around her fucked my social life up so bad, but when I got away all my problems basically disappeared with enough time.
This actually helps me deal with how toxic my grandma can be. When people say just ignore her or something I didn't know the best way to do it. Now I have a better understanding.
@@jimmyj4044 why so miserable? Did your priest force his hands on you long ago and now you hate everything and everyone? Rhetorical question, I predict it'll go over your head kiddo.
this just made me realize I'm such a toxic person I'm really glad that one person cut me off, now that I have learned my wrong doings I will now apply it to my self and change that. I will try as well not to be with the toxic people, I will go and ignore them as much as I can.
I did this as a kid and I actually got bullied even harder. They would repeat it over and over again in my ear and I would tell the teacher and the teacher would say to simply ignore despite me explaining to them what I did. I also got hit a few times trying this as well and I was in trouble as well due to the “middle ground”. I did nothing to them and the few times I insulted them, it was an insult back.
Yeah, most bullies don't get phased by you ignoring them, worst case situation they get more angry. You actually have to beat the living crap out of them. If they can touch you, you can touch them. I don't understand why a more hands-on approach is being scrutinised by the society and the law. Your best bet is avoiding these people... which I have no fucking clue how is one supposed to do. Society sucks.
The best thing you can do is not self defence. It is only going to bring attention and get both the victim and the bully the same punishment. What you can do is bully them back, don't even wait for them to hit or disturb you. Hit them for no reason if you feel like they deserve it.
@@Cosmophage1 no that’s absolutely not okay. Yes physically fight back, but only when it’s necessary like when they threaten to hurt you or something. Bullying is wrong all the way. It doesn’t matter if you’re bullied back it’s still wrong. Also I’m not saying not to fight back, but it’s extremely unnecessary to start a fight. /lh
I personally really needed this vid. I’m both an empath and a HSP (highly sensitive person) so I often feel guilty even when I know I’m being taken advantage of/ or shame at being “selfish” when I want to be alone to figure myself out I’m always wishing the best for those who have the same trouble ignoring these sorts of ppl in our lives. We CAN focus on the positive and squeeze it on life❣️
I know everybody has their own struggles, but I think I have the same "Empath" thing. I can highly relate when people say they feel guilty when they can't help or even when they know somebody is being mean/taking advantage of them when they want to help. I hope you feel better about this stuff along with the others struggling with us ❤️
SinginBlackbird same here. I’m extremely sensitive so when somebody says something about me or my body online, I somehow take offence to it even though I know that they are the ones in the wrong. Even in real life I always feel bad
These traits generally come as a bundle on people with narcissistic personality disorder. They are people with deep inferiority-complex, mostly originates from childhood traumas. Whenever they feel that someone is superior, they use these methods to bring them down, so that they feel better for a short amount of time. They are impulsive, emotion-driven, self-focused, immature and cunning people with lack of symphathy and self-awareness. Don't try to heal them. Don't try to symphatize with them. They have practiced this for a life time, and mastered the methods. They will take you down without you even notice. They are masters of spotting people who are caring, loving, selfless with high empathy and generally low self-esteem (sorry guys, you need to work on that!). Ignore, keep your distance or remove them from your life as fast as you can.
. SO TRUE!!!! THANKYOU FOR SHARING... ITS TAKEN ME 6 & A HALF YEARS TO REALISE THAT MY NARCISSIST PARTNER WAS LYING AND CHEATING ON ME FROM THE GET GO... GAS LIGHTING TRAUMA BONDING, LOVE BOMBING AND DISGARDING ME FOR YEARS !!!! THESE VILE DRAMAS OF HIS HAD ME NEARLY LOOSE ALL BELIEF IN SELF AND IN THE INTEGRITY I USED TO HOLD SO FIRMLY TO... ITS TAKEN ME YEARS TO REALISE WHAT ID BEEN PART OF AND HURTS SO BAD ...BCOS EVEN KNOWING ALL THIS..IM THE ONE STILL MISSING THE MAN I 1ST FELL IN LOVE WITH.. THIS MAN EVEN OWNED IT CLAIMING " HES SUCH A GOOD LIAR..".. TO THE POINT THAT I HAD NO IDEA HE HAD BEEN MANIPULATING AND CONTROLLING THIS WHOLE SITUATION/ ORDEAL ALL ALONG!!! I FEEL IV LOST MY SOUL...& DONT EVEN KNOW MY FORMER SELF ANY MORE...IM SO BROKEN BY THE TRUE REVELATION OF IT ALL!! ID FOUND OUT THE TRUTH FROM HIS MANY LIES AND WHEN I CONFRONTED HIM HE REFUSED TO ALLOW ME ANY CLOSURE BY ACKNOWLEDGING THE FACTS.. WHEN I HAD THEM ALL IN FRONT OF ME...IN BLACK & WHITE etc.. SO I WAS LEFT TO JUST WALK AWAY FROM HIM.. WITHOUT ANY CLOSURE FROM HIM.. WHICH IS WHAT NARCS DO..AS THEY WILL NEVER ACKNOWLEDGE ANY WRONGS THEY MAY DO TO AVOID RESPONSIBILITY FOR HAVING DONE THEM IN THE 1ST PLACE & AS LEAVERAGE TO HOAVER YOU BACK IN.. WHEN YOUR ON A LOW ..OR SELF DOUBTING! SO THEY CAN STILL ABUSE YOU AS NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY..NOTHING MORE.. THEY HAVE NO REAL LOVE OR AFFECTION FOR YOU..BUT IF UR A GOOD SOURCE OF NARC SUPPLY TO CAUSE INJURY TO, THEY GET OFF ON THE PAIN THEY CAN STILL CAUSE YOU..IF YOU ALLOW THEM.. THEY WILL ABUSE YOU..I KNOW..I FELL IN AND OUT OF THAT WEB/ TRAP FOR YEARS BELIEVING ONE DAY HE WILL LOVE AND SEE MY WORTH..JUST AS HE APPEARED TO AT THE BEGINNING!!! PLEASE PEOPLE!!! DONT BE SCAMMED BY THEIR EMOTIONAL BULL SHIT. THEY CAN BE VERY CHARMING BUT THEIR LACK OF CONSISTANCY IS THEIR BIGGEST GIVE AWAY..AS TOO THEIR DIFFERENT PERSONNAS AROUND DIFFERENT PEOPLE!!!! REMEMBER THEY ARE F A K E.. THEY ARE SOMETHING DIFFERENT TO EVERY PERSON THEY TRY TO ENSNARE!!! BUT ONCE TRUTH HAS BEEN EXPOSED..THERE REALLY IS NO TURNING BACK THE CLOCK..BCOS YOU KNOW THAT YOU KNOW THAT THIS PERSON IS A SERIAL CHEAT LIAR..ABUSER ,BULLY MANIPULATER CONTROLLER.. + IN SHORT A' NARCISSIST' !!!!! WHOSE PLEASURE IS BREAKING DOWN A PERSON WHO IS CAPABLE OF LOVE,CARING AND FORGIVING... THESE ARE THE SORT OF PEOPLE THEY HOME ON IN..ie:- Empaths, vulnerable people..warm hearted & generous people etc etc .......... NARCISSISTS ARE INCAPABLE OF FEELINGS of the HEART ..OR GIVING EMOTIONAL SUPPORT OR REAL EMPATHY TO ANYONE!!!! THEY ARE 'ENERGY VAMPIRES' AND WILL DRAIN YOU DRY OF EVERY GOOD THING WITHIN YOU.. IF YOU BELIEVE IN THEIR LIES.. AS I DID..AND YOU ALLOW THEM TO.. THEY WILL SUCK YOU IN AND TGEN DEVALUE YOU UNTIL YOU BECOME A ZERO FORM OF YOUR FORMER SELF..WHILST THEY MOCK AND SCOFF AT THE SADNESS THEY THEMSELVES CRUELLY CREATED WITHIN YOU...TO PLAY THE ;... " IM HERE YO HELP YOU CARD!!" DONT BELIEVE THESE LIES!!!!.. THIS THEY WILL CONTINUE TO DO; UNTIL UR NOTHING MORE THAN THEIR EMOTIONAL PUNCH BAG. .. WHILST MEANWHILE THEY ARE HOOKING UP WITH OTHERS.. TO REPLACE YOU..+ THEY WILL HAVE MULTIPLE ...THEY WILL BE LOVE BOMBING & DECIEVING.. WHO HAVENT YET SEEN THRU THEIR MASK...TO KNOW WHAT SORT OF PERSON THEY REALLY ARE....BEHIND IT!!!! THEY WILL BE LAUGHING AT UR BROKENESS BCOS OF THEIR VIOLATIONS..& CONSTANT GAS LIGHTING!!! IF YOU ARE WIV A NARC!!! GET OUT AND AWAY FROM THEM AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! 'THEY DONT WANT 2B HELPED!!' THEY WANT TO USE & ABUSE U! IV WASTED 6 & A HALF YEARS OF MY LIFE ON SOME ONE WHO WASNT THE PERSON THEY PORTAYED THEMSELVES 2B.. & ITS ME WHOSE BARELY TREADING WATER NOW... WHILST THEY ARE THRIVING & FULL OF LIFE FOR HAVING EMPTIED + DESTROYED ME + THE OPTIMISM 4 LIFE.. I ONCE HAD!!!!!! ' NOW GONE! ' PLEASE KNOW... YOU CANT HELP SUCH PEOPLE.. ¥ U MUST CARE, LOVE + PROTECT YOURSELF ...SO AS NOT TO BE TAKEN IN BY THESE TOXIC INDIVIDUALS!! ¥ Forgive Yourself ... THEN.... MOVE ON!!! 🖤 ¥ 'Peace Love & Light' ( 3▪6▪2020 ) ¥ I PRAY TO GOD THAT HE WILL FORGIVE & HELP HEAL THE WOUNDS CAUSED ME BY MY BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS NO CONCIENCE OR REMORSE 4 THE EVIL THEY DO UNTO OTHERS...+ TO BREAK ALL UNGODLY SOUL TIES FROM THIS MAN IN THE NAME OF ' JESUS ' A m e n ¥
helping people is definitely not bad but we indeed must be careful about how we do that and whether they can accept the help or not. we should know when to give up
Sadly it's a term used so broadly by people who have little insight to the real situation in many cases. Women often use that as a defining reason to break up with men. While most women live so far in their own world that they rarely see the need of and the actual man in their lives for who he is. It's a term that can describe many other things such as a person who is on the autistic spectrum or someone with ADHD that talks to stimulate their own mind, etc. It is like a joker card / blanket term and is used irresponsibly WAY too often. Instead people can be more supportive and understand in some cases. Too many run to friends and social media strangers and actually take the advice or diagnosis without even seeing half of the complete picture.
Zombie Machinery stop with that misogyny please. Really. If a whole gender is a problem in your eyes that says more about you than the gender. I didn’t ask to be born a woman but trust me not all women are narcissists. That’s just as bad as me saying all men are narcissistic; it’s not true and really doesn’t solve the problem you seem to be having.
UNFORGIVING , it s hard to forgive someone who repeats the same mistakes also keeps trying to take advantage of your kindness. Keep your distance from users.
I was constantly told that i was good for nothing after marriage at 19, as I was not a competent housewife. One afternoon, i looked up the daily newspaper after finishing housework, applied for a suitable job, got selected for govt job, got promoted on merit, now retired after a satisfying career. Also, now am a good housewife, by the way! 🙂
The greatest gift my father ever gave me was a lack of worry what others think, and an inclination toward the concept that if nearly everyone thinks one thing it is likely best to investigate the other way.
When you view this as a game, it becomes fun to interact with them because you already know their playbook of negativity because after all, negative individuals are extremely predictable and one dimensional.
Very good. Learning 'People Games" helps deflect an attack so it doesn't touch you, because you Know what they are trying to do...get an emotional reaction out of you, belittle you, make you doubt your self worth, build up their inferiority problem, etc. When you realize what it is, it won't touch you. When you realize you don't need their 'approval' is when you can say "so, ok then" and walk away or just look at them and watch them back down. Once they pushed me to the point of 'l really don't care'... they have nothing to hold over me and their games didn't work anymore.
When I finally cut off all involvement/contact (after too many years) with the most toxic drama king I've ever known, the quality of my life shot upwards like a NASA rocket - without me doing anything else. Its like waking up from a 20 year coma and discovering you're still alive. No question in my mind - just get rid of them. You will never regret it. (Still smiling and loving life 6 years later!)
I am an introvert, and trust me. I don't open up, what's mine is mine. It is a big "fuck you" to those who want to gossip. And even if, they still gossip of me. It is whatever to me. In order for me to take it seriously. I'll have to care first. Apparently, their efforts are lower than their personalities. I for one laugh at them. I could care less, if they want to know me or not. I'm not a People Person. I don't work Retail, Food Service, nor own a Business for that matter. I work around morons, yes. And can talk if needed if job related. But no personal shit.
Oh, but he's the man I made him into. Never will be take a shred of responsibility for himself. It's my fault he procrastinates maintenance until a preventable problem is a crisis. Then he drama queens all over the place trying to get that narc supply. It's my fault he drinks and smokes the money and doesn't pay the bills. Its my fault he thinks overdraft protection is a way to pay rent. Its my fault or bad luck. Or always someone or something else. Never ever Mr. Perfect. Poor, put upon brave little baby.
@@Ghost-vi8qm I'm going to guess it is either a reference to being a drama queen or to having a regal sense of superiority, entitlement and control. Both are totally accurate descriptions of a narcissist. He could be describing my mother.
my ex 'bestfriends' they ignored me because they didn't want to be my friend anymore, they laughed and talked about me, I wanted to beat them up. I haven't fought with them yet tho
The pleasers are always the prey! Its important to maintain a healthy balance with yourself and with the people in your life. Sometimes you do need conflict so you can flex standing up for yourself.
I lost my job 2 months before ,where I was drained in every way by a bunch of vampires at office ,I could not handle the drama and politics and also I am not a people pleaser ,but I had lot of frnds there and good memories too with them ,finally I gave up and thought need some time to find my way back ,do you think it's normal if I cut ties with frnds ,fb ,watsapp and just living with meditation and my plants because I am happy now with silence and solitude and with all what I have now 😊😊..now I use only RU-vid for some gardening tutorials .. is it perfectly normal ?
saganist why are you so against the other gender? Not everyone has some hidden agenda. Maybe women see how you approach life and run the other way. We’re not terrible and you’d be mad if I was spouting feminism bs about how men suck. Lets not. I see so many men hating in the comments and I cannot literally control the fact I’m a woman but I strive to be a good person.
Jealous people are miserable-Misery loves company. They’ll try to drag you down and make you feel bad about your self. My narcissistic ex friend unmasked herself by acting like a mean girl. Purposely not inviting me to party-I had talked to her the day of, and she never told me she was throwing a Halloween party. I found out and confronted her. I stared by telling her it hurt me. Then we got into it-she finally said something that woke me up-she said “you’re not that great” I realized she didn’t invite me because she wanted to be the center of male attention. I replied to her “ I never said I was.” Followed by-“You’re no friend. Stay away from me.”
@@stephaniesomer5934 Stephanie, give us some more juicy details; was there make-up sex the same night, did she beg and plead for you to come back, what happened. we need to know, and pronto
It's an awful thing...and we ALL have it! Don't pretend you don't have it. It's a perfectly normal human emotion. Like any other emotion it goes wrong if you have it in abnormal excess!
Katarina Tibai , now who sounds like a Drama Queen? hmmmmm.... how about an imagination and pretend it's just entertainment like when you binge on 24 hours of soaps :-)
I lived life in denial of people being a burden or something negative, always looked out the best in people and looked through their negative sides but that was such a mistake, never think people who constantly shit on you will change, they won't
I've realized that at least one of these types of people to avoid applies to me, and it really makes me think about what my peers are dealing with because of it. I feel that I need to change these aspects of my personality not just for the people around be, but for my well being in general.
You got any good people left? I hope so, would like to hear you are enjoying the relationships with beautiful individuals better now you have more time... Take care my friend...
@@nadineanne8106 There can be people you can't walk away from like work colleagues but with many people it's a choice whether or not you want to interact with them.
I wish I had this information when I was a kid. I had to learn these things the hard way. But I wouldn't change my experiences for nothing. Thank you for creating this channel btw. Your a beacon of light. May you prosper and achieve all of your desires.
One of my friends is almost all of these bad things and i still care for him and help him as much as i can,make me realise how much of a fool i am.However i dont want to let him bear all of his suffering by himself,even if hes being a bad friend i know how it is to suffer,to be alone,to not have someone to talk to.These are all things that happened to me and i dont want anyone else to experience,by helping people i find a bit of happiness in everyday little tasks.
When she left me (for the 3rd time) I stopped blaming me or her. I just understood that a selfish person cannot give but a fool will keep giving. I'm glad she left. I feel sad but I rather be alone than lonely.
That is absolutely correct I've done it all years ago even though i remain the unforgiving type but it's better this way because some people take your kindness for weakness and I'm not really willing to waste time on finding the good people , therefore i keep it strictly business
Thanks for the pep talk refresher. Already relearned to say "no", focused on myself and either decreased the contact of toxic individuals or cut them away. Feeling great. But, there is a new round of eliminations coming. With new parasites showing their true selves and old parasites trying to get back in.
I wrote you a kind of lengthy response that I lost, so typical even though I copied it! :D Alas: When people judge us, we can sometimes continue that judgement upon ourselves because some of us have a more sensitive and caring heart. Others have no right to do this but their ego and want of others praise drives them. I've been a moron, almost a loner and girlfriendless for all my life, and I'm starting to see why. It's because I'm afraid of being judged again, that I haven't dared to live and explore. Follow your talents and what makes you really happy, contact people and challenge yourself, then that tribe you [and I] seek will automatically attract itself to you. Some teachers I recommend [no need to agree with everything] are Bernard Albertson's short videos with "Advice from an old man", and Dr. Jordan Peterson. Lots of respect and luck to you! PS: I'm open to gaming with you if you'd want [others too]. I don't game that much, but it would be fun to co-op now and then. I have very little experience in co-op but we all gotta start somewhere. I game the free, quite fun and challenging game Minion Masters and will finish Left 4 Dead and other games long overdue. Steam-account + Discord: Equalitor#5314.
@@LeporidaeanDream your words have stopped my great wound from Continuous bleeding, especially funny thing is, even social media makes me feel even more alone! So thanks for helping me!
@@blackfire1471 You're welcome friend! May the winds carry you to the most beautiful peak in the world, and I'll come meet you so we can send paper planes out in all directions and laugh of everything silly by the fire §
As a young man, I had terrible judgement in selecting friends. Well, actually, I exercised no judgement at all. Consequently, I ended up being friends with some people whom I really shouldn't have been hanging out with. They weren't bad people....but they were all troubled in some way or another. Over time I learned that most of them had some kind of problem, either emotional, psychological or substance abuse....or in some cases a combination thereof. Over time, as I struggled to move forward with my life, I became cognizant that these people were acting as drag. They riducled my efforts to go to school and improve myself. They laughed at me because I had a steady, 9-5 job (which didn't pay much, but at least it was a job). I gradually cut back my interaction with the downers. In doing so, I also changed my own behavioral patterns (like bar-hopping on Fridays, drinking, etc.). I can't tell you how liberating it is to be free from all the abject negativism, drama and adolescent behavior. Sure, I only have 3 or 4 people at the very most whom I can really call my friends, but as the old saying goes, quality over quantity. In moving away from my previous sphere of friends and acquaintances, I started observing more closely those individuals who were really moving forward in life, graduating from college, getting good jobs, developing meaningful and substantive relationships, getting married, having kids, etc., and I realized that those people were much more selective in their associations. They only hung out with people who could elevate them, not bring them down with their emotional/psychological toxicity. I took a lesson from their playbook and am now very selective in whom I associate with and as a consequence have no regrets....even though it does get kinda quiet on Friday nights.
i would encourage people to say "yes" to a lot of things. even if it takes you out of your comfort zone a bit you may find you end up enjoying it. if you always say "no" eventually people will just stop asking you and you'll get left out on activities you may actually want to be a part of.
That's true in part, but pushing yourself too often to do something just for the sake of FOMO is not the way to go either. That used to be my mistake, and after a while you don't show up fully anymore and end up exhausted, even a bit bitter. It gives you opportunities, but you don't enjoy them as much, you're never comfortable - it's just too much. It should be more about finding the right balance and listening to yourself, not others. Only then can you consider expanding your comfort zone
Great video. I gone through having a lot of "friends" that have turned out to be emotional vampires. Learning to ignore and say No was the best thing I ever done. I've significantly cut down on the people I call Friends (most of them have been bumped to Associate level). Having fewer people has a benefit in that I am having more fruitful interactions and better relationships with them.
i disappeared on my family for almost 10 years when i was 18 years old because they were toxic i saved up money for 3 months and hitched a ride to the greyhound 50 miles away from my small hometown and got a ticket to Venice Beach
I left at 18 for 6 months with no contact for the same reason. When I returned I refuse to let them treat me like shit or I leave. Made my life happy. I see them for short visits only. No Holidays.
Like a playwright, you are in charge of casting the characters in your story. This train of thought has simplified my life. Thank you for this content... most people simply give too many f's
the past few days i have been encoutered by a lot of people that ticks me out. thanks to the algorithm that this video shows up at my home page, thanks sir
I used to work in a school district where there are many drama queens and they support each other in their pathology. I avoided them as much as possible and learned to have answers ready then walk away. You can never ever win an argument. The best you can do is defend your actions then walk away. Sometimes I would say ,”oh ok then” followed by an exit. I think I really irritated them but what else could I do.
Problem with this advice is that there are those of that are accused of being a drama queen, but we are not. We are only telling the truth, and have been singled out by a few people to be screwed over.
12:20 distancing yourself from negative people doesn't mean you hate them, it's just looking out for your wellbeing. Yeah, that's true - love your neighbor as yourself and what's always overlooked is AS YOURSELF. You have to love yourself and treat yourself rightly before you can treat others the same so treat yourself well and move away from those who don't. Really nice, helpful video. Thanks
I loved these, you have no idea. The naysayer one really woke me up and made me laugh. It's great that you're not just listening and explaining problems, you're giving really helpful advice along with it, thank you.
