I really enjoy that every week I don't know what type of video you will give us. It's a bit like a wrapped present, always a bit of surprise. I really enjoyed this one, but I enjoy them all.
@@Caroline_Winkler I'm a new subscriber - it's so easy to binge watch your videos you've uploaded, without getting bored with one particular topic. I totally agree with this comment! I think you're great at covering things that both your subscribers would enjoy, and you catch RU-vid trends pretty early it seems, to bring new subs over. Glad I was recommended your channel.
Grandmother here. Just have to say that knowing ourselves, figuring out who we are is a long journey. And that’s ok. Life is full of twists and turns. Just be true to you. Be kind to everyone. You eventually get to a place of peace. Comfort in your own skin. Enjoy the process. And if we are lucky we have friends like Caroline to enjoy the ride. 💜😊
Grandmother Lauren - i love this. thank you for sharing it. Enjoying the process seems so key, and so tough some times! thanks for sharing this sweet wisdom and reflection
Giirl...please continue to make videos like this. I'm always on the hunt for ways to feel better about myself 😂. I've taken notes and plan to check all of these out.
One of my absolute favorite youtubers to watch is Damon Dominique, he mostly makes travel related content but he dives into culture and stereotypes in such a real way, and also is just so entertaining as well. He speaks a lot about philosophy too, and all around makes beautifully filmed videos! A big big recommendation for everyone to check out
You and Paige Wassel are my absolute faves on RU-vid. Both of you have amazing aesthetics, but more than anything I love how genuine you both are. Definitely a breathe of fresh air, thanks for all you do and for letting us into your journey (: I learn so much from all your videos, super inspiring
I'll second this comment. 👌 the Disney Channel vs. Indie film comment was such a light bulb moment. I think to be in indie film in the land of Disney and succeed is too inspiring for words. To be able to hold someone's attention without flashy editing and bright colors and goofy voices...it makes me think it's possible. ❤️
Your first point about our jobs and identity and how you feel about it really resonated with me. My fancy job was nothing more than a signal to others that I had made it in some way. They didn't know that I cried every day, I wasn't very good at it, and that my boss treated me horribly. It just mattered that I got to say I was off to the World Bank or setting up a meeting with so and so ambassador. When I left to go back to teaching I didn't want to tell anyone. I felt like I wasted my fancy NYU degree and that I was giving up. BUT, as these stories go, it was the best decision ever. You're such a shining light Caroline. You could do any job and it still wouldn't be the most impressive thing about you. Let your heart and mind believe that! Thanks for another great video.
Ahh man that resonates 😑❤️ and wow so glad that it ended up being the best decision you ever made🥲 (I mean of course it was! But still, just love to hear that. Ps. Jinx on getting a fancy pointless NYU degree. Girl I majored in “drama”. LOL
@@Caroline_Winkler I grew up in the "those who can't, teach" era so it was really hard to wrap my brain around identifying as a teacher even though I loved it and it made me happy. I think what I've learned is that the joyful people don't care what their life looks like from the outside, they just carry on with what brings them joy. That's what I want! And I legit don't know where my degree is! I'm thankful for it but I also think I lost it :)
I worked years to finally get an executive position in the nonprofit world. Loved the mission, hated the job. Enjoyed the accolades my friends and family gave me for achieving my goal but not enough to stay. I left for another job but got laid off during pandemic. Returned to prior org where I was formerly COO and now I’m a consultant writing their grants, working remotely, and living life for me! Success is never a straight road and often ends up being something you never imagined. 🤗
Wow “success often ends up being something you never imagined” - I love that and completely agree. I don’t think we’re good at guessing what will really make us happy and fulfilled!
@@LW0214 I think leaving a mission based job is extra hard. Like, I still care about the work my non profit did, I just couldn't work there anymore. I feel like there's a stigma though once you leave. I'm so glad you're living your best best life and truly finding success on your terms. And bless you for writing those grants, I hated that :)
Funny, I have to mention this…you mentioned Paige Wassel, and it was through watching her videos how I learned about you. She recommended following you and how you are talented and that’s how I discovered you and never stopped watching you. You both are extremely talented and I enjoy watching you guys. I had no idea you followed her too. That’s so sweet you both admire each other
ahh i love that! i really think she's one of the most inventive people on the internet. great to watch even for those who aren't into interior design, IMO
I never get excited about an influencer or RU-vidr putting out a video but I can honestly say if you had 100s of videos I’d happily watch them all. I really felt for you when you mentioned the bit about getting respect for being a coder and not an artist. As a society we put too much pressure on job titles, for what? That’s not what makes us dignified and valuable, it’s our actions, and morality that do, in my opinion at least 🤷🏽♀️
I love that you are genuinely annoyed by things on your videos. Most youtubers are so over happy and over positive when they film themselves it makes the viewer think that something is wrong with him. I love that you are real, you do not smile all the time, you are pissed off by things of the day to day life, you are just a real person with positive and negative emotions and this is reassuring to watch. Have a good day!
I just discovered you through your viral video and watched the vlog where you mentioned how this other video has performed really poorly... I had to come look at it. Girl, you did a great job. I could feel the passion you have for the content pieces you recommended and convinced me to go check them out. Funny enough one of my least watched videos is exactly the same topic as this one and I also didn't understand what I did wrong. No matter how much work and passion we put into our videos, sometimes they just don't perform well. Loved your reasoning around it in that vlog. I also recently made a video that got me to my first million views on a video and it's definitely not one of the best I have on the channel 🤷♀ Your home organization video instead is a masterwork! You'll improve so many daily lives with it, mine included. Sending some love from Udine, Italy.
Ditto and I too think you did an awesome job and would love to see more of these please. I love your style and the editing that goes into your videos. There is a lot of work here as I’m learning as I go at doing this myself, thanks for setting the bar higher for me. I too love the dried roses and I keep them in beautiful handmade ceramic platters and bowls after they are fully dried, not pulled apart like potpourri but full without the stem. I look forward to checking out some of your suggestions here and wonder do you get much time to watch Netflix etc as would love to here some shows your enjoying. Keep up the great work. P.S @What a shame Mary Jane I will also go and check your channel out too. 🌻
This girl is on the right track in her life and that always makes me happy to see in another young person. This topic especially lights her up. Such a beautiful thing to share with us, passion + positive content. Thank you.
I’m here to back her re-framing point for you! As someone who reads a lot but it’s usually just fluff, I need to spend more time learning. The act of reading itself isn’t the important thing at all
I absolutely love to read, fiction, non fiction, mysteries, romance, history, all of it. But there are plenty of times when I’m reading and thinking, “this would be more pleasant, easier to understand, or simply better if it were a skit, comic strip, 3 minute video, anything other than words formatted in a book format 😂.
Haven’t even watched the entire video yet but just wanted to say thank you for being real. I’m having a rough week and this channel / video came right on time. 😌
omg, I have to tell you that I found both Page and you at around the same time and it felt like the universe had finally listened and recommended some real-people content I had been craving 🤗.... I have both a google nest and an alexa so that is most likely what literally happened 😒
Hello ! When I heard you said that you put a lot of efforts into THIS video and people didn't even bother to check it out that got my curiosity!!!😉😄 And it was, excellent.. !!!! So I am going right now to suscribebto the ones ressources that speak to me personally: Page Wassel, Adam Grant and How I build this. Thank you for those awesome ressources!!!!
My favorite book relating to Buddhism is titled Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change by Pema Chödrön. I've struggled during times of change (even the most seemingly minor changes) all of my life. This book has really helped me to KEEP my shit together or at least GET my shit back together during those times of change. I'm still not a fan of change but I'm better able to handle it.
Another podcast suggestion I feel like you would love would be “How to Fail with Elizabeth Day” ! She interviews famous, successful people…specifically about their failures. It’s such an inspiring podcast because it really highlights the painful and difficult parts of people’s journeys who you would otherwise think of primarily for their highlight reel.
Yes! I left a prestigious sounding job in streaming media to work for a nonprofit that helps kids with autism and mental health. I took a pay cut, but got a huge boost to my self worth! 🖤
The different ways your brain activates when you learn from reading vs hearing or seeing does have value. Working those muscles is important. But yes if you need to absorb most info a certain way, that's the best way for you. But still working on your weaknesses is important vs dismissing reading as a "never" for you.
It helps if you make notes, too (if your learning is academic, rather than something just for you). The different actions, together, help fix the new information into your working memory. Something similar can be done whilst listening to information, otherwise students would never learn anything in a lecture!
Sorry people missed out on this video! FOR me, as one that missed it, I did not get a notification from YOUTUbe! It was not YOUR Fault it was RU-vid'S algorithm messing up your numbers! They need a talking to!. Hang in there, love!
Hi Caroline, I enjoy listening to you and your take on life. You're a thoughtful kind person, somewhat like myself. I wish when I was a young girl, teen, 20 something we'd had as much info available about whats "normal". I always felt like somekind of weirdo or outlier. Most females were too afraid to speak their truth, and yep I am talking about being a teen in the 60s. Anyway keep doing what you're doing, you do it well. I ESPECIALLY LOVE your honesty around your fear and self doubt, please dont ever stop telling your truth. BTW, Im going to stick my neck out and go against the crowd. Not a fan of Paige Wassel, her surly, unamused unfriendly attitude is a turn off, Her design ideas aren't anything new.
Caroliiiiiine!!! You’re a brilliant human. Love you and you’re refreshing my RU-vid subscriber feed no end. Hey what star sign are you? Will help me make more sense. Thanks a mill! Keep up being authentically you
YES! the tangent about reading and the vehicle of which info gets into ur brain! ive never been able to put this into words!! But I have felt pissed off when ppl have told me to read more. But i havent been able to kno why i felt so pissed. like give me a flicking break, i am still learning i jus dont use my eyes with words with pages very well. So Yes Caroline u angel, u hit it on the head Learning>Vehicle of info. did i even sum it up right hehe lmao nvm 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I clean houses. People ask why? Because I speak 5 languages and used to work with tourists and I like it, but I love cleaning, it's like meditation for me. It's fulfilling and it feels great when I'm done also.
I loved this so much - I am a fellow interior designer and love to hear what’s inspiring and motivating others not just in design, but in life. I’m not a huge reader myself, but someone recommended this book to me and I think you would love it too… 101 essays to change the way you think by Briana Wiest. So many mic drop perspectives it’s honestly mind blowing… I always reach for it when I need to get out of my own way/head!
Your adorable!! That “spaced out” scene made me laugh so hard. God…u made my day today. Had a super lonely day and your vid on loneliness was excellent too! Where do I send money?? 😂
Love this kind of video! I feel very similar when I read Buddhist stuff. It's like giving myself permission to be okay with not being okay all the time.
Paused your newest video to come comment on this one and say I loved it! I just found your videos yesterday and have been bingeing them while I pack up my place to move. Can't wait to continue while I decorate the new place! You're like a pal keeping me company while I do chores. Also, I've never commented on a RU-vid video ever, so here we are. THANK YOU, YOU RULE. \m/
How you learn is the best way for you…. My daughter is a reader, her best friend is a listener. Both get to the same point, just different on ramps to that information.
I'm at a point in my life where I'm hesitating between choosing a career for the passion and meaning that will change something in this world, or choosing a career I excel at, for good money, that will give me the lifestyle I'm aiming for. These suggestions will for sure help me to start my decision process. Thank you Caroline ❤️
Your transparency, and realistic understanding of…all the things is incredibly refreshing and it’s everything I want to listen to. Thank you for being real ❤️
I am so happy that I just discovered your channel! Loved everything you discussed! We are all just walking each other home on this human adventure! To share love and inspiration is such a wonderful gift! Namaste'!
I grew up Zen Buddhist (Rinzai Zen to be exact) and watch your videos every weekend when I paint my nails :) it brings me a lot of joy to see these philosophies reaching you and supporting you. I hope you find what you're searching for, though to take a truly Zen stance on it would be to insist on the illusory nature of the idea of "self" at all :P If you are ever interested in doing some reading on the social/cultural history of Buddhism in the US, I would highly recommend Chenxing Han's "Be the Refuge."
You are a very sweet human too, Paige...in your own unique way. I love you both and I totally agree with Caroline in her appreciation of you and your work.
I found your channel when Paige mentioned you in one of her vids ! Y’all are the only people I watch on RU-vid now🙂 thank you for the wonderful videos !
I found you through Paige's recommendation (love her style too!) and I follow Adam Grant he makes me feel better about life!!! Big yes to this video. Especially the love part (as someone who had to leave a great love behind in another country ) anyway..... I enjoyed this video, hope that even though its not a top performer on your channel that you make more like this.
Caroline, it is crazy how much you open my eyes and my mind in each vlog! I learn so much from you -but not in a weird patronizing / guru-like way. It rather feels like you are a friend and we're having a stay over party the two of us, it s in the middle of the night and the tireness and the alcohol makes us speak more freely. God, where am I going with that ??😂😂 To be short, I feel like you are so genuine, so curious about life and so clever that you just speak the truth without filter nor fear. It is so reassuring to see that I am not alone struggling but also that I can take you as a model of kindness and truth. And now I'll just hope I did not scare you with my weird message 🙈😂 Take care and keep up the good work Girl 💪💪👋
❤️🥺I’m so glad that the conversation resonates. It’s a huge gift to ME to find other people who relate, and it means so much to me to find that connection. Thanks to YOU friend ❤️❤️
Your videos are very wise and refreshing. Keep them coming! I’m 60 years old and struggled my entire life with motivation and procrastination. Your videos are honestly helping. This really great content. Thank you
I have never heard of Paige Wassel, I'm excited to watch her, and I will definitely follow Adam Grant, thank you so much for putting all the links in the description, it takes a lot of work to do that and I appreciate it
Hey Guru, you had some impressive wisdom of your own: learning is important but how it gets in your head is just the tool (book reading vs listening). And I love steak, which will NEVER be about the fork!😉😁👍
All excellent info! The reading books comment though, I needed to hear. My brother reads several books a month, good for him, whatever. You know when someone has a mirror and they’re bouncing the light’s reflection into your eyes? That’s what being ADD and trying to read is for me, read a couple sentences…distraction, read the same couple sentences again…distraction, repeat…
I believe it's pronounced WAH-SUL based off of watching Paige's videos. I love her dry and sarcastic humour! Somehow I knew she would make it into your recommendations :)
"My intelligence didn't change from being an actor to a computer coder"...absolute genius...love your mind Caroline. Also, I am curious, like to read, and explore the world around me; but, my dream was to be a Robin Williams-esque "Good Morning Vietnam" type radio personality. There's still hope. :)
I'm so grateful I found your channel. For me you are definitely up there in inspiration and I for sure get the same vibes as you with Jess. It's like talking to a best friend with you, so thank you.
I completely resonate with your point about a glorified career that you're unhappy with. I graduated with an Industrial Engineering degree, and somehow it sort of became my identity to my family and relatives where I get lots of compliments. When I decided I didn't want to pursue anything related to my degree, my family hated the idea. Some part of me loves the attention when they regard me as an engineer, but honestly what is an Industrial engineer even? hahahaha. Plus, the pay suck. Now I'm stuck with a very early identity crisis in my life trying to figure out what I actually want. God it feels good to write that all down hahaha. Your channel is my favorite by the way! Keep doing you!
Okay thankyooouuuu. Reading books is NOT a virtue! Amen. Lol. I just learned this a month ago. I have always been a slow reader and always felt bad about it. Trying and never finishing books. This year I started listening to audiobooks…. What?!? Why did nobody tell me this before. Haha anyways yes thankyou. I relate on so many of these things and interests 🥰
Just watched your 8/13/22 vlog about how this video 👆🏻 didn’t get watched by many people and your “This is why your home is a mess” is going viral. First of all Yay 🥳 and congrats on the viral video. I love the variety of your videos. Your design work is inspiring and has literally motivated me to make our rental space feel more like home. I usually watch on my Apple TV, but wanted to hop on my phone app and give this video some comment love. I wish you all the success! Keep being you and we’ll be here to cheer you on.
That moment when you zoned out for a solid 30 seconds... I really liked it. It shows that you are a real person, and was very relatable. Keep up the good work. I really enjoy all of your videos.
I am sooo sorry I did not watch this video earlier. Thank you! I related very much to a few of your points. I feel like had I been exposed to these bits as a younger woman, my life might have taken a different direction. I regret nothing but also wonder always.
Hey Caroline! Just started watching your videos. You’re so fun to watch! :D I just paused your video at the Adam Grant section because I needed to let you know that I started as a programmer and then tried acting! Haha. I was good at coding and bad at acting. But I didn’t really enjoy either of them. Neither expressed my interests or values. Now I’m a psychotherapist. The difference in how my work energizes me is like night and day! Doing something we don’t love for work is like if we’re all chewing bitter pills for our daily nutrition and collectively concluded that eating is just something everyone has to do throughout the day to stay alive. Work should fuel you! Even now, I end every working day energized, but I still go into them apprehensive because our culture and my past experience tell me to fear effortful work :/ Isn’t that awful? Oh yeah I’m also into the dead flowers in your background! Maybe it’s the juxtaposition of the visual vibrance and the..deathiness? 😂
Omg Caroline, I already related to you in so many ways, and then you say you are a coder as well! That's crazy. I'm constantly struggling with this self-image and the perceptions around focussing more on my creative side. Can I ask what kind of coder you are? :D I do Android Development ;) Have a wonderful weekend!
Love your videos. Love how opinionated you are. I'm a reader, rather than a listener so haven't got into podcasts but know I'm in the minority. Really enjoying the mix of videos you're making. Hi from Australia 🇦🇺
Hi girl! I love your channel. I struggled for so long with the "who am I? " thing. I turned to Buddhism and Hinduism and yoga for years. I always felt great for a little while. Clarity would come in waves. Then I heard someone say "if you're the problem, then you can't also be the solution." that really stuck with me and it kind of flew in the face of all that I had learned. I then started reading different types of books. One of them was by Allie Beth Stuckey 'you're not enough' it really spoke to me in a lot of ways. I highly recommend it. God bless!
C.A.R.O.L.I.N.E!! You always make my day. I so wish your videos lasted an hour but I can only imagine how much work that would entail. How about twice a week? Are you monetized yet? Hope so! We need more Caroline Winkler in our lives.
I am a huge fan, Caroline. You are so intelligent, thoughtful, witty and real. Love your flowers in the background. I would rather see realism than phony perfectionism. Ultimately, that is why I watch you.
00:54 📚 Adam Grant, an organizational psychologist and author, offers actionable insights backed by data on motivation, happiness, and work-life balance, making his Instagram a valuable resource. 02:22 🛣 Grant's advice emphasizes the importance of finding meaningful work aligned with personal values rather than seeking validation from others or societal expectations. 07:29 📈 "How I Built This" podcast shares the stories of successful entrepreneurs, emphasizing the journey's ups and downs, providing comfort in life's uncertainties, and inspiring perseverance. 10:05 🖌 Paige Wassel's RU-vid channel offers insightful interior design critiques, showcasing her original thinking and artistic approach beyond conventional design norms. 13:48 🕊 "When You Greet Me, I Bow" by Norman Fischer offers reflections on Zen philosophy, emphasizing the importance of appreciating mundane moments and releasing attachment to outcomes. 18:46 🎙 "Peaking Podcast" explores personal growth through life's challenges, providing perspective and humor in navigating difficult times.
We each have a distinct learning style so no shame that you don't prefer reading - hey, you like to learn and that's a key to growth and experience. So yay for you!
Freakin love ya. Another great video. Fellow ex-NYC actor constantly seeking personal growth here too. I’m at a cool point in my life where I’ve realized I don’t have to (re)marry and no longer want kids so I’m really pretty jazzed about what hopefully is a nice long life of trying to get through books (yeah also a slow-reader too).
Ahh I love hearing about those revelations for you. “I’m really pretty jazzed” is like…the best possible state. I feel like that’s the whole goal❤️❤️❤️🙌
