Routines for ADHD that ACTUALLY WORK! 🌛☀️ (Morning/Night routines) 

“anything worth doing is also worth doing half assed” changes my life. brushing ur teeth for 10 seconds is better than 0 seconds, etc. apply that to everything

I think this is one of those things neurotypicals don't know is an issue for us, so to them it feels like explaining how to walk.

Also! If you have a menstrual cycle....factor this into routines! We are in our lowest phase between around 3-5 days before and then during our period. Try stating anew after your period and run with it until around day 23. Then wind some stuff down and let yourself REST on your period. This has been life changing for me. I have more gains and more sustainability with I "plan" to hibernate on my period as much as possible. We also have lower dopamine during our periods so less focus, less drive.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

I do this too! I call it a "traffic light routine", meaning I have 3 versions of the same routine- one for "green" days when I have optimal energy, "yellow" days when I still can function but need to be mindful so I don't burn myself out, and "red" days when I have minimal energy. It helps so much to take the mental work out of what needs to be done, and I feel less guilt because I'm still meeting my standards for myself and making sure everything gets done

Legitimately burst out crying when you said "just feeding yourself is a win." I honestly cannot remember the last time I woke up with high energy, and average energy days are also very uncommon right now, so every day is a low energy day. I've been beating myself up about not being able to get anything done...but I am feeding myself. I've forgotten that's a win on its own. Thank you ❤️

This will probably disappear in the comments but I just want to put it out there how helpful this video was for me. When I started watching it, I thought "well, I already do that..." but by the end of the video it dawned on me that I don't have it *organized* in lists. And that might seem like a small detail, but I just realized it's not - because even though I have my ideal routine stablished and allow myself to skip parts of it when I don't feel like it, having it pre-decided alleviates so much of the GUILT of skipping part of it. Because this way it's a PLAN, I *am* following the routine even though it's the least energy one. Because the way I've been doing, deciding on the spot what is going to happen and what it's not, feels like NOT doing it, feels like failing. This is a change in mindset I've been needing so I thank you for that!

Timestamps bc I'm ADHD and I wanted to get to the main talking points: Basically having a to-do list doesn't work because our brains have varying levels of dopamine throughout the week, and we should have various routines ready for ourselves depending on energy level/ability to execute: 3:31 The Honeyman Method 4:41 The Ideal Morning Routine 6:39 The Most-Likely Routine 8:32 The Minimum Routine

My ten year old daughter - still in the process of being diagnosed but there is no doubt in my mind she has ADHD - was sitting in front of the screen watching this video, eyes wide in disbelief because it seemed like you had been in our home watching her struggle with (and huge love for) perfect routines. She took notes, nodding in agreement and was so thrilled that finally she felt like someone explained a better way for her type of brain. It was the cutest, most heart-warming thing her ADHD mom watched all day 😉 Thank you so much for sharing this! ❤

The “leaving my phone in the bathroom” part was the smartest thing ive ever heard. Growing up I was never taught the simple habits of brushing your teeth/washing your face/etc., so trying to get myself into those routines as an adult with ADHD have been really difficult. I tried leaving my phone in the bathroom, kept my alarm set, and it made getting out of bed and getting those simple tasks done so much easier. Thank you for sharing ❤

First of all, I'm obsessed with this comment section. Y'all are some beautiful souls: deeply empathetic and loving. Thank you all for reminding me that I'm not the only person who struggles. ❤ I'm 38 and suffer from (literally) ADHD, depression, and anxiety (Medicated for all 3). I have recently become quite obsessed with "creating and implementing routines". I tend to hyperfocus on different interests, and my current season is very much focused on habits, routines, minimalism, decluttering, cleaning, and personal development. I find cleaning and organizing to be very challenging for me, so I purposely engage my hyperfocus onto it, and it's really been helping me. I've always struggled with disorganization; I am a "piler". I defer decisions by setting them down, then clutter begets clutter, and you know what happen next. Messy, disorganization, chaos, clutter. After the birth of my second son, I deeply struggled with housekeeping. I consider myself an aspiring minimalist, as I am slowly doing the work, but it's actually changing my brain. I realized that maybe, just maybe, I'm not just messy and lazy... maybe I have TOO MUCH STUFF. So, although my depression and ADHD make it hard to sit and declutter (I definitely feel the decision fatigue), I feel SO. MUCH. BETTER. in a simplified environment. It's unbelievable. My children (both neurodivergent, as well) are thriving with less, too! Anyway, I loved this video and will absolutely be implementing this style. I'm a new sub! 😊❤

That's the ADHD advice I always give people, but you put it concisely. Work WITH IT - not against it. So much of our life is trying to do what people without ADHD do. BUT THAT IS INSANE. If we could do that stuff, we wouldn't have ADHD. Do it "your" way, and be proud it's your own.

I'm a therapist with ADHD. I will definitely apply this to myself, but there are so many clients who I know this will help them tremendously. Thank you.

Started crying when you said just the thought of brushing your teeth felt like it was impossible some days because God do I relate🙏🏻 thank you for your video 💕

This is also so very applicable for dynamic disabilities/chronic illness and also just for women in general because women with hormonal cycles will have different energy levels (for me, vastly different) at different times in our cycles! I'll have to think about this more but this is so so helpful.

I do this a lot subconsciously on my low days, but I've never thought of the difference between an average and high motivation day. I'm so glad that this was recommended to me! I've been working towards having a good routine, but I don't plan for different types of days, so when I differentiate to a lower energy routine, I always feel guilty because "I could do this just fine yesterday"

I have no clue if I have adhd, but I do struggle with depression, waking up with anxiety and procrastination - I love the way you approached this. I think the biggest takeaway is learning to accept and honour every stage of your being, since for most of us, it usually feels like a constant war with our minds.

"I feel like ass..." So happy to hear that I'm not the only one that has that description for those low energy days. Thanks for sharing this life hack. Hope is alive!!

Legit just cried tears of relief after marking my 3 types of routines for both morning and night….. It’s the first time I’m giving myself permission to feel successful even on low motivation/energy days.

Wow, the internalized guilt and negative self talk I had from not being consistent with a routine literally melted away from watching your video. Truly life changing, thank you!!! ❤❤❤

First off: I love this idea. As someone with ADHD who has tried (and failed) multiple times to construct and stick to a routine, this way of looking at things is very insightful. I'm in the process of making another routine attempt that has met with some small success, but perhaps incorporating this will help it stick more firmly. I do have one other suggestion to add, based on my own personal experience. When building routines, really evaluate whether something should be part of a routine for YOU, or whether you're just including it in your routine because you "ought to." For instance, I stopped wearing makeup about five years ago. One day it just struck me: I didn't like wearing it (I had NEVER liked it, even as a teen), it was a hassle to put on, and it was just as much hassle to take off. I was only wearing makeup to people please, not because I felt it added any value to my life. So I decided it no longer deserved to be part of my daily routine and stopped (except for special occasions and dates with my husband). The energy I used to put into my makeup routine is no longer being wasted, and can now be redirected into things I actually WANT to do in the morning. Same with laundry: one day, I realized that there was no reason to fold my pajamas. I don't wear them out in public, and they're going to get wrinkled anyway. So I just toss them in my pajama drawer straight from the dryer. Now my erstwhile pajama-folding energy can be repurposed for other chore tasks. So when you're building your routines, make sure you're only including stuff that really matters to YOU, personally. That way, you don't waste your very precious, sometimes limited energy on things you don't even care about.

this is also an excellent present mindfulness exercise - i think a lot of my issues with my neurodivergence comes from me not ever giving myself a dedicated chance to check in with how I am feeling right at this moment so making it a point for you to do that as soon as you wake up so you can figure out which routine is manageable for you that day is literally something I have never even thought of doing! like, opening your eyes from sleep and first thing asking yourself every morning "how are you feeling and realistically how is your current energy level going to affect your next move after you get out of bed?" I like it and I will definitely try implementing this!

When you said you DONT do your ideal routine on a relatively consistent basis i teared up.. i feel at home here. Just found this video on my recommended page, time to subscribe

I did my routine the other way around, starting with deep depression days. Deciding what needs to happen, even if everything feels impossible, and then building up to days where I can do things like leave the house and do the groceries to make (higher quality) meals. Your viewpoint is much more positive, I need to reevaluate my routines for winter anyway and will try to rebuild them this way. I will also write them out and tape them to the bathroom door as a reminder.

This is super interesting. I basically already have a "minimum" routine for the low-energy days because I needed one to function, but I always sort of flounder when I have more energy. I'm never quite sure what to do with it and I stress out about choosing the wrong thing and wasting that precious energy. I think deciding on an intentional routine for higher-energy days could be really useful so I waste less energy on decision fatigue and just Go Do Things because they're already listed out.

I have to admit - you literally blew my mind... I created a perfect routine with a little side note that if I am not okay this particular day I can do nothing or a few of this list - but it did not work out... I always felt guilty about not doing something, but right now? I created three routines as you suggested and now the only thing I have to do every morning is simply ask myself how am I doing and choose a correct routine. Absolutely amazing, thank you for telling about this! 💜

I am almost 38 and just got diagnosed. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I have been struggling my whole life without knowing what was "wrong" with me. Nothing is wrong, I just don't know my needs.

Perfect timing on this one. Just diagnosed with ADHD a week ago at 33. I’m on these early steps of my journey now. Thank you!

Oh my gosh, I do this and it works so well! By the way, my minimum routine is just feeding myself and doing my bathroom routine - BUT - I have a breakfast bar in my room to make everything easier (with an electric kettle, instant oatmeal, tea, bread, and a toaster). And I can do my whole bathroom routine while sitting on the toilet. Luckily, the toilet is next to the sink. I brush my teeth and change my underwear (sorry, TMI), which I keep next to the toilet. I have chronic pain and severe depression, but I still end up fed and relatively clean every day!

I am feeling overwhelmed. I am not diagnosed with ADHD (yet?), but your simple trick of watching the video at 1.5 speed made an incredible difference !!!

Your minimum day is more than my everyday 💀💀💀💀

For peeps with ADHD she finally starts getting to the point at 4:25

For me it honestly also made a huge difference to write down the routine down on pretty paper. I feel like it sounds like that won't make a difference, but honestly before I kept trying to keep track of my routine wishes in my head and I didn't get through a day. And just scribbling it down also doesn't feel right with me, 'cause my handwriting isn't great when I don't put in any effort and looking at it doesn't make me so happy, but when I see that little sheet of paper that I painted myself to match my morning or evening energy & carefully wrote in my best handwriting, it motivates me, because it reminds me of the effort I put in when I worked this routine out for myself (& because it looks pretty).

You described me to the T. Some days I don’t want to do ANYTHING, other days I climb mountains. I’m just understanding I have ADHD and Autism and my brains behavior makes a lot more sense. My routines have completely changed with the shut down and now I feel like my ADHD takes over and does whatever it feels like that day. My main thing now is not to fell guilty of the down days, just embrace them.

This sounds so simple and yet actually achievable, splitting your routine in different versions for different energy levels! I'd love to try this out, thanks for inspiring me 💕

My Ultra Minimum routine: 1) ADHD or other meds plus water by bed to take first thing (can also set alarm to take them then snooze so they have a chance to kick in). Second alarm I have to walk to to turn off or I'll snooze forever. 2) Toiletries and to-do list made the night before on counter next to toilet so I can multi-task - witch hazel on cotton ball instead of washing face, wet wipes for armpits and crotch. 3) Pony tail, hat, or dry shampoo. 4) Put on clothes laid out the night before. 5) Grab items placed in *front* of the door the night before and/or follow instructions on note attached to door knob for what to retrieve elsewhere. My keys, bag, and jacket are always in the same place so (mostly!🙃) automatic. 6) Eat breakfast in car or at desk - use dental picks and xylitol gum after every meal and floss and brush very thoroughly before bed (no cavities for years, and my dental hygienist loves me. Others' results may vary ; - ). --- When I have longer (EDIT: and it's VERY important that I be on time/the stars are aligned ; - ): - pre-committing to getting all the way ready *first* before any extras & putting up visual reminders that I'm doing so for ME so I can have a happier, less stressful life < : - ) - a hard copy list of my essentials-plus routine in my eye line to help resist getting distracted (things like shower, makeup, review to-dos, review driving directions, look for messages ONLY from 1st appointment of the day, etc...) - visual timer in front of me at all times that includes commute time so I can *see* if I'm making myself late (I use a 2-hour one for getting ready and a 60 minute one for Pomodoro-like work sprints.) - Doing non-essentials only after I'm already walk-out-the-door ready except for shoes (eating breakfast at home, minor chores, journaling, internet...🤩>😵‍💫the ultimate rabbit hole) - Setting a Leave Now alarm the night before that allows time for wrapping things up and a *realistic* commute with an Early Arrival buffer (it FEELS. SO. MUCH. BETTER. to start the day with calm instead of frantic lateness and self-recrimination!!!) - Setting a SECOND Leave Now alarm the night before to really leave *right now* since I can easily get distracted while wrapping things up. D'oh! ; - D #metacognition for the win! When I finally said NO MORE to internalized shame from people who have no clue how hard ADHD really is and reframed these kinds of things as hacks I do for ME it made all the difference. We deserve to ENJOY our lives, and sometimes forcing myself to do boring habits until they feel less unnatural is worth it. *Temptation Bundling, Habit Stacking, and visual reminders and encouragement have helped a LOT.* < : - ) I'd be curious to hear others' game changing tips. Best wishes! 🌈🌱🌿💐🍀💖

THANK YOU I needed this badly. I'm a grown-ass woman who can't seem to get her shit together for more than a day or two at a time, and I have often felt like such a failure. My recent ADHD diagnosis has helped me understand a bit more about why I do what I do (and don't do what I don't do), but that knowledge hasn't turned into a useful strategy. I love this plan. I would LOVE to see your nighttime minimum/usual/ideal routines, and hell, if you've got something for exercising I'd love to have that example as well. Clearly my own routines wouldn't be the same as yours, but an example would help me build my own. You rock! I so appreciate this post!

I’m absolutely convinced that the perfect routine will make my whole life better. I’ve spent so much of my time making my schedule and my morning/night routines.

THIS IS FLIPPING BRILLIANT! YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I NEEDED TO SEE THIS TODAY!

Wow! Can you do a follow up with an example of some night routines, maybe even lunch or cleaning or grocery shopping, with this same format?

Before absorbing your suggestions, I wanted to comment: Diagnosed ADHD at 39, I’ve been suspecting I’m actually AuDHD / Autistic with a PDA profile (even before ‘demand avoidance’ became a recent buzz term) Lists don’t work because not only does my brain feel like the task’s been done once written down, I won’t do what the paper is yelling at me to do. It has helped to create an in-my-face jumble of tasks - and I get things done by glancing at the jumble, allowing my brain to latch on and feel that “should” about one thing… but then avoid it like the plague by doing any number of other things in that jumble. This kind of appeases that avoidance whilst also appeasing my random-loving autonomy, remaining responsible and task-accomplishing in a different way. It, does, not, make, sense - and that, THAT is why it works for my autonomy-needing brain. ✨✊✨

I thank you so much for sharing this!! Gonna start your approach tomorrow morning!

Yes, all this! I’m a homemaker/housewife and I’ve been really happy with it except for the routine part. And you can adjust what you normally do- like cleaning is really important to me so I can do a basic clutter reset at minimum and stretch and then small getting ready. And a TINY to do list or a high level to do list based on how I feel. I love this so much! This is fantastic. Thank you!

I am almost in tears, this is exactly what I needed as someone who craves routine but whose ADHD can't maintain it. Thank you so much!

I think I’ve done this intuitively the last few years as an audhd’er. The REAL challenge is when you have multiple kids with ADHD who you’re also trying to support with their fluctuations in energy and daily routines on top of your own.. the struggle is real!

Love this so gentle & refreshing. Thank you ❤

This is probably going to change my life, and I appreciate this so much!! This is amazing.

this is really helpful. I've been in a deep rut lately and several waves of depression stemming from a lot of perfectionism. One of the many ways perfectionism shows up for me is in trying new things that will help me. Journaling, routines, just self care in general. If I journal and forget to do a day because i'm not feeling it or I'm not doing the format perfectly, I'll feel like I failed because I'm not consistent and won't want to do it again. Same with my routine. If I haven't woken up and done all the things I "should" do in the morning (ie get out of the bed at a "decent" time, get dressed, do my make up, eat, walk, etc), then I just feel like I can't do routines. And honestly that has got me stuck rn in a depression loop where I just don't truly do any self care and get into a constant burnout trying to be perfect. My new goal is just remove that feeling that I need to do things the "right" way and just celebrate the fact that I did it. If anything what I'd like to do consistently is just celebrate myself trying my best.

I’ve been doing this for a while and one extra thing I use to make things easier for myself is one of the sliding task boards so once I’ve done a step I can slide the thingy over to say that I’ve done it. This has the benefit of the dopamine of recognising that a task is done, but also helps me know what to do next when my brain is still struggling with executive functioning.

I am so excited by this. Thank you so much for this!! I literally felt a weight lifted off my shoulders thinking about this. For the first time in my life i feel excited about and capable of keeping a routine. Let's gooooooo

this video is golden. genuinely, thank you.

Your description of your lowest moment mornings reflects what my life has been like with routines. I truly thought that was typical until this video.Your description of a very bare bones of just fueling yourself usually feels like the most I'm ever able to accomplish. My bare bones is not getting out of bed until dinner time. I have really bad decision fatigue, extremely low frustration tolerance, and extreme rejection sensitive dysphoria that I'm trying to manage as an adult but I often feel hopeless

This was mega helpful! Also I chuckled at the 1.5x speed when I'm watching at 2.5x speed. Definitely need to make this since I have way more minimum days when working remotely.

Genius concept. I didn't think of having multiple versions of a routine. I felt like a failure for not having the motivation to spring out of bed, and make myself look and feel my best, while also getting to work on time. I think I have adhd too. This makes so much sense to me. Thank you!

as an audhd'er i feel understood and this is the only video i've seen so far that has actually helped me. Thank you!!

Hi Hayley😊 and anyone reading this message. WARNING: Very lenghty message ahead but bear with me, it’s worth it! I’d love to have your input on that: for fellow spoonies (spoon theory for people who might not know),the different variations of the routines could be divided into the number of spoons. The highest energy routine would be based on the highest number of spoons, the average would be the number of spoons you tend to have in general and the third variation, the lowest number of spoons you’ve had. For example, my highest numbers of spoons variates between 9 and 10; my average is between 5 1/2 to 6 and a half and my lowest of lows is 1 spoon. Therefore, my ideal routine would be for days that I have 7 to 10 spoons; my average routine would be associated to 4 1/2 to 6 1/2 spoons and my lowest, 1 to 3 spoons. I hope my explanation makes sense or helped somebody😊 Also, thank you very much for your videos @Hayley❤❤❤ they really help me be more forgiven with myself and find different systems. P.S: quick reminder for anyone who needed to hear this, just keep doing your best! I know how frustrating it can be but I’m sure you got this! You’ve been through a lot and you’re still here!!! I believe in you❤ remember to take deep breaths

Woah woah woah as soon as I hit the 2x speed thing the message that I can do that exact thing if I want showed up that was surreal

Thank you for this! I struggle so much trying to do a "perfect" routine and fail so much. I'm using this method this year!

your the 1st person i have seen woth a legit routine(s) that benefit the different moods of adhd. im definitely sharing this video.

this seems so easy & intuitive, and yet the simple act of _writing it out_ makes me feel less anxiety & guilt for my neurodivergent needs. it makes achieving some semblance of consistency feel possible! thanks for this

great video! I think it's important to articulate neurodiversity includes *rigid thinking* - e.g., "I have to have the perfect xyz..." - this style of thinking can be incredibly limiting / perfectionist / self destructive - in any part of our lives (not just morning routines) keep up the great work!

I've never felt so seen 😭 It does seem so simple when it's explained out loud. The strangest thing is I've been operating like this already but chaotically and with shame. Can't wait to sit down and put some structure to my fluctuating levels. You are such a godsend and seem like such a sweetheart. Thank you so much for this. 💕

I love this!! I have struggled with this for years. I am now 30 and just learning to work with my energy by following my period cycles more closely, because I didn’t know any other solution. and this is going to make my life all the better! Thank you so much for sharing. This is awesome.

I love how accepting this was, and the notion of working *with* different energy levels rather than against it And i'm guessing on a low energy level some of the ideal list items can be made later during the day if the situation improves. For example making a bigger effort lunch or going for a longer walk with your dog later on (or maybe not since this would disrupt the routine)

Haley, I just want to say how much I value the work you have done. I feel like it can used not just for people with ADHD, but for people who can deal with depression. I deal with Bipolar and ADHD, so your videos and advice actively help me live my life.

I can’t believe no one has ever thought me this. Thank you so much! I can relate to so many things you said, and I’ll definitely give it a try

This literally actually blew my mind. I think this is gonna change everything for me thank you

I have dyspraxia. Something about this has clicked with me :) I am teaching myself to be satisfied if I've done something, anything, that involves the dishwasher and washing machine each day. Will apply this to a morning routine I think!

The phone charging in the bathroom, such a passing comment, but an absolute game changer for me. It would 1, force me to get out of bed instead laying n bed and scrolling. 2, remind me to brush my teeth bc i can easily get ready in the morning without stepping in there. Up until this comment I’ve ended up brushing my teeth at work… sometimes not remembering until my lunch break 😅

Thank God for you. I was having a HARD morning. Even felt anxious BECAUSE of the overloading - bearing thoughts of things to DO. This HAPPENED to pop up in my suggestions, so, I flowed with it and am SO glad I did. Sharing this with my mom who's Also Autistic/ADHD like you and me ~ THANK YOU.

This is seriously a life changing mindset. Thanks for sharing!

Thank you for putting that reminder at the start of your video that I can speed the video up! So helpful for people that don’t know or that forget it’s a option 😂 got distracted way less listening to it at 1.5x 🧡

This is an extremely good idea, and I will figure out my own version of it today. I not only have ADHD but also a rare sleep disorder that absolutely saps all my energy way more often than I'd like, so having multiple variations sounds perfect!

Thank you SO much!! I have spent SO many years of my life beating myself up about not having a routine & really longing for one. It's been my goal/resolution for the past 5 years to have a routine (but I've stressed about it for decades). I'm so excited to try this ND hack. Thank you! ❤

Just started watching your content and I didn't know there could be people who actually feel what I feel having adhd. This gives me so much relief!

I can’t put into words how glad I am that you posted this! Making my routines right now! 🎉

Thankful and so appreciative to hear similar perspectives that have helped you. taking note and making adjustments within my own routine of loose structures. So refreshing to hear similar struggles when I was taught the opposite growing up. Crazy connections too in the timing of your sharing these topics with how my life journey has been laid out. Thank you greatly for your vulnerability and empathy. You rule dudes 🤘🏽

I actually could cry. This is so helpful and life changing for me. Thank you so much ❤

I absolutely needed this video this morning. Thank you for being a kind and gentle creator. Your voice is soothing, your words are inspiring, and you are delightful. Thank you!!! ☺️🫶💛 -Madelyn

I'm so glad you just posted this. I'm having a low energy day and am feeling very guilty about not accomplishing the things I need to. I'll take some time to make some routines right now. ❤

Thank you for this. I've tried so many routines and apps for my adhd. What's worked for me is telling myself this is how i show love to myself, but taking care of my skin and teeth and hair and how i feel about myself. It's helped a lot as someone with self-esteem issues!

I just wanted to let you know how thankful I am for this video

I absolutely LOVE this!!! Thank you for creating and sharing! I’d love to see your 3 versions of your night routine to help with ideas on that side of things. Also, your voice is so calming and encouraging! Instant follow 😊

It really clicked for me when you said the emails, to do, and journalling take more *motivation*. I can think about ideals and different energy levels, but actually deciding on the tasks and knowing what fits is a very different procedure. I have to know the barriers to getting different things done, like fatigue levels, or as I'll explore next, motivation and interest.

I recently implemented this into my own life and holy crap, it feels really good. Giving yourself the grace and the flexibility to shift into a secondary routine or set is *so nice* for when you desire structure but can't maintain the same energy level day to day. It really changed my life for the better

This is actually the best routine video I've ever seen

As I have gotten older, I realized that routines are very helpful. They make me feel less stressed as I know what I need to do. The ideal to minimum routine lists are a great idea for the days you feel good and the days you feel bad. Thank you!

I love this. I literally cried from happiness at the end of the video. It’s like you’re given me something that totally makes sense and is completely logical, but if I came up with it would not have the same effect on me. It’s like you’ve given me permission to just be. It just feels so validating. Thank you. This video couldn’t have come at a better time, cause I’m just trying to build a routine for myself after having a depression episode. Thank you ❤

Thank you for this take and your personal experience and tips ❤❤❤ this is going to help me so much. I actually was trying to do this a while ago but I didn't get the realization I could create an average energy and low energy routine. Trying to stick to the ideal is definitely what created more frustration and resistance for me to continue with it. Your content has truly made a change for me in so many areas ❤

This is sheer brilliance!! I'm so glad it worked for you, and am thrilled it is working for me. Tysm!!!

Thank you so much Hayley for this video, I just got diagnosed with ADHD and in the spectrum at my 30yo, Im getting to learn so much about myself, and finding people who I can relate to, instead of feeling broken or lonely means a lot to me. Much love!!♥

It sounds so simple. And basic. But it's a great step by step explanation WITH examples. THAT is what makes this such a hit! Thank you! I bet this is useful for loads of people!

This advice just saved my life! And with the new year coming up I've been really wanting to get on a better routine, so this is perfect! I didn't realize how much I needed to hear the flexibility stuff. My brain takes everything literally, so in the past, when I tried to work out routines I had it in my head I needed to do EXACTLY that. Every day. Or it was a failure. And my ADHD always panics at that lol. My motivation levels fluctuate a lot, and are usually on the "meh" side, so I'm definitely going to make a routine with that in mind now, and I think it'll really help. I've been in a slump since last year, and it's been hard breaking out of it because of the side of me that craves order and normalcy. So it can be hard coming out of a depression when depression was your norm.

Love the 1.5 x recommendation :) grateful I tuned in for the whole video. Thanks for sharing :) was hoping to get an example of the Honeyman night time routines as well

I'm not diagnosed, but suspect AuDHD, and your description of struggling routines makes me feel so seen! I've kind of been doing a similar method without even realizing it. I loved seeing it actually planned out, so I'll be taking this into practice. This video alone has helped ease some of the guilt I feel on low energy days, so thank you!

Damn.. the part about just fueling myself with some food at all sounds easy but most of the time I don't even notice that I didn't eat until I feel starved in the evening.. and the next day I might just overdose on sugar, fats and fast food or even really nice delicious stuff all around..

I'm moving into a new apartment November 30 so of course I'm in the mood to change my life bahaha. This is perfect timing. I'm making my lists and spreadsheet and calendar alerts. Hoping that the fresh start and living solo gets me going. Charging your phone in the bathroom is also genius.

Appreciate this post tremendously. Helps reduce the shame in my seemingly changing moods when I wake up. Also, great that it’s a 12 min video.

The energy distribution routine is a game changer. I needed this thank you 💜

This is genius!! Im going to plan mine right now! Thank you very much!! ❤