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6 Signs of a Sexual Predator in the Workplace 

Mary David
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If you are trying to figure out if someone really has your best interests at heart in your career advancement, here are some tips to help you. These are indicators that the person you are dealing with may actually be a sexual predator and may subject you to sexual harassment, sexual assault, or other demeaning behavior.

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@rfox2163
@rfox2163 4 года назад
It's so true that the "self proclaimed champions of women are the biggest offenders". SO true
@ENFPerspectives
@ENFPerspectives 3 года назад
Yep, the guy who began to harass me trashes women self defense... 👎👎
@robe.2424
@robe.2424 3 года назад
It’s very disturbing to know people go through this and also ruin things for genuinely good people.
@nohomo5205
@nohomo5205 6 лет назад
Sadly I know that today I've been picked as a victim of this... Blocking them!
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 лет назад
I'm so sorry to hear that. Please know that this is not in any way your fault or a reflection on you. Wonderful that you're blocking them!
@Idkthisismyvhannel
@Idkthisismyvhannel 3 года назад
Just wanted to mention to anyone that sees this: while in the video she specifically says "he" never forget that groomers can be females too.
@princessblue1757
@princessblue1757 4 года назад
I have fallen victim to this. Great video
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
Princess Blue I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for your bravery in sharing and for your perspective 💜
@serano_peber0610
@serano_peber0610 4 года назад
I went through this two years ago.. I never realised he was a predator till now. I had to quit my job and now suffer from anxiety attacks. However we were on two different careers but ours linked. Sadly other people thought that him flirting with me was cute. He ended up following me to my next work place. I had to move cities after that. Unfortunately i had no physical evidence... It was a constant battle for dominance I was the first to say no and fight his ways. I blame myself now...
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
Serana Lisbeth thank you for sharing your thoughts and story, Serena. None of this behavior is the victim’s fault, and I do hope you are in touch with resources that can help you to internalize that. You do not deserve the blame. It was never your fault.
@serano_peber0610
@serano_peber0610 4 года назад
I have had CBT to help my anixety. But I still feel vulnerable at times. In time I hope one day I can report him.
@SimonWoodwardArt
@SimonWoodwardArt 6 лет назад
My partner has been experiencing this at work. Thank you for your advice and bravery.
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 лет назад
I'm so sorry that this is something you and your partner know all too well. Thank you for your kind words!
@robertah2353
@robertah2353 4 года назад
This is SPOT ON!
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
Roberta H frighteningly common too - thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts
@Barbara-oi3yi
@Barbara-oi3yi 5 лет назад
I love that you said that at the end about the biggest champions for women are the worst. Bc I stayed at a women's shelter and a man worked there and I warned the girls who worked there that I don't like how a guy works where we sleep when it's an all women's shelter( because they asked if I was comfortable) and they defended him saying he's so nice and I felt SO INVALIDATED for being weary of a guy I said if he touches me I will hit him ( not like it would do anything I'm very skinny lol) but I felt they shamed me for saying that. They said don't hurt him he's so nice!! Like what the fuck. He ended up stalking me while I lived in the shelter and offered to drive me so he could call me a bitch in the car. Fuck people
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 лет назад
I am so sorry you had that experience. You were right to have your guard up - when your gut tells you something is wrong, there is a reason for it. It's really disempowering when people don't honor your feelings or experiences. I hope you're in a better place now. Thank you for sharing.
@advicewithkit
@advicewithkit 4 года назад
Im sorry. God loves you! Always trust your intuition.
@beaulieuonnp593
@beaulieuonnp593 3 года назад
A predator's perfect place would be in a women's shelter, lots of vulnerable women. Yes, glad you followed your gut
@tjaspire
@tjaspire 3 года назад
It doesn't matter how nice they are. Predators are not going to be mean because that would drive you away.
@googleuser2609
@googleuser2609 6 лет назад
Amazing video; deserves more views. Well done!
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 лет назад
Thank you so much for your feedback and kind words. I really appreciate it!
@MandieMeekhof1977
@MandieMeekhof1977 4 года назад
this sounds like a video about a rich boss....the boss isn't the only possibility in the work place that can be scary. its good information if all you have to worry about is the boss. are there other videos that cover ALL coworkers?
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
Amanda Hager thanks for your thoughts! A lot of these tactics are irrespective of wealth - making time in their schedule, complimenting you, invading your personal space Etc. Coworkers definitely can and are offenders too - might do a future video on this, thanks for the feedback
@sammorton9314
@sammorton9314 2 года назад
I worked at a job where I was surrounded by a workplace predator for a whole year and it was so miserable hearing the shit he said believe me. I'm proud to say I quit that job and have a better one now cause my boss did nothing about him cause he was one of the team leads brothers.
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 2 года назад
I’m so sorry that you had to go through that, Sam. Really glad to hear you’re in a better situation now. Bravo for having the courage to walk away from that job!
@ENFPerspectives
@ENFPerspectives 3 года назад
Every thing you said happened in my first 3 weeks at work. I thought the guy was nice, until one day he started making excusable jokes. Then he asked if he could call me honey 👀. The next day was my day off and I talked to a few people about how to handle it. When I went back in, I decided never to let him out be in a situation where we worked alone together. He's such a "nice" guy, I actually thought maybe no one would believe me. He teaches women self defense classes. 🤢🤮
@healyourself4lifeeveman383
@healyourself4lifeeveman383 3 года назад
I was standing looking at the mail box section at the front desk area and this older man came behind me and rub his hand on my back up and down from mid back to before the waist and I was frozen and shocked and never told anyone because of the shame and guilt people put on the victim but he wasn’t the only one acting inappropriate in that office. My boss was rude and always talking down on my country roads, violence, driving when I wasn’t even insured to drive their van and they asked me to drive them back and forth when wasn’t even part of my job description. I was going through a very hard time personally so these things were just ignored and dealt with and I never said anything to the department that hired me. This happened 7 years ago and so far I know one of them still works there.
@creativeleo5176
@creativeleo5176 Год назад
I believe I’m going in this path. Thanks for the help! I’m becoming emotional
@esel8270
@esel8270 6 лет назад
Good video, Thank you.
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 лет назад
Thank you for watching!
@glang4657
@glang4657 5 лет назад
Holy crap! This is so true!
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 лет назад
Thanks for watching!!!
@guillaumem9953
@guillaumem9953 Год назад
These are literally the signs that my college dean/teacher showed before sexually harass me.
@Soupbatt
@Soupbatt 4 года назад
Thank you, I was freaking out! The person I was talking to isn’t a predator
@Grandmastergav86
@Grandmastergav86 2 года назад
You've just described 95% of the workforce, congrats on the useful advice.
@Aryan112345
@Aryan112345 3 года назад
Why can't people just start using their empty minds somewhere else other than involving in criminal activities
@Eliane-pf5nb
@Eliane-pf5nb День назад
Sometimes it can be tricky. Sometimes they do actually do some of the things they promised you with. Mine did promise future things for me, but I don't know why. Is it just something he did to keep me in his vicinity? Me being there physically, he'd have more access to me? He didn't end up giving me the things he initially promised me with, but he did help me and push me to get a job. So I guess as long as it serves them good in some way, they will give you something.
@beaulieuonnp593
@beaulieuonnp593 3 года назад
Thank you, I know someone just like that. Fortunately one of his colleagues, who is trusted, and who worked with him in a different organisation' 'warned me about him'. I still know him but I have always met in a public area, and I even take my boyfriend to meet up. He always seems to be obsessed with me 'as he doesn't have things in common with other people'. He is now 70 and probably over the worst, but I have managed things. He probably wonders why I don't see him that much #england
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 3 года назад
I am so glad that you have someone with you in a circumstance where you don’t feel safe. I hope you also feel free to cut off this person if that is something that would be helpful. There are many circumstances where the potential gain simply is not worth the mental stress, anxiety, emotional unpacking/toll and fear that is required to be in that setting. It is so important to have and maintain professional boundaries. People who respect you will respect that you have them. It is good to think critically about whether you even need to have certain contacts in your life, especially if your gut or others have told you that it’s not safe.
@beaulieuonnp593
@beaulieuonnp593 3 года назад
@@MaryDavid Very true. I don't work with him anymore so that is good.
@vorpalfirefly
@vorpalfirefly 7 месяцев назад
I think another key indicator is trying to seem disinterested sometimes and not handling rejection. I had someone who would fist bump me, but also wanted me to hit him sometimes, he would joke and say how I would like hitting people. Would try to rile me up. Called me buddy a lot. One day, he kept trying to keep fist bumping my hand multiple times. I said to him, I'm not going to hit you today, and he had pre-planned grabbed the stapler gun and put it to his head. Told him not to do that and took it away and patted his head. We would joke sometimes, but I had weird feelings constantly. He would boast about having a girlfriend but was also always mentioning how attractive women were. I feel like the idiot, because I did care for him and had a connection, but I always felt off and unsure. I also have since been blocked, because I removed him, but also had a mental toll with the place I was working and had to leave and called out other situations occuring. We trusted each other with some things, but think he wanted to fish for info to get to know me more. I don't think anything would have occurred but it felt like a game. Early on, I would feel his eyes on me. I always have sensed this from people easily though. I hope this doesn't seem like it's just me. When I would confide other things, said I always overthought.
@bargzeedakhan7612
@bargzeedakhan7612 5 лет назад
good talk
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
Bargzeeda Khan thank you so much!!
@asricikita
@asricikita 3 года назад
Thank you
@chelseashamim9148
@chelseashamim9148 4 года назад
Thankyou
@sweetangle8890
@sweetangle8890 3 года назад
Thanks because I looking for a Summer job
@cayxiee
@cayxiee 3 года назад
Yea i can sadly understand a little too well what you mean i had someone attempt to groom me online thankfully i had my gut and you to warn me ❤
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 3 года назад
Thank you so much for sharing this, Cayxiee! You are truly brave and so wise to listen to your gut. ❤️🙌🏽
@lambadic8298
@lambadic8298 4 года назад
i dont seem to understand... cant the person just truly like you and want to be a partner?
@lambadic8298
@lambadic8298 4 года назад
@Klara L i dont understand
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
The word “like” can mean many things. If they truly “like” you strictly as a human being and not romantically, they should be invested in your professional growth and respect you enough to honor their word, not make promises they do not intend to keep, and out of respect for your professional reputation, not put you in compromising positions. If they like you romantically, they should not use the power of their position as a way to gain your favor.
@lambadic8298
@lambadic8298 4 года назад
@@MaryDavid ok now i am no longer talking about being someones boss... just as a guy that has honest interest in a girl. how does he go about that without coming off as a predator and to successfully get the girl to like him if its in a workplace etc...if the answer is long please make a video...if guys can be enlightened it helps
@charityskygrace
@charityskygrace 3 года назад
@@MaryDavid thank u so much.....I AM NOT CRAZY
@jodiecatlin3790
@jodiecatlin3790 10 месяцев назад
Sometimes you can't leave a situation
@elizabethsnyder9678
@elizabethsnyder9678 4 месяца назад
It good to know stranger-danger and listen to your gut.
@Sanya0321
@Sanya0321 4 года назад
Incredible
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
Thank you for commenting!!
@AbianahAlmeida
@AbianahAlmeida 5 месяцев назад
I have some classmates like this and it’s creepy.
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 месяцев назад
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!
@VioletMe33
@VioletMe33 2 года назад
Wow this my sag cap clusper manager
@Punisher1830
@Punisher1830 5 месяцев назад
whats crazy is that these predators are usually serial predators
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 5 месяцев назад
So true, unfortunately.
@Punisher1830
@Punisher1830 5 месяцев назад
@@MaryDavid some of my friends were sexually harassed by their drug dealer in their sleep, he also molested his own cousin including minors in residential burglaries, most predators do not discriminate much minor/adult he's now a registered sex offender at Risk level high, his friends hispanic gang members and felons, and yes they do rape young men and minors.
@MarinaMontagueSUZ
@MarinaMontagueSUZ 4 года назад
.....or she
@danmetallica2973
@danmetallica2973 Месяц назад
Unless the guy is attractive, then it doesnt make him a sexual predator it makes him hubby material
@Koolaidheart11
@Koolaidheart11 4 года назад
2:21 damn I guess it’s only men huh not a single woman is a creep
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
Women can be sexual predators too. In several warning signs mentioned, I used the word “they” to encompass both men and women who engage in this behavior. While I do wish I had used “they” throughout to generalize to all situations, that does not invalidate the fact that women overwhelmingly face these kinds of predators in the workplace with added barriers to combat them.
@freewill7549
@freewill7549 4 года назад
Why does it got to be a he wut it it's a her? 😒
@MaryDavid
@MaryDavid 4 года назад
A very good point! I initially was using “they” in my remarks to encompass both genders and will be sure to use it more consistently in the future because women definitely can be predators too! Thanks for the comment.
@fucksociety8337
@fucksociety8337 3 года назад
Because its USUALLY a he. Thats why. Get over it. 🙄🙄🙄
@chad6815
@chad6815 2 года назад
What's all this "he" business about? As if women can't be predators too.
@tjaspire
@tjaspire 3 года назад
There are no shortcuts. And if you do get one, the achievement will be tainted because everyone will always be whispering about how you slept your way to the top, and you will know it too. Your successes will not be viewed as legitimate.
@cameronmallory5807
@cameronmallory5807 3 года назад
Don't just say he because it can also be she .
@fucksociety8337
@fucksociety8337 3 года назад
She can say whatever TF she wants. Youre just proving her point!
@jop7672
@jop7672 Год назад
It's calledgrooming
@sambrooks107
@sambrooks107 Год назад
This makes me now afraid to even try to just talk to and flirt with girls
@Emptytopfloor
@Emptytopfloor 3 месяца назад
Good😊
@danmetallica2973
@danmetallica2973 Месяц назад
​@@Emptytopfloorsociety is doomed because of women like you. Its a good thing i dont give a fuck and ill chat up whoever i want
@jwhite937
@jwhite937 3 года назад
Sounds like a good guy👍thats why so many women are lonely,u think everythings creepy lolll
@Angie_bae
@Angie_bae 3 года назад
This is about a boss. Why would you want your boss to do this to you. Wtf
@danmetallica2973
@danmetallica2973 Месяц назад
​@@Angie_baewhat if your boss is around your age, has a nice chiseled physique and facial features, is funny, and drives a nice car? ITS ALL OF A SUDDEN NOT CREEPY IS IT? 😡
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