6 Things To Know About Your Crush Before Dating 

Yes 👻🤙

YES

IM FIRST AND YEAH

Yes but I don’t think he would date me

Yes and it's almost been 4 months and I'll be able to find out if I actually like them romantically or platonically 🩷😂

Good job

My relation with myself is i will kill myself if i get hands on a gun

thanks for saving my time❤️

Thank you 😊

I need this list tattooed on me somewhere smh 🤦🏾‍♂️ 😂 thank you!

Finally someone said it :D

Same😂 Ig Psych2go just has that kind of timing 🤷‍♀️

Dang, good luck to you guys! Please lmk how it went then 👀 I'd also like to, but i'd like to wait a bit to get to know her better first and i'm also a bit shy, so this could help me. And i'm also curious, ofc 🙃

Update us. How’s it going?

How long did you spend getting to know them?

@@justme9818 We spent 364 days together, before getting married. I knew that I was with my best match about a month in, though. We spent a lot of quality time together--without any physical intimacy. I think that made the biggest difference.

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Before I married my husband, we were friends for five years. And we talked about the big things: how our finances would work, whether we wanted kids, and we gave fair warnings to our worst bits of our personalities (understanding that those things about us could and would change in time) There’s been a lot of change from where we started and it wasn’t bad at all. But you have to be really accepting of behaviors being borne from traumas. (I mean being non confrontational because you had a parent with an anger problem, not letting someone hit you or otherwise because it’s what happened to them- get those people help or away from you) It’s been almost a decade and it’s only felt like we got married a month ago. I’ve never felt so loved .

When did you dump him, or, when did she dump you?

So true! I always hope to hear that voice whenever I click a pysch2go videos. 😍😊

Not that the other narrator they use is bad. Just that she has a voice that I find especially soothing, reassuring, and understanding... even though I know it's solely a one-way transmission where any real interconnection is frankly impossible, and *logically* , only the *data* should matter. Still works as a non-threatening and supportive voice that makes these videos easier to engage with internally.

Yes I LOVEEE her voice so much

@@geodkyt yes exactly ❤️

Thanks for being here early!

Me too!!!

I think you already know what you need to do, darlin’. Healthy love is hard to maintain though, you have to really commit to the idea that nothing is ever going to be “normal” and prepare yourself and your kids for what real love looks like. its messy, its childish at times and its not always rewarding but we’re always working with our ACE scores, and we have to be intentional. ❤

My heart goes out to you. That's why I've written so much. I didn't intend to - it just poured out of me. I'm so sorry this is where you find yourself. Especially when your kids are involved. It makes the decisions so much harder. I can offer you some thinking points... In his quest for change, how much tangible change has occurred? A warning sign can be the constant promise of change -accompanied by all the right words and even good actions - but ultimately no lasting results. No change, just more reasons for why things are bad. This can indicate a lack of deep enough motivation for change. In this case, change will always be on the horizon, but never in real life. Where are you, yourself, on his list of priorities? Not your relationship, or the kids, just you. You've mentioned supporting him. Is he supporting you? Not just with words, or when you ask him, but instinctively, is support coming from him? Where is he offering tangible practical love or support to you? I've been unlucky enough to find men who said the right things, and promised the right things but never followed through. Just kept me waiting. There were always viable, understandable excuses, but eventually I realised they just weren't willing to put in the work required to become the people they said they wanted to be. They expected me to put in the work and support them. It was really painful to face this. I never faced it on time. I waited until the last dregs of hope were gone. I didn't realise how much it was costing me. Even afterwards it took a sort of brutal, leave my emotions to one side practical stock-take to face reality. It's not worth letting it get that far. But... if, after answering these questions you think there's enough change occurring, and enough mutual give and take within the relationship to support you, then you might just need more support while he's sorting himself out. Eg.. couples therapy, so he realises how much this is taking out of you and can take more responsibility. Or hire a housekeeper once a week to take the load off you as a busy mum while this is going on. -Anything to lighten your load. He would have to know you're in need of more support, and be actively supporting you to get it. If that's happening then I think it's a good sign. Lastly, I understand, intimately, the pain of making decisions that will disrupt your kids' lives. Experience has taught me that a situation that's bad for the Mum will ultimately become bad for the kids. It just takes a lot longer. So if you decide this is bad for you, and leave, the pain they grow through now will be less than the pain of staying, and things getting worse, and then leaving. And, as awful as the disruption might be, they will learn about creating healthy boundaries. They will learn when something isn't right, how to say no. And learn not to expect you to be the person holding everything together when it's not fair. These are awful experiences, but really important lessons for your later in life relationships with your kids. If you're in the Northern hemisphere, summer holidays will be coming up soon. It can be a good time to shake things up, even experimentally. The beginnings of change, one way or another, can be gently introduced with the break up in the school routine. I really hope your situation can be helped. But if it can't, you will actually be ok. If you're strong enough to notice things aren't right, even though it rarely feels like it, you will be actually strong enough to take whatever action is required. ❤

Clam down , u have kids with him . In marriages these ups and down for years as u said he was on a roller coaster , what u need right now is a proper communication channel

For the calming voice

You can still form a relationship just won't feel a bond

Why tell people on the internet your name, Aroacé?

@@Menaceblue3that’s… never mind

@@Menaceblue3 I can’t tell wether or not your joking, when I said ‘aroace’ It means ‘aromantic asexual,’ which means I feel neither romantic or sexual attraction It’s my sexuality, not my name lol

Good ones, aligns winh mine :)

I don't know if I'll ever experience it

How unfortunate for you.

Thanks for the love and support! What topic is your fave so far? :D

Ha, look boys! Something that wont happen to us in this lifetime!

Thank you for the love and support!

@@Psych2go Always!

Thanks for being here early!

No youre not.

@@anderstermansen130 Thanks. 1 RU-vid comment has given up my hopes of getting closer with someone. Ig I should just give up now right?

​@@MikeySnow why do you think relationships is worth wasting time on? What is this, year 1974?

YAY! Thanks for the second like

Just because you don’t have a crush, doesn’t mean you can’t watch a videos about them!

Lmao

My condolences Seems like you gotta work on your self-confidence first It might take some time, but it will be worth it At least, you'll be more comfortable being yourself around other people When the right one comes, they'll love you for being yourself

Also, Language is really important. Building up confidence in your first language will be a lot easier than building it up in American. Or even becoming fluent in American if you like learning. It's impossible to feel confident when too much of what's being spoken is alien to you. You might actually be more confident than you think, you just got lost in the language divide.

I didn't think this channel was emotional 🥲 I thought it will be "womp womp"

@@justme9818 btw i live in America for like 18 years (I was not born in America)

@@user-ey5rm5zd8b hi, I imagined that was likely. But the links between language and personal development run a lot deeper than people seem to realise. Language is a huge part of how we form our character/personality. Continuing to develop language skills in adulthood is a sure way to create personal growth. It's kind of a magic way to grow without getting into therapy/psychology. The more literate a person is, in any language, even effects the structure of the brain itself! (Mad but true!)

We hope this isn't too late!

@@Psych2go You're good 🤣!

Thanks for being here early!

Same dawg

That doesnt mean it will happen in this lifetime.

Romantic love isn't the only kind of love out there. Not having a partner doesn't mean you aren't loved.

Do you two talk? Get close with this person before confessing. It might give you a better chance of having your feelings reciprocated

@@Tofu_shrimp Thanks for the advice :) The answer to your question is no, I havent yet talked with the person. I am a very shy person, especially/only to my crush, and I find it very difficult to find the strength in me to talk to them.

@@crispyinferno2183 Oh i get you! Try to get their number and text them! If you dont have the courage to directly text him and state your intentions, you could tell him; “hi, xx told me to tell you that..” and start texting (and hopefully talking) from there onwards. My crush and i were complete strangers til one day i decided to text him a hi. We’ve been texting for months nonstop ever since, but.. we get horribly awkward around each other in person and so we haven’t said anything face to face besides hi. Haha hopefully that doesn't happen to you! Good luck!

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Good job

Suggest to go on a hike together. If you think it is too scary to do that with just you two, suggest to go on a hike with a small friend group instead. Then there's plenty of time to talk and at the same time you're not forced to talk all the time during the hike.

@@MegaChriz Great idea! Although there’s a problem - idk how to realise it. Btw my best friend is her brother, so…

Step 1 is to find a location and a route to take. Step 2 is to announce you are organizing a hike. Is there a local chat group that you are both member of? For example, a Discord group? Then you can announce that there. Step 3 is asking if she would like to join the hike. If possible, you could try to ask her in person.

In fact, I just applied this idea myself. I even went a step further by involving my crush in the process of organizing the hike. I did make sure to come up with a route first, discussed this with my crush and then she announced the hike. And she is very excited to go on a hike with a group. In about two weeks she and a few mutual friends will appear at my front door. I chose a route that starts just 3 minutes walk away from my house.

@@MegaChriz thx, I don’t have the time to talk now, see you tmrw. Thank you! :D

I actually have some experience with this stuff myself, so I’ll help. Speaking as a guy, guys can be pretty confusing when it comes to being online. Being online will make them more likely to let their personality shine. Quite a bit of guys get nervous talking to girls face-to-face, but when they are talking via text or any form of online communication, they feel safer, more protected, and much more comfortable, being in their own house. A lot of things you hear him say will probably be true. He will probably show his true side and not just a character that he brings out when he’s with you/talking to you. That brings me to a few possible conclusions. 1. Ignore everything I just said and ask his friends about him. 2. Try flirting with him via text, as he will be more open when online. 3. Ignore everything I just said and risk it for the biscuit by asking him out.

Thanks for being here early!