6 Things You Must Consider To Settle A Custody Case 

One major impediment to my mediation with my ex was our family court judge. For 2 years during proceedings, the judge kept rubber stamping the mother for custody while ignoring the facts of the case and ignoring the best interest factors for the child. During mediation, the mother would not even settle for 50 custody because she kept saying that the judge was only going to rule in her favor. The judge gave the mother all the negotiating leverage she needed. I refused to settle because it was not in the best interests of our child for the mother to have custody. We went through the trial and after more than 3 years I got primary custody. I am glad I did not settle because it would have been in the worst interests of our son for the mother to have custody.

My soon to be ex is not budging when it comes to trying to come up with a parenting plan. We even had court ordered mediation and he told the mediator he refuses to compromise and just wants to get sole custody

I had zero visits for 18 months, followed by zoom for 3 months, moved to therapeutic supervised for 2 more months, now I’m at unsupervised every other weekend with the plan to move to overnights in the near future. It’s been awful. 8 attorneys, 3 judges, a GAL, a therapeutic supervised visitation therapist, three individual therapists for the kids, a parenting coach for my ex, two cps investigations, criminal allegations, etc. Don’t give up ever, even if it’s crazy to keep going because you’ll always regret it.

Thanks judge! For putting ur time into this to educate us 🙇🏻‍♂️

I'm going through this myself at the moment. With my narcissist ex fiancé for 11 years, engaged for 3 and a 8 month old daughter. I called out her Narcissistic behaviour towards my mother. I've offered mediation, supervised child contact, I pay CS and I'm on the birth certificate. Now I look forward to spend thousands in defending myself from her lies. I march on

THANKS YOUR HONOR

If I knew how evil my bipolar ex and his helicopter parents were going to be when I amicably separated and then divorced my ex. . .I would probably not have done it. He promised me the custody and the house, staying out of court. So I agreed to no alimony and no court mandated child support. Within a week my house, owner financed by his parents, was threatened to be foreclosed, and the CPS was being called for bogus things! 9 unfounded cases, 2 preliminary protective orders and $25,000 later I am still trying to get my kids back. . .because I settled. I considered all these things mentioned, and I was as nice as could be, playing into their hands with talking to the CPS, taking the parenting classes, doing the counseling, psych evaluations, guarded visitations, etc. I gave up my custody so I could see my kids, and not have 6 months pass with no custody or visits. I had no "review",and when I was cleared, as I always was, the judge said "too bad". You already gave up custody. There was no way out without a change of circumstances. I already knew I was screwed without alimony, and barely scraping by, but my ex did everything possible to hurt my business and make it impossible to even go back to court. So looking back. . .there is no way I would have sacrificed the months of no visitation for 8 years of no chance of custody!! NEVER give up on your kids!! I was given terrible counsel by the GAL, and my lawyer! There is no potential of getting custody back easily when you give it away under duress and they knew it I suspect, but they were just trying to get out of work. Yeah, I had no money, but knowing what I know now, I would have done something before giving up my rights!! My children feel betrayed and the system betrayed me. There is no justice in the justice system I have found!!

Thanks

Ok listen to the Question?! 1 your children come always first.... period 2 Don't bash the other parent that is for another court 3 have a clean home ,water , power food 4 children need to be in school, 5 mental health for the children and parents 6 your children come first...

Mediation negotiations tip, request more to compromise in what you know they will not. Confidentiality issues?

The day before our custody hearing we were sitting in our attorneys office doing last minute prep and his secretary came in and said the Judge had an emergency and had to push it off. That was September 12 and it was pushed back to December 13th.

Had a hearing June 13th. Then her attorney took a leave of absence and it got pushed back to October 7. I’m very angry.

Yes time passed she left with my son's... With no contact..I work and had to start a life over and pay CS but not on Birth Certificate.

Heard that a priority is leveraging a Parent Coordinator, especially with a Narc. Lots of authority in their credibility, including a MH Eval of the Narc to level the playing field? If refused, they can exert Parental Rights Termination? Accurate?

What if the other side won't settle

What do you suggest? Honestly, I was so confused that I thought it was a game being played with me

Who takes custody from the primary parent and gives total custody to someone without doing a background on the person that You're giving total custody to???

Is it better to get a child custody case settled before or after the divorce is finalized?

how may i ask questions Anthony

What a joke. Only the man has to prove hes a good parent. The women automatically gets the benefit of the doubt. Tired of these women who say it works both ways 🙄. It doesnt

Are Narcissists more likely to settle or take it all the way to trial when you put the pressure on? You have no idea how much I appreciate you for doing this.

Can someone ask for a review in 6 months at a voir dire hearing if They signed a consent order?

With your programs would there be a way to have a letter of CLT.

How do I join the zoom

What if there's no court order preventing child visitations but the ex is keeping the children away from the father for no reason, even took the kids out of school so that the father has no contact with them. Just because she's bitter and doesn't want the father to see the kids

Do you have a Email were we can ask a Question? This is the Mediea and I have to be more careful of what I post and were I post it.

Try 3 years

My ex is an acholic im trying to settle down

Everyone saying I shouldn't be angry about my child and I definitely shouldn't be angry in front of the judge or I'll be in contempt how much sense does that make???? That I could get contempt of court by being angry and saying some words out of anger, and pissing the judge off doing that giving him a temper just over words.... So it's okay for the judge to get mad and have a temper over something simple as words but it's not okay for me to have a temper about you taking my kid away 🤯 I'm mad because you took my kid away so I need anger management but you get pissed over just words nothing else and don't need anger management hmmm

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I have 100% legal and physical custody and a 5 year DVRO protecting kids and me. Ex had supervised visitation and one wants to see him. Ex is trying to get custody of that child. Going to court ordered mediation. How do I stop him?

Please Question! My Son’s Mother went MIA with my Son. I filled for custody already, but she won’t let me see or talk to my Son. I tried calling and texting her and she wouldn’t respond. So please what should I do, keep trying to contact and gather records or ignore at this point???

Do you have an email that I can ask you some questions?.

How do we get on these zoom calls?

Rights are realized that I to afford a lawyer now if I go with you sir will you tell me what I need to file and what I need to file as far as exhibits and evidence and what not. I know that I can do everything through a website. I know that I will save a ton of money filing the stuff electronic played rather than having a lawyer do it. If I wanna buy your course and your activities will you promise me that I will know what I need to file in?

Is there an email that i can right to you

Can my ex use my juvenile records that she stole from me in court.

😮 I paid $500 for something I could have watched free? 😢 That's just mean!

accusations for drinking excessive alcohol are very cheap and meaningless. what is "excessive"? This is usually pretty subjective. If they are truly "alcoholics" imo even that isn't enough for losing custody unless there is proven domestic violence. But then the issue isn't really alcohol per se, it's the domestic violence. Alcohol is legal. The fact that a parent drinks doesn't say anything about their fitness.

Custody should automatically go to the fathers and then go from there. Mothers purposely keep the father from the children’s lives. Super bad for the children. Most fathers would never do that. They understand the children need mom and dad