The Mindset Of A Custody Judge: Here's Why It's Important 

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You are so delusional if you really think any of that matters smh

I really like this I’m going to read this when I step into Court next month BBM keeping son me Rn over money and bother father to her new Bf sad but got a keep fighting

18 years? Tons of custody goes to 23 year old for child.

It definitely should not be abolished because if it doesn't exist, the Parental Alienation that a lot of bitter, disgruntled mothers impose against the father would be unchecked and will continue to be allowed. If the current family court system needs improvement then improve it but its definitely needed and shouldn't be abolished. The fathers won't stand a chance without something to go to when dealing with difficult mothers of their children

What ​@@Mrs.FleetOwner just said ^^^

And advice on where to start?

If you're a man that's not even impressive. Women only retain custody 7% of the time. The system was built by slave owning men

Can you help me, please?

Please share. Please I'm in ky

I am going through a custody battle right now. I am about ready to fire my lawyer. She sucks. Did you fire your attorney and go before a judge?

Thanks for this comment i need something like this.

Family court is far from even

keep up the good work papa

I never heard a person could have a child and not have to fulfill there obligations!

1000% AGREEEEEEEEEEEEDDDDD!!!!!!!!

Im the ONLY mother in the system it seems where the court doesn’t care about the constant abuse tactics of the father or how much trauma he’s caused my child or the fact that he refuses and evades child support processes in every state or that he extorted CS from ME and I’m the primary! He’s never made any attempt to sanely provide for my child, attempted to kidnap her 2x in 2020 and the court (magistrate aka even ore incompetent than fam judges) disregarded everything gave him joint legal. A indefinite harassment tool for his idiot ass to continue his narcissistic activity. Smh Why not give a single parent that solely provides and cares fora child SINCE BIRTH SOLE LEGAL custody!!?!?! Why must we endure this NARCISSISTIC SAGA LIFE?! Our children are damaged by this and they could care less!!!

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I was like hold on a min...is that Donny?!!!!! But then I remembered that's not this guy's name 🤔 but you fooled me for a second hahaha In my defense it's still early in the morning and I haven't had a full cup of coffee yet 😂 but he really does look like donny 🙃 lol

You can pray, and ask the Holy Spirit to cover you and the court room.

The world could also not exist tomorrow too. Seriously do not feel race, color, creed plays a factor in this topic as you believe. Maybe someone that wants to use that, could see a judge seeing through that and if it’s a good judge he will see the character flaw

@@ProMainMan you , my friend , you are clearly from another world or have lived under a rock for far too long .

more than racist is sexist. courts hate men. men pay thousands and judges don't even listen

@@marcusavila2961lmao that is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard lol

Oh no. So sorry to hear it. Prayers for you and your son and the child involved 🙏 and prayers that the mothers heart will be softened to bring his child to see him. She's a bad mom for keeping her child from the father. That's so wrong. She's not just hurting him she is hurting her child aswell. 💔 so heartbreaking. I'm a woman but I'm going through a similar battle- because my kids dad has money and I don't. But I haven't seen my kids in a couple years because he left the state and now I can't find them 😢 and I don't have money for a lawyer. That's why I'm here on this channel.

Keep telling your story far and wide! Fathers have been silenced in family court and no one listens to them. Only mothers of sons that are going through family court and understand what's happening to our children and grandchildren will be able to help. For the sake of future generations, your son and future children of divorce need help. Children are growing up with loving, capable fathers. Family court is encouraging and incentivizing fatherless families. I hope something has changed since you last commented.

That varies state by state. Appeals take a lot of work to put together, But many people have done it. And you would go to your state's court website to figure out the process and procedures for filing an appeal. process and procedures matter a lot...and they vary by state. As for feedback on a judge, States usually have an office for judicial misconduct... but the name of that office varies by state.

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I feel for you bro. At this point you just need to hire an attorney and come up with all the evidence you can that you’re a great dad.

As a custodial parent, I was not allowed to move more than 25 kilometres (about 15miles) away from my kids' mom. But I'm in Canada, specifically Ontario.

I am so sorry

Even when it may be just the parties and the families there ?

Can you elaborate?

Yes correct it possibly can play out to be a misconduct charge ...but what is really happening is that the advantage is taking advantage of the disadvantage...what the advantage are entitled to so the disadvantage should as well....correct me if I'm wrong???

I understand your perspective but it’s not. Here’s a simplified example. If you have a very strict and angry judge you better watch what you say and how you act. On the other hand some judges let you ramble and have a much longer leash. There’s a style and mindset to everyone in the courtroom. It would be a disadvantage to not use it to your advantage. 😊

@@judgeanthony "some judges let you ramble and have a much longer leash"...are we Dogs or slaves ...or desperate loving parents ....does it makes or loving children , little puppies ? Sher Sher , said all "this for me implies that there's misconconduct"...Judge do not resume and oversimply it down to a family court " judge" , the real issues and their deficiencies are laying elsewhere; the family law itself needs to be revisted , rewritten . period

AMEN ! I believe you are so right Sher Sher !

they become Hostile witness and they can pursue harassment charges from local authorities.

I hope and pray you did NOT lose them 🙏 and if you did I pray for your peace and understanding. Hugs. ..

Unfortunately many courts are going online. I’ve done them. The effectiveness depends on the type of hearing really.

@@judgeanthony Thank you for the response. I appreciate your videos, they are insightful.

Get a job and save your marriage

@@ProMainMan why do you say that, i would lose primary and have to split custody and support if i l cant save my marriage, no guarantee......

Hey, I’m not a lawyer, but I’m going through the exact same problem is as your daughter. I am in a custody battle with a narcissist and my daughter is 5 months old. He is taking me to court next week for a Temporary Orders Hearing (despite not being involved in the child’s life). I’ve been busting my ass trying to prepare because I don’t have money for an attorney. I’m open to compare notes if you think it will be helpful.

I never got a judge to really read the texts. They want it first hand from you and will ask for proof if needed.

I would say yes. You should document all the efforts you made to see your son and her denials of access to your son. This includes phone records. But I think emails are better, because they show the words that you used... As opposed to a phone bill with just her number. Document phone calls and emails and texts. Word of caution... Even if you have the right to contact her, do not let it get to the point of harassment. Everyday might be too much. And you shouldn't leave threatening messages, just plain vanilla, that you want to see your son. Another caution is that if you leave her voicemails and do not have recordings of those, she might come back and claim that you will have to threatening messages... Depends on the kind of person she is. And I assume there are no restraining orders in place to prevent you from contacting her...

@@FatherX2022 Thank you so much. And Yes! There’s no Restraining orders in place.

@@FatherX2022 Thank you so much. And Yes! There’s no Restraining orders in place.

Yess you’re not gonna like when the judge steps in. They’re basically gonna just go with normal court order things , and be very much appealing to what the mother wants. Unless you have an attorney to say otherwise. Just from my experience

@@PoyTroy Hello my friend, thanks for your reply. In my experience, you are correct. The court sided with the mother even though she lied her ass off... incredulously disgusting and shameful on the court making that determination with blatant evidence so I suspect collusion to some degree. My attorney was weak and failed me, his heart was not in it. In hindsight, he could've done A LOT more/better but much proof was left on the table. So my next steps are to appeal, and continue fighting for my child. I honestly just wanted 50/50 from the jump but a spiteful mother will make that beyond difficult.

Jesus what a nightmare!

You cant stop paying support without a court order.did yoyr child stop eating,ect

You can file a complaint against the judge.

I completely agree with you.

Thiers lots of them and they all work for profit while giving to the needy and feeding the curruption! Weak community, built on strength and arrogance because they think education give's them the right to manipulate and control other people's lifes! Hallow role's stealing from the most important role's or parts of people's life's! Fear makes people work harder, act better than others, get kids to sell more while other's just want a life and not to feel stalked and staired down on

No way!

Oh my gosh im so sorry

Hey! I'm Muslim (American born) and my ex is Muslim. Like your ex, he chooses to be Muslim when it suits him. Of course and unfortunately, the Muslim judge would take his side. My ex is from another country. He just got temporary custody of our only child, she is 9. That man never follows the parenting plan, doesn't go to school activities like I do, doesn't do our daughter's hair or take her to doctor appointments. I'll never be with anyone again if they are from another country or just because they are Muslim. Muslim woman can only marry Muslim men but this time, I'll be with whomever I want. My ex doesn't care about our daughter or what she wants and deserves.

@@TwoScarvesComedy I'm so sorry, they are just sperm doner and unfortunately we let them to be on birth certificate- that's why they have rights like "father", but doesn't have idea what responsibility is to be a father. They are abusers, their fathers are abusers, all generation are, they don't know other way and don't want. Woman and children are to serve their purpose and they want them when is convenient for them. My ex works in Qatar Ambassy in London earns lots of money, get paid by cheques, no tax is paid, lives in the house and talk to the house and eats his money and spend for prostitutes but nothing for his children. Of course he will use words like insalla, Allah, halal or not halal, but getting chlamydia from prostitute is halal.

If she was truly a Muslim woman she wouldn't be a judge...

Wow. That’s a ridiculous. How old are kids.

@Makaela I am a CPS family reunification coach. I help parents get their kids out of foster care and back in the home.

@Makaela I teach parents how to fight back and get their children away from CPS

@@erincarranza3886 great job 👏🏾

Can you give me some pointers

I've been asking you this same exact question for months. I would very much appreciate if you could find a moment of your time to address this critical concern. Thank you in advance.

ummm....dude...all 11 of your points are 200% correct. Your effort needs to be devoted to overcoming the bias and incompetence of the family court...in order to protect your kids. It took me 3+ years and 28 hours of direct testimony, but I did it. Your kids are worth it...stay strong for them. Fight smart. Fight hard.

@@FatherX2022 god bless u bro. Im happy for u. I know in end ill win but bro this shit doesnt stopppp and i dnt shit money man. I have realized though (after 7 hearings ) that i need to stoppppp being real and start acting. I always thought if ur real and honest ull get whats coming to u but nooooo. U gotta act and lie. Which is soooo wrong. Dude everyyyyy lie i prove this judge keeps extending it and keeps creating some new program or involves other ppl. When it comes to my kid i dont play!!!! I will push back even to judge and thats bcuz i got nothing to worry about. My ass is clean and mom is just all the way foul and ive been soooo fair man. Sooo fair. I am just lost. There needsssss to be some type of internal affairs for these judges. Then u cant even change judge cuz new judge is NOT gna like that at all so im screwed man bt thank u for ur response :). The syst is broken for fam court in calif for MOST!!!

I hear you, brother. Here's a tip... It's not about being real or acting. Research the "best interests of the child" in California state law, Google it. There are things that are considered best for the child. If you focus all of your talking in court about how your parenting is better for your child than the mother's parenting... That's when you start handcuffing the judge and taking away their ability to be gender biased. in court, when everybody talks in circles about nothing, the judge tends to just rubber stamp the mother for everything. So you have to change the conversation to focus on what's best for the child and keep showing evidence and documentation that you are just as good a parent as the mother or better. And remember that judges cannot compete with intelligent thought. But judges can compete with you when it comes to anger and power in the courtroom because they can have you arrested or take your child away. So fight smart. Hope that helps.

So I'm just going to say, it's not a gender based thing all the time! I was a full time stay at home mother to both our kids. Their father is an alcoholic, has two DUIs, was extremely emotionally/mentally abusive to all of us, and physically to me... did not help parent thr kids but took pictures with them ti put on social media and make it look like he loves them and is involved, he mever was though. Then turned his and my entire family against me, convinced them I was crazy and mentally unstable. I never spoke up about it much, the few people I did tell didn't believe me or care really lol then he leaves, and files for divorce in sept. I let him take them for Thanksgiving, he refuses to return them the next day. I call sheriff, they can't do anything. Get them back after 4 days. [He had NEVER had them overnight alone because of the drinking] they were 4 and 1... so I keep them and file for parenting plan. Takes 2 months to see a judge, he gets an attorney by that time. They convinced the judge I am withholding for no reason and just being vindictive. Tell the judge his days off are TH-SUN. no evidence to back it [it's actually SAT/SUN] Judge believes everything they say, gives my kids to him TH-SUN. Even though I had told the judge in my statement about the abuse and about him keeping them from me for 4 days, traumatized them. About his alcohol issues. And him not actually having TH-SUN off... and that my son was in PREK so how would he go Friday? [We live an hour away from each other] Judge didn't care at all. Didn't ask for any evidence from them. And it continues that way to this very day. I am now three years into this divorce, as of September. I always provide evidence, I am always honest and I am always trying to do best for my kids. We see a different judge every time and he uses that to his advantage. If I bring up anything it's brushed off no matter how much evidence I have... I had a lawyer for a brief period and she tried to compel him to provide necessary documents asked for in her interrogatories, it had been 6 months... we needed them for mediation before our settlement conference. The judge DENIED the motion... like HOW DO YOU DENY SOMETHING WE NEED TO FINISH THE DIVORC!?? The system is insane in WA state... he could say I sprout three heads and eat the neighborhood children, and they would look at him and be like..." omg you poor thing! I'm sure she does! I'm so sorry you had to go through that!!!" I have never been disrespectful, my children have never been hurt with me, I have tried to coparent, bent over backwards to make it least stressful for my kids, I log on the OFW, I have teachers concerned, DCYF was concerned, I don't everything right and still get brushed off and treated like i am some mother who ran off and abandoned her kids and never really took care of them. My parenting plan HAS been altered since my oldest started school to M-F but that's the only reason. They beg me not to go every weekend, they hate it there still, even after over 2 years. If he was a good dad, they should love going... [I am not one of those mothers who talks shit about the dad. I believe fuckkng with a kids head space is just as vile as fucking with their body... especially when you hold the position of parent/guardian. Their father DOES do it, though, it has severely damaged my relationship with my kids. Courts don't care though... and I have no clue WHY. So just know you are not alone, and it's not always because of gender... because I was a full-time SAHM from the day my first was born... they were/are both happy and healthy and thriving in my care, but it didn't/doesn't matter. And they wonder why we stay with our abusive partners for so long... at least we can protect them if we are there with them. 🤷🏻‍♀️😵‍💫 Good luck to you!!

Yes and a Good One.

Same here girl. Make a word document of everything. Show the court this along with other exhibits

These people are sick. 😢 moms need to be with their mama

amen , at least a person with common sense .A real court law consist of having an impartial jury of your peers . Family court is nothing thant juristical dictatorship where children are the least of them concerns.

Hes a Narc. FIGHT. YOU LEAD. NOT HIM. NOT HIM ANYMORE!!!! You are a panther that thirsty and ready to attack anyone for your baby cubs. PUT THAT IN YOUR HEAD! YOU ARE A HUNGRY THIRSTY PANTHER GETTING HER KIDS BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i hope english isn't your first language.