7 Habits of Highly Miserable People 

Thank you for using yourself as an example. Too many of these videos come from a superior/self righteous stance, despite the fact that we ALL have shortcomings. Much respect & admiration. 🙏🏾💚

I always got frustrated when I'd tell therapists that I spent the whole day watching RU-vid or otherwise fucking around, and they'd say "Oh good, self care is important!" I was like BUT THAT'S ALL I DO and it really confused me until I pinpointed the difference between self-care and self-indulgence. The latter being more akin to self-harm than self-care.

The self care point is SO IMPORTANT. Self care can be starting an assignment early so you dont have to rush and stress last minute, or going to class every day to make learning easier. I used to think self care was just doing what I liked, and thats part of it, but its also doing the thing you need to do in order to make life easier on future you.

The social media one is so important. I truly think we are in a weird stage where social media is new enough that people don't realize the bizarre grasp it has on so many people. When you stop using it you see how strange it all has become. I really do think history will look back on this time and ask why we didn't realize how harmful social media was.

I am taking notes 1. Impulsive purchase/buying 2. Having procrastination while saying it's self care 3. Hoping too much for accidental solutions that are unrealistic 4. Just one setback and give up it all 5. Too much social media especially arguing about things that are not really important 6. Overlooking obvious things that would ease you in the long run for a bigger unobvious things - use mattress logic 7. Drugs, or anything that is addictive such as corn, PMO, and such things Hope yall doing better bros and sis

"I lived it. It was dumb." That's my new catchphrase for getting over past embarrassments. 😂

On the topic of waiting. While waiting for random events is bad, waiting with a purpose can be really soothing. When I am in a train, and have to wait 1h to arrive. There is nothing I have to or should do in the meantime. I just have to wait and don't have to feel bad about it.

00:02 Bad money habits lead to misery 02:21 The impact of childhood money stories on adult behavior. 04:08 Identifying and avoiding the Mot and Bailey argument 05:58 Honesty and self-awareness can help identify and address bad habits. 07:57 Waiting creates false hope and leads to misery. 09:50 Setbacks can feel like a death sentence, but they're not as big as they seem. 11:33 Pushing through setbacks leads to growth 13:32 Focusing on everyday habits can lead to a better quality of life 15:17 Finding simple solutions can greatly improve your quality of life 17:06 Recognizing the net negative effects of drugs despite providing temporary happiness. 18:56 Conquered bad habit, no longer miserable

I had a lot of these, turns out I had severe undiagnosed ADHD. getting the right meds and support completely turned my life around at 37, to the point that I'm about to start a PhD that I never would have even attempted a few years ago. Having said that I'm definitely going to take your advice and learn to chop veg properly. One of the things I really struggle with is feeding myself properly and not resorting to takeaways all the time. The fact that if I cook dinner it pretty much takes up the entire evening really doesn't help with that

I used to think I'm not a procrastinator, but then I realised: 1. I procrastinated a LOT by studying. 2. I basically even "procrastinated" studying itself by watching RU-vid videos alongside it. When I was "studying", I wasn't actually focused on the studying part, I was focused on the video or music part, which is why I struggled so much to learn anything. I studied for _hours_ every single day, but it was basically just watching RU-vid while studying in the background. The reason I say this is because, well, "productive" procrastination *_is still procrastination._* Yet, it's so hard to realise you're procrastinating when you're doing this because the typical stereotype of procrastinating is when you don't do anything at all or you're playing video games to avoid something, not when you're doing something productive to avoid it. I've gotten way better at doing stuff when I stopped multitasking and started to kinda prioritise stuff by how much I actually needed to do them. Edit: Other people experience this 😭😭 I thought I was alone

The social media and opinions thing is so true. Cause there are so many times I have seen a discussion out of propotion, and I just sit there like "Why cant you guys see both the good and bad in each perspective, and come to a conclusion. Like no one outside of social media will care".

My husband and I help each other with procrastination vs self care, we ask each other “are you sure you have the energy for this extra responsibility?” And “Are you sure you just can’t face things today? Are you sure you need this break or are you just trying to get out of doing something?”

In the midst of a bout of crying and feeling sad and sorry for myself, your video popped up and I began to laugh. Kind of like the sun beginning to shine during a rain shower. Great timing.

What you said about your art teacher made me think of Brene Brown's work. This is from an interview she did. “I used to believe, before I did the research for The Gifts of Imperfection… that there were creative people and there were non-creative people. And now I absolutely understand personally (and professionally from the data) that there are no such thing as non-creative people. There are just people who use their creativity and people who don’t. And unused creativity is not benign. For the people who really struggle because they don’t think of themselves as creative, there’s a lot of shame around creativity. People don’t think of themselves as creative, they think creativity is self indulgent. They don’t think it is productive enough. They don’t understand what it means. It was shut down in them as children. For those folks, when I say “unused creativity is not benign”, what I really mean is it metastasizes into resentment, grief, heartbreak. People sit on that creativity or they deny it and it festers. When I started the research on shame, you know, 13 years ago, I found that 85% of the men and women who I interviewed remembered an event in school that was so shaming, it changed how they thought of themselves for the rest of their lives. But wait - this is good - fifty percent of that 85% percent, half of those people: those shame wounds were around creativity. So fifty percent of those people have art scars. Have creativity scars.”

If you don't add "reddit" to your keyword search you're not using the internet right 😂 I've been watching your channel for a long time and it still amazes me how you can take a universal, complex feeling and logic us through to a less uncomfortable place. Thanks for your swirly twirly, spicy philosophic brain! (sidenote: silly purchases are worth it even just for the stories!)

about "abandoning hope", i was taught that hope and fear are two branches of the same tree - which is projecting your expectations onto the future, when you should be being open to whatever may unfold ♥

procrastination = self care; that argument has been one I have played for myself MANY MANY MANY TIMES. thank you for highlighting it and talking through the habit (and habit-breaking)! 💕

Thank you. It's hard for me to admit this but I'm for sure an addict... to more than one drug nothing life threatening because of the drug itself but my behavior on said drugs. Your openness, your seriousness mixed with your presentation had me actually in tears from self realization that I've got bad habits man. And that feels bad man. I'm about to turn 30, it feels like a death sentence and that's so dramatic but it's the truth. I feel so meh and like I don't know what to do. The money story - for sure... I've suspected and reconciled my money story a few times now I make a lot of cash then I procrastinate, play the waiting game, play the hope game, waiting for that call for the next movie gig for the next whatever. That self care lie holy fuck what a take. Thinking about my own set backs my own trauma surrounding just a kid wanting to make things once shot down and now to scared not knowing how to even start... and finally social media. These things, on RU-vid a social media platform I've been procrastinating on for what years on now? This dopamine shot you've given me god I hope I can move it. I'm going to end my youtube dance today after writing this comment but you making this 19 minute heartfelt piece has brought me to tears and I think uncorked some deep seeded emotions and desires that I really needed to feel today. It's weird how things come into your life when maybe you need it the most. Struthless you have my upmost respect and I seriously appreciate the work that you do on your own. Your comment on the end about seeking professional help and getting the correct medication for your personal chemistry and situation... admitting I'm powerless... what a mind fuck. Thank you brother, I'm sending love your way. Thank you.

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Me: "I procrastinate" Also me: "I PROCRASTINATE BECAUSE MY ANXIETY STOPS ME" Also me realising I can do things with small steps at the time. Things don't need to be perfect. I don't need to be the best. If I just listen to those, I will for sure complete things regardless of how anxious I am.

Despite years of resistance, going from drugs that I had no clue about the precedence to pharmacy drugs really helped me with ADHD, anxiety and depression this year. I was lucky to find a psychiatrist who actually cares, but still, this change enabled me to see many other bad habits I kept on reinforcing just because they made me feel good at some point

The "waiting for a big break" was the most relatable thing I've ever heard in my life.

RE: #4 - honestly this DOES get better and easier with age (65-year-old here). It’s like how people describe the tragedy of suicide-a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Your goal is to shorten that period of time between when the setback occurs (in your case, for example, the art teacher giving you the brush) and the point at which you figure out it doesn’t MATTER. If you all can shorten that length of time, you move forward with whatever you want to achieve more quickly with less pain and true suffering. Because the suffering and shame is real, unfortunately. Keep your head on straight and your eyes and heart on what you want to do-we can all do it!

Not only do i love the video but also how inspiring and supportive the comment section is here. So many random strangers all over the world all rooting for each other ❤

Thank you for being so open and honest with us all, Struthless. As another ordinary person who struggled with addiction, it's really encouraging to listen to your experience. ❤

Your vids have helped me more than I can say. 52, was caregiver to elderly folks for years and lost them both within 6 weeks this year. Starting again with huge debt...on my own... unemployed....not giving up for a better life! Remaking my identity...my life. I don't usually comment but had to. Yesterdsy in my city of 60,000 someone won 25 million...second time in two months😂. I had to comment on the irony after you said "no one is coming..or you could win the lottery". I agree with everything you said, I just had to laugh out loud. Now..off to send job apps...and get a dang ticket! Keep smiling.😊

I hope you're finding fulfillment and a little satisfaction that your honesty and willingness to share your 'warts and all' is likely helping a lot more people than you know. It's no doubt frightening to be so vulnerable on a platform that doesn't always reward such courage. Thanks for what you do.

I can't tell you how much I respect you, man. You've made the most impressive use of a sh*tty past I have ever seen. Seriously. You've helped me, I'm sure you've helped a ton of other people. I just love how upfront, honest, practical, and humble you are. It's amazing to me and I really hope that someday I can use my story to do something a fraction as beautiful as you've done with yours. You rock. God bless.

Fellow clean and sober pal here! It works wonders figuring out your brain chemistry and getting on the right meds. With a clear, functioning brain on the mend, you can actually focus on fixing the other issues that led to the substance abuse.

You’re quickly becoming my favorite RU-vidr for honesty alone. You’re fighting the fight with the rest of us.

It's also common to excuse procrastination as "planning"

1M subs! So well deserved to get that plaque. I feel inspired to just keep pushing along to my goals. I feel like such a hipster since I was watching your videos before everyone discovered you. I was just looking for art inspiration when I found your channel.

congratulations on the golden button, Cam! :)) i've been watching you since the beginning of covid cause i wanted to start drawing again, so i found your video that i've watched a dozen times on doing the same thing every day, and of course i stayed for more. i love how you evolved into life philosophy and mental health basically. i'm 32 and i feel the most stable and happy as i've ever been, and your videos were a big part of my journey to happiness and stability 💔❤ you make your points so clearly and illustratively that they get stuck in my head :) and i can retract them easily when i need to! thank you so much for that

Thank you so much! 13.5 years clean and sober and am so happy I’ve run across your videos. They help me understand my thinking, or lack thereof.

Thank you for sharing this! Congratulations on the well-deserved mil, which I hope is the first of many. Your work has touched the lives of so many people, and I can honestly say you've changed my life in many ways!

Man I love this guy and I am So glad I found your channel a few years back. It still seems like every video you post come exactly when I need it. So thank you for doing what you are doing, you deserve everything you wish for yourself ❤

Honestly your videos have been helping me confront the same issues. I've been stuck so long I've lost confidence in myself to do my own work my way. I'm terrified of something and I can't figure out what, your advice helps me cut out the noise and comforts me that this is normal for other adults to do too and that I'm not a unique fuck up, disappointing my loved ones. I greatly appreciate this

Thank you! I needed this, so much truth,(from the Struth) and an encouraging reminder we are not alone in our struggles. ❤

Thank you so so much Campbell!! ❤ Time after time I watch your videos and learn so much. We‘re all so freakin similar it‘s almost frightening. We may all come from different places but the stories we experience and the lessons we learn can be so similar. Your videos inspire me to become a better person. And while I know that this is such a highly generic sentence I mean it with all my heart. So proud of you, you‘re making the world a better place!❤

19:04 i relate to so much of that last part man, props... The worst about my current issues with moderation is that i truly think it is something i've developped when consuming that i was actually quite strong about before. Addictions and loss of will and self-discipline and control seemed like completely alien problems to me, and a part of me wants to believe i can get back to that version of me. It is hard to accept.

Dude, I just love your content! I hope I can always count on your videos along my lifetime in this world. And I also hope you have a wonderful life in this journey. Thanks my man!

You are so amazingly inspiring! I could put it into a million more words, but.. Yeah, thanks for your honesty, the incredible production quality and thought behind your videos. I really hope you can feel the good you do for all your viewers, and feel pride on days that might be grey

Thank you for this video, it's great to hear the perspective of someone that's actually gone through these things and truly wishes to help. I will definitely be coming back to this video from time to time to help remind myself of my goals, thank you 💙

amazing stuff! i procrastinate a LOT and its definitely in the way where im telling myself 'this helps with what you're going to do, this will make it easier so its okay' but its not okay!!!! thank u for this! also the mattress ad problems were mind-blowing! im for sure keeping that mundane stuff in mind from now on!! and ty so much for the videos you share, theyre always so insightful and they really help/inspire so many people!!! (even the non self-help ones!!)♥♥♥

I feel like your videos and advice are so relatable and relevant because you present info as the things that have worked for you personally, not just what "professionals" say should work. Thank you for showing that sharing our lives with others, being a bit vulnerable and open to better things, can be scary but worth the risk, worth the investment in our Self ❤

Absolutely perfect timing for this video - you have no idea!! Thank you!! ❤️

The self care thing is so true. True self care is doing things that need doing that will improve your life, even if you don't want to do it. What most people call self care is just laziness.

I just love your videos. I watch every one. Not just the quality, but the vulnerability and the humor, the person you are. You’ve got such a lovely soul. Thank you for choosing to share your work with us!

What an absolute gift of a video ❤️ thanks for sharing your life with us Cam

Hey Struthless, thank you for doing these videos, they be helping A LOT with my stuff and mostly and this is something I found out about quite recently is that when my head gets busy like overwhelmed with people, noise and everything around me, your voice is actually something that calms me down. Actually out of all things, like classical music, lofi music etc. its only your voice and your videos that really make me stop, chill for a minute and actually rethink the situation thats goin on at the moment. So thank you again for you, for the videos and for making my days better.

Was pretty down before watching this video. Just wanted to say thank you for always being so engaging & hilarious 🙏 Your book was amazing, I've shared it with so many friends & family members!

This is one of my favourite videos of yours 🥰 you’re such a great storyteller Cam. Really appreciate you ❤

Thank you 🙏 this video quite literally saved me today. It was painful to hear at some parts but also incredibly uplifting. You don’t know how many people you have helped with your videos! I always come back here not just for the mental heath advice but also for your creative projects because you’re truly one of the most genuine and fun!!! RU-vidr I’ve come across here

Thank you. Feels good to know I'm not alone. We get so fixated on ourselves we rarely see others experiencing the the same life.

This definitely came at the right time. I'm wanting to make some changes in life and this is so uplifting. Thanks for all you do!

This must be one of my favourite videos of the internet and from you. And I'm not even half through yet. Thank you being honest, vulnerable and saying out loud things that most of us know, but do not acknowledge. Now, when hearing them (especially in your light way of presenting it and visualising it with images that show the real absurdity of these behaviours) it's like what you said "Honesty is one of the things that you know it when you see it". 👏🙌😇

Thank you, I needed this. I feel like pretty much everything in this video can apply to me. I just didn't think I was miserable but now I can see that and I feel like I can do something about it.

Awesome! Thank you for your transparency. Thank you for all the visual examples. I bought your book. It's Great! Keep going man!❤

thank you so much struthless, you're videos are amazing, I'm always so happy when you pop up on my recommended page!

I think when you said you gave up on hope, what you really gave up on was magical thinking. To a child there's no difference but learning to tell the imposter from the authentic is among the challenging lessons of adulthood. Also, I synthesized a novelty Tshirt idea in the middle of watching the video. 💡

Thanks man, I loved the way you talked about your life so openly. And the non-chalance, and I loved your giggle at the end. You've got an beautiful voice that I could listen to all day. Really appreciate your pouring out of your soul!

Can't even begin to describe the quality of this video. I want to hug you brother... thanks for this. I needed this!

Gosh man, so relatable! From the alcohol to stop thinking to looking back at years of your life and wondering where your money went, and then discovering that the noise in your head is a condition and meds help... thanks for your vids. You make a difference in my life every day ❤

Thank you for sharing your experience. It in turn helps me understand some things I’m working with now, and I’m sure so many others too. You rock!

Your videos are so healing, Campbell. Love your work.

I appreciate you being open with your history of drugs and addiction! I decided 2024 is the start to me being sober and i realized the same things you mentioned, the positive i used to get from drinking were now negatives and I can't do moderation, so finding someone be so open about this is really helpful!!

Sorry about your art teacher bumming you out so much you hit a 10 streak of not drawing. Glad you found your way back to art. I find that scenario relatable; I too have had a bummer art teacher who made me abandon art for a long time, but have returned to be stronger than ever.

Hey Struthless, man.... I'm happy you're here with us.... For us. In doing good for yourself we've been able to hear those words that you share even when you're not speaking them. Thank you.

This is great advice. You're not just projecting and casting judgement on others, but instead each bullet point came from personal experience. I am 41 and still struggle with just about all of those things. Going to make a physical list of these so I can reflect on a regular basis (especially the part about drugs).

As always, your videos never fail to leave my heart smiling. It's one thing to give advice, but it's another to use your humanness to do it. Your vulnerability makes you so strong and everything you say and do 10x more impactful. Thank you for being human!!!

One of the most accurate descriptions I've heard regarding substances and addiction. Thanks for articulating it.

This was fantastic! I bought your book right away. Thank you for mentioning it.

1 discovering 2 struthless 3 has 4 made 5 my 6 life 7 _way less_ miserable. thanks, mate

Love your channel man. Great work and so much effort put into every video.

Saw the notification and went "oh shit" let's go.

This is so spot on. Thank you, I enjoyed this a lot.

You are such a breath of fresh air and deeply appreciated honesty. Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights!!

amazing work you do here. thanks for sharing and also for promoting self reflection and self improvement

Thank you for this video!! The self care argument I can so resonate with!

Favorite channel! Thank you for the motivating/inspiring/fun cool content

Just received your book yesterday, excited to get into it. Thanks for all your videos!

great video as always!! thanks for making it :D

Great video again. I love that it's so personal

Thank you! Your content is pretty much the only good one I watch online 😅 got your book and I love it!

Thank you for the video, I'm so glad you were able to fix your life in such meaningful ways. You made me realize that I'm also a victim of hopefulness and need to continue working for what I want. Keep up the great work.

Your shopping habits pre change were so adhd it’s spectacular! I would and could have got all those things for the same special reasons, I am better at money than I was but it takes effort xx

Thank you for your honesty. It was a gift. How something works is a lot more educational than "Don't do that stuff!".

Congrats for the youtube creator awards! Super happy to see that you now reached 1M subs!

I love your brain and the way you think Cam, your videos always end up helping me in one way or another, thanks for everything you do mate.

Thank you for making this video, i do enjoy hearing your pieces of advice, they are very honest and beyond the clichés. Thank you!

This was my first video I saw of yours and man! Great video! Excited to watch more of your stuff

Thanks a lot for the video man!!

Deleting twitter off my phone is the most simple way ive ever improved my mental health

I’m so glad I’ve found your channel. So informative

I think this might be my favorite one so far. Keep it up!

This video is so incredible. Helpful, humorous, insightful and honest. Thank you for being you Struthless!

Loved this! Thank you. Your book was a real game changer for me. I'm reading it for a 2nd time now ❤

Thank you for your videos, been watching you for a couple of years now. You’re very appreciated

i really needed to hear that 'setback' part because i just got a shitty day at work and i thought i am just incapable of doing the job altogether. today i'm trying to get back on track and this video helps so much. thank you!!!

Your channel was recommended to me, and I'm glad it was. Looking forward to exploring your channel more, I enjoy your delivery and insight. I struggle with alcoholism.