7 QUALITIES OF AN ELEGANT WOMAN | How To Become a Woman of Elegance | WOMAN OF ELEGANCE 

Thank you for this video. I first became interested in elegance as a personal refinement pursuit at least 40 years ago while in military service. I made a commitment to be impeccable in my uniform. While having an impeccable uniform is the standard of military service, I really took it to heart in other ways. I remember an incident while interacting with a group of other enlisted personnel. After a few minutes of conversation, one of the men saw my sleeve insignia and said, “you’re not an officer?” I said no. He replied, “you carry yourself like an officer.” That was a high compliment! This gentleman’s words stuck with me all these years. Being committed to elegance in all that I do has served me well. I may not have the most elegant wardrobe (could use improvement); however, I am committed to elegant behavior and class, which is the more important aspect I believe.

Never be afraid to walk away from someone that disrespects your boundaries. (They will never respect you if you stay)

Prov. 31:26 are words to live by for an elegant woman. Always. 💖

Elegance is a behavioral thing more than a dressing up thing

Although I am a gentleman-in-training, and there are key differences in the nicer behaviors between myself, and the fairer gender-I enjoy listening to your videos as it gives me a sense of what traits should be mirrored by the ladies I meet, and what differences and nuances to look out for. I am able to understand things with as why I should be so open with praise and compliments, but why I’ve never heard the same in return from ladies I meet and greet. Thank you for these videos!!

1. Show Appreciation - Don't forget basic pleasantries like "Please" and "Thank You". 2. Keep to Time 3. Listen Attentively - Look the person in the eye. 4. Be Kind & Considerate 5. Silence Speaks Volumes - High class elegant women are not talkative and loud. Silence gives an air of mystique that is intriguing and attractive. 6. Dress Elegantly - Dress for the right occasion and dress for your body type. 7. Be Trustworthy & Accountable - Stick to your words and live up to your promise.

Thank you. I'm 51 and still learning.

Notice elegant Vivienne here actually says “going” instead of “gonna”! Classy🌸

Your hair and makeup are ALWAYS applied in a lovely fashion. You're a great example. I'm learning a lot! Thank you!

I took a lot of notes. Thank you ❤ I’m 30 and I have a two year old looking up to me. I’m in outside trade so this was much needed. “May God continue to bless you.”

Hi, Vivienne. What you are doing is so important! These days, there is an over-riding trend to let down the standard and just be "comfortable". An appeal to be more refined, thoughtful of others, and well- mannered is always needed! So, thank you! And.... You look so lovely with your hair down!

I truly appreciate your messages. Never have anyone shared with me so much wisdom not even my mother. She did not know how to part this information to me. A person cannot teach what is not known to them. I have made this a part of my regular agenda to listen at you.

I once heard it a story about a very highly placed British Duchess who always knew, and greeted, her hostess' BUTLER by name. Also--in personal and professional applications--praise in public, correct or reprimand in private.

Absolutely love your eloquent teaching on etiquette!! And more so, since it’s Biblically based!👍🏽😊

I absolutely love your content. Thank you so much for all the effort & work you put in as a Godly woman. It’s a fresh breathe of air to see women out here still valuing the concept of elegance.

Define talkative? I speak clearly and assertively and I’m well read. I’me always told I speak well esp by those who are older in age 60s/70s from wealthy background. I’m not softly spoken not as that’s not my nature. But I’m not obnoxious like oh my gosh!, or Over excited like HEY HEY!!!

You are a gorgeous and truly elegant lady. I just came accross your channel and watched your latest videos. They are very informative and you are a great speaker. This one spoke to me in particular, especially the part about speaking with grace and kindness... lol. Something I would like to master as I am often too blunt and direct. Just wanted to let you know that your work is appreciated! 🌹💜

Your channel pleasantly appearred out of no where. I would have never assumed this to be a need in my life. However, now that I am hear I will not stop watching. I accept each and every challenge in every video

I agree with everything that you are saying 💯 I agree kindness should be placed in high value and treating others well not talking down to people, not being condescending - and these are all great qualities to have but realistically I find other people aren't that nice and not that way inclined. You have to be a very, very kind person to embody those traits and there are people like that out there but that's for someone who feels that they should be kind to other people regardless of how others behave. Without trying to toot my own horn that's me, I am kind and I know this because people have prompted this to me as if it's my greatest weakness "but, you're too nice." I've been told. "Other people don't think like you." I, like to see it as a strength but others find and think they can take advantage of me and growing up, I know people aren't nice. There have been some exceptions and especially women who are classy only converse or want anything to do with you unless you are of refinement, otherwise I find they do look down their nose at you for not measuring up. I understand that the energy you put out into the world is what you get back but apart from a few exceptions, people aren't that nice. They will gossip and talk about behind your back. Friends, who you think are friends were never really friends and I've found the reverse is true, people who aren't condescending and gossipy are the natural down to earth humble people who perhaps aren't refined who, when they select you as a friend you have a friend for life not a "friend" that makes you look good for five minutes but will dump you when another elegant looking woman comes along.

Vivian, thank You very much. You are blessed with divine beauty; in spirit, mind, and body.

Wow, this is very educative content. I just discovered and immediately subscribed to your channel. Keep up the good work of helping us to become better version of ourselves.

Thank you for providing such well thought out and balanced information! Your suggestions are time tested and essential for any woman who is looking to be her best self! I just subscribed and can’t wait to learn more!💖🌸😊🙌🏽✨

I just can't resist follow your content🍀 I have been searching this kind of deep ness about elegance for ages, like a hunger to know about it and translate to my real life Thank you soooo much!🌸🌸

Thank you for refreshing my etiquette and speaking skills.

You and your message are just lovely.💕

I came across you today and wish to continue being part of your journey I wanna blossom into a refined elegant woman.... I have also subscribed🤗🤗Thanks

Even when I try to kindly and lovingly approach a friend about a problem, I still End up being blocked or they get overly offended :/

I just came across your channel and I love it. Well explained points. Thanks

Yes Vivienne the book is very informative,thankyou.

Beautiful lady…thanks for another great video 🇨🇦🇹🇹👍🏾

I am 30 & changing the trajectory of things

Thank you for such an informative message you bring to us, this is somthing unique and so motivating to be the best version of yourself . I'm glad I found your channel couldn't resist to subscribe. Love from India.💖🇮🇳

DARLING MS. A I CAN JUST LOVE ALL THE ELEGANCE IDEAS YOU DISPLAY AT ANY TIME I BE JUST LEARNING ALL THE MORE. . THANK YOU LADY.

I like your natural look, beautiful.

Hello Vivian. Thank you for your videos! May you please do a video on maintaining elegance at the gym?

Enjoying your contents, all the way from Malaysia 💗

Love this video and your advice 💯💋💞

Thank you for this video. Each one I view, I learn something new...something very useful in helping me become the lady of elegance I so much desire to be. Again, thank you.

You see that point number four. It’s very difficult for me. The volume of lashings i receive from angry 😡 customers sometimes really affect me. So bad that It I am mentally stressed 😥 and I tend to respond back. Which makes my response to be a distasteful... I honestly don’t like getting angry overboard. Thanks for sharing this beautiful message

I love you so much Vivian. Yo doing a great Job. U have changed my life tremendously

I WANT YOUR ACCENT!!!!!! Pls teach us that 2!!! Love I t!! If not I'm moving to London!!! Wanted to live these since the twiggy days !! I was the "black twiggy" at TCU( FR WORTH) DESIGN MAJOR

Thank you.love your makeup and skin.🙏🌹

This is so soo good

Thank you for all you do for us ❤❤❤❤

Thank you Vivienne for the inspiration.

Please make video on how to set boundaries

Thank you so much for your advice. I immediately subscribed to your channel. I have a struggle with speaking on camera and I don't know if that's why your channel was recommended by the algorithm. There is one thing that concerns me, the reference of the queen and princess Diana ( who I also admire). Is it that we dont have enough women of colour for us to use as reference? I think our young women would benefit greatly from having someone that looks like us and embodies all that you speak about as a good motivator. Let me know your thoughts. Great video overall !

Hello, could you please do a video on how to be elegant when you are a single mom. Elegance eludes me when I am running around with kids. Thank you

Thank you ma, God bless you.

💕 thank you Ms. Vivian.

Thank you so much for all your advice ♥️🌹🌹🙂

SO "GIRLY& LADY LIKE"!!!

You are very beautiful and powerful Thank you for this piece

Please keep on going, you are truly amazing!.😍😍😍

I'm hoping you are well and healthy and saying prayers for you miss beautiful

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Thanks very much for this video, it informative , educational and very interesting. It enlighten my darkness, I appreciate it.

Thank you!!

This is interesting Work is in progress

Thank You for this video. I love you 😘

Thank you for all what you I'm doing for us you are such a wonderful person I just sat watching your video about 2 days ago and I find it so interesting and I will always follow you may God bless you❤❤❤

Thank you so much for valuable knowledge.

I complimented someone after her community had been through a natural disaster. I had also been badly affected but what she did wasn't towards me but her neighbour. I told her she was a great neighbour and she took great offence to it. She was offering her bathroom to her neighbours whose houses had been destroyed and because MY neighbour had a portable bathroom and wouldn't loan it to us or even allow us to shower after our own home had been destroyed by the same natural disaster, this lady opened her home and I thought that was a very loving and generous thing to do. Instead, I was called rude and I was blocked from her social media account.

Excellent speaking with beautiful smile ❤❤❤

Can you make a video about elegant women's attitude. I mean how should they react on problems or worries or how are they gonna deal with low self esteem. Thank you ❤

You're beautiful!! Love your carriage...thanks for the tips

You’re so inspiring. Thank you for this.🤍

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and kindness. 💛

Thank you for your videos, I love them 🙏🏽♥️

Your videos make me feel like a new person,,,thanks and God bless you

Hi the links on your site aren’t working for me. Is there a direct link to the handbook?

I'm gonna scroll down, go through all that I missed. Thank u

Speaking of complimenting women, you have an amazing smile 👌🏼

"Blessed with a gift of gab" :D That was the most elegant way I have heard it described. We have a saying "vaccinated with a gramophone needle".

You are wonderful!

Just wanted to say you are so gorgeous!

Thank you so much sister

❤thank you

Great video! Thank you.

Thank you for your content.

Thank you 🙏

Very refined content Vivianne.. thank you.

Thanks

Thank you

I absolutely LOVE you!!!❤️

Lovely video! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and wisdom. New subscriber

I always wait on your new content 🤍💯

We need a lecture on how to be angry in feminine way. Yes we are ladies but still humans need to be angry sometimes.

Excellent!! 👏👏

I have requested the "Free Woman of Elegance Handbook" multiple times but have not received a download link.

Thanks for your content

Lovely content

Hi Vivian! While I highly appreciate your teachings, may I please be advised which shops sell your book?

God bless you for what you do. Glad I found your Channel.

I love everything about you vivian

We appreciate you ❤

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I love your content and I hope to see more from you.

Thank you ❤️ 🙏🏿

This is very thoughtful and relevant, Vivian Abaena (I hope I spelled your last name correctly). Thanks a lot.