I have been blessed to have had one housekeep/childminder for 24 years until she passed. My son gave the eulogy at her funeral in fluent Shona, her language that she taught him from birth. She was a single mother of three, my go-to person, and an extra grandparent to my children. I never had to instruct her on cleaning my home, never missed any of my possessions, and trusted her more than my relatives to care for my children. I too was a single parent but she made it so much easier. It has been 10 years since we lost her but we still miss her so much even though my children are adults with children of their own.
I always hear those stories of househelps staying in one household for decades while mine can't last 3 months till i stopped hiring. Whats the secret! .
@@justinamusyoka4986 I really think I was just trully blessed because even my friends were always trying to poach her. I am obviously still in touch with her extended family who all grew up to be good people and am substitute granny for all the photos of grandchildren receiving prizes at school etc.
I had strange dreams about a previous househelp, and my hubby used to tell me he suspects that the househelp was a nightrunner, yet i had not told him about the dreams... I prayed and still had those funny dreams.... that was it, out woman, out
I also don't check bags or suitcases belonging to househelps during dismissal. Yes anything stolen can be replaced, as long as you leave me and mine in peace.
Lovely stuff mommy , I once’s checked my house help bag was to dismiss that morning.I sent her to the market to buy stuff for me before telling her am dismissing her ,checked her bag while she was out found my stuff and kids in her bag she had taken,took them out and pretended like I didn’t know.when she came back I broke the news to her told her the reason, paid her and dismissed her.
I hire househelps calmly,I take time to teach them what I need to be done,then I treat them like I would like to be treated if I was one,ofcourse after sometime they think am too good not to be taken advantage of;I watch them calmly and calmly from nowhere I tell someone,thank you for your work,here are your dues,go home,then I live their consciousness to sanitize them,Non of the househelps knows my yelling or I would look when sad.
@@monicahmbugua2451 😆😆I always feel that they shouldn't change me from the person I am,I believe every human being deserves to be treated with dignity,love and understanding but unfortunately to some; their interpretation to that is different.But suzie said "God has lined them up for us until we stop needing them."
One left me on the day before mashujaa just because I calmly told her to avoid the midnight noisy phonecalls 🥺she actually thought I would beg her to stay coz you know am too good,and voila she left only to tell the mama who brought her that I never even tried to beg her to stay I mean....... 🥺
I think if you honestly feel that you must check the bag upon departure (like if it was a case of theft or impropriety), do it as they are packing, it's less invasive. Also and this is just me, when I can, I always take her to the nearest matatu stage, like if you live far from the road, it's fair and to avoid the drama/gossip outside with other house helps or watchmen who she may have known during her stay.
I have learnt to check their bags on arrival and departure. Their's this one who had a knife in her bag. Another with more than 10 phones in the bag, kumbe she used to steal in every house she worked. Another one had ARVs..... It's not like I discriminate HIV positive people but having small kids I wasn't comfortable. Plus I don't have money to replace everything they steal. So I will always check. That's me
i learnt the hard way, when a househelp stole my academic documents,i found them after 1year and 6months please note -avoid gossiping or having family conversations infront of househelpers -buy CCTV cameras , they will save you -take time to check their bedrooms -ask them about their background ( my sister onced hired a nanny who told her they have awitch doctors shrine at home
We don't check bags. But there was this helper that we dismissed coz of theft.that one we had to check the bags. Truly we found things she had stolen that day.
I was stuck in the 1st lockdown with a maid who was extremely rude and quarrelsome. She has been a good girl but had so much burden from her family. As soon as they reopened public transport I set her free just the next morning. She has apologised over & over every time she calls me.
I love how you talk about it...😂😂.. it's hilarious and educative as well...... As a kid who had househelps...i can totally relate.....i remember being forced to eat and I vomited.....
Am ahousegirl for 21yrs my boss has never checked my bag but I have never seen the need to steal anything for me God is first in whatever ido, but I know house girls steal not all of them but few.They even steal food from freezer
I love everything about you.my boss referred me to watch how you clean your washingmachine..my boss is the best Nd so far with God's help bt she keep complaining about my poor communication how can I do on this I really need to improve on this because she is so good to me.
Great content as usual Suzy. Other reasons are entertaining strange people when you're not there as this poses a security risk. Also giving kids their herbal medicine. What I mean is: she made her medicine and also gave to my toddler
That Last tip is hard for me.The Last one I releasd ,I had just learned that she taking alcohol in my own house . Together with other househelp in the neighborhood.This is not even the reason I fired her.She took my child for vaccination without even telling me just because the neighbors did so(The one they do door to door) Yeah in this Nairobi where you can't even be sure they are genuine or not . when I asked her about it she denied and denied and even threatened to leave at night.We talked sense in her and she promised to change and even stay.But the following day after consulting her 'committee' she told me she want to leave ,she even said she is not feeling well.I later learned she stayed at my next door neighbor for a whole weekend coz my neighbor had travelled and left the househelp with kids.Sasa Hawa ndio suzzy unasema tupigie ujue kama alifika.Akudanganye akiwa next door?.She is a grown up.Whatever your destination is .May the Lord guide you .Good bye.
Wooow!!!..You really inspire me..I am not the same from the day i started following this channel may God bless you suzzy...I have been referring friends here to learn just like me
You spoke of this at the right time...my help went for an off day on Sunday and on Tuesday she has not yet come and the phone is off...namngoja kabsa akija I will fire her asap thanks for this video
Iyoo Suzy this is good bt not this month, next and Dec we are trying to save for next Yr school fees bt what can I say, some of us house helps don't behave. I'm thankful for my job because I'm able to feed, clothe and sent my kids to school
Thanks for this,I fired my last nanny in the morning since she was very rude to my kids and me.She even pinched my daughter and shouted at my son.She looked violent and always clicked on being given instructions.The morning I released her I just told her I had gotten another job and was leaving the country.Paid all her dues via mpesa and she left.I was really avoiding the confrontation,I even thanked her for taking "good care " of my children.
Thank you so much for this info. I needed it. Actually, imagine I had been praying about it! 😌 Has brought me some peace... Very timely... Thanks again. Enjoy your new home btw... 😉
Suzy nimecheka I woke all the neighbors kwa alcohol and drugs! You are funny! Your story telling skills are 100%! I LOVE your personality. God bless you
Interesting video Suzy. Question, Is it rude when you're speaking to your nanny or giving her instructions and she doesn't respond/acknowledge she's understood your instructions?
My sister's house help used to beat the kids when I heard that I took my nephew and she was fired on the spot 5 months later my nephew is still living with me
I had this nanny .. I had stayed with her for a week . There come Easter.. I had to travel upcountry and instructed her I wanna give her permission to go home for Easter.. offered her fare .. n a little stuff to take home . We agreed she will come back on Monday 11.00 am... On very Monday at 11.0am she texted me she won't come on very day ..." They are going to certain town to sign documents with the mum" mark you am the one who gave her permission but she decided to extend... I called her if she won't come akujie bag zake . She came around 1700hrs to collect her bags .. unfortunately kcb app wasn't working .. I told her I will pay you later in the day .. the kcb app disappointed me too.. she called me the following day uttering insults .. hapo ndipo nilijua kumbe sikukosea that I saw she had umangaa and she had pinched my son for nothing..I felt pain. My policy hire and fire
It's number 5, for me😐. Mistreating and abusing children?! On the spot. It tends to escalate and could get to dangerous levels. The other things on this list can generally wait for end month, when I'm ready with the pay and gratuity.
What! mine was eating tobacco and spitting at some corner in the sitting room. My baby was 2 months, so I could not imagine leaving her with him. Mother in law thought i was being fussy saying i cannot live with her i guess cos she brought her. I fired her after one month. Then another one had to go because she would leave my kids at night and go to sleep with the neigbors shamba boy while i was on work trip. oh yes, my friend was given a slap by the househelp when she fired her. then she refused to go. she had to call her mum and hubby to kick her out. i never check their bags for the 20 years I have employed them. most are not thieves,
Number 5 of reasons to fire is my top. My children were the reason I hired, so even acting in a manner to suggest unkindness to children was my cue to pack my diaper bag and take my babies to work. FAYAAD! Suzie, I love your videos. I loved the part of your house tour where you said, ' ...if you like looking at people's houses....' 🤭that's me! Please do a step video on how to prep your home and family for a life independent of house helps. And keep up your good work.
If you have fired her you may not check her bag 💼 but if she wants to leave you and her luggage is suddenly 5 times and she was only 2 months in your house???Go with your gut feeling.
I agree with you! I also don't check their stuff when they're leaving, I also say the stuff can be replaced. Unless they carry my children in the bag the other things don't really matter to me.
I think it is very important to check the bags, for me not necessarily because of the theft, i don't care what she takes if she is stealing it, some house helps carry cloth, photos, combs for witchcraft, so why not check just to be conscious. Better to be safe than sorry. Besides the checking can be done respectfully. I usually check them when they come and as such check them when they are leaving too.
Its long since i was here,nice content always,kindly discuss on the dressing code for househelp,isnt necessary to realy talk to them on the way way they should dress while in your house
That missing thing ghai my recent girl told me she wasnt at work for 2 days without calling to tell me anything cause alikufa akafufuka .🤣 kenya hii utaina kila kitu
I fired mine because she slept and almost burnt the house with food on the fire and kids in the house... Even with her sorry excuses I didn't just feel safe with her around my kids and my house...
