7 Signs People Are Completely Fake with You 

yeah that's spot on

So true!

Facts 💯

not true! some times you need to vent and you trust certain people,but you don't trust certain people in able to vent! I have a few very good and true friends!

@@kellymiller9641 then vent to family, not coworkers. Or at least take it to HR. This is not what I meant.

Thank you 😊. Was hoping to find a list .

Gee..this is everyone I've ever known in my life 🤔😁🙄

Sounds like 90% of the people I encountered in my life 🙄

Whenever I think I want to watch a video like this one. I always look for a comment like yours. Thanks.

Fake people always want validation

Amen!

I agree! Changing the subject or just being completely silent as well is another sign.

It really is!!! That's why when I detect fakeness with someone, I cut them off!!! They don't deserve any of my time!!!

Yes they are. Some of them want constant attention and expect a lot from you, when they haven’t actually benefited you in any way but are trying too hard to convince you about how great they are with all their grand promises that will never happen. I don’t trust people who depend on flattery to win me over for this very reason

They are psichic vampire(they drain YOUr vital energy)

Just a bunch of Black holes. Swim away my friend and let them have their little masquerade till death. I have better things to do

It is

Your experiences in life mirror mine unfortunately. And it is not just a few bad apples either. Over half the population are fakes and takers and betrayers.

I wonder if there was a missing part to that saying. Maybe it should have gone something like this: "Treat people who you've thoroughly vetted to be worthy of you're time and attention how you want to be treated and discard the rest". Sounds harsh but think of the consequences of doing it the other way: you remain surrounded by fake people who leech away your energy, time, patience, resources, etc., etc., etc....

Me too. We just can’t .?it’s a loose battle. Nobody is this way. I think 💭 that was said by somebody who wanted to get over on people and needed victims

Same here!

You're not alone, the human spirit is in a state of decay from all forms of media and fluoridated water/GMOs, etc. It really baffles me how people lie to themselves and don't see themselves become old and colder inside...more irritable & indifferent towards on another, etc.

@Jesus Christ Agreed. Something he didn’t mention but really stands out to me as a red flag is someone that comes up to you and acts like your best friend but the moment someone else comes around they will drop you mid sentence to go talk to them.

Exactly! I smoke weed and have a lot of stress in my life and sometimes health issues. This is the main reason I cancel, can't concentrate and forget things. Its not because I'm fake or dislike someone.

Also people with ADHD struggle to focus with eye contact or remembering..they can get distracted easily

Thank you for mentioning this. Especially, people with ADHS can struggle with that and might have to cancel appointments cause they didn't get things done on time. I think, nowadays, a lot of this might get interpreted as toxic behaviour, when people are just struggeling with life.

I'm seeing the ADHD comments I have it as well. I've struggled with the same things you guys have mentioned, but one of the main complaints that people have when we miss things or don't focus is, "if it were xyz you wouldn't forget, or you wouldn't miss." And while it still can happen. There is some truth to that. There is a neurological reason why that happens with us, but this is a general message. If it's an oddly specific reason like that, odds are its already gonna be known so there wouldn't be speculation on fake behavior anyway unless they truly don't understand you to which you should probably cut ties anyway. My point is that despite that fact, if a person really thinks about you all the time and wants to talk to you, even if they're not able to they will find a way the second they can, unconsciously, instinctually. And if they are just shut down generally, fine; but if that behavior is not consistent across all people they consider close, like for example they seem to forget your plans and conversations, but make plans with people at the drop of a dime easily, or telling you about other conversations they have with other people, then they just might be being fake with you, or not care about you as much as you think, or even they think they do. ADHD and weed isn't an excuse in that situation. Weed is a choice (for most unless medical which again, you would already be aware of an have no cause for speculation) and ADHD affects and debilitates us at varying levels per person greatly, but it doesn't mean we aren't capable of doing things consciously and purposely either. P.S. I know the comments made as you grow up, they're hurtful. It's also out of your control, but you gotta accept it and move past the trauma related to the undiagnosed ADHD days and ignorant comments. You know why you do things. Work to make it better, take back control, and don't make excuses with specific examples for people disrespecting your time. Don't got time to focus on that, literally lol we got ADHD, hyperfocus on your dreams and success, we got this.💯💯😁

Well sometimes I was acting fake… to my bestfriend by not being there for her while I was going through something too and I really shouldn’t have distance myself and I am still beating myself up for not living the pain with her… and not being there- I hope God knows That I am really hoping that this is not the end of our friendship

@@OceanicPearlz1 Thank you for your kind thoughts .She loses out in the long run .Wishing you a Happy New Year.God bless you always.🌹💖💖🎉

NEVER!!! I still be at wits ends thinking how I was betrayaled

@@Her_shey_bar Sorry to hear that. It is incredibly painful both emotionally and physically.

BAM and DAMN sooooo correct

So true... but in the end a betrayal. Is a portal to get away.....

@@lisalinnae9844 makes sense

Same here im trying to

Facts ❤

Same

Same 💯 it’s the safest and brings serious peace of mind ❤

Thank you! Was hoping I wasn't the only one to realize in real life it isn't so black and white

But if it happens over and over it's completely disrespectful.

Great point. . 💕.

@@leomduffy794 Illnesses don't care about disrespect; that doesn't mean the friend doesn't. That's why I said to talk to people before dropping them and not just told everyone to be a doormat because "maybe depression" :)

Ty i was just gonna write this

I like that so true

Thankyou. It is true,

Nicely said, I agree

A lot of narcissists around

This is only true if everyone shared the same values but the fact is there are many people who either do direct harm and/or look the other way when people they support do harm- those people don’t fit into your truism and should be fought/devalued.

I know your pain.....my entire family is fake !!

My whole life i am dealing with fake people.but these tips will help me . I can detect a liar and fake person. Thank you sir appreciate so much

@@LaWendellyn777 that’s sad 😢

@@pontiacuploads1953 so true!

Janique, so have I but it's because I believed more in the goodness of bad people. I had to stop doing that!

Your opinion is an national genetic here in Ireland, so it won't perplexe ...🇮🇪

Yes you definitely can’t share your good news with them they will get jealous of you!!

Any information you give can be twisted to something bad, "a weapon or tool" against you. No matter how positive or good it might be.

its so hard for INFPs to live in a society like this 😩🤚

That's right! It narrows down to "Trust".

Amen

Self respect and reciprocation

Same here

Know your worth. I’m glad you’ve had the realisation, there will be some loneliness but at least you’re in good company ;)

I had a best friend "so called" for close to twenty years I put up with so much crap from her we were like sisters but it finally got to the point I had to cut contact with her it hurt but it had to happen it really hurts when you care for someone your that close to you truly don't know at all and had to cut ties with I'm sorry for you because I completely understand the feeling

Amen sis

When the lord speaks- believe him

These people will even try to manipulate what God has shown to you ( watch your back) from experience

But most people feel that way. What about those that don't and truly want friends

You know it Sister.

It would seem that the desire to have a real friend is more universal than the desire to be a real friend. Since the only difference is the amount of energy required in either case, I am left to think that having a friend is easier than being a friend.

That's the thing they are none you ur own friend. When you are broke you are broke when there's no one to talk to you talk to ur self which are the best conversations to have. By the way

I second that, my mother always used to tell me, "My girl if you have more than 5 friends you have too many"... the reason for this is because so few people are real and honestly want to be your friend 100%. Being someones friend takes alot of understanding and love and effection and emotion, so it works visa versa... I have wasted so much time trying to be the right friend for the wrong people and it almost broke me once, the rejection time and time again was just too much. Now, I dont hurry into a friendship unless the other person is sincere.

Sad but true. Unfortunately, most people are fake. I prefer the company of my dogs and cats to people.

I have a colleague like this. But when she needs something from me she will be all good and kind.

That has happened to me many times. I gave up saying YEAH, SURE! NOW I SAY, "I CAN'T MAKE IT."

For a few years I would invite a friend to hang out with our mutual friends. She would say she was free and she was going then call the hour we should be there to say she couldn't come. It was this year we me made plans and I was the one who canceled and she was mad and angry about me it. She still mad about it.

I've gotten "call me if you're feeling bad" (while depressed) and then I do and next thing I know is the next day when the person needs a favor... Then same again the next week. Now I just smile like 'sure, I'll call you...'

@@jannlewandowski5540 I wish I can say that to certain ppl and if they ask why just say “because I don’t like you”

There is a family member from my husband's side who 's very bad behaviour towards me without any reason. This person turns the head to the other side when seeing me and tries to make me feel worthless. It talks to my children and reacts as if I am not present It hates me without any obvious reasons. I know that 's a problematic person, jealous of me. The bad thing is that I have to face that person and this is going on for years and years. I don't see why this happens.

:(

Yes self examination indeed… right here. I regret not being there for my best friend and now she doesn’t think I was a friend…

Yup, so true, spot on 🎯💯

You talking about your husband

Been there I know what you mean..

I've been taken in and taken advantage of but I've gotten to the point where I haven't fallen for that from anyone again but I know one thing I've never done nor will I ever use betrayal as a vice against anyone it doesn't interest me I walk away from that

Woah u took it to another level that's is ssoooooo truw

It may not be others saying it behind your back though? Could be the person actually telling you such (they may be the actual back talker)

I’m the same. I’m introverted with crazy social anxiety and not the best at picking up on some social cues. I’ve also been stabbed in the back and fucked over many times so I am very hesitant and careful who I let in my life. But once they in they get all my loyalty and devotion

@@makmusikchi must be a 🦂

Yes

I agree…this video slaps misguiding labels on a lot of things that can be attributed to mental health

Thank you for bringing this up. We often don't like to acknowledge that we may well be making the same mistakes we so often criticize in others. But as long as we keep receiving validation of our views, we won't get challenged to wonder if maybe we play a part in perpetrating toxicity in relationships.

Yep people are mostly bad dogs are way better in fact all animals are real , sound s racist but most white people are fake and yep i,m white .

How sad. It sounds like you’ve never had a true friend.

@@TheJeanette53 no its not sad i have one real friend i,m happy being alone 😁

@@TheJeanette53 yes I have had many “friends’ I finally had a dear friend if 35 years stab me in the back until I was dead. I would rather be by myself then surround myself with ppl. I despise most ppl. Especially ppl that say I have never had a true friend. I am 56 and have learned a few lessons a long the way. Maybe you base your self worth on the fact that you have a few close friends. I don’t care. I love me and I am number 1. I look out for me.

I can relate.

Never regret any of your experiences, it has built you stronger. Regardless how painful it was, be glad you passed it safely.🙏

I am nearing 62 & yes, we unfortunately understood a very painful lesson many in life were lucky to skip over.😕🌈☮️🇨🇦

I totally understand. I went to a workshop about 5 years ago and did an evaluation on how each person effected my life. I always thought of myself as having so many friends that even in old age we’d sit around together in a nursing home together. After I did the evaluation, I found I only had 2 friends that met the requirements of being a equal friend. I was crushed to figure out so many people were my friends because of what I could give them and I never noticed they never gave back. I wrote them all letters basically writing them off, ending the friendship with reason. It was and still is painful to think about. I don’t regret any of it, each of these people brought small pieces to my story in my life. They became toxic and had to go. I’m down to 2 friends now, I can depend on them 100% to be there for me, it goes both ways. I sure wish they’d have taught this lesson in first grade 😊

​@@kajunheart871 this sounds wonderful! so sorry but so glad you got rid of them.

@@ladonnaramirez1533 Thank you!

After that to, they'll say hi how are you and then its a lot of typing to explain your day ( or worse , nothing) bye .... Maybe ppl dont lije small talk and dont text if they have nothing to say & it may stop that other person whos busy actually doing something at the time

So true

Thanks for sharing this, I’ve never been married but am a child of an ugly divorce. You’ve opened my eyes to the ways i sometimes mistrust myself. I definitely enjoy my solitude as well but would you say past experience can sort of hold you in a hermit mode? I’m sure it’s different for everyone, and to each his/her own. But eyes feeling wide opened to the fact that maybe i was the one being selfish not because they were selfish but because i didnt trust myself enough and so, i went ahead and began being selfish with myself.

@@hymnhallelujahtuhaven6975 hello, yes the Hermit mode could be a problem. I make plans to go places for time to time around my regular habits and routine. I like to change up my life a bit. Go places I have not been to yet. Buy a different fruit or veggie and see if I like it. As far as trusting myself I do. I know myself enough and have had comments from others letting me know what they see in me. Ha ha if it is a man that is not getting what he wants I know he will say something not so nice to change my ways. I don't worry about them. I have enough people around me who think I am very sweet and helpful. Try not to be weak for people who will not value you. Be careful. Have a nice evening.

Outstanding Ms. E. I'm 100% the same way as you. It's the best way to be. It does hurts because you like people to reciprocate, and no one with a sound mind wants to be alone, but I rather be alone than be with a narcissist.

@@edwardperez7665 and the whole society is being trained in the ways of narcissism thanks to social media and the dumbing down of ppl from state govt "education" and church.

WRITE LESS

You sound JUST like me...

I used to as well. The problem is I have noticed that often not only do they not appreciate my generosity (in terms of giving things, being a good listener, being available, being supportive etc) - over time they actually seem to start resenting & disrespecting me for it. They certainly don’t like it if I try to express an opinion and then they often start a devaluation and discard phase.

Agree snake / evil

Anxiety and depression as well

Exactly

I know!! That’s what I’m saying. There’s a huge gray area for people who suffer from mental illness or certain disabilities. We may do those things because of our illness and that in no way makes us fake. And trust, we don’t want to be that way… where our illness has taken over so much of our life we can’t even make it to plans with friends 💔

See my kind of people 😌

I cannot tell you how often in my longish life someone has said to me, "Do you always look like that when you concentrate?" Particularly if it had just occurred to me that the obvious way to open a can of soup was with a hammer and a screwdriver.

Hello? #trendingnowtv

me i can spot all of these real quick 🤦‍♀️ these are the basics also

I had to reach out and tell you I heard you I am in the same boat I could talk your legs of. My own kids . And the man I love lol. All are takers and then be cone I visible they LIVE BEHIND MY FENCE. I've lived here 40 yrs and I can't move . Until I can afford .a place to live.;(. I feel like I died and no one told me

Same here. It was painful to realize about a few after knowing them for decades. Users

Same here💁🏻‍♀️I’m “always” the caretaker and the giver, but I learned the hard way… Not everyone is my friend and just to Love them from a distance …sadly, but true

Theodore Roberts yes my dan, people always want my help, but are oddly absent whenever i need a lift

I don't quite understand guys like that. I want to get to know a woman before going to bed with her.

@@user-zr6pl6nb6z 💀💀

@@Boosted_aj Is that supposed to have some kind of significance?

Why would you date a man who didn't want children and you have three?

That's just small talk hun. She doesn't mean it literally, just something to chatter about. Don't take it personal.

I had a guy "friend" who said we would go do certain things, but he never found the time to do any of it. He would tell me he would "text later after putting his kid to bed" and would never do it. I learned after awhile that his word was not good and that was an awful feeling because I thought we had a real friendship based on trust. It was a sham.

Turn the tables on her. The next time she suggests hanging out, agree to it and then ghost her.

@@comment5398 but why bring up hanging out at all? Just make your small talk without false invitations.

@@NoMoreTears64 some folks are extremely flaky. Bullet dodged

Or they only call/text when they need something

FCK RELIGIÓN

@@ricardosommelier1130 You have a religion....it's the religion of money and moral degradation

@@ricardosommelier1130 exactly

Good point. I think if you confronted these people, they would act like they have no clue what you’re talking about.

Thanks for educating me on this topic I am a giver and sometimes I am so tired when I need friend and family support they are not there I am alone thank God for Jesus,

@@irmaadams8029 Exactly ! Same here... honestly sometimes it's nobody's fault. We need to learn and find ways to deal with it on our own until we find the right people. Just go to a park or open space, exercise , even running helps..find new people to chat.. Whatever works It's heartbreaking if you keep thinking nobody is there for you.