Such a good mantra. Ppl who secretly want you to fail, will do or say anything to see your life crumble if given the opportunity. So don’t let them have it.
@@ABCDEF-jh5bp Isn't that just like saying everyone including ourselves thinks like that? I personally don't mind other's success. To each their own anyway.
As long as we have empathy for ourselves as well as others and don’t use it as an excuse to let people hurt us. Empathy is great, but it doesn’t mean it didn’t still hurt. My favourite variation goes: “hurt people hurt people but that’s no excuse to hurt me”
As soon as I notice red flags of a jealous friend, I try to avoid and distance myself from that person. Jealousy is a seed that would grow into resentment, toxicity and other negative stuff. I have to avoid those people as soon as possible.
Thats' a good approach as you will keep away from toxic behaviours and unsaid words. But if it's a close friend, it might also be helpful to initially communicate.
@@Psych2goI agree, I'm a person that's very prone to jealousy and I'd like to and am working on that, and I think it'd be really sad if a friend just abandoned me for that
That could result in isolating yourself or your friend. Try to tell your friend about those red flags. Ask them why they are act like that. Friends are better be open with each other than avoid each other without saying anything.
Achievement unlocked: Timestamper 0:42 Competition 1:26 Critical Much 2:08 smear campaign 3:10 Backhanded Compliments 4:09 A form of flattery 5:00 Hot and Cold 5:49 Clingy You are welcome B)
I had a friend in middle school who was my ‘best friend’. She would always go around telling my other friends lies, like that I stole something from someone or something like it. She would always gatekeep, gossip or play victim. I’m glad I found better friends
I'm happy to hear that you were able to find new friends. Sometimes, people may not know how to deal with jealousy and try to bring their friends down with them.
I let go of a 15-year-friendship. The signs of jealousy were there for a long time, but I ‘tried’ to ignore them. Until, she made a comment about one of my kids. That was it for me. That ‘let go’ was 8 years ago. No regret. 👍🏽💕
Honestly I don't know how to be jealous of anyone at all because I'm only competing with myself and I and whenever my friends become successful I celebrate with them with no pretending because I'm genuinely happy about their successes
@@tdesq.2463 thanks, it's hard for me to be jealous of one's success because I'm not competing with them, I'm only competing with myself. Whenever one of my friends or family succeeds, I congragulate them and be motivated only
Guess I'm not 😂😂😂 I honestly despise anyone who is better than me mainly because I should be 100 times better than them but life conspires against me to make it so I never improve. The effortless and unworthy are the ones who get rewarded it seems. I don't have any friends so I don't have to worry about it
I had a friend for 5 year. She was constantly competitive with me and extremely harsh and critical. She was praying on my downfall. The more I was with her the more I was miserable ,and she seemed to like it. As soon as my life would improve, she would seem uninterested and every time we would have an argument (she was extremely demanding, I had to be available 24/7 for her and answer to all her messages and calls within minutes…) something bad would happen to me. She was always complaining and hateful towards strangers. I really regret those 5 years that I gave her my friendship.
Dealt with all of these No more headaches having cut them all off. Solitude for this dude is very refreshing. Loneliness doesn’t occur around toxic people. You value alone time.
This is literally what's wrong with my current friendships , my friend is jealous of me ,being the school topper and I'm jealous because she's the social butterfly I probably should talk to her 😅
@2Cute2Eat, well, staying like that won't solve the issue either. It might ruin your friendship, too, you know? Ik it can be difficult to address such things but you need to do it to preserve this friendship
@@Inspired_by_Sarah I 2nd the Motion. There's an open wound here, and it needs to be cleaned and stitched up before an insidious infection takes hold. Don't let it get ugly. Seriously.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Hurt people hurt people is a very dangerous generalization. This kind of careless compassion is a very common form of toxic positivitism I keep on hearing lately. You do not have to make amends with toxic people. You are allowed to cut them off, and you are allowed to not explain yourself, and you are allowed to not give them a chance or benefit of the doubt.
Very true! Short quotes like that tend to be massive generalizations that can easily be misinterpreted. Toxic optimism disguised as mental health advice does seem to be on the rise recently, especially with more and more outdated ideas slyly creeping into the newer generation's thought process.
I was once that jealous friend towards somebody I use to look up to online. We had a pretty good friendship until things began to crumble and they broke my heart, which made me became resentful not just by how they treated me, but the eventual success they got because of me. This led me into a very unhealthy life style of stalking their socials and bad mouthing them to the point where they had to block me. Now I don’t think about them as often anymore. I do still have moments where I get a tiny bit jealous of a creator’s success and wishing I had the same stuff like them, but I would have to remind myself that it’ll come eventually and that I should focus on myself. It’s painful, but I’m only human.
I realized I had become the jealous one, but being aware didn't make me get rid of that tomorrow tho; kept seeing my friend, and it didn't indeed. Many comments here said they distanced themselves from such toxic ppl because it was harmful and even traumatizing for their quality of life. So I decided to keep myself away from her, for her own good 'till I solve those bad things I'm projecting onto her. I really appreciate her, so I hope they (friend group) have someone healthier taking my place.
I’m a content creator and the hardest lesson I had to learn was not every person following me is supportive nor does everyone in my circle actually want the best for me. I’ve had to disassociate with so many “friends” because they were discreetly envious of my success and it hurts because I’ve always cheered them on and wanted the best. After hearing another content creator say, “People will only support you until they start perceiving your success as a threat. Then they’ll begin to resent you”, I started paying real close attention to the way my at the time “friends” interacted with me. Unfortunately had to cut them off too. Edit: I had this one particular “friend” who actually ended up doing everything in this video, step by step in sequential order which lead to me disconnecting from them, except it go so bad to the point people started approaching me with concern wondering if I was aware of everything that was happening. Of course I was and attempted to initiate conversation about it but it got way too weird to even attempt salvaging the friendship.
Now that I watched this I start to understand why I often question myself "Why do I start to hate my friends so much?" or "Why am I pulling an all nighter for 4 days again to get ahead of her in a story quest or book". I do think she rubs her rich father's money in my face and I often wish for her life style. I've known her for two years but this last semester I felt an immense amount of anger when I looked at a new post of her's or a story. I'm really glad you make these types of videos it often helps me realise that maybe I'm the problem in the friendship and I should maybe try and confront them. But sometimes (knowing her) I feel like she would just laugh at my words. She often called me dumb while I was explaining a theory or a classical book's point. (Also, I apologize for any grammatical mistakes i'm really trying to improve my english and being the class topper in an other language is not enough, sorry if i used wierd phrases)
Literally all my “friends” back to high school, Is painfull to have a friends that envy’s you but having a group of persons who are willing to hurt you because of envy you is a living hell. I rembenber having the worst self steam because I grew up in an abusive family, then going to school and spend time with all these “friends” really has put me down. I felt like if I was doomed or something. I hope I found a good psychologist and a good group of friends now that I’m an adult.
wow, so much of this hit home. I am a boss but I never call myself the boss as we’re a small company. I’ve had many employees over the past 40 years act as if we’re best friends to only find out they spread evil words to other employees to try and win them over from liking me. But to my face they are sweet as apple pie. When called out, the response is always SHOCK. “How could you accuse me of such actions, after all I do for you!” I feel like I lost a friend and an employee as the relationship never lasts long after being called out. I let a lot slide as I don’t want to knit pick but when people are attacked then I step in. Being a boss is complicated because you deal with FEELINGS and today everyone wears their feelings on their sleeves. Defensive and offensive come quick. Years ago if someone was hung over they would still come to work and try and hide the this from me. In the past 15 years not only do they tell me they’re going to get drunk tonight but they text out in the morning and have no issue saying they drank too much and have a headache. I feel Sick. Really?! I am talking about adults 30-50 years old.
@@seth2750 The time for you to change, for you to make a better life for yourself! To make more friends, even if you're friendless, you can make some friends, wether that'd be in work, school, ect. Even if you are friendless, by watching this video, you'll know when a friend is jealous of you quicker, so that you can cut that toxic friend out of your life quicker before you become more like him/her.
Timestamps 1). Competition 0:42 2). Critical much 1:25 3). Smear campaign 2:07 4). Backhanded compliments 3:08 5). A form of flattery 4:07 6). Hot and cold 4:59 7). Clingy 5:48 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Timestamps: 1:25 Constantly competing with you 1:42 Criticizing you 2:13 Smear campaigning (spreading rumors) 3:11 Backhanded compliments 4:10 Shamelessly copying your persona 5:01 Hot and cold emotions 5:48 Clingy behavior
Signs Your Friend is Jealous of You: 1. They are frequently competitive with you. 2. They are overly-critical of you. 3. They create a smear-campaign/gossip about you. 4. They give you back-handed compliments. 5. They start copying everything you do shamelessly. 6. They give you hot/cold treatment, meaning one moment they’re friendly with you but then next they’re emotionally distant. 7. They have possessive/clingy behavior over you.
I don't agree that friend who feels insecure after seeing his/her friend getting so close with other person/people is a toxic friend. Coz i personally 3xperienced the heinous consequences of it. I can't even describe how my BFF got attached with other people & kick3d me out of the friendly zone. So, I completely disagree with your point.
My 3 year friend was I think always jealous of me, god knows why because she was actually prettier and loved by more people than me, and had a boyfriend long before me. I never had a boyfriend. She always told me something mean whenever I came to school, for example: “you didn’t do your hair, it looks messy” or “ I don’t really like your outfit it doesn’t match you” it always brought me down and made me feel insecure, I just took her advice because i fought she knew what was best for me. little words of negativity can cut the deepest when used correctly. Now I decided to not be friends with her anymore because she would talk behind my back and make me feel insecure of how I look and act. 1 more thing I promise - with her I was in a group of 5 people the 5th doesn’t really matter much in this story. So basically I was best friends with one of them in the group because we had known each other for the longest time. She was best friends with the other girl in the group bc the other girl in the group was more “popular”. Anyway whenever my best friend and I would laugh together or something she would say “ you guys are really mean for leaving me out of your conversations” or “ fine, if you guys don’t want to be my friends anymore go away” in a rude manner, Whenever she would laugh with her best friend more than us we would be fine with that, we wouldn’t mind. She would also blame me for pointless stuff like if I don’t notice when she is upset. OH but she would NEVER blame her “popular” friend if her “popular “ friend would leave her alone and go be with other people, NO no never. Basically she preferred to be popular instead of loved, and would bring down people who she thought looked bad or didn’t act well mannered. ( also another toxic this was that she had a friend scale, she said”my best friend is first, your best friend is last, my other friend is 2nd and you’re 4th” and that’s very toxic. Or whenever she had a good grade she would say “omg, I’ve done horribly I’m so bad” and I would just feel bad bc I got a lower grade then her ( she doesn’t usually get good grades so it would be rare that she gets a good grade)
I’ve experienced being jealous of my childhood friend which turned me into a crazy psycho. This includes my insecurities of not being able to drive due to vision impairment despite my belief that I can. That really fuels my fire. I recognized the signs of it when around one of my current friends. I finally figured out why I kind of liked hanging out with him due to his temporary personality since he becomes rude and disrespectful around the fall and winter due to trauma so I try to understand it while setting boundaries. But I often find myself comparing his achievements, confidences, and charisma that I lack. So I’m taking responsibility and action to address this issue to avoid negative decisions made due to jealousy. Jealousy is a strong emotion but can be managed and addressed.
Thank you very much for the video! I have friends who always critic too much using joke and hot and cold. I thought it was normal to be honest since I thought they do not have anything to talk about. But, I always felt sad and unfair. This feeling is always happen when I am with the them. I thought it was me who was the issue as the others is okay. I need to let them know and walk away from group of friends that does not respect my concern.
I love your channel.. and it is very useful for me... but I find it difficult to understand everything... because I do not speak English well... I would be grateful if you would add a translation in Arabic, and thank you for your efforts. ❤❤❤
Timestamp! -0:42 Competition -1:25 Critical much? -2:08 Smear campaign -3:09 Backhanded compliments -4:08 A form of flattery? -5:00 Hot and Cold -5:49 Clingy
It reminds me the reason why Optimus Prime and Megatron’s friendship ended . Megatron was jealous when Orion Pax was chosen to be Prime. That’s one of the reason why their friendship ended.
I was once this person and well still a bit of this person remains, but if you struggle with issues like this you can become a better human being. Emotions are natural and they can be understood and overcome with time.
I dealt with this back in middle school. One of my "friends" was having a hard time with life (puberty, family drama, etc.), and they took it out on me. They tried to spread rumors about me, but it died out after a few hours. (I'm a very simple person.) They tried being snippy with me, but I never acted snippy back at them, so they just looked stupid. They'd butt into conversations, but I was just like: "Oh, you want a turn to speak? Okay. I'll go do something else." But it still hurt to have them act that way, because I honestly wondered what I did to upset them, and wanted to go back to being good friends. We happened to cross paths at a movie theater in our early 20s, and they IMMEDIATELY apologized for how they treated me 😊 which was nice.
I had this toxic friend, and I knew she was toxic and already having things like depression and ptsd so her comments harmed me most, I knew she was toxic but I just couldn’t let go, she was the only friend I had and I would’ve gone crazy if I was alone… probably suicided or something because my parents were abusive and without anyone missing me I would’ve done something…
Jealously and envy have two faces: Wanting what someone has. Or: Wanting someone to not have what they have or could have without wanting their posession for yourself
I have a friend that copies my chronic ILLNESSES. Now even claiming having the same GENETIC condition as me. I... I have no words. And we are grown ass adults!
damn, the first girl buddy i got since primary school was my best friend back then but when we got into middle school she didnt talk to me, and i didnt talk back- so she found other friends and when we were at the last year of middle school i had a fight with a jealous classmate who acted like victim thats annoying nevermind that part but just after that event the 'buddy' i havent talk to for years came up to me, instead of asking how i was "you had a fight with that girl?" literally asking for materials to gossip, its disgusting.. i was the one who didnt left her out of friend groups and i was the one who held up a hand to them at primary school, she was ignored because she had an illness and i didnt like them get ignored but their last act from her wasnt something i deserved to get
Not really related to the video titles but I happen to attend the same class with my classmate, and after a while I realize that I am jealous of her because of some talents she have. Kinda hard for me to be true to myself at first but after I learned about something like "accepting your feelings" etc..., I have no more fear of stating what I truly feels about events, things, people. I was scared of being judged and have a pressure to "becoming a good person" in the past, so I tried to persuade myself that I have to be kind to others, not to angry at someone or must not jealous with people's success but instead praise it. Now I think yeah its okay to not feeling happy for others for victory/achievements/talents if they make me feel ashamed, self-doubt and hopeless because I don't have that same kind of victory/achievements/talents. (For me, this phenomenon could occurs for some specific reasons/person at times, not everything, anybody could triggers that jealousy from me LOL). For those make me feel like a "loser" like what I stated before, I would maintain a distance with them so I would not hurt them or let the feelings hurt me. Welp, at least I don't trying to be close with them and talking behind their backs right?
I was a jealous person towards my friend but she dealt with me in a wrong way (ghosting me and doing the same thing towards me) and that really hurt me and it made me confused if i was the bad person or not. I explained to her why im acting this way but she showed no interest abt it.
The fact that i knew all along that my best friend and my other friend were jealous, and i still friends with them its because i dont wanna be that rude to them but srsly i really cant deal with them..
Recently my best friend broke up with me because I was friends with another friend that she didn't like and it's not like I ignored my best friend or anything. No, I was just friends with her normally, I was also friends with another girl and she simply didn't like her very much because she did something bad to her and because she didn't like her, she said she would break up with me too because I was friends with her😢
I wouldn't be so sure if my friend is jealous of me but.. there's just something about her behavior that I don't like, sometimes she's always trying to copy me like what games I play, who I talk to, and do stuff that I do and I don't like it because I don't really consider her as my best friend but we're somehow close, she also throws backhanded compliment or idk what to call it but for example a friend of mine is calling me "cute" then she tells my friend "oh but you're cuter" that happened so many times, another friend also said i'm charismatic and her reaction was like "huh" she was disagreeing with it, until now i dont even know if I like her or not, i don't even know if i can learn how to like her because we have been friends and talking for almost 2 years but she's "scared" of me.. like how can you be my friend if you're scared of me wth!! i feel like she has been talking to her friend about me because even her friend says i'm scary or intimidating :/ well i have a real friend though, she's part of our friend group but she's not scared of me, she's the only one in the friend group i consider my best friend
I would’ve been more supportive but my close friend had an anger issue and it resembles my childhood. So when she tried to make me apologize for things I didn’t do or she misunderstood my intentions, she wouldn’t talk to me but instead send these long messages when I asked her before not to. It’s because she accuses instead of asks and also got into the habit when we were young of yelling at me. She grew up without her mother but I feel that’s not a good excuse to mistreat me because we’ve been like family. My own mother with defend others against me so I just let her explode on me for the last time.
I feel like I am that jealous friend but It does not mean I am that toxic (I hope), I try to still look out for my friend but left with so much heartache. I hate and feel jealous to her but still care so much not to hurt her even if she hurts me.
I noticed my friend, when we in company with other people, she would correct me unnecessarily with some alternative way of doing something that i suggested, often about things she knew nothing about. And that little patronising laugh. I pointed it out to her, then deleted and blocked😊
Envy is Jealousy's dirty cousin. There's no problem wanting to work on yourself and aspire towards goals. But what happens when you spend all your time on perfection and making things just right? What if you never enjoy the opportunity in front on you? What if you spend so much time on perfection this fun opportunity doesn't bring joy? Your health and well being means more.
Can you guys please make a vid on people living with a record? My family has been significantly impacted by an event. I feel like it'd help a lot of people, especially since it's so stigmatized :(
Jealousy and perfection go hand in hand I guess. Some people just aren't happy without the best of everything. At least that's the conclusion I've come up with. Maybe it's a defense mechanism. I don't understand it myself. Ill just see myself out.
does anyone have experience this : when they have a hard time they hang out with you but when they have a little succeed they look down on you, sorry for my bad eng
One time, I heard my supposed to be close friend said a sentence to my other friends. The sentence are "don't you guys think her(my name) smile is kinda scary". I I understand cause you can see my 4 fangs when i laugh and smile, but that was truly hurt my feelings. I have insecurity of smiling and showing teeth to my non family till now. What do you guys think? Is that jealousy or something else??
TL;DR: I disagree. That's a massive generalization and is sexist. Breaking these thought patterns is important. Eh, I'll have to disagree personally. Not only is that an inherently sexist statement it also fails to fully encapture the different gender cultures. Men interact with jealousy in a combative and annoying way, often purely with other men. Everything becomes a jab or competition. Obv. that's also a sexist statement but it is often true due to how our society is built.
Jealousy is wanting to keep something for yourself. Wanting what someone else has is envy. The song Jesse's Girl is about envy. The song Thief of Hearts is about jealousy. These words are OPPOSITE sides of the same coin. We have /different/ words because they have /different/ meanings. These words are NOT interchangeable.
My older and only sister is like that with me .. she hurt me many of time's where our relationship is close but afar at the same time .. like she's a narcissist and can be just rude one minute and fake nice another minute.
I am sorry but I am that jealous kind of friend I fear losing my bsf so I get jealous bcoz I have already dealt with a bsf who left me for a new one and I don't wanna face the same thing again However...I feel guilty about isolating my bsf. She, who was really extroverted and could talk to anybody, now doesn't talk to anybody but me She feels lonely and has no social circle I am sorry I will try to improve myself and heal the trust issues inside me😢
I had friend i thought they were close to me but because of certain issues we don't talk anymore and I'm glad however i remember when i asked her to let me know about internship they instead of informing me applied for the internship and when i confronted i wanna do it too they just ignored it with a simple smile. Do y'all think they lowkey were envious of me ?
I have developed trauma regarding daily study. I have tried multiple ways to overcome my problem. I have tried multiple techniques in order to study dailystudy music pomodaro Writing while reading nothing works for me😢😢😢😢
I have two new friends and both of them don't miss out a chance on bringing me down ,but lately there was a guy who showed interest in me and they immediately tried to shut him down by joking that I'm older than him , which wasn't true and trying to make me look bad Infront of him by bringing my failures Infront of him, i felt sick to the stomach,not for the chance of him losing interest in me,but for having such people around me, knowing i always give them a hand in studying , even if it cost me time and energy, but I'm not sure if i can cut them off for that would result in me losing our "friend" group which I need for now to not be alone, any advice?
Find new interests & hobbies etc., and always stay busy (without them around) work on yourself. They’ll eventually drop out of the circle as new ppl take their place.
It's better to distance yourself from such people. However, if you don't want to lose out on other friends or being in the 'friend group', I would suggest maintaining a boundary. You don't always have to emotionally engage with them. Emotional attachment to such people causes a lot of stress and mental exhaustion. So even by being in your friend group, you can be careful about how much of yourself to give to certain 'friends'. Hold your own weight, but do it politely so as not to come off as rude or arrogant, and be careful about how much you emotionally engage with certain types of people. I know it's easier said than done, but I've learnt it the hard way, so that's all I can say to you right now. P.S. - I hope you find real friends who actually care about you and encourage you and always root for you. I have, and I can assure you that they will always make you feel loved 🩷
@@brindamitra2494 i thought about setting boundaries,but I'm afraid it may escalate to a conflict which I'm not so good at handling, I'm not attached emotionally to them, well not any more, i do hope i find better friends who would actually be supporting and at least not painful to have around, thx for your help 💖
@@lili-wv3pq no problem dear 😊 but just remember, boundaries are important for personal well-being; again, I'm saying bcz I learnt it the hard way; people who support you will respect your boundaries, bcz they will understand. But if setting boundaries escalates to a conflict, then it's pretty obvious that you can do better without them... Jst don't let anyone drain you out, and take care of yourself sweetie 💜
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