I've been placed in situations where I've dated church men and there is no clear distinction..im just learning to love myself and following Matthew 6:33.
Where was this man 20 years ago.. this is spot on. It took me decades to learn all of this. I have an amazing husband now but I had to go through so much trash before I got here. Ladles listen.. he is speaking 100% truth.
I made that mistake.. cooking and cleaning doing wifely duties for a boyfriend... 🤦🏾♀️never again!!! always trying to prove to these men that we are wife material!
God bless your heart. The Bible says, why not let yourself be cheated. Just like the old saying two wrongs don't make a right. So you just keep on being a good woman and you'll find that good man eventually. No one said you're going to find a perfect man, but maybe one day you'll find to love the imperfect man. Keep holding on, keep praying, it's frustrating I know. when you pray be specific on the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Tell God exactly what you want. That actually happened for me because I was very specific to what I wanted. Now I'm getting married in November this year. but by all means it wasn't easy at all and it took a long time and when I met her everything didn't just fall into place. so it's up to us to show God we want it when he does put the right person in your path.
I literally cried in the 1st few mins of your video, no one taught me these things... I wasted 4yrs, got pregnant and have been taking care of my child with no help from him. please ladies, listen!!! especially if you still young. this will save you a lot of trouble. its sad... but I'm happy now I know, 🙏🙏 be blessed. and Praise Jesus
Me too. I was so teary eyed. I realize July 2021 I wasted shy of 11 years on someone. I lost myself and realize I don't know my self worth. It's time to let go and change
I’m 29, single, and no kids..I really appreciate your story and I hear the strong heeding of your words! The “no one taught me these things” and “please ladies, listen!!!” really got me 💘and I will make you proud my sister✊🏽!! I’m so grateful to be on this path of learning my worth from his videos!! God bless!!🙏🏽
💯♥️❣️❣️ 💁♀️I said that yesterday listening to the video on the Narssassist.. as he was talking and looking into the camera, the eye to eye contact, made me feel the same way, like "Dad' was giving his daughter a heart to heart talk. Great great Man 👌👏👏👏👍♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️✨🧘♀️✨😚
- Never drives the momentum of a relationship - Never trusts without verification - Never look pass a man's character - Never allow a man to rush you - Give a relationship time - Never commit to potential alone - Never finance a man. Finance a king when he is down. -Never cater to a man not dedicated to you
I have to say lm very impressed as this lessons lve heard in Russian psychologist and teachers. And now you. Touche. Not many people teach exact knowledge 🙏🍀💚
I think everyone should be independent until marriage now if the woman if short on some funds that’s different and vice versa but I ain’t paying no one rent and they ain’t paying mines
“Queens DEMAND honor, queens know what they bring to the table. When a man dishonors a queen, she BANISHES him from her kingdom.” 💯 😂😂This part is so funny to me
Nikki Consciously living your life with God/Higher power as your everything definitely makes a Queen out of one. I find that I think of and treat myself as one more and more each day and my connection to God is definitely my source in this. God is such beautiful love! Let us blend ourselves with Him and He in turn makes gods and goddesses out of us for loves glory
"Most men are lying..." hahaha. The funny thing is some guys don't realize they are lying. Then they act like you are the mean one for seeing through them.
Deborah Phillips yes you have sweetie and frustration. Them niggas would of only given you 5mins worth of pumping and they wouldn’t of given a damn if you had your orgasm or not
Deborah Phillips....sometimes they don't dump you because you won't give sex, they just harass you about it every time until they wear you down and lay guilt trip on you.....a sign of a player.
1. Queens never ignore a man's character 2. Queens never drive the momentum of the relationship 3. Queens never trust without verifying 4. Queens give the relationship time 5. Queens never commit to potential alone 6. Queens never trust a man that is not producing 7. Queens never finance a man 8. Queens never cater to a man that is not dedicated to her 9. Queens never tolerate disrespect 10. Queens DEMAND honour 10/10💕💕
Sonia Dawson yes! Sometimes we just go through so much we forget. Nothing wrong with it because we acknowledged it. Congrats to all the Queens who took back their status!! We will reign beautifully.
I thought I was too picky, but now that I am looking at his videos I realized that I am a real Queen 👸 and I don’t tolerate any mistake from a supposedly King 🤴
This is unfruitful and ungodly idolatrous talk. You are not a Queen and you have no Kingdom. If you're not married to the first man you had sex with then get on your face and repent. See how much my last sentence lacked in grace? This is NOTHING compared to the heresy and wickedness this man is talking, and which is being embraced by the women watching, and the accompanying hubris and delusion thereof.
That Brotha Pedat .....Go ahead. Because it looks like you may be the wolf in sheep's clothing and mad that Pastor Blakes is putting the daughters up on game... and oh yeah, BE BANISHED, sir.!!👑📤
@@brotha_pedatMost women live in a fantasy so dont pay them no mind bro. Its levels to this relationship stuff but these women are letting the wrong things get to their heads.
I love your words! Better than many I 've heard. You consider areas that nobody talks about. You bring God to your words and that's amazing. I will follow you from now on. I'm from Argentina South America. 😘thank you very very much.
@@thisdudesam4332 Dedication is when the man honors, respects, and values you as the queen you are! If he hasn't laid down his life for you and treats you right, he doesnt deserve you. 💯
@@lioness8456 and what does the QuEnN do for the man? Nag him all day? Tell him to buy her clothes cos she's too lazy to get a job? Being entitled? Calling herself a queen and the house he bought her "kingdom"? You're so entitled and spoiled. Yall want the rights but you don't want no responsibilities. You're gonna end up miserable sooner or later.
Tracie Darthard Amen, so many women doing the opposite in these days, that These men ask you out and tell you to pay for first date. Not this queen. lol
A lot of women say that's why single women are single-because a lot of them don't allow men to disrespect them. They also have standards about who they date.
D D I rather be alone than settle for less than what I deserve. Women know I worth. This why these men out here running rampant without respecting us. Smh!!!
Why is wife not talking! Why is he a better women at womenhood than him? I don't bash women not men on social media especially black ones. We have it bad as it is. Vanessa
It's ok dear a lot of us didn't ...so now you know and pick up from here and be the true Queen you are designed to be ...help others as well ..bring them to this channel and let them drink of living waters
all these 27 years i thought i was being too crazy/high standards out here, turns out i was acting in my Queenly right, just didnt know it. HUH! Thank you so much for this, brother.
"Queens never drive the momentum of the relationship....if he's not man enough to drive the relationship, he ain't man enough to maintain that relationship..." 🙏 Thank you for everything you teach and share with the world. Greetings and gratitude from the UK.
1: Queens never ignore a man’s proven character 2: Queens never drive the momentum of the relationship 3: Queens never trust without verifying (1 John 4:1) • not gullible • verify through intentional questions • give the relationship time 4: Queens never commits to potential alone (Mark 11:12-14) • If he ain’t producing his potential: leave him on the elevator 5: Queens never finance a man (2 Thessalonians 3:11) • the only man a queen will finance is her King: TEMPORARILY, if he’s down (with provisions) • never finance unproven men • only finance your sons, through teaching him how to take care of a woman 6: Queens never cater to a man that’s not dedicating himself to the woman (Ephesians 5:22) • don’t give wifely duties to an undedicated man 7: Queens never tolerate disrespect (1 Peter 3:7) • Queens demand honor
Yes LAWD! Preach, I bout fainted on that one!! I have seen this so many times, women happy just to have a piece of a man😂😂 and let's not forget RC: "Lee, does potential pay light bills in here?" Linda: "Naw Naw sweety." They are too cute...
And the sons needs to watch this too. All of these biys running around who get mad when a girl rejects. This can hopefully explain why and help them change to become better men. I do agree with you. These young girls running around with their cheeks hanging out their pants and wonder why men don't respect them. Moms raise your girls to be ladies and dads raise your boys to be gentlemen.
“A Queen does not tolerate disrespect” I wish I have have heard this advice 25 years ago at least a yr after getting married. I would not have become suicidal 5 yrs ago. After hearing your advice, it’s the 1st time I hear this beautiful advice almost 1 yr after my ex-husband left me and my 2 children for another woman (after 26 yrs of marriage). Thankfully I have been close to God through this process, and HE gives me strength. But today is the first time I understand I already did everything you mentioned a queen does not do 😭. Thankfully I’m still alive, and I’m free from him. I pray God makes a way financially, so I can attend your next retreat. You have beautiful fatherly advice that all females who don’t have this fatherly figure could use. I pray any single/divorced female will listen to your advice (myself included) and make any necessary changes. Hopefully what I just shared will also help these women. Don’t tolerate disrespect in any way, even if you’re married. If you don’t see change in your man, move on. Your life will be better!
It's been a year now. I've been going through my hell with a narcissist husband of 24 years and filed for divorce after our sin graduated from high school in June. How are you doing now?❤️
"Yo lil' clown in a crown" 👑 so sad but true! I know women over 40 supporting grown men financially, but I've never understood how you even respect him as the head of your household. A piece of a man is WORSE than no man, remember that QUEENS!! 👑 ❤
I’m a Hebrew Israelite woman, and even in my church they don’t teach this information. But I now know these things and I’m always speaking out as a woman and letting them know that just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean God won’t and can’t use me in his ministry. There are a lot of Israelite men who are BROKEN and they hold women down because of their brokenness, but I’m proud to say I’m not one of these women who can be held back or down.
At times I have knowledge of things.. The know how.... without fully understanding the process... So I knew some of these things but didn't understand the process.. POWERFUL Teaching
I’ve been single for 3 years , going to church and improving myself. It’s sooo had to find a date yet alone discern a man to qualify thru all this. Lord have mercy, God bless us.
Miss Klassy actually I've never dated or was married to a broke thug. My ex husband is a 20 year detective on the police force and my last two were successful business owners that were respected by many so I can't relate to you assuming that women only deal with bums and broke men.. I'm not broke nor am I desperate I simply don't take no crap no more from a clown like the bishop said.. what my problem was I dated "NARRCISTIC" men who reflected my father. A woman's first example of a man is from her father or lack there of.My father was in my life yet he wasn't nurturing but critical and abusive emotionally.. My father is a well established attorney of 30 years yet he is still a broken man.. Until a woman deals with her daddy issues then she will entertain men who resembled their father's dysfuntion, which i did...Its alot of successful damage men and women out here who look the part yet lack "wholeness". Dysfunction is not bias nor reduced to material or economic status, it comes on levels..Don't be fooled!
•Queens don't ignore the signals & signs. •Queens don't drive the momentum of a relationship. •Queens trust after they verify. •Queens give the relationship time. •Queens never commit to potential ALONE. •Queens never finance an unproven man. •Queens don't lay their body down without the man laying their life down first. •Queen never tolerate disrespect. BONUS •Queens demand honor.
YES! I almost married a man with "potential".Now im in queen consciousness and know MUCH better. Yes a woman should seek and work to be independence but the man should be her provider!
I wanted to take the time and express my gratitude for this man. Growing up I didn’t have a father to understand these things and I am so blessed that I have come acrosss your channel as it has guided me to become closer to God and know my worth. You are a wonderful man, and a great Spiritual Father anyone can ask for. Thank you.
I’m a QUEEN. I have always had this “Queen Mentality” and didn’t realize it....I just thought I was very “picky & guarded” around a man. So, although lonely, I will continue to WAIT for The King to present himself to me; and I will allow this king to prove/show his worth to me. I have been alone for several years and willing to wait for MY King because a new talks a good game but he needs to SHOW me. I’m in NO rush to prove anything to him.🌟🎊 🙏 “The Queen😇”
I made so many mistakes with my children's father and my second relationship. God is getting my heart ready for a true King now that I'm walking as a true Queen!
MY ALL TIME FAVORITE VIDEO EVER!!! I've been celibate for 12 years because of these principles and teachings since my hubby died. My mother and father taught me these principles. I made the mistake of dating a childhood friend (after my husband died) who turned out to be a "false image of a godly man." He taught me so many lessons/things that I should not have done. Mainly, I should not have veered from my parents' and late husband's teachings and examples. GOD BLESS YOU...😇 KEEP TEACHING THESE TRUTHS! They're not antiquated teachings... their truth!🙏🏽
DXXP SOUL ikr sis. True talk I’m watching closely to someone I just started talking to. 😂 if I don’t see production since he wants to be serious. Might as well stay in the friendzone.
Where did women think financing a man was love? I learned at an early age that a man is suppose to provide for a woman when my stepfather married my mom with 8 kids that weren't his They had one together making it 9 kids and my stepfather worked and took care of all us including his grandkids until he died. From that learning experience I don't finance men and have a good man in my life that is a provider.
Wow! You truly experienced a REAL man, so rare these days! I have 4 babies with my husband, but God forbid he leaves I still aint worried about another King finding me! Queens are good women that never have to stress about a man. She's a prize, babies and all. 👑 Blessings to you and your family! ❤ 💪
Now that's a real man. Same thing with my grandad (my mom's stepdad) He married my grandmother when she had 4 kids by a man and a 5th child by another man. She had her 6th with him. She didn't have to work but never went without....always had whatever she needed/wanted. Took care of the kids. My mom is the oldest (61now). I've never seen my grandparents disrespect each other. She passed last year and my grandad told the grown children pick whatever casket you want, real flowers, etc The funeral was beautiful...it hurted to see the tears flowing down his face cause he loved her....That's the kind of man we deserve ladies....
I am 43. I had to learn this lessons by making bad moves and paying the price of it. It is ok. It means to me that my soul wasn't evolved enough to hear this wisdom before. We often have to pass through pain to evolve. I feel grateful for the pain that lead me where I am now. Sir, beautiful channel and great wisdom. Thank you for sharing it.
I love every part of this video. I am a King! I make good money, but I have yet to maximize my greatest potential. I've been at a standstill waiting on my Queen: It's just me, so I saw no need for certain things unless my better half was present. I know now, that I have work to do. I guess, if I build it, she'll come. God bless you Pastor. Keep pumping that goodness to 'em.
After 44yrs of getting it all so wrong, I finally understand my worth. I have given of myself with love in my heart, without knowing the truth. Thank you Father, for sharing these videos. I am ever the student willing to learn. I love myself more and more each day. I respect myself by setting boundaries. Thank You Jesus for all You did and still do for me. I am eternally Yours Lord and You are mine. I love You Lord and offer my humble gratitude for Your guidance and Protection. Sending all my beautiful family, all over this planet and those in Spirit, my unconditional love, light and blessings. 🙏✌️💖✨🤗🥰
Shakita..Im very disturbed that I too..when younger..knew my worth and value -- and lost sight of that.. Life teaches us through experience comes wisedom - I don't understand how I could have moved backward through the decades..
Shakita J the enemy wants us to believe our standards are too high and we’re being too much! Don’t believe the hype. I too did some things I regret but to God be the Glory those mistakes taught me to continue to fight for what I believe I deserve. And what make it so bad it’s nothing more than wanting my husband to be the MAN in every area. Not just the bedroom.
When this popped up in my suggestions, I thought-"here we go again-another man telling a woman what she should and should not do". I have to say, though, that I agree 100% with everything he said here. I had to chuckle when he started scratching his head and said "my nerves are getting bad"-LOL It is so refreshing to hear a man say these things. Thank you.
I watch you on RU-vid and you’ve taught me so much! As a woman who is dating after a long marriage, I’m learning to be a queen. Thank you so much for your ministry.
I agree!!!!!!!! My father taught my sisters and I exactly what you were saying. I laughed while I was listening because it was funny hearing what he taught coming from someone else.
THIS works just the same for ANY relationship with a man or any human! I fired a mechanic last week because of his disrespect. I also feel EVERYONE out that is in my life! Same goes for lawyers, doctors etc........ One thing I have learned this year is to NEVER put up with disrespect from ANYONE!!!!
I called out racist calling chinese man wang the man calling him wang was indigious . A holes come on all races. Doesn't matter color race or greed evil is evil. Said he was an activist yah right another fraud
“Because potential without corresponding character is equal to no potential “ . Wow . Wow. Wow. Way to sum up what has been my biggest lesson reaching age 30 in such a perfect powerful statement ! I LOVED this video, just discovered you , you have gained another subscriber.
@Princess yasssss Sis, my Dad started 👑Queenship conversations with me at age 9, repeated and added more at 13, and still fresh in my mind! Thank You Dad❤RIP
i can relate...i have the same Dad...and sometimes in the past i forgot about my Dad^s advices...and now i know he was always right. SOOOO powerful!!!!We are all QUEENS!!!!!!
One of the most overlooked components to women not knowing or understanding that they are not behaving in a way that's in their best interest is childhood trauma. Many simply are not aware that growing up in an abusive environment sets the tone for what you will and will not put up with. A toxic, abusive, neglectful and absentee parent(s) (parent's can be physically available, but emotionally unavailable due to alcohol, etc) is not assisting the child in developing their emotional intelligence or consciousness and this leads the child to being a broken adult that's susceptible to almost any kind of treatment. So, my point is that the origins of why women may be tolerating this type of character from a man needs to be addressed.
Miss Klass, hahaha...we have a ton of "boys" out there who claim to be men and they are extremely abusive and women need to understand that these types are to be left completely alone!
Such a powerful message. I've been doing most of the things you mentioned without knowing I'm doing something right. I was just living my values and protecting myself, however it can be hard meeting men who meet your standards as very few men have a King character or qualities.
