7 Things that SHOCK FILIPINAS about the FOREIGNERS. 

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About being late... it isn't being disciplined about time but more like being respectful of other people and their time.

If you are late you are saying the person you are meeting isn’t important enough to be on time

Being on time shows that I value and respect your time and my time.

I have always felt that it is incredibly rude to tell someone you will be there at 6pm and you show up late. It shows you don't care about the person waiting for you.

When your honest, then everyone understands how to improve things

I finally got tired of my wife being late to everything that one year for Thanksgiving we were going to my brother's house. I kept telling her to get ready, and she kept ignoring me. I told her that we were leaving at a certain time, with or without her. That time came and our daughter and I left to go to my brothers and left her at home. I thought that might be a wake up call. Nope, she is still always late. Now I start telling her that we need to be someplace 1 hour before we need to actually be there.

Hi Leah!.. Great video!.. Unfortunately the picture was blank from 6:53 to 10:53 but the sound was good.. Have a good day!..😎

Was in a manila elevator once when 2 flippina's walked in, after a moment of silence (that stunned me) one of them started speculating about a certain part of my anatomy in tagalog of course.After several floors, I got out and said this to them "di kasing laki sa tingin mo". The silence was deafening.

One thing I have learned from living in different countries and trying to learn different languages is that humor does not translate across cultures.

My wife is asian and of course I don't wear shoes I wore outside in the house. Often, we have other shoes we can wear once in the house. I learned this at 57, so I'm sure Gary can too. He should respect some of your culture, and I think this is a good thing.

About House shoes or Slippers. They are meant to be worn only indoors. They are indoor shoes. Perhaps you should get him a pair of indoor and outdoor ones because the older you are it is more common to wear them outside I've noticed.

Honesty is more appreciated in the west than paying insincere compliments. Imagine being the CEO of a company and all the managers reporting to you telling you what you want to hear. The freaking stock market would collapse.

My left ear loved this video

Very honest and truthful my Filipino girl would agree I'm sure

Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

Thank you Leah for sharing details of your life and thoughts. I learn a lot and grow watching your videos.

Enjoyed Thanks for the video God Bless y'all

Interesting about the showering part. I have seen quite a few filipino homes and people and constant showering didn't come to mind. Jusy sayin'.

Good video. Good discussion.

I believe there are good things and bad things from both sides. That's why we as a society should try to learn from each other and tell the truth about things.

The 'british humour' (that may seem harsh) is just banter. Usually we only say mean jokes to the people we like the most. To us it means we're really friends... and we're happy for you to offend us too...as long as its funny! 😂

Thankyou for your insights X

This topic is Filipinas who never get out of the country and experience about different types of cultures. I'm well adapted to different culture. I'm out of the country for 30 yrs now...Love and Light💗💗💗

Congratulations.Good job.Nice an good topic.

Great video! Well done lady.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💖

Us English people tend to have dark sense of humour. It can be hard to get used to

Great video! I love your perspective! Thank you! 😂

Hi Leah. I just became a new subscriber to your channel. I found your video to be very interesting and informative. Thanks and keep up the great work.

We all have differences. That's just life if I'm dating a foreigner. I'm learning from her she's learning from me. That's what makes it so exciting that we can learn from each other and continue to learn from each other. If somebody's talking, somebody's gotta be listeni, love this video. No wonder why you have a top position on RU-vid. Because you care about your audience and you're always giving us much more than what we asked for congratulations. I hope you have a great morning noon or night.

Thanks for the honest opinions and experiences

this is a nice video it broke up on my computer half way through then came back at the end i understood all the points you made and can relate to them every day i think gary must be frustrated if he is like me that his wife just doesn't realise just how funny he is my wife has been in the uk for 6 years so she does laugh more often now and occasionally she comes out with a cracker and after 5 seconds of thought i realised she is very funny as well i hope you find a nice house with nice neighbors we live in bacolod there were 10 or so expats here we would see around but we went to the uk before the pandemic and now we are back they have all disappeared any way good luck to you all

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I usually have two pair of slippers. One pair never leaves the house at all and I use it to walk inside the house and then I have a pair for walking around outside the house and I leave that outside

Thank you

How are you Leah, I watched your video on 7 things that expats do that shock philippinas. When you talked about humor, sometimes people will say things unknowingly that they think is funny, but could be offensive to you. Communication is key, sit that person down and talk to them, ask them could you explain what they meant by the certain comment they made that they thought was humor but was offensive to you. Keep making your wonderful videos, really love them. 💕 You and your husband. Chester

Thanks for your thoughts. About outside slipers or shoes...it depends from what country you come from, like here in Finland and Sweden aso we dont wear our outside shoes inside either because we have 4 season and sometimes it might be very dirty outside so we change to indoor slippers or just socks 😎.

Being on time = respect

There is so much to uncover here but I definitely appreciate the honesty and I face the same issues as some coming from Caribbean to living in the UK I get you.

I don’t wear shoes in the house because I married an Asian and it bothers her. At first I did it for her but now I see how much cleaner the house is and I no longer do it just for her, I do it for me too. When people visit I am the first to ask them to take off their shoes. I feel a little bad because I know how they think and feel but I don’t care about their feelings more than I care about not getting dirt from their shoes all over my house. Keep in mind, dirt on their shoes can be a mix of earth, dog poop, gum, dried sticky soda, etc. Our floors stay clean and I love it. So, I learned from Asian culture that the very small inconvenience of taking off shoes to go inside a house is worth the huge benefit in cleanliness.

I found your explanation about humour quite funny...12:45....😄.....was worth the wait.

1st time viewing your channel. ❤ you are the reason western men travel around the world to find a mate . So sweet 🎉🎉🎉😊

interesting to learn what life is like there.

Thanks, Leah. Maybe someone already mentioned this, but why not switch to indoors only sandals when you come in the house? Great video. All the best.

What a hilarious video! My Filipina wife and I have talked about every single thing on your list! 😂

Leah, about the slippers/shoes that are used from outside to inside the house. That is an easy solution. I live here in the USA but my whole family leaves our shoes/slippers at the front door or shoe rack at the front door inside the house. I’m making sure we don’t bring our shoes/slippers inside of the home, because shoes/slippers are dirty and steps everywhere. Solution is we have our inside slippers/sandals that is only used indoors.

Yes we shock and awe 🫢 lol 😂 good conversations, also the reverse conversions what shocks the expats about their Filipinas 😅

Well as to food......we love it with a gusto. As to being on time......if you are exactly on time you are 10 minutes late

being honest and prompt and sticking to schedule is a big plus pinas should realise that.

Interesting video. It shed some light on my personal experiences. PS: I am not surprised Gary likes his showers. Guys from English speaking countries on average bath more and are more likely to wear underwear than foreigners from other European origins. Not sure why, but that’s what the stats say.

Good morning sweetie! It’s always nice to see you and your family. I’ve been married to the most Wonderful Woman GOD ever made. She is my joy,my love, my happiness!!! I’ve been trained hehehe take off my outside crocs and put on my inside crocs. Patients is a virtue I’m still working on, island time still annoys me but I have a work around. If I want to go at 1200 pm I say honey we go at 1100. It works most of the time. Boxers are the way to go, briefs are too small or tight. My wife said when we got married “ tell me the truth always” I say “ yes dear” so if I didn’t like something she cooked I would thank her for making it but this isn’t my favorite food. So she wouldn’t make it for me. To be honest I like most everything she makes, she is from pampanga so she cooks yummy food!! I will say filipina wives to me are the best!! Take care, GOD bless you and your family. Thank you for sharing.

I am a Brit living in Colombia and we don't "get" each other's humour. If a friend walks into a shop where are, I could say "Here comes trouble!!'" at the same time I wink at my wife or whoever I am with. My wife just doesn't get it even after 37 years of marriage!!

Hi Leah. I found your topic fascinating since I am an American expat resident of Davao City living with my Filipina wife of almost three years. My wife lived in Australia for several years as a housekeeper. We have talked about your topic with each other on numerous occasions. We agree that when a foreigner seeks to marry a Filipina and a Filipina wants to marry an expat, both need to make an extra effort to understand the other to find a suitable middle ground when our backgrounds lead us in different ways in a situation. Let me begin with your example of time which assumes Filipinos run on Filipino time. For me, the matter is a pet peeve. Fortunately, my wife understands and recognizes, for example, that Filipinos do make every effort to get to church on time and not arrive until the offering is collected. (Humor!) The same is true with stores, businesses, and appointments with, say, the doctor. My wife is very cognizant that I am a punctual kind of person although not all Westerners are. She makes every effort to be on time when we need to be somewhere together. On the other hand, I do cut some slack with her when she is running late getting ready to leave to go somewhere which doesn't happen often. Patience is another matter. I have had to learn that in the Philippines it is most certainly a virtue although I was rather patient in the US except when driving and I am in a traffic jam. (More humor!) Now, I want to mention another matter that definitely bothers me about the Philippines. To be sure, I understand respect and the Filipino way of wanting to respect others, especially an older person as I am. I appreciate special lines (usually shorter) for "senior citizens." My concern, though, is the other side of the coin--consideration. Consideration is taking the other person into account when saying or doing something. How does what I do affect the other person, especially if what I do can have an adverse effect on others like playing loud music at night or cutting in line where a friend is standing. I find Filipinos are rather short on consideration in contrast to respect. As a religious and Christian nation, I would expect people in the Philippines to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. However, that often does not happen when people are inconsiderate. Thanks for listening,

Yes, your culture is much different than ours, but your video was on target . My Filipina wife was laughing at how accurately you described me. With punctuality we are taught from our earliest childhood both at home and at school the you are to be on time. I confess that I have no patience. Boxer shorts are supposedly healthy for you. When I first visited my wife in the Philippines and even still she is much more reserved than I am in public. I could go on but it was a great video.

Honesty is a shock ....very funny

Thank you, that was a great lesson before I want to find the right girl in the Philippines. I would like to have respect, so great 7 habit lessons…

I learned that lesson regarding slippers/shoes to leave them outdoors, but here we leave the shoes just inside at the door then wear house slippers.

Hi Leah yep the lies really annoy me and can effect the relationship where trust building is concerned, no need for it , western way of straight talking is best. Slippers lol you come live in UK for the winter, you will be wearing them from day one with thick socks lol. Delightful to hear your view points as always , keep on vlogging 😃

@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Great video Leah! Great insights and greatly appreciate your honesty and transparency.

Nice vlog, too bad some of the video was blanked out in the middle, but the sound stayed on.

My wife and I both wear slippers in the house but they are house slippers. We have different slippers to wear when we go outside.

I am Norwegian with Filipina wife. In my culture we take off the shoes in the entrance of the house, but she is asking me why i walk barefoot inside and not using the indoor slippers. But its a bit fun with the different cultureal differences.

In regards to the meal. Every meal, my grandmother would ask my grandfather, how is it? Every time, my grandfather would say "just the way I like it"! Hehe.

It's normal here being a foreigner ... Everything's faster here.. We care if people think of us but we been threw a lot in our lives we just roll with the flow..

Thank you for the video. Again, I'm American. My Filipina friends say I'm very funny. 😁 It helps to have a simple silly sense of humor.

Thank you for helping me understand more about my asawa. I will now be more understanding with her needs. Some Western women made us this way and we don't like to be like that either.

Thank you for the amazing video. I’m learning so much that I wasn’t aware of between your culture and Western Culture. I’m traveling to the Philippines later this year, looking for somewhere to live. Travelled Thailand + Indonesia before. Dated local ladies while doing so. I love how kind hearted + considerate the SE Asians are. Very different here in Canada. My Reactions (39 white boy, Canada) to your surprises with Foreigners; 1. Boxers! Haha, yeah that’s a “Western Man” thing. I’ll look into what the local Men there wear…maybe I’ll prefer those to boxers! 😂🤷‍♂️ 2. Punctual. (Meaning we like to be On Time, or Early for most things). For us, it is a sign of Respect to show up when agreed. It show’s respect for the other person’s time. Waste of your own time to have to wait for someone too. Mutual respect is the reason. 3. Straight Forward. Canada is less than UK+ USA for that. We tend to put on “Nice” masks as a front to how we really feel. But UK + USA ppl really let you know what’s up. It can be refreshing, as there are no blurry mind games…but it can be quite Disruptive as well: so pro’s and con’s of that. 4. Passionate/Desire to please our lady. Haha yes, we do want our lady to enjoy the experience very much. We help each other become better lover’s by sharing what works good to please our ladies. 5. Rude Humour. Unfortunately that can happen when Sarcasm (popular type of humour in the West) is taken too far. My Mom’s side of the family uses very aggressive + sometimes mean humour. My Dad’s is gentle and light hearted humour. Sounds like that’s the type in the Philippines. Beautiful. 6. Not Caring what Strangers think of you. I believe you will find that trait in MOST Foreigners, as they have left their homeland for something different…which most of them will be judged and get flack from family + friends for doing so. So they already have that trait. IN Western Lands…most Men are quite weak + will do whatever “authority” + the “herd” will do. Most don’t have the balls to stand apart from the crowd. Covid made this very clear. So FOREIGNERS IN YOUR LAND have this trait, but it’s not common back in Foreigners homeland. 7. Outdoor shoes inside. That’s gross. Apparently lots of the USA population does that. Us Canadians, take off out shoes at the door, and have indoor shoes/slippers if wanted. Walking on THE STREETS picking up ALL the FILTH…and then walking that filth through out the house, is disgusting. Thank you once again.

I been watching your RU-vid channel I been to the Philippines it’s a nice country to visit and go

Honesty is the best policy to avoid problems in the long run, which is important when dealing with yourself and friends and family and coworkers. It matters less when dealing with a stranger you'll never see again.

I take the middle ground with honesty. Using your example of dinner, I would thank my girlfriend for making dinner and I would comment about something that I liked about the meal--because there's usually some aspect of a dish that is a positive even if you don't like it--and I would take care of washing the dishes afterwards. And only then would I tell her that I didn't like it, and I would tell her that the only reason I was telling her is because I didn't want her to make it over and over again because she thought I loved it.

You two are so cute together!

The fact of making statements without regard for others feeling is in part to do with a philosophical distinction between Individual and collectivist cultures or societies. The notion of free will is at the core to making statements pertaining to the individual's intentions and desires. So this is a culture shock that is not going to go away easily and may be a reason avoid the other. The time factor is to do with a 100 year tradition of school bells ringing 'on time' in 9am the 10am for little lunch and so on, so its really a childhood trauma from the 70's and 80's and not such an issue for latter generations.

That was very informative, my girlfriend is from Philippines, she is my best friend and partner so this helps me to be more understanding

A province girls sweetness! 👍Foreigners are different. British humor is special (watch the TV series Little Britain and you will be shocked) , as well as american humor. But there is also rare german humor and other culture humor. You have to try many men from all over the world to judge humor. Anyway humor is fun, dont take it serious!

Im American man. She is spot on haha i do all off this!

How do filipinos meet anywhere if they dont know the time to meet? Like what happens if two Filipinos say "Lets meet at 3 o clock"? Does one turn up at 4 and the other at 5?

Underware: My Father was in WWII and fount in the Philippines, Okinawa & Japan. I forget what the reason was, but he claimed he he never wore underware again after the war. Humor: Humor is very local to time and place. I grew up in Pittsburgh PA and later moved to New York City NY. Humor was vey different in Pittsburgh than in New York City. In the USA we had national TV for many years that sort of made common humor across the USA. I married a woman from Jamaica West Indies and she and I had to learn each others humor.

Patience...I have almost none. Timeliness, is an essential element. I say we leave at 10:00, it does not matter if you are not ready at 10:00. I am leaving. You can come as you are, or stay behind.

I really enjoyed your observations of being married to a foreigner. I am soon to married to my beautiful Filipina of whom I dated for over 9 years. According to her, she is my queen and she always gets her way on every issue. 😂 Obviously I have no problem with that because we know each other very well. On the wearing slippers ib the house problem, here's how you train Gary NOT to wear slippers in the house. Say no more love making until you stop wearing your sliipers in the house Gary. Let me know how long it takes Gary to stop wearing slippers in the house. I'm guessing less than a week 😂😂 God bless you and Gary and I hope the two of you live long and happy lives.

As an American man speaking on the use of slippers or house shoes, a lot of it comes from personal experiences or preferences but as for me, I noticed that not all men’s feet are the same sensitive. I wear socks and slippers inside always because my feet are sensitive to what they touch. Like outside terrain can sometimes feel uncomfortable or slightly painful without shoes. I didn’t grow up going barefoot either.

A lot of western culture is centered around the clock, being on time a sign of respect and good upbringing. This seems to be from the industrial manufacturing phase of our history, where people worked set shifts in lighted building with the clock, not the sun, keeping track of time.. Soon our non-work time was also being scheduled on clock based factors. And we've been trapped in this clock controlled way of life ever since. Agriculture and hunting more follow the sun, not a clock, so time is more fluid than exact in cultures that still follow these historical norms. Most island communities I've been to follow the more fluid, less exact timing, for daily life. Some don't even name their streets or number their houses cause the locals know who and what is where without needing this extra labeling. And these Island locals with their more relaxed lifestyle seem happier and healthier then most westerners I know. So an agreed upon middle ground where time is concerned, may be the best of both worlds. Personally, since retiring, I've found I more naturally follow the sun in daily home life. Only check the clock for away from home scheduled events.

Foreigner’s jokes are usually called sarcasm…

Leah, humor. A person had headaches so she went to a doctor. The doctor told her she had a brain tumor and that she needed an operation. After the operation, the doctor told her that he was mistaken about how much of her brain he had to take out. He had thought about 3 percent but because the tumor was so large, he had to take out 95 percent of her brain. The doctor didn't know if she could even understand what he was saying to her.she just said ," talaga!!"

At least in rural Oregon , forty years ago , boxers were hard to find and briefs were the standard. That has reversed over the last forty years. One factor was they were used by bullies in middle and high school ( I have heard junior and senior high school is the terms in the philippines)

Speaking as an American I think our humor tends to be more sarcastic among men.

Honesty and promptness are ways to show respect and appreciation. There are bad ways to tell someone that you don't like something that they are doing but there may not be a good way to say it sometimes. I like a lot of different types of food and another man may only like meat and potatoes. I might be shocked that someone doesn't enjoy my pig tails with sauerkraut and potatoes but I won't be offended because I know it's just a matter of preference. My cooking is always good. I could do all the cooking for the family if my wife is taking care of the house and dishes. As for laundry, I like to share that work with my wife. Not that I have one in my life.

Some foreigners wear boxers, but not all. Many foreigners wear briefs. A lot of foreigners don't wear any underwear.

What's strange about one of your items is that your husband wears slippers when walking around outside--I don't know anyone who does that. Most of us wear shoes outside and then change to slippers or barefoot when we come inside our home.

Hello ☕️

Boxer shorts vs. briefs...in America, briefs used to be more common in the past. But our men have discovered that boxers are less constrictive and uncomfortable, which is preferable. Imagine having sensitive internal organs on the outside of your body, and you'll understand why we don't want fabric pinching them. However, briefs can sometimes be better for athletes who want support during strenuous physical exertion, which prevents the testicles from banging around and becoming bruised.

If possible it would be nice to have audio on the Right channel as well as as the left channel. I use bluetooth headphones and it sounds funny to not hear something on one of my ears.

You're spot on with everything except the slippers! Your man is a bit unusual that way. Mostly we won't walk into the house with shoes we're wearing outside, especially if we live in country areas.

I think we are patient, its not that we can't wait. Its just disrepectful if someone is not respecting your time. For example, if someone is making you wait for a long time, and its because they are not organised, it tells us they don't respect you enough to be ready on time. Also we get annoyed if the reason we are having to wait is because someone is doing something stupid, like waiting in line at an ATM while the person in front seems to be doing 100 transactions.... just get your money and go!

He should show you how he likes it cooked. Fun In the kitchen cook together and be happy.

time is a precious commadity...and cannot afford to be wasted....and our word should be our bond...ny grandpa when he said he was going fishing and leaving at such a time would give you 10 minutes to show up if you were not there he left and you lost out...also the reason many men wear boxers is because it interferes less with a man unit down below in terms of what it does to their twig and berries...lol

I was retired in the Philippines (which in the plan) then the watch would be coming off. The only time I might need a watch would be to catch a plane. I don't plan on being a slave to the clock

If it doesn’t show in time the person is selfish.just thinking about themselves. And don’t care about other people.

Good video Leah, all true. You forgot about the toilet paper 😁 westerners are addicted to toilet paper 😂. In Australia here it’s mostly the younger men wearing the boxers with the Oder men preferring the briefs. Yes, even wearing shoes in the house is common here too. I think with humour, Filipinos struggle to get sarcasm which to them can come across as mean? Filipinos I think enjoy more straight forward slap stick comedy like Mr Bean etc.

Yup all 7 describe me to a T lol......Sorry, my feet are super sensitive now that I'm older, and I wear my flippers inside. Even the smallest grain of sand bothers me. As a kid I lived barefoot or in flip flops, now no way. My filipina has gotten used to my way, if I don't like what she cooks,it's ok I can cook for myself just fine, and do.......... I'm not a PDA type, not into holding hands, or kissing outside, not even as a teenager lol. And yeah I quit wearing ANY boxers, once I came here my first time in 2016 and got used to it.....Briefs at home in the US, called "tighty whiteys" lol my step dad wore those nasty things. I changed to boxers@ 12 years old, the "itlogs" need to breathe hahaha Good video Leah lol my filipina was laughing as well.