7 Ways to Increase Your FEMININE Energy *life changing* 

“If u don’t enjoy, do a thumbs down”. She’s honest enough.

"You cannot destroy energy" Wow that is actually correct according to physics.

1. Get rid of people that you negatively compare yourself to on social media 2. Don’t speak bad about people or gossip. Also don’t roll your eyes. 3. Write cute notes to yourself to boost your confidence (be realistic and write thing that speak to you) 4. Wear jewelry (ie a necklace that drapes rather than one that cuts off your neckline) 5. Play around with some new hairstyles 6. Spend time with other women! (empowering positive women that won’t judge you or others) 7. Embrace your period! Use it as a time to release negative emotions and thought patterns.

I just started going to college and there’s this girl that is very very jealous of me, but at the same time fakes being friendly with me, in short she is very toxic. I decided to , by all means, not be rude with her, and also to not talk about her behind her back with our other friends. Hearing Alexandra saying what she said about gossip just made me feel like 10 times better about my choice. Girls and people in general - always remember to kill everyone with kindness. It is truly the best weapon.

Her advice to so much better than other platforms. Hearing just “you’re beautiful” gets old, this is the actual “big sister” tips I need

When you realize all your friends are toxic...

“When you ignore the negative you invite the positive“ 😩😩😩😩

I love being around intelligent and caring women who are real and themselves.

You NEED a podcast. I could listen to you speak FOR HOURS

What literally changed my life is setting my mindset to: Other women are NOT my competition. I stand WITH them, not against them. Love them, support them and always have their back. Even if they are not giving it in return. Give them time, set an example to follow. Love You

I was very tomboyish when I was a child and hung out with more boys than girls because it was easier to relate and get along with boys but I realize that the older I get, the more I came to accept the girly side of me and how complex we are as a woman. I never thought I could love the color pink but I did in my early twenties. I used to think that makeup was high maintenance and only for a certain type of girl but now I adore it and try different kinds of makeup looks everyday. This is the same with dresses too and all other aspect of what being a woman is. Thanks for sharing your video, it really solidify the fact that it’s perfectly fine to be feminine no matter where you’re at in your life

"Women have a really special capacity to hold space for each others emotions " so beautiful and so true ❤

THIS is positive femininity not sexualization or “empowerment” by bringing others down, instead this is empowerment by self love and awareness

she really needs to start a podcast! it would be so amazing omggg

I’m always amazed at the wisdom from a girl only 23. Thank you for being a great roll model for ladies of all ages.

In a world where conventionally masculine traits are valued and rewarded, I sometimes forget what a wonderful thing it is to be a woman. I've sometimes pretended to not like girly things simply because I don't want to be seen as silly or weak. "It's okay to be a girl" really needed to hear that

*I'm in love with how good she makes me feel about myself.*

You are exactly what's missing from RU-vid these days. While most female content creators side with spilling the tea or indulging in drama or d love into unrealistic exaggerated characters, you're someone whom I and many other girls look up to because you're REAL. You're CHILL. You're everything I aspire to become (hopefully) someday. You're like a big sister I've never had. Thanks for that ❤️

She needs her own TLC series. She’s like the antidote to the toxic culture around negative models for girls and young women like the Kardashians.

Wow I’ve actually never realised that I felt shame for trying to be feminine cuz of what I was taught to believe in my community! I love everything you said in this video! ❤️ Much love.

Another woman's beauty is NEVER the lack of yours! I used to be insecure and whenever I saw a beautiful woman I used to feel jealous because I compared myself to her. Now, whenever I see a beautiful woman even though I'm straight I no longer envy nor hate them but think to myself,''That lady is a beautiful woman.''

You’re like the big sister I never had and always wanted 😪

“I release things - not only blood” 😂😂💀

6:10 it is ok to be a girl, it is ok to like pretty things, it is ok to like wearing dresses and feel feminine, and it is super amazing to be a woman. everything is so beautiful in every stage of life.

“It’s okay to be a girl.” I’m currently in a male dominated environment and hearing something so simple made me feel much better about myself.

“Pull your hair all to one side”. Ma’am I’m bald.

This is something i needed. I’ve went through a bad breakup that made me bitter and spiteful. Then one day I woke up over my shit ready to change. Granted, it’s been a slow process ... but regaining confidence is honestly a journey. And this video is definitely helping a lot.

I loved how she talked about periods. I feel like a lot of people avoid this subject, but its a natural way of life, why be embarrassed?

Thank you for being such a good female role model

How are you literally... the most beautiful person I've ever seen?

grew up thinking i had to act and look like a guy to fit in.... so completely shut myself off from my feminine side.. now it makes me uncomfortable to even think about... but I am ready to embracae it and love being a woman... watching this video is a great first step :) Loved the jewellery idea! I have judged jewellery to separate myself from it too long... I will go out and get some tomorrow!! teheheh thank you :)

I’ve been really struggling with my body image lately (weight gain during quarantine), but your videos have really encouraged me! Thank you for your well thought out content! I love your videos

me: never wears jewelry, finds it cumbersome alexandra: tells me to wear jewelry me: **sighs and opens amazon**

I had not found single youtuber until now who said "thumbs down" if you don't like the video.. She is love🤗🤗❤️❤️

Having her amazing hair *does* help a lot! Having little hair with masculine features makes me look and feel unfeminine. 😭 *BUT* trough not dyeing my roots, proper diet and sleep my hair has gotten much longer and a bit thicker over time! We can change things! 😍

This video is incredible, I'm all about feminine energy and this is perfect. My favorite part is supporting and seeing women as allies than enemies. I don't like to get worst impressions, and what i would do is to increase my feminine energy to be approachable the healthy way. Some things i like to do is journaling, practicing loving kindness meditation, listen to music, sing, draw and paint, practice self care, putting on make up, nourishing my body, mind and spirit with food, water, and movement. The most important of all is having gratitude, empathy, compassion, selflessness, and kindness in my life and all women and young women needs this for life. Lets all empower each other. 💕

I love how you said be around positive women, there are so many girls I hear who pride themselves in "only having guy friends," and saying they hate women, and I'm thinking that means you hate yourself....being a woman is amazing. Love this

Who else loves Alexandra’s videos?! 💞🙋🏻‍♀️

Yes! "I am safe" - acknowledges your vulnerability. I can really relate to this underlying anxiety of feeling unsafe. Feeling unsafe and wanting to feel safe is something a lot of women feel without realizing it and this one simple tip - is so multi-faceted. Thanks so much.

I don’t think I’ve ever felt pumped up like I have when my best friend gives me motivational talks! She always makes self care sound fun and ecstatically talks about having a spa day in the future. I hope everyone in this comment finds friends like that, ya’ll deserve it!

"Its okay to want to wear dresses". Wow idk why but I really needed that, thanks x

“And gets high off of gossip Me: pfft not me Me like a hour ago: * was watching a 30 min vid about James Charles getting exposed*

i love how her voice ebbs and flows

How to be feminine: Her: already girly and feminine Me: sometimes I feel like a man

Women should stick together not put each other down!!🙍

When I saw "I am safe today" my mind stopped having anxiety for a moment

I didn’t realize feeling unsafe was as common as it is I felt very safe and cared about watching this You definitely don’t need music You’re wonderful

Wow! I have no words. I’ve been sitting on my couch watching your videos while listening to Mad Men in the background and I truly love hearing what you’re saying about femininity. Before I begin I just wanted to give you some background information first. My sweet and loving mother passed away 5 months ago unexpectedly and I’ve been going through a lot. Been doing therapy, crying, laughing, sleeping, working out, journaling and much more. Things have gotten good and then bad and then good but overall I’ve been really transforming. I’ve been detoxing my life internally and externally. Some months ago I randomly had an impulse or more like a new wave of energy (that I do feel was my mother) that pushed me to start working on my outer appearance. I detoxed my room, and my closet. I set up my office to fit my personality and made sure it was simple and minimalistic. As well as invested time and energy in really researching healthy creams for my sensitive skin that best fit me & as well as make up. I was able to get rid of old creams and make up that no longer was of use or that are expired a million years ago. Lastly, but most importantly I’ve tried to surround myself more with positive quotes, photos, and self care talk. My whole life I’ve struggled with how I view myself. I can’t tell you how relieving and comforting it is to hear you speak about femininity in such a deeper level. Not just about taking care of yourself externally but also really focusing internally. It’s a journey and some days are better then others but your videos have really helped me feel like I’m I’ve always been on the right path of femininity. Thank you ❤️

Usually, these types of videos are so cliché but yours was so cool to watch. Your videos are always so nice and calming to watch.

"It's okay to be a girl." I need to hear that. 😭. I'm not really a girly one coz I'm afraid I might not look beautiful if I wear makeup or dresses or fitted pants or high heels or whatever. Let's go for women empowerment!

“Today I’m safe” Thank you so much for this note! I will implement it to my life 💓

I'm 17 and I want to share my experience with my own femininity :). I've always wanted to be feminine because my mum is an incredible role model of it. She wears bright colours against her deep skin, and shows off her curvy body through fitted clothing. She wears silver jewellery and nice perfume. She also passes as a 30-something, even though she's mid-late 40s. I apparently more look like her, but I don't see it. I guess I inherited everything except her nice nose and strong cheekbones. Great. Unfortunately, I've never felt feminine. I felt masculine and ugly, and hated my body and face all my life. I wanted to wear clothes that made me feel soft and gentle, but broad shoulders, narrow hips and large hands/feet made everything look awkward and ugly (apparently my shoulders and hips aren't like that but idk. My brain) . I'd showoff my clavicles to find that it also would highlight my puffy, bulbous face. I felt masculine in my behaviours and didn't know whether my "femininity" was just shyness and insecurity. I gave up this "femininity" thing at aged 13 and sought out androgyny, which also didn't work. I didn't have the height, curvelessness, or facial slenderness to pull of androgynous styles like the models. I then stuffed my hideous body into hoodies and aimed to pass as a boy. I tried to make my voice deeper (not like it was even pretty and feminine initially) and walk boyishly. My ugliness helped, and often I would pass as male. But, in hindsight, I was passing as a 5'5 unattractive male, which was even worse. But that was irrelevant. That wasn't what made me return to femininity. I've always wanted to feel like a woman, and turned to my mother (and some people online) for help. My first goal is to wear more womanly clothing. Mum keeps telling me that my body/face are nice and not masculine, but I currently struggle to see it. I trust her, though; she never lies to make me feel good. I bought two H&M thick jumpers and other things that make me feel womanly. It'll take lots of time, but I feel like I might naturally already be femiine, and it's just my self esteem and maladaptive coping methods making me act toxiclally masculine. I also am working on my confidence to allow my natural personality to show through. Anyway, these videos are so helpful to me. Thank you. I don't even know why I'm writing all this. I'm too close to my period for my decisions to hold logic.

I just love how all women in the comments section are happy and sharing their problems and empowering other women. This is the most positive comment section ever!

i love how this video isnt just about attracting men, it's about embracing your own feminity

U HAVE BRAINS, BEAUTY, WISDOM, TRUTH. I LOVE THIS MESSAGE. 🥰 Glad we are in the same frequency, and grateful to b in tune with u.

Everyone in this community is so positive and sweet and this is such a happy place 🥺💞🦋

I cried. Why? Because I've always been a big girl and I'm also taller than the average girl. I was always treated as the 'protector,' for smaller girls and boys often treated me like their, 'bro.' And I kid you not, I used to feel so pathetic because I too wanted to feel like a girly girl, you know? And I didn't know that we could activate your feminine energy. Thank you for answering my question, Alexandra. The universe truly does work in mysterious ways.

Wow! The “you are safe” thing? I didn’t know I needed that.

Your speaking voice is so lovely, a lot of girls feel like they have to speak in a high pitched tone to be "girly". I'm sometimes a bit self conscious because I have quite a deep voice, but I try to embrace it !

Love when she says be with women more to share the special bond ! So true.

Who wants to see the MASCULINE version???

"you are safe" shit got me tearing up

one thing I love about your videos is how short-lengthed they are. Thank you, so glad I discovered this channel.

I was raised to be tough. Acting girly, was being ditsy, not working hard in the mud all the time, made me a priss. Its taken me a while to be able to relax and enjoy being a girl. I absolutely love your videos. I loved your podcast!!!

The sticky note thing works. My boyfriend stuck sticky notes saying sweet things everywhere. He put one on my mirror that says “ you look amazing “ and one in my fridge and lots of positive words everywhere and I feel so good and it reminds me to love myself.

Recently I had mastectomy and lost my hair , eyebrows, period....ect I am 40. I still feel feminine....

She’s so pretty & is still able to make me feel good about myself. That’s a gift. I’ve been feeling very down lately & realize i let my masculine energy rule. Thank you 🙏🏻

“I encourage you to spend some time with other women” Me, in quarantine: I wishhhhh🥺

I'd totally listen to an AlexandrasGirlyTalk podcast! Do you have one??

It’s nice to have a beauty guru talk about taking care of more than just the makeup on her face. Being beautiful means working on who you are as a person and loving yourself mentally and physically. Not just conforming to the latest makeup trend. Thanks Alex❤️

I really appreciate you! I've been binging your channel lately because of self esteem, anxiety and depression issues that come in waves with my bipolar and you really help to motivate me in general but most of all motivate me to love myself and put some care into me because I deserve it! Thankyou so much💛🌞

Hello Alexandra, i just want to extend my deepest appreciation to you. After watching your vlogs most especially your life changing ones i felt more confident. Following your advices made my mind and soul at peace and whenever I'm having a hard time, ill rewatch your vids to feel better. Thank you for being the Big Sister i never had. Wishing you more Happiness in life!

I'm too skinny. I'm flat chested. I have big eye bags. I have flat and big nose. I do not have symmetrical lips. My skin is pale. My body is weird. But I'm still happy.

This is the first feminine self-care video where I've actually felt at peace with myself at the end.

TY. I grew up not having a lot of support from women in my family, so the youtubers posting have been like the sisters I didn't have. TY for self care talk!

i love the podcast type of feel at the end! i can just close my eyes and listen without having to take in visuals. it really helps it all sink in!

i’m a guy, but i absolutely loved this video.

Who else went and unfollowed a bunch of influencers?

Honestly , I’m in a point in my life where I have hit a few bumps in the road; and I continue to watch your videos because 1.) there fabulous and I am addicted to your positivity!! 2.) because you are REAL. You talk about real things that are happening in your life and things people go through. You have so many great concepts on life and hacks!!! Continue making more amazing videos!!

You make me feel really good about myself Alexandra. You’re powerful.

I’m in tears, I didn’t realize how much I’ve been neglecting my feminine energy and myself in general. Not just with my appearance but literally every topic you’ve mentioned in this video. I love my job so much but it does sucks that it’s not a job where it’s ideal to wear nice clothes and jewelry or even makeup due to the nature of my work, so my self esteem has been so low because I only get to look pretty on the weekends. I spend a lot of time with my hubby which is nice but not enough with my girls so I forget how to be a girl sometimes. I had a miscarriage last month and my reproductive health is just out of whack and has been depressing me. Social media, anxiety, feeling secure and safe I mean the list could go on but I just want to thank you for providing ways that can help me deal with some of my issues, I appreciate your videos and I’m glad I came across your channel years ago 💕

You're the big sister everyone wishes they had. You're so confident and spread so many positive vibes.

Thanks girl! I am fully embracing my femininity and this video helped me do so in a healthier way.

"Today you are safe" you got the tear works going

Yeez, I needed to hear that. "It's ok to feel girly and like pretty things and want to wear a dress". I've been seeing that from a cultural perspective we've been trying to portray more masculine qualities just to reclaim our space in environments that have been typically masculine (work for example), Also, you usually end up stepping up your tomboy game to appear as a "dude" to men whom you want to be friends with, as if being femenine means that you are presenting yourself only in a romantic way. World is still a wicked place.

my vocab isn’t good enough to express how much i love this channel

Thank you 😘 and the most important thing is to love yourself and take care of yourself ,to living your beauty and your feminine power 💙

Thank you sooo much for this video, I was having some bad day and wasn't really in the mood to do anything at all, but than I started watching it and in the end it gave me so much positivity and the will to start again. I also started loving myself more and more again for being who I am and that I am a woman and that I love myself which is so precious... thanks a lot🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💋❤️

You should make a podcast! Listening to your positive energy at work would make me so much better! Edit: Holy shit I've never even had anyone like one of my comments before thanks guys 😅

I started crying as soon as you read I'm safe. I never knew I needed this. Thank you so much ❤️

Oh my god this woman is so inspiring I’m actually crying she’s always positive and not in the negative she’s the best I lover her she’s so kind and confident in herself !

Thumbnail says "Stop what you're doing" Me: pauses from eating Cadbury egg

I would really love a series about embracing femininity and the nuances. It can be intimidating to embrace the goddess that all women possess within and surprisingly not all people see the worth of embracing feminine energy or some women dwell in areas where their feminine energy can be seen as a weakness. Stunning content. Thank you, girl💕✨

I have to say, its been a few couple of days that I have come across your content, and it helps me to reconnect with my feminine side. I have always wanted to explore this side, as a woman, right now it was mostly girly and partly womanly but your videos are actually helping me with bringing the whole side out. Thank you for being so amazing and your voice is so soothing, to be honest. Positive vibes everywhere ♥️

Now this is comforting. I spent hours looking up videos to feel better bout myself, but the ones before this were SO toxic. Like I kinda wanted to cry. Hearing stuff in your household and community (BLK) shaming you for trying to be comfortable with yourself along with figuring out the feminine energy messes you up.

I realise this is like those alpha male become a millionaire videos, but it’s for women and it’s positive and beautiful 😍

Girl if you had a podcast I would listen!!

I’m watching this video again. I just really love how unique and true to you your videos are, which is something I’m really striving to achieve as a creator myself. Thank you for being you 💖

I love this woman, I just love love love LOOOOOVE HER! Maybe this whole lockdown situation wasn't bad after all, I found the woman I know will save my life for the next few years THANK YOU!

Honestly.. one day I remember when I had this kick of feminine energy and it was on my period. That day I was wearing a red dress put on red lipstick and had a red smoothie. I went outside and took a walk.. lemme tell u it was an experience.