It depends how serious the situation is. If it was a spot in line for coffee, I would 100% let someone go in front of me. But, If the situation was as grave as the titanic... Sorry, me first pls.
Probably how I was raised? I used to kind of think of myself more often and I feel like it was too much. I could also tell from how the people around me acted towards me. I think I just toned it down and that just became a natural thing and a little too much. right now, I'm trying to find a sweet spot where it's balanced well and I can help others while keeping myself in check.
I used to put other's first but after sometime I feel like I don't even care about myself just do as other's say....so from 2021 I put myself first mostly and other's rarely
Don't focus on what others say or think, people will always think something, people easily see our mistakes but not the achievements, focus on success, growth and self development. And be the best version of yourself, do what you want, live freely cuz its your life. Have a good day :)
I learned from school, no matter how hard you try to please people, there will always be that one person who hates you. So just be yourself & live your own life
I actually needed this ! My IT teacher was good and protective at the start of high school But he started getting Persona so I complaint against him and now I don't know what should I do how should I face him?!?
So many forget about the most crucial thing in life, including me. This is YOUR life. So NEVER let anybody tell you who you're supposed to be or talk down to you. Easier said than done but, the beautiful thing in life is yourself and how no one in this world will see another person like you again. Stay beautiful and be the best version of yourself. Because there's only one you.
People’s judgment and perception of you is really about them. People don’t think about you as much as you think, they are concerned more with themselves.
Summary: 0:27 Showing gratitude for yourself and your accomplishments.(take a moment to look at how far you've come) 1:26 Alone time is okay, unplug and step away. 2:12 We are all humans, Nobody is superman.(Don't compare yourself) 3:04 Keep the focus on what you want not what others want. 4:32 Don't try to make everyone happy, you can't. 5:13 Build your self esteem.(Don't be your critic and don't blame yourself too much)
@@marchellokristywijaya4489 There are a lot of helpful things you can do for yourself. I suggest looking into some Buddhist teachings online. Discovering how to practice mindfulness, awareness and insight on yourself and the world around you can be the start of a very empowering process. Also, check out the tao te ching, with all of its unique and powerful content.
@Sarah Bannister Why do you need to speak like this? Maybe you should think about why you want to bully others. After all, a bully is most often a coward.
I struggle a lot with the idea of being misunderstood. I don't want anyone to think I'm bad, stupid, or worthless because those are things I've internalized about myself. However, as a I get older, I realize I'm simply projecting my insecurities out into the world. Most people don't even notice me or think about me. And that makes me feel peaceful. :)
I actually needed this video. Thanks. I also want to tell anyone having troubles: You are not alone, a lot of people have been where you are, and have got better. You can be one of them. Just remember that every step, no matter how tiny, still moves you on to the path ahead.
@@Psych2go Slightly better today. Thanks for asking, and for being there to help people. If the measure of a person is what they contribute to make others lifes better, then you are a gold mine of a team =)
I always had issues with my self-image. I cared too much about what others might think. I hated the way I was and was mean to myself. The more I progress through my journey, I am starting to see myself in a better light. It wouldn't have been easy without you guys. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your donation! I'm so happy to here that you are focusing more on yourself and not too much on other people now. We are happy to be apart of your journey of growth!
I’m still struggling with body dysmorphia. Every time I see someone, I feel like they are judging me. I am trying to get past it and I have a therapist now. I hope you know that you are not alone. ❤❤❤
@@PolarAcersame here and I am happy that you got a therapist and here I am who can't have a therapist and struggling with her mental health, anxiety and body dismorphia. WISH ME LUCK. I hope one day I will be happy.
"You can't please everybody, might as well please yourself". I heard that in a song and it is so true. I'm working on that right now. My sibling is rolling in the cash and has everything he needs. Mom said I turned out well. And I am right next door to broke! Needless to way, it meant a lot to me. She died in 2017 and I am still trying to work that song into my way of life. Mom was proud of me.
That so speaks to me. As an Aspie and a (essentially) people pleaser/masker, I've always felt like I have to act or be a certain way to not be criticized, even by my own family and friends, because I do have an intense fear of being criticized, like it literally triggers my fight or flight response (usually my response is just freeze). It just feels scary to get criticized and/or rejected. However, I am trying to just be happy with who I am and not let every small piece of criticism make me feel intimidated, and to 'just' be myself.
This video relates to me so much. In school i get nervous that whatever i do, people will criticize me. However i've learned to not care what others think. I hope whoever is reading this, that you have a good day or night.
@orangewhale9245 this is literally me. I don’t care what my family thinks because they know me (most of the time anyway) but I care for some reason about what strangers think. It’s weird.
I was just needing something like this. Right now my past friends haven’t really been acting like friends lately and I don’t even know who I am anymore. I need to do things I enjoy, and show gratitude to myself. Thank you💕
My darling mother worried excessively about what other people thought of her. As a teenager, I was the one who would sit down with her and tell her how fabulous she was in every way. I knew that she was a sensitive person and possessed a type of fragility that I had not seen in others. I never gave a hoot about what others thought of me, even in high school, which can be a rough place to fit in. How could a mother and daughter be so opposite in this regard? I had the confidence of an eagle and she possessed the confidence of a butterfly. Be an eagle in your life as you will fly higher and feel fabulous up there!
Yes. Do not let what other people think affect your life and drag you down. Go ahead and live your best life without minding about their negative opinions!
I find that I can find a way to not care about what others think, but I still don't know whether or not to care about what the police think, lol. I'm into nudism, and I want to practice it because it gives me so much confidence, but I'm worried about getting arrested.
I realized that when people tell you what to do, they’re talking about what they want for themselves. Not everyone is giving you advice for your own self being, some people are just projecting what they like onto you. I always feel wrong, but then I saw that I’m not the problem, they’re simply projecting what they want for themselves! Be self confident and keep doing what you’re doing
Even in knowing and understanding that, I sometimes still wish people would stop talking to me this way and learn to better appreciate my existence in the moment. Time together doesn't always have to be spent talking about things, whether the topic is light-hearted or serious- and silence doesn't always have to feel awkward or uncomfortable.
i remember i was going through something difficult when i was younger and during that time I cared and really wanted to know how other people thought of me. Was really hard to stop feeling sad all of the time. And then I stopped caring and i'm currently much happier. Yes everyone, when you stop caring about other people's thoughts , the grass is greener on the other side.
I have been dealing with a narcissistic coworker for a year. Even though we are in different section, she always finds a way to reach and abuse me. Since then, I am no longer myself. Last January I went to theraphy and started my healing. One way to heal myself is to stop caring what others say or think about me. But I must remember to always know my truth and the truth.
this hit hard for me. its so simple, almost common sense but the way this channel spreads these messages really opens my eyes. thank you so much, i really appreciate it
Wow! A much needed video in these times where people spend their lives in toxic patterns like ‘approval seeking’ & ‘validation seeking’… Srsly, this channel is literally a lifesaver. I cannot thank you enough.
I think we have to learn how to trust our own decision-making skills. Not worry about how other people think, feel, or behave. Just have a deep trust that we are okay with whatever choices we make. It’s been so difficult for me but I’m getting there. Hope we all get there!
The one and only thing that always helps me in "caring not" about what people say is (they don't even know me and I don't know them so why bother 🤷) then I move on
I've been struggling with this for years, especially when it comes to my dad and stepmom. They've said so many hurtful things that I struggle with so much to let go of. It's so hard, but I'm finally starting to let everything go
When someone called me a BS artist, I just be grateful for me being who I am. Only me who knows the truth, and I know what I've been achieved all these years as a psychic medium. I also grateful about what they said, because their words triggers me to keep on walking to my passions. Thank you
Ooooo your so cool it’s kinda like if they judge you, we can say thank them for letting you know that they’re jealous of you and how great you are😁it’s kinda like they are jealous and hateful to you but also want to be like you. Some people are just jealous because they can’t reach the same level talent you have.
I’ve been pretty good about it, I used to be a huge people pleaser. I still am sometimes because my family guilts me into being one n calls me selfish for making decisions that are better for myself, but the thing I tell myself the most is that I need to do whatever I want to do because not everything I do is gonna make people happy. I can do something that will make some people happy and some people upset, it doesn’t matter, as long as it makes ME happy. I don’t care. It’s easier when you tell yourself that (also I haven’t watched the video yet I just wanted to say this since I was looking through the comments and saw something similar)
You can not control what people say or think about you but the only thing you can control is who and what can influence your life. Its really important for someone to make healthy boundaries
BECAUSE IT'S MOSTLY ABOUT THEM..... NOT YOU.... The way their lives are AND the way there are issues ARE IS PERSONALLY ABOUT THEM... AND WHAT THERE GOING THROUGH IN THERE OWN LIVES....
It’s easy just stop caring and only value your own opinion of yourself. That’s what I do and since doing this my anxiety is like 90% down 🤗 and I’m even more happier than ever. Also usually when people say things to me that’s supposed to be rude it goes over my head so I don’t get offended, that also helps 😊
No one knows more you than yourself. If you think what people think about you then what people will think. Let them damage their brain but never let anyone or anyones thought in your mind. Never value anyone around you more than yourself.
I really needed this video because this is something I'm constantly struggling with everyday. Thank u so much Psych2Go. Your videos are always so uplifting and the art style is super cute. Thank u so much for always sharing your encouraging words with us. Everyone deserves self love not just love from others. Don't ever forget that you're not alone and that people do love u but u also have to love yourselves
Long before social media started, and now that it is here just in fron of out faces (on our phones, computer etc.), this is definitely something worth watching. I grew up on a generation not having and having social media and most of the time, social media is the culprit especially if you are following "influencers". Or even sometimes if you go up. Pat yourself on the back as YOU definitely can provide gratitude to yourself. And be thankful for small little things and accomplishments too! Sometimes we only see the greater picture and totally forget the process on how to get there. Don't also be a people pleaser. It really doesn't work like that. We cannot make everyone happy - even sometimes our loved ones. It doesn't really go that way in life AT MOST TIMES. There may be occasions that we have to please others but just doing out part to the best of our skills and knowledge is just about it. And building self esteem is something easier said that done at most times. But being able to appreciate your self worth, and even "validating yourself" - for what you feel and think at times is enough. Listen to some good positive music works for me. Life songs that has lyrics of empowerment, and making you feel good works. And the notion to "move on" and "move along" whenever things gets rough. It's alright at times to succumb on how bad things happened or the situation is but we have to move on and carry along as there are other great and wonderful things ahead of us that we should be all looking forward too. I hope this helps.
If using social media is making you feel bad, you need to learn how to curate your newfeed and friends list. As someone disabled by chronic illness and chronic pain, My entire social life is through social media. It takes a few hours of solid work, but curating your social media is SO, SO WORTH IT! You shouldn't be focusing on making yourself look as good as possible to other people, or interacting with people and content that makes you unhappy, jealous, angry, or sad. You should be interacting with positive content and people that make you feel happy, supported, worthwhile, uplifted, and inspired. Take the time to do it, I promise you won't regret it 😊❤
Right on time! So today in our school we celebrate halloween , and i decided to do a makeup and i’m sadly suffering with social anxiety and this tottally helped me!❤
My friends online always say that i dont fit in with them , i try to hold back my tears and focus on myself and dont worry about what others say but it just wont let me.
In my experiences, it's not what people say or think that affects me, it's that they assume and then take the next steps of complaining enough to get me in trouble to the point where I have no say. I'm presumed guilty by association and stereotype alone, and then disciplined on that presumption, which only furthers my anxiety and depression due to an utter lack of vetting and advocacy. This happens at work, I'm a contract worker and if the client has an issue, whether legit or made up, my company just goes along with it. There are no provisions in our contract with the client if their staff make mistakes or make false accusations.
I really like point 3. Everyone is human. I have the problem of comparing myself to others, trying to work on getting out of that mindset. So I think when I start comparing myself to others, I’ll say to myself ‘ everyone farts’. Which is true and will give me a giggle😂
What do you know? This is a perfectly timed video for me. My only question is how to forgive yourself as much as you do others? Sure, other people mess up, obviously, but their everyday screw-ups are easier to look past than your own. You always end up feeling inferior, even while recognizing their imperfection. Those past mistakes feel like stains. How do you create an objective scale for judging yourself and others? Also, I really need to work on my self-knowledge, but I'm also afraid of the amount of work those realizations will prompt. How long to fix what I don't like? And then I'll *still* be behind everyone else when I can finally start projecting a sense of self-actualization comparable to theirs.
I already don't really care much about what other people think but I'm glad people are making RU-vid videos about how to stop caring and how to be themselves it's nice to see
I LOVED THIS VIDEO!! All your videos, but this one...more!! It is made about "what other people think"...yet it hits much deeper: SENSE OF SELF ESTEEM AND PERSONAL VALUE. Underneath "what people think" is a huge iceberg of pain, regret, low or NO self esteem, loads of self pity, years wasted, tears shed... LIVES IN SHADOWS not because of "what other people think" but on how or what many of us grew to become. Thank you for this video: so much encouraging advice in few minutes. I will listen to it every day...Pre-new year resolution!!❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
didn't think this was the one thing to change my life around for the better, not caring about how others think of me has been the biggest thing for me to be happier, THANK YOU Psych2Go for making this content, it certainly makes a difference not just for me but for everyone, keep up the wonderful content.
I started working at a hospital a while ago. I was a tough guy. Situations here can get bad for people. I see that. Buy offing help a kind word or a positive notion makes there day a little better. Guess what. It makes my day better too. I have a better understanding of myself now. I’ve grown up. I feel great.
Bullies most likely end up in jail when they grow up (don’t worry girly pop i still love you) or (don’t worry broski i still love you) or (don’t worry my pal i still love you)
I've been doing this for long while now, and let me tell you it's been so good, I literally don't gaf bout others opinions even when I see hate comments I am just laughing and unaffected by it
I think the first thing you need to do is to stop caring about the rest yourself. Most people reflect their insecurities on others (at least on their own mind), thus they think that everyone is just as judgemental as themselves. Which inevitably leads to a sense of insecurity. DON'T FOCUS ON OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVES IF YOU DON'T WANT TO CARE ABOUT WHAT THEY "THINK ABOUT YOU" It just makes you more and more paranoid, because you'll keep on unintentionally seeking their stares.
Yes I struggle with this a-lot also it makes it hard for me for who to trust when some people don’t understand who I really am and just think I’m faking it or maybe going though a phase and don’t think my symptoms are real at-all !
i feel like i needed to watch this. this is so helpful for me. honestly I've been avoiding socializing for a long time for this reason (and that my "opinions" were always garbage), so seeing this video reminded me i shouldn't feel guilty about what i say (even if it sounds harsh and aggressive), so thanks for another great video.
Yeah..this is something I needed today..I know I shouldn't care what others think let alone try to apply to everyone it even made me wanta rethink my art and ideas like why am I doing this? But I still do like being creative but people sometimes make me rethink it alot and it just makes me feel like I'm I doing something wrong with art ideas idk.
@@Psych2go I guess a little better but I'm still trying to figure things out with myself and myself as a creator but still thank you again this helps some really.🌺🌸
I realized I don't like others because I don't like myself. I'm gonna start liking myself and stop caring what other's think, or even think about what they feel. They can deal with their feelings. It's not my job to make them feel good!
I really do struggle not to be a social chameleon...seeking approval and finding my self alone in the end even though there are many near by. Please keep posting Psych2go!👍🏻
Lovin' the Closing Credits! It puts a personal touch in being able to read all your names and what you do. In short, everything about this channel is completely enjoyable. Learning is Fun!
Absolutely. Psych2Go would crumble without Amanda Silvera so a reminder of her and her role in the credits is reassuring. I’m yet to come across anyone who does finer voice-overs.
@@Anonymous_Anon882 Actually, it was indeed her name I was looking for when they began. "VO" was not what I was looking for, so I read them twice with more thought given to the jobs being named. Picturing them was fun, and gave me time to work out Voice Over. Amanda's voice is lovely. Reassuring without the insinuation of pandering is a great skill. She's good for all of us !
I very recently went through a really hard breakup of the longest relationship that I've been in. I would like to say that these videos have helped a lot recently. Thank you
Honestly I just stop treating them like their something special. So I’m not afraid to talk about or to them. But I won’t hate on them or anything. I just try my best to treat them like everyone else
Sametime when we be angry we say bad things It doesn't matter if it's a wrong or right but we say it because we want to be right they just want to make us not happy about ourselves you just need to love ourselves and protect it even if they said bad things about yourself it doesn't mean that it's the truth
i really want to thank this channel last year i was going through hard times blaming myself for every little thing and i secretly whish that i just need to die and when and this channel tack a big slice to my recovery THANK YOU GUYS SO MUCH and i know you have helped a lot of people just like me and worst love you. PS i am using my dads pc i am 13 not this guy
Thank you, I would be criticized for not doing things specific people wanted me to do on their time. I have been trying hard to continue not to care and videos like yours help me out as always.
Thank you for posting this. I have struggled with this a huge chunk of my life. I found I was happier when I stopped trying to be like the people I was being judged and the majority I was rejected by. But that was in high-school but the need to be accepted by people started to came back after I graduated college in December of 2016. I am still struggling to get back in that mind set of "don't be like those people who call you out if they won't admit to their mistakes" but even then it's hard when you do the right thing and still get called out and even ridiculed for it. I hope you can help educate people and keep them from getting to the dark places I've been and sometimes go back to. Seriously thank you for this video and Keep up the good work.
Thank you so much for this 💗I have been struggling with the problem for a long time. I did not know what to do until I watched the video .I am truly grateful for your help 🙏💖
I’ve struggled with this for a long time. Being a 33 year old male, working a blue collar job, no college degree, unmarried, how I talk (southern draw) and a dorky artsy creative type. I’m constantly comparing and overthinking. I’m not sure why I care so much and beat myself up all the time.
Just a thought every morning when you get up look in the mirror or write on an index card and printed everywhere that you frequently look at where it says that you are a very unique young man consider yourself one of a kind ‼️ Do you really want to be the 12th egg in the dozen ⁉️🤔 Seriously that and think about what I had just said ‼️‼️‼️
My favorite advice is to moderate your social media use and don't compare yourself to others. This one person might or might not be more expirienced at this one thing you do too. But, what we often enough forget is that they don't do everything you do. You are not that one hobby you like to talk yourself down about. And neither are them. You do a lot of other things too, that they don't and vice versa.
I really needed this video. I struggle alot with trying to impress others. I realise im not usually my real self around the 'popular girls' because I'm different. It's really hard to stop.
I have definitely changed my personality to reflect the social pressure around me. What that looks like for me though is I make myself more weird than I actually am if that makes sense because I’m a weird person in general it’s the autism and ADHD. I feel like what does accomplishes for me is that people who think I’m weird and don’t except me for the way I am don’t get to know me and I prefer it that way. you can get surface level and then go away. I don’t expect you to like me but if you do then we can have a hell of a time together and you do not need to feel that you need to hide anything from me because if you accept me quirks and all I have no problem excepting you.
I struggle so bad with this. And it’s frustrating cuz I recognize im doing it in the moment but my anxiety or fear makes me give in anyway just so i can calm down. It helps in that moment. But the pattern just continues. Its so frustrating because I actively practice not caring DAILY. But it feels like it isn’t working.
I literally base how I act on how I think others are acting. The way I talk, walk, dress, act. It’s so tiring and makes me feel crap. But it’s an even bigger issue now because I’ve passed my driving test and got my own car and I get so anxious about driving because I’m so scared of stalling on a hill or making some sort of mistake where I panic and people judge me.
Most people here are writing their favourite quotes, and I think I have one that give me hope to be myself in this world. It is quote of one bloger Nick. He and his brothers share funny videos on RU-vid. "Make sure that you are 100% being your authentic self, cause no one does it better" . So accurate
Every comlent other tell me (even for constructive criticism) is so hard for me to overcome. I get so easily sad and overwhelmed, and I have a hard time to change that.
Thanks for pointing these things out as for me I struggle of what people think as because I’m one of those guys the that genuinely wants to get to know people but that is something I’m actually really working on improving.
Great tips..😊 And I think this mindset needs some level of maturity and life experiences..one golden tip I always remind myself, especially when I made an embarrassing mistake is that by nature humans think more of themselves (not necessarily in a selfish way), so whatever embarrassing thing you did, even though u can't forget abt it..others probably can't remember already... 😆
Because of my low self esteem, I usually think that I’ve done something wrong whenever things don’t work out between me and someone. Even though I look back and see that I’ve done nothing wrong, and I have valid reasons for everything I did, I still can’t help but think it’s my fault. It feels a bit uncomfortable for me to not care about what others think but I think it’s important for the sake of my happiness and peace of mind.
BECAUSE THEY PUSH IT DOWN ON YOU..... LIKE A 10 POUND HEAVY BRICK.... You know, they make you feel drained by AND ashamed by.... Make you feel ashamed by because of the way you're living and how your living your life. So they criticize about that and how the way you are with....✨✨✨✨✨🔥🔥
When i first entered social media at age of 16; i became a biggest burden to other kids especially my former friends without knowing i was neither courteous nor resilient instead of preventing them from being happy or growing with them. Thats how i always get blocked due to my worrisome behaviors and i became depressed, angry, ghosted, and rejectable. Thats how i was caught up with the inappropiate site addiction so i always thought it would clean me up but I Didn’t Feel Any Better!
Okay just to give you guys some inspiration😂 before, I'm the most quiet & shy person you'll ever know, I used to hide behind my mom everytime someone is talking to me. And when it comes to school too, I'm always quiet and it's like I have my own world. But years have passed, because of some experience, pain, & traumas. It changed me a lot, and I just stop caring of what others will think of me now. I started to talk to everyone & treat them all the same, I always have my good posture. When I enter our class, I said "hi" to all my classmates, and I don't care if they laugh, they find it cute though. When I'm at a party, I talk to random people & say to them what I notice. And when I walk at the park or at the street, I dance a little with my headphone & smile sweetly to everyone that passes by..... Now, look at you & ask yourself why you care so much of what others think. Stop it & fix yourself. Face the world, and enjoy being the real you!
