Stop Worrying About Being Judged: The only way that works 

What was one of your biggest takeaways from this talk on Judgement? And in case you didn't see it in the description, here's the link to the COMMITTED SELF-JOURNAL: tt.juliakristina.com/committed-self-journal/

*The more you care what others think, the more they own you.*

When you’re 20 you worry about what people think about you, when you’re 40 you don’t care, when you’re 60 you realise they haven’t been thinking about you at tall.

Worried what people thought of me all my life and it holds me back

I heard my mom judge everyone, so I grew up with that in my head. The ton of things I never did because I was afraid of being judge is crazy. I'm 41 and still trying to change that. 😔

I pay therapist around $100USD a session, and they don't give nearly as much of a therapeutic effect as I get from watching your videos for free.

I want to thank myself for clicking on this video. thanks

Truth is, people reflect their insecurities through their actions, if someone is hateful towards a lot of people, it’s likely they aren’t happy within so don’t take peoples attitudes and opinions too personally. Love this vid 👏🏻

I needed this lol. I walk around school feeling like everyone is judging my outfit,hair,face anything really. And every time I hear a laugh I think it’s abt me 😳. But I want to get better so I can be myself at school and not worry abt others approval

Fear of judgement is the fear of someone judging themselves by the way you judge your self. That's crazy! Thank you!

I can understand the points here, however when I fear judgement I am actually fearing the social consequences of how people judge- exclusion, etc.

When you know how deeply loved you are by your Father and BELIEVE and KNOW this you wont care anymore. That is what helped me initially and then it's just the constant flesh issues and I pray and remind myself that I am special

If you don’t judge others, you are less likely to suspect others will judge you.

Yes! The only opinion that truly matters is our own. We need to stop judging ourselves, and letting the opinions of others affect our lives. Everyone has preferences and views life through the filters of their own emotions and life experiences. If we alter how we think or act because of someone else's judgment, we will never lead an authentic life that is in alignment with who we really are. This was such a beautiful video that really addresses this fear perfectly. For anyone that needs to hear it today...YOU ARE ENOUGH! So so so enough. Do what makes YOU happy.

So the key is working on our insecurities then... Good to know.

Am I the only one who feels that my overthinking and my thoughts no one will get them if I explain or they might think they're stupid thoughts that they give me more anxiety.

I'm crying so hard right now. Thank you for this. I've been holding myself back so much because of this major insecurity that i have since childhood. This video cleared things up. I do rlly need to make peace woth this insecurity as well as strengthen my relationship with myself.

I completely agree! I find myself thinking about judgment a lot. I am someone who used to judge people a lot (I still do a little bit, but I’m working on it) and I realized that every time I judged someone I did that only to make myself feel a little bit better, but at the end of the day my judgment was just an expression of my struggles. The more I work on myself and the more I heal, the less I judge. Now, most of the times I find myself not even caring about what people “might think” because I know that if someone judges me, it’s on them. It’s an expression of their own struggle. And I’m ok with that because I’m secure with myself.

This is the most perfectly timed video. I'm going to speak up in a meeting today about people judging me and projecting their insecurities on to me. I'm doing it in 45 minutes. Please pray for me!

“It’s not about you it’s about them “i’ve always heard this phrase before but after hearing this from you you’ve explained it perfectly

I'm not sure who said it first, but the quote is "We despise in others what we hate about ourselves." It has always resonated with me and when I find myself being judgemental of someone else I choose to self-reflect and ask myself what it is about myself I'm struggling with that I am projecting onto that other person. When we are kinder to ourselves, we judge others less and ultimately ourselves less, too. Great video! Thank you for sharing!!

Judgement is the fear of someone else’s judgements of themselves because of what we are going to make it mean about the judgements we have of ourselves. Wow

This is groundbreaking for me! Wow! A total BREAKTHROUGH in my thinking! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!*** The potential this has in changing my life is enormous!!! This immediately empowered me; the shift in my thinking was like moving a mountain. It reminds me of the verse in the bible: " Let there be Light!" Thank you for shinning light in my dark thinking! God Bless You!!!!

Thank you, I will remember to watch this again. My fear of judgement is not really about what others are going to say about me or think about me, but those are the things that I judge myself for and can't accept!

It's about them their perception and their personality. Thats just who they are that's why they act out in Judgement and share their opinion about others.

Thanks, this has helped me realize that it's about them and not about me. I get criticized and judged often by others and it doesn't faze me anymore. I realize they're ego driven or have a small mind.

Thank you Julia Kristina, for your welcome to this “amazing” corner of the internet. For me this is another very supportive piece delivered in your usual, very comprehensive manner, although this time, judging,and /or feeling judged by others, is not something that I struggle with particularly. For me it’s a reassuring piece at a time when I’ve being going through some intense self scrutiny, rebuilding my self and my sense of self. It’s helpful to me because I find it grounding. Sort of, yep, that’s a piece of me that I recognise, I tend to not judge. I am 61 and I am on the right side now of removing myself from what has been perhaps more than 2 decades of gaslighting, a word that I’d not even heard of until about 6 months ago, so up until then impossible to come to terms with. You’re short videos have been extremely helpful to me, and I’m very grateful, so thank you. I am now looking at who I grew up as before my sisters, and those who support them, had scapegoated me and in doing so destroyed my existence and sense of self and reality, and looking so in order to remind myself of who I am. All such reminders are very helpful.

Wow. Hearing that judgement from others is about what's going on inside of them was Powerful! 🙏🏾 I'm not blessed with looks so have always walked around thinking ppl are judging me. I've wasted so much time caring about something thats not even my business.

Thank you so much for the video and the free journal! ❤️

I was just tired of trying so hard b4 finding this video. And now I know the problem is not that someone is judging me but it's about me being insecure of my own self. I wish someone could help me to overcome my insecurities. no matter what I do, every laugh I hear, I think it's about me. When I tell someone about this they just tell me you are underestimating yourself but never how should i actually overcome my insecurities

Yes, it triggers our insecurities.

Make sense in that I can see my own insecurities causing me to think others are judging. That sometimes leads to sabotage (drinking) to relieve 😕

Thank you! ❤

This is a good one. Thank you.

So true. Thank you very much. Great help

Thank you 🙌

Thank you so much for your insight. I needed to hear this today.

That second one just blew my mind. Thank you.

The way you explain the critical 2nd part makes so much sense. Just "getting" that part of it can help others to worry less about external situations or people (avoiding them), as those things aren't really the issue, and they are not in our control anyway.

Thank you so much, this was a great help 🙏🏻

Thank you.

So very true if someone’s” judgment” of you is causing you distress it’s because you’re feeling some kind of inadequacy or struggle with that thing. So you really have two healthy choices either learn to embrace whatever you’re feeling” judged” about or change it!

Love this! I needed to hear it this morning. Great video ❤️

You are so amazing. Thank you so much for this video. I am sharing your video to a friend that is really struggling with judgement. I think this will help. And you were right, I did have to listen to the video a few times to help it sink in.

Thank you 😊

Thank you!

Wow! This one blew my mind. I had chills.

A bad incident happened at my school, and not only did I stay home for two weeks but when I came back I was so anxious about what people think and it held me back a lot, I really want to work on just focusing on myself

Very true ..it's our short comings we fear about ourselves thinking that people might find out our weakness

This is exactly what I needed, and my daughter needed to hear. We have been going through some rougher points in our relationships, as a family. I have noticed a lot of projection/judgements verbalized towards me that reflect her issues, she really holds onto to the mentality of being perfect, saying things and doing things perfectly, but she doesn't understand how to connect these things she's pointing at and about are not about me, but her insecurities in her own thinking and believing. Your video, just spoke simply to me, exactly what my husband and I are trying to facilitate with our teens, our family. I know children pick up things from those who are around them or got used too, and I know she doesn't know what she is meaning at this time. also she's transitioning from tween to teen, so everything is really overwhelming, but this video really clarified exactly what we are working on with ourselves and each other as whole family. Thank you for putting it in with such graceful empowering perspective, really integrated the truths and all the connections.. I will be watching this video with my family, later this evening at our daily family discussions, my kid's are very wise and catch on to much of this adult stuff... fyi my son Dominick 13, Scott 14, and I like watching your video's together, it makes so much sense, and its great way for all of us to communicate better with each other, and ourselves... Thank you so much!

This video just literally changed my life. Thank you!

This video is such a relief. Thank you so much ❤

Thank you I have a hard time casting about what people think and needed this

Thank you Ma'am! You opened my eyes ❤️

Thankyou

Love your words. Thank you so much. ❤️

Thank you 🙏

Thank you so much for this! I was just talking to my counselor about being hurt by another’s judgment and this helped clarify what we discussed 😊

This is one of the most important videos I’ve ever watched. I’m feeling this insecurity right now after writing an email to someone. I’m debating and working on the reasons why I’m feeling so insecure... and trying to not feel I have to be perfect. All you said is so true. Thank you so much! I love your work!

Thank you so much! This was eye-opening and spot on.

Thank you this completely changed the way I see judgement

This is amazing. More videos on fear of being judged please!!!

Thank you from Scotland.

Thx Julia ❤️

Wow i am glad i listened to this video it has really brought somethings that i was struggling with into perspective i dont have to go through that vicious cycle anymore concerning what people think about me. I feel empowered.

Wow your videos make me feel so understood, and that's honestly half the battle

I needed this right now. I thought that i didn't care about other peoples judgement, only the influence that their judgement may cause a negative impact in my life/job. I need to work on myself. Thank you

Thank you for great advices. That was very helpful.

Realize I'm a little late to this video thread, just came across it, but OMG you are spot on with your definition about judgement! Thank you for the clarity!

You just said what my mind couldn't make a sentence

So happy I found your channel. Thank you for such wonderful advice. ❤

this was LIFE CHANGING for me and ive struggled with my entire life. this video brought me a breakthrough!

Another great lesson Julia! I've had this explained to me in the past and couldn't wrap my around it but, now I can! This will help me in so many aspects of my life moving forward. My biggest takeaway is that judgment is about healing myself or, taking responsibility for myself rather than, worrying about what other people are thinking about me. How freeing is that?! Gives me the power to work through my 'stuff' and not get 'stuck' in worrying about what others are judging me on! So powerful, Thank you! 👍

Thank you

Great video! This is one of my biggest struggles. It feels so terrible worrying about what other people think about me. It causes me more stress than I need to feel. Recognizing that judgments has nothing to do with us, but more about themselves stood out to me. The saying of "if you treat someone a certain way it says more about them than it says about us" rings true. This is something that I want to work on, knowing that I only have one life to live and I don't want anxiety to get in the way of life.

thanks for your help ❤️

I never thought of it like this. Makes so much sense. Wow

Oh my god. This video has literally just saved me from many more years of feeling like I can never, ever make real connections with anyone and hide forever when the fear of being judged comes from what I struggle with. That point was spot on for me.

Best video I've watched this year

I needed this today 😭 Thank you

this is really helping, thank you so much!!!!

Thank you so much, still working on it but love the tools you provide

That's why I stay in the house most of the time .

Omg so true....thank you I needed this 🙌🙌😘😘

this hits home.

wonderful video. I really needed this. I give so much power to others. I fear being disliked and rejected.

I like that, " it's not about being a better person...... it's about growing"! This video rings true to me and my self judgement. I worked through a lot of insecurities over the years but know I have more work to do. Thank you Julia for your impactful videos. I am truly blessed to have found you!

I love the insight into judgment. As a nurse I tell people that also but Julia helped me understand what my intuition knew. Judging others is similar to sliming another with wounds we've slimed ourselves with. It's Misery craving company. Once we build up our bodies, minds & spirits is when we can encourage others to be more mindful and attract to those who do not judge & slime.

Hello and Thank You!

This is my life story in a single video 😂😭 I'll download that journal right away! Thanks for the insight and compassion in this video :) it honestly really helped.

Amazing thank you 😊

Hello Julia Kristina! This is Itika from India. I graduated in B.A English(honours) and have always not just loved but also grew surrounded by philosophy, psychology and literature during my three years of bachelors. I am back at your channel now after I guess a year and half, and I am so-so-truly-truly glad that I am back here irrespective of the fact I am not dealing with any wellbeing issues right now. I love watching your videos irrespective of being mentally really well and having a self regulating life after these 1.5 years. I believe that I learn from your videos not just for my own well being, but also for the people I love. I am so glad I came back to your channel

I understand exactly what you are saying-completely, but some times it's very difficult because the criticisms that I face are not just "imagined" or "exaggerated", but my family scapegoated me so much and overtly blamed me for everything. I had a cousin tell my Mother to disinherit me because I didn't come home very much and stuff like that. It's difficult when the criticism is very real, overt, mean and aggressive so it's really not so easy to perhaps think their criticisms are not nearly as bad as I imagine. But yes, the point I think you are making is that if your sense of self is strong enough, you can deal with it. I do also believe that insecure people try to feel better about themselves by viciously even attacking others.

I so needed to hear this KJulia, I'm recovering from a TBI as a direct result of my addictions. This injury Definitely brought me to a new bottom, but ironically, what people would call a "setback" was in reality, a springboard into new growth, and I still got a long way to go. Im on your waitlist :]

Makes a lot of sense. Thank you for the video.

Sadly, I just turned 39 and still care what others think. I’m working on it now! Thank you and good luck to everyone!

Thank you Madam

Thank you Julia, jeez this is brilliant, simple, and complex all at once. I’m gonna check out your download🙏🏼🤗💕Thank you!!

Thanks

I don’t know how this popped up on my feed but I really needed it right this moment.