The media tends to help along these narratives by calling girls "women" child victims in general as "young people" and r*pe/SA as "intercourse" or "s*x". Media is complicit. Once you start paying attention to the language that so called journalists use in their articles (see also: reporting on police brutality) you lose a lot of faith.
this pisses me off man..I've been that 10 year old..this dude is sick..I remember when this came out I couldn't believe it..I used to watch 7th heaven all the time
When a perpetrator, reflecting on his behaviour, refers to his ten year old victim as a "young woman", you know he's still dangerous. That he can equate a ten year old child with being a woman proves this beyond any doubt.
Ewwwww. I saw a pedo on Steve Wilkos's show who was dating a woman with a young son, & THANKFULLY the child immediately told his mom what happened. On the show, the pedo kept saying "this guy" & "this man", REFERRING TO A TODDLER!! They find ways to convince themselves it's normal.
He , in his predatory mind thinks this is going to takes the focus off of the fact that the victim was a child when the abuse took place !! Not a "Young Woman" as he is eluding too!! He is a very dangerous person, and needs to be out of Society, PERIOD !!
Maybe it’s a southern thing, but it’s normal for adults to call children “young lady” or “young man” around here. I hear it all the time, so when dreading brought it up as a way to distance himself from what he did, that was the only part of the video I really disagreed with.
Him talking about him and this 10 year old saying “we both just sat there & didn’t move a muscle” is acting like him and this 10 year old were both equally as confused and caught off guard
also provides a convenient way for him to suggest she didn’t make an effort to resist (not that a child should need to) without sounding directly accusatory
Yesss..It sounded like he was talking about something happened between the two of them, rather than he did something to a child that was totally confused!
An "adult survivor of child abuse" is a bold statement...but you don't have to stay one. Living well is the best revenge, not to mention healthy. Maybe not all at once...but slow and steady wins the race.
@@allanbard6048 truth. My serenity and happiness is my best revenge and I’ve done all the other types. No more baggage to lug around. It is a life of freedom.
Just because someone is abused, doesn't mean that they haven't had many good examples of how to behave towards others. On top of that, unless you're a psychopath, most people know what feels right or wrong. The old assumption that abused children grow up to abuse others, is total crap. I would probably unalive an asshole that I caught doing things to hurt kids....
In Puerto Rico, we don't have a statute of limitations in regard to s3xual abuse. The survivor can be 5 years old at the time of the abuse, and she discloses that when 40 years old, the perpetrator will face trial. Is a crime that should not expire.
Puerto Rico sounds like they have their act together. Well done! So what do they do about women who sexually abuse children? 0r women who lie about it to bury a man unjustly? Anything?
Another thing that should be pointed out: When talking about his first victim, Collins says he placed her hand on him in such a way that "SHE was touching ME inappropriately", instead of "I made her touch me inappropriately." It's like he's partially shifting the responsibility for what happened onto the child.
I think if he could get away with it, he'd continue to try and convince the world (like he did his now EX wife) that he did nothing wrong, and that the victim is the one to blame in this sick scenario!
While I do agree, I seriously question WHY she didn't release the Kraken on him sooner. She had that recording & full knowledge of his sickening conduct for YEARS before the info made its way to TMZ.
I wonder what caused her to do this. Did she see him do something or heard him talking about it? How did she know? What caused her to suspect him of committing such acts with children? What kind of marriage did they have? When did she know he was a molester of children?
The part where he referred to the victims as "women" made me so uncomfortable. Sir, they were not women when you victimized them, they were children. I repeat, THEY WERE CHILDREN!
I’m not saying that they weren’t children - I just thought to myself maybe he was referring to them in the present tense as “young women•” I hate pedos and I could be wrong but that was my thoughts.
To anyone reading this: BE RUDE AND FREAK OUT. If someone is doing something like this to you, BE RUDE AND FREAK OUT. Wish I had been taught this as a girl instead of "be quiet, be good"
So true. As girls we are taught to be mannerly, not to hurt anyones feelings or tattle on anyone. I tried to teach my girls to be unafraid to say the truth, even when it was awkward. Also I was taught no grown ups were wrong and to be submissive to all of them. This was a terrible lesson.
@@FirstDayson 🙄 she never said it was. She also never generalized men, but any man that wants to spend alone time with a child is clearly no good and that’s what we’re talking about here.
I was taught to "Be seen and not heard." Although not physically or sexually abused, I started to realize at 55, that I had been raised by a narcissistic mother... so emotional and mental abuse. I now know how to stand up for myself in these types of situations. I will never stand for abuse of any kind... involving anyone.. not only myself.
@@fabianhammer2864 Damn Matt. Also he was too hot. And yes I did think Stephen Collins was very attractive. I look at those photos of him when he was 25 and 35 and wonder why? I don't undertand....many mature women and men would appreciate a good looking man taking sexual interest in them. I don't understand......like was he interested in children, was he just an opportunistic deviant? I don't understand....someone who looks like him could get consent from a lot of people. Does he like their confusion and fear?
The fact that he admitted all of that and is not in jail right now is wild Edit: y’all I know what the statute of limitations is, my point being something like this should have zero statute of limitations, like murder
His continued, unbelievably bad attempts to distance himself from his crimes actually enrages me. Sexual abuse doesn’t “happen.” Rain happens. Sexual abuse is perpetrated by an abuser with intent.
The balls on his ex wife though!! She's pissed and so sad, you can tell she feels absolutely betrayed, you can totally hear it in her voice. Glad she recorded everything and helped some victims, the fact that he got pretty much a slap on the wrist is so gross.
In the taped counseling session when his wife confronts him about exposing himself to a 10 year old, he seems to think it makes him sound less disgusting by saying she was 11, then 12, then 13. It’s as if it he’s describing an affair he had with another woman, rather than molesting an innocent little girl. Truly monstrous.
I started laughing at that point, she was 10, no wait 11 ... I was waiting for Faye to jump in there and say something sarcastic, like ohhhh 11? That makes it so much better.
*HOW IN THE HELL was that interview treated more like he was hiding an alcohol problem and less like, i dunno, HIM BEING A SERIAL CHILD ABUSER???* I'm serious. The TONE of this interview is absolutely BONKERS considering what he's done 😳
*ALSO* look at the fucking frown on his face 49:33 This is him playing the VICTIM because his wife "threatened" to expose his recorded admission of child abuse. How is he sitting and pouting for sympathy???
@@theasorlins6027 Obviously. I'm just more astonished at the ability to be able to stay that way, you know? As much as I can't stand Megan Kelly, it reminded me of her interviewing the Duggar family and actually challenging them when they tried to say it wasn't that big of a deal. Gayle King was also pretty no-nonsense with R Kelly lol. She was ready to jump him. Composure makes a great journalist and they all flourish.
When he said we sat there and none of us moved a muscle like he would describe an awkward moment between two teenagers is just sickening. She was scared to death! That’s why she didn’t move. And traumatized ever since.
Yeah, that stood out to me too. What a way to phrase that. It really felt like he was removing responsibility from himself in the way he said that. It was so weird, but so well constructed, which is terrifying that he can be so manipulative in that way.
I cannot separate the actor from his personal life. Hollywood is so full of people like Collins, I don't go to the movies or watch TV. They've lost all entertaining quality. There are the obvious lies, like mainstream news, but then there are the lies of what these 'actors' are capable in their everyday lives. I cannot support either in any manner.
"He was complicit in the cycle of abuse." Of all the youtubers who have covered abuse of children this is the only time I've felt like someone truly understands the issue. As a survivor of this abuse I wanted to thank you for describing things accurately.
Thank you for sharing this, and I am sorry for your experience. As someone who was assaulted as an adult, I can't imagine how this affected you as a child. God Bless.
as a fellow survivor, I couldn't agree more. My abuser was described as "having a hard, complicated life" to me when I tried to tell twisted adults repeatedly, throughout my experiences, that I was being abused. The answers were that I was imagining it, and when that could no longer be plausibly used as an excuse, it was downplayed and explained away as the actions of a troubled soul. Like dude, I couldn't give less of a fuck if you're a troubled soul, if you're a grown ass man abusing a child, that sounds like a big ol' YOU problem. Your pain is not my burden to bear, I am not an outlet for you to offload your trauma. Cut that shit out.
Emma Kenny is another good one who "gets it". More people need to realize this... We can feel sympathy and anger for the abused child, but when THEY become the abuser, that sympathy quickly goes out the window.
I was an adult when a total stranger followed me into my apartment building and exposed himself to me. I had a police whistle on my keychain and was right outside my door, but I froze, couldn't get the lock open. I tried to call for help, but couldn't breathe for what seemed like forever. When I got my breath back I yelled "Fire!" and he took off. I went to the police and reported him, but never felt safe again in that building, even though it was a "good neighborhood". My point is, this is how I reacted, as an adult. I can't imagine what these young girls went through.
R.Kelly, 14-16 year olds aren't young women either bro. Even 18 year olds aren't women mentally really, they may have reached pre-young adulthood but it's weird how people think 18 year olds are pretty much adults and all is cool.
Exactly. He is going out of his way to use a passive voice when describing his actions. He calls the 10 year old child a "young woman"; he says he moved her hand so that *she* was touching *him*, rather than just saying *he* placed *her* hand in an inappropriate location; and he says a "terrible thing had occurred" rather than saying that *he* did a terrible thing.
@@HeyLeFay I noticed that too and mentioned in my comment above. His choice of words is so twisted and contorted. You would think he was the victim. He is such a lowlife, scum sociopath.
This interview was more like a police interrogation whereby the interviewer lets their subject keep talking and doesn't interrupt them while they're incriminating themselves. The person who interviewed Prince Andrew did the same.
He’s been talking to paparazzi (who he no doubt hired himself because nobody cares to follow this guy around) that he wants to return to acting as soon as possible
He's not in denial, this is a conscious choice (likely made by both him and his team of publicists) to try and get ahead of the allegations and frame them in as favourable a light as possible. Don't give people like this the benefit of the doubt in any capacity. They are calculating monsters and are hoping people like you see it as denial and not as a determined choice.
I'm not sure how I missed all this but I had no idea he admitted to these crimes. I am shocked he was able to stay out of jail and how he's talking about this so casually and honestly. I am glad he's being honest but it's like sitting there talking about killing someone.. its completly disgusting and morally bankrupt yet you're just sitting here calmly talking about sexually abusing CHILDREN .... what the actual fu**?
it might have been a condition of the interview. we have no idea what the backroom lobbying that was done by his lawyers or people and the stations staff in order to get the interview. it's disgusting it's horrible how soft they were, but my guess is that his lawyers had to review the questions first before they were asked the same with a lot of other interviews of the type. a lot of these fallen celebrity interviews are like this. I do not blame the interviewer or the station, the fault is with the money and connections he had still and the lawyers that had the say, just a guess that is.
“I moved her hand in such a way that she was touching me inappropriately.” Just awful. The construction of that sentence has “she was touching me inappropriately” as primary action, tacitly putting the onus on a 10 year old girl. Media coach going the hell right with him for helping him minimize this.
Faye, the real MVP. Accountability is so freaking important, even (especially) when they’re people we care about. I respect this woman and the victims so damn much for speaking up.
Statute of limitations REALLY needs to be eliminated in any charge of sexual predation. At least when a child is involved. This is disgusting what he got away with. I was exposed to as a child when I was walking by myself to my bus stop. I was also tricked by a grown man, a well known dj at the skating rink, who took my hand and put it on his genitalia. These were both traumatic and terrifying.
I can't believe I never heard of this. That he tries to minimize his culpability by referring to a 10 year old child as a young woman tells you all you need to know about him.
I’m surprised that he was willing to confess this on National TV. Clearly, he isn’t taking responsibility entirely for what he did, by virtue of the way he speaks of a 10 year old, but the simple fact that he went as far as he did in confessing is extremely rare. I guess what I’m saying is, even for a pedophile, he has more integrity than the others who have done the same, and worse, who deny it and never take responsibility at all. That goes a long way for the victims’ peace of mind, and it’s the only thing the predator can do once the abuse has been done.
Exactly and the fact that he says "I moved her hand in such a way that SHE was touching ME.." NO! You forced yourself into her hand. He's trying to shift blame and distance himself from what actually happened. Absolutely vile and abhorrent!
@@krystalsutherland8392exactly. It’s like saying I grabbed someone’s hand and positioned it in a way where they had stuck their hand in the boiling water. No. You grabbed their hand and put it into a pot of boiling water. They didn’t do it.
I don’t think that’s the case. it’s easy to rip on my for what he has done, but if he is being genuine (even slightly), people who have done horrible things and live with that constant regret are haunted by their past. it wouldn’t be surprising that he does remember every detail. it’s not easy to forget, nor will it be forgotten.
As someone who was molested as a child, it infuriates me to hear the way he describes the encounters. He constantly minimizes his actions that will forever stay with those women.
Yes, you can totally tell he doesn’t feel real remorse or take responsibility for his disgusting actions. I am very much a non-violent person, but I really wanted to hit him in the face. Hard. Repeatedly. And then go take a shower. 🤢
The whole issue with women/people letting bad behaviour slide because we're afraid to be "rude" is such a huge, and underestimated, reason why so much abuse happens or continues.The amount of stuff I have excused or put up with because I was afraid of "offending" someone is awful, and I know I'm not the only one.. Edit: When I say this, I don't mean it's the victim's fault. I mean that we should be raising our children with self-confidence and autonomy, so they feel like they're able to speak up. Forcing kids to hug people when they don't want to is a huge no-go (in my opinion). Our children deserve to feel confident and secure enough to speak up, and it's the parents' job to help foster that confidence. It's NEVER the victim's fault when they're abused. That is not what I'm saying; just that our children deserve to be raised to be confident and self-assured. Edit: I also think it's ridiculous that there's a statute of limitations on SA crimes, especially child SA. So many people don't ever see justice because they didn't find their voice until it was too late.
nope, when it came to adult men in my family exposing themselves to me I told right then and there !!!!! I was labeled a "snitch" and didn't care I've let other things slide but not that
@@sanaaniz That’s awesome (that you could speak up)! I’m so sorry that happened to you though :( But more kids need to be taught to speak up, and not worried about offending people who do bad things.
Yeah, the very nature and psychological factors of the crime and the fact that the victims aren’t fully mentally developed/not capable of recognizing that they’ve been victimized or the impact it’s had, until long after the fact.. Pretty disturbing, I kinda thought statute of limitations was more like, oh I robbed a gas station decades ago when I was a younger person. Ok well thanks for closing the case, glad you grew into a better person, have a nice life.. Not like, I was a monster predator targeting innocent children, but I’m better now.. That’s insanity
@@booognish Yeah, it’s absurd that there’s a statute on those types of crimes. I know some areas have a clause in the statute where the clock doesn’t start ticking until the victim becomes aware of the abuse. For example; if a 5 year old is absurd, but they don’t realise that’s what it was until 14 or something, then that’s when the statute time starts. If that makes sense?
The term baby isn't accurate either though if we're criticizing the way things are worded (I'm not defending anyone btw I'm just pointing out a minor inconsistency) the wording 🤦♂️ I was gonna put a small inconsistency and yes I'm already criticizing my own wording 😂
If we're going by brain development, a 10 y/o is closer to a baby than they would be to a fully-developed adult, age 24. So. I work with 14-15 year olds and even they feel so young still that I would easily call them babies 😂
@@madeniquevanwyk We're not going by brain development though, we're going by correct terminology. We're going by words appropriate to use in their correct context. We're not comparing "Oh, 10 is closer to a baby than 24" or anything like that
The topic was age and age appropriate terminology, although I understand what y'all are saying about "brain development" but the root topic was as I said it (I know it's all related but if you read chronologically you'll see what I mean)
He's already lost so much respect, the public no longer view him as this wholesome actor/man. No matter where he goes this will never leave him. Rightfully so too.
Right… but I will say I did NOT know (although I’m old enough to technically) and 3/4 of the way through, I am shooketh. I even called my mom and sent her this video because she didn’t either 😐
CRAZY how when he talks about the 10 year old child he abused he calls her "young woman", but THEN has the AUDACITY to proceed to call himself "10 to 15 year old BOY" when talking about HIS abuse 57:50 Honestly I'm livid that the interviewer didn't even FLINCH when he said "young woman". She held back so many things, maybe because she was paid off? I don't know. At least he will have to live a secluded life away from the spotlight he so very much loves. THANK YOU dreading for bringing this back to light, I never heard of this whole ordeal. Lots of support from Argentina!
these big publicized interviews have certain terms the interviewer has to agree to to get the interviewee on the show. They don’t regularly get vicious so that they can persuade more people to be interviewed. There are points i feel she could have leaned into or gone more into depth with, but i think overall she did the best she could in her situation. She called him out at points and asked him leading questions to try to get him to reveal truths about himself.
I mean if the network edited the interview to idk maybe minimize the situation the reporter was maybe told what to ask and what not to ask? Idk just absolutely disgusting in any case
What a stupid thing to say the interviewer was being paid off! She’s a professional TV reporter doing the job of an interviewer: getting Collins to reveal all You don’t get that unless you show no emotion. Perhaps you are used to watching reality TV where all the people are low life’s exposing every emotion and body part. Get a grip.
Paid off? This isn’t Argentina. It’s called being professional. It’s not their job to do that. When challenged, there’s a chance he’d shut down. At that point the reporter could probably forget about the interview. He’d (Collins) probably be done talking. And it isn’t _that_ crazy that someone-who was a victim themself, would do that. He probably didn’t even do it on purpose.
I was 11 years old when a family member attempted to have sex with me. Another family member saved me, but it still traumatized me emotionally throughout my life. Everything you said here, hit hard. All my life was wasted on being angry and dysfunctional and never really connected the dots. Thank you for bringing this insight to all whom had been and those who are being sexually abused. I'm 71 years old and still affected by that one sexaul encountered incident because that family member was my father.😔
I send you a supportive hug and I strongly suggest you read or listen to The Courage to Heal. An amazing book about sexual abuse and how to take your life back. It’s never too late. 💖💖💖
Lifting you in prayer. And I can tell you this, I haven’t had a close woman friend in my entire life, and I’m 70 years old, who hasn’t had an unwanted encounter of this nature forced upon her at some point in her life. Most women have had numerous unwanted encounters. It’s pervasive in the world. You are NOT ALONE.
All he does is minimize his culpability and even his presence in these actions, he’s fucking disgusting, I never knew how bad this was. And thank you for calling bullshit on his trying to say his wife was blackmailing him. Pedophiles will only ever admit to what they have been caught doing. There are more victims out there I think.
Yes! The psychology is horrifying, but it´s something we all have to be keenly aware of. There´s a NAMBLA documentary that if you can stomach it is worth checking out to see the absolute twisted nature of predators.
Always look for passive voice. When someone says “the incident happened” or “I moved [her hand] in such a way that she was touching me inappropriately” - he’s using language to remove himself from agency and in fact pushes “agency” onto the girl.
@@weirdloverwilde ya, also, i hate it when people half ass apologize sayıng something like "im sorry for what happened '' no, it's " im sorry For What I Did "
This is why it is vital to talk to your children in a respectful but clear manner and inform them of Sa and what it is. They should be encouraged to talk about incidents. Parents must also be alert to any changes in behaviour of their kids especially when they've been babysat.
I hate the phrase "my truth". It seems like everyone that uses it only uses it when they know they're in the wrong 😭 also Faye was so brave to try and get justice for the victims I'm sure it was earth shattering to realize what a monster she had been married to for decades
I'm surprised you didn't call him out for referring to himself as a "12-15 year old *young boy* " while that same age range was "young women" in his cases.
I'll be honest, his story is probably bullshit. To quote from the movie Scarface, "the eyes Chico, they never lie." This short eye bastard is looking away when he talks about the story with the "mystery woman."
This is a big reason that I believe we should be teaching our kids to speak up and not worry about appearing rude or hurting an adults feelings if they are being put into a situation that makes them feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
We can't even tell kids about trans or slavery or sex Ed) contraceptives. How we gonna address sexual predation without Ronni Dooshsantis and his band of merry neocin fascists having a climate change-y denial of reality? It's time to get gritty real with kids so they're READY for this sick, twisted world.
Yes! I always taught my kids to show adults respect who had shown THEM respect. Adults are not automatically deserving of respect and standing up for yourself to an adult is perfectly fine.
I think it’s also important to respect a kid not wanting to hug or kiss family either. If you don’t feel comfortable, you shouldn’t have to be conditioned to “do it anyways”
It is very important the work you are doing through this channel, since there are a lot of abusers that they continue working as if nothing is wrong and the employers cover the abuser. Thank you because you are creating awareness and understand the problem
Whats so sad is that women/ young girls don't even realise what happened to them was consider sexual abuse until years later when they start facing their trauma. We were so conditioned to be polite and not judge even such a sinister situation
I was just gonna say that! It's so sad that one of the girls was so worried about coming off rude if she said anything to him. Like, is exposing yourself to a kid in this way NOT rude (also disgusting, predatory, despicable, you name it)?! HE was completely in the wrong but at that point the poor girl had likely been socialized to think that it was her burden to treat him politely despite him abusing her. It makes my skin crawl.
@@NightMystique13same here. To report, you have to put yourself in a vulnerable situation AGAIN only to most likely be failed by law enforcement regardless. I'm sorry you didn't get justice. It's not fair at all.
@@NightMystique13its not the same when the victim is a CHILD and when the victim is a 20-30 year old woman. Obviously, with how many false accusations have come out, its necessary to take caution when the supposed crime took place decades in the past.
Also I seems to become more to light that those of us who grew up as children in 1950s to the early/mid 80s were still to be seen not heard. Almost everyone I know who had been sexually abused before the mid 90s basically were told not to talk about it and the shame was all on us for being children who had no voice. When exactly did children finally get even the benefit of the doubt and no longer shamed?
Wow, I was right on time. So glad I subscribed to your channel. The fact that he was not ostracized as much as others who did the exact same thing or worse is ridiculous. His show was still running for a while even afterwards , I find it absurd.
It’s so disgusting how he’s discussing his actions like both he and these children were in on it. They were not. They weren’t just as shocked as you, they were terrified and confused. I also hate how the interview is being handled like he’s being given a chance to clear the air instead of being beyond canceled.
@@hollystiener16he’s a shitty person and on the same level of the rest of them regardless of therapy or not. plus he’s famous so he’s in the limelight of course he’s gonna make it seem like he’s actively getting help
@@hollystiener16that probably would never have happened if they had not assaulted someone first. don’t give him any credit. he’s doing less than the bare minimum.
@@hollystiener16 This is the worst interview ever. Hes a 100% manipulator, every single word that comes out of his mouth is manipulated to make him sound like hes doing good and it was all just a bit confusing. Go and watch a Gary Glitter interview when he was caught, the same excuses, the same rhetoric, the same pause when asked about p*dos. Hes 100% guilty of what hes done. But only takes 2% of the blame and makes everything sound like its hardly anything
Thank you, for not talking over clips or interrupting them. It's wonderful to be able to sit down and let something play in the background without a sentence being cut in three places just to get in a tidbit sentence.
Rule of thumb: Never ever say “I know I have a good heart” when you’re apologizing for literally anything, much less sexual assault which categorically makes you incapable of having a good heart.
No one has a good heart. Some may have more self control than others in different areas, but everyone is fallen with an imperfect heart. . . Call out all sexual abuse and judge people accordingly on each case. But let us never say we have good hearts just because we have never committed sexual abuse. It is spiritually dangerous to think ourselves good just because we haven’t murdered, r4ped, or stolen anything. All have committed sin and need the loving grace of Jesus to cleanse us and make us a new creation. Only He can do that. 🙏✝️ “The heart is more deceitful than all else And is desperately sick; Who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9
@@christoffesedao3579 I agree with your comment, but if you're going to quote God's Word, do so appropriately/accurately or else you're just being blasphemous. Jeremiah 17:9 reads, "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately WICKED: who can know it?" You've quoted the soft, inaccurate version that completely ERASES whole verses from God's Word. I pray you take this civil criticism with grace and use your wisdom to study into this. :) Have a blessed day.
@@TheBibliophagist you are quoting “The New King James Version”. It seems like the Bible is all about translation and interpretation. I just don’t understand how someone could believe in something that is passed on like a game of telephone. All the perpetual succession of men telling a story to get what they want and control the growing masses. I really mean no offense, but I don’t believe in the Bible.
@@christoffesedao3579 You're implying that we all have the same urges and most just have better self control? I honestly have never had the urges described here to need to control myself whatsoever. Murder is not the same. There can be justifiable killings. There are not justifiable SAs
God, the audio of their couples counseling is just so heartbreaking. I can’t imagine having to ask my husband those kinds of questions…just the sorrow and disgust in her voice…awful.
I hated myself in my teenage years because I had a dad and an uncle that when I cried to my mother for the blood running down my leg at age 4 got smaked down for being a liar. Your channel adds light to these situations that occur all too often. I still suffer PTSD from it. Keep up the enlightening to everyone. We're all thankful for folks like you buddy!!@
I got hit in the head with a pipe by someone. My parents found out and got angry at me and kicked me onto the streets homeless, the same week I was assaulted. I’m so sorry 🙏
i’m 25 years old, and while i still hold interests others might consider childish, i’m a young woman. a ten-year old is a CHILD. how on earth anyone can refer to an actual child as a “young woman” is absolutely disgusting and entirely beyond me.
He lives comfortably while his victims probably have to pay for what he’s done for the rest of their lives. He lives a comfortable life with a woman young enough to be his daughter in relative peace and acceptance because people enable people with bad behavior for whatever reason. But victims have to go on and keep paying for it through therapy through battling the medical system to get the treatments that they need for the ongoing problems. Unreal. He is a despicable human being
Along with obviously feeling awful for the victims, i feel so bad for his wife. In that recorded therapy session you can just hear her voice break as her entire world shatters knowing that she loved a man who was a monster behind her back
She knew about it even before the were married so no need to feel sorry for her. Only reason that therapy session happens is because the wife wanted to have it on tape so she could press him for money. She did not do it because she had any kind of empathy for the victims what so ever. Only reason that tape was out in the public was because he said no to giving her everything and the wife wanted money. Its just a act that the wife sounds that her world was shattered of what she heard 🤦 She is no better then the monster who she did marry knowing what he have done 😤
One of the ultimate lies told by predators “yes I did what I did but I didn’t get sexual gratification and I’m not attracted to children”. It NEVER makes sense. People don’t just do things, especially major decisions with significant consequences, without some kind of reason. If it’s a power thing, then fine, that’s still very problematic. But it’s not something he did on a whim. He did it, and the did it repeatedly, because he enjoyed it.
Oh yeah, Had the same happen to me, I was 7-9, I told them when I was 20. No response, maybe even a smirk. i know how it feels, You almost forget about the abuse, but you can't forget your parents' reaction. I'm a guy though. I mostly crack jokes about it.
similar story here. God bless you and I hope your life now is full of peace and triumph over that subhuman piece of shit father you have. how both our mothers could believe a child so small could ever even have the necessary knowledge of what rape *is* to lie about it, I will never understand. at least survivors of this kind of abuse will always have each other to lean on.
A civilized society would insist on a live and unedited interview: the interview is a PR job. Good analysis - excellent channel. You always achieve the correct balance.
22:00 - I noticed that as soon as he said it. Also, "I moved her hand so that she was touching me inappropriately" - YOU GRABBING HER HAND WAS INAPPROPRIATE. YOU PUTTING IT ON YOUR GENITALIA WAS INAPPROPRIATE. SHE DID NOTHING INAPPROPRIATE. He clearly has no issue with what he has done. Vile and repugnant.
"with a 10 year old." "no, she was 11... and 12... and then 13." ARE YOU KIDDING DUDE. What a goblin creature, shout out to his ex for releasing that audio. I know it's easy to say "well she didn't report it immediately" but it really is better late than never. As someone who experienced this kind of abuse myself and was ignored by family when I tried to tell anyone for decades, I appreciate that she eventually realised she had to share it. I have family members who still downplay and explain away what happened to me, because they can't come to terms with the idea that a trusted family friend would do this. I can see how she would desperately want to believe him and explain things away initially, it's painful and terrifying to contemplate your loved one doing this. Good for her, I wish I had someone in my case coming to that realisation. Better late than never.
What you experienced is real. How you felt and feel about it is real. I wish I was one of your family members who could tell you I’m sorry for what you went through. Tell you that your feelings and those experiences are valid and that it all really did happen. I pray someday you receive that validation you need from at least one of your family members because I know how important it is to have your experiences and emotions validated and how devastating it is when they are not. Sending you much love! 🙏🏼❤️
It's also worth noting that this was before MeToo, and there is a LONG history of the media (and, by extension, the public) demonizing and discrediting victims and whistleblowers of SA. Not to mention that women/girls are taught from childhood to always put the feelings of men/boys first, to appease them, and to explain away their indiscretions. At the end of the day, Faye was NOT responsible for HIS behavior, and the kind of shock she must have experienced when she first learned about his misdeeds would have been earth-shattering. Faye was _also_ a victim of this man, just not in the way his other victims were, so the fact that people are going to find a way to blame _her_ for things shows how much farther we need to go in our understanding of abuse.
I just needed to say that I love your username. ❤ Condolences for the trauma you had to endure, but I have a good feeling you came out stronger and wiser.
This guy has killed his career. It’s one thing to tell someone about something so despicable you did in your past life, but it is another to put it in a book and to tell your significant other. Stephen Collins is a creep. And he is not the only one.
He is so creepy. He is in denial (publicly, because he won’t take responsibilityity for the horrible things he has done), but in truth, he is completely aware of what a monster he is. That is why he is repeatedly lying. What an evil man. I had never heard about Collins’ case. Thank you for bringing it forward. I am shocked that this has not been widely published for what it is, without giving him an inch for the pity game he is trying to play on the audience. Appalling.
He has taken responsibility for his actions, even citing that what happened to him is no excuse. I have seen many other pedos do this. However he is indeed sick and disturbed.
@@JustVernI think its all internalized by him, I doubt he was intentionally portraying himself this way for the interview, its what he actually believes
He’s such a narcissist. When referring to his own abuse, he wants sympathy and refers to himself as a “10-15 year old CHILD”… yet at the end when he’s apologizing, he refers to these girls as women. Not even “young women”. It’s nauseating.
Victims. Way more than one. Probably hundreds. He did much more than he's admitted to. IMHO. Disgusting sicko! His truth? Not a real thing. The truth! I really hate him.
You shou!d do research before speaking... And I don't mean on just him.. These types of people don't do these things just once... Unless you know better than people who've spent years studying the human mind with your 5 min videos on youtbe.
Scandal - an action or event regarded as morally or legally wrong and causing general public outrage. The problem is they've always misused the word irresponsibly that we've come desensitized to it.
You’re not understanding the word scandal. Stealing from your workplace is a scandal. Plotting to fake cancer is a scandal. A scandal is not a “relationship”
Go Faye. Even in the midst of her whole world/marriage falling apart, she had the wherewithal to do what she could to bring him down and bring justice for the victims.
The "poor impulse control" admission actually holds up here. Instead, it's his purposeful omission of "deviant xesual perversions/paraphilia" which runs parallel to AND simultaneous to those impulse control issues, which is where Collins reveals his deceitful and disingenuous nature in this interview. In my opinion, anyway!
Around the 25 min mark: “he said, it happened again.” He as well as Katie Curic say this line. He is very aware of our sub conscious use of that line. It conveys as if he couldn’t help it, it just “happened” as if he had no control of his life, or decisions. As if he’s talking about a hurricane hitting or an epileptic seizure, “happening.” No, this doesn’t “happen again.” He did it. Own it. Take responsibility or else he will do it again! Disgusting!
It seems to be a hallmark of unreformed criminals. I've watched plenty of interviews with people who were serving a prison sentence, many of them murderers. They all used veiled language when they spoke about why they were in prison. "That night, a man died". What the woman actually did: She took part in a breaking and entering robbery and when things escalated, she shot a man dead. "I'm in because of the murder of my wife." What the man actually did: He strangled his wife to death. -- I think as long as you cannot bring yourself to say: "I killed", "I raped", "I molested" if you did those things instead of talking about things happening, you are not reformed yet.
Most of that interview was just him making excuses for himself, disgusting. And felt really manipulative, like the way he was talking about how he was abused even if it was irrelevant considering what he did to those girls, then calling the 10 year old a young woman and that she touched him inappropriately even if he put her hand on himself.
He says he isnt attracted to the young girls at all. Then the only other thing he could be attracted to is the power he has over them in those moments. Which isn't any better. So disgusting.
No. Why are all the victims adoescent-girls aged 10 to 14, if he isn't a Heterosexual-Hebephile. None were adult women. Not one is a male of any age group. Why? He preferred girls to women, completely and females ONLY. If he wanted power only then there would have been all grown women, as his wives are.
I'm glad someone is talking about this. My sister and I loved 7th Heaven when we were younger. I couldn't believe it when I first heard it, so sick. It sickens me, even more, knowing he wasn't really punished for it like so many others who commit the same horrible acts have been. Thanks for covering this. Love the channel and Video :)
It is really sick, especially when he was that trusted father in 7th Heaven we all felt we could trust in real life. Even in our acting industry (SAG-AFTRA) we learn that sometimes meeting our heroes can sometimes be a let down, thankfully I never worked with him on set and would outright refuse it, too. Last I heard he was blacklisted, but he is in the L.A. region which things are much different than ours in the Northeast region. They tend to turn the cheek over there, and although our Union rules are the same across the nation some directors turn their head and allow monsters like him to work when the roles should go to another actor/actress who holds the high standards are we all do, and not to these monsters... He should be spending his life in prison for what he did to these children and it made me cringe when he called the ten year old girl a "young woman"...makes me want to vomit.
@@scypsylock9402 To me it is almost like if you are rich or/and famous, especially living in L.A., you can get away with nearly anything, even molesting children. They have the money and the influence on others to simply get away with the crime even when they admit to doing it. Like Stephen, he f*ing admitted to it and nothing was done. Yes, he was blacklisted but where is the legal punishment?? Where is the justice for his victims? Toss his a*s in prison, that is what should have happened. Those who turned their heads and ignored it should be right along with him, for allowing it to occur and not saying or doing anything to prevent it. Hearing him call the 10-year-old a "young woman" is sickening, infuriating and I too must admit made me want to vomit. He can be in therapy for the rest of his life, but in my opinion, you can't cure predators. They will always have the want to abuse another victim, but hopefully, learn to control their impulses but so many end up abusing again. It would not surprise me if he has done it again after he claims he stopped or if there are actually even more victims that we simply don't know about. I really hope he hasn't and never will again, however, as I said, I believe he will always have those urges to abuse, so it probably will or already has happened again.
These are just the cases that are known. He admits to them because he has no choice. I find it hard to believe that these incidents are all. He's a predator, so the cases of SA he admits to may only be the tip of the ice berg. Also, you're great at always dreading. Can't wait for the next video. Keep it up!
Exactly, there's no way that between offences he had zero victims, I would bet he has upwards of 100 overall. The '70s and 80s were really different time
The way it all “broke” was pretty weird. Pretty sure his wife/ex-wife secretly recorded him or recorded their therapy sessions where he admitted it? So yeah, its basically just what she knew/what he was wiling to admit to while on the spot in a room with his estranged wife and essentially a stranger, I assume in a desperate attempt to save his marriage.. Definitely sketchy, I guess some of the victims have since come forward in some capacity, but it does seems like he’s been able to control the narrative in a PR/damage control/artificial acting type of way. Not that the victims owe anyone anything, but it almost feels like he’s taken advantage of his celebrity and his own ability and willingness to present his own very questionable narrative, from his own warped predator perspective.
Nearly 70% of child sex offenders have between 1 and 9 victims; at least 20% have 10 to 40 victims An average serial child molester may have as many as 400 victims in his lifetime.
One of the best changes in parenting I have noticed is that they have learned to stop forcing children to 'give Granpa a hug' and it's now about ASKING a child for a hug, and respecting when they don't feel like it, giving them bodily autonomy. It's an awesome cultural change that will help stop abuse. I don't have children but I worry about my nieces and nephews, probably too much because of my own creepy experiences..
Not giving grandpa a hug isn’t going to stop sexual abuse. Just make pawpaw sad that his grand babies have been brain washed to fear him. You’re disgusting.
I've stopped telling my kids to give hugs too. Forcing them to do this makes them think that it's ok to touch or be touched by someone they're not comfortable with.
I was FORCED to give my Aunty's 2nd husband hugs and kisses. It went on FOR YEARS from when I was maybe 6 til I was about 10. Every time there was an extended family gathering or even just going to my Aunty's house it was expected I would kiss this man. He was actually a really kind man but I remember he was even embarrassed. I would kiss his cheek then my mother and Aunty would laugh and say "kiss him on the lips". It was just an awful feeling. I felt humiliated and very uncomfortable. I swore when I had my own children I would NEVER force them to kiss or hug ANYONE. I am 53 now and still remember how it made me feel.
I'm really happy to hear that and how aware you are because of your own experiences. We moved to the US when I was 8 which is very long ago and the biggest shock to us was you had to kiss everyone one on both cheeks for us that was people we had never met before and we all hated it. In my country you just shook hands:) One thing I hope will change too which seems to be a normal thing to Americans is beating your kids and often with a belt. I have seen people write about it on Facebook how that is the only way to make them good people which is not true it teaches them to be violent and not trust their parents. In my country it's against the law to hit your child. We have never used belts but in the old days you could get a spanking with the hand but this has been against the law for a very long time. Seeing all the comments here from people having been molested by their dads and mothers not believing them just makes me so very sad because it's double betrayal. Best wishes to you!!
First, SA should NOT have a statute of limitations! Too many people don’t report until later because of fear, threats, or telling and not being believed! Second, props to Katie for not reaching across during the interview and strangling him! He is a monster and should be in prison!
It has a statue of limitations because after years go by it becomes basically impossible to find evidence or even given a guilty verdict. The possibility of even convicting someone after 5 years is less than 6% alone. If he had never admitted it at all there is no evidence to get him on anything. Just a letter from 1 person given by an ex wife to police. That doesn’t bode well for his ex in fact.
@@trojanhorse9459 true and it's also harder for defense to prove what they've been doing. Who the heck remembers what they did 10 years ago?. If you had an alibi witness they certainly aren't going to remember.
@@trojanhorse9459 While the evidence may not last, the victim should still be given the chance at justice. It makes no sense that, even if evidence is present and the assaulter is 100% known, the statute of limitations would allow them to be completely untouched. So unfair
@@lavenbug I agree with you. However if you wanted justice you need to come forward. I feel terrible for victims but as any prosecutor would tell you they need evidence.
I started watching this channel only a couple days ago. Your ability to give background for the people you're analyzing and the way you preface every video with a philosophical abstraction of the biggest issue at hand with whatever it is you're about to discuss are unparalleled among the space. Fine work, I love it.
My stepdad did the same to me and my sister. Because he never " forced " himself on us, we felt like we were not abused or in danger. It screws with your mind and sense of safety though which for me was the worst part! In all other areas he was an exceptionally awesome father. Years later he wrote to me asking my forgiveness which I freely gave. He died a month later.
I went through something similar with a family member. I also in the end chose to forgive them. It was an isolated incident and it never happened again and no one else was involved. The good they did in my life far outweighed this incident. I chose to confront it myself rather than the alternative.
I find it incredible that you were able to forgive him. I'm not sure I would be capable. I've held on to grudges for less than what you suffered. I hope he appreciated the forgiveness, and hope you are at peace.
I appreciate you calling him out for continually referring to that poor 10 year old as "a young woman"! That really upset me. She was a child nowhere near womanhood!
For sure. The "softeners" like that he uses reveals himself to be non-repentant about it all. He just wants to forget about it and move on with his life. I wonder how much he was paid for the Couric interview.
As you mentioned, there has been very little coverage of Stephen Collins. This was so thorough in describing this predator and also sensitive to the survivors of this disgusting abuse. His second' wife sounded so horrified in that tape. She probably worried about her own daughter. Thank you... new sub.
I hadn't even heard about it. I didn't watch that show, although I recognize him as an actor. I don't remember if I ever saw him in anything. I'm not a TMZ watcher, but I have watched talk shows like this in the past. This one just flew under the radar, I guess. Depending on when the interview was, I may not have been watching much TV at all.
I used to love 7th Heaven when i was younger. I had no idea about this creep. The fact that this serial child predator had a long running show with a bunch of kids/teens that was geared towards teens is horrifying. The way child predators always find ways to surround themselves with kids like this never ceases to amaze me. Disgusting. Terrifying.
Also, children are indoctrinated not to question authority. Just believe what you are told and do not question anything, no matter how absurd. People actually get angry if you question the narrative. They will shut down automatically.
That's why Katie got paid the big bucks. She's there to conduct an interview and have self control so that she can get that interview for the ratings bump. Not acting all crazy like she's running for office.
being a mini adult is something you shouldn't encourage in children. if they are more responsible, well-mannered, or seemingly really wise... that's all fine! but remember they are still children. children like this are not better than other kids, but we are treated like we are. i wish i hadn't been such a suck-up rule-following child, and i also wish i wasn't so heavily praised for it. i really did see myself as elite compared to other children and my fellow students. it takes time to work myself out of this mindset!
It's an amazing thing to become self reflective in a way that invokes positive change. You should be proud of yourself for recognizing these traits in yourself and changing for the better. Happy for you ☺
When kids seem more mature than other kids their age, it's often because of parentification and being given way more responsibility at home than they should have. It can create serious anxiety and even OCD.
Right! for me personally, I was like this. A mature and well-mannered child, and a major suck-up to adults. Years later did I realise it was because this was all I was ever praised for by adults (parents, teachers etc.), the fact that I was manageable and unproblematic. I was easier to handle and did what I was told. In reality, I was severely emotionally suppressed and for years I struggled socially without ever really understanding why. I believe this was a major part of it. Now, in my late 20s, I am still trying to express myself emotionally - things I should have learned to do when I was young.
His flippancy is the most infuriating thing about his interviews. And his minimizing of his horrible actions to the young children. He knows exactly what he's doing and he's trying to manipulate the narrative for sympathy. Thank you for covering this, not enough people know about what a monster he is. It's been awesome watching your channel grow and your content get even better and more concise!
I had things happen to me as a child that I'm still working on in therapy, and not once did I do what this abuser did. I never want anyone to feel how I feel, so I just don't do it. It's that simple. Don't do it. Don't abuse. Don't continue the cycle of abuse. I wish they could've done something. It was similar with me, by the time I knew the words, too much time had passed.
