8 BIG Lies about Sex (w/ John Stonestreet) 

Thanks, legend

I have tremendous respect for John Stonestreet. I got to know him some when we were in school together.

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So don't breath? Some peeps like me have a high natural drive and just turned on for no reason at all a lot of the time? I'm 40 and still a virgin (haven't fallen in love and married) yet my natural drive is barely any bit less, even wakes me up and lose hrs of sleep time. So peeps like me shouldn't breath; for if that's all it takes with zero thoughts of the other sex, sex, anything sexual, etc? Yet can hold hands and hug without being turned on at all because my desires and heart are pure and saved for one. Well then what's your response on your statement now? How does one deal with that then?

You ARE dealing with it ! God will reward your lost sleep and whatever else it costs you to stay obedient to him.

@@pingupenguin2474 can tell it's a response of one who don't understand. It affects work performance, it make one feel uncomfortable around other peeps when it can even happen in a room full of someone of the same sex (and no I'm very straight), it can be really painful that can feel the pain for up to a week later. Just keep on "dealing with it" isn't much helpful. Sometimes it leads to nonsexual nude porn as distracting escape to get rid of it for can only deal with it so much. And honestly don't look at them with lust, believe it or not. So this don't answer the question at all.

@@josmo2256 Hey, that must really suck. I am sorry you are going through that. My response was not for you, or for your situation. It was for the question of "how far is too far?" within a dating context. You do not find yourself in that context, so my answer was not for you. Sorry if it sounded like I was making a blanket statement for everyone. First, keep on breathing! Second, as a nearly 40 year old man, who is married, the struggle does not go away. Marriage is not a cure for your biological programming. But, what I have found helps a lot is spending time in prayer. And specifically praying scripture. praying out loud, "Lead me not into temptation" and asking for help to "not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" don't make the problems go away... but they point me in the direction of the one who can handle all the things that I can't. lastly, I just want to say again, I really feel for what you are dealing with. I would encourage you to talk to your pastor, to other brothers in the Lord, and let them in on what is going on if you haven't yet.

Not trying to judge an issue I know nothing about but that dose not seem like a healthy view of sex. Pray that God would heal that part of her heart and your marriage.

@@samuelpoirier3995 I have done that in the past, I am 67 years old. I guess I just got tired of the fight and the desire isn’t really there. I aways believed you can’t change another person but you can change yourself.

Health problems can really disrupt libido and energy levels but if she always felt this way and only said so after there was no way to get pg anymore then she should also explore this with a qualified therapist.

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Lots of marriages end because the sex isn’t good and one partner looks elsewhere for satisfaction. Sex belongs in healthy relationships. All the sex in the world isn’t going to cure a bad relationship.

I’m sorry for your trauma, sister. I’m praying for you. That’s not an issue with Christian marriage though, that’s an issue with your husband and men like your husband. The scripture clearly says everything that you said: That men are to love their wives as Christ loves the Church and lay their life down for them. Just because our bodies belong to our spouses doesn’t give us a free license to abuse them or treat them as objects. God bless you

Very sad! Not God’s plan

agreed. very sad & not God's plan or Scriptural at all. i don't know how common your situation is, but i think young people really need Biblical premarital counseling and outside observation & wisdom. the signs of strange controlling obsessive mental issues should raise some red flags to a caring pastor mentorship team. i think women sometimes mistake control freak-ness for manliness & strength. guys tend to see right through this garbage in another guy and can warn a star struck girl, if she will listen.

Sadly, I have seen this as almost the norm in churches. It happened to me, too but I wasn't having it, that marriage lasted about 3 months. He was evil, and that marriage was not of God! Jesus removed him from my life, praise His Holy name!! Also, so called counseling in these churches doesn't do anything, because the "leaders" will always side with the men. Especially if they're part of the good ol' boys club.

wow. that is so sad. i'm sorry you went through that, Tseeker1

Witholds it from her husband for life?! 🤔

@@m.willow11 Certainly, absent grovelling.

@@duanekeith7816 it's near impossible to maintain any closeness or intimacy in a sexless marriage and when you have no outlet for natural desires, you become imprisoned and bitter. Im so sorry. 😔

@@m.willow11 Exactly my point.

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Not outside marriage it is not. God calls that sin.

@@mdbrimberry I don't consider it sin.

Well too bad your opinion of what is sin doesn’t matter to God There is an absolute truth if you believe truth is relative you are deceived

@@mdbrimberry There isn't a god whose opinion matters to me.

All consent means is that neither party is a rapist. That’s a pretty low bar for sexual morality. Human dignity deserves more than that.

And don’t have sex outside marriage, that is an abomination to God

Transactional sex degrades human dignity.

What does human failings within the church have to do with what God teaches about or about anything? Just calling certain things and abuse is recognizing that there are boundaries that apply to all people. That sex should be between two consenting adults is not the most you can say. The Bible very clearly teaches that sex should only be in the context of marriage and that marriage is a comprised of one man and one woman. Whether or not you believe in the Bible is your issue but you have to understand when watching this video that a biblical worldview is assumed in it.

@@andrewpatrick2563 I know a biblical world view is assumed. However, even when using your biblical world view we cannot conclude that “sex should only be in the context of marriage and that marriage is [a ] comprised of one man and one woman”. First, please provide chapter and verse which explicitly prohibits sex outside of marriage. Even the patriarchs had more than one wives. Exodus 3:1 states that Moses’ wife was called Zipporah the daughter of Jethro, a priest in the land of Midian. However, Numbers 12:1 makes reference to Moses having married a Cushite ( Ethiopian ) wife. 2 Samuel 12:8 God gave David the wives of Saul as a reward for his loyalty. David had 8 wives. 1 Kings 11:3 states that Solomon, had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Even from a biblical perspective marriage is not between one man and one woman as Christians who don’t know their Bible love to state.

@@horridhenry9920 it’s never actually clear that Moses was married to both simultaneously. Marriage is established in Genesis 2:24. When God revealed to the Hebrews they didn’t exist in a cultural vacuum. They had the basic culture of the ancient near east. Polygamy is a part of that culture, you will never see prescribed in the Bible it is only described and in every instance of it in the Bible it results in negative consequences.

@@andrewpatrick2563 I understand Christians say that. But the Bible doesn’t. In fact Christians say and infer many things based on their own interpretation of the Bible. The distinction between described and prescribed is a cope out. Indeed, it makes the Bible an unreliable guide regarding how to live. It prescribes not wearing clothes of mixed fabric and not eating shell fish, but describes marriage and slavery. Don’t you think a prescription of thou shall only have one wife, and thou shall not own people as property, would have solved a multitude of problems and avoided some of the negative consequences of only providing a description?

@@horridhenry9920 the mixed fabric and shell fish are prescribed for a certain people for a certain time. One is part of ritual laws and the other a dietary law, Jesus fulfilled the law making it pointless to follow such laws. Yes there are moral laws but them being part of the law is not what made them moral, morality preceded the law and still exist after the law. Yes there are laws given on slavery and prescriptions how to practice it in New Testament and not an outright abolition spelled out in the Bible. Slavery like polygamy was preexisting part of the culture that wasn’t going to go away easy but the statutes and values put forth in the Bible are what eventually led to Christian cultures to be the first to have abolition movements much of the world that was never part of Christendom still practices slavery in fact there are more slaves than ever. Plus if you really read the laws about slavery it becomes clear that it is something more akin to indentured servants that is being described rather than someone forcibly kidnapped or born into slavery which would have violated other parts of the law. Polygamy roughly followed the same path as the law eventually shaped a people that would be monogamous as was the original intention. Also how is it a cop out to point out that a lot of the narrative portions are descriptive and not prescriptive, most of the narrative is how people failed, of course that’s descriptive. Be aware of which genre you are reading in the Bible.

If you knew what the word translated 'lust' meant and how it relates to the 10th Commandment and not the 7th, you wouldn't post this nonsense - which Augustine foisted on the church after he came out of Manichaeism but retained much of its gnostic philosophy.

I have a question for you. For what purpose exactly do you think God created the clitoris?

The fact that you have an issue with them talking about this proves your own discrimination. They don't need your consent to say soemthing about this 😂

“Cis” is hate speech.