Desperate Too flashy Too troublesome Too broken Too materialistic( don't be a lerper, be a helper. Don't expect too much.) Too picky and choosy. (Don't expect 13 people in one. Don't expect too much. Which one is curly hair 🤔 😅😅😅) Too bossy, rude and controlling. Men don't like another men energy. Don't be rude and argumentative. RESPECT. Too loose or promiscuous. Don't be every body's toy, don't be loose. Don't be too available to everyone. Too good. Only unserious men will avoid a well-put-together woman. Carry your crown well queen. Don't lower your standards.
I love how the man of God wrapped up this video - coz I kept thinking, what if she's just a jolly good fellow and pastor K literally said - 'keep it up, soon you'd find the man that sees you as a plus'. God bless you sir.
Thank you Sir. I so much agree with the last reason. Some unserious men are scared of a serious minded and hardworking lady who is successful, beautiful and reserved. Once they see they can't play their game, they'd just withdraw. So I know that serious men will actually meet serious ladies.
I meet a good Lady sometimes ago but all she was asking is from me is money 💰.I knew her for just a month but she had asked for money for more than 12 times.I just left in peace.
The last comment on being good and put together is it for me...very easy way to eliminate the unserious ones. Even if you drop your standards, it doesn't even make you desirable to them. Better to be yourself and work on any grey area. Simple. Thanks PK for the highlights.
THANK YOU MAN OF GOD FOR THIS WORD OF COUNSEL. MY EYES ARE OPEN NOW TO WHAT TYPE OF A WOMAN I AM AND WHERE I HAVE BEEN GETTING IT WRONG THINKING I WAS RIGHT... INDEED COUNSELING IS WHAT I NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO, AVOID AND SIMPLY BE HENCEFORTH... THIS WORD HAS RESTORED PEACE IN MY LIFE. GOD BLESS YOU SIR AND THANK YOU LORD JESUS CHRIST. 🙏🔥
Pastor K. Thank you for adding the last part, and also taking the liberty to specify that it is a good one. Honestly Sir, that is me. I've been saying no to so many guys(not because I'm picky, honestly I'm not.) I'm open-minded. I've had a lot of rich and influential guys ask me out, and each time I decide to give it a chance, it won't seem right either because they are lagging spiritually or mental development which will make me disconnect from them. I'm attracted to majorly the character and not necessarily material possession. I've rejected so many of them that most times I feel bad and also a little scared as to whether the kind of guy that has a good standard and character exist. Your last point encouraged me really 😭💙🙌
Aww 😊 I love people that are teachable and takes to correction. It's a good thing you have realized your wrong. Most of your gender in our dispensation wants a 15 man in a man..... or put in a better way, a man that has it all. No one has it all (male or female) Hmm, innocent, decent, disciplined and good hearted men will come, pass by and leave such ladies. I usually feel bad for most of these guys/men who would have been looked down on and run down by these ladies. I feel for them, because we men go through a lot. And as a result of so much challenges and economic disadvantages men are going through in this generation, many of us have become mentally unstable. Dear, just make amendments and make Holy spirit your number one partner. God will lead you right. Much love 🤭
This was just something I needed clarification on ,thanks pastor. The respect part triggered me a bit..lol But I would like to get more tips on how to respect men.
I had the same question... One of my friends, a guy, recommended a book... "For women only: What you need to know about the inner lives of men" by Shaunti Feldhan... It's really an eye opener to what men interpret as respect and lack of it. Enjoy
Thanks PK. My question is with regards to the last reason... What if they are already married to you and then begins to realize that you are too ambitious, what is the person required to do at this point?
Sir I want to appreciate you for what you are doing in the life of the singles, I pray the Lord continue to elevate you in all ramifications. Amen.. God bless you
Thank you pst K.O …This is a rundown life check for many of us especially for me. It’s really helpful at least I have seen now where to work on, fix and adjust myself. I am glad you shared this with us pst K.O . Remain blessed sir. Love and Light ❤
Knowing the difference between desperation and being intentional might also be helpful especially in a world where everyone except you to put your best foot forward.
Desperation comes with anxiety and fear. Desperate people stay in situations where they should walk away. Being intentional comes with knowing that God will give you the best, trusting Him, having standards, loving yourself and personal growth. In a nutshell? It’s a difference between abundance and scarcity mindset.
Pastor K the last one resonates with me the guy literally said I was too good for him and the last I had due distance had said I was like a bone in his throat. Another, the relationship was too perfect and heading towards what he wasn't ready for my little journey experience in relationship.
Thanks sir. French People are we there ? I listen for improve also my english. Pastor K. Translate some message in French . You have an audience that reaches.
Thank you very much Pastor K. I needed this perspective to understand if i wasn't losing mind, or if I am just being a 'man' indeed. Thanks Pastor K. God bless you
9:45 I strongly disagree with the bit about men not wanting a woman they can nurture and support. I know a lot of men who have nurtured and supported their wives from nothing to something - emotionally, financially, spiritually, professionally, psychologically etc. As a woman, I can never marry a man with whom I can’t be vulnerable about my insecurities. What’s the point? To pretend like I don’t have them and then open them up in marriage? Because that’s what many women are forced to do, so that they seem “whole” even when they aren’t. There are no finished products, sir. You can meet a woman on a journey and love her on that journey. By not doing this, many have missed good wives too #mytwocents Women do this for men all the time and we are even encouraged to.
@@davidchinemeremjoshuadavid6535 like you mean you have his books on emotional intelligence? I need it pls. Can I have to titles if you don't mind. Thanks so much. God's blessings.
This topic is very educative. Thank you so much sir. Your teaching has really helped me a lot in relationship matters. I don't know how to thank and PM . May God bless you and your wife.
I disagree with the part where you talked about having a big car etc. The truth is that the man who is secure in himself, hears God and is intentional in life won't be intimidated by your achievements as a single woman. If that scares a man away, then he has issues he needs to deal with at the feet of Jesus. There are many men who love the fact that women can make things happen even when they are single. It shows that they are able to grow things productively. Everyone should live moving forward even if they are not married yet. It is hypothetical to adjust your life to suit a man who isn't a fit for you. If what you have makes anyone uncomfortable, it means they are not your fit.
If you listen carefully, he said you shouldn't be too flashy. Apply humility in all you do including your spendings. It's okay to have a car and be yourself but be careful not to be cultivate an arrogant and masculine life style because you are a rich girl.
@stylish homes with Cassandra, Pastor kingsely will never tell a lady not to aim high. All his teachings are aimed at helping women know their worth. He is talking about humility for ladies despite their high earning capacity. One can be humble even with the whole assets
@stylish homes with Cassandra, Pastor kingsely will never tell a lady not to aim high. All his teachings are aimed at helping women know their worth. He is talking about humility for ladies despite their high earning capacity. One can be humble even with the whole assets
*What if i am trying to help him become a better person and he thinks I'm pressuring him 😥? *What kind of man should i respect? *How can i be relational? Please help with these questions
Try to know the kind of a man he is and secondly you don't force the help on him.... You have to use your feminism to win him over by respecting him and you will see him natural do what you want him to do
meaning of 1 Corinthians 7:5? Paul seems to be describing a special devotion to prayer, perhaps during a time of fasting. once that time is concluded, however, sexual activity should resume. Paul seems to assume that human beings who experience strong sexual desire will struggle with self control after a while. Paul also reveals that Satan will take that advantage of that struggle to temp Christians with sexual sin. Struggle with patience will always be rewarded. stay bless in Jesus.”
Good points boss. However, men don't avoid the picky woman, it's the other way round. Women who are picky "can" sometimes miss out on "good" men for just being picky
Great teaching, but ummmm that submissive part. I think religious leaders have interpreted that word wrongly and so a lot of Nigerian men who are misogynistic and chauvinistic by nature have used that word to gas-light and blackmail their female partners. I will never forget Jumoke Adenowo on Kemi Adetiba's "KING WOMEN"- she unpacked that word. Submit is not bullying a woman to silence, it is respecting yourself so she can respect you. So she gave an example, a wife wants to travel somewhere and she asks her husband's permission. A man who respects himself and who knows and acknowledges that this woman can afford to travel on her own money but has chosen to SUBMIT herself by seeking permission will answer her in two ways: 1. Tell her to wait if he wants to travel with her or 2. Grant her request. But most men have bullied their partners so much so that they cannot dare seek permission on anything and if she dares, she is NOT SUBMISSIVE and is trying to throw it in his face that she can afford things. The worst is when such matters are then taken to a religious "leader" and he aligns his "so-called advise" with the insecurities of the man. Please help us unpack that word, too many women have suffered at the hands of wicked men blackmailing them with the word. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-vG7yo5m_T9s.html 42:07 seconds
Someone who was trying to pursue me came to my house while I was very sick and he made a comment that he does see space in my life because there was nothing he could add onto me. According to him I had everything in my house
The more reason a man dating you should never come to your house until he is fully sure and declared his stand with you in life.i don't belive in denying myself what I can afford.
@@faitha1075 I seriously don't get o. Is like saying waiting to eat a particular food until a man shows... Biko help! There's a lot a mature man can give beyond physical things or materialistic things Bikonu, eh a woman can never buy everything even if you think she has everything. Bro bring your ATM then you will know... Alot to give... Emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and so on, why should a lady wait till a man comes before she takes care of the needful? Eh, I need fan please 🥺
A number of men don’t realise that what a visionary woman needs the most is leadership (by example). They let materialism dictate their worth. Thankfully, there are lots of men who have it right. One thing I also noticed is that hardly do they mention the Holy Spirit in their decisions concerning the woman.
Not necessarily. Flashiness makes you want to buy the reigning things, the things in Vogue. Flashiness makes one shallow. Get yourself a car if you NEED one
@@nefertiti7482 Buying a good , durable car is not flashiness. If you can afford it, why not. For the kind of business I run, if you don’t have a notably good car, clients won’t entrust you with their money. I suffered this for years after listening to advice such as don’t buy a car because of man. At the end of the day, no client, no man. The moment I made the switch and got my suv, clients became at ease and the quality of suitors changed from the low self esteemed to those who had meaningful value to add. These things aren’t a one size fits all thing. Live intentionally and hear from God.
there will be time for reaping, time for rejoicing, and time for mourning! time to make love is intimate, but to separate yourself with God is a must specially as Christians. He who puts God second is not worthy Jesus says. work it out with your wife before fasting and stay committed secretly therefore God will rewarded you secretly. stay blessed in Jesus
