8 Signs It's Not Friendship, But LOVE 

Have you ever love your best friend? Also Merry Christmas!

Historians: It's just an extremely close friendship.

I'm just in love with the thought of being in love

I came here knowing I have all 8 of these signs, yet also knowing it's something that's one-sided only, and cannot be something beyond a friendship. It was an equally beautiful and painful video to watch, but to anyone out there going through this same type of thing, rest assured you're not alone on this feeling...

This can definitely happen, but it's also possible to let go of the romantic feelings and move on from your crush while still being friends. It's very hard to do though. This happened with a boy I met a few years ago. I think there was "something there" between us, but he didn't want to act on it. So after a while, I moved on, and met my current boyfriend and fell in love. I'm still friends with the first boy, but now I don't have any romantic feeling for him. I just accepted that we are friends, and that we are probably better off that way. Yes, sometimes I do wonder what it would have been like if we were more than friends, but it's *not* something I focus on or day dream about. I just see him as a friend now.

**For anyone who's in a rush or doesn't want to watch the whole video** 1. 0:44 - You daydream about them 2. 1:11 - You get jealous of their partners 3. 2:09 - You can't wait to see them 4. 2:38 - You want to be more intimate with them 5. 3:11 - You're overly affectionate 6. 3:39 - You talk about them constantly 7. 4:10 - You're not interested in anyone else 8. 4:36 - It's never enough

Then, they reject you, and you spend months thinking about them, while suffering. I hate being in love.

But the worst part is falling in love with them knowing they don't feel the same

just remember unrequited love exists. it’s the worst feeling in the world but it will pass. had a FAT crush on my best friend for over a year but she didn’t feel that way back and we are still good friends. you can make it through. now i’m dating someone never thought it would happen.

The sweetest love is the friendship kind in my opinion

You will all find the love one, yes you, but remember in order to be loved you must love and respect yourself, the person you attract is a reflection of the love you feel for yourself.

friends to lovers is sweet, but when it doesn't work out, you lose the friendship too.

Don't laugh but when I look into her eyes it's like I can see her soul and just like her, It's beautiful

1. you daydream about them 0:44 2. you get jealous of their partners 1:11 3. you can't wait to see them 2:09 4. you want to be more intimate with them 2:38 5. you're overly affectionate 3:11 6. you talk about them constantly 3:39 7. you're not interested in anyone else 4:10 8. it's never enough 4:36 I hope I could help!

*TIME STAMPS HERE* so you do not have to scroll 1. You daydream about them 0:44 2. You get jealous of their partners 1:11 3. You can't wait to see them 2:09 4. You want to be more intimate with them 2:38 5. You're overly affectionate 3:11 6. You talk about them constantly 3:39 7. You're not interested in anyone else 4:10 8. It's never enough 4:36 Thanks to the original poster. Dat Boi

Peice of advice for those watching: in middle or high school, a close friendship is much more valuable than romance, especially since at that age the romance is half baked (Coming from a high schooler)

8 out of 8 and about the affectionate part- I've tried to hide my feelings in the past from my crush so he won't reject me and that meant not touching him at all because my love would have become quite obvious. Now, he has rejected me twice and I have such a hard time moving on. This video is slightly bittersweet but also a reminder that I SHOULD move on. I cannot keep standing in the same place while waiting for him to change his mind and decide to love me. It is a painful experience but one I have decided I cannot keep ignoring. So, wish me luck in learning how to only love him as a friend. Just the thought is painful...

Ah yes, I once knew what friendships were like. Little did I know it was the first step towards love. Now I have neither. Merry Christmas.

If you are watching this video you know you are not just friends

I’ve always kind of doubt whether or not i actually like my crush, or I’m just telling myself that. But after relating to every sign, I’m sure of my feeling, and have a clear head. Thanks!

Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love. - Charlie Brown

Most of those signs are what made me realise I was falling for my current boyfriend... And the Stardew Valley reference was the icing on the cake since we literally got married in this game for fun.

It's so comforting to know that a lot of people in the comments section are also going through similar situations on this matter 😊 merry xmas btw, have a good one :)

Oh, she figured it out. Please do remember that I care about you.

I'm probably bisexual AND inlove with my bestfriend. Oh my god

I just wanna know… how do y'all's newest videos literally correspond to my life at the given time every single time I see them in my feed?

I didn’t know my friend had a boyfriend until one day they just mentioned it casually in a conversation like it was the most obvious thing in the world, and while I had previously known that I only had a chance, it really did hurt even though I wasn’t directly rejected or anything. I feel like I met most of the things on this list and while it may have just been liking them a lot, I feel like it could have grown into something much deeper. I truly am happy for her and her boyfriend as they are both my friends and I have always been glad that they are happy together and would never interfere with their relationship, but for a few days I was just left thinking about it, and not blaming anyone because I know everyone was right there, but being confused on as to what to do next. I feel like I have gotten better now, and I am still friends with the people, but it does sometimes feel weird when I talk to her by myself.

Remember, love yourself before loving somebody else. ❤️ & you're worth it !

I love how this woman's voice sounds

I need a video on how to tell a love avoidant loves you because they fear intimacy and won’t directly do the obvious things like touch and flirt or give compliments. Thanks!

When it's Love for you but Friendship for them . aww

My very first love started from friendship too, we just immediately clicked and I honestly have no idea how and where it came from. Then slowly it went from "No way I don't like him" to "Maybe he'd be nice to date" to "I am in love help-" kinda thing. He was literally all over my mind and it made me feel so giddy and happy just to think of him and I. Ik for a fact that the feeling is mutual, but sadly we cannot be together due to certain disagreements. We never confessed and we're still friends but there is this heavy tension between us every time we interact. Currently in the process of trying to get over him and putting the effort on myself

Hey YOU, incredible person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️

This may have made me realize I like a friend in a more intimate way. I’ve always thought I felt no romantic attraction, but that applied to boys, not the girls I liked in the past(I thought my past crushes were all fake and made up, however, the female ones were real). It’s interesting, and I’m unsure what to do with the information, but it’s nice to notice the feelings. They may pass anyway, like they did with my last crush, but they may not and that’s ok to.

I acted on my feelings with my best friend. He's been my boyfriend now of almost 11 months. He'll be flying here for the week soon 🥰 He's my darling

Lately I've been feeling so attached and affectionate towards my bestfriend, it sucks since I know he doesn't feel the same and I am overly emotional about everything. If he sits with my sister, I get jealous, if he doesn't text back immediately I get sad. It is not as easy as it looks like, friendship turned into love when you both know you can't be together... I honestly feel so sad lately, so angry and I wish all these feelings can go and we can go back being careless friends and soulmates.

My crush who is my friend just texted me right now 😊

Thanks for such a deep list of signs. I also think that love it's not only passion or sex. Love is wider and includes all types of friendship, all kinds of intimacy, mutual respect etc. 💞 As we see there is platonic relationship. Platonic love refers to a love that is about sharing friendship or focusing on the higher selves that can be obtained in a relationship that is sex-free. When you are in a platonic relationship, you may feel that it is a much larger investment than any other relationship before. This can be intimidating to anyone who believes they may be in a platonic relationship. Platonic and romantic relationships can coexist peacefully if you manage these carefully and with great consideration.

"Better to have an enemy than a fake lover."

Close conscious friendships can have alot of love..... especially if youve done alot of work on yourself and you are able to express that love. But when does it cross over into romantic from platonic.......is the question. Theres always love. Its just the type of love and the intensity. 🥰

I’ve been friends with my s/o and I would always talk about her constantly. Only then she confessed to me three months ago. I realized almost all of this applies beforehand and still does-

trust is a dangerous game

Is there a way you guys could do "it's not love but friendship" feel like that would help me and alot of people. Thank you and merry Christmas

I have struck a 7/8 and can tell that my friend has being doing pretty the same as me, and we both know about that. The thing is that she's kinda traumatized of being in a romantic relationship with a "best friend", because her last relationship was with a guy she thought was perfect for but put her in the emocional gutter, let's say. I really like her and am not interested in anybody else, and she seems to like me as well, she's in a trip rn and bought 2 pink quartzes, one for each one of us, I caught myself smiling at the cellphone, I hate when that happens. I'm about to send her "Never gonna give you up~Rick Astley" to her with the translation so that she can get what I feel. Regards from Brazil to y'all Update, 4 months later: it all went down the drain, in a friendly way, but it wasn't working anymore. I griefed a while but I'm doing good now, so good that I met someone who is far more understanding and loving than my friend was, I'm truly in love now.

These videos always pop up when I need them the most, thank you.

It's so hard when you and her complete eachother so much. I'm head over heels for her and since she's in a relationship (a toxic one) I don't confess my feelings because I'd rather be friends than confessing and getting separated. But I she's the one for me. I haven't felt this about any other human being during my almost 25 years on this planet. It's just heartbreaking tbh.

I met my best friend (girl) a few months ago and we have never talked before so i thought it will be kind a weird but it was the complete opposite. In the first moment there was a big connection. We both felt it. It was like magic. After some fun trips with my bike i soon started to develop deeper feelings for her. (Like everything that was mentioned in the video) i couldn't tell her because i didn't want to ruin our friendship so i waited until the right moment... I told her everything about my feelings but she didnt feel the same way but we stayed close friends until the day i invited her to a party and she got to know my other best friend (boy) better. Now we barely have contact and she is 24/7 at my friends house and even slept there a couple of times (like today on Christmas :c) She refused that they have something romantic but i cant believe that... I get extremely jealous even now when i think about it. What's that kind of a friend who know that you have feelings for her and still meet her everytime. I told her that its really hurting me to see her with someone else because of our special emotional connection but it seems like she didnt care at all. She broke my heart not only in a romantic way but also the friendship. People seems to change quickly these days and some friends are just rats. I dont know why im writing this but who ever read my little text have a great new year. Christmas this year sucks 🥲 Sry for my bad English btw :)

This is really what i needed. Me and my (girl) best friend were discussing about this just a while ago, that maybe our bond is something more than friendship since we care so much about each other. As for me, i had liked her ever since we became friends, but now i think she also likes me back, or at least she thinks so. Thats why im going to send this vid to her rn, thanks ! :)

idk if its a coincidence or something but Im literally in need of all these latest vids you guys are uploading like yk the perfect timing this is it lol

can we get this vice versa? as in signs a friend is actually in love you? great video as always!

I came here because I wondered what people would do differently as friends vs lovers because I can’t imagine being in love with some one I wasn’t already friends with, or in love with platonically before. While following along, I definitely am sure that my feelings with all of my close friends aren’t romantic but deep platonic love. I am grateful for everyone I have in my life but I am also , especially after watching this video, looking forward to having such a special relationship with someone in the future.

it’s been a long 5 months but I’ve done it! (mostly) I have moved on from unrequited feelings and kEpt the friendship!

Thank you!! This video could not have come at a better time for me!

not me doubting my love for my boyfriend ✋😔

Thank you very much for reminding me the true feelings of love. It's easy to mix liking someone with loving them and vice versa. I've only fallen in love once and this was all exactly how I felt. I'm excited to get deeper into psychology to understand more about the concept of love

Getting married with your best friend is great, and more if he's the love of your life too... ❤️❤️

I'm gonna say something out of this topic... Your voice is so satisfying, that I love to listen to it!!

I think I would want to try to focus on my education and such before I focus on a relationship. Although I can’t help but be attracted to some people!

The character designs in this one are so cuuute! Lovely videos as always

I can already tell this is gonna be helpful

Everything you just said is exactly what is happening to me right now but I'm not giving up though I'm trying my best to go slowly you know I don't know exactly everything I'm not the smartest I might be saying this wrong but I don't know but this actually is 100% amazing I love this channel

Psych2Go. Your voice (or at least the voice we hear in the videos) is very soothing. Not only does this info help or just scratches my curiosity itch, but it just feels good to the ears as you teach, so thank you!

Congrats for the music you have chosen for this video...it perfectly matches the topic!

God, this actually helps me alot- I'm on the aromantic spectrum, and though I know the conditions it takes for me to catch feelings, they've- so far- always manifested differently for each person. This actually helped me find the base line(things I've felt each time, despite the bigger differences which are why I have a hard time telling it's a crush). And it's honestly helping so much having that knowledge now, seeing as I've been really confused about my feelings for a friend for quite a while now. Thank you for the help.

I've been in love with my close friend. i wouldn't say she was my best friend. I wanted things to move further but didn't force the issue, because she was dealing with a lot of stuff. it took me long time to get over. But the only thing that was missing was the spark of attraction, because she wanted someone more assertive and confident who would make the move, and I had missed my chance because I was getting over someone else at that time too. One of my big regrets, but our lives have turned very different directions since then.

Her voice is so soothing i'd love to hear a podcast of some sort

Here's a little hope to everyone this holiday, that they get the love they deserve, and merry christmas and a happy new year to all!

My partner started out as a very good friend. He was in process of breaking up with someone for the second time when we met, but we clicked so profoundly and became good friends--mostly online. Several years later, I invited him to a company karaoke night that he accepted, and clicked perfectly again. At that time he was breaking up with the same lady for the third time, so our friendship had its limits, but we've been getting closer every day since. After 6 months I realized that I was basically living at his place, so we talked about it and became officially a couple, and 5 years later are still deepening our connection every day.

Me and my friend finish each other's sentences, say the exact same thing, and often hold hands, but we remain friends because we understand that it wouldn't work out between us

I noticed every single one of these WHAT IS THIS PHENOMENON

I experienced most of this a few weeks ago, on vacations with an old friend from highschool. I was wondering a few weeks before I came to her house if I was or not feeling something "more" towards her, yet I felt it was a little bit immoral or dishonnest for acting like that towards her, and I worked on suppressing these feelings in order not to parasite thegood time we had together. But after a few days with her, I had the "thunderstrike" in my heart and mind like a revelation, and I knew it was love. For the next two weeks, we had long conversations, with confidences, or plans for me to come to live in her area, activities, work together, how we imagined our friendship and vacations together in near future, and had a lot of little attentions, surprises, and demonstrations of kindness such as emotionnal support, advices, long hugs and little kisses almost all the time, that gave me the impression something was really building up. The day I went home, we have had a final conversation, and what is still making me think is the fact that, about the things we did, and the emotions we had, she didn't gave me a clear answer such as yes or no, but more something that sound like a "not yet" or "I'm not ready now but offer me a little more time". Nowadays, we both agreed to give each other a little time without talking to "clear" our feelings and make up our minds before talking seriously about it. So, who knows......?

If I ever have friends again I'll be able to try this.

Idk why but whenever I have a crush on someone I watch these vids and see if anything applies to our friendship lol

I loved the small animation at the ending! So cute, it made me happy

oh lord how did yall release this video at the exact time in my life when i need it 😭

Thank you, Psych2Go, for still giving me hope.

One of my friends is 100% into me but I'm aro ace (he knows), except I still really like receiving physical affection like snuggles and caresses so I gladly accept the attention. Came here to double check that it's still not romantic on my part and it definitely isn't. I guess my feelings and behaviors are a reflection of what I would like some of my platonic relationships to be like, but don't often get to express because of society's perception that that level of physical closeness between adults has to be romantic Very confusing times Thanks for reading if you made it this far

Your channel is the fuel for my life and happiness

Where was this video two years ago when I needed it

U guys seriously deserve so many more subs! Y’all are so smart to figure this stuff out! This has really helped me throughout life. Have the best, safest christmas ever!

I hope to find a love like this. Friends first then love.

Let's draw that line and I'm gonna cross it !! I love you 💯🙈❤💋

the animating syle 😍 you guys are so talented woo

I think a lot of folks on r/Sapphoandherfriend need too see this. Also, Great video! Keep up the good work! Subbed

I literally match up with all of these signs 😂😂

I love just listening to your voice! So calm and chill vibe😽

I love these beautiful animations.

Me and my bestfriend: *friends, with BENEFITS* ✨

Happy new year y'all 💜

Thanks for the great videos and have a great Christmas

I've experienced this, there's this one girl in the top/elite section that I don't usually hang out with. We've met in a chess tournament. At first, we don't really talk much after the event (the event is held every year so we only meet once a year) but 2 years pass by, we slowly got to know each other and we even hang outside the event! During that time, I had a boyfriend but we broke up and decided to just become friends when I was on my last year of high school. This is where it got interesting, 5 months have passed after the breakup and I finally got the guts to confess to her (I was already developing feelings for my chess friend in the past few years and my ex bf saw past through me as always and said to me that I should give it a go and he'll be supporting me from the sidelines) so after finally confessing my feelings for her, she also admitted that she also feels the same. Boy oh boy, I felt I was on cloud 9 but it was short live since there was a catch. She told me that she was delighted to know that I like her but sadly, we can't be together since there is also a person who likes her and is suicidal. She was told that by the suicidal person that she is his lifeline. The only thing that makes him happy and preventing him from taking his own life. After hearing the story, I have no choice but to give up and let her go even though she also finds it painful that we can't be together but we can't risk a person's life over our own selfishness. So my chess friend and the suicidal person are together until now. In short, I experienced all the stuff that were describe in this vid but in the end we just become close friend. Pain.

I confessed to my best friend over 2 years ago, it'll be 2 years since we've spoken to each other this January.

When i feel bad and lonely, i always think abt the person i like, and having a future with them! I make pretty unrealistic ideas in my mind, but the thing is that Psych2go tells me that everything is working haha (the person i like is one of my friends lol)

I want to go through all these steps, Covid made me realize that I want someone to share everything with 🥺😭

I relate to 3 and 8 A LOT!!

I relate to all 8 of these. :(

Yo this fits me so much, sad that she doesn't feel the same though

I love the voice in this it's so calm and soothing

Friendship can't be defined by any boundaries...

nah cmon this video really comes up when I'm in the middle of my feelings being unclear about my friend rn.