@@synthiacollins2139 she meant if you're in relation with a person yet you feel like you're alone, you're better off alone bcz it doesn't make any sense to be with them anymore when you're feeling the same as before. Relation generally don't mean like I should depend on this person for my happiness but its about having someone by your side, dependence also ruins relation
I couldn't agree more. At least, when alone, you got a lot of freedom, despite not having anyone to share your moments with. But in a fake relationship, you don't have anyone to share with, and you have no freedom.
If you become uninterested in your partner or don't want to connect with them, THEN TELL THEM AND LEAVE. So many people stay even though they act distant. Do yourself and the other person a favor and leave.
i did this and he still wanted to stay with me n he got a girlfriend after a month because he couldnt stand being alone and he told me if i ever changed my mind hed drop her in a second 🙄
There is an even bigger difference between faking love for someone and being in love with someone. In the 21st century, I believe nobody is capable of true love. They are either on their highest guard against being hurt again and allow nobody to get close to them. Or, they are the type ready to attract someone with the ruse of love, but is actually looking for a victim. There is no way I am ever letting anybody ever get close to me again. I need no friends nor a girlfriend, not the kind that exist today. Modern version of love and friendship is toxic and dangerous. I require none of either.
I think the fact that people in theirs 80’s and 90’s can STILL find and fall in love with someone as if they’re 20 years old again, proves that true love can happen to anyone, at any age, at any moment in time and I find that to be so beautiful!
Same i am so mentally exhausted i have been with a toxic guy since last 4 years and now when i realise i am so done i feel so bad for myself 😞😞😞😞😞 i am still unable to move on
@@Anonymous-lr3xj don't give up on you, just try to do things that bring you joy, small things are important in moments like this. I moved on by doing things that make me smile, like music or food. You will be okay 🧡
I was in a rut for months trying to figure out why my 5 year long relationship ended so abruptly and for little to no reason. This video has not only helped me understand what went wrong, but has finally given me the closure that i so desperately needed. Thank you.
Summary: 1. They change you 0:39 2. They try to control you 1:11 3. They dont trust you 1:36 4. They dont prioritize you 2:06 5. They emotionaly distant 2:38 6. They seem unintrested 3:12 7. They dont meet you halfway 3:43 8. They easily give up on you 4:18 Thank me anytime
The worst is the 1st one for me and when I was reading the comment I was in "they try to control you " and suddenly I read your name. Now it means "they have always tried to control you"
Thanks a lot for this. I am 3 months out of a 7 year relationship and I said ‘yes’ to every single point in this video. There was no love for me to grieve over losing, I deserve better ❤
Connecting on an emotional level is so important. Otherwise you are living in two different world mentally 🥺 Real love includes letting people in and seeing the things you normally hide from the world. A true partner loves and accepts your full self, not just what is on the surface. ♥️
@Ferzzy I had a guy who we shared all the same values and morals... dreams? But still that was not enough. He was emotionally distant. Never opened up about anything on his own, I brought everything up and was open and initiated everything. There are many aspects of emotional connections and just putting in for emotional effort is one of them. This really broke the relationship for me because I tried really hard to get him to understand what I wanted from him, but he just never understood or didn’t want to...
If the surface is what makes them happy I say go for it. Love takes many forms, there is no right or wrong way to love. Besides, life is far too short to not be chasing whatever makes us smile. In the end that's what matters, that we found our happiness in life. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The person we should all probably be dating is ourselves. Loving ourselves as much as we would love another, is real-true love. It's probably the longest and most important relationship we will ever have.
here are the 8 signs of fake love: 1. they change you (not for the better!!) 2. they try to control you 3. they don’t trust you 4. they don’t prioritise you 5. they’re emotionally distant 6. they seem uninterested 7. they don’t meet you halfway 8. they easily give up on you be aware and careful of who you are with!! i hope you’re staying safe, healthy and happy 💛
Here's something funny. I'm with someone who was interested and genuinely loved me at one point. But then came someone and shared their feeling towards him and he got confused whether he wants someone irl that he can cuddle and fuck or his guaranteed permanent soulmate (he knows we're soulmates and soul bound so all other relationships will fail) who is willing to meet with him irl once we get our lives stabilized. And you know? He started acting out of character out of nowhere and became even more apathetic and unwilling to talk with me or even communicate. Like if the value of what we have suddenly decreased the moment he found that other people will fall in love with him and that I'm simply replaceable. I'm already getting ready and working on distancing myself from him for the time being until he matures and realizes his mistakes, but yeah, I find a few of these signs pretty relatable.
Infidelity is such a bad thing to have in any relationship. My advice will be for anyone having such thought to fully understand that it will always inhibit one giving his or her best in any relationship. So the best thing to do when infidelity issues arises is to find out for sure. I used to have allot of doubt about my partner and had to find out for sure. It was heart breaking what I found out but the best thing to do to keep my already troubled mind at peace. Thanks to the help I got which enable me to find out everything and see things for myself. I was really happy I did take the step and now my heart is peaceful after everything.
Amen! I dated someone many years ago who on our third date wrote me a terrible poem that ended you are the most important person in my life. The night that I dumped him a few months later I found out that he considered us going steady, and we never discussed that.
In most cases I think your statement is likely to be true. However it is not always so. The strongest kind of romantic love can also come on just like that. At least with my particular love story it did. My husband told me he loved me within the first week and normally that would of had me running because normaly it's a red flag. But it was different with him and I finally admitted to myself that I already loved him to. It would of course still take me another week b4 I said I love you back instead of thank you 😂. I've been married to my soulmate for 11+ years now. Hugs 🤗
Yeah...that happened with this one guy early on 2 or 3 yrs ago I think. It was online & he streams on Twitch, I stream on Twitch as well & I kinda knew deep down like..."Why did he say that he loved me real early?". I knew it felt kind of off. But my young silly self just said it right back. I kinda don't know why I did. That relationship was kinda weird to be honest. Some of the friends that him & I talked to knew that him & I were together. It got kinda messed up. And one person who him & I were kinda friends with...she kinda tried to mix things up about me & the other friends. Made up lies about me & shit. It was not pretty haha
This fake love issue is everywhere. At this point I have hardened my heart, because the more I try to find love, the more I get hurt. I have given up o love.
1. They change you 0:37 2. They try to control you 1:10 3. They don't trust you 1:36 4. They don't prioritize you 2:05 5. They're emotionally distant 2:37 6. They seem uninterested 3:11 7. They don't meet you halfway 3:42 8. They easily give up on you 4:17
My attachment style is avoidant. I am not exaggerating. As soon as I feel any sort of attraction to anybody, whether amicable or amorous, I delete that person from my life permanently and never look back. I will never allow a friendship nor a romance to ever develop again. Both social bonds are unnecessary, end in extreme emotional pain, and are nothing but a ruse for a social predator to take everything they can from you then move on to their next target. Avoid being used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned. Make your attachment style avoidant and never be emotionally devastated again.
@@daegugloss1231 That may actually play a part. I never thought of that. I really am rather fearful of experiencing what I did again. However, if I do not learn from my errors, the entire experience of being social would have been a waste of time and resources. If nothing else, I have to gain, at least, a learning experience. That painful year and a half did actually teach me a lot. It has kept me from making friends or another girlfriend again. This is a good thing.
I dated a girl seven years ago, which had spot on most of those traits, including one, two, seven and especially eight. Eight was the most prominent one. Back then, I cried a lot, nowadays, I'll just take those memories as a face value lesson about fake love and fake relationships.
I was married to someone like this for 5 years and it completely destroyed me. I finally left while he was out of town because he always tried to stop me before. I was single for 2 glorious years before meeting the love of my life and the timing was perfect. I’m not sorry I went though what I did in the last relationship, because it allowed me to truly appreciate this one so much more.
Currently not seen my 2 sons in 10 weeks for no reason other than I'm a good dad that wants to be there dad and not leave them like other parents are guilty of in the country and unfortunately all over the world only just learn I was living with a narcissist however I new something was extremely wrong .hopefully your out of the mess you must of found urself in to comment in that manner good luck .🙏
@@athena4518 And if them leaving doesn't scare you they get worried they are losing whatever it is they are draining from you. They worry they have lost their supply like an addict.
I watched this video when i was still with my ex, ignoring many of these signs, and here i am months later watching the same video after we broke up and i can literally tell you guys that these things are none to be ignored. Listen to this. Trust me.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 3 months now and she exhibits 2 signs: not prioritizing and not meeting halfway. I’m always the one hitting her up to hang out and spend time, but she never does it for me. She’s also always busy and i never feel as though she goes out of her way to find time for us to be together, meanwhile i do it all the time. It makes me feel really insecure and as though I don’t mean as much to her as she does to me. I brought it up to her cause we both agree communication is key and she’s done a bit of improving, but it’s starting to go back to square one. I’m willing to make this work, but I hope she is too.
I feel like I’m the toxic one doing these things, not them. But I don’t want to be like that, I even tell my partner that. They spend time with another person, and have told me that they have a crush on them. How am I not supposed to act this way? How am I not supposed to be wanting to read their texts and be concerned and untrusting, they have hid away their feelings from me, because they are afraid of how I will react, but that only makes me more paranoid because how can I know what is the truth and what isn’t? I am not supposed to make it a them or me situation, but he has barely known this person for like a month or two, so why is it so cruel and controlling to say it’s rather him or me. Maybe I should say that, because I feel like I’m being toyed with, like I’m stuck in a game. But I don’t blame them, because they feel horrible themselves, I love this person so much, but idk what to do. I’m completely lost. They have been reassuring, but he spends so much time with his new friend who he had a crush on and who he sent n3des to, and the other guy wants him, I mean I really don’t want to be controlling, but like I said maybe in this case it should be a him or me, reassurment is one thing, action is another, what do you think? Please help me
@@lobear3074 in your case I will say that once you love someone you can never get attracted to other person. He/ She told you that she/ he is having a crush on each other. It is very obvious for any partner to suspect it his/ her partner is loyal to him/ her. In your case I myself is having doubt on your partner's loyalty. It is also our responsibility to give our partner that comfort to trust us, we should not make our partner insecure by getting interested in other guys.
@@tingle2323 A seed that have never sprouted does not die as well. But once it happens, a young plant always needs someone to take care of it. There is a price for carelessness.
@@alexanderg8466 Always be honest and open. Don't hide anything. And don't be afraid to communicate. Trust and Honesty are keystones of relationships. Much luck and love to you in your Life Journey. ❤️
May you shine and get the strength to deal with anything in this world. You deserve every bit of happiness. May you get whatever you wish for. Keep smiling :) ❤
All of that was my ex, so glad to be out of that. It's miserable to be with someone who wants to control you and has no interest in anything you do. That relationship did teach me one thing. That I'm okay being single.
yea but not always there are some people who actually ask for a second chance only because they completely understand and regret their mistake but yea,as i said,"some" people
@@maithreyi5928 It's a gamble. What if the person you are dealing with is not among "some" people like you are describing? Better to not play that gamble
I've been remorseful over the past week over how I let an amazing girl go years ago and seeing this video, along with now understanding I was a narcissist and an avoidant, further shows me the work I need to do on myself. Thank you for your work.
Otto, You can't be too much of a narcissist if you have remorse. Everyone has traits of narcissism, you my friend will make it! You realize things and admit things that a true narcissist would never do. God Bless you.❤
I was like this before. I have toxic behavior when I had a girlfriend. But now, I am trying to changed my behaviour to others, my parents, brother, and sister. Thank you for this. It helps a lot for me as a guy.
This is probably not toxic this is the way u speak love. U have an opinion on where they go what they wear who they are with because u care . But once they give u an answer u gotta trust and let her that's love . If u stop them and question further that's unhealthy
Dude, i lived for 5 years in a relationship where the other one ticked all 8 points you explained in the video, but i was so blinded by my love that i ignored it all and thought the problem was with me
This really eased my mind. I just told my partner I love them for the first time last night, and I’ve been really paranoid (rough past relationships). I’ve been in fake love before, and this isn’t it. There’s nothing from this list in our love, and I’m so happy.
I think everyday you should say to her that you love her. (But only if you really feel it.) Your past shouldn't be in present. Coz if you keep yourself in the past it's gonna be unfair to your partner because she will do things for you and yet you will still remember the past relationships you had that can ruined the present situation.
This made me cry. Current partner is almost all the signs mentioned 😭 Edit: Wow. Can’t believe people are right with their comments. My partner has been cheating this whole time. Fucking hell
Same girl. I honestly feel like I need to leave him but I love him so much and I'm stuck in the cycle of doing everything i possibly can to make him love me more and I'm just running out of patience.
Yeah the girl I love shows also the tendency to all these signs, I think it has much to do with the toxic relationship she was in for 2 years but I don’t know what to do shes already so stressed out
@@enygma9596 Hmm would make sense because my boyfriend admitted he was never like this until he dated his ex. She messed him up physically and mentally so much. He has to still deal with her too because she had his kid.
As someone who was on the other side of this for a couple of points, I always felt terrible. I was aware I wasn’t prioritizing her, and not meeting her halfway, so I talked with her about it often. I had had trauma from a relationship in the past that made me feel like I was incapable of feeling my love for her. The two of us discussed my troubles with this often, and it was really just two years of working out whether or not we were truly in love. We couldn’t figure it out. Or certainly, at least I couldn’t. But in hindsight, it was so obvious the whole time that it wasn’t JUST my trauma; I probably didn’t really love her either. And I hurt her for no reason. She’s doing wonderfully now, and I removed myself from her life after knowing she was doing great. But that’s why I dislike the attitude toward the person on the other side in these videos sometimes. They’re just portrayed as “selfish” or “manipulative,” like caricatures of evil. But in reality, I believe those people are often dealing with their own struggles, mental conflicts, and trauma, which causes them to act in the way they do. I would appreciate if we could have a more neutral view on subjects like these, or even make understanding videos about what causes people to act like that. It would also help people like me self-reflect.
this is exactly my case, but I apologize immediately and move on. No one deserves to get hurt for whatever reason and leaving is the best choice if you aren't ready for relationship and needed the time to heal.
This. This takes extreme humility of oneself to seek why your partner is acting a certain way towards you. To find a logical validation as to why they may be distant or disregarding you. I am going through this right now. and much worse that I don’t know how to handle.
Well, you want people to understand you but remember nobody has the responsibility to do that. If it is all guilts and shame that make you feel uncomfortable, embrace that uncomfortableness and fix your problem with actual behaviors before you got another innocent human being involved. Really nobody wants to deal with that if you’ve been in their place you know it.
This is the best channel I have found when it comes to Human Psychology. Amazing job with the narrative and animation. I have learnt so much from your videos and also sharing them with my friends. Thank you! Please, if you can make a video on giving your ex a second chance or not Edit: 448 likes. ❤️
@Marchell Rhyn and if u become distant because u have depression, but they’re the first that u respond to when u can... and... in the end they start to leave u behind... being there only when u can be “able” and “enough” for them. What can I do?
I struggle with depression but I communicate with my partner. I always tell him when I'm having an episode and then he gives me my space if I need it. But if I need to talk something out, I tell him and he listens and I appreciate that. Even though he might not have answer, he's there to listen and I do the same for him too. I hate talking to anyone when I am having an episode bc I don't like having negativity around people so I close myself off but I always try to leave a little message for my partner so he knows than him thinking that he did something wrong or him thinking I'm planning to breaking up with him lol. He always be thinking of the worst for some reason.
normally there are signs you can look out for, to see if it's depression. all depressed people kinda stick to the, 'glum, reserved, quiet' theme. just ask them how they are doing, and if there's hesitation in their answer, try to ease them into opening up to you. there's always signs to look for, whether it's fake love, or they're actually depressed.
I struggle with depression and my boyfriend is the person I always talk to when I feel really down. No matter if I understand the reason behind my depression or not all I know is when I feel depress I'll sit and talk to my boyfriend about it and try to overcome it together.
I feel like depression can be a little bit selfish. You can't force a person to be mentally healthy and a person can be so depressed they can't be in a healthy relationship. That's just what I've experienced.
I have been the victim of fake love. I gave her my all efforts. In the end despite my pure love for her she still decided to break my heart. My heart feels so hurt at some point it starts hurting in my stomach. I hope no one has to go through this feeling. I feel so empty and hopeless. May god give me patience.
@@destinyup1710 accept the fact Fight with your demons No one is really helpful to you unless you stand up for yourself. No need to make peace with her.But make peace with in yourself.
A majority of these sound more like history of bad relationships , insecurity depression than not loving someone you love. You can also be happy in the relationship but don't meet each other's true expectations, so if you love eachother make time for eachother go on dates, go for walks together play hames together laugh at videos together have a movie night together when ever you can and try to meet what you each talk about when it comes to little requests. Most importantly communication is simple,... You ask questions, you say sorry and explain what you misunderstood, if you don't feel comfortable with something make sure you aren't controlling about it but instead try to get them interested in another end, just remember a healthy relationship is the definition of understanding patience and love
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I’m in my 3rd relationship and I have never felt this in love with a person before. The feeling of being deeply loved and deeply in love with someone is the best ❤
Just in my many decades of experience and many relationships. I eventually got married (and only once). Love isn't some magical event. That feeling is called lust or infatuation. Love comes over time. When people say "I loved you from the moment I met you", that was actually infatuation caused by overwhelming excitement. Love comes from appreciating something/someone. But you only learn what you appreciate over time. Some reasons people love something/someone: - The way they make you feel - Someone who appreciates you - Objects comfort you - Successful teamwork through communication and compromise (which is terribly difficult for most humans) - The most important thing is that you can tolerate somone and vice versa. Sounds harsh but it is exceptionally difficult to tolerate people for long periods. You have to be able to to tolerate the individual (possibly for life). The good, the bad, the quirks, the noises they make, the flaws in character and judgement. The main point is, love is not instant. It is an example of something that humans have to earn. It is not a right that you just instantaneously receive.
granted. This is true when the person marries you and has some, genuine interest. I married a man whose culture and religion does not allow dating. We both thought that the love would come eventually with patience, respect and trust. He would do most of these signs. So no, even if we had an agreement, this man is ready to throw the towel, criticizes me for all my short comings and weaknesses, doesn't value my time, and i sacrifice a lot for him. He is not interested in teamwork, and he is not interested in me as a person. I have experienced several humiliations due to this. So no, no, no , no....love may not be instant, but neither does it come overtime if one of the parties does the things in this video. I am more convinced that he is just using me, or has decided that he likes someone else.
Nailed it! 🙌 Every word true and could potentially save people alot of pain and money unfortunately you could put this on every billboard and most will still learn the hard way 😞😕
people need to realise the feeling of love is not always constant either. theres ups and downs. but true love is also more than a feeling, its real effort, and a choice to make.
I agree. Good friendships take time and effort to be built and over time I have realised what true friendship should look like. People in any relationship should show interest in you as a person and be supportive of the things you love as well. This should also be reciprocated in one way or another. When an argument occurs, there must be some compromise from both parties to fix things up and strengthen the relationship. If this doesn't happen, oh well, it wasn't the right person...
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This is false on so many levels. Your partner might love you as much as you love them, but they might be really depressed and have traumas that make them distant. Also maybe they aren't making excuses to not hangout, they just really like their alone time mostly, and if the other partner is really needy and clingy it's difficult. I feel the same way, and I keep telling my partner it's not fair to him. I've tried to break up with him numerous times, but he shows up at my house or my job immediately after I try to break it off. He shows up and cries and guilts me into being back with him so I do. It isn't his fault at all, it's mine. I don't want to be with him anymore, because of my own issues. He's great, and he deserves a woman more his own age who lives closer to him and had a real career and a house and stuff. He needs a real human being, not me. I don't know what to do.
Honestly this is my exact situation. My bf isn’t perfect but he is also not all flaws. I’ve been having this weird feeling of just not being right for him and thinking he deserves a different type of woman that has an open schedule and can just go with the flow and someone who isn’t as traumatized and depressed as me. When I’ve tried to breakup or express this to him he always comes back and cries to me and I cry to him because I know I really love him and don’t wanna give up but it’s hard when you’re sad and your relationship kinda makes you sadder cause it makes you see the worst abt yourself. I always end up feeling the sane right after we make up. When I watch these type of videos they make me feel even worse but remember these videos are like looking up your symptoms on Google. Ofc it’s gonna tell you the worst possible thing.
@@freefloo5126 Is there some healing or therapy you think you would need to help cope or heal from trauma. It's always good to do self-healing when single and while you're in a relationship.
As a man, traumas hit really hard and we are expert repressing. He should solve his traumas before he gets to shove those traumas to other people. Seek help in therapy and so on
Ppl with so many traumas and issues need therapy NOT a relationship, get you and your stuff sorted out before getting involved with someone else, I myself refuse to get involved with another avoidant it is waaay to hard.
Everybody can get jealous every now and then, but jealousy to an extent isn’t healthy or romantic. It normally hurts both you and the other person in the end. It can be controlling and suffocating, and sometimes it’s best for them to heal before dating someone else, because for you both to be happy you need to trust each other. Relationships are built on trust. I hope what I said makes sense😅
Everyone is talking about their girlfriend boyfriend...but here im seeing these signs in MY PARENTS they r trying to change me, to control me,dont trust me,dont prioritize me,they r emotionally distant from me😔🤧
sometimes we have these parents to learn things from them the things they put you through may be toxic but you should learn from them and never let yourself feel resentment, things and situations are only temporary we're always in constant change just believe and know that things will get better
yes yes, it's fake love. i've been doing everything to keep our relationship strong, and ask him if we could hangout, play a game, or just talk. but he never wants to anymore. i've told him once that i needed to talk to someone because something came up that's been bringing me down, and he said "oh alright hold on i'll be back" so i wait, and he got off for a week. i asked him if everything was okay when he finally came back and he said "well i just wanted to do something else since you're kinda boring to talk to" honestly broke my heart. best part, everytime i say "i love you" to him, he says "okay" what??? okay?? absolutely everything in this video is what he's been doing.
I actually just ended a 6 year relationship where they did the passive version of these checks. Meaning they were never too vocal, it was subtle enough to just wave it off but ended up building over time. I wish I saw it early in the relationship. I fell head over heels while to him, it was just ordinary. I was always on the back burner. I always considered him in every aspect of my life, my schedule, groceries, bills. And he showed very little for me. When we had a discussion, he shut down. Sometimes even cried because he couldn't handle a serious conversation. At first I was sympathic, making excuses for that behavior. But then it happened more and more. He made comments that stung me. A recent change in me broke that last thread and finally he saw reason.
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All of these resonate with me so much. My first relationship lasted 5 months and I suffer from depression and anxiety really bad, so I went into the relationship feeling lonely and wanted to get rid of that feeling. It only made it worse in the long run and I ended up feeling even more alone. Just a word of advice, NEVER go into a relationship feeling lonely and depressed. Make sure that it is what you really want first.
The point about giving up kinda reminds me of how I broke up with my first girlfriend. She got angry when I supported my mom over her in a disagreement (because I genuinely felt she was wrong) and she just went on and on about how she hates me and how it was a mistake for us to get together. Finally, I got fed up with her tantrum and accusations and agreed with her to break up. Literally five minutes later she messaged me saying she changed her mind. I told her, I didn't. I don't say things like "We should break up" lightly. I only say it when I really mean it.
my borderline girlfriend would do that - get bent out of shape if i didn't take her side. i'm logical and always said "look, it i think you aren't in the right, i'm NOT going to side with you" some people treat things like a loyalty test. like you are OBLIGATED to agree with them. i had a friend i stopped talking to that was like that. i said "i'm an honest person, and i'm not changing that for you. go find other people to tell you what you want to hear, and don't come to me for stuff like that" anybody who threatens breakups like that, and so easily, can go pound salt. my view on it is that people don't threaten to destroy things they ACTUALLY care about. (and if they do, that's beyond stupid, and shouldn't be dating them anyway). people throwing their weight around like this are generally toxic. BYE. (it's not worth it.)
This video helped me realize where my husband AND myself are both going wrong. Thanks, as always, for the insight. I’ve been a follower way back from your early tumblr days
@@poopl00p3r Not a good reason to stay together if they're only going to bring each other pain. Children and dogs can sense that pain. It's suffocating.
Thank you for sharing it. It make me realize my last ex gf was so toxic. She doesn't even care to me, didn't make time for me, and so emotional to solve the problems we have. But I am happy right now. I hope I could find the better one, soon.
There’s also some of this can be linked to narcissist people too. Bear in mind, this info is great, but there are also red flags about certain types of folks too. Please note that too psych to go😃👍🏽
That moment when this video points out both the flaws of your partners and of yourself. That last one totally has been me, but I’m working on that the best of my ability. It’s clear that despite the drama and differences, I am very much cared for and valued, as much as I value those partners.
Hi l got my relationship was fixed back again with the help of a great man my ex is back to me we loving and happily together again after many years of separation, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours.
This definitely applies to long distance relationships too. My ex didn’t care about my interests, my life, or time I’d schedule to talk with him. All he cared about was what he wanted not what we both want or need to improve on in the relationship. If someone says they’re too busy or I’m sorry all the time but never changes negative behavior or doesn’t make a continuous effort for you then I’d say leave them for your own sanity and heartache. If anyone’s going through something similar I know it’s extremely hard to breakup with someone you care about but the hard truth is that they don’t care about you if they treat you like a side project. Please remember that you’re not alone and having a good support system helps too🙂
"They easily give up on you." This was the last thing for me to really come to accept... Although I was no where near a perfect boyfriend and I will have to live with that remorse. I never gave up on her, while she was looking for a reason to leave for 18 months.
Even though I'm a winner and it's far and few between whenever I do win, and I think I've won here with 126 months, but that don't feel like much of a win to me.
Hello, if you FEEL REMORSE, you are not a bad person. Everyone makes mistakes and realize much later. Don't let that make you or break you. Forgive your self whole heartedly, one day you'll find someone new. I wish you nothing but love 💘 in your life. God Bless you on your journey. Take Care.
After I recently broke up with him (didn't even feel like a relationship in the first place lol), I've been realizing how sad he made me. I changed into a person who nobody recognized only so he gave me some attention (which he thinks is difficult to do, while I kept trying different things to make the relationship work). I started to breakdown because of him, couldn't share anything with him. He only texted when he was horny and made me feel like there's nothing else I had to do in his life. I don't even understand why I cared for such indifferent person when I had so many people loving me for who I am. He thinks he's ready for a relationship but I don't think he is. I hope I never make that mistake again.
The same thing happening with me now.. I even knew that he's also having a relation with another girl, today I broke up with him however I'm still missing him And crying for him idk why.. but I know that I'll be Happy. It was a toxic relationship
@@fitnessbeauty7385 Don't you worry.. I have gone through exactly the same thing my bf was cheating on me and now he's with the same girl.. I still miss him.. but if we miss someone it doesn't mean we have to live with them.. I hope you'll soon realize that this is a really good decision of yours.. Stay blessed..
I make your words mine. I've had my insecurities as teen but now as an adult, I'm pretty self aware of the things I do, the things I want and most of all, of what I am. And yet, I've met this person, and just like that, without realizing, I started to do everything to please him, everything to accommodate his dreams into my life and nothing was reciprocated. And the immaturity, gee. How hard it was for me to deal with so much nonsense and waste of time. I can say now, that what I was doing was waiting. Waiting for him to grow up, to become an adult, to notice me, and to realize that together we could be so much more. But like it says in the video, he found some flimsy excuse and broke up with me after 5 years of relationship. I was really lost and depressed. I still feel like that. I lost a lot of weight. Well, some of that was intentional. But anyway, what hurts me the most is not that I lost him. Or that he was "the one", because I don't believe in that. What hurts me is that I feel violated in the sense that I gave so much of myself and for what? For that little sh*t? F*ck.
I feel the same, I changed dramatically and the more I did, the more miserable I felt, hell, I even got a job I despised just to be worthy. In the end I completely forgot who I was and I was suffocating, I broke it off with her. It sucks because I imagined the world of her but she didn't do the same, to her I was just another one. On the bright side, it gets better after you go through hell, you forget who you were but you discover who you can be and that is the best part of being single right now. Chin up and keep moving forward.
I’m thankful to have experience real love twice and I’m only 23. It hurts to lose it, but if you let that break you down then you won’t be ready when the right one comes around. The phrase “it’s better to have loved and lost” holds true, in my experience
Those last three signs pretty much describe my previous relationship. It wasn't until the very end when I finally had enough that I realized his "love" wasn't adequate. He was never interested in calling me or hanging out. He rarely ever had interest in me as a person either. And he was always ready to break up at the drop of a hat over the smallest things, all the time. He never wanted to work through issues, and he never made any efforts to keep us together. It was basically a one-sided relationship the whole time, but because I attributed it to his depression, I gave him some slack. Wrong move on my part... I was only deluding myself. It wasn't until after the official breakup that he admitted that the main reason he kept me around was because he enjoyed all the love and attention I gave him. And even though *I* was the one who finally decided we should break up. He asked if we could consider this a "mutual breakup." Which pretty much solidified my theory that he didn't actually love me.
4,5 and 6 fit perfectly for my gf. At times, when im depressed I don't feel loved or appreciated. But i believe its because of her insecurities and the way she copes with her own stress, anxiety and depression. She has different ways of showing me her love. It isn't always easy for me, but im 100% sure it isn't fake
If those are the only symptoms, it might be that they don't feel 100% safe with you. It doesn't always matter if you are 100% safe, because trauma can bubble up in weird ways. I was that person, and I mostly still am. The way to tell if your gf is like this, ask her what safety feels like for her. It's a PHYSICAL feeling. A quiet fuzzy warmlth that goes down the back of your body sort of the opposite of having your hair stand on end. And I felt it for the first time last year in my late 30s. I. Had. No. Idea. I thought safety was a concept, or or the absence of fear. It took a particularly patient person to respect me fully during some major triggers for me to get glimmers of this feeling. For people who don't often feel stressed they might not notice a dramatic sense of safety but they should feel it sometimes. Also, people with alexithymia won't notice always, even of they have it. Alexithymia can be caused by nurodivergency but also trauma and culture.
"They easily give up on you." - My ex could be saying this about me. I wanted to break up ith him 4 times in 5 years and always chose to stay with because I loved him. But now I clearly see I was emotionally abused by him and was really frustrated with his behaveour towards me, even though I vocalised numerous times that he hurt me. Yes, he could say I tossed him aside, gave up on him easily, but he somehow always forgets how ignorant he was of my emotions and my demand of change. (And plottwist: After 5 years, he cheated and tossed me aside for another woman.) What I want to say with this: always do some retrospection on your behavoiur before blaming the other for leaving you. Maybe because you truly have some issues to work on.
Ok so I'm confused it's not you but can you summerze thus for me I just keep not focusing on the words and did not get to much of that I'm sorry I just get so destraced and miss a bunch of important words .
This sounds like my friend's relationship with her bf. They also broke up after 4 years, his bf finally give up on her. But my friend will never be the same again, 4 years is enough to destroy her mentally. I hate her ex so much i wanna puch him on the face😤👊👊
Sounds like me and my ex. He actually cheated on me on purpose to get a valid reason to get rid of me from his life, then blamed me for everything. But I wasn't happy with him either. During our relationship he always compared me to his ex, and always talked about his ex in a way "Oh we were such a perfect couple" or "I was so happy with her, she was my true match". You can probably imagine how I have felt then.
anytime my ex and I got into an argument he always said he wanted to break up with me....I just wished I had listened to my now fiancé, who was trying to inform me about how horrible my ex treated me
I came across this video purely by accident and having just been through what I believed to be a beautiful relationship. ...it made me realise it was almost all fake love from him. I have been feeling devastated, lost & so confused but this video made me realise just how all the feelings I had were real, the doubt, his unemotional attachment, selfishness, not being a priority or even if I mattered at all. Thank you so much for putting this video together as it has pulled me out of the sadness I was feeling and into a clear head space again
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I was so happy just a few moments ago but upon seeing this video realizing how true this is, made me burst into tears but I'm grateful for this video though, learned a lot of stuff.
I resonated deeply with every point. Sadly I felt I was responsible for about half of these points and my wife the other. That sad, I don’t think it’s necessarily fake love. I have a lot of traumas that I’m healing from, some of which she’s caused, but my love for her has never been fake. I think it’s very possible to explain this as under certain conditions some people may only have a certain capacity to give. On long days I can admit to not sharing about my day, not because I didn’t want her to know, but because I was exhausted emotionally, mentally and physically that I had nothing in me to share at the moment.
i think the video would more accurately be called "toxic traits". you can be a good person and yet do some toxic things. we all just need self awareness and good communication, and be willing to grow for the better. in your example: good communication would be just letting your partner know that you were too exhausted to share and had nothing in you. then they don't have to make assumptions about why you aren't talking. at the same time, make sure there are other times/days that you do talk. i hope things are better for you now
Last one hit hard, that was just reality slap to the face... I been through to “I just can’t anymore”, I treated her like a goddess yet she was blind to see that and how much she meant to me. At least I can just let go finally and grow maturely from this and move tf on
I fell in love with someone who was with someone else and her bf demonstrated most of these signs. Yet, no matter how much I proved to her that he wasn't the right guy for her, she maintained herself firm with her conviction and ultimately ended up with the wrong end of the stick. I have come to the conclusion that people will defend their poor decisions, simply to justify their mistake.
She will regret getting with douchbaggs most girls gon for these guys and later they end up single and regret everthing trust me if i girl doenst like good guys leave her she gonne be fukdup later one not now
@@anmazool725 I've seen it on more than one occasion, unfortunately. But I figure, they just didn't know any better. I can't afford to sulk and feel sorry for myself. In fact, I should be proud of myself because no matter if she loved me or not, I gave her my best unconditionally!
@@rodneyestrella1759 thays fuckd men you don’t deserve this also many people dont know what love is but only want douchbags and lust these generations is fukdup and also love is from the soul doing things together and stuff and she have to give u her life and also your to her thats what you call love and i hope you and me will get it some day ..and bcs iknow ur a guy hearted guy like me but talk sith them like how you talk with fguys also romatic way and also be a man never let somean hurt a girl and know your boundaries and your limits
@@divya_sancheti04 Hi... She was actually gonna married this man, but he kept cheating on her and she was convinced she could make him changed. You are right that sometimes people grow too attach to a person and are willing to sacrifice their own happiness because they feel they owe it to them. Unfortunately, nobody's owes anyone anything, we just have our loyalities in the wrong place. ie, toxic parents who we believe we must honor, a distorted marriage held together simply because of customs or religion. If we could just swallow our own pride, we could actually start loving ourselves first and then those around us. In the end, don't forget to neuter your pets... Where was I going with this?!
Lucky for me, I just met the most "Fake Love" recently, And boy oh! Boy all these things were so clear. thank God I'm already out on that SO "One-sided Relationship"! what a breathe of fresh air!
I’ve been in a one-sided relationship for the last 3 years. He truly knows how to fake his love for me. He is all these things to me. Fake love. No respect. No trust. I always knew that he doesn’t truly love me. But I continue to hoped that one day he will. But I don’t think that day will ever come.💔💔😭😭
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I can relate to a lot of these, only I just now realize that I was the antagonist. Not too long ago my girlfriend broke up with me and we had a lot of these issues only because I wanted to not overcomplicate things, but meanwhile I didn't know how much I was ruining it that way. I am 22 now and she is 19, but we've been together for 3 years. I cannot believe the person that I was to her at certain times especially nearing the end. I want to say I had a lot on my plate with work, getting my driver's license and such, but in no case does it make sense now. She should've been the priority and my carelessness didn't even think about it for the sake of keeping things simple and going with the flow, not realizing how much I was hurting her with it. I hope I didn't scar her too much and that by working on myself I can get her back, but in a way I'd understand if she was too scared of trying again. It's definitely left a big scar on me, the realization that I was the problem 😢
You are so awesome for admitting your wrong doing, seeing it for what it is and fixing it. You needed it for yourself, you did the work for your highest good, it appears your Ego wants her back, your higher self is ready to move on.
i think an apology would go a long way towards healing the situation. even if you didn't end up together, it would be really beneficial to her. and you as well, for owning up. (a lot of times showing self-awareness and accountability will earn you another chance because a change is coming from within. don't make promises of new behavior, DO new behavior.)
I didn’t realize how much I wasn’t doing for my partner until a big issue occurred. It broke me down, and I started looking at all the small things. I’m in a similar boat as yours. Work on yourself and try to understand your actions. I wish you the best, 🤞
My friend has this kind of love. I told her to break up. The worst part is my friend still cries over him. Like srsly you shouldn't cry over such love. What's the point of being in such a fake relationship. My friend still didn't get over it and is basically torturing herself and it's really bad.
Hey, don't be so hard on her. You said that she shouldn't be crying over such love, but that pain is very real for her. She can't recognize she's following a pattern that has to do with her inner wounded self, and that's why that pain is so deep. You should be there for her no matter what. Be by her side, don't treat her issues as if they were nothing. Just listen to her and be a good friend. Oh, and recommend her a therapist! That's what she really needs so that she can go through it all and find her strength again ❤️
@@amkstj I know I shouldn't be hard on her and I try my best not to say anything mean to her. I can't feel her pain but I am by her side and I always will. I always try to make her smile or forget the past even for a moment. She just sadly smiles and says that she is ok. I know she isn't so I always stick with her. Thank you for your suggestion. And I will surely take her to a therapist.
I like the straightforward information in these videos, which I've just recently discovered and am catching up on; they're really helpful. The 'list' format makes it easier to focus on one reason or indication at a time. And I really like the sweet drawings of people, especially their little leafy hairdos and their endearing expressions. I find myself empathizing with these cartoon people!
I'll be honest. I have trust issues but I do love my lover. However we did have a bad past together of hurting each other, but fake love can't be defined by trust issues, but if someone is constantly in control or doesn't care at all is two great ways to find out if they love you or not. A lot of this in this video is kinda true, but some people who do have real love just have some problems from the past that they need to open up about.
This video reminds me of the typical behaviour of a relationship with a narcissist. Narcissistic people are only in a relationship for themselves and what they can get out of you, which is the same as these signs in the above video
Well It seems like the fake love comes from both sides of my relationship. This is very helpful and it has given me the confirmation I needed. It's time to end it💔👍🏾
Much as we love the wit of Oscar wilde I wouldn't say he's the best person to quote when if comes to the subject of fake LOVE. His love led to his imprisonment and death . He was reckless a risk taker and it led to him being destroyed sadly .
