8 Signs you are a "Shallow Person" 

Food Police Ignorance is bliss.

If you don't know why you're happy, you don't know how to get it back if you lose it.

I am happy after my morning workout, always! Crazy, no?

Ignorance is bliss. Animals are like this. So we should shoot for obtaining the mental capacity of a puppy. ;)

so you'd be okay with me regularly slip you happy pills, without you being aware of this?

I think that's basically the "locked away" depth Dr. Grande talked about when he described the depth of people with borderline?

I think the word also has a negative connotation the way that most people use it but it's really just a describing word. I feel your comment though. My mother is the sort of person who gets really mad if you're not happy with her, even if she did something. So a lot of people see me as a very stoic and quiet person because I have to be the emotionally stable person in the house and I try not react emotionally in case I escalate the situation. But there's stuff going on still. I think you're absolutely right. :P I think @Qorax is right too though and that some people bury it so deep that they don't see it all the time.

I think that is why some comment children are able to bounce back after a horrific tragedy. They are not, just hiding how they feel in order to survive.

KAMILA REEDER I think I’ve had similar experiences. My mother was very sensitive to others emotions, and often misinterpreted them in the negative towards herself and would easily feel hurt. I feel like I became more stoic and reserved to not disturb her insecurities.

This is actually a defense mechanism- repression. It may also be dissociation applied to a group rather than an individual.

It is never too late to learn, never too late to grow

@@NoProHarrie yes 💜

Very true, but someone who has no introspective capability will never be able to self reflect and learn to grow...... Stuck in retard mode....spinning unintelligent wheels and annoying the fuck out of everyone around them without understanding why no one invites them anywhere. If someone's selfobsessed company sucks why bother.... lame jerks don't get invites 😒

@@vanessamorey3812 WOW well that came across shallow

@@carolmaplesden916 but not wrong either.

That could also just be narcisstic.

I think that’s called CAD (Considerable A…hole Disorder).

@@annier6835 🤣 a lot of that going around with people around me...

Maybe,you live amonst those who devalue intellectualism

@@C_U_R_I_E_L most people devalue intellect, it’s especially true in the west and can depend on age and location.

Katlyn Klassen Agreed. 🙏🏻

Dr Grande like Dr Les Carter seem to understand personality in so much depth, but I am amazed that such knowledge could actually be acquired. I can't imagine how many books must be read to reach this level of knowledge. Reading such a number of books would be one challenge, remembering it all another.

Agree!

This guy believes in true love. That is not factual/honest/rational

@@citycrusher9308 those are words of a miserable existence.

utubewatcher806 👏👏👏😂

Thank u I needed that

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The fact that you acknowledge this... means you aren't as challenged as you think... lol

Nice try but if you were shallow, you would be watching clothing hauls, pranks, drunk fails or fights instead of psychology videos.

@@vlaw7103 When people say "no offense intended", they do mean to cause offense as I'm sure you know.

@@vlaw7103 I'm sure some are lacking humility. It's quite common for most people to overestimate their abilities and 'achievements', and for narcissists to think they're fine and accuse others of narcissistic behaviour. I grew up with narcissistic parents and had very little self-esteem, a lack of healthy personal boundaries, and difficulty being assertive as a result. It took years of intense work in these areas to heal from the parenting. I didn't go to the other extreme and become full of hubris, however, and my remark is based on my own personal experiences of dealing with narcissistic individuals - unless someone's done the critical psychological work I mentioned they're likely to be an attractive target for other narcissists. I have known some very interesting and "deep" individuals, including my husband, over the decades so I'm not seeing myself as somehow superior to all others. I did find the narcissists I dealt with quite shallow and inclined to assume they were extra special and to have an extreme sense of 'specialness' or uniqueness with delusions of grandeur. Does this answer your query?

@@Adara007 I think zeroing in on the guy's "no offense intended" as indeed offensive, seems like a vulnerable narcissist's trait. Just saying.

It seems that we're all narcissistic to some extent. I will say that narcissist men tend a lot more female attention and "deep" men tend to be seen by women as "creepy". And I know that's very judgmental, but I sincerely think it's true.

@@Adara007 Great observation -- I've only used it one time that I can think of. It was b/cuz I just had to figure out yet another way to try to say something to a narcissist while trying to get through his shell.

1 sign you're a "deep person" 1: You don't let a RU-vid video diagnose your personality type.

@Mark Donald You're not wrong. This guy's a professional, I gathered that much. I just couldn't help but write that, because I'm sure you know how much bogus information comes to you on the internet. I don't mean that the presenter doesn't know what he's saying, I just thought it would be a good response, haha.

@@curtisyue182 He might be an expert and that's good for learning something new, but you can self diagnose

2 you'd rather keep reading these comments rather than moving on with your life

I would argue the opposite, it seems like a not-so-deep trait to juxtapose your tendencies with 8 succinct bulletpoints in the hopes of clearing yourself from being considered 'shallow'.

Why does this remind me of Patrick Bateman

#4 is a head scratcher the way things are these day no one wants to get married and want sex usually

Trait number 2 reminds me of Hannibal Lecter - a person gifted with astonishing intellect, equipped with profound knowledge but entirely devoid of conscience and emotions. Does a sophisticated monster like him count as shallow?

@@ChanelROETVAgreed. He checks boxes 1, 2, 3, 6,7, 8. Not sure about 4, he seems to care for his secretary Jean and even shows a tiny trace of humanity towards her.

@@gabrielguzman6018 lol I don't know what people you know but the people I know mostly want to have meaningful relationships and get married including myself

As a schizophrenic, I'm getting my gun.

what is a channel like you doing in a channel like this, which is purely based on science and statistics?

@@Infomanica20 probably questioning his content, something about hallucination and paranoia.

Are you, Bob? Are you a shadow person?

Have you heard of "Empty vessels make the most noise" ?

@@doyoumind9356 I haven't heard that saying, either. I'll have to remember that one too.

Only a still pond reflects the stars.

"The firmest faith is in the fewest words" and "where waters smoothest run, deep are the fjords" nice quotes from "The Lowest Trees Have Tops", written maybe by Sir Edward Dyer, but set to lute by John Dowland

i often heard and read these sayings in our culture from when i was a kid

I think by very definition flirting is sharing flattering attention that is not meant to escalate to intimacy. In more mature old world social cultures, men and women build each other up in daily life instead of tearing each other down. There’s a social respect but there’s also this kind of flirting, the two sexes acknowledge each other in a healthy way. It’s only in the new west that people get so jealous and pathological about the two sexes interacting as they naturally should.

@@j_freed that was very well put 👍✌️

is it necessary to do so? maybe being forthright and earnest in your engagement with life and others is enough

I think this can resolve when you get to know many other people really well and maybe get to know yourself too.

I always thought sarcasm was a sign of higher intelligence! Anyone?

@@paulortiz8063 I certainly hope so! Lol.

Same thought.

There were times when I was hunging with " deep " people. Now I see that time as my snobbish period. Sometimes shallow people are deeper than "deep" ones. Our culture has everything- shallow and deep and in between . Real question is - what culture sells and why?

Haha...very succinct. My comment made the same point, in about 5 times the length.

That's why we are here....Yes, it's hard sometimes with these types of interest... Love your comment.⭐

@@mrs.reluctant4095 thanks 😊 Another girl from my class, and quite a few others, expressed confusion when I said that I was going to ballet class later on and that I like arts. I learn creatively, often taking notes in different colours during class, which just created a talking point of 'have you got enough pens'. It's just indescribably frustrating when you want to talk about deeper, more complex and intriguing ideas and concepts but you just get shrugs in response. Or you want to talk about what you're learning and theorise about potential applications and further theories about the subject but even that doesn't give inspire them to talk about it. I often get questions from my classmates because I ask questions in lectures when am idea pops into my head about how the theory applies to a particular real life scenario or whether that part of the theory can be used to describe something. I've always loved learning and even when it didn't lead to a career, I've loved learning about it.

@@EnchantingWings1 youre not like everybody else. Might as well get used to it! Its not a bad thing though i know it gets lonely sometimes. Maybe someday youll find your tribe. Im still looking. 💖

@@Muratzhangabayev974 you could say that about any degree if you don't actually use what you know and leant. Research methods, writing funding applications, research reports, statistics, etc, are all very transferable skills. Anyone with those skills is employable, as long as they can apply those skills going forward.

@@Muratzhangabayev974 Username checks out tho

As long as you don't reach an arbitrary threshold. We humans have a sh-tload of sides to our essences, personalities etc.

I often wondered how it would be to work in a store instead of something that woke me up in the night thinking. I might have been happier in some ways and less fortunate in others, Beata Porgorelska.

@@coreycox2345 That true in everything in our lives as everything has its flipside.

@@beatapogorzelska1241 War is Peace, Freedom is Slavery, and Ignorance is Strength? You do as you please, running roughshod of whomever you may encounter because you are "special?" Hahaha. We are friends. I still love you.

@@coreycox2345 Am I special?Really?

Ahhhhh me too! It’s fucking awesome

I was wondering if you also noticed people who grew in very privileged childhood being that way. I know a friend who comes from a well-off family and works for his dad until his dad passed away and also had inherited almost a quarter million from grandfather. He lacks intellectual curiosity and lacks empathy because he has internalized racism not to which he hate non-white rather imperialism mindset. He believes in self-preservation and interest even by means or exploration. He also lacks empathy for working class people. He isn't tolerant.

@@saragirma6577 That is a great point. I don't know very many privileged people, so I don't have that experience.

@@cindyrhodes thank you for responding even though your comment was 3 years ago

@saragirma6577 you are so welcome!!! This topic is very important and it is an honor to be able to converse with someone else who appreciates it!!!!!!

@@saragirma6577 Also, I have been thinking about that very unfortunate person you used as an example. I'm quite intolerant (internally) of people who are racist, ageist, classist, or of any extremist group ( religious, political, and otherwise), so I choose to stay away from these people, but considering the example of the privileged young man, I can see how "having everything " can destroy a person's drive. If he has been handed everything (and more) his whole life, then i guess he never had to work for anything and sees the world from his own privileged standpoint, and also because of already having everything materially, he has made a decisiin to be complacent. Again, you cited a very good example.

aka FAKE WOKE

That ties in with narcissism.

Meghan

wow i learned something new

🤣🤣🤣 I love it!

Bahahahaha..funny

You are toooooooooooooooo funny. The things that are funny always carry some truth. 👳🏼‍♀️

I agree with you exept for the last part. Lazyness is a consequence, not the reason. You have to break up a human being (or even another higher mammal, for that matter, I assume) in some way in order for him or her to get lazy. F*ck with their mind, make them sick via junk food {and _presumably_ healthy food as well oftentimes) and pharma and so on.

Many narcs try their best to appear less shallow to comic effect.

@@priyao5097 that's true, it also seems to overlap with stupidity at times.

Where are they? They died in the 50s man🤔

Why did u marry her ?

@@maya9685 his mom was a narcissist

That's hilarious

Twinsies! 👯‍♂️ I thought of the exact same scene! I’m 99% sure the actress in question is Shelly Hack (Tiffany on Charlie’s Angels, the long-running model in advertising for Charlie perfume). I could Google the answer, but that’s no fun. I like to keep things old skool, ha ha. 😂

Classic! Thank you for posting this. (Reminds me of my ex and his new squeeze.)

Hear Hear

@@dalegribble5661 🤔hmm hey Dale tell Hank I said hey lol .

Mike Yes most celebs are!!

Thinking hip hop culture as a whole is shallow is shallow

Mike lol👏

Not all and for myself i say temporary haha but then i forget bout it and yea nothing i can do bout it really :^)

I would be very interested in such a video as well (as I know quite a few such people). AvPDs' - percieved or real - shallowness is another interesting topic. Also, what othet people could do to try to push someone toward his or her "locked" depth or toward obtaining depth? Esp. if the person in question shows no interested in it (while (s)he clearly isn't happy even on a shallow level).

Is this when you do not have energy for empathy.

Dr Grande, I would be also interested in this video.

@so true. My son never schizophrenia at 25. The first signl he is not taking this meds is the flat or shallow affects, won't make eye contact or even look around at the people in the room which is not his normal personality. I could have my hands full coming in the room and he won't see I need help and could at least hold the door open. Normally, he would help and keep the door open. It's like he's in his own world. But when I get his attention he will snap out of it and help. And of course I help him to figure out why he's not on his meds. Usually he just ran out and it's easily remedied. But if he still doesn't take his meds he gets the positive symptoms and he thinks he is better now and doesn't need them anymore. That's when I have to spend a good deal of energy and skill to get him to take them. A few times he had to go to the hospital because he didn't believe me and then his anxiety gets overwhelming and the hospital seems like a good idea. It's heartbreaking, but luckily, I went to school to be a psychiatric technician and worked at the state hospital long enouph to be able to recognize the signs and symptoms and no what to do and say to help him get back to himself.

@@itismeagainbitisnotme2328 no offense but nowadays a lot of people wont look you in the eyes so maybe that's why he doesn't?

Damn it! That makes me so angry! Thinking of my anger then makes me kinda sad, and now I'm crying....which makes me laugh at myself and damnit, I'm mad again 😂

That could mean that a person has the potential of achieving deepth in their thoughts but haven't gained that ability or perspective over the world and thus being able to reflect in such manner Just my guess

bergsdal I believe this can be the case.

@thesparitan I like your thoughts

bodge6886 great reply lol.

it can also be " shallow" person who cant handle rejection. Not saying that is the case, but if a possisjon is there and it is for a " hungry" person with larger ambition than they could just stay silent and say nothing instead of saying the truth. The story of the " predator" could have been a nice way to give feedback of the aplicants lack of ambisjon or the impression of the lack. Alot of people just want " good" feedback but cant handle the hard truths. And if the working environment is toxic ( if the boss is shallow and narcissitic) maby its for the good and find another play to work

Sounds like women

4 is me because of how people are when it comes to relationships

@@samc7381 its both doesnt matter what gender it is

This was like the ultimate compliment.

You hit the nail on the head, Chris.

You’ve read his notes? Cool!

No pls no more Donald Trump talk lol

Lol. Libtards and boo hoos get triggered even on a pscyh RU-vid channel. LMFAO

@@kenshofalco8326 I'm not sure. I've heard of many of his ideas though.

Because Jung was supposedly a "satanist". There are sects of religious ppl in the mental health community that spend their time trying to discredit him because they dont like his background and methods.

@@The_Food_Police Oh the guy who wrote about the power of darkness and whatnot. Sects? Are they cults?

@@The_Food_Police no, that's not it at all. modern psychology doesnt respect Jung because his "psychology" is more philosophical than scientific. While his work is very deep and has some philosophical merit (although modern philosophy rejects it for the most part as well), his work should not be understood as holding any "scientific" truth.

@@dremolar4627 obviously what you're dating is true on a general level. I was just sharing what ive heard and found over the years on RU-vid (content made by so called professionals as well as others who are in no way professional). Al though these claims are not academic in nature

yep

Hmmmmmm

Exactly. My narcissistic relatives would never even think to ask this question. They assume they're "deep" people.

Yes, the saddest part about this is that shallow people will not understand it.

right

You that busy??

I ROAM ALONE I am! 🙂 Also I perfer to take the time to support channels by watching its ads rather than some unpaid ramble.

@@BombshellElf just kidding

Oh God same

Yikes 😬 I’m amazed you made it as far as marriage! I would’ve broken up with them

Gratefully single, I don't have to worry about anyone else's depth and how it might affect me. Its a relief.

I just got out of one such. Was about to stumble into another, when epiphany hit me. Thank goodness!

Dale, Nancy is having an affair with John Redcorn. I thought you should know

It can be realized after deep trauma near death, loss of parent, divorce. You are suddenly uncovered and vulnerable and may begin to come to realizations that were blocked or unavailable by these relationships or uninformed perceptions. Almost dying skydiving may help you ask what am I doing jumping out of planes ? Where just a couple of days before it was not even a question.

Good Citizen it can also do the opposite. I’ve become far more risk embracing since a bad diagnosis and subsequent treatments. I no longer fear a lot of the things I used to.

Beautiful ✨

They are tied to trait openess on the "big five" personality test, so it would include openess to new experience or ideas, and creativity. High openess people make for great artists, writers, entrepreneurs, and low openess people make for great bankers, judges, and doctors. It's different, not neccesarily better, to be higher in openess!

Agree with you. I may not show much emotion in public, because, frankly, most people in the world are a holes

You're a loser, and still shy to this day.

No, that does not mean you are shallow.

@@iroamalone6953 Kind of a strong comment. But there is a tribe of a-holes roaming the Earth.

Nice insight!

That's a term I haven't heard in quite awhile. Better than any drug, but allas, transatory.

I think the most significant distinction is that the person with AvPD is afraid of not being liked by others and the vulnerable narcissist is afraid of not being admired by others.

He didn't answer. I'm thinking he's avoiding your question 🙃

@@pocoeagle2 Great answer for sure!!!! Genial!!

Nice profile image bro

You're illuminati. You should already know

Mark Donald Fake deep people are basically people who believe they’re so enlightened, but everything they’re saying is superficial.

@Meister Medusa honestly, that sounds more in the realm of narcissistic personality disorder.

I think you misspelled deep throat

Thanks to you Dr. Grande, I try to never show disdain for anyone exactly. But I do try to be aware.

Or they’re just unintelligent. I have a close friend who fits this and it’s clearly because he’s so unintelligent

Sociopath has lots of emotions, psychopaths not do much.

Thats not the case for me tho