Been reading Atomic Habits by chance? The same thing is said in that only difference is he states that you fall to the level of your systems. Both are true, however.
I disagree. If you dont go around looking for fights, and keep yourself in shape things work out usually. I've found that not only do I handle my own, I do very well when things get rowdy.
Being organized..Maybe not a skill set but an attribute. Your garage space, your tools, your desk, your files and documents, your house, your kitchen, your basement, your car ect... Avoid sloppiness and clutter. Constantly refining the space around you to make better sense and flow.
Ryan Holidays book, “the obstacle is the way” got me through one of the hardest moments in my life. I would listen to it over and over on Audible for days. I recommend it. Hearing the quotes from stoic philosophers makes me feel strong and limitless. And it got me to realize that the secret to making a million is making better investment.
I started out with a financial advisor called *" Rochelle Dungca Schreiber ".* Her honest approach gives me complete ownership and control of my positions, and her rates are incredibly affordable given my ROI. However, do your due diligence before contacting a financial advisor.
“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.” ― Robert A. Heinlein
Another thing I would add to that list is the ability to work with your hands. To be able to fix the things that you possess when they inevitably break is a sign of intelligence and competence. It also saves so much money when you're able to fix the car and the house yourself. And I would say that passing down those skills to your children is a great blessing.
With regard to evolving, as I mentioned in my other post I’m 61. I’m not the same man as I was in my 20s and 40s. Experience and wisdom does come with age. Now in my 60s I have many life lessons to share. But don’t stagnate as you get older. In today’s society we shuffle our older folks off out of the way. No that I’m officially in that category, I’ll be damned if I will be put on the self. Neither should you as you get older.
Do what you wanna do. Why would you go on the "shelf" because you age. I still do everything at 56, that I did at 25. But at 56, it's a little different. But I'm still doing it. Just keep moving!
This is the finest book on money ever written and possibly that can ever be written. The rules are far simpler than people believe. There are other good books, including Rich Dad Poor Dad, but this is the one to start with. Easy read, practically no math, and practical.
Haven't watched the video yet but I reckon; 1. A great sense of humor 2. Mental fortitude 3. Physical strength and mobility 4. The ability to defend yourself (hand to hand combat and maybe weapon use) 5. Resourcefulness 6. The ability to fix and build things 7. Sacrifice 8. To always respond and never react 9. The ability to take responsibility for himself and his family 10. To guide your children with tough love whilst still maintaining the image of what your children respect.
Super badass advice! I’m a 44yr old Marine and have been bringing my kids up with these views for 18+ years. It’s so refreshing to hear someone else say it on an open platform. Thank you-thank you, thank you my brother and please keep creating content of this caliber. Til then, keep on rolling! 😎👍
@@bitupanbhuyan5183 It's my pleasure to serve good people. Thank you for your support and trust we're all doing our part to keep everyone safe around the world 😎👍
This would've been excellent advice to my younger self. I remember in my early 20's I taught my niece how to change a tyre and change the spark plugs on my car. Years later a boyfriend of hers got a flat tyre and he was all 'deer-in-headlights' about it and had no clue what to do. My niece rolled up her sleeves and changed it like a boss 💪. I was so proud of her 😌👍
My daughter has a story like this. She and some friends were going out to eat when the dude got a flat. He goes to call AAA and she looked at him and said “got a jack?”. I’m not worried about her being broken down on the side of the road waiting for help.
the past two days ive been slipping into what i'd call boy psychology and this has given me a bit of a wake up call. Being good at being a man and being a good man takes constant work. Tomorrow i will work harder. Tomorrow i will be better.
I feel that the "real men don't care about how they look" mentality is grounded in misconceptions of what style is. There's the boy who buys $500 Jordan's because he believes that will buy him friends then there's the man who invests $150 in a pair of formal dress shows that will last and communicate maturity. The latter is the real man and real style.
MeMyselfAndI Correct, there is a difference between buying what is on trend and popular, and buying versatile pieces to add to your wardrobe that are high quality and will last and look good for years.
on trend/popular has its times and places; tho yeah, buying a $70 pair of gazelles or DCs or sambas, one will get far more value mileage than say the stereotypical $500 pair of jordans. as for formal dress: every man should own a suit. whether for an interview/court/wedding. tho 99.99% of the time, i greatly prefer to be dressed to be able to easily act in any sort of emergency or protect scenario. suits literally hamper that. tho yeah, every man, and really every adult (that's to say, every woman also) has their uniform, which along with looking good, is functional, and likely conveys a measure of authority & competence. oh yeah. fits them right too.
MeMyselfAndI that 500$ pair of Jordan’s could be sold for double/triple the price in a few months after the release. Don’t dismiss sneakers because they seem immature. They’re good investments with the right intentions
I love watching this channel. Sometimes I stray from the path I need to be on and start doing bad habits. Start thinking negatively about society. People in general and it really puts me in a bad headspace full of hatred so watching and listening to these videos remind me that I need to be better and it’s a constant ongoing process
"it's not about comparison to other individuals, it's about comparison to yourself" I have given that advice to my son SO many times. I am glad to hear someone else say that. There is nothing wrong with competition, of course, but there are those circumstances under which a man must simply judge himself against his own personal potential and worry less about the capabilities of others
@Nasa Official - I hear you brotha. I’m 48 years young; and I’m just trying to make up for all the mistakes I’ve done in my youth and it’s tough. Being a father and a husband just adds to the challenge and it has definitely defined my character. I’m learning sooo much from these forums, it’s sometimes exhausting but I love how much I’m learning... so yes; I do agree that it brings a manly tear to my eye too.
As a young firefighter, I’m put into situations that I wasn’t exactly trained for. One skill any man should be able to do; “figure it out, and make it happen.” No matter what situation you’re put in you should be able to find your point of egress, and then a second point of egress. I mean that figuratively and literally.
Having listened to this and reflecting on my life thus far I've realized two things. How much I've utilized these strategies to my success and how much more I have yet to learn. Thank you for the wisdom.
Learn to sew. At least how to reattach a button. It takes like an hour to learn and you'll never ever run around with a shirt missing a button. Learn how to cook. If you only eat what you prepare yourself it's so hard to become fat it's mind-boggling.
@@notaprogrammer7970 That sounds terrible for your body. Eventually there won't be enough fat for your body to take energy from and it will start eating at your muscles.
@@mike.p.1400 There is no such thing as woman's stuff or mans stuff, there's stuff that needs done, get it done. That's one of the most important and beneficial things people learn in the military.
Biggest muscle for self defense is your brain. Nothing wrong with avoiding fights. Cooler heads prevail. Avoid bad situations if you can. Strength plays into most hobbies. It’s been a long time since I’ve been physical altercation. Think that’s what some hands on basic training will make you more comfortable and build muscle memory
The ability to focus without interruption in the front site post in any environment and under any condition is the one skill that has pulled me thru the three toughest spots I've ever been in. All else were temporary phases.
As someone who studies behavioral psychology, I find it to be a common misconception ego is the enemy. Ego is the part of the self which moderates the self between social pressures and your own desires (the super ego and the id). The ego is what responds with logic and reasoning, arguable the individual part of The LOGOS (Truth). The ego is "you" within the self - gross body. Ego is the "breath of life", that separates you from unconscious life and machines. The ego, when regarded and respected, is the Hero.
As a man with an unstable knee (can barey walk up the stairs without planning my steps) I still agree: Being injured doesn't absolve you from the duty of being strong/fit.
Those are random things youtube suggests, though I did enjoy the podcast. One very important aspect to leadership that I feel like people are not going to understand based on what you said today is knowing when not to be the leader. While you shouldn't shrink away from leadership you should also know when someone else is better suited to be a leader at that time. This is hugely important and yet men and women often fight over it, and normally because of their ego.
I'm really glad you included self-defence, since i think that's something which is often overlooked. Personally, I've had military self-defence training that went a little past the basic training the average soldier gets in the Swiss Armed Forces (I'm a sergeant). However, there are two more skill sets which I find very important that you didn't include: 1) Cooking. One should at the very least be able to prepare a meal for one's self, but I think it's better to have a certain repertoire of dishes and cooking techniques, giving one more flexibility. Ideally, one should even be able to prepare a dish to impress guests or a date. 2) First Aid: That should be obvious, but I've seen too many people who aren't capable of putting on a simple bandage. Every man (actually, every person in general) should be able to stop a bleeding, bring someone unconscious to safety and perform CPR.
I know this is late, but just recently found your channel. I’ve found the best way to learn to communicate is to teach someone who wants to learn a skill for a stressful situation. What I mean is being able to communicate well enough to teach someone a new skill, then stress them out and be able to flip the switch back to a calm and collective teacher. The best example I can think of is teaching and testing others in combat medicine. You have to be calm and communicate effectively to teach the basic skills, but also be aggressive enough that you can stress them out and make them realize how serious the training is, then calm down enough to explain what they did and did not do correctly.
I also think the mark of a man is legacy. I think it’s important for a man to pass on his experience. IE: Finding someone to mentor. Not abdicating the responsibility of guiding others to manhood.
The biggest one is the ability to get the heck back up. There will be a time in a man's life when he's knocked flat. Some get hit harder than others. But when it's easier to lay there or quit, having that ability to stand back up and move forward is the greatest attribute a man can have. It's hard to master that, but you find out who you are when your armor fails
Owning your space is one of the most important for me. Meaning standing your ground for wife, family etc whatever is important to you. Making clear even if beeing in a normal day job, that there are things above all else and if anyone messes with this you are there to fight, or looking for a new job etc.
Everyone has their own god and in my personal opinion that god is real to them and i respect that as long as they aren't harming others.nobody has proof of any god being real so maybe we are crazy.
Not training in everything, not only a weapon/handgun, you become a body in the way. Your communication before the event, lays the groundwork for what happens after it. I've had the pleasure of being trained in high end military tactics. That was years ago, I spent 50% of my time in continued trained, weapons, self defense, emotional congruence in life. Learning about laws, new tech, people, it's an endless battle, and it never ends. Keep up with the top person you see, and then, you should still work harder.
This was truly enlightening, I'm a young man who is embarking on his hero's journey and I'm still figuring alot of stuff out along the way. What you shared here, definitely helps point me in the right direction. Thanks
Found Order of Man two days ago. Totally signed up to the concepts and the applications. Always thought I was born a thousand years too late. Reading the comments and listening to OoM pods etc , I realise I have a brotherhood.
Order of man Thank you for these videos. I also encourage for other men to look into Exodus 90. It's a spiritual program that gives you freedom. It's just a suggestion but has many rewards. Hope all men out there are doing well and bettering themselves everyday.
Ha! Disabled vet here. Just watched this while working out in my garage gym. Laughed out loud that the first skill was being strong. Hey guys, it sucks to have the body pains I have. Tough. I still need to work out and toughen my body, mind, and spirit. Great video
Thanks man! I think you are exactly right! I was actually taught to pursue all those things from a child up. My Dad was a very good teacher, he knew what would motivate me. For instance, we used to get 100 lb sacks of feed for our cows. When I was about 8 years old, I figured I would carry one of those sacks from the van to the barn. My Dad watched me, not saying anything, let me do it, and I was able to do it because, I am naturally stronger than average, and I kept that mindset, never fearing a challenge whether mental or physical . Bottom line: if you are a Father, Foster in your children some of these attitudinal implants, let them take pride in taking difficult chsllenges.
I’m 49 and I appreciate how you have given men back our power! I ordered “Manhood in The Making”, it will be here tomorrow. Now I need to subscribe to your podcast and IG.
As a girl, I would agree that your list sounds like the makings of good men. Several of these I think can apply to girls as well. We are all works in progress. Keep up the good work!
I have been a lifelong snowboarder, mountainbiker (bmxer) and skateboarder. The second I started weight training again in my late ish twenties I noticed a massive difference in my sports. Could do everything better with ease
All of this is of great importance here on Earth, but the most important is the belief of a higher power. To lead your wife and children to that higher power so that you can live an eternity forever in his presence is the ultimate task of a man, and it does not take a lifetime to conquer just a few sentences and an open heart. A lifetime of living this out will grant you eternity with your loved ones. Thanks for the content! Stay focused MEN!!
Ok this is the second video from this channel that I’ve watched and can I just say I love what you talk about. I’m a woman, I was a single mother for 8 years and I wish I had come across this channel sooner. I know I can only teach my son so much about being a man, and I was blessed that my dad was my son’s male role model and “dad” during those 8 years. But I think this channel would have helped me so much back then. I’m glad I found the channel now that he’s a teen though, my husband already nurtures and instills the things you talk about, but I like listen and understand and learn so I can help, if I can. Thanks for sharing and God bless!
You nailed it. Unfortunately many of us who have had privileged upbringings have a difficult time mastering these. Myself included. My father who was born into poverty mastered all of them.
Sometimes I think about where I would be mentally and spiritually now had these disciplines been instilled in me growing up instead of trying to develop them now in my mid twenties. Not despairing over it but something I want to keep in mind as I raise my own children.
My definition of a "Master" is someone who is truly and always consequential in what he says, what he does and what he thinks. Harder than it seems, i myself know there is work to do to get there
I'm 64 and disabled but that's mostly due to my legs. However I continue to work my upper body to regain my former strength from before my illness. I stay mentally strong by not being attached to money and things. I don't get depressed even though I endure many of the same things that cause depression. I have trained in martial arts combat and I believe everyone should male and female.
Didn't even realize how long the video was until the end brother . Glad I found your channel on RU-vid loving the advice . First video I saw on my recommendation list was The World is starving for men.. I knew I had to check out more of your videos and subscribe . DISCIPLINE EQUALS FREEDOM.
7:00 most people dont like my assertive communication no matter how much I try to soften it up. Seems I just have too strong of a personality and confidence. Been hard my entire life.
Interesting point. I can relate. How do you relate to passive/agressiveness? I realized some nuance in above description often sneaks into my style of communication. Often derailing my long term ambitions.
Thank you for these eight skills. I agree with them all. I also agree that everything is circumstantial. In addition to these 8 skills we must also know, and remember, that the number of skills needed as a man is infinite. There is no set limit.
I enjoyed listening to this! A lot of what you listed is actually what I looked for in my spouse when I dated without realizing it and I'm so glad I did. This also gives me an understanding of how I should challenge my boys to be their very best.
I agree with the presence argument. I work in the legal system. A police officer I used to train with states the reason that he gets in less fights in the street than other police officers is that he is put together well. The attention to detail sends a message that he can take care of himself. A sloppy uniform sends the wrong message and the result is altercations on the street.
Great video Ryan! I’d been a journey of self discovery for several years now. Had I found this video when starting that journey, I would have had an incredible blueprint. Completely spot on and consistent with my learnings and self realizations. Keep up the good work and you now have a new dedicated follower.
34:05 *#2 Assertive Communication* *May I suggest a slight adjustment from this to "Persuasive Communication", because it really doesn't matter as much how clear or firm you come across, but how much you move your listener(s) to comply with you.* 😉👍🏼
As a former Marine, I couldn't agree more. Most of these skill sets require a high level of effort to meet a minimum standard. Additionally, these skill sets require constant maintenance. Especially, the soft skill sets: communication, financial acumen, etc.
Here’s the list of the things I strongly believe every man should know at a high level. 1.- second language 2.- a pure science (math, physics, biology or anything of this sort) 3.- understand how your body works and what your body needs in order to function properly. 4.- a martial art. 5.- a trade ( electrician, plumber, or something where tools are required) 6.- never quit anything just because something is complex. There’s many reasons why I strongly believe these skills are necessary in this life.
Outstanding!! Keep this content coming. Young people need to hear this. There has been no time like the present that our society bombards us with feminism and the bullshit of toxic masculinity. People/society are going to need to be educated that men being REAL men is a much needed thing in this world.
Carlos casadonte on his book he said what is the difference between a man and a warrior. A warrior take everything as a challenge. Ordinary man eater take things as a curse or a blessing.
Just subscribed because I agree with you on all points. I don't know yet what your beliefs are, but for me #1 should be continually building your relationship with God. If you are at one with God the other 8 of these skills become much more manageable/achievable.
Or go into Koza City and buy one. Koza City now known as Okinawa City. After Years in the Blue Ridge Mountains I have made everything except a pair of Tonfas.
Great tips! 1. For physical strength, I would include clean diet and intermittent fasting. 2. Assertive Communication: to master this CRITICAL and somewhat difficult skill expanding your vocabulary and being around other good communicators will accelerate your learning curve. 3. Self defense: for I opted to conceal carry...lol 4. Financial acumen: MUST have skill that literally pay dividends! 5. Effective networking: this skill is highly underrated and a GAME changer in all aspect of your life. I'm about to land my dream job with a one of the best companies in the US due to networking effectively. 6. Physical Presence: love the poster's examples of what this means...GOLD! 7. Continual Education/Learning: I'm just getting into overland/off road my rig--such a great advice! Learning new skills keeps you sharp and young and a very resourceful person. Thank you for the great post--you're changing many lives out there for the better and we that more than ever.
This is awesome advice! A lot of guys I know say stuff like that, “a real man doesn’t need to worry about…” and it’s always been frustrating to me bc it’s always felt like a limiting belief. Thanks for the video 👍🏼
@@Cam-dz5sj I think you are confusing Justification and sanctification with being perfect. When we ask Jesus into our lives and our names are written in the book of life, that is justification, because Jesus justified us with his death on the cross. The process of becoming perfect, or holy, is sanctification, and this process isn't complete until go to be with him.
i think hunting should be on here as well. i've never hunted before but i would definitely want to learn how just in case. i think it's an important skill to know, along with tracking animals. i would also add "how to land navigate". like read maps, terrains, gps, and a compass.
As a life long martial artist I tell my students: “You must be violent when learning martial arts. A person that has learned martial arts and is not violent is harmless.”
First of all, I want to say thank you very much good sir. With all the recent negativity towards being a man, I greatly appreciate this video. I have a few small things to add to the list, though I also do believe that they fit in with the over all existing lists. Number one, that I feel should fall in with the main list should be teaching others. Much like I feel you are doing yourself with this video. But I feel this would fall in with leadership. And number two, I know this wasn't meant to be a super detailed or exhaustive list. But falling under the survival skills category. Even the simplest and basic first aid traing and knowledge can come in handy. You don't have to be a brain surgeon, but knowing the basics of splints, bandaging, stitches, and CPR. Can tackle most of the less serious injuries you might come across in a crisis situation. But again I want to thank you for the great video.
Hey man, I like much this type of video, however could you in description put shortcut to each chapter ? It'd help me a lot bc I don't have 30 uninterrupted minutes Thx for considering me And Bravo for all you're doing !
This is from the old one 1. Relationship 2. Intellect 3. Leadership 4. Manly skills (cars, construction, etc.) 5. Money 6. Physical fitness 7. Self mastery 8. Style and fashion
Awesome beard man. Keep up the good work bro. I'm a single dad of a 13 year old homeschool daughter and a widower . It's been really tough because I came out of the gutter at the same time I got my daughter . She has been home schooled for the last four and a half years so I have to work from home or take her on jobs with me . so I have been working for myself . It has been really hard and we had times of great poverty , but I would not trade it for anything . Father God has always brought us through and raised us up to a higher level continually. While we were in poverty we started working out and eating right . Most people say they can't eat healthy because it's too expensive but we did it without any income for a long period of time because God Made A Way. Through this whole time God has given me the strength , desire and power to clean my life up from addictions and all types of hell. I just found you and I'm going to binge watch your videos for a while. This is how I do when God sends me a new source of Truth from real men and women, but it has mostly been men, I binge watch them. Cramming everything I can get from you and others into myself and then taking action on it meanwhile. I've been doing this for about 4 to 5 years now and my life has radically changed. And steady changing for the better. I have been driven by the Holy Spirit to make up for the almost 40 years I wasted before that. Father God has driven me to study approximately 20,000 hours in the last 4 to 5 years. He has been preparing HIS and time military. Some of us were forerunners. He has actually been preparing me for around 20 years or so but I was shifted into high gear in about 5 years ago. HALLELUYAH!!!
Agreed with these...and...read your Bible. Excellent examples of skills a man needs to master within these chapters. Primarily, a healthy reliance on God and personal self control.
