Timestamps 1). Find the source 0:36 2). Accept who you are 1:33 3). Acknowledge your strengths and weakness 2:06 4). Rewrite your story 2:48 5). Be your own hero 3:35 6). Challenge yourself 4:24 7). Build a support system 5:27 8). Practice self-love 6:17 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I’ve had low self-esteem and low self-efficacy ever since I can remember. I’ve never been top of the class, strongest performing employee etc. But I’ve realized in terms of achievement, I’m on par with most people out there. I went to college and graduate school, have been employed since high school and have a family. It is because of perfectionism and a lack of external validation that I constantly feel like I’m not meeting expectations. I tell myself I’m only good if I exceed expectations, but never feel like I do. Now that I’ve got some awareness over this. I’d like to finally start feeling good about myself. Just need to undo 3 decades worth of negative self-talk.
Yes I highly relate. I was very sheltered as a child and was not really allowed to socialize with others & bullied. Man did this mess me up. Perfectionism, toxic ppl pleasing, victim mindset and no self love. If you met me you probably wouldn't know this, I have stuffed it down for years. But I am addressing it now; the healing journey is long and hard - but so worth it.
@@happycreature3993 Exactly what they said - undoing allll the negative self talk. I'll explain what I do specifically. It does center around my faith, so I hope I don't come off as religious or offend you. But it's worked for me -The bible says that we have self control, we control our thoughts, not the other way around -When a negative thought flies by we take it captive, reject it and cast it away...and if we don't then a stronghold (like a fortress) builds overtime. It needs to be demolished -We are also told "you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free" -All the negative thoughts you have about yourself, do you believe it about others? Would you say these things to your friends? To a child? Of course not. So why is it true for yourself? we are all "beautifully and wonderfully made", all have inherit worth, and we all have room to grow. Give yourself grace -And lastly, " Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable" Like the video says, change the narrative in your mind. You might cringe & not believe at first...but overtime it will tear those walls down. As soon as you catch yourself spiraling, imagine a "stop" sign, and think good loving thoughts. With time, it'll become habit. It'll change your liiiiiife. God loves u! Also check out Nicole Vignola on instagram. She's a neuroscientist that specializes in this, thought pattern healing. Her book Rewire just came out and it's helping me so much!!
I got self esteem and self-love. Finally I love myself. I'm proud of myself. I'm stopped judging myself. Started celebrating all my wins. Spoke nicely about me to myself. Explored my style even more. Started doing skincare and make up. So I feel good, I feel pretty, I feel confident, I know I have hobbies, I know I got something to bring to the table, I've got qualities. This is what helped me. Hope this comment can help give you an idea of how you can work on yourselves and built up self-esteem
Lately i've been feeling bad about myself, i feel like im not enough and consider myself a failure Today was my birthday and it just was a reminder of how much i suck, even though my family supports me but i still empty inside, i dont even have friends, well, i had but eventually they lost interest in me. I think i just need some time to recover and gain some self steem which i really need. Thank u! (Voice is really relaxing btw)
"Humanity is truly perfect only through its imperfections." Our ability to live and learn is our greatest gift. When someone "messes up" I tell them "Congratulations! You are human." We all make mistakes. Living and learning is part of what makes us Human.
The most important way to improve self esteem is to develop your own skills and abilities. Work hard to get better at something. Study harder and get better grades. Do a great job at work. Learn a new job skill. Get better at a musical instrument or artistic skill. Develop an athletic skill or lose weight through diet and exercise. Just work on yourself and get better. Avoid time-sucks on the internet. If you become more valuable to others, you will recognize your own worth.
@@aurora00 No, self esteem comes from a sense of your own competence. If you are good at something, it makes you feel good about yourself. You see that value reflected in others when they value you, but their recognition is not your source of value. It just helps persuade you of your value.
Same bc of my stepdad constantly put me down and everyone used to always tell me to shut up and that I was the r word and too incompetent to even walk anywhere by myself and too r word to get in to college let alone pass college
I don't suffer from this condition, but I do have psychological and emotional challenges that are too perplexing and challenging to get into, but your channel does help a lot, and I'm thankful and grateful for that! My hero is any person that is compassionate, caring, giving, empathetic among many other attributes! Those people inspire me and give me hope that the best is yet to come! Have a great one!
My hero is Abo Ubaidah who struggle to liberate his state from the villains. The world knows this. Their self esteem come from religion of truth no matter what. Great video today. Congrats
its funny cause i’ve been making efforts on improving my self esteem (i’ve been doing great 💪) this video will also be a help. Thank you :) i find that self compassion is really important
Incredible video @Psych2go! Despite how much I've grown, there's still so much more I can do to improve and build my self esteem. I've also realized that I still have a long way to go in gaining more confidence. In this video I really appreciated how you brought up that acknowledging events from our past can be beneficial for ourselves in moving forward. Additionally, you made a great point in how we need to acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses in order to appreciate how we are. Also a bit of a side note here, but having the phrase "you matter" at the end of some of your videos speaks volumes and truly does mean the world to everyone who watches them. So, I just wanted to once again say, thank you @Psych2go!
I always go to this channel in times of need, like today, where I feel like I suck and the one thing a good at, swimming. This is helping me not break down whenever I go to the bathroom or see some sort of pool. Thank you so much ❤️
I’ve had low self esteem for as long as I can remember. When I was about like 7 years old, I remember having a breakdown in my house and kept telling myself that I’m a failure and I wish I was never born. I tried locking myself in my room for a week (didn’t work out), and when I was like 10 I would think about hurting myself often. All my life I had done what people told me to, let people invade my boundaries, etc. Now I get no sleep, I don’t eat, and I don’t take care of myself in general until I saw this video. Thank you so much Psych2Go, ❤ your videos always help out so much. And to everyone else, stay healthy and love yourself!
My favourite hero is my mom, she is the person who has believed in me every day she wants the best for me and I’m trying my very best everyday, thank you mom
Thanks for the insightful video… cuz my self esteem isn’t the best either… but I hope to improve it a lot. Thx Psych2Go, your videos have slowly helped but also changed my life and perspective in so many ways. Additionally, bringing back Amanda’s voice is a welcome thing for any video you guys make.
Thank you so much for this video. You have not just added value to my life, but to the thousands of people who have watched this video. May God bless you❤
6:43 Conflating self love with selfishness has been a key misconception for me, but I remember hearing from somewhere that the big difference between the two is that the latter is done at the expense of others.
But how can I make myself believe I'm happy when I'm really not happy? Why would I live a self-made lie? I'm 19 (well, in 6 days) and I'm already deep into hopelessness. I really don't trust anyone anymore: I feel like people just cheer me up because of pity and I only pretend to be cheered up just to not hurt them. My existence has never been and it's not important to anyone: the world wouldn't even notice I'm not here. I'm also convinced that I'm gonna die alone and never find that special person (who would want to be with a wind guy that can only spit facts about useless topics that I don't even fully understand or have knowledge of and that only knows how to give more pity about non-existent problems?), and my mental and emotional problems are nothing compared to what others may feel. Still, the last persons I would let to know about all of these would be by family, I simply don't trust them. Right now, my only goals in life are: - Finish university, work, get money, move alone to anywhere far from my family and then get help. - Not let the intrusive thoughts take full control. - Learn how to sing and growl. - Learn to write lyrics and, eventually, songs.
Hi actually I need some help I have been feeling quite mentally drained from school so much that I feel like crying even though I am 12 and everyday in school I feel anxious and tensed every single second I just can't relax and feel like taking leaves from school and feeling lack of motivation so do you have any tips please I really need it ???
Whenever you start feeling the pressure try blocking everything out(😅only when you can. Kinda hard to do when your teacher is in the middle of the lesson.)take a deep breath & tell yourself I can do this. Then set a limit. Can I make it 1 more hour? Maybe 30 mins, maybe you can only stand 5 more mins, that's fine. Start there & check back internally in 5 mins. How am I feeling now? Maybe try a bathroom break. Sometimes it's good to just sit in the bathroom & take 5 deep breaths. Check internally again. If you can also try to talk to your parents or the school counselor, a teacher you trust or even a friend your age. You'll be surprised at the insight others in your life may have. I hope this helps. Good luck! ❤ & hang in there. Life is tough, but it DOES get better.
Favorite hero’s are Spider-Man, Batman, and Superman Reasons: Spider-Man: He inspires me to get back up even though life is a total jerk sometimes Batman: Shows the results of hard work and what you’re capable of if you stick to it Superman: shows that you can be strong, strong willed, and still be a kind person.
i sent this video to my best friend, kelly, she's the most vulnerable yet sweetest person you could ever meet she has problems with self esteem, and i have been doing all i can to help her, so i thought, why not, send her a video to help her on that journey from the very channel that has helped me literally cure someone elses depression? and here i am, hoping for the best, with the highest hopes ty, Psych2Go, for..existing, in general, i don't know where would i be without u
I want to say that... The past does not define us, but our past has built who we are now and it is the story we carry through our lives, writing more chapters. Thus, without our own past, we would not be us but someone else and therefore we should accept ourselves.
Hey psych2go! My favorite heroes are Skipper penguin from TV Madagascar series and Moomin pappa from the Moomins :3 And the text "we are going on an adventure!" Well... in the newest Moomins from 2019 Pappa Moomin said so x3
im still in my childhood, and im very young but this helps. i just am very sad, and feel that im boring and stuff like that. for example, i saw sorry to much that i say sorry about me saying sorry about me saying sorry and then i just do something.
I have put alot of these things to practice. Seems like all it does is piss people off, so I must be doing something right. Nothing people hate more than the percieved to be drug addict being nice to them and passing drug tests lol
It's rare for me to even give myself self-love for the reasons that I do feel it's a selfish act to me. I set myself rules in my head with Do's and Don'ts on what I am allowed to do as a person to make me feel happy. I think now in my life is the time to start focusing hard on issues such as very low self esteem and self-love since it's really putting me down. I've also had issues with myself with asking friends or family for advice or support since I truly feel I need to deal with it on my own, it feels wrong for me to reach out sometimes unless I can't handle it anymore. I will even apologize to people helping me since I feel selfish asking for help.
To whoever is reading this, know that you are loved and cared about. Jesus loves you, you are loved and your feelings are Important. Dont listen to whatever people say about you, and my heart goes out to those who’s parents are absent or abusive. I hope you are feeling alright- God bless you, stay safe
“It takes strength to face our sadness and to grieve and to let our grief and anger flow in tears when they need to. It takes strength to talk about our feelings and to reach out for help and comfort when we need it.” - Fred Rogers “Don’t be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves.” - Dale Carnegie
For me, my Parents were emotionally abusive and I was bullied at school as well. My favorite hero is A higher power, Sailor Moon, Yes Pretty Cure 5 hero’s, BTS and BT21. Also Winnie the Pooh is A Cuddly Wise Bear.
It is so difficult... There is someone who apparently likes me and I really want it to work but I don't know how can I let someone like me if I am disgusted by myself. I'm not showing the truth but it is there all the time, not allowing me to just accept it and go with it.
What if you don't feel like you deserve nice things in life? What if you feel like you're not good enough enough even for yourself? I feel like im behind everyone
I currently work in a grocery store. Pretty much a self-esteem killer all it's own. And as far as the general public is concerned. Grocery store employees are just name tags and job titles. Nothing else...
i have a question. Why might you feel like you have different personalities around different people? and thank you for the video :). i’ll try my best to do these things.
I don't have a way of dealing with it for you but i can give you advice for i too deal with a body shaming mother, you should tell the people around what's happening, tell yourself he's wrong because allot of people who think they're fat are actually quite skinny and even if you aren't skinny just remember It's the inside that counts always keep that in mind Hope it helps ❤
