Goes for you females to. My wife as into the church REALLY DEEP, sang in a choir to. Guess what?! caught her ass cheating on me while I was out to sea, and the kicker is she got pregnant to. Just because they are Christians and go to church and reads the bible DON'T MEAN that they are right. The church is FULL of hypocrites and heathens. Ive seen WAY TOO much to think otherwise.
its true. My ex fiancé was a new Christian and at the time that meant to me GREEN LIGHT> but someone told me something afterwards that is akin to this. Just because you are both Christian doesn't mean your equally yoked. ...doesnt mean you see eye to eye.
I committed to waiting for God in my relationships, and actually told God in my prayers that I didn’t need a relationship, and I just wanted Him to grow me. Well, about a month later, God brought the most amazing man into my life. I’ve been watching Christian dating/marriage videos because we’re now talking about marriage-and he meets every single one of these. We push each other CLOSER to Jesus, and I love that about our relationship. He even meets number 8, lol!
I met a woman who said she was a Baptist. Everything was going well until I picked up the phone and her husband was on thee other line. Date for a year or more. There is no rush. However dont listen to everything they say or church because I followed my leadership, and it ended me still single here at 53. Ohhhh and,,,,we live in babylon the harlot USA. Im gonna go overseas and FIND A VIRTOUS WOMAN WHO IS NOT ABOUT MATERIALISM.
So true I clicked subscribe straight - Lord Jesus I just want someone who loves Jesus with all his heart like where are they? hidden under a bible somewhere 😂
Seems more the norm than the exception, in my experience. To each their own what they feel is the truth/ gives their life meaning... But for a supposed role model hero dude being selfless and loving enemies, majority of christians are far from lmao
the first time i realized i like the guy i have a crush on is when we were talking about what we wanna be when we grow up. he had a plan, but immediately said that he wanted to go wherever God wanted him to. and my heart fluttered 🥺🥺
I really liked number 1 and 7. I feel like those are applicable to something I'm going through now with a guy. I specifically liked how you said he can worship differently and show his faith differently. But your other tips were so good that I'm now going to write them down to keep them in mind. Also, loved number 8! Literally was laughing out loud haha.
I LOVE what you said about how the guy's relationship with God might look a little different. As someone who really connects with God during worship, I oftentimes find that if I'm in church and see someone who I'm interested in, I'll watch them during worship. This is a good reminder that just because they don't raise their hands or close their eyes doesn't mean they're not worshiping in their own way!! Another wonderful video Tiff
As a guy, I'm surprised that you didn't mention hygiene and grooming. Its important that both girls and guys have great grooming habits, if not. Then I will have to pass :/
@Laundry Sanitizer with 0% Bleach well i can see in your name why you value it so much XD. But yea, we need to be educated on not just brushing our teeth, but using a good facial washing regime+ moisturizer, as well as the hair. And on the mention of hair, guys need to learn to shave some of that back,neck and trim armpit hair, its getting gross. Some say that it isn't masculine, i say they are foolish. Thats just my 2 cents.
Yes , I wish I had known that finding the right mate has much more than just find a Christian. That was pretty much all I heard and talked about growing up and it really impacted me forever. I assumed out of naivety that a Christian guy would suddenly have these characteristics . I learned after my divorce 4 years ago, that’s not the case. I ended up being hasty in my decision to get married because of this idea that was formulated and although I was blessed with an amazing daughter, it brought a lot of pain. God has done a great healing.
I ended a relationship in it's early stages because of number 7. I was wondering if it was the right decision but this video confirmed in my heart that it was, thank you!
I'm so glad!! It's so easy to second-guess ourselves after ending a relationship. I'm glad you had the courage to do so though when you felt it wasn't right. :)
@@TiffanyDawn please help me I need Christian women My name is Nadeem Christ and I belong to Pakistan My age 23 year Please help me Glory to Jesus Christ
Paige, you’re not the only. It’s a tough call to make but I’m pretty sure God understands attraction and knows it’s importance. I too, am having to do thing same thing.
Where was this 7 years ago...I definitely wouldn't be divorced now if I had even 1 or 2 of these tips. I married a Christian but he was "crazy" and abusive...
I've never heard of people going into debt, but I have friends who've spent hundreds or even a thousand on the latest games or gaming tech. It's a bigger problem from a financial perspective then a lot of people know.
2/3rds way through the vid. i absolutely adore the relationship you have with james, i feel great knowing about genuine love in this world! i really hope that your marriage and even the friendship you have with him stays strong. much love
I totally agree with looking for a man whose is humble enough to change if called to. I tell all the girls I talk to to look for someone who has a "willing heart". No one can be fully submitted to Christ and not respond well to godly correction (by well I mean not live in denial or remain defensive and unchanged when God speaks).
Just love your transparency. Your tips have been so helpful. Love the relationship you have with your husband. I can tell that you guys really love each other. I desire that. I just wish it wasn't taking this long. 46!!
I hear ya! My first marriage lasted 25 years. I was 19. Im 49 and waiting for who Heavenly Father has for me. HIS way, not mine. Having patience is rough! 😄
All of these were tremendously on point. I would further elaborate on the Treating Others to include "How does he treat his mother and other women in his life?" That is such a key factor, Lately, I've also paid close attention to "How does he respond to criticism?" If you attend school or work with him, does he realize his mistake by admitting he deserved it, or does he shout obscenities and hold grudges? While we all have our times of getting upset at a situation, the man who can show maturity is always the keeper.
I'm a guy, maybe this could help me to find something I'm lacking. Glad you posted a video about this :). (Edit): this helped a lot, I feel like I see flaws of myself, I really need to change a lot of things. Not change because of someone, only, bc then becomes an idol, but because I can glorify and obey God. Thanks it was really good reflection video!
Dude, I mean improving is one thing... But improving and remolding one's entire self just to get something we expect will "complete" us, is folly. Especially going to the level of dating someone who has kids, absolute no-no, just abuse of power and not my issue to ever deal with. But in general too-- happiness is never a permanent thing. It comes and goes, and life always improves and gets worse no matter what we do. It's just the little things that add up that makes us feel whether our lives are shaping up and have hope, or descending to a bad place and getting only dark... But life always crumbles away and starts anew-- why the only marriages that last are people willing to accept and adapt with change. And communication. I'm not even a marriage type, nor expect to be, but it seems clear as day. Expectations lead to disappointment & resentment, enjoy the small things and finding our own well springs of fulfilment and preferably not relying on others is the more ideal. And especially for people who have extensive histories of mental stuff/ can't catch a break... Yeah I'm not rushing into trusting other people, especially modern women, any time soon, and if worth their salt, when I make a comeback/ am stronger again, they ought to chase me. Only a matter of time before those remaining in the field lower their expectations, late 20's sure suck, but least I have some major gained wisdom/ life experience for sure
Wow #7 hit me hard! This was a great video and I’m thankful you made it ❤️ I’m starting to date after a 6 year toxic damaging relationship so it’s hard to know right steps and this helped so much ❤️
I really love this. I just started watching your videos! These are amazing statements. I also believe you should identify if it's easy to have a conversation with the person and if it's easy to be yourself. That's what you should look for as well ♥️
All very good points! Especially your point about how some church goers can be “crazy” (I even hesitate to call certain people in church “Christian”, as going to church all your life is obviously no guarantee that you will start acting like Christ.). Even if someone is a sincere Christian, and is really trying to display spiritual fruit (rather than just acting like a religious nut), they still might have different convictions than you about certain things, and that could lead to friction (read Romans chapter 14 in its entirety if you don’t know what I am talking about.). For example, you two might have a different idea about whether or not smoking tobacco is a sin or not, and that could cause arguments if one of you smokes. What about, is it OK to see “R” rated movies? Is dancing OK, or does it promote lustful thoughts? Is it a sin to eat delicious food (indulging the senses)? Is it disrespectful to God to wear casual clothes to Sunday morning services? Should women wear pants, or is that immodest? What about wearing shorts, or hats indoors (1 Cor. 11:7)? What about drinking wine or beer in moderation; is that OK, or is it awful? Simply going to the same church is no guarantee that you will agree on all of these issues, and some people are quite hard-headed and controlling about this, as they see EVERYTHING as a black or white issue, and there is no nuance. What if you go to see a movie that your spouse thinks is evil, and you argue about it for weeks (sounds like more of a control freak, if he or she does this, rather than someone who is really concerned with your spiritual health). These issues and arguments happen, and the arguments might get worse after you have children.
Dora Garcia yea, we know that. What’s your point? Funny how people seem to expect grace for themselves, even when they refuse to extend grace towards other people. “For judgment is without mercy to one who has shown no mercy.” ~James 2:13 (ESV)
oui... OUi. Omg i dated all because he-was-a-good-guy too !!! 15 years into marriage Im still thinking "i am someone who doesnt fall in love" ... and then i meet a friend who blows my mind as a hindu, no offense christians, haha love u guys, but he s the first who says "god(/s)" the same way i do. Same feel. This is deeply personal. And we are everything you mentioned.. every point. I love your openness. Your mind resonates with mine 100%. May The Divine continue inspiring our paths and build us w the most joy and harmony possible.
This is the best you guys! Thank you for telling the truth I feel like so many Christian couples will just say what they think they are supposed to say about certain topics instead of being really honest. This is the first youtube talk that I have seen where a Christian girl tells the TRUTH. I am a new fan subscribed ;))))))
XDD Our youth group was going over things like this and such last week! XD It's great to listen to others' thoughts and perspective on scripture and whatnot
@5:55 "Throwing money away and getting in debt.....on cars and video games." Relatively few people save $35,000+ in cash and then buy a car. Nothing irresponsible (nor immoral or unethical) about taking out a loan or leasing, in fact, it adds to your credit score. I rebuilt a '65 Chevelle, it cost money and time and it was a good project and I can sell it too. If you've never really been around cars growing up, I can see where you are coming from.
Hi Tiffany, I’m a new subscriber and I’ve been so blessed by your videos. I think I’ve watched almost all your Christian dating advice videos! It has helped to understand myself better, to know what to look for in a dating relationship and how to progress from there. Thank you for choosing to live a Christ-centered life! Continue making these awesome videos! God bless you! :)
James is awesome 😁😂and he's so right! I wanna snuggle all the time too 😂 and so are you Tiffany, love your videos! They've really been a blessing to me. Greetings from Finland 😊
I love watching this girls videos like wow. She’s just everything I’ve been searching for, she’s decent just like me and other Christian women. But she’s just the best 💖😋
#8 is not me. I'm not a snuggling person. So I'm leaving it to God. He knows my future husband. Thank you Tiffany for sharing. I'm enjoying your videos. God Bless You 💜
Just came across this gold nugget...thank you for sharing! Would it be possible for James to do one from a guy's perspective? Like what you should look for in a girl? 😁
Now that's a cool idea! I think a lot of items are pretty similar for guys and for girls, but maybe I could get a few guys to say what they think is important to look for in a girl. I'll have to think about this more! Thanks for the idea! :)
I appreciate your videos so much. You are truly able to get these vital points to us, with genuine honesty. I feel that girls and women are in need of this information especially since we may not have had great information growing up. And if you add that to all the times we doubt ourselves, it can get pretty crazy and confusing at times. 😜 it's so true about the "fake" person who has their "act" together at church, but isn't really showing their true self. Knowing what to look for and not being afraid to ask the tough questions are definitely so important. Thank you for another awesome video.
Dear Tiffany, maybe its now I am willing to hear this or there is something about your ministry that has really meant a lot to me in this area. Its so easy to give up where the pain has been on this. But I feel encouraged to rise up against defeat and know that There is someone for me...I just need to make sure I sift through the wrong ones more quickly!
Ladies take heed! Solid advice tiffany! even as a bloke im glad your sharing some very fair and balanced view of what to look for in a man :) Thankyou from all the blokes :)
I stumbled across this and peaked my curiosity. I have to agree with her. There is much insight in what she has to say. I found this to be very interesting. And she brought up a lot of good points. This was better than listening to the guys perspective on dating Christian women, lol.
I like a humorous, humble, honest, laid back guy that is a responsible Christian, manages money well, and enjoys being a part of church family activities and fellowship like I do !!! I really want to marry a minister :)
@@MrKrushgutz okay first of all. Have you never seen a girl compliment a girl in a completely straight way? I compliment my friends ALL the time. Second of all, you make that sound like an insult! Yes the bible says homosexuality is wrong but that does NOT mean you can just go around making people feel bad about it. Saying someone is apart of the LGBTQ+ community should never be an insult. Spread love, not hate ❤
Ha, you just brought a smile on my face (as dis James with tip 8). I find your videos really handy for my duties as a youthpastor, Thanks! By the way, I noticed a lovely purple-pink new lay-out thing for your text in the video (sorry, don’t know the English word), it really suits you and your content, love it!
That's so awesome they're able to come in handy! I didn't realize you were a youth pastor -- that's so cool! 😍 And thank you -- I just got a new editing software and I'm LOVING it.
So beyond true!! Once I got saved I felt so "protected" and thought it meant any guy I dated who shared my faith who I met through Church would be an amazing person who treated me like a queen!.... I could not have been any further from the truth, the biggest A Hole I ever dated was a supposed "great church going Christian guy" he trash talked all his past relationships, had no long term friendships or fam relationships, treated waitstaff like trash, treated women like commodities, and I looked past it because I thought I must be mis-interpreting seeing as he was "a great Christian guy" Thankfully that relationship taught me to look for a man who shares my passions, who has lifelong friends (ie a sign when people enter his life they actual want to stick around), a man who valued women, a man who cared about people! It was the most awful relationship of my life, but it led me to seeking out and recognizing the love of my life, Being with an absolute jerk will, atleast hopefully, teach you what is actually important in a relationship! It made me 100x more thankful for my husband when I found him because I knew how rare and valuable a man like him was!!!!
Love this list! Had to pause the video and laugh about 7 because it applies to my current (also first) boyfriend who has been my friend for 7 years before he asked me out. I have always felt drawn to him even though I never really considered dating him and even told my best friend a couple months before he asked me out that I wanted to date someone like him lol
Snuggling is a plus haha! Lol don’t judge me guys, I’m a hugger! LOVED this video Tiffany, thank you for sharing all this useful info to us, really put a smile on my face knowing I can continue in my season of growth. So important to be working on ourselves ❤️🙏🏾🌹
This is awesome, thank you!!! The guy I like has most of these qualities and the others unknown (conflict and correction). This list will be helpful. ❤❤❤
I am an atheist and I think your tips are important for everyone (except for the Jesus part which is more specific hahaha). So much dating advice today revolves around looks, flirting and sex. You fall in love with a personality, not with a body. Your tips are about finding a partner to build something with, and that's what really matters.
I'm not even sure about my faith and I am spending waaaay to much time working and not enough thinking about these things and especially thinking about who I am. So I will gladly take your advice on what to look for and what kind of person to be. You seem to have given it a lot of thought :D
@Tyler Lee I mean, that I wish I could believe in god, since it seems to make many people around me happier and fulfilled. I was told, that believing is something you choose to do. But I'm a scientist and I have straight up lost faith in a doctor, when they weren't able to explain something properly, because I just need to know the reason for everything. So I really want to believe, that there is a greater meaning to all this, but can't. Needless to say I am a very stressed out individual.
@Tyler Lee No, I don't think it's all random. Or at least I can't imagine it being random, since the odds of life just coming together like that are so slim. I mean... our brains can't even begin to imagine the amount of things we don't know about life and the universe. But still here we are. What I'm not so sure about is the fact that this "divinity" cares about human beings, let alone me in particular.
@Tyler Lee I grew up in a religious houshold, yes and also my boyfriend is Christian. Well the thing is. We are not all equal. Not in all respects. Some are stronger, some are smarter, some are more creative. But by loving each other and helping each other, we make the best of our given skills and we can only do that by seeing each other as equals in a way that can't be measured, which is I guess our soul and right to exist. That's how I see it.
@Tyler Lee Well yes I was also just trying to say, that our equality does not stem from all being the same. But having a worth, that is unmeasurable, which to me is brought out by love. Love does not make sense, still we feel it and also compassion. But I surely am open to learning more. My man is also a scientist btw.
@Tyler Lee Yes true. Most people need a reason to forgive someone other than loving that person at first. Yea when I saw, that somebody commented under this video I was like: Oh no... here we go. But this was nice :D
