8 Ways To Put A Narcissist In Their Place. (Understanding Narcissism.)

Understanding Narcissism, by Elizabeth Shaw.

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@jamesgrigsby3971 Год назад

The "dont explain yourself to them" part really hit home with me.. that one took me a long time to understand why.. and its because no matter what you say, or where your intentions were, it will get twisted into something it wasnt ever meant to be and used as ammo against you!

@clairechloe5294 11 месяцев назад

So well said 👍👍. I experienced exactly the same thing with my Narc father, sister and brother.

@doggletamer 7 месяцев назад

Strawman, gaslighting, belittlement, or condensecion is a few of the wonderful responses you'll get from them if you do.

@steveb7429 7 месяцев назад

I know EXACTLY what you mean. So frustrating when you don’t realize what is really going on

@user-pv5ds7pw7m 7 месяцев назад

Exactly!!!!😢

@MetalHead1012 7 месяцев назад

Then she will reply with, "Yeah, that's what I thought" it's so frustrating

@dillonsullivan5063 Год назад

That's exactly right. Stop playing their game. Become indifferent. These people are emotional vampires.

@luc706 Год назад

I used to say to my narcissistic husband : Do you want my blood? 😔

@clairechloe5294 11 месяцев назад

👍👍👍💯💯💯

@SalmaAliyu-Umar-oy6lj 10 месяцев назад

@@luc706😢 sorry

@myriaddsystems 9 месяцев назад

That is a supremely apt description

@Hllee6428 7 месяцев назад

How to, when the person is a family member? Throw them in a psych ward?

@inthelandofmorethansmall7582 Год назад

"Don't take their personal attacks, personally" That one hit home HARD

@jomansson5742 Год назад

Excellent.

@preetione357 8 месяцев назад

Expecially when they say don't take it personally aswell

@robertagilbert12345 8 месяцев назад

Absolutely 👍

@trbrm6319 8 месяцев назад

Me too I felt it hard!!!

@natusbremer 8 месяцев назад

They are not like us. Never can!! Don t expect a fish to sit on a bike😂😂 so they can never ride with you..with nobody for a long time💯 they aren t worth 1 second of your time ..because it is only lost time and effort and money!!

@martemacdougall1985 6 месяцев назад

The "URGE FOR REVENGE " is so intense sometimes, I am learning to replace it with acts of great kindness to myself. Even polishing my beautiful wooden furniture tonight confirmed my love of my little apartment and my sanctuary. Continued thanks to you and the good work you do for this community of survivors. ❤ 🙏💐💜

@eenusch6225 Год назад

#9: dump them

@kendradamm1428 10 месяцев назад

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@joanwalker9809 9 месяцев назад

😊

@MeribelMGoldwin 9 месяцев назад

@_.MissHyde._ 8 месяцев назад

and then you will come crawling back to us cuz we are the best.

@scorpionbite6769 8 месяцев назад

😂

@smallfootprint2961 Год назад

These people bring out the worst in you. You will end up being confused, and hating yourself. Best to get away from them.

@yousinnedfirst8078 Год назад

maybe they bring truth in you

@catsika3887 8 месяцев назад

I started to just snap at every little thing after years of abuse, I reacted just how they wanted and now I'm done because I no longer like the person I've become and I dont like the "partner" I was with.

@dominikblackman9967 8 месяцев назад

👇🏽that person knows they’re a narcissist.

@zachp5022 8 месяцев назад

@@yousinnedfirst8078they don't even know truth.... So highly doubtful

@ka8155 8 месяцев назад

I couldn't agree more. Get away from them!

@cathygoltsoff9615 8 месяцев назад

“Don’t take responsibility for things you are not responsible for”

@Verena101 Месяц назад

But they want you to make responsible for even the madest things they have done. Or they neglect that they ever did this or say this. But sometimes we all can really misunderstand something. When it's loud or we are in a hurry and don't get it right. But healthy people can talk with each other about every thing!

@kataisa3 7 месяцев назад

Become indifferent and ignore them. They hate that more than anything.

@justice8563 Год назад

It’s so hard not to fight back when they are screaming in your face degrading you and then attacking.

@phloridababe Год назад

Yep. And I’m a fighter, not a flighter. Too much abuse in my life to back down.

@gdragonstan 11 месяцев назад

So true. It's impossible not to get triggered when they try their best to degrade and insult you.

@Dragonfly657 10 месяцев назад

You should have already left ?

@muma6559 9 месяцев назад

Why fight with a screaming person? If you haven't already left this should be a sure sign to put your joggers on. Respect yourself.

@m.d.1395 9 месяцев назад

@@phloridababesame. I used to be more timid but now the rage is right there always

@lianav707 Год назад

Know they mess with you because you are awesome. Cut them out of your life and get your awesome back!

@coffeegirl6854 9 месяцев назад

They will destroy your awesomeness if they can. DO NOT LET THAT HAPPEN.

@karmasAmuther 7 месяцев назад

YES OMG that's the truth out loud by someone else!!! I said these exact words. After I got over hatting myself thinking I was the real problem yet they wanted to break up but didn't want me to move out( mind fuck) I just KNEW inside that I was awesome but what happened. Never had I encountered a person like that before and never want to again... Relationship wise... Ugh I live myself AGAIN and am staying far way from men.

@user-em8on8py9z 5 месяцев назад

You've never lost your awesomeness, they just want to steal it, but I know what you meant 😊

@arely294 Месяц назад

Something i needed to hear thank you 😭

@Ocrilat Год назад

I'd add, when you walk away, forget them and live a good life. Don't contact them. Don't creep on them. Don't check up on them. Don't ask about them. If someone starts to inform you about them...stop and tell them 'I'm not interested'. They'll know.

@tylerjpitt3388 9 месяцев назад

Yes this is important

@papercube602 7 месяцев назад

Narcs don't have the same feelings as you and will not be that bothered if you walk away. When they realise they cannot hurt you anymore they find their next victim. In the meantime they take up the victim role. Learn. the art of 'walking away', this is empowerment.

@Ocrilat 7 месяцев назад

@@papercube602 I think they care, but just in the most selfish way possible...like a kid losing a toy. I walked away from my tormentor three years ago...and I just found out she has started stalking me again. Apparently she is now trying to 'accidentally' run into me. Once they think they own you, they always own you.

@thecringeistoostrong 6 месяцев назад

i do this and they keep on forcing me to speak or else they will call me disrespectful and ACTUALLY force me to speak and wait and i cant walk away because they will fight me for ignoring them and my entire family is like this and it makes me sicj im already stsrving and it hurts me that my entire family is like this and then SA me and think its normal

@Verena101 Месяц назад

@@thecringeistoostrongI understand you! I know how that feels. There is a good coach for such cases: the crappy childhood fairy. She is on youtube too. You will find her.

@Lin-hj4fh 9 месяцев назад

I'm 37 years old and I am just learning all this. Thank you. I have to stop myself from crying that I didn't know this when I was 17.

@bethjohnson3123 7 месяцев назад

I know the feeling. I'm 64 and spent the last 20 years connecting the dots of my first marriage and childhood.

@elizasteiner7330 6 месяцев назад

If you cry in front of them they get off on it. I just spend a lot of time away from him. Because no matter what you do you are always wrong and they make you feel like crap.

@tidycoat 6 месяцев назад

Funny but I wish I could say the same except that I’m 68 yrs old and I’m just learning all this stuff now after 50 yrs of hell married to this monster!!!!!!

@kimberlyfowler5748 6 месяцев назад

I’m just learning it in my late 50s, ! , hope that makes you feel a little better 😂

@delleon1172 6 месяцев назад

@@tidycoatS’alright. Have 57 birthdays under my belt now and have just recently (last 2 years enduring his abusive rage after our father passed away ) realized that my own brother was of this personality. Already had enacted most of the 8 ways - not to put him in his place, but as self preservation. Feel sorry for him, as he is not skipping through life with everybody fooled. He’s a sad & angry victim that i finally had to let go and realize that i was not a bad person for doing so after he threatened to shoot me at the end of his last witnessed rage towards me. Made the mistake of sincerely wishing him a happy thanksgiving. Boggles the mind sometimes. 🌻

@dallymoo7816 Год назад

Exactly.. they are the ones who are sick. Not you.

@petemcintire4339 7 месяцев назад

#1 way to put narcissist in her place: "That video you made sucked"

@inesborstel5592 5 месяцев назад

🎯🎯🎯

@inesborstel5592 5 месяцев назад

🎯🎯🎯

@absolutetruth3290 Год назад

Just silence. Don’t respond. It’s deadly

@bikeboi821 11 месяцев назад

Its exhausting ...leave they are not worth it

@SalmaAliyu-Umar-oy6lj 10 месяцев назад

@@bikeboi821Very exhausting

@rdred8693 6 месяцев назад

I did a no call, no show at my job and it was satisfying. BOOM. She did not expect it. "If you're not happy here, quit" she said. So I did. Love the music btw.

@alexramos1502 3 месяца назад

@@rdred8693you know she took it out on the other employees when you walked out 😂

@broeklien3817 7 месяцев назад

I am forever in awe of the grace and decency of the normal people I know.

@Akkordeondirigent Год назад

I had to attack back because my attorny told me so (complicated story, but true and legally absolutely correct). The outcome: I lost my last engagement as a professional musician. But there was no other way. It's now two years ago - and all my friends who saw the truth but weren't able, willing or aware enough to step in to support me either left the orchestra or are playing along now. It's heartwrenching, disgusting, sorrowing. On the bright side: I'm financially now far better of in my new profession, I'm now in my new profession considered and recognized as a professional teacher and musician, and most importantly I'm no longer narcissistically abused. Therefore I was able to recover my health and overall life quality.

@carole9409 5 месяцев назад

I resonate. Well done on your Journey! # Warrier. Namaste 🙏

@Verena101 Месяц назад

Wow that sounds wonderful! 😃👍🏻

@Akkordeondirigent Месяц назад

@@Verena101 It is! I let go what isn't in my might to change and am happy and healthy now. 👍

@Akkordeondirigent Месяц назад

Oh, just saw double negatives and grammar misdeeds! So sorry, English isn't my first language, obviously.

@aajaylee5481 Год назад

Grey rock and no contact. The double edged sword no narcissist can ever hope to overcome. Once you no longer give a damn about them, their reign of control is over and no amount of manipulation on their part will change that.

@aharry31 Год назад

A relationship with a narcissist feels like a reign of a terror from a tyrant with very low self esteem issues masquerading as a person who has alot of power, control and confidence. When you see behind the mask (like the wizard in the Wizard of Oz) there is a little person behind it who is hiding.

@alextomlinson Год назад

@@aharry31 yes. Always running. Always hiding

@Kas_Styles Год назад

💯💯💯 gray rock

@neslay8618 Год назад

I just play he is dead to me. Move on in peace ✌

@gdragonstan Год назад

So true, narcissists want you to worry about every word they say. They want to make you scared of them. They are just big disrespectful bullies.

@Infrared1967 Год назад

#9...Make direct statements instead of questioning them.

@yolanderobert8414 Год назад

They don't like being questioned. If you ask what they are gaining from their behaviour, it puzzles and they try to change the subject. Just give them the answer: nothing. Then leave the room. Don't give them time to find a reply. You already know it would be absurd anyway.

@Yayyaykitty Год назад

@@yolanderobert8414 sooo true !!! When I questioned ex he said he didn’t like long messages and he avoided a lot of questions

@sheilatolston6836 11 месяцев назад

Bingo

@SalmaAliyu-Umar-oy6lj 10 месяцев назад

@@Yayyaykittysame😂

@Yayyaykitty 10 месяцев назад

@@SalmaAliyu-Umar-oy6lj is it because their hiding stuff behind the scenes

@nousummertime9592 Год назад

Unfortunately narcissists are never put to place. And they don't stop. You either get the hell away, or they'll get to you one way or another. It's their fuel.

@sf8290 6 месяцев назад

So true.... my dad is constantly saying something trying to get his high from me by my reacting to his childish remarks...I've finally learned to stay quiet. I now just pray under my breath for him.

@Verena101 Месяц назад

But everybody get's karma results. One day. Latest in heaven or in a next life. Every Soul has to learn.

@nousummertime9592 Месяц назад

@@Verena101 untill then they destroy other people's lives...

@MrMarthadiaz Год назад

You’re totally right, but run for your life, because their BS will drained your happiness

@gracie3174 7 месяцев назад

So true…they love getting even. They cannot lose..they’d rather die.

@alishabell7172 Год назад

This WORKS!!! 7 years of not speaking to my Narc mother. My anxiety is the lowest it’s ever be, I found out I had complex PTSD and it is rarely triggered. ❤

@themysticmuse Год назад

Go you.👊💪 Soon this will be my story.

@blacksunshine5758 7 месяцев назад

My best is 12 years of no contact and going strong. She wants absolutely nothing to do with me over the dumbest shit. All because I wouldn’t drop everything I was doing to help her fill out her visa paperwork. She wasn’t going out of the country, but she had to have help that minute. I wouldn’t comply because my brother & I already had plans to go to the movies. So she kicked me out of the house , told me I was out of the will & I was dead to her. For about 7years I tried to see her but she wants nothing to do with me. During Covid, I made a bunch of beautiful masks and sent her some -she returned them back. Whatever. Life is short and Im better off not dealing with the stress & anxiety I dealt with my whole life before this event.

@Zenfilter74 7 месяцев назад

That's awesome! Same here, I'm on my way to fully healing. I was diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD. But believe that it was actuality all CTPSD. And as learn to love myself over the years of their absence, I'm healing in ways I've never expected to. All my ADHD traits are diminishing substantially or gone. My PTSD is gone. Prayers and hope for everyone struggling to heal in the aftermath of no contact. It is worth it!

@mj9412 5 месяцев назад

Similar situation

@beshooketh9333 13 дней назад

I wonder if this'll ever be a reality for me?

@Jennifer_Leigh1 9 месяцев назад

Facts. Don’t explain yourself to them as they won’t understand anyways. Save your breath.

@Tarotbyjessa 8 месяцев назад

My sister disguises her attacks in Humor form. We recently had a family holiday where she dominated all conversations and humiliated me when I try to talk about anything. I withdrew after that. I promise to not share any table or roof with her again. She doesn't know I'm slipping away with no sight of me in the future. Thanks for sharing this.

@johannacannata1090 6 месяцев назад

The Narcis. will always try and take an emotional toll ..Get away from their circle of influence , and you will stop the emotional toll . As simple as ,if the fire burns get away from it ....Stop putting your hand in the fire , it hurts ...Always !

@gloriabush9499 6 месяцев назад

That sounds like my sister too. She does all the talking bc in her eyes. I don't have anything with significance to even speak of. When I do start to say anything she will actually interrupt me. And even change the subject of what I am talking about! I finally told her " there is no one better for you to talk to than herself" . Then I told her I've had enough. We have not spoken to each other in a month.

@user-hz1gy3du8s Год назад

The best way is to just keep on moving on about your day like they don't belong in your mind at all no time wasted no time spent!!

@Nowandthen5737 Год назад

Absolutely, stand your ground☘️

@McgarickWAstate 11 месяцев назад

I lived with one for 30 plus years, and what you say took me awhile to learn but I figured it all out on my own. and you are spot-on. I didn't know I was dealing with a narcissist till recently though. I got to tell you, I feel a little ripped off in life but I'm going to move ahead with a no bitterness

@redd605 7 месяцев назад

Same , amount of time ,I know it's terrible ,24/7, I used to go out every single day to avoid it , and there do it at night , not letting you sleep I used to only get 1-2 hours sleep.

@McgarickWAstate 7 месяцев назад

@@redd605 at bedtime, my wife would wait till right when the lights were out and then she would start in on her grievances. My son was in college so I just started sleeping in his room.

@gloriabush9499 6 месяцев назад

The same here! And when I started to stand up for myself. Knowing when to speak up and not to. He died of a massive heart attack. I did try to tell him to go to the doctor and he wouldn't listen to me. Of course that is a lot of husbands for you.

@lindamcavoy5516 5 месяцев назад

27 years living with mine 45 years and he won't divorce me I've gone not contact for 15 years now ! I'm 70 u ears old and wasted so many unhappy years he still affects me to this day 😢❤

@sanjuanitacantu9830 4 месяца назад

I was gonna ask how long before we feel normal again.and does a person feel normal again after you gave your all,and it was all taken from you,

@lisas.1002 7 месяцев назад

So right and don’t let them contaminate your loving, peaceful spirit! They are filled with bitterness leave them to it :)

@bennyojay 9 месяцев назад

Sweet heart ❤️, your video deserve a million views, coming from an awakened empathy. your choice of song, your silence......thanks.

@maryannemorey1689 Год назад

Thank God I am finally narcissist-free....I have no family left and identify as an only child but as I see it, a very small price to pay 😊

@lamusa2013 Год назад

All projections of themselves 🙌🏼

@hernas3821 29 дней назад

👏 mencerahkan 🙏

@zaragardner 7 месяцев назад

Don't attack back is very hard when you're living with one. Thank You for these videos. Subscribed.

@JaquelineGoodspeed 5 месяцев назад

Wear headphones and listen to music.

@ericanemec 7 месяцев назад

Absolutely! I did all of this. The lion turned into a lamb something quick! He was raised by a narcissist and was or was becoming one. It was all he knew so I showed him different. He prefers the non toxic lifestyle now and for the last 6 yrs 😊

@mitullala8857 Год назад

Basically do nothing like they don't exist

@katherineyoung1401 Год назад

Yes!! Don’t play their game. They want to confuse and upset you, they feed off your reactions. Grey rock (?) them. My ex would goad me until sometimes I blew and he would then stop and start smirking. Don’t do it. No reaction, act as though they’re the most boring creature on planet earth, even yawn when they’re speaking.

@sneakersot00l77 8 месяцев назад

Yep. #1 shuts it all down!! The only way to win is not to play!💯✌️

@itriponair82 Год назад

Yes! I started distancing myself. I've never had a friend give me ptsd before. I had to talk to someone about it. I'm thankful to be alive!

@Kcbost21 7 месяцев назад

Everything she says just reminds me of the ex wife. My new partner has made me the person I used to be, made me a better person. I'm no longer grumpy, don't argue, don't raise my voice, I've never been this chilled. Thankyou to the lovely lady in my life. X

@Kelly-vv4ii Год назад

My daughter and my sister are both crazy on their own...now they have joined forces and I am gone..trying not to look back

@wesseljordaan7781 7 месяцев назад

Good advice, I have come to the point where I am saying to myself "just hang in there, you are closer to the end of your life on earth, so the misery will soon be over"

@SoloSneakerMaine Год назад

Its hard to not take personal attacks personally. Its hard not to fall into an argument. Its just hard to deal with and harder in real life than hindsight as well

@allenone6970 Год назад

So, in other words, narcs can do absolutely anything they want, without consequences. We can do nothing.

@Understandingnarcissism Год назад

Walk away. 💜

@allenone6970 Год назад

@@Understandingnarcissism I did walk away. From my church of 50 yrs. Narcs, i find them evil.

@joywimer4281 Год назад

@@Understandingnarcissism Right, so easy

@di4085 Год назад

Keep your distance from them. I finally had to do that recently it hurts because I have to do it with the rest of the family.

@Tee667 Год назад

Your power is doing absolutely nothing. Honestly it’s amazing!!!!

@Bella-wl6fn Год назад

Ok, well today, I passed 6 of these 8 dealing with a close relative....that's a huge improvement for me. Thank you🙏

@beautifulone7972 8 месяцев назад

If you can't leave the situation, be indifferent, stop caring. Use all of the energy you would have given them and focus it on you. Be completely unbothered. 😊

@JaquelineGoodspeed 5 месяцев назад

Great advice. Work.

@Gramaron1313 Год назад

So pretty much ignore them .... like they don't exist!!!!! Nice advice!!!! Thank you!!!❤

@samoansojah3886 Год назад

That don’t take their personal attacks got me in trouble! I started to laugh 😂 and she got more upset! 😯

@bronsonmontague4972 3 месяца назад

Same here! Lol. Sometimes you gotta just laugh. It tickles the anger away lol

@phyllislucero8716 Год назад

Good advice to keep your balance and keep your ground until you can put your things in order and flee. Its where I am now.

@erikaalvarez5731 Год назад

Me too!!

@IAMO60 Год назад

I wish I could do the same 😢

@phyllislucero8716 Год назад

Google domestic violence hotline and text or phone them. Facebook has a lot of narcissist abuse support groups. You can at least vent and get advice. You can break out. Praying helps. May God protect, bless and guide you.

@gdragonstan 11 месяцев назад

Just make sure they don't realise what you are up to. There are lots of women's shelters as well. Especially if you don't feel safe, take care. If you leave, do it discreetly and safely. Good luck.💓👍

@laurenfinucci7305 8 месяцев назад

I'm working on it every day thank you for the kindness 🙏🥰

@user-sk6jm7nt5z 6 месяцев назад

You are 100% correct. Avoid them like the plague as you will never win and their misery thrives on company.

@thekingsdaughter4233 Год назад

We live in a small, close-knit community; and I keep hearing how wonderful the Narc of our family is... Covert narcissist, I think. Uggh. 🤮 Not like anyone would believe if I told them what the Narc is like at home...

@di4085 Год назад

I totally understand.

@elizabethhannah4704 Год назад

That was my father to a T. Grandmother, father, sister and DIL. Grandmother, father (dec), sister dumped me, DIL no contact. Estranged from my son.

@lumity238 7 месяцев назад

So True, it took me 17 years to realize he was a Narcissist Psychopath, i escaped with my life, only the children suffer from his lies and manipulation, hes a Thorn in my side . Evil 😈 I have been beaten and broken down ,but im a Strong woman that has my house back and my kids that i love unconditionally.

@jen4yahwehsal176 9 месяцев назад

When they show you who they are believe with. The first time I basically told him. This is who you are. I can't change you, so just keep being you. And that was it cut him off.

@sarahmcnicol.lifecoach 8 месяцев назад

Yes!!! I get it. It’s working. He still persists. I’m feeling better and better 💪🥰 thanks 🙏

@rebornlife2 Год назад

The times when I tell my mother these things, because my brother is a narcissist. And he acts like he's over my mom. My mom shuts me down and tells me I have problems too. Basically she just excuses my brother's narcissistic behaviors.😢

@jhavajoe3792 9 месяцев назад

Recognize anyone who creates a smidgen of self-doubt and never waste your energy on them again.

@007nadineL 7 месяцев назад

Your mom might be the head snake here

@decoy2636 Год назад

Thank you Your creative talent shines in this one

@soulcenterhealinghypnosis Год назад

And always make your boundaries very clear

@pranavkumartamhane 9 месяцев назад

Ignoring and forgetting them completely is the best remedy for healing from their torture. ❤🤞🏻

@thegreypath1777 6 месяцев назад

Never forget.

@helmiinahii Год назад

I'm stuck with a narcissistic landlord at the moment and this really helps. Thank you!

@Understandingnarcissism Год назад

Thank you for watching

@mariegallagher4725 Год назад

This is true. I finally broke free when I just started to detach bit by bit. I just stopped communicating, stopped being interested when he brought something up and told him so. Stopped going anywhere with him. Went out and started living like he wasn't in my life anymore till he finally left. Then stopped total contact. Freedom from a narcissist is so powerful.

@3RD-i Год назад

My name is Jason Rose I'm having troubles finding a place to post my issues my wife I believe has severe narcissism I don't know what I'm going to do she's trying to have me arrested she's having people come after me she's taking all my money everything I'm living out of the truck now I was making over $100,000 a year and now I'm stuck in a state that I've never been in because my wife moved out here I found out she's been cheating on me and living a double life this whole time I don't trust my family I don't know what I'm going to do I have nobody to talk to

@3RD-i Год назад

I apologize for posting this on yours and replying to it but it was only way I could manage to get something out there

@3RD-i Год назад

Jason C Rhoades My speech-to-text put it as Rose I'm sorry

@mariegallagher4725 Год назад

Move to another stare as far away as you can. Break all contact where possible See a lawyer. Start your life again even if it means breaking from family or long term joint friendships. Look for a videos on narcissist abuse. It's the only way. Good luck.

@peaceofmindofpeace1650 Год назад

@@3RD-iSo sorry for what you are going through. I hope you can find support, someone / a professional to talk to and be able leave far away from abuse. Wishing you well and a safe, happy future.

@Clevelandsteamer324 8 месяцев назад

DEEP: don’t defend, don’t engage, don’t explain, don’t take it personally

@fightingfiresusa2961 Год назад

I’ll need to watch this daily to clear out the mind~bending 💩 this narcissist has done to me. Thank you for this❤❤

@screamoguy100 Год назад

The narcissist is part of the family so no contact is not feasible. Instead I don't communicate with them privately over the phone, only within the family group chat so that all communications are witnessed by the entire family. Not a perfect solution but does work to keep them civil.

@geraldinecolvin8662 Год назад

This is excellent! Clear, concise, powerful. Thank you.

@Highwizardd 9 месяцев назад

number 2 is the best way. from what ive seen its like narcissists are addicted to drama, experiencing drama, causing drama, watching drama,and instigating drama. they love drama no matter if they are the bad guy in it or not. they constantly chase drama, so if you don’t get emotional towards their drama, feeding their ego with your reaction, they will be confused and stunned. some may try to push more but some will just disappear to bully someone else because your reaction is too boring.

@jhavajoe3792 9 месяцев назад

I've stood my ground, let 'em have it to their stunned looks. Didn't work. They twist the narrative to announce you're the one out of control.

@hernas3821 29 дней назад

Many people don't know before, what is a NARC 😊

@juliesunnydaze Год назад

💯 Yes, let them become utterly irrelevant.

@Scorgirl77 Год назад

Omg are we in relationship or two opponents in war?? damn narcissists

@pam8962 Год назад

Got that right

@rebellionj3400 Год назад

I was a very peaceful person before i met a narcissist she turned me into a crazy rageful monster

@pam8962 Год назад

@@rebellionj3400 yep they have a way of doing that

@phyllislucero8716 Год назад

When a predator is trying or actually overcoming you, they are an adversary. Your life force is pushing you to survive.

@Scorgirl77 Год назад

@@horselady4375 I'm sorry for you but 😔😔😔

@ronemtae3468 Год назад

I just tell him I’m bipolar. I could do this all day all night I could do it tomorrow I can do it seven days a week. You are now my new hobby.

@MrCryptler69 7 месяцев назад

The best advice I have for people dealing with narcissists is to remove yourself from them. You won't win at their game because they're energy sucking vampires & when they've consumed enough of your supply, they will move on leaving you an empty shell. Even if its a family member or a co-worker, grey rocking them with very little consersation & a yes or no answers only.

@WeR1bodyNChrist 9 месяцев назад

#9 Go no contact. There has to be a stopping point.

@Emily-df9dk Год назад

I have a student I’ve been struggling with all year until I realized that I have to just say as little as I can to her when I feel attacked. Sometimes, she’s fine, but sometimes, she is out for blood. I can’t try to explain where I’m coming from- she is only interested in whatever quips she can come up with

@corasteidinger9594 Год назад

Omg I wish I would have known this 25 years ago...🤔

@denisejones3791 6 месяцев назад

I learned a very important sentence to say to the narcissist I WAS with. And it shuts his mouth every time. I just said: I'm not responsible for your fears and anxiety. You are.

@limitedtime5471 Год назад

It's a great list. I don't often want to clap back but when it comes up for me, really useful to remember It's only playing into their nonsense

@breakthroughmoment1647 Год назад

Need to remember this on Mother’s Day. My narc mom is especially good at launching verbal attacks and criticism out of the blue. Usually, I’m startled, but, this time, I’ll be prepared with your 8 helpful tips. Thank you!

@a.zavala2355 Год назад

I got 100% right!❤ Went no contact 3 mos ago. I've been down the narc road for the last time! Thank you❤

@SaidaSime Год назад

❤❤❤ These are so great and in this now moment I am immensely grateful sometimes I used to just give myself a big old hug and take a deep breath. And ask myself are these my feelings or is this someone else having a difficult day projecting on to me?

@benjaminlear1619 9 месяцев назад

🤔. This should be applied in all of your relationships. It's accurately defining what is necessary for your health and freedom.

@nawairianto Год назад

This is what really I need to do

@FamilyMatterswithAmber Год назад

These are ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL spot on. When they lose that they have nothing (including their source)💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥😎🤗 Great music choice and your face resembled mine for months 😂🤭🤷🏼‍♀️. Read it again and again, this is how you get out. Know your worth, your truth, and their manipulation tactics and games. GAME. OVER. ☠️

@Gr8ability Год назад

UNLESS your child and grandchildren are the victims. 😢 In her drunken state, traumatizing my grandchildren, I told the granddaughter (who was able) to come upstairs. Their mother assaulted me, I called the police, and she was arrested. She got out, my son, along with her BLAMED ME! I have an emergency protection order for a few more days at this point. He packed up the children and sent them with her to her enabling parents when she got out. I'm told I'll never see them again. 😢 Only prayer and the grace of god is getting me through.

@Potencyfunction 8 месяцев назад

They remain with bad fame fame and business screws... After they showed the real face...and how they treat people, they can harvest what they was offering. And they can develop according to thier own knowledge.

@Toad92873 Год назад

I do all of those.. then i get physically attacked and its my fault some how.. I just pray that one day i get my daughter.

@Understandingnarcissism Год назад

Your safety comes first around those who lack empathy 💜

@delleon1172 6 месяцев назад

Police reports. You do it or have someone do it for you. Have a big strong man friend give him a talking to. Seek some help from professionals. Secretly record/video your interactions. No one should be bullied or forced to endure violence in their domestic lives. Call 911 or yell out for someone to call 911 if anyone can hear you. Take your daughter to visit a trusted family member or friend. Do something for yourself so that your daughter will be able to see it; that it is important to stand up for herself and to do what is right and good. You are more than you think yourself to be 💪🌻🦋

@emmkaa2099 Год назад

Lady knows her stuff!!

@Stacy_SJA Год назад

My narc MIL showed up at our home super early, without notice or plans…. We were all sleeping. She obviously saw my car in the driveway so knew it was my day off. We didn’t come to the door, so she starts banging on our bedroom window & our baby’s window… we woke up in a panic! My husband goes out to see wtf, and she’s gone! Then calls and says she stopped by to bring another bday gift for our son (his bday was months ago) I couldn’t help but flip! Now I’m sure she’ll use me getting mad for being woken up like that as an excuse on why I make her uncomfortable

@monicatorres4686 Год назад

Next time don’t say anything just call the cops!! Wtf 😳

@Tonyconstanza Год назад

What does MIL stand for ?

@eenusch6225 Год назад

@@Tonyconstanza Mother-in-law

@Stacy_SJA Год назад

@@monicatorres4686 my husband sees the crazy… but they’re still enmeshed imo. She did it again this week! We have 2 boys 10 & 3. She shows up with a pile of toys/clothes/gifts for our youngest… nothing for the oldest! Like I said, his bday was months ago, she celebrated with us …. So make it make sense! She doesn’t even acknowledge our oldest.

@elizabethr.110 Год назад

@@Stacy_SJA Ohhhh that's cruel, so sad for your older boy. You might want to talk to your husband privately about what that kind of exclusion could be doing to your oldest. Trust me, he sees it too. But keep your emotions in check when you talk to your spouse. I'd like to have a private chat with your mil about fairness, impartiality and above all, to freakin call before she comes over!

@obsidianlane2101 Год назад

Thank you for your content! I’m sitting here at 4 sumthn am healing from narc abuse… I’m tired of this dead end relationSHIT 😤🤯 here’s too leaving toxic comfort zones🧚🏾‍♂️🧚🏾‍♂️🧚🏾‍♂️

@Understandingnarcissism Год назад

💜💜

@user-mn7fw5tt9j 6 месяцев назад

EXACTLY! Excellent advice. 💯✔️💐👏🥰

@thomasalexander5322 7 месяцев назад

Standimg ovation on this one.

@vidanaps714 Год назад

So true!!! Thank you 😢🙏🏻❤️‍🩹💔🥺

@chefspork1018 Год назад

Thank you I really needed this video right now

@justthefacts8872 Год назад

I concur with every single syllable.

@blueskyes123 7 месяцев назад

WOW!! YOU'RE 100% CORRECT!!!

@broso1940 Год назад

My 2 lesbian friends are both narcissistic and a very mean to thier transgender child i just cant stand it that child deserves better just heart breaking ❤❤❤

@Patricksstealthvanlife Год назад

A beautiful response. One that doesnt damage oneself ❤

@neykamarie6181 4 месяца назад

OMG. no lies told! girl, this short is IT!! Lord

@NewTraditionalists 3 месяца назад

You’re exactly right-on Opposite Day. On every other day, your only real option is to leave.

@alextomlinson Год назад

That last one is probably the hardest to stomach from the people you love

@nanny8675309 7 месяцев назад

Can you really truly love a narcissist? Because they can’t love you.

@alextomlinson 7 месяцев назад

@@nanny8675309 you can become attached and dependant. Not sure about love. Love requires reciprocity

@leticiamilo4387 Год назад

So real!!! 😮😮 Thanks for sharing this video!!

@RealDill69 6 месяцев назад

I love how you get right to the point❤

@1999bmwm3baby 4 месяца назад

No better advice was ever given!!

@lilinsulatorchick9665 Год назад

Ok, yeah these are better options than what I had in mind.. that involved a pillow case and some bricks.. 😅

@Understandingnarcissism Год назад

🤣🤣

@tlbrooks55 Год назад

😂😂😂

@thegreypath1777 6 месяцев назад

Don’t give them the satisfaction of putting you behind bars. Don’t do it!

@NagarjunKoujula 5 месяцев назад

🤣🤣🤣

@erikaalvarez5731 Год назад

I am working on it! I been with one for over 9 yrs, I am so exhausted but I can see His game now, I can see through his BS. I am started to wake up and get out of it, I already started to look for ways out, making escape plans. I have to be smart the way I leave this time around , He always convinces Me to get back this time I am done!

@MaryClareVideos Год назад

I really appreciate these helpful tips. They’re great reminders for me to stay on track with my confidence and boundaries. ❤

@majorieethel4681 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for great advice. The best thing you can do is to walk away or at least to go for a very gray rock strategy. Although I would say that if there is any communication, they will find an option to sneak in and the whole game starts again... and again.