80 Year Olds Share Their BIGGEST Lessons (Advice From Old People) 

The owner of a lonely heart is much better that the owner of a broken heart

Or disappointed when you get betrayed or backstabbed.

Once upon a time a young divorced mother, after heartbreak, decided you are right! Determined to care for her daughter alone, she became a workaholic. In times not working, the young woman busied herself building a brick wall around her heart to never have it broken again. Self sufficient, she raised her daughter to understand working to earn anything she desired. As independent as her Mom, the little girl was working evenings during high school, so moved out to enjoy her new found freedom at age 18 as her mother kept working her career, and of course building her wall planning to work until age 80 or death, whatever came first. After her daughter moved out the mother was running errands on a lunch break & a truck hit her car sending her to the ER instead of back to work as planned. Unfortunately, doctors discovered arthritis had occurred during her years of working 20 hours per day on her job & wall. At only age 50 she had spinal X-Rays more of at least a 70 year old hard labor worker, she was warned that she couldn’t return to work & her situation had been reported to all labor authorities, so she would be required early retirement to prevent paralysis docs wouldn’t be liable for. Knowing her wall would be completed within a week, she went home to try to make sense of everything. Upon her 6 week medical visit, brick wall completed, she asked advice. Her specialist advised as follows: “We delayed telling you about early retirement bc I sensed you as an independent working woman like myself, but you now have a 5 pound lift limit you must adhere to, or at best you will be paralyzed from the waist down (wheelchair confined) from the bilateral sacroiliitis & degenterational disc disease in your spine. Fortunately, your only child is grown & you are still a reasonably young, attractive woman. You have worked an impressively long time so paid in enough towards your retirement to, not live as comfortably as you’re used to, but get by alright with a start over & long life ahead. I will provide comfort medications, so with support of your loved ones, no reason you can’t enjoy life at least another 30 years”. Dismayed, the mother went home with a heavy heart & heavier mind. Exhausted, she crashed on her sofa, replaying the information she received to try to understand. She WAS only 50 years of age, so perhaps she must start over. Having had already lost her parents in her thirties, she felt alone, respecting that her daughter had a life of her own which she was very proud of. Should she tell her, since they kept in touch by text but only seen each other on holidays? And WHAT had the doctor meant about starting over? Sure, she had loved, married & lost in her youth. She HAD bought & paid for her home & car, but how long would her car last? She simply couldn’t lay on that sofa wallowing in doubt, so she grabbed her evening shower & slipped into a robe, flipped on her coffee pot she reprepaired before leaving for her appointment, then walked painfully into her 2nd bedroom, which she had converted into a home office & flipped on her laptop. Her home office had a full length mirror which she had cleaned regularly but never really looked into until this evening, letting her robe flop open. Wow, that was a tired woman looking back at her! But actually, not TOO badly aged, considering all of the years of hours she had put in, working 12 hours a day handling & making OPM at work; looking around the room, she said aloud “and at home”, as she scanned her chair as the only comfort zone in the room. That chair was a “bonus gift” from the corporation she worked for. She plopped down in that soft, adjustable office chair (ouch) and wondered what to do now. Her mind slipped into overdrive, considering the hours she had spent building that brick wall to protect her heart. Then her confidence started to fade, wondering if it was too strong for her to remove if needed. Of course it was since she started building it at age 20 & only recently finished it. She didn’t even know her neighbors, her coworkers (friends?) had already quit calling, other than an occasional call for work related information. Remembering the last person she “had to let go” bc her Regional Manager had told her to cut him as dead weight. Everyone else was complaining about getting behind on assignments due to “earning his pay too” and “Why didn’t she just fire him since he didn’t want to work anyway”. It took her a year & the company cutting her bonus to finally just cut his hours so he would quit. So why even think about that now? Obviously distraction from the crisis at hand. I think we all do that sometimes. Back to the wall. The truth was coming in on her, as the room darkened: the brick wall she had built around her heat for protection was actually a prison. Her heart started pounding loudly in her ears, started skipping, then everything became dark. Moral of this story: Whether you are young or old, a student or working; it doesn’t matter if you live among a large family or alone. Keep your eyes & heart open & able to breathe. Young or old, we all need love as much as water & air to breathe. Her daughter was heart broken to learn her mother died of Sudden Death due to Heart Failure. What did that even mean? Perhaps her heart was overworked by trying to knock down that wall. Written by ©️Crystal K.C.O. Belle 2024 our year of the Lord who always knocks at every heart’s door at least once, but that door opens from the inside only. (He laughs at the different names, as when asked it, He answered with I Am, Son of God, The Word, laughed when asked “are you Jesus” saying “you say I Am”, bc He has a better sense of humor than any. Think not? Look in a mirror! I did & LoL! age 62 GBU all & as He said, “Love one another” ~

Pardon typos due to medical issues with my vision but this answered one of you so I can not edit. Thank you for your time & yes, I have lived alone for decades, but have never been lonely & I take His advice by loving everyone, although some from afar. ~

@@diligentsun1154 So the story goes.😄

Being alone proves and shows that your content with you and others are not needed for you to feel alive or loved. Youve got you , noone can make you feel more better then what you can make yourself feel. Noone. Hence noone needed. We can help them out in life but you love you.

Better than being surrounded by aggravating, two-faced, dishonest people.

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True!

Well said ❤❤❤

Quiet time is think things out time, be one with yourself. That means what? Get out of your car at a Byrne Dairy. Someone approaches asking for money. Or you get a seat at Byrne, and a stranger questions you about wearing sunglasses. A loud overbearing person. What do you do? Or at a Circle K gas station, an employee is talking to his wife, and I hear one of then say to the other referring to me, next time he's here ask him if he's gay or bi. Recognize threat situations and act wisely, get out fast, or avoid as a place to go as a habit.

Unless you have mental illness

Everything you said makes sense. I’m 90.. I live alone & love it.

I'm 60 and building a life alone. Blessed to have a sister who does my laundry and picks up my meds. Grateful to have such good family. Stroke survivor. Still effected on left side of body.

Great advice thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

It‘s: Your children, NOT you‘re children. You‘re is a contraction of „you are“

Seriously, that's YOUR response to this persons post? Thanks for bringing negativity to a positive post. Get over YOURself!​@axeljacobs9723

Well said!

Sure and lack of self love

Loneliness is when others don't reciprocate love . loneliness is the weight of others selfishness!

This hit hard. When you love yourself and value the moment you alone with yourself, tell me how you would be lonely?

True; every day that I gain a sense of who I am and what I like is a day I feel a little less lonely.

well said!!

Schools are not there to raise awareness.....they are there to indoctrinate future plantation workers, serfs, to serve the system controllers

You assume they would listen, but a good thought.

Very, very true!❤

@@acornsucks2111lol, I am now old, but say “I made my most important life choices as a teen, back when I knew everything”. That WAS the blueprint for the rest of my life, now age 62. Awe, but have never had a regret about having my precious son. :)

Good on you me too. How lucky are we? I am nearly 72 yrs old & love my life so grateful to be who I am & way I feel. Blessed with such loving family who would help in a heart beat but love being independent. Love old age answer is to keep as fit/healthy as can go with flow. Love going out but love coming 🏡 no place like it. Life to me is going to get better as time goes by. Happiness comes from within that's fir sure. Certainly don't care what anyone else does have. My time now going to enjoy every moment while here on earth 😊 all taken care of when we pass ❤ Keep having great life 🍀

Thanks again am so broken

@@newlynn7338 well we can't have that 🤗 Remember you are the master of your life it is up to you to change what not happy with. Try get organised have routine that you get up each morning do exercise then come back energised ready to have breakfast get some basic jobs out the way. Tell yourself you are proud of yourself that you are going great & will benefit from looking after yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself if tired & miss you have to pace yourself. Even join walking fitness group if need motivation or start 1. Getting out & about good for you from head to toe enjoy after awhile uoy will hate to miss that time. You come back home & appreciate all you have more will be happier. On outings you meet people never know what's install I've gone to coffee mornings with people I've met out there never feel you're the only 1 who feels like you do most people are same. Remember gave to help yourself change what don't like there's always ways around everything seek & yoy will find. Try stay positive "movement" simple inexpensive walking riding a bike or swimming impregnates those thoughts makes feel wonderful & answers fixes problems. Believe in yourself small steps changes huge & life changing. Don't settle to doing 0 about your life don't feel too sorry for yourself always someone worse off alround tell yourself. Appreciate your life don't waste it. Help others pay if forward. Wishing you happy life 💖

Also perfectly content to be me and find pleasure in anything and everything.

Still nice to have a little company on ocassion

Thanks so much, You can do it!

You are also son of God not only jesus

AMEN 🙏🙏🙏

@@amitanand5471thank you.♥️

I wouldn’t want to imagine my Life without my best friend & Comforter. Life isn’t always easy, but I haven’t felt lonely in decades, although to many I appear alone. ~

Amen 🙏

But now,you do.😑

stephen is completely right. Every day is a new beginning regardless our age, as long as we wake another day. ☀️

Being alone can be rough but until you learn to be alone, you cannot discover who you truly are and when you are with someone you are not offering the best of you. ❤

There are times, one can be more " alone," with someone than without them.😑

Being alone is so depressing and I can't do anything about it. Being a widow for 10 years and 66 year old , is very hard to find a soul mate again. Men at my age want the young girls , OR they will go for a woman their age , but with MONEY. So if you don't have youth or money , you are the FORGOTTEN ONES!!!! Women lose their self worth after being single for so long. Happiness for me is to love and be loved.💕 Without love I am EMPTY!!! I SUPPOSE IT IS WHAT IT IS!!!

This is a blessing in disguise when the seniors narrate their experiences from which we can learn from (a food for thought).

Prophet Muhammad (SAW)lived for 63 years,hence that is a yard stick any one that passes the age of 63 is a bonus for you .

Aging in itself is learning and goes with certain tensions and tendencies. To aged to certain level too, has its own level of blessings and benefits. Not everyone gets to that. But to sit and chat with your geat ground children 're Greater part of the Joy in the world. We not the same., and our everything cannot be Same.

Some of the Prophet's had very long Life's. Others too had very short Life's. These are all indications of the Power of Almighty GOD. Telling us that, even with your and the Chosen prophets are called to Him at His Reckon Time without any Hesitation whatsoever. That Tells the Mightiness of GOD.

There are so many reasons behind the Age of the Chosen One's - especially, with regards to the Prophet's. The number of years given to every Prophet has its own Connotations and Scretcy and only known to He the Mightiest. To Prophet Muhammad ( swa) who Died at aged 63 , has so many dimensions and meanings at the Secret Realms. For example, the Number (3) is a unique Number multiply by (7 ) gives you ( 21) which is also quite and misterouslly . Multiply by (3) that gives you the Age (63) which is very very Unknown to Humanity. So, in short, the Number of Years given to every Humanity including the Prophets has its own Connotations and Scretcy. No one can Tell accepts ( HE ) .

thanks so much!

You are a winner!! I'm 80, been alone for almost 40 years. Been told that's not healthy. Guess that depends on your version of healthy!!😂😂😂😂

@@sissyparker2525 It's all mindset. I'm an introvert, so being by myself has never been a problem. You can be in a room full of people and still be lonely. Also, many marriages today are not solid ... more of a convenience or social expectation. If you happen to be in one with someone who is no longer "the one", that can be very stressful.

Thank you for sharing this thought!

Yes, but money would be good. I’d travel everywhere and help the children and elderly.

Tolle's Power of Now helped me several years ago when my fiance and I broke up. Also try Michael Singer books. I know of a woman who kept her resentments going for over 15 years--no one wants that. Best wishes

Let him go. The healing begins. But don't let him come back. When you let go you truly free.

Me too, locked me out of our house pennyless. I’m so depressed. Homeless. Moneyless. If I didn’t have my daughter. I’d be dead. I know it.

This really helped me to remember who I am. And to get my behind up and moving to get things done. I can do things with no transportation no money and I will pull myself forward once again. He hasn’t won. I will once again move forward.

It is a gift. You are now free to choose your destiny

Thankfully someone made it Anyway!

Thanks for sharing!

Not everyone is Christian. I have the same loyalty to my own religion.

Amen

2 Corinthians 6:17 (KJV) 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you. ✝️

@@janbarrett4544Jesus said , The thief comes to kill steal and destroy but I have come that you may have life more abundantly. John 10 v10. All religions will not lead to heaven no matter how much loyalty you have. Now this is eternal life that they may know you the one true God and Jesus Christ who you have sent. John 17 v 3. In love .

Same to you!

If its good enough for a Samurai Warrior its good enough for me. Lol.

thanks for your sharing!

I am 55 years old and being alone since last thirty years. Infact being alone at home doesn't bother me but outside is my daily Drama. My Question is it better if I move to a city where everybody is more liberal?​@@Official_Wise

thank you

We certainly do. Thanks for confirmation lol.♥️

thanks so much!

I wanted to be a Catholic Priest from the age of Seven to 37! I wish someone had told me I would not be suitable!

thanks so much!

thank you

Thank you!

Thank you too!