#87 When Someone Makes You Angry, Whack This To Release Stress | Shrimp Toast | Tamarind Shrimp 

Thanks for the EFT mention! I doubt it can really release any negative memories but then again, it doesn't really bother me much anymore unless I think about it. it's not just the sour face but the way she turned people against me. That's quite a big, indirect bully. I remember we went to a conference in Vietnam years ago and after the seminar on the last day, I asked if she wanted to go to the day market to look for gifts and stuff. I really wanted to go. Like let's all go together. She's like don't know, not sure....but the instance i got into a conversation with my boss for a few mins, she gathered everyone, including the 2 executives reporting to me and told them let's go to the market. So everyone went to the market and I was left alone with my boss. Who then left to join other bosses and I was all alone till they got back. I am not very good with directions and at that time, there was no google maps or anything like that. Pretty cheesed off by the way she had purposely excluded me out despite knowing that I reallly wanted to go. It's good that i went thru all this because it shaped the way i am today. I may be strict when i work with people but never unfair or bias or intentionally hurtful. I also believe when we do something bad, karma will get us eventually.

@@lebooshdiaries Yes, that is exactly the kind of thing I would expect someone like that would do. That is just despicable. Well, I just thought I would suggest both of those things in case you were interested, because I find that it personally feels painful emotionally when you remember really bad things such as that, that you have strong emotions tied to. I mean, it feels bad when you think of those memories! These exercises won't make the actual memories disappear, because you can't erase your memories. You'll still always be able to remember something that happened; what they do is help you process your remaining bad feelings connected with the memory to clear the negative feelings, so then in the future if you think of those things, they will become sort of neutral-feeling and like "who cares?" or "it doesn't matter" so that you no longer feel the negative emotional pain (or however you would describe the bad feelings) connected with those memories any longer. Many people do the quick EFT tapping exercise on things and have a lot of success with it because it sort of releases "stuck" feelings in the body's energy system that you never fully processed and allows those feelings to be released, but after I read David Hawkins' book "Letting Go" and put his mental exercise into practice, I found that it worked for me even better than EFT tapping, and these kinds of things are really easy to do and not at all time-consuming. It's so interesting to me how this helps. For instance, if there's something that's bothering me or worrying me a lot that keeps coming to mind, instead of keeping on thinking about it and feeling the terrible feelings from it, or instead of trying to reject the feelings or to make myself stop thinking about it (in which case it will come back again sometime), I just concentrate for a few moments and do this letting go exercise on it; and while I'm thinking about it and feeling the really negative energy or painful feeling, all of a sudden I can feel the energy starting to dissipate and just disappear, and I'm left with no painful feeling and a sense of relief, and a feeling like that bad event or worry or whatever doesn't have any importance any more, or that it just doesn't matter any more, something like that. And then that thing just isn't bothering me any longer. So it feels freeing and healing. There is a specific way to do the exercise, what you're concentrating on and how you're thinking during the exercise that makes it work. And it works not only on bad memories, but also worries, and all kinds of things too numerous to mention from regular daily experiences that make you feel bad or frustrated. So many people refer to it as life-changing. It's just a tool to help you live happier. I'm sorry if I didn't do a very good job at describing my personal experience with it, but I was trying to just put a little synopsis of it into words. It's hard to describe something like the whole book in a short snippet, but just to give you an idea.