I feel like I’ve gone my whole life as a 23 year old with no older male role models besides the fictional characters of tv and video games. Now I finally feel like I’ve found a philosophy and a way of life that makes sense to me and like I have real life role models now
Well your dad was an alcoholic and you die in every episode of South Park. That is definitely not an easy life. Maybe you could look up to Randy Marsh instead. He is a great role model for Stan.
Besides my father yes I agree. Once I found philosophy I had idols at least such as Socrates, marcus, Kant, etc. it’s so important to have idols/role models
The word, "sin", was originally an archery term meaning, "to miss the mark" and had little to do with religion or philosophy. So, if you fail to reach your own self-determined goals, you are sinning.
i think the "wake up early, have a morning routine" thing is misinterpreted. Aurelius is talking about having initiative and confronting each day and its challenges directly. That doesn't mean you have to wake up at 5am, take a cold shower, and meditate. If it took you until 2am to complete yesterday's tasks and then you wake up at 10am the next day, that's okay. It's not about the time; it's about the mindset.
This is what schools should be teaching!!!!!!!! As a teacher, I feel that if our students knew this, LIFE would be much more meaningful!!!!! More and more stoic every day!!!!❤
Stoicism got me out of my dark days, and I've started creating animations about Stoicism and Marcus Aurelius. Thank you for being a positive influence!
Can you imagine a leader in modern times who legitimately puts the needs of the people ahead of their own desire for power and wealth? That would be refreshing.
started practicing stoicism and i finally feel like i'm living, felt like i was living day by day as a ghost, constantly regretting about the past and what i could've done different. i was bullied growing up for my appearance and that destroyed my self esteem, eventually i began putting a false mask on myself to please other people and try to gain their validation. i never lived for myself and always did what others expected of me. eventually my mental health worsened and i never did therapy to fix my negative thinking habits and constant self hate towards myself. i hated myself. i hated the live i was living. i always wanted what other people had and the lives they were living. every time i woke up it felt soul crushing because i wanted to die every night in my sleep. i felt completely alone and felt as if no one else was going through what i was going through. eventually over the years i completely disconnected from myself and lost my identity. i had no idea who the fuck i was and what i wanted out of this life. sept 2020 i started self medicating with weed and it eventually became an addiction. i would smoke alone to escape reality and would listen to music to shut myself further from the world. last year, april 2022 i found out about dxm and abused it everyday, to the point where it became my new normal. i justified my use because it made me feel good and music literally touched my soul, to this day ive went through over 80 grams of dxm and probably have done a good amount of damage to my body and most importantly, my mind. i was constantly dissociated from reality and eventually i became suicidal and stopped giving a fuck about my school grades and future. i started skipping days to weeks to trip and when i wasnt tripping it was because i was going through withdrawals. i would sweat in my sleep and go through 10 nightmares every night. i stopped eating and stopped taking care of myself. i ruined my relationships and friendships all to do dxm everyday. however the same substance that almost ruined my life also saved me. i started researching about carl jung, and more shit about psychology in general, and realized a lot of things about myself. i realized i don't have to suffer the generational trauma thats been handed down to me and that i should really start living my life for me. my minds a little brain fogged right now so ill come back to this comment and add in the details but now im sober from dxm, and found myself. i confronted my shadow and accepted that i am me and this is my life, that i cant control what others do but i can control what i do, and that i can forgive myself for the past and start treating myself with love. i finally don't completely hate myself but i have a lot of work to do on my self esteem and thinking habits. i'm finally taking control of my life again and focusing on me. i feel like i'm finally tapped in the present moment
@@JavedKhan-ty7ni I think it would be difficult to be a pushover if you are truly strict with yourself. To be a pushover is to be easily moved by the emotions/whims of others, not very stoic 😎
This is perfect. This is something I am working toward. Now I am trying to get rid of old cars, excess belongings and then I will focus on repairing my home. It seems unimportant, time consuming and tedious. Yet… If I died today, my family would be burdened by the problems I created with my junk and deferred home maintenance. So I am doing good work for others, I’m owning my mistakes, I’m spending my time wisely and if I am well when it’s done, then I will have less things absorbing my time. Then I can do less things better, I can help more people, and I will have learned the hard way. Perfect ❤
"Is this essential " really helped me. I was struggling with procrastination from several weeks and had difficulty on going back to my studies. But now with this quote, i dont do things mindlessly. I have control over my life.
As a Buddhist, I’ve always been fascinated by the wisdom of Marcus, there is a lot of overlap in Buddhist philosophy and stoicism so it’s a good mix for me; especially with one of the main premises being self mastery. “one can conqueror 1000 men 1000 times in battle , but he conquers himself is indeed the noblest victor.”
@Wild German Stoic Podcast The afterlife in Buddhism is the same as energy in Buddhism. The afterlife doesn't necessarily mean reincarnation, which the Buddha didn't teach. Nirvana: I'd be curious to know what you think that means.
Marcus Aurelius (MA) was (at times) a wicked beast, who allowed much persecution of Christians. The father of Commodus (!) . . . He was just another murdering, opium-addicted hypocrite. You know, Jesus was more a stoic than MA. . . and his "story" is nothing shy of miraculous (regardless of his "godship"). Daily Stoic talks as though MA was the founder of stoicism - hundreds of years prior, by Zenu. MA was simply another follower seeking to "dethrone" emotion from his governance. To become a stoic. Which he failed at by most accounts. An opium-addicted philosopher of stoicism, whose reign was heavy with war and persecutions and massacres. . . wouldn't that make him quite the hypocrite?? How about pick a hero, who isn't akin to Nero? To find the stoic philosophies attractive and interesting and worthy of pursuit is fairly reasonable. But, MA is not. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persecution_of_Christians_in_the_Roman_Empire english.elpais.com/culture/2022-08-20/massacring-christians-a-stain-on-the-legacy-of-marcus-aurelius-as-romes-enlightened-emperor.html www.biblestudytools.com/history/foxs-book-of-martyrs/the-fourth-persecution-under-marcus-aurelius-antoninus-a-d-162.html worthychristianbooks.com/history-of-the-christian-church/vol-2-chapter-ii-contd-persecutions-under-marcus-aurelius-ad-161-180/
My experience with conquering myself, is much like a dog chasing his tail and realize that just sitting and being quiet is sometimes the next best thing to do.
Been getting up at 230 am to start my day, get to work by 4 am, that time in the morning before I start I've made a habit of watching these videos, I am a big fan of stoicism! I find myself catching stray thoughts that lead towards selfishness or thoughts that create anxiety for no real reason, imagined suffering is an immense waste of time and energy and stoicism teaches that we are in control of our mind and don't actually have to suffer mentally. That is huge for me to keep on track and frees up my mind to each task at hand, and my work doesn't suffer from the distraction of anxiety like it used to.
Be at peace Never speak when you angry Find peace with what is The more things and people who have control over me. The less control i actually have. Thank you mate...
I had an eye-opening realization: my anxiety isn't triggered by external forces, despite my tendency to attribute it to others-like reckless drivers, impolite individuals, or crowded environments. I've been mistakenly trying to tackle my anxiety by fixing external situations. While others can physically harm with a knife, their impact ends there. When external factors seem to cause internal distress, it's a clear signal that something within me needs attention.
I had a realization today: my anxiety is not caused by other people but I blamed it on them (bad drivers, rude people, overcrowding, etc.). I was trying to solve anxiety by fixing external situations. Other people may cut you with a knife and cause physical pain or even death. But their domain stops at the physical. Anytime you feel like another person or external situation is causing internal/emotional duress ... a warning siren should go off indicating that you are not functioning properly. The best way to practice this is to drive in traffic. Realize that you are the sole manufacturer of your own stress. If someone cuts you off and it bothers you, that's just a sign that you need more emotional practice. This will also prevent the bad habit of looking towards the actions of others to soothe our discomfort. This is a double edged sword. Stop trying to fix the world, fix your response to it. The world is fine, anytime it bothers you, it's just a friendly reminder that you have the wrong perspective. This is what it means to focus on yourself
No one has ever had an experience outside of their own thinking. When we are young we just experience the moment and let go. At some point we are conditioned to look outside for the answers when they were always inside - if you knew to look there. If I may suggest, have a look for a video called Going with the flow - Chip Chipman. Your exploration and realisation that wisdom and resilience were and always will be within you will change your life, and from my experience makes things so much better. So much to be thankful for. 🙏🏻
I am a 24 year-old guy from Hungary, had my ups and downs, still have some of them, and for over a year now, I have been studying and applying Stoic values to my daily life. There was, however, a friend of mine, who was anxious, suffered from being all over the place, trying to use all of her energy to feel occupied and not to be left alone with her anxiety. She suffered loss, and we had an argument that spiraled into me lecturing her about anxiety... I overstepped, and now, I see that with point 6 of your video "be tolerant with others, strict to yourself", how I really should have acted. It still burdens me, and I ask for her forgiveness daily, but that is a lesson, I will never forget. Thank you for your inspiring videos, they help me along the way of the Stoic! Along with reading Seneca and Marcus Aurelius everyday, of course.
Advice is best given when asked for. Receiver will feel judgement otherwise U tried and learned that is your life lesson. For her lesson is yet to be learned.
Ah man..don't beat yourself up. So many times, even after Ive told myself I'd be better about certain situations, only to f...up again. Work in progress.
My favorite is..."“no matter what anyone says or does, my task is to be good. like gold or emerald or purple repeating to itself, "no matter what anyone says or does, my task is to be emerald, my color undiminished.”
This didn't happen TO us, it happened FOR us, that really hits home! I got laid off at my job of 15 years (at BBB). In 2 months I've learned or been reminded how strong I really am, how complacent I was, shown how much drive and value I have as a man and in my career, and am about to start a new job making a descent amount more, where in going to learn more of the career field I am in, instead of being boxed in by a company that wanted to keep me in a box, which I was comfortable being in because it provided for my family. I may not have known it at the time, but I've learned that statement to be 100% true, this happened FOR me! Amazing
1:30 charity 2:15 responsibility 3:30 take steps 5:00 discard anxiety, accept it 5:50 start early and routine 6:30 strict with self 7:00 people are a challenge but be better 7:30 essential critically 8:15 mantras
@Wombola @Free Problem Child 5 @I Am Toxic @SelfReflective @Famika Did you not click to "Show More" in the description? If you had, you would have seen that Ryan already provided timestamps to his video. Please learn to look in the description beneath videos for helpful information.
“Never shirk the proper dispatch of your duty, no matter if you are freezing or hot, groggy or well - rested, vilified or praised, not even if dying or pressed by other demands. Even dying is one of the important assignments of life and, in this as in all else, make the most of your resources to do well the duty at hand.” - Marcus Aurelius
“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one. Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one. Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present. Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart. If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it. Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” ― Marcus Aurelius
The one about "Don't resent people,' is one I recently awakened to. I now say, perhaps if I had the same life experiences as s/he I may be or act in the same manner. This releases me of all judgment and opens me to compassion for all. Great video!
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Yes...why does anyone act the way they do? Principally it is due to a life of being conditioned, by parents, by siblings, by acquaintances, in school, through the media, by literally every experience you ever had. Were you in "control" of all of that (or even any of that)?
The last 5 or 6 years I've been struggling with my physical and my mental health. I've done a lot of therapy and underwent 2 major surgeries. During these difficult times I had no idea what to do next, I was stuck. It was like being in the middle of an ocean with no land in sight. I was in a dark place. However, these videos and the teachings have made me think about my life now, and how I used to think about certain things during my darkest times. And they have helped me A LOT! It has required a lot of self searching and learning about stoicism but overall I think I can put some perspective to my past events and maybe I'm more at ease with everything that has happened to me during the last 5 years or so. I find that stoicism as a philosophy has brought some sort of control and structure to my life when everything felt absurd and chaotic and bleak. So thank your for introducing me to all this! And btw, my life overall is in a much better place right now. So for everyone out there going through hell, keep going. Cause one day you find yourself looking at a blue sky!
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This guy Marcus Aurelius thought the best way to reduce stress and anxiety was to start a war. Don’t believe everything you read in the paper….or random guys on You Tube for that matter.
I love this so much. I do always put people first, sometimes there is gratitude, sometimes there are complaints, but I cant control other people's response. Once I was fired from my managerial position for advocating for my subordinates. They contacted me fretting about how bad it will be without me. My advice to them was that I no longer have control over their situation, but now they must pick up the mantle and press on in their own interest.
Discovered stoicism a month ago and it has changed my life. You are now my official reminder of why stoicism is how to make the most of our life. Thank you
Nothing is easy! It took me five months to reach a certain level of calm and happiness, and I'm *far* from where I want to be. 5 months just to stop overthinking and be at peace, and its a long ride from over. Don't say "easier said than done". If a 15 year old can do it, you can too! I'm still struggling with the same, honestly common problems that made me depressed before for 2 years, things like insomnia, extreme fatigue, porn addiction, academic failure, skinniness, paranoia (thankfully not an issue anymore), self esteem, fear of death, (also not an issue), overthinking (significantly decreased, and determinism and nihilism( the former isn't as common but I've fully accepted both). Epictetus was a *slave* , yet he was as happy as any other stoic. Keep your head up high kings and queens! ✊🏾💪🏾🌟
The difference between stoics and me is that when they say "Live each day as if it were your last" they think of doing as much as one can, I think of "Oh, well, I can finally relax and have a lie down"
its been 2 weeks, do you still continue to think this way? i ask because i recently have put the "live each day as if it were your last" in mind, and i can say that i from the start was thinking only of doing as much as i could. i guess its because if I were to die tomorrow, i wouldn't want to look back and see myself being lazy when i could have just put a little more effort into things.
IMHO it's really more about not hating yourself. Narcissism is the art of loving yourself. Stoicism is, to be more precise, simply the art/practice of being mindful that you can only control your own actions. This involves *setting emotion aside* in the name of being practical. You don't direct any love inwards; you direct your love outwards, towards the universe, and all that which you cannot control. Towards yourself, you're as neutral as possible.
@Lawrence Raoux loving yourself is not narcissism. It's healthy to love yourself. You can only love another as much as you love yourself. It's essential for healthy self estem. Narcissist actually have a low self esteem.
In 2018 thru 2019 traveled all over the globe attending many Eckhart Tolle retreats and he quoted Marcus often. Such a profound teaching and grateful you are brining this powerful teaching to RU-vid it has changed things for the better for me and I would highly recommend to anyone 🙏🏻
I strongly believe that this simple 9 point clip should be presented to each teenager around the world. Helped myself and my clients for its first appearance and I can’t have enough of Ryan’s research and work. PS: still waiting for you at AntiCafe Seneca in Bucharest!
Rule 2: Another path is always open. Very positive message by Ryan. He tell us that "The Obstacle is the Way". We can always practice patience and forgiveness. ❤
Our lives are our own. This journey is a personal journey and we are here to be a example of a human. Purpose of living is not a matter of whether you are happy or sad but have you been a human being who has been aware of the world and who you are are.
If you enjoy topics about mastery and masculinity, I invite you to explore the videos on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would like to see in the world. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own thoughts so that others can benefit from them as well. All the best to you!
Marcus Aurelius has played a huge role in my life. Especially when I started learning about Stoicism. He was the first philosopher I learned from. Wanted to give you a big thanks on your book The Ostacle Is The Way. I've enjoyed listening to it on Audible. Thank you Ryan❤🙏
Seriously, thank you, Ryan🙏🏻 The lessons you impart to us are the same ones we can get from your books and you’re aware that some people may decide not buy your books if they can get the core messages for free, but you still give it to us and we really appreciate you for it.
Watching a video And reading from a book. Are completely. Different. Things Stick more when they are read from a book . Watching is Passive. Reading engages your Brain especially the right hemisphere which is a very good thing
@@stephentodd8424 Things stick more, when u find your best learning model. For you it’s reading, for my bro it’s a video, for me it’s doing. For all is trying.
In point 5 of this video I noticed that one of Ryan Holiday's children came outside while he was recording and started playing with a shoe on the porch of the house. That was cute. ❤️
Thank you for this! Any time I find myself puttering around, or scrolling Facebook and wasting time, I come and watch this and every time I get to the 3rd rule, I snap back to things and get up and get back to work. An excellent video to help one refocus.
Isn't it fascinating how our pursuit of positivity can sometimes lead to negativity? Mark Manson's insight challenges us to reconsider our approach to happiness. Embracing our negative experiences might just be the path to finding true positivity and contentment.
Marcus’ “Meditations” changed my life forever when I was 16. Did my bachelor’s theses on him and “Meditations.” Still try to live as a Stoic as best as I can. He was a genuinely good man in a brutal age. Thanx for posting.
My memories and even my imagination of things that haven't even occurred usually produce a physiological sensation in me, a hot flash and defensive posture. It's usually very brief when I'm alone, like driving, grocery shopping or washing dishes. I can recollect myself than, it's when it happens during social interactions when it lingers a little longer and begins to blur my perception and may even make more sensitive to remarks. I avoided social situations and relationships because of this, which of course took me while to realize that I was stunting my maturity. This 'obstacle' has been a roadblock for me, affecting my attention span and preventing an enriching life. I was shocked people never noticed my internal struggle. Thanks for the channel 😀
Proverbs 27:1: "Boast not thyself of tomorrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth." Love The Daily Stoic. Ryan is a much-needed voice in our age.
I am related to Marcus Aurelius. What I love is he was called the Truth Teller & I am a Lay Dominican and our motto is Truth. I am blessed to embody his nature. I have also been certified in behavior change for 30-years & I am very activates since I have been practicing this for so many years.
Between finding meditation and your videos exposing me to stoicism, I survived the lockdowns and became motivated by the opportunity presented to me by lockdowns. I've read more than when I was stationed on a ship. Currently reading your books. Thank you.
Ryan , your book and daily stoic video content should be part of all school curriculum. Marcus and Ryan =legends . I watch your videos over and over again because I frequently lapse into old habits . Cheers pal …John from Halifax UK
I discovered Ryan and Stoicism during the pandemic. I am so thankful since it was a life changing period of change learning from the stoics and ryans books/ideas. Thanks to you I made the one of the tragic moments into the greatest transformation I could have done. Thank you.
To think…arguably the most powerful man the known western civilization…and the humility and insight to himself that he. Truly incredible. A man that could have anything and do everything, yet, chose to control himself for the better of him and others.
Hey man thank you so much for your constant reminders and uploads. You always deliver. I appreciate everything you do. I had all these principles, and was very strict with myself when I was young. Then one day I just fell into a pit. The ladder is right there, and I am too lazy to climb it. Each one of your emails and videos helps me take another step up that ladder.
I needed this video today. I am beginning my life at the age of 70 (reasons too complicated to go into) and I am embarking on a huge journey, the end of which means I live somewhere totally new amongst people I have never met before. I am scared, frightened of failing (there is no going back) and Ryan's enthusiasm rubs off on me.
Ryan this was super awesome man. I must have listened to you a hundred times and every time I learn something new. I feel like the world needs stoicism now more than ever.
The older I get, the more I think about these 2 quotes: "The first step: Don’t be anxious. Nature controls it all." -Marcus Aurelius "To love only what happens, what was destined. No greater harmony." -Marcus Aurelius
I recently became quite ill and my Dr and I were/ARE not sure I would live very much longer. Now, we all grasp the concept of Momento Mori, even those folks who never looked into Stoicism, but in my own personal experience with facing deaths promise so deeply in the real time sense, well, it blessed me with a greater/deeper grasp on Momento Mori. It was so EASY as I thought about life's ending actually being close to it's end for me. I will hold to that deeper grasp, grateful for the experience
What an excellent complement (and compliment) to Marcus Aurelius' great gift to the world. I just found this channel, listened to one episode, and subscribed right away. Thank you so much. Well done.
I had a similar experience to yourself over 10 years ago and although the physical injuries healed the mental ones aren’t so quick to fade. Rest and recuperate and you’ll be back before you know it 👊🏼
Love the “ask yourself, is this essential” some of the other ones I’ve heard or read before just told in a different way, but this is the first time I’ve come across that, and it’s going to help me be more mature, I’m immature and so thx for that one.
Thanks Ryan for being part of my development. I bought two of your books, "The obstacle is the way" and "Perennial Seller". Preparing to do someone quite impossible in few weeks.
I'm from Portugal and I've read some of your books and I discover that I was stoic before I knew it.Thank you for your daily email it means a lot to me. Keep up with this excelent work for self improvement and self conscienceness. "Carpe diem"
I'm not gonna watch any more videos of yours on stoicism unless I routinely act on all the wonderful pieces of advice you mentioned in this video. Sometimes we get so inundated with information that we end up doing nothing. Keep up the good work!
Marcus Aurelius is the finest example of free will. A true human being who is aware of himself and others around him. We all have perfection but it takes knowing of our imperfections that is the most important thing.
