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9 Ways to Handle Cold And Distant Spouse
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Do you have an emotionally distant spouse? Do they often “check out,” or refuse to talk about what’s bothering them? Do they get defensive or act coldly when you ask why the intimacy has left your marriage? Do you sometimes feel like you’re alone in your relationship?
If you answered “yes” to any of those questions then you may be feeling like your spouse doesn’t care about you, or that they’re no longer happy in your marriage. In situations like this it’s easy to feel like your relationship is falling apart. But is this really the case, or does your spouse just need some time and space?
I’m going to share with you tips on what to do when your spouse acts coldly or distant towards you. As a relationship coach and marriage expert, I deal with these kinds of problems all the time. If you’re feeling at fault for your spouse’s behaviour, or you’re regretting some of your actions, don’t worry, you’re not alone and I can help you.
So, without delay, here are ten things you can do when your spouse acts coldly or becomes distant. [WATCH THE FULL VIDEO FOR ALL 10 TIPS!]
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@jaylow4074 6 лет назад

This age of cellphones is killing marriages

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

It depends how you use it, I guess? Like everything else in life, it has its pros and cons.

@jaylow4074 6 лет назад

Brad Browning thank you for your feedback your advice is working your the man

@Wrathofkala 5 лет назад

Jay Low Yes, she is living her life online rather than with you. Living through posts on Facebook etc...it's a HUGE problem with marriages right now especially when one side thinks it's normal.

@aruvielevenstar3944 5 лет назад

YES

@fawaz104 5 лет назад

Brad Browning totally agree

@SG-nu7go 5 лет назад

If u got a spouse acting cold and distant, the best remedy is to busy yourself in other things until you find someone to replace them. These people can never be fixed. They are cold and will always be so, pretending to get warm if you stray too far but reverting back to A holes as soon as you’re back.

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

That kind of behaviour you're describing pretty much sounds like a narcissistic spouse. But in defence to spouses acting cold, not everyone is that way! lol

@irmaponce3833 2 года назад

I totally agree with you. 💯

@aviceena 2 года назад

This is why u never settle with one guy lol

@Heavenlyartdolls 2 года назад

I’m 54 so 😕

@butwhytho4858 Год назад

I AM the cold one in the relationship. BUT it’s because of how I was treated for years. Therapist says it’s a coping mechanism even if I didn’t do it on purpose. I want to feel again. I do and I’m terrified that I can’t “feel” love or a want for it anywhere in my life right now. Even though he is NOW trying and doing just about everything right… it’s very scary and idk how to fix it. But ur wrong. I was absolutely not like this in the beginning. And I don’t play games. I think you are generalizing a certain type of personality disorder… not the average distant spouse lol just sayin.

@mayseeyang5953 4 года назад

Why do I feel more alone after watching this? If giving him space means I should lack the love I deserve from my husband than why even be together? Instead of growing into each other, were growing apart. The hardest part of this process is it's happening and there is nothing I can do to stop it.

@BradBrowning 4 года назад

In a perfect world, there will be no breakups or people going astray but this is not a perfect world, so we have to accept the reality that sometimes, people do need some space to figure out whatever they've been going through.Like I said, him being cold may not have anything to do with you or maybe it does, depending on whatever has been going on between you two, only you would know that for sure.

@chebbi5674 10 месяцев назад

You are so right .! Feel the same ...he is distance for quite some times now. And it does not get better .!

@shivanibaner 9 месяцев назад

What did u do? How r u now

@thesavvyguru1111 9 месяцев назад

Lol me too I feel more alone

@charlotte-fi9xy 8 месяцев назад

@@chebbi5674no it doesn't get better but that's why you have to develop your own life and leave the cold and distant person. They will try to make you crazy with this Behavior because they are too big of a coward to face you and tell you that they have lost interest in you. So they will manipulate you into insanity practically just to get you 2 end the relationship 4 them

@lolipopPrincess 7 лет назад

I feel like Im living with a room mate. My husband completely takes me for granted. He's stopped cuddling me or showing me affection. I want to cuddle with him but he says it feels like "work" to him! Im trying to respect our "differences" but it's so hard when I emotionally need physical touch but he could completely ignore me all day and feel fine with it.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

+createdncali I can't imagine your pain. But the fact that you still live together is at least something to be thankful for. Right now, it may seem hopeless, but I think you can still fix your situation. I have a program called Mend The Marriage that has practical tips that can help make a difference in your relationship. The beauty of this program is that even when your partner is unwilling to cooperate, you can still take steps yourself. Please sign up through this link: www.marriageguy.com/fbuy Looking forward to hearing from you!

@sweetykamble1822 6 лет назад

createdncali wow girl. I never thought there would be anybody going though the same situation like I am in 😌

@Leah.says.the.things 6 лет назад

createdncali - I completely understand. I have the same situation.

6 лет назад

Too funny! My wife hasn't initiated intimacy but twice in 45 years of marriage. Has never once just come up to me and hugged me or told me she loved me. The last time she said those words were at the altar. I was sooo naive. To soon old, too late smart.

@elizabethbittala2779 6 лет назад

I've said the same thing to my husband. He's like a roommate who doesn't want to contribute to the relationship or household. All this because he *recently* started paying the majority of bills. All I've done for him over the last 5 yrs counts for nothing, and my unexpected pregnancy is MY fault.

@icieberry 5 лет назад

yeah, right. The more I give him love, the more arrogant he got.

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

Any love you show him right now may appear as "smothering" to some, if not most people. That's why the bottom line is to try not to make a big deal out of it because it's likely just a phase, for most people that is, I can't tell for sure on your situation since I would need more correspondence before we can pin what's really happening.

@heatherhartman6474 4 года назад

Same here. Got a lot more annoyed. His idea of opening up is yelling at me AFTER i give him space too.

@gretaaarons4941 3 года назад

@B0omer96 Sometimes an underlying health condition & medication can alter a person's behavior & also personality.

@localrachel 3 года назад

@B0omer96 perhaps your attitude to her disablity and you being her saviour WAS the reason she pulled away from you? Freed you? Yikes. It could also be that she freed herself from an unhealthy or unbalanced relationship...

@jenniferculpepper856 3 года назад

@B0omer96 In what ways, If I may ask, did you take good care of her? I ask because my husband takes good care of me (as a provider), but I still don't feel loved.

@jessicavincent466 7 лет назад

If he is in love, why does he need so much space from you.? And u give and give, respect and be patient while he doesn't care and takes advantage of it?

@rverro8478 7 лет назад

Exactly what my wife told me. She gave and gave and I didn't do anything in return. I like to compare that to a dish full of candy. You fill the dish and he eats but, never bother to get up and fill it when its empty. I know it well, its what I've done. I forgot to invest in our relationship. I used to joke about it all the time when I should've been serious....." I know Babe that a relationship is 50/50. You cook, I eat. I dirty my clothes, you wash them". I know, today, that it doesn't work like that and she had to leave to make me realize it.

@Sagacious_law_classes 7 лет назад

Jessica Vincent same here nt story :'( m totally broken now how far can i carry him

@GeneCAu 7 лет назад

Love needs space to grow. Your spouse has to wonder about you to create attraction. it is tough!

@bookhobbit 7 лет назад

Jessica Vincent i'm sorry but I wanted to point out that woman can do this to and this might be hard on their husband/boyfriend

@hwnwhaler1 7 лет назад

If I read your comments below correctly I'm in the same place as you. Meaning to GIVE space, and I'm the husband. The problems for us maybe and even probably go deeper than this but some people can be in love and still need space, that is my wife. Don't think she's IN love, with me, though. Space still will be given.

@dynjarren5454 2 года назад

Rejection by one spouse is thee most terrifying thing in a marriage. If they need space, give them a reasonable time to have it...but at some point you have to address it. Beyond that, further rejection means its time to move on

@ericworley4361 4 года назад

This sounds more like how to simply continue to exist in the same house with someone who probably doesn’t even like you. If you are with someone who genuinely loves you and enjoys being your partner overall, if they seem withdrawn and down choosing to not reach out and instead letting them “have space” and work through it on their own will likely leave them feeling unimportant and unseen. However, if your partner is irritated by your presence, doesn’t enjoy your company, and doesn’t want your love and reassurance then this all sounds like a great plan to make sure your existence bothers them as little as possible and that your relationship doesn’t further impose on them.

@BradBrowning 4 года назад

At a certain point, yes. If this goes on for months, that would indicate something needs to be done to get you two back on track with your marriage before your marriage gets dysfunctional. Take care!

@mrquick6775 Год назад

She’s cheating!

@peacefulrain86 3 года назад

I appreciate this advice. You can't pressure a person like this into loving you. It turns them off more. A codependent mind will have you feeling exhausted and depressed. I have to take time for myself and disengage with my spouse. Keep your sanity and just let things happen the way they are going to happen.

@BradBrowning 3 года назад

Exactly. Some people just try to make it all about them and are easily offended when their spouse is having one of those moments! It's no wonder how many divorces are filed each year. Lack of sympathy of what the other may be going through, unless of course it's cheating, there's no sympathy in that but like I said in the vid, your spouse going cold could be due to different reasons!

@joecrocket7873 2 года назад

@@BradBrowning unfortunately my wife has been cheating with the long-term guy and I've been working to change myself and she's been hanging in there to work on the relationship but she doesn't want to talk about the affair or am I feeling everytime I talk about it should I just ignore it and try to keep working on myself?

@xionnybonny2245 2 года назад

yes

@zattgrande8079 11 месяцев назад

À0

@larryreynolds7676 5 лет назад

If I wanted distance what we get married for ? There is someone somewhere looking to spend time and share happiness

@crystall.7970 4 года назад

Larry Reynolds not everyone wants someone underneath them 24/7. Im one of those people (and I am a female fyi). I love my alone time and personal space. Then when I have it, I come back in a better space to give you the best of me.

@vanessayeboah2175 3 года назад

@@crystall.7970 I’m the same. I’m a Taurus so I have fun by ‘chilling’ and my partner is an Aries so he’s very very passionate so we often lock horns

@Abmpmultiply 3 года назад

Absolutely

@laraelawrence247 3 года назад

That would be me. I don't like games! You love me great you dont ok. Unhappily married 33 years sick of trying!!!

@michaelhenthorn7775 3 года назад

True that

@ladyn727 5 лет назад

1. Respect your differences 2. Don't take it personally 3. Call of the pursuit 4. Lower your intensity 5. Give them space 6. Make a date not a diagnosis 7. Pursue your goals not your partner's 8. Act kindly 9. Love unconditionally

@cooltalktalks4944 4 года назад

lady n truth be told, this is all good advice. However if this is a constant thing then its probably time to move on. It’s not fair for one partner to be soooo understanding and patient with the other. Fuck that.

@Intuitivelogicalintrovert 4 года назад

Basically turning into a monk

@TheCoffeeCat 4 года назад

In other words, be a saint.

@BrentForrest 3 года назад

So easy to say. Try living in a loveless, sexless marriage for ten years then see how enthused you are on loving unconditionally.

@kathyglass2922 2 года назад

@@BrentForrest for real.

@mr.grumpygrumpy2035 5 лет назад

"Do you wanna do something fun TOGETHER?" "Nah, I'd rather be ALONE and do something fun FOR ME." This over years and years is sheer masochism.

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

Sorry to hear... but when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

@MikeMitchellblackwidowz 2 года назад

This part... some selfish shyt...

@smoothreid6 6 лет назад

What about your loneliness in the marriage??? If you give them space, how can you still be intimate with your spouse if you’re not communicating? This is usually when the ignored spouse looks elsewhere for the affection that their spouse in not reciprocated

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

If they've already been distant, chances are they've already been contemplating that too, with or without you giving them space. However the thing is (especially if you've tried to find out from her whatever is going on) it's to your best interest to give them space because doing the opposite will likely only alienate them further. In her mind, she could see it as you pushing for what you wanted, while disregarding how she feels. It may help to see why they're being distant in the first place. Some people withdraw to their own world when they're going through something, while others reach out, so try not to take it personally.

@lenitaa7938 6 лет назад

Brad Browning .. you are basically advocating to cater to the selfish, self-serving people, who have no intention of loving their spouse, but every intention to play head games and guilt the long-suffering spouse!!

@daniellamoreno3616 5 лет назад

Scott Reid i hear u.

@gretchelaneyarchuleta4835 5 лет назад

@@lenitaa7938 agree with you space is for teenagers this video is Lame

@cashjob1975 5 лет назад

I agree that giving more space to an already cold distant spouse is only enabling the problem. Why would you need more space when that's all it's been for 28 years un my case. I'm of the opinion now that we need to face these problems head on and take the steps needed to mend our broken relationship. So confusing

@msprettykawaii950 4 года назад

My husband is emotionally distant and cold (possibly because he was a victim of child abuse) It was hard for me and I am almost at the edge. He is a narcissist and he cant love truly. Im so tired of putting more effort and I realized that man should lead the relationship and all leaders have heavier responsibility. If the CEO fails, the company fails. If the head of the family fails, the marriage fails. When a guy loves the woman more than she loves him, it was more likely to last because women are most likely to stay loyal and respond with love. What if the woman loves the guy more than he loves her? Well, it was more likely to be an abusive marriage. So teach your child to love truly and choose a man wisely/ Dont be naive, marriage is the biggest decision you will ever have.

@wandaruth3833 10 месяцев назад

Finally someone who gets it and has some self respect.

@chebbi5674 10 месяцев назад

Well spoken.! I make the same experience! And after 5 years with my husband and 3 Kids I am done . It is hard to bear . But with time I hope it will get better. I ask myself if you are still married? How is the Situation now after 3 years of your comment. Wish ya all the best.

@ChristIsK1ng 6 месяцев назад

If someone loves someone more than they are loved in return, it won’t work. This is a terrible take. You must be completely blind to the amount of men out there who are partnered with cold and distant partners. You truly have to be careful not to make your experience everyone else’s experience. Generalizations make it harder for individuals to be heard. No two men are the same and no two women are the same.

@pinklady2254 5 лет назад

How can I find the energy to keep being so kind to a man who is not kind to me when is it the time to see if it’s worth the effort or not?

@JahlenJohnson11 5 лет назад

Pinklady 22 I have the same question

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

How long has this been happening? Prolonged instances aren't normal.

@cassandrawright2477 5 лет назад

Mine been 5 weeks

@cindycampbell4427 4 года назад

This is my same question still no answer it's very frustrating

@crystall.7970 4 года назад

If you pull away what happens? Some times pulling back from him helps him to see what he didn’t before. Actions speak louder than words. If he doesn’t straighten up, then it may be time to move on any way.

@lamourgarnet Год назад

This video is 6 years old, this is my first time seeing it and it speaks to my current situation. It’s been tough and hard to not feel like roommates sometimes because of how much we bicker and argue. Then the silence, and small talk to break the ice. He’s very much a tough love approach kind of guy while I’m soft spoken or don’t speak at all.

@sylviaceo 5 лет назад

I tried all of this not worth my time anymore he comes around for a couple of days acting nice and sweet then right back into Hell I think everybody find God take care of yourself children the best you can 🙏🏻🤷🏼‍♀️

@kathymyers7279 5 лет назад

God almighty I’ve been doing this for YEARS. I’m feeling exausted

@cjthrill 5 лет назад

I feel your pain. If I'm lucky, I'll get maybe two or three days a year where things feel pretty ok.

@missmeowmix6114 4 года назад

Me too. I am so miserable with him.

@fionasmith4315 4 года назад

Same here...I wish I were rich so I can afford living alone instead of being called a moron everyday.

@fionasmith4315 4 года назад

@@Johnny-ty1dg I hear you...why are they like that....sometimes I just wanna kill myself

@Kv-pk2st 4 года назад

I feel like this too. The loneliness of sitting with my partner wishing they would just reach out for me, touch me, hold me. It's unbearable, how long did you wait? A few days a couple of weeks, a few months, years? Are you supposed to do this till they get their head straight why you slowly lose yours?

@TheBigbear818 5 лет назад

Great tips.... But I'm done dealing with a narcissist

@80sbaby90 4 года назад

😆

@deonsmith37 4 года назад

EXACTLY!!!

@michaelhenthorn7775 3 года назад

😂

@ahmada4149 5 лет назад

Thank you, very helpful. Can't say the "saved my marriage line" but that chilling out and giving space tip saved me from a potential and unnecessary goodbye.

@beatingabuse7720 7 лет назад

I just stumbled across your sight... I'm impressed at how much you respond to your followers... I was married for 15 years with 3 beautiful boys, I'm the mom ... but alot of the cold shoulder stonewalling, silent treatment was manipulating, neglecting, disregarding, developed into degrading and controlling eventually it got physical and he treated the kids the same way... we had a difficult divorce ...long story short I wish I would have had guys like you along time ago and maybe we could have stopped the cycle because I would in react similar in response.. It turned out to emotional abusive and I don't think he ever realized it.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Thank you, I do try my best to respond as soon as I can! :-) I'm sorry to hear you've gone through what you've just did. I understand it's never easy to be dealing with an oblivious husband. You can't help him realize stuff, though. But removing yourself out of the situation was a good move for you to start over fresh rather than suffer in that kind of dynamic you described, especially with the kids having gotten involved as well. Take care!

@marinasidon7549 6 лет назад

Beating Abuse so how did you do it because I feel like I receive emotional and verbal abuse

@avpwargamer5765 7 лет назад

you saved my marriage of 12 years. I was at a 60% success rating from your quiz. but after getting your program and constantly listening to the audio tape, after 5 months of improving my life and following the basics my wife now shows interest in me again and we are having a better relationship and better communication.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Wow! Good to hear that, man! Congrats! :-)

@iwishyouknew3413 7 лет назад

Brad Browning Id like to know your opinion on one person doing a lot of inner work and relationship coaching and the other person cant or said he cant see I have done anything yet says I've changed. It's almost as though my confidence and knowledge have become a threat for him. I have done all of those things you have mentioned. I finally have left the dysfunctional relationship after three years of him saying that that is who he is. That is a fixed mindset hes holding onto, so Is this done?

@Luke18_13 6 лет назад

What quiz?

@Morealiens 6 лет назад

Congrats! 💑👈👍

@Ta-Tchou 6 лет назад

I found this video on Adult Magic Tactic - there plenty more great videos there that will help out

@hopefaithlove2827 7 лет назад

This is great! I also want to add...keep trying to connect with them, just be with them even if it's in silence. Sometimes people just feel hurt or disconnected and all they really want is to connect with you.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Thanks for your input! :-)

@livingbeautifully3666 5 лет назад

What about the other spouses needs?! It's hell to have a closed off spouse who is so cold.

@WrathofArminius 2 года назад

Amen.

@lamaelcharif1523 8 лет назад

Thank you Brad so much. I feel relieved, to finally hear someone who tells us there is hope.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

You're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@LoveLove-vg6vo 6 лет назад

The point of the matter is that unless you can’t leave because of some good reason, when you start to feel you are more roommates than partners and after many attempts the relationship is not getting better, the best is to move on and don’t waste your time with somebody who doesn’t want you enough in his life to try to make things better. I have tried and tried and tried... nothing changed beside me. I now feel angry, depressed, lonely, bitter. I hate who I have become. I lost my youth, beauty and nerves in somebody who couldn’t care less about me. I resent him so much! I cry over the years i have wasted.I can’t leave him because many reasons but if I could I wouldn’t think one second more and I would leave very far away...

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

Roommates? That's just terrible and I'm very sorry to hear that. Have you two or at least either of you done anything to spice things up? This may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-c7_0PxvHDmU.html

@ucheobialor8769 Год назад

So very sorry.

@mrquick6775 Год назад

Love Love, what did you do to run him off?

@vanessapetrea2490 6 лет назад

Thank you so very much! I saw this today when I’m wanting to give him a lot of attention, while also knowing he needs his time to deal with what’s in his head. Relationships are layer by layer and I want to be love in as many of those layers as possible! ♥️

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

Hey you're welcome! As his wife, I'm sure you can tear down those layers, but do it one by one and never rush it. ;)

@stitchmommy Год назад

We have rules for "how much time" he needs: time when he wakes up. time when he's drinking his coffee. time to drink. time to recover from drinking. time to go on a trip. time after he comes home from a trip. time while he's eating. time when he's thinking. time because he's worried about money. time when he needs a nap, time when he wakes up from a nap. time when he 'HASN'T had a nap. time to be with the dogs. time to be away from the dogs. time to scan tv (uninterrupted). time to stare at his phone because a nigerian prince just texted him about a large sum of money. time to go hunting. time to recover from hunting. time to sneeze. time to recover from sneezing. time to cut the grass. time to recover from cutting the grass. Time to look for the cats that come home every single night on their own. It's a lo of time for him where he can be nice to strangers, animals, the guy down the street, even my friends. But he walks away right in the middle of a conversation with me . Times up.

@che75rokee 6 лет назад

It's not working Brad. We can't clap with a single hand. There is no reciprocity. She is so stubborn with her attitude.

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

How long have you been trying? If you're sure you've made all the right moves and you've waited long enough and not an inch of progress, then I agree, it may be best to move on, man.

@bonnierobinson5917 5 лет назад

She's sick of you.

@DonKhalifah 4 года назад

My wife currently does this shit and she comes hard with a feminist attitude

@che75rokee 4 года назад

@@DonKhalifah LOL....bro, what do you expect...women!! Anyway, God bless her!!

@douglassmith6353 6 лет назад

fucc relationships..........no woman or man is worth all the trouble. ....

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

Or perhaps you haven't met one that's worth all that trouble yet. :-)

@is-be6725 6 лет назад

I’m with you, Douglas. This world would be better off without marriage.

@myamyaw772 5 лет назад

.... Why are you watching these types of video if you think so.. Just move along

@sisiscastle3573 5 лет назад

Im starting to understand why some women just decide to marry for money. If Im going to be ignored, mistreated, and belittled Id love to be able to book a three day weekend to Tahiti once he's done. I know this is a horrible thing to say. Im just so hurt and confused right now. I dont know how I could have been a better wife...Ive loved him unconditionally and now I just feel stupid and used

@weareuniqueforareason7503 5 лет назад

I use to think like this until I had my kids and came from a broken home

@gigismith1362 6 лет назад

You said to suggest a date together. Ha, if they are distant only wanting their privacy and showing that they love to be alone why the hell would you bother them knowing that they don't really want to be with you

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

Tip #2: Don't take it personally! :-)

@maysan7059 5 лет назад

@@BradBrowning Most times they claim they are alone but they are not. They value time with other folk than their wife which is sad. My case am home with the kids, his time is more at work then do what be wants comes home late late and expect to get a smiley face. My only problem is not spending enough time which makes me sad, he sees nothing wrong with what he does cos that how he has always been. Am getting sick of it cos i dont see why he spends most of his time outside the home, thou he tells me he anit going anywhere and dont want me to either. What is the advice on that.

@rosettemarshall3024 4 года назад

@@maysan7059 same situation with me. Found out my spouse was cheating.

@maysan7059 4 года назад

@@rosettemarshall3024 Am so sorry mine is too, bunch of them. It will hurt really bad but cry it out it helps, talk to yourself if you have to it will ease the hurt, keep praying and do what's best for you and your children. Am still here praying I won't get so angry one day and live. I see a lots(Am my own investigator) I don't think what I dealt with and found if other women were in my shoe if they will stay. Be bless.

@mycryptodance4353 4 года назад

Everything he said was pretty much on point, I’ve been doing a lot of this before watching the vid, we are on lock down and we both need some space

@tonyaaa0 8 лет назад

I WISH I KNEW ABOUT YOU VIDEOS LIKE A YEAR AGO! But they will definitely still come in handy for my future!!!!!!!! THANKS!

@BradBrowning 8 лет назад

+Tonya L You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@hwnwhaler1 7 лет назад

This is good!!! I have been failing on just about every one of these points over the years. I see it now and the hard part is remembering and applying all this. I'm sure listening again to this will be a good reminder. Mahalo!!!!

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

The details can sometimes be overwhelming, I totally get that. :-) If you need my help, you know what to do. Good luck, man!

@June-rb1nx 6 лет назад

Brad I am married to a man that hasn't touched / kissed me in 10 yrs.....He was affectionate prior to the marriage, but everything STOPPED the day we married ( no sex, no kissing, nothing) He also now won't shower. He wears filthy clothes to bed that he has worn since the last shower ( 2/28/17). He also drinks...and lies about getting out ( I need to go to the hardware store...but it's actually "I want to go to the bar." Should I try to help this marriage or just get out ? Please help......

@NamikaFlowerCreations 4 года назад

its 3 am and thanks God i'm watching your video. Okay now i will going back to bed and cuddle him. I've been insomniac for month since he been acting cold. I will try again to break this ice with your advice. Thank you Brad :)

@sharinasmith2165 4 года назад

This has truly helped me in the exact area I needed help with! Thank you for sharing such great positive advice!

@fano_lace6019 Год назад

This video will never ever ever get old. i hope people that need this advice find this video in time and allow themselves to cry it out. if its a man, make sure to do it when you alone. Thank you Brad.

@BradBrowning 11 месяцев назад

You're welcome! I'm glad you appreciate it.

@GavDuggan1983 4 года назад

Thank you for this Brad. I really needed this advice at the moment. I’m finding the situation really difficult but your advice resonates with me and allows me to detach from my ego and what I want, and to fall back on that unconditional love so that things can improve in their own natural time. Thanks again.

@BradBrowning 4 года назад

Awesome! Good to hear. And you're welcome. Be careful not to put up with that kind of behaviour for far too long though. If this goes on for months, that would indicate something needs to be done to get you two back on track with your marriage before your marriage gets dysfunctional. Take care!

@bakerchiropractic1065 Год назад

Agreed…well said !

@admiralisshobattousai2806 7 лет назад

Love Unconditionally -" You are married to a person who does not meet all the conditions so that you might learn unconditional love"

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

That's one way of looking at it. Thanks for your input! :-)

@admiralisshobattousai2806 7 лет назад

..actually brad..i have to accept the possibilty that i will never get my wife back...i just experienced how really hard it is when someone betrays your trust..

@biblicalthinker2.083 5 лет назад

Agape.

@lindastapletondemartinez9579 5 лет назад

@@biblicalthinker2.083 Yes, that is the purest form of love, but God also created marriage for another type of love as well and when that is totally absent from a relationship it is very painful.

@biblicalthinker2.083 5 лет назад

@@lindastapletondemartinez9579 It is meant that we consider our love for one another as Agape, Eros, and Filos, Complete the three pieces such as our Holy God is three in one :)

@baldman5k Год назад

THIS is the video that FINALLY gave me equal parts mind-blowing insight, thorough explanation, much-needed validation, empathy, encouragement, positivity, and most importantly, HOPE…. I just really HOPE that it’s not too late, after 28 years with my “middle school sweetheart.” Thank you so much! Wish me luck! #KeepPushing #MuchLove

@BradBrowning Год назад

Good luck! If you need my help, you know what to do.

@bellap8890 2 года назад

Thank you for this. Badly needed this... Made me feel better.

@paddy6494 7 лет назад

I cried throughout the video. . thank you very much

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Now now stay strong... it can't be that bad. :-) Anyway you're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!

@ChoppingtonOtter 5 лет назад

Oh it *can* be that bad. I may be about to lose my wife of 20 years through being too distant and busy. The stupid part (me) is that I love her more than life itself - I just got so busy with other things that I forgot to keep making sure she knew. Learn from my mistake brothers. This is the love of my life about to leave - she says she still loves me but is not "in love" with me and wants to split.

@dinakhouzam1986 6 лет назад

what if it is his nature to be emotionally cold and isolated while I'm a warm sensitive person who needs love, I can respect his differences but what about me! If i cant have a deep relation with my husband who else could I be close to! especially when we live abroad with no family or friends out there

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

Opposites attract! :-) Seriously, though. I doubt things had always been this way between you two, so.... when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

@Jahmaidraws 6 лет назад

stupes exactly. I feel the same way

@lenitaa7938 6 лет назад

Brad Browning With due respect, yes, it is likely that her spouse was cold and distant all along..She probably misinterpreted his behaviour or had no life experience to properly interpret his behaviour! To be honest.. it is insulting to put all the blame on the very spouse that is really hurting and losing self-confidence daily..dying inside! Like I said.. you make good points.. but these will Not save the marriage relationship! These points u teach are great to business, etc relationships, but not a Marriage! These spouses are seriously passive-agressive! It is about manipulation for them and making a spouse look bad..! These spouses are very vindictive..and she will not even know what she did, because he will not bother to tell her! It is a power play.. with him holding all the cards! No matter what she does..even using all your points.., she will Fail..And you are setting her up to fail! If her husband is chronically like this.. and not just depressed or grieving someone's death..etc, you ought to tell her, ' Run! He will never love you..and will always be a selfish jerk and bastard! So save your sanity, your life ..make all the preparations for exit..such as renting another place to live, save money, a steady job, counselling, support groups!' Your ideas are cool.. for short-term..but not workable long-term..and solves nothing! Divorce is the only Viable Solution here!!

@plumpdn 5 лет назад

Dina Khouzam find a boyfriend

@cashjob1975 5 лет назад

Me too trucker swami

@HerbalND 4 года назад

Wow this is very encouraging and helpful. I needed this and I am definitely going to use these techniques.. Thank you!

@BradBrowning 4 года назад

You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!

@vessel4thelordjesus 6 лет назад

What a solid straight foward video... clearcut and worthwhile. I will share this for sure.

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

You just made my day! Thank you! :-)

@onyxbellz 5 лет назад

Give them space, pursue your own goals, nurture your own support system - family and friends... Great advice! Some people just aren't built to accept and give love the right way, I still feel it is their loss though... Eventually if you're strong enough to rise to the top without them, whatever love they show you can't be fully trusted.

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

Thank you for your input!

@onyxbellz 5 лет назад

Brad Browning You're very welcome, Sir... Please keep up the good work!

@angeliquef9118 5 лет назад

I have had nothing but arguments about having a screen in his face. Its gonna end after 10 yrs

@gt4real377 4 года назад

@@TheSmack2007 I'm 45 I wish I could find one that is a woman of success

@SiteSauce 6 лет назад

Brad, great video. One the one hand takes a lot of maturity to step up and do what you're suggesting, on the other hand these are pretty simple things that can easily be done. Thanks for making it so clear and succint.

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

You're welcome! Thanks for the support. If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t done so yet, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@user-dr1vh9tz8f 8 лет назад

Your awesome, I love watching your videos you've helped me in so many ways. I also like the fact that you get straight to the point and well spoken. Thank you

@BradBrowning 8 лет назад

+Glenny Suglia Thank you for the kind words...and you're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@user-dr1vh9tz8f 8 лет назад

+BradBrowning will do, thanks

@utaka78 7 лет назад

I'm in my second marriage and it's not easier now,than it was before-thats the bitter truth! Marriage/relationships always need to get cared for and maintained like a little garden. Sometimes it needs some weeding,new flowers and plants,some triming,lots of love and energy. When rough times come along try to jump over your shadow and do nice things on purpose!( thats the hardest part for me) And i try not to judge my husband,for in which phase of life he's in. The most important to me is,that my husband and i always have intention to change!either the way i act or think about stuff.same goes for him.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Marriage, relationships, and friendships alike need to be nurtured at varying levels in order to sustain it. It may be easier with one than it is with another person since everyone has different personalities that may not necessarily jive with yours. And yes, challenges will always be there in some way, form or shape. :-)

@biancahiguera6655 6 лет назад

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@christalsouder4130 4 года назад

What do you do when your always the one being nice and always giving and never receive back

@garywhiteman8837 5 лет назад

Thanks my man great advice

@andreitawheel 7 лет назад

Brad: just stumble upon this video while browsing for some guidance. Just wanted to thank you so much, this video has just relaxed some tense thoughts I've been having the past days. I love my husband dearly, even tho our marriage is only 6 months old, we have known each other for a couple of years, we never fight or barely argue, and the past couple of days have been some what different and distant....long story short, this video just help me a lot. Thank you!

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Hey, I'm glad I was able to help Andrea! :-)

@awkwardnerdywhiteguyproduc788 7 лет назад

thank brad so much. my wife and have been fighting a lot lately and ur videos have helped me greatly to rethink my actions about how I approach the situations and how to better spark up conversations :)

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Good to know, man. You're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@thattiktokdad__ 7 лет назад

boy what great tips!!! my wife has been cold and distant lately and by using your tips i think she s coming around! we have been together for 20 years and with the change in attitude its been very hard not to go into panic mode and push push push! but with your advice i think she s coming around!!

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

That's good to know. I'm happy for you! :-)

@wendymann7929 7 лет назад

What about when he acts like a child

@mearcat74 7 лет назад

All men are childish by nature not that they are childish they just see things in a more impracticable and basic manner.

@HanOoInvestments 6 лет назад

I am in the same situation currently. So I am learning to distance myself and not pursue her. Hope that will help me reduce my frustration.

@dajarive1033 5 лет назад

Love it! Still need more about the person feeling alone not only considered the person checking out.

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

If both people were to do this at the same time, that could spell disaster. :-)

@genasoriano559 3 года назад

I like your approach thank you for sharing. You make me feel stronger 💪with your encouragement. I could go on and on listening to make me feel better.

@maryann9538 6 лет назад

it sounds like a lot of work being married,, might not be worth the effort. Try living in the mountains instead lol

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

To become enlightened? :-)

@heidocosta6960 5 лет назад

It is very hard people dont value and stick ro their vows

@EmilyGloeggler7984 4 года назад

I prefer the city.

@richardrose8123 6 лет назад

15 year's, and I love her so much... I have been so lost. Thank you, thank you, thank you for this lesson.

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

You're welcome. Stay strong, Richard!

@gfutbol3 8 лет назад

This is some great stuff. Not married but this does apply to my relationship. Thanks! It's always good to get advice/another perspective.

@BradBrowning 8 лет назад

+gfutbol3 Some relationships would feel like a marriage, especially if you're cohabiting. Anyway you're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@barski1960thomas 5 лет назад

Wow. 100% right on!! Thank you.

@genericwoman3713 3 года назад

Toning down your charisma to make your spouse more at ease? I'm so glad I happened upon this video by chance rather than seeking it out on purpose during what could be a time when desperately needing warmth and love within a relationship. If I was being starved of affection and I then heard how it was because of my big, charismatic personality and how I should just go away and maybe they might love me then... I would probably go from being lonely and starved of affection to full blown depressed and anxious- with some self loathing thrown in for good measure =(

@BradBrowning 3 года назад

Getting married actually involves putting ego aside even just for a tiny bit. After all, you exchanged vows, for better or for worse, right? If this behaviour from your spouse goes on for months, that would indicate something needs to be done to get you two back on track with your marriage before your marriage gets truly dysfunctional. Take care!

@masteryourdesire.4463 6 лет назад

The is easy to say. Not easy to do. The partner is able to emotionally abuse you. You end up skilled and your partner likely will continue with the behavior. Where is their self-control. It seems like the strong is suffering for the weak with no real solution for the challenge. This will not last long if a person is just accepting unacceptable behavior. At some point they will have to be accountable for their behavior.

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

It's always easier said than done. I feel you, man! If they've been acting hot and cold for way too long, then yes, that's a cause for concern indeed. But I don't think a marriage or a relationship would even last if one partner is acting this way for no reason.

@laranson892 6 лет назад

Tim Rice, I was thinking the same thing. When does the understanding, calmness, and patience give way to the hurt feelings of the continued abandonment?

@weareuniqueforareason7503 5 лет назад

EXACTLY!

@rpthomas721 5 лет назад

Say that again!!!!!!!!!!!! Please somebody say that again!!!!!!

@bonnierobinson5917 5 лет назад

Tim Rice, No woman should accept any man that doesn't respect her needs. You are a dime a dozen.

@wh5962 3 года назад

This video did help me from rest of the videos I watched. Try to work up a marriage or simply don’t invest emotions and keep ourselves composed

@BradBrowning 3 года назад

Good to hear!

@HikingForChangeAustralia 7 лет назад

This is literally exactly what i needed to hear... I'm with my parter who i love with all my heart but i realize i tend to become a pursuer when things get a little rocky and i have demanded explanations at times when i know she values space and time... Just because i want to talk right now doesn't mean we should because i need to value her thoughts and feelings more. I feel so bad and like a fool for the way i treated her last night... She told me she needed to talk about some things and when i probed her she didn't reply... I immediately starting playing on negative thoughts in my mind, expecting the worst when really she was just trying to explain positive things. Us men can be fools sometimes! But no one is perfect, and i will always treat her with love and kindness as i always do... but for now i need to keep my distance and actually give her space and time, I'm not sure why i find it so hard to do.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

I hear you. It is never easy to do, man, but it's doable, so try to stay strong, all right? Watch this to help you out though: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5G1IRS-lCvc.html You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

@mycraftyplace 3 года назад

This is 100% provided that you are certain love is still there.... Make no mistake, if he/she never shows he/she loves you DO NOT DO THESE tips...these are for stable couples overcoming a short stage of distancing.... Not for when somebody never pays or has never paid attention to you or made you feel important or loved

@kennethscrivner9761 7 лет назад

What do I do when she is so distant that she would rather spend time on social media and talking to friends instead of communicating with me? I am the type of husband who would rub her feet and talk than play on my phone. The wife comes first. I am possibly looking at divorce because the lack of communication and intimacy

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Sorry to hear that. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-W_vzHFqnasM.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

@kellyanderson3412 6 лет назад

She's lucky my husband wont rub my feet :-)

@jaguartanggam8395 5 лет назад

I feel you. Some people tends to take us for granted and fail to appreciate us.

@bluebird2594 5 лет назад

Kenneth Scrivner did you marry the right person. people who are married to each other may be married to the wrong person. marriage isn't wrong....it's who you are married to that may be wrong.

@sueanne3139 5 лет назад

@@BradBrowning So what if the husband/wife is a narcissist? the silent treatment is part of their control tactics you know. The poor 'other half' thinks its something they have done or said...when really its a passive, agressive abuse.

@genasoriano559 4 года назад

I like your positive advices thank you for sharing it.👍👍❤

@eloisaflores7269 5 лет назад

Thank you for giving me hope

@reazuddin6086 8 лет назад

Hey brad.. u r awesomeeeee....😊

@BradBrowning 8 лет назад

+REAZ UDDIN Thanks! Please feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel to help spread this awesomeness :-) and so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!

@saraabdallah8120 5 лет назад

That made me more depressed and it feels as if I'm drowning

@BradBrowning 4 года назад

Sorry to hear. I suggest you watch the vid over and over again until you get the points of what I'm saying, though. You're taking things way too personally and that's why you're hurting.

@saraabdallah8120 4 года назад

@@BradBrowning my problem us that I am a newly wedbut living in a long distance relationship due to the visa bureaucracy.. Being apart is not ideal and my brain has too many traumas to re-live every time something happens.. We are great together but that physical distance is not making it easy for either of us

@tevenweven7860 7 лет назад

Hi Brad, thanks for taking the time to reply,will look at the link soon as I can tomorrow(I'm in England and its early morning at the moment lol)thanks for your time and knowledge, it's very much appreciated thanks

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

You're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@joemaramiled9489 7 лет назад

hey brad your video helped me a lot on understanding my flaws when it comes to handling my marriage life thank you

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

You're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@cashjob1975 5 лет назад

So what do I do when I've done your 9 steps and shes still cold and distant? I'm at the end of my rope here in a 28 year relationship

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

Then something deeper is going on. Want me to take a closer look? Sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

@taylormadetransportationll8297 7 лет назад

My wife has told me that she has cut her feelings off and that a wall has been built up over time and that she cant change how she feels. That she doesnt think there is anything that i can do to get her to change her feelings, yet she has agreed to attend counseling with me. she stated that it was mostly for me, so that I would be ok after. trying to give her time and space while we go through this.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Sorry to hear that. Her still caring about your well-being is a positive sign. Anyway when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? This may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html but it's really a bit challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation...Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

@camman6912 6 лет назад

Just the fact she's willing to go to counseling with you shows that there's hope My ex wouldn't even do that I wish you well

6 лет назад

Stop kidding yourself, get an apartment and a girlfriend.

@justclickedtodislike9236 5 лет назад

She's already cheating. She's just trying to kick you to the curb gracefully

@tonydeleon4680 5 лет назад

Stephen Taylor Im going through the Exact same thing and i just signed up for his mend the marriage program. Keeping my Fingers Crossed.

@bybrwnbmbshll8828 8 лет назад

Very insightful! Felt like u were talking directly to me ☺️

@BradBrowning 8 лет назад

Glad to be able to help. If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@Raven135 6 лет назад

I enjoyed the video very much and learned a lot about the fact that my overbearing personality might make him feel boxed in. We've been together almost 9 years and we fight way too much! It isn't healthy for either of us. I truly want to love him completely but the cold detached and self centeredness over the years have me frustrated. Thank you for your video and I hope to catch a few more! Have a lovely weekend!🌻🍀🙏💕

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

You're welcome! If you need my help further, you know what to do! :-)

@LDT7Y 4 года назад

Opposites attract is one giant myth. I fyou look at the research (and general common sense), most of the time people are more attracted to partners like themselves, especially in times of stress or as they age (which tends to come with extra stress anyway). You may find differences 'exotic' or 'interesting' to begin with, but once the novelty wears off they generally become irritating and an extra point of contention. I wish I'd realised this when I was younger and avoid all the drama of learning it the hard way!

@michaelking4578 6 лет назад

You are smart. I am dumb. Really dumb. Thanks for the advice.

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

It's not fair to put yourself down so much, man. Cheer up, I'm sure you're okay! :-)

@georgemartin9205 4 года назад

Great video! Very helpful points.

@TheAymanh 8 лет назад

Brad Branding you saved, and brought my relationship ! it really works! thanks man!

@BradBrowning 8 лет назад

+Aymanh H lol who's Brad Branding? Well, I forgive you for slaughtering my last name, but feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

@MrJaypatel3366 4 года назад

@@BradBrowning Hi

@poppyfernhairstudio4786 2 года назад

You just made me realize I need to end my marriage. Thanks!

@BradBrowning 2 года назад

You're welcome. Like I've said, not all relationships/marriages are meant to last and/or can be saved or should be saved. Use discernment and as long as you're sure you've made the right decision and are happy, nobody has the right to really say otherwise. :-)

@shafershafer3954 4 года назад

So do the opposite of everything I've been doing?...by the way, every reaction I get back from how I've been handling this situation is exactly what Doc is saying. So I'll take a different approach. Just note, it can be exhausting and draining being the only one trying to work at issues. One can only take so much.

@BradBrowning 4 года назад

If things seem hopeless and you're wanting to save the marriage on your own, my clients found their peace by having applied the tips similar to the ones I mentioned on these videos: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-F1nFUvtof7Y.html AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-lvH0STXVqdI.html If you're still having trouble, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

@TinaMarieJ 2 года назад

Great video! Really helped me tonight 👏🏽👏🏽

@GeneCAu 7 лет назад

Thank you. Arguably the best advise out of all the youtube channels.

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

No problem! I'm just glad to be of help :-)

@cristinagonzalez7083 7 лет назад

but if they dont realize and dont change...im tiered of always being the bigger person...when do you say thats it...and move on??

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

This one's really up to you, sorry. Whatever you decide to do, make sure to NOT be hasty and don't let emotions overrule everything, so definitely take your time first. Don't make decisions when you're mad/emotional. You may want to write them down in paper and weigh the pros and cons first. Good luck!

@Jahmaidraws 6 лет назад

exactly. sigh. I just don't know

@gigismith1362 6 лет назад

I'm tired of years of my husband sitting on the couch into his movies or reading on his cell phone every time he has free time and when I ask him if he wants to do somthing he never dose. Year after year it's the same. So I finally stepped off and told him don't expect sex anymore and don't expect me to care about you when you get sick. I'm not going to be used anymore

@supa4ys843 5 лет назад

@@gigismith1362 Damn, cold

@SG-nu7go 5 лет назад

Not giving sex doesn’t work either bc they will go and cheat and say you made them by not giving sex.

@overhim17 7 лет назад

What if I've tried giving him space, and talking about things but he won't talk to me, he doesn't even look at me when I'm trying to talk to him, he just plays on his phone and says that he doesn't think there's anything to talk about. I'm at my wits end, I feel completely rejected and alone. It's like he's given up. What can I do?

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Sorry to hear that. The way I see it, you may be pushing or forcing things too much when he's clearly not ready to talk yet. I suggest you back off a bit and tend to other things while he sorts out his own feelings, okay? If he's shutting off, then the last thing you'd want to be doing is continue to force him to talk about the issues or problems. Pick a better timing this time or better yet, wait for him to open up. Get busy with your own life so you won't appear overly desperate, he'll wonder what you're up to and what he's missing by not talking to you. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

@cherokeejaspertravisbabodo3024 7 лет назад

i feel the same way buts it's been years of this off and on and I'm unsure what to do we have been together 9years and married six years so the maybe he not ready to talk part doesn't help me much unless you think the past few years he hasn't been ready to talk, I'm his wife BTW his Google account

@drakashshrestha3309 7 лет назад

Me and my girl were together for eight beautiful years and all of a sudden she started acting cold a couple of weeks back, i was very torn, thank god i found this video that made me realise that i would be there for her through all the thick and thin moment, earlier i was thinking of breaking up with her but now i realise she needs me more than ever now and i am going to support her with all i have, thank you brad :-)

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

You're welcome, man! It's also time to ask yourself some important but often hard questions. Stuff like, when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-W_vzHFqnasM.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

@sarawallis5975 3 года назад

Thank u for sharing these insights! I will try to take your advice. I can be healthy and stay positive in the midst of a situation going on.

@BradBrowning 3 года назад

@biagoofy1 7 лет назад

Helpful tips.. I have been married for 24 years, I did whatever in my power to build a bridge between with me and my husband. He's a caring husband but he has no emotions at all. Cold and dead emotions.so tired of dealing him

@gigismith1362 6 лет назад

Yes my husband is the same. But I don't want to be with a man that is too loving or soft. So I'm just going to get a secret male friend to hang out with

@lenitaa7938 5 лет назад

Bushra Jalil How can he be a 'caring husband', if he has no emotion?? To care is to have emotion! Unless you mean, he provides physically for u and family, which you see as 'caring'? To care is to love, to show affection, to be there for the partner!

@aryeh3701 5 лет назад

My wife is the same...these creatures have boarderline personalities..in the beginning she was feeding off my words and never had a question for me without me mentioning a clue for her to ask me or tell me anything. I have to start the conversation like 98% of the time. These humans that have these boarderline dead ways put a good show until they reveal there true self is boring as hell..non communicative zombies..

@lonewolf171 5 лет назад

Aryeh I am that creature that has no emotions. My wife has drained me of emotions after 5 years of marriage. She is very emotional and it’s draining. Constant crying makes me shut down. I suggest finding your emotionless spouse passions and share that with them. I open up like a book when people run or exercise with me.

@capitona29 8 лет назад

I just don't see him like the best man on earth anymore due to the fact that he doesn't want to spend much time with me like before, maybe he finds me too clingy or needy, I don't know - I am hurt, I feel rejected so I go stone cold. I am getting colder and colder as the days go by and the caring and extremely affectionate me is gone. We had a great relationship and I was happy. Quality time is very important for me and without it I feel undervalued and dismissed. It might not seem a big deal but I am very unhappy

@BradBrowning 8 лет назад

I hear you. Be sure to communicate this issue with him first and he may not necessarily see things the same way, okay? The key is to get on the same page and brainstorm for a solution together to get through the ordeal, that's what marriage is about. :-) Take care!

@cashjob1975 5 лет назад

You said the exact way I feel, except I'm the husband that feels this way about my wife

@Kadeis_Lost 5 лет назад

cashjob1975 same thing is happening to me. I feel this way about my wife

@Kadeis_Lost 5 лет назад

Girlfriend *

@weareuniqueforareason7503 5 лет назад

Same

@MrsZ0122 3 года назад

I'm going to try my best to follow your advice and hopefully things will start to fall into place with me and my husband. Thank you so much. Wish me luck... I'm gonna need it.

@BradBrowning 3 года назад

Be careful not to put up with that kind of behaviour for far too long though. If this behaviour from your spouse goes on for months, that would indicate something needs to be done to get you two back on track with your marriage before your marriage gets dysfunctional. Take care!

@catherinetighe7813 5 лет назад

Great advice!

@Gingerbear_24 6 лет назад

“Always respond better to positivity than scrutiny.” “Pursue your goals than your partner.” Wow that hits the spot!

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

I know, right! :-)

@nena8687 5 лет назад

This video is such a compliment to the bible principles advice. ALTHOUGH it's not it's target - i really enjoyed the idea it offers to messed up couples. After all we married an imperfect human. Ha!

@darleneburns4093 5 лет назад

Good info for this marital situation. I'm realizing my situation is Narcissistic abuse. I tried all of what you said. None of it worked for me. Thanks for the post because it helped to determine my situation was not in my head .Thanks for posting

@BradBrowning 5 лет назад

@-2blozo246 4 года назад

This video helps me a lot...very effective and helpful👍👍👍👍👍

@sanchiohri6664 7 лет назад

i am not the priority of my partner no matter how hard i try i am d only one getting upset about stuff.. what to do?? plz guide me

@BradBrowning 7 лет назад

Chances are he doesn't know you feel that way. Have you tried talking to him about it, as well as ways he can show you to feel prioritized?

@sanchiohri6664 7 лет назад

yes, multiple times but i dnt knw may be its the anger or what ...i am tired of one n d same conversation

@MrGene-jj7xj 6 лет назад

I would just add - prayer. Pray to God, the God of the Bible. Don't do it alone when God can help you. God bless you all.

@BradBrowning 6 лет назад

That can definitely work as well. Faith does wonders! Thanks for your input! :-)

@isrealistheauthor1489 6 лет назад

Mr. Gene HalleluYah!

@justclickedtodislike9236 5 лет назад

There's no God. You might as well paint a wall and watch it dry

@mhey1705 5 лет назад

This is what I'm focusing on at the moment. I worked God out of our marriage with my intense need to be someone. It's finally come crashing down around us and the only thing that can help me escape the pain is hoping God will give me a second chance at life.

@myamyaw772 5 лет назад

... What if they belong to different religion 😓