My husband has a problem with habitual lying. I’ve gotten to the point that I don’t play detective anymore or question anything that is out of the norm. Almost like he’s conditioned me to stop caring about what he does. Other then this issue...he is a good husband and I know he loves me. FYI...he only admits to things if I catch him. I could beg him for the truth but he sticks to his lies until cornered. His ex wife was very controlling and it seems like he treats me as if I’m her because I have complained about somethings. Now he just lies or hides everything he feels shame about. I just don’t know how to make him feel comfortable with sharing with me. I used to bash him about it...calling him a liar...but now I really just feel sorry for him and his emotional retardation.
As you progress through your relationship/marriage, I'm sure he'll open up to you in time. It's just taking longer for him to open up because of his trust issues. Depending on what he lies about, there may not be a real intimacy in your marriage, and there may come a time where you need to do something about this. A good way to make him start opening up to you is everytime he shares something, no matter how trivial, try to just listen without passing judgment. Support him if the situation warrants it. And thank him after sharing the information. If you need my help further on this, I would need to dig deeper into your situation to check what is really going on between you two. Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
I left my husband & a week later I had a baby unfortunately my baby didn’t make it because she was premature!!!....I expected to get some type of love & support from my husband he gave me NONE!!!....when I spoke to him he was really cold and said he was sorry I lost the baby but as far as my well being he didn’t care what I had been through or how I felt!!!...he says he wants a divorce I’m beyond hurt and I can’t stop crying but at this point I’ll give him what he wants because I refuse to continue to beg!!!....I’m so heart broken & I don’t know what else to do!!!...
Sorry to hear that. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
My husband & I get along great when we're together.. Just argue when I'm at work for the weekend.. It's hard dealing with a Narcissist.. Always mental & Emotional Abuse..
I need your help. My marriage is on the rocks and we can't seem to get things back on track. I am very open and honest and communicate effectively. I don't point fingers or be little my husband, I'm very conscious of my actions and words, until we get into HUGE arguments. I know I have flaws but I'm constantly trying to improve on them. My husband on the other hand isn't. He doesn't respond to my efforts in fixing our relationship, he refuses counseling, yet he says he wants to make things work. He isn't interested in compromises, and needs "his" way.. it's destroying our relationship. I watched a lot of your videos and I feel hat I handle things appropriately, I try not to take things to heart. I try and give him space, but I give him an inch and he takes a mile. A couple days a week of alone times, turns into weeks and months.. we need help but I just don't know where to turn anymore..
Sorry to hear you're going through this, Brittany. Watch these first as I think it relates closely to your situation: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-z262BzLvwAk.html AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gXmO_8F3dGc.html When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? It's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Trust is one of the pillars of a good relationship. Try to see if he is actively willing to change, otherwise yes, I'm afraid it's pretty over since you both will be stuck in the same toxic loop.
My wife says I don't communicate enough. She always shuts me down when I do communicate. It seems like I can't get a word in at all! I love my wife, but she always considers divorce over marriage counseling. I sometimes feel like i'm singing to the choir. I'm lost over what to say or do at this point.
@@BradBrowning a majority of our communication issues are driven by me trying to explain why I think the way I do. I'm a very patient and tolerant individual. My thought process is not driven by emotions, it's driven by logic. I find here to be illogical when it comes to situations that would require finesse and patience. Our main issue is me not following her instruction.
I have been married for 31 years. Two years back I learned that my wife was having and affair. She denied the affair and then a year later, she came to me and said that she was in love with this guy and wanted to move to live with him. She told me that they been having an affair for the last 12 years. I had no idea of this and thought that we had a perfect marriage. She never worked in her life and I showered her with every thing a woman would want ( shes short of nothing). We tried to stay together for the last year and September 18 she moved out for 2 weeks and returned with all her stuff, only to leave again in October with all her stuff again to live with her boyfriend. She has now been gone for 2 months. She phones me on a daily basis. You talk of the no contact for 1 month, what do I do when she calls, should I ignore her calls.
12 years? Man that's tough! The fact that you hadn't noticed anything going on is a red flag, though, with all those years. Were you too busy, perhaps with work and trying to provide for her? I can see that you truly love her, though, so there's that. Anyway these are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi Brad, I have been with my husband for twenty years and we have been married 14 years. My husband has recently taken three trips to the Dominican Republic and I have tried trusting him but he has finally admitted that he cheated. I want to give him another chance but I can’t stop thinking about the betrayal and lies. How do I trust him again?
Sorry to hear that. If he's willing to do his part, there's still a bigger chance of fixing things. This may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-FNa8nYnposM.html but also heal yourself from this betrayal first and take the time you need for yourself. If you need to distance yourself away from him, do it. Learn to process your feelings accordingly. It make take a while so don't be so hard on yourself. Take care!
ty for doing these videos. my wife is moving out next friday and we will be doing NC till January that slowing rebuilding. your videos have help keep me positive.
You're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I need some help. My fiancé left me for a guy she cheated on me with. She says she doesn’t have feelings for me but I know it only started being like that when he showed up. She was literally everything to me and I’m trying to save this. She was the person I love. I literally can’t give up on her. It’s impossible for me. I love her more than anything I’ve ever known..... please help me.... I would literally DO ANYTHING at this point. There is nothing I wouldn’t change and nothing I wouldn’t do to make it work. To save what we had
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-m27TLeyUmwg.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!
Quiz: 1. Friends, I'd have to say no way :'( 2. He is ASD, so does this one still count? 3. No :'-( not since marriage.. feels like walking on egg shells 4. Hobbies have changed. He is a geek and I'm an outdoor person 5. Yes. But also I feel we both could treat each other better than we do. Being an NT spouse I have grown extra resentment :'( ... And him being the ASD spouse he prefers to never leave the bedroom "computer".
My husband is suffering from depression and cannot keep up with work.it's been this way ever since we married.been married to him for 5 years. We have a good understanding and live each other alot. We have a great bond. But it looks like iv to shoulder the financial burdan n I'm mentally exhausted because of his sickness. I'm wondering if i should try to work this out? The love I have for him makes me feel guilty to leave. Plz advice. Thank you very much.
Maintaining a struggling marriage while also struggling with depression at the same time can be too much for most people...but this doesn't necessarily spell the end of your marriage. After all, when you exchanged vows, it is for better or for worst! :-) Since you're married, you can try to get your spouse the help that he needs so your spouse is on the right path in terms of his mental health and very well on a path to healing. And as a result, will be able to contribute more to the marriage so you won't feel overburdened. Take care!
my husband is very cold and distant at times with me and children. we have 3 boys and they cry when dad is like this. i tried talking to him iver and over again and then he becomes angry and says i think im the perfect parent.
Sorry to hear that. Has he always been like this, though? I posted a similar topic, here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gXmO_8F3dGc.html But when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-W_vzHFqnasM.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
I heard my husband kiss his sister-in-law😢 but I can't prove anything coz I have no evidence of that. He says I heard something else to defy him. But I have every feeling all the time that he is not into me anymore, he wants more space, he never looks into my eyes and he always tries to seem busy amd not let me involve im wahtever he is doing😢
Sorry to hear. Who told you about your husband's possible affair? You may have to follow the tips on this vid: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-U9oTGnDRms4.html
We haven't had sex for four years. So I am leaving as we are not even kissing. My husband is a germaphobic. He hasn't touch me since I have become a diabetic. He knows he can't catch diabetes but he is weird like that. So I've had enough and leaving.
Sorry to hear that. I doubt that's always the case though? What happened? Have you encouraged him to seek treatment? Moreover is he doing something about it? And are you happy with your choice? I'm sorry, but there’s lots of missing pieces here, sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what's going on, then guide you on a regular basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
I also don't like to touch my wife at all. My memories of our sex life is her getting upset and what I imagine she did with the other guys that were way uglier than me. I mean dam, I can understand if the guy looked better but a 400-600 lb dude? wtf. She told me he couldn't even reach her to put it in so instead he had to release on her leg. This is what I was traded for. Even if I'm bad at sex I can reach and go for at least a little while. So yeah I dread touch her.
brad. hi, I am CJ. My husband is now in another state working. No phone calls from him. a few texts. One from birthday and yes, Christmas. he is not here. When he has called he just seems distant. it hurts. He transferred to another store and now he is out of state. He has never told me when he will be back. he says we argue. I ask and he says he does not know. I have text him throughout December. I think I may need to stop. he is tired of seeing the text. He has been away for 6 months. What do I do?
Hey CJ! Sorry to hear you're going through this. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-W_vzHFqnasM.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hey Brad, my girlfriend broke up with me last week and I want to get back with her. Saw her once after the break up and tried apologizing but that didnt work. Saw your video so I started doing the no contact. I want to get your coaching so you can help me on a one to one but don't know if I should wait till it gets closers to the thirty days or I should get it now since I can't.
Sorry to hear about the breakup. It's completely up to you, man. The "no contact" rule basically should help you out with regaining yourself first, which is very important. So I'll understand if you need this time completely to yourself, but you can sign up for my coaching program though so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, my wife and I of 15 years are in a trial separation. We have 2 younger sons and both of us aren't happy in our marriage. We are both unhappy with ourselves and got lazy in our marriage. We would at times constantly argue and later not really do activities in our marriage. We have talked divorce before off and on for a few years but thought things could change the next time. Things would get better for a short time then go back to the same bad habits. My wife decided just a week ago for a trial separation. She said that the only reason I'm still around is for our sons. If we didn't have children we would have been filing for divorce. She isn't in love me anymore. We haven't been arguing since she initially started this. She said she wants her space to see if she likes living single. Been very corgial. I'm trying to make changes in my life now but she said it's too little too late. I want marriage counseling but she doesn't. She said she has put that wall up. Is there any hope at all to save this marriage.
Sorry to hear that. A marriage getting in a rut often happens in long term relationships, especially a marriage. Try to look back in retrospect, though. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
hey brad what if we have already signed divorce papers is there anyway I could save it. we been apart for about over a month now. so if you have any tip please let me know.
Sorry to hear that. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-W_vzHFqnasM.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
In my relationship we have been forced to live separated and after a year i decided to move to him and due to alot of finical problems i had to move back to continue my work. and i am ADHD and it causes more problems. and now i am not sure what to do. he seems distance and i been feeling bored with the relationship. WIth our current situation we would be able to live together in two years.
Sorry to hear that. While there is pretty much nothing you can do with the distance, I suggest you stay busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Watch this as reference, too, for a long distance relationship: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5nfWRJRrnAs.html Good luck!
Hi Brad, Need your advice please. My wife and I have currently separated we have three young kids together she is wanting friendship only. We were together for 7.5 years and I am madly in love with her but I have gone through some depression of late and I am seeking help to mend myself for my family. It's hard as I have a lot of contact with her helping out with kids. I'm trying to stay positive and helpful but I think we are spending to much time together because of the kids. I want to try counselling or online help to mend the marriage but she is not willing at this stage it's been eight weeks since she moved out. No contact for one month is very hard with text from her to come around for dinner or bring some wood for her fire. I love them all with my whole heart and would do anything to mend our wonderful marriage we once had. Regards Adam
Hey Adam, sorry to hear that. If you've tried and she's still not open to go to counseling, then don't force her. Do the work for yourself and see if that makes a difference, because it mostly likely would. Here, watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ij6__SVcMW8.html
hi. I'm 22 years old and my ex was my classmate.. after high school we both go to separate university for more studies. we were so happy in a relationship .. I was a kind of emotional.. when ever he hurted me I warned him that I will breakup with u. after all that I visited his home and we were dating.. but after sometime I realized that he is not into me anymore so I start ignoring him. but later on every thing come into place.. I made mistakes and then I feel sorry towards him. but at that time he said it was my last chance we fought on a little thing.. even the fault was all his. I again and again apologized for my mistake but he said he is done with me. and soon he concluded that our relation is not gonna work he is a kind of stubborn..now it's been 18 days of our no contact :( and yet he didn't text me . I'm so confuse what to do Please help me :( I want him back as soon as possible. WHETHER TO STUCK WITH NO CONTACT PHASE OR TRY TO CONVENCE HIM ? (he is actually that kind of person he will hurt himself but never apologize after breakup ) :(( I don't have any Card to buy your program :( please help me
Hey there, with all due respect, I suggest you spend less time online as you may become obsessed with this already -- and that's not good. Your name looks familiar but there's really no way of tracking these comments as much as I want to. Please don’t get me wrong, but take time to process all the information I've given so far about your situation, okay? Take the chill pill so you'll understand and get to take in all the information I'm trying to tell you. You can always sign up for my coaching program if you need me to take a closer look. Take care!
hi my name is Charles Williams and I really need some advice my wife cheated on me 2 month ago and she beg me to stay so I did and we have done nothing but fight I really don't know what to do
Hi Charles! I think you would really find my Mend The Marriage program helpful. In this program, you will find plenty of information you can use to improve your marriage. Here's the link to sign up: www.marriageguy.com/mbuy
What is the root of the arguing? Congratulations on your willingness to forgive her. What actually was the root issue that led to her infidelity and is that resolved?
hey Charlie I got your answer right here. How can anyone stomach engaging in something sexual when they know someone else they love very much will be hurt by it. They know it is a betrayal and still decide to continue. I mean, put yourself in her body when she is about to do it. Would you be able to do this to your wife? betray like that? Now, you have not even considered what kind of person it takes to hold this information in while seeing you everyday, knowing in the back of there head what they did. Of course she may have confessed, but how long was she able to keep it a secret? How long was she able to look you in the face with a smile knowing she had another guys thing in her mouth. I hate to put it that way, but please stay with me for a moment. I wonder if she ever kissed you on the lips after she did that. There is a thought for you. Some other mans fluids (who doesn't care to ruin the years you invested with your wife) glazed on her lips that eventually kiss your lips. It would be much better if the man spat in your mouth and you swallowed his spit. Consider that.
Hi Charles. My name is nate aldridge an i have to tell you i cheated on my wife an she stayed an the only way we got passed it was we both had to cry out and weap to god to realease us from it an cry and weap to and with eachother over the situation then leave it at Jesus feet brother i will pray for him to help you
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hi brad, I was wondering about something my ex and I had a relation for maybe a month and it is really short so I was wondering if the "no text while two month" (this will be longer than our relation) could work because tbh I think he could forget me and if I want him back it is because I think that we didn't had enough time to give a chance to our relation to work, what should I do ? and do I have chances to date him again one day ? have a nice day ! :)
Keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back is concerned. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting her back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Have you known he's like this before you married him? All I'm saying is if it's a recent condition, it may not be too late. It's a personality disorder which could use al little treatment from a qualified person.
Hey me and my ex recently broke up, I don't know what's going on but she definitely needs to work on her first before thinking about me and if does happen and she does think about me I'll be happy, but my question is right now we have a Spanish class together should I sit away from her I'm in college
This is one of the cases where the “no contact” rule is actually an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, okay?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zKhNHhEmYMg.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ydeES3WU1Uc.html but read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have an in-depth view on how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, etc. since good timing is essential at www.breakupbrad.com Okay? Take care!
So I have been hanging onto my relationship for almost a year, but he has been acting fishy for the past 6 months. He never wants to spend time with me, won't tell me where he is or who he's with. And we are very distant and we don't even have a sex life anymore :( Can you please message me so I can talk to you?
If he's still your boyfriend, ask him what's going on. If he's already an ex, however, and you're the only one holding on, then here are the basics to getting an ex boyfriend back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a man thinks and understanding men in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy
Hey Brad, My ex girlfriend is dating another guy and it looks like she's just rebounding. I was wondering when/if she dumps him how long should I wait before contacting her again? (We haven't spoken for a little over a month now) Should I wait a week or two or longer or less? I'd really appreciate your advice
As a general rule, after doing the 30-day rule, wait until you feel comfortable talking to her. This might be in a week or two or more. Use the tips here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-uN_XAgHjaFM.html
@@BradBrowning hey Brad I m yr far far away fan. Yr videos are Messiah for me. But it's only helping me not my spouse who cheated on me since 13 yes I ve been made fool by him but he isn't ready to accept he condemned everything which is a white like and becoming hateful for me day by day and lit more I need yr help to made him speak and the hardest part that he isn't ready to accept that I m hurt and heartbroken he said it's all drama and he really mean it. He stopped having being physical with me no matter what
brad! I need your help! I was in a relationship for 6 months, everything was going well, until he started acting cold, when we had the break-up he told me that his feelings faded away, that they ware fading for a while, and that he tried to ignight his feeling back, but he couldn't, what should I do? please help me! waiting for your advice!
Hi! I think I've just answered your concern on the previous/the same video with you asking similar issues in that comment, so please refer to that. :-)
Hey i need a help... my bf n i were in relationship for 2 years and now bcz of some ppl some rumours he doesn't want to continue the relationship he is saying he got fed up... he wants to be like frnds bt not as a couple... what i shud do in such a case? please help me please
Get out of the friendzone first. Being friends with an ex, especially right after a breakup, is a bad idea, and even more so if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively (follow the principles), at ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-yd6pvNVeHjI.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-sS4V4IOcOgs.html
Hi Brad. Need your help please. I was with this girl for 1 year and she has a baby. She is planning to give divorce to her husband and we were thinking to get together. We had strong feelings for each other but after a while I lost my attraction because I was being needy and she rejected me. I started no contact rule and I am in second week now. So far she called me two times and I ignored her then after a while she texted me for some help (which was not really urgent or important) and I said I was busy. I have seen her husband and he's not a good person and because I was always there for her in bad times, may be that's why she felt for me. I know that she has been going through a lot in her life right now like divorce, work, her baby etc. She is my coworker and she also talks to one other guy in the office. Although she told me that this other guy is just his friend and she don't have any feelings but I am afraid that if I continue the no contact then will I lose her with this other guy or I am just over-analyzing the situation. I really love her and her baby and want her back. Appreciate your help.
She may be jumping into you too quickly, man. I understand that you're into each other. But things are happening really fast here. Give her time to process the divorce and all the mess associated with it and whatnot. If she truly loves you, she won't likely jump into another guy again, not too soon at least. She may just really need time to take care of her own business first, so don't rush it, okay? Let her come to you and in the meantime, focus on yourself and your own actions. Since you work together, then this is one of the cases where the “no contact” rule is actually an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, all right?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zKhNHhEmYMg.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ydeES3WU1Uc.html but read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have an in-depth view on how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, etc. since good timing is essential at www.breakupbrad.com Okay? Take care!
I agree with Brad here also and this woman probably started the relationship with you to just put an emotional band-aid over her existing marital problems, so it was kinda like a rebound without leaving the Husband, but all you can do is back off and give her space. She knows how you feel and it's totally up to her which way she wants to go but your making crucial mistakes by "ignoring" her calls, and telling her your busy, that can only get you so far and some women take it that you're not being supportive and they will discard you for someone else especially if her feelings aren't that deep, NEVER ignore an ex when they call, but do have your emotions under control and stay steady in the conversation.
You can reach me through my website at www.breakupbrad.com or send me a message via Facebook page: facebook.com/bbrowning/ Please do understand though, that I go by in the order that I receive these (just like here on RU-vid) and that coaching clients take first priority. Sign up for my email coaching program instead if you think your situation is urgent so I can address it as soon as possible, all right? Take care!
1/ He always says we can't be friends. As he s already has other friends. But yes we do share some laugh. 2/ I started a sex game with him like my week and after its his week 3/ I m not really comfortble with him. He cheated and has so many girls friends I don't know. He is romantique or I feel I can't trust him anymore. 4/ we never have hobbies. We date just 2 months, he proposed me and I agreed. 5/ Never tried anything. He refuses to see a priest. He says no need to do that. So, what your feeling about my situation ? Regards,
Number 3 ought to stop you in your tracks. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-m27TLeyUmwg.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!
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Depending on the damage done, it may or may not be too late…but don't make the same mistakes! On the flip side, however, you could just be overreacting, so don’t be so hard on yourself. Most people are guilty of this at some point. So if you'd really want to gauge your chances of getting back together (it may not be all doom and gloom after all) I suggest you take the free Mend the Marriage quiz on my website and answer as honestly as possible, a www.marriageguy.com/coaching Good luck!
All the more relevant since you're both stuck in a house together. I made a specific vid about this, though: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1Ydq28uWAcI.html
just found out my spouse had an affair/relationship outside outr marriage for many years he came clean ended it And wants to work on our marriage been married 20 years ups and down consequences out of his affair he had a kid ...I'm trying to move on past this I've accepted the little boy he's in my home I treat him equal to my girls and don't hold no hate ..my problem is getting over the hurt letting go ....I do still love him and I feel he's trying to do things the right way for me to forgive him ...
I understand where you're coming from. It's amazing how you've been so forgiving about the kid. Not everyone is capable of what you've been doing. As for trying to forgive him, that would be a personal journey, but if i get more details about the situation, I can try to help out. I've recently released a vid, have your husband watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-FNa8nYnposM.html
I can''t understand how it's ok with you that he did that. Oh I know, it's not ok with you, it happened, that does not mean you accept it. I would emplore you to remember the fact that he kept this from you for YEARS. He was able to look at you everyday knowing he is going to betray you again and again. I'm sure he loves you, but he can stomach having his tongue all over another woman and come home and use that same tongue to give you a nice kiss. Of course he brushed his teeth befoe his kissed you! He had to remove her vaginal hairs from in between his teeth right? Maybe that is not so bad for you. I wonder what else can he stomach being done to you? Yes he loves you but it's not like he will lose his mind if you are hurting, or crying uncontrollably. Could he stomach you being seriously injured or even doing the injury himself? No of course not, he would never do that...but then again I wonder if you thought he would ever cheat on you?
I'm sorry, but I have a different opinion. Marriage is instituted by God and what is instituted by Him is meant to be. With that said, every marriage is worth saving. Too many couples part ways without making EVERY effort possible to save their marriage. They don't just part ways by doing a temporary separation first. Instead, they jump right into divorce. My marriage required a separation (b/c of spousal abuse). We were separated for a few years. After going through counseling both individually and as a couple we were able to reconcile. Neither of us dated other people during our separation. We focused on our relationship. We have been married nearly 30 years now.
Good on you! But yes, the reality is not everyone functions the same way you two do. And I'd never recommend getting back in an abusive relationship. |Life is short, why spend it with someone who's only going to abuse you? I assume that has been taken care of, though, so good on you!~
Many Christians are married to a spouse that has a demonic entity influencing them to control and manipulate. Many Christians get divorced because of this but few know they have the authority in Jesus Christ to cast those demons out. I've done it and seen immediate turnaround in relationships.
Only wish you don’t shamelessly plug your products. You can just save it till the end like everyone else. It makes me think your underlying motivation is to make money and not to help.
Sorry you feel that way. If money is my main reason, I would've at least earn from RU-vid for the views on my channel? But I don't. And I wouldn't have tried to respond to every comment during my spare time, too. But I do. S go figure! LOL!
The biggest advice I can give to both spouses is to stop being so selfish. Try placing your spouse above yourself and being honest with your faults, less about your spouses faults. Basically, stop being an idiot...
My husband doesn't even try to fix it. He just left me. Im devastating because i knew he's already in a relationship with someone else before i found out. Im scared to love again.
I don't really like the world knowing my business but I literally feel like my marriage is over we're not married that long a lots went on in the past which led to me having trust issues but I feel as though I can't say anything to his daughter & even to him about her it's limited because it just causes arguments I've grown tired of it now I love my husband but when we argue it's toxic I especially can be very nasty with my words & honestly I was never like that it's like a build up of everything over time I've suggested that we get help but he's no interest in that whatsoever I feel like it's coming to an end I can't remember the last time we laughed or done something fun together it's been that long, I don't no if it's because Christmas is a few days away & it's just all the stress but it's been going on for a while & I don't no what to do it feels like I'm fighting a losing battle he means the world to me obviously or I wouldn't have married him it's like all the bad things that's happened has over shadowed the good, when we're good we're great but when we're bad it's toxic
Sorry to hear that. Trying to minimze the things that made your marriage toxic in the first place may help lessen the stress you feel right now. Try to get to the bottom of the issue/s. What were the arguments about? Could one or both of you perhaps try to pick your battles wisely and/or have a more productive way to deal with your misunderstandings? If you tend to get nasty, perhaps try walking out of the room momentarily and take a breather? That can help since spoken words, once spoken, can really hurt, and this in turn may lead him to lash out and it'll just turn into this huge fight. However, it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Not really in bed with another guy..just someone who listen and show interest in what she is saying...when a man take so much from a women she tries to say how much it hurts, but he only notice her when the damage is already done and that's when she she shut down completely...the only way to truly treat your spouse is to listen that's the only way you will know what they are thinking,what they want how they feel and what special surprise to give them on any giving day...just listen when they speak.
My husband had an emotional affair with an narcissist after losing is mother. After he realized who she really was he broke if off. He has been depressed not only about his mom but he says he misses the women he thought this woman was. I feel like he is only staying with me for the kids and the fact that he will have to come out of his pocket alot if we do get a divorce. I am feeling insecure, as if im not good enough. I feel like I am still competing with the women he had an affair with. Is my marriage worth saving?
Hey ! I’m sorry you’re going thru this . I truly know how that feel and how hard time you might been having . But if he treated you like that he’s not worth it I’m sure you’re smart and beautiful. Just make yourself happy don’t put others happiness over yours
You ultimately decide that eventually. However, you do need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him regarding the other woman. Here's how: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-U9oTGnDRms4.html
My spouse told me she had certain expectations from me but never told me what they were. She also stated that she shouldn't have to tell me I should already be aware of it. She lives in a bubble, when things get rough even outside of our marriage she runs away because it's easy. She had issues growing up with not feeling loved from her parents and all. Everything is always dark in her world she can never seem to look at the big picture, she sulks, gets disconnected from the world and thinks everyone has done her wrong. It's a habitual thinking pattern for her that doesn't work and won't work for anyone who shuts people out. She even goes to the extreme of acting like she has no time for drama but that's all she talks about. Most of her day is spent observing and analyzing the life others almost like being on the sideline of life. If passion is gone you work to restore, if intimacy is not there you find a solution, if you have problems with people you speak up like an adult and face yourself. The f it everybody attitude is a cop out if you ask me and wherever you go your problems follow you. I also asked if she wanted to do counseling she said no. Anyway I'm dealing with a beautiful person who doesn't know their beauty, who listens to people with broken relationships, and who won't take ownership for not showing up in their own life. Sorry for the rant and thanks for taking time to read this.
It's time to look at your marriage from an outside perspective. If she's not willing to talk, then that could be a problem though. This is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/P-6MMmmObcQ and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
so brad only mentioned 3 things as reasons to really pursue a divorce. was he committing one of those or are you just upset? cause everything else can be fixed. why waste your time and your husbands (i mean the years you've put in). sure you can find someone else, but chances are you will hit some of the same speed bumps again. so maybe instead of running you should fix it to the point of where it won't happen again.but if it does, you know how to fix it.
While I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
Hi Brad, I really need your help! Recently my husband who I've been married to for a little under a year wants a divorce. He says I don't trust him and we have so many problems communicating and with honesty. We've been together for about 6 years total, and things were great for a long time, but this last year has been so tough. Between sexual problems (he wants it a lot, I hardly ever need it,) problems with money and him thinking I don't trust or desire him anymore and that I'm not honest with him, he wants to end it. I know I've been a terrible spouse to him and I totally admit to it, I was living off of him, his money and his effort, but I our marriage is worth saving and I know I can change. We're both moved out and in with our parents. He's so cold towards me and I've definitely broken the rules and have gotten emotional in front of him. He says he need to see MAJOR changes in me before he'll even consider being with me again. But other times he says he's done for good. We talk daily, but it's just about moving and bills. I don't know what to do to show him I've grown into a better person. He says I act like a child which is partially true. I've never had to live on my own and fend for myself so my first goal is to get my own place, but I don't know what to do to get HIM back, I only know how to improve myself and I'm scared those changes in the long run won't even matter to him.
Hello there, Chelsea. The root cause of all this may have all to do with sex. It's possible he's paranoid that you aren't being honest or possibly cheating on him all because of your mismatched drive? It's important to communicate this isn't the case and to at least meet him halfway. How often does he want it? If he wants it several times a week, then perhaps suggest to have sex and reconnect 2-3 times a week? Find a middle ground. That's what being married means but especially communicate with him and brainstorm a solution together that will work for the BOTH of you. Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
What’s crazy to me is I know my marriage of 25 years could be saved. I realize the things I was doing to destroy my relationship. I checked out and got comfortable. I took my wife for granted and honestly the last few years I put all my identity into being a super dad. I lost myself and put too much neediness into my wife. I loved my wife my way, not her way. I neglected her emotionally and the crazy part is I didn’t even realize what I was doing. She is completely checked out but I’m doing what I can to become the best version of myself and fix the issues. I hope it works out but I won’t stress about what is out of my control.
Looks like you're on the right thing with trying to work on yourself at this time. When you're ready to reconnect with your wife, and assuming she's receptive to giving it another go, get my Mend the Marriage guide to help you out, including worksheets you both can do together to rebuild your marriage, at www.marriageguy.com/mbuy Good luck!
I remember when my ex-husband and I were going through a rough patch I decided I needed to try and make an effort to save our marriage so I cooked us a delicious meal after both of us coming back from work. I had an interesting day at work so I was telling him about my day & instead of acknowledging that I was making an effort he ate the dinner I made and said you just needed to vent & talk that’s why you cooked me that meal. At that point I knew our marriage was over & I left him,
Do you only cook a nice meal if you want to talk, though? Communication should be constant between you two, coupled with mutual effort. A marriage isn't gonna work by itself and complacency is known to kill a marriage before you two know what's happening.
@@BradBrowning Hi thanks for your reply. No I used to cook all the time. When we got married he put on so much weight that our family and friends would tease him that i was turning him into a sumo wrestler. For what the marriage was worth im glad i left him i would've have been cooking a life time of unappreciated dishes
Hey brad my wife and I are on the brink of divorce. I've erased innocent text messages 3 years ago and she claims I cheated. Then I did not tell her I had a friend that I use to talk to. I pulled her away from her dying grandmother to drop me off at home because my daughter had school the next day and her grandmother passed away. I've tried everything a sincere apology marriage counseling and she dropped that. What should I do I still love her with all my heart and I regret every last mistake I have made. But she does not believe a word I say. Is my marriage worth saving?
Sorry to hear it. She may just be mad and grieving through the loss. In other words, she's going through a lot and the stress may be getting to her. Give her time and show her you understand her by being there. Don't make her feel pressured in any way. Look for ways to rebuild trust. Anyway this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/P-6MMmmObcQ and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
hey Brad...need your help. 31st day of my NC is her birthday. she broke up with me in mid July. Since then I have pleaded and begged a several times...applied NC without actually knowing the concept for short periods...she actually called me once to be friends in mid Aug but I messed up by talking about the relationship straightaway. now been applying NC since 3 Sept. working on myself and feeling a bit better. So should I wish her on her bday or not?or should I extend my NC. and if I should contact...how it must be done and what type of text to send..since I clearly can't ask a question on her bday. Thanks Show less
Employing the "no contact" rule for short periods of time won't count, unfortunately. Wait at least a month, okay? Rushing it and failing miserably can become a theme if you're not careful. Anyway yes, you can send your ex a birthday greeting on his/her birthday, just make it quick and direct to the point, end the conversation first too because you're busy -- it helps if you really are, so hang out with friends, learn a new skill, etc. Also avoid drama like the plague and don’t get into an argument with your ex at any cost. I know I’m stating the obvious, but people often miss its importance. Anyway watch this, too: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-nIMALeM7kMw.html Good luck!
Hi Brad, I am now 21yrs old. Me and my crush have been friends since 3yrs. In the past 3yrs he used to give me hints suggesting that he likes me. But then I didn't have any feelings for him, so I acted as though I didn't get his hints. Now I started developing feelings for him but I guess he is not interested anymore. he is getting very close with this other girl and it just hurts me. Is there any chance of me getting back with him?? plz help
Why develop all the sudden interest in him? :-) Try to see if you really like him and not just because he's starting to date this other girl. Watch this first to know what I mean: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-m27TLeyUmwg.html
Can one apply no contact in marriage of your wife is stubbornly saying the marriage is over and I should accept it. Or should I still try the mend the marriage route?
That is up to you, though. Give it time to decide first. The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: y2u.be/ij6__SVcMW8 and y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
I need your help i don't know how to show my feelings to my wife and also caught me talking to others girls this is the 3thrd time she as caught me but I never had sex with this girls but I want change
Use the tips here, for starters: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-j--Pzmw3L4c.html As for not talking to other girls anymore, that's something only YOU can change, man. If you need my help further in this, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Hi Brad, my wife of 10 years dropped a bomb on me 2 months ago and told me she was in love with someone else. We lived together for about a month and a half until she moved in with this guy. During that time we talked a lot and she told me that she is confused and still loves me but also feels "love" for him too, even though she barely knows him. She says that she doesn't know what she really wants and she may want to come home but needs to find out If what she feels for him is real or not. I love my wife and want to fix our marriage and save our family, but what do I do? We still have an intimate relationship and still say "I love you" when we talk even though she is living with him. I can't try the no contact tactic to make her think of me because we have kids and have to communicate. How can I win her back, and make her realize that she has rose colored glasses on with this guy.
Hello, Michael! I suggest to try to get to the root of the problem. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? What happened two months ago? These may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html and ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-W_vzHFqnasM.html but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Same to you, man. If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
Make sure you use protection because he could've passed whatever he has from someone else onto you. But really, follow the tips here first: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-qoEZiPn9EH0.html
hey brad help! things were going good, but I noticed she's flirting with another guy, it's almost 2 months since the break up, should I worry about this? is it a rebound? I'm really scared, I wish I could pay for you to couch me. I'm really desperated because things were going good, are this things part of the process?
Try not to let it affect you as much, man. Here, watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-fBfDcH_kC_4.html and yes, finding your ex in a rebound relationship which comes from out of nowhere is very common. If you need my help further on this, however, then we ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!
I forgot to mention. This women he had an emotional affair with convinced him to give her $5,000 over an 8 month peiod of time. How can I get over this?
You ultimately decide that eventually. However, you do need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him regarding the other woman. Here's how: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-U9oTGnDRms4.html
No to every question, except the last. Your advice helped me get back together with my ex, however things are no longer the same. It seems like more work than it's worth. Your videos always have perfect timing.
Sorry to hear. Well your path is pretty clear, then. :-) Anyway thanks! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
You are a great speaker on these things. I don't say that to a lot of speakers on marriage. Lol, I have to laugh, cuz I think I have been with the same man, husband longer than you have been alive.
I'm gonna affirm strongly tomorrow that I want a divorce. my wife has been adulterous stolen money out of my wallet. she hollers cusses slams doors and more. I should've ran from the git go. she started working on changing everything about mr right out of the gate
My wife is an addict I have tried to help her and it’s just hurting me time and time again I’ve decided to completely cut her off take the car back I financed for her because her credit is so bad the bank wouldn’t lend her a pen to fill out a credit application and now her DL is suspended and she has no insurance so I told finance company to just repo the car and I will pick it up and continue to make the payments. I’ve asked her to no longer contact me if she isn’t ready to quit using drugs and fully commit to our marriage then I just don’t want to talk to her anymore
That's right. Let her sort out her own issues first but most importantly, have her realize stuff and how much she needs help. Have you tried getting her into therapy, though?
Well my wife is in another rehab now and I found out that I have cancer now and I am dying anyway so I am just not gonna even tell her I am sick I am just gonna keep my diagnosis to myself.
The principles stay the same, only you both have to work around a little bit due to the distance between you two. Was he recently deployed? What happened, though? Since your situation may be unique, you can work with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
What to do if the wife has completely given up and done with the marriage and does not want to have another relationship with me is it Possible to overturn her decision to win her back?
Sorry to hear that. Done with you as in wanting to divorce you? Many people say that in the heat of an argument. But when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? This may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WU0yhd3ADXU.html but it's really a bit challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation...Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Yea as in wanting divorce me. We weren't having an argument when she said it. I didn't get to sign up for the one on one coaching but I bought the books and videos
you mention walking on eggshells @5:18 over the years, my wife repeatedly has said she felt like she's had to walk on eggshells, more or less because i might lash out. that would always annoy me as i would have much rather she speak her mind. and i told her exactly that, speak your mind. it was her way of avoiding confrontation i guess. but how does that make her eggshell logic okay? you say in this video, "if she feels like she's walking on eggshells, it's a strong indicator that you and your spouse aren't meant to be". considering she could easily speak up in a loving tone, there would be no confrontation. she's done it in the past. i just don't see how that is an indicator. if anything it's an indicator that the person that is doing the "walking on eggshells" needs to learn to address the situation calmly. smh bunch of bs that i get hell for that.
Thanks for dropping by! Yes, I know here you're coming from. The thing why I said that is, when one has to walk on eggshells, that person doing the walking has to be very careful because it might trigger something. In your case, for example, it's triggering you lashing out. When she's careful, she's essentially limiting her self expression which is important so as not to breed grounds for resentment in the future. Case in point, if she can't talk to you because you might lash out, then that's actually a stressor and nobody could put up with it for so long... initially maybe, but in my years of experience in counseling people, she's bound to burst one day. The solution is to encourage her to talk and what's most important is to let her know it's safe to do so (you won't be lashing out). Creating a safe environment where she can express herself is a start, just try to gently coax her out of her shell. :-)
funny thing is, a year ago, she brought up something she knew i didn't agree with. (depression) and i sat down, listened, and was loving. basically the exact opposite of how she thought i would react. so it proved her wrong. so even as much as she said eggshells, i told her to stop acting that way because that wouldn't happen. and i didn't.
Hey Brad. I been watching your videos lately. My wife has asked for a divorce in October of this year. She hasn't filed which is confusing of how much she wants to divorce me. I been going to counseling and he told me that she may have post partum depression. She does suffer from anxiety and depression. I been trying to be her friend and do my father duties. We have 3 kids together. I have a feeling she deep inside still loves me. She's 24 and counselor also said that age could be a factor. I'm 30. I'm still in love with her. I will admit I wasn't very honest with her and I worked hard on being honest and open with her but unfortunately she doesn't believe anything I say so by my actions is what I'm trying to show her.
That must've been tough for you, I can imagine! Since she has depression, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other the space you both could use right now while she gets help. Encourage her to seek or continue treatment because clinical depression is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good marriage. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad I've just finished thirty day nc with my ex and we are friends again what do I do and how do I re build the conection and she hasn't made an effort to talk to me at all since she asked if we could be friends and I said yes and she was happy but she doesn't give effort or show interest at all what do I do ?
If you've recently reconnected, don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it.What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to know that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
