A conversation that i was waiting to have…..🙏🏽 

Your discussion here was the best medicine for you! Discussing your mother and your memories of her. Since death is a part of this life on earth, we all must pass this way. We are blessed to have parents who guided us during our maturation into adulthood. I was blessed with parents, in-laws, good friends, who have all passed and their memories fill your mind & heart everyday. I can tell you that those who suffered debilitating illnesses, I rarely think about those moments- I remember only the happy moments and the transformational influences that those individuals, no longer with us, played in my life. Most people fear death and do not know how to speak to those that have recently lost loved ones. I learned early in my practice as an intensive care physician dealing with parents who lost their newborn infant. Often, silent presence allows one to listen intensively before speaking. Thank you for this video.

Totally relatable , same happened with me....like you said nothing make sense literally the world don't make sense and yes we want to talk about them but we don't get the chance to express our feelings...but I m glad that you are talking about this ❤

More power to you. Also brave of you to show this side of yours as well! I have more respect and love towards you guys now. I'm very sure you both are going to do something great in the near future and I'm so happy that i found your channel in the growing stage! Lots of love 🤍

Be strong girl! Thanks for your advice. May her soul rest in peace.

Thanks. You have articulated so well what needs to be. It is so very important to understand grief and to help those in grief.

Such a beautiful video! You made us visualise your memories and got us to think about our own stories about our loved ones. I have already started to make memories of my mom to cherish forever. This video might show us the hard reality that our loved ones are not going to be there forever, but every day is a splendid opportunity to make them happy and get their blessings. Life is a beautiful cycle where our parents take care of us as kids and, at the end, we become parents and should take care of them like our kids. Thank you, Kanu, for sharing your story. 🙂

It was heartbreaking seeing you voice your grief - can relate completely with you as all of us have lost a parent , a dear friend or a cherished family member in our lifetime ! Totally agree with you about people saying it happens for a reason or it’s God’s will 😢 it actually makes one hurt more 😞 hang in there and enjoy those sweet memories of your dear mum 🤗give yourself time to heal and grieve - warm hugs and much love 🤗🤗 stay strong and take all the time you want - but her spirit will always be with you 🙏🏻🛐

God bless you Kanu for sharing how to be sensitive and help grieving people. It's so true that it hurts so deeply and even stings when people say that she is in a better place(even if it's well intentioned). So many things are said by people which are common practice but cause pain and leads to grieving people shutting out others. Just being there and listening to what the grieving want to share, speak or just giving them company as they move through the different stages of grief is all one needs and it's rare to find that support today.

I love my mom, she is her 80s and lost her memories but still cherishing me every moment with her little little things. She enjoying her second childhood.

Thanks for sharing and let people know what it means.. being vulnerable is ok ..You remembering and sharing about your mom shows what a beautiful person she raised...Am sure she knows knows that...Proud of you!!

I also lost my dad 8 years ago. Not a single day goes by that I don't think about him. Thank you for sharing this very important message. ❤ let's always be kind to one another

May her soul rest in peace. May all her loved ones heal with love, happiness and strength. Shes always with you since you're a part of her. Im sure shes extremely proud of you. Thank you for sharing your story. I wish the best of the best for all her loved ones ❤❤

You understand the feelings so well. You are a complete woman ❤

So touching and kind of you to open up in such a raw and genuine way…. And thank you you for talking about your mama… what a beautiful woman she sounded to be…please do continue to follow your heart and continue to post more of these videos as well💐

She’ll always be a part of you and you hers ♥️ sounds like she was a wonderful lady ! She will always live but just in a different way✨

I could just feel you, as these were my thoughts and feelings after losing my three elders, my pillars, my support system.

Thankyou thankyou so so much for sharing ... You have expressed each and every bit of feeling precisely to the point. I felt you and even shed tears even today after losing my elder brother of 21 years old who was almost to receive engineering degree in a month. I feel you my dear. You are extremely strong person ,very brave of you to share this. It took me many many years to even speak out about it. Loss of any blood relation is a loss... Because you live with that person 24*7... And i resonate and agree with you on each and every word. You will get through this i promise. Do watever keeps your soul happy.

What you are saying is so true. Grief can be so numbing. And grief not just from death, sometimes loss can be of a whole way of life, anything that can shatter your sense of life. Grieving never ends, my dear friend, as you rightly said. But love dosen't end too ❤❤❤

When you really miss your mother but can't see her physically... I can relate to that grief... 😔

Awesome for you to share this. I have a friend who lost a loved one and don't think I was sure how to approach her on the topic without being insensitive. The fact I chose silence is in my mind just as insensitive. Your story and genuine testimony have helped thank you so much 🙏🏽🙏🏽

Having a grief group in online or having a community space to share our grief will help so many. Like we always carry our pain in our heart so having such groups would really help.

❤ A heart full of love and goodness for you! Could connect with every word you said...

You are not only beautiful by looks, but equally beautiful at heart. You are an emotional and caring person. I am almost 50 and my best friend is my Mom, aged 77. We have detached ourselves from all friends and relatives and we focus on what we want from life while we are still breathing more than anything else. We learnt our lessons through bitter experiences and harsh fact is that people judge you from how much money you have. It's useless expecting emotional support from materialistic people. Rather to spend time with nature, animals and gain happiness by helping the most neglected, weakest being around you without any publicity. Do try to connect with the higher dimensions and accept the fact that some day we all will need to leave, Detachment is the key.Also make the loved ones as comfortable as you can while they are still breathing and make them feel important, This will take away half the pain off your chest. Apologies if I am insensitive. Great regards

I hear you . And I pray you get more strength and space to grieve❤️

What a heartfelt vlog ❤ totally relatable. Lost my husband 7 years back and it still feels so fresh . You never move on you just learn to live with your grief. Agree not many ppl have that sensitivity towards grievers.

What you say is absolutely true. Thre is none who can replace good parents where we have great memories and only time will smoothen the path but will never ever erase memories . We will feel very heavy hearted when we think of the incidents , feel a stone in our throats even if we cherish but gone is gone. SO MANY OF US RUN BEHIND THE UNREAL HAS TO REALIZE THAT BEING WITH PARENTS LOVED ONES PEOPLE WHO SACRIFICE FOR US , make them happy , make them smile , IS THE BEST LUXURY WHICH CANNOT BE EQUALLED BY 10 BEVERLY HILLS VILLAS , LONG ISLAND BUNGLOWS, OR PORSCHES . SO LIVE THE PRESENT IN THE PRESENCE , CHERISH THE MEMORIES OF THE GONE TILL OUR TIME COMES TO JOIN THEM . Life is as simple and light as this ... Thanks for putting up this video sister...

Thanks being vulnerable. I bown down to you in gratitude. 🌼🌼♥️♥️

You are so right we heal faster when we talk about our lost loved ones. Their presence in our hearts and lives will always be there. U have done so well by sharing this video, pls use more hashtags on this so that it reaches more people. Thank u Darling

Completely relate . It took me almost three years to be able to articulate without a trembling voice . No pain is greater than the leaving of mother .

Thank you so much for this video. I lost an aunt few years back and I was totally lost when trying to talk to her daughters. I had absolutely no idea what to say especially since fortunately I never had to go through such trauma myself. I was being so careful not to trigger them or their thoughts about my aunt so much so that I would avoid the topic completely and try to keep them happy and engrossed in other thoughts. After hearing this I feel so bad and will certainly not make this mistake again.

Thank you. Noted. I have friends who went through similar situation, and I was absolutely clueless on how to support them.

Been there , done that. Its never easy. Thank you for putting your heart out over such a sensitive and much needed topic. I've felt worst when people tried to console me , even as they came from a place of ignorance.

Thank you so much for bringing this to light and talking about it is very hard as can be sensed even in this video... 🙏🏼

Thank you so much Kanu!!! Finally someone spoke about this!!

Thank you Kanu for this upload. Such a mature and relatable conversation. I too have experienced the same ,when I lost my mom in 2021 to COVID . Way much better than the current TedTalks and JoshTalks and all sorts of inspirational talks...love you loads. God bless!

Thank you very much for bringing up this topic which nobody has ever done. Yes i went through this kind of situation in my life when my younger brother passed away when he was 24yrs. It was one the biggest loss of our lives...my life changed forever after he left us. I totally agree with what you said and totally understand your feelings. Thank you again🙏🙏🙏

Yes ma'am, It's very hard to cope , when we lose our beloved one's. I know how hard it is. I am one person, that have never had my own parents, I am adopted . I long for my mother, father, but I don't know who they are, and where they are. We will never be treated the way our parents would treat us. But I am strong, I have come out of all odds and struggle's. I can understand what it is to be with parents, and without parents. May your mother's soul rest in peace. 🙏❤️

I want to hug you and cry 😭 , this also is a lesson to value what all we have until we have them . Thanks and God bless you dear

Much love to you for your grieving and honesty about how you have been feeling inside, while at the same time trying to fill your life with making the reels and doing other things that you loved doing prior to your mom's death. I agree that sometimes when we are grieving we don't get the space to let it all out in our normal lives and that should change. But the answer to what you said in the end about people who don't have a support system and how they cope is actually also in the first few red flag things that you didn't like hearing and spoke about in the begining of this video. My mom died when I was 20, and it's actually the words of a friend's mom that she's watching from above, that made me cope with her death, not the day she said it. Neither did I believe it the day she said it, but over time it helped and it was true. The answer on how people cope is in everything you said here, to allow yourself to cry and remember her and talk about her. And for those who don't have the support system, they can share it with a therapist or even write a book or make videos about the beautiful memories they shared with their loved ones. Everyone's process and mechanism will be different. And what everyone said to you that seems triggering is also a part of the grieving process journey, because what was triggering when it was said and what may seem insensitive at one point of time, won't be so at another point of time, as you understand the reality of death. Death makes a soul leave our lives physically, but because the soul is eternal, that soul will come back to us both is physical and spiritual ways, any time we remember them, any time we are in need of them. In physical ways they will briefly appear in forms of those who may remind you of her, and in spiritual and emotional ways she will always be with you. In spiritual and crisis management ways, her ways of coping or looking at life will pull you. The way your mom found delight with nature around you, is the way you can also find your joy some day too. You will also create new ways of finding your joy and processing the grief, and helping someone else process the grief. Some days in the distant future anything that seemed unhelpful while you were processing the grief and going into the pits of despair about it too will actually be ironically the exact thing you need. Healing from grief is a round about and long journey; and healing and grieving about someone's death is meant to make us think and feel about many aspects of our life Hence at different time points after someone's death, something new emerges from that grieving and remembering experience. 🤗💗 You will still grieve her 5 years later, 10 years later, decades later- and in different ways and hold different perspectives as you age. It's been over 20+ years for me since my mom died and slowly I have stopped counting the years she hasn't been with me ( which is more in number now than the years she was with me, but when she passed initially every year of her being gone was counted or remembered). And i have actually very less memories of good times with my mom prior to her death, than most average kids who lost their parents at that age might- but even then no one can take the place of our parents in our heart and in shaping who we become eventually. And their life and death both are meant to influence us in ways we can't imagine when we lost them. ❤🤗 Take care. Keep doing these vlogs on her and accepting your process of loss and grief the way it unfolds for you. I am sure it will help many! 💛✨🌹💞

I am completely with you on this. I also think non grievers don't realise that crying is a good thing since it is an emotional release and helps the person bearing the pain feel lighter and at peace. We are proud of you for doing this. We are headed for a healed world :)

I can truly relate to you, when I lost my father, and within a few days I was expected by my close ones to get out of that grief. It was so disturbing, that I wish I could see them in the same situation as I was, and then console and tell them to get out of it. Somewhere giving me the sense of satisfaction.

💯 ❤ Very brave of you to talk about this. Good wishes to you.

Losing my Grandfather was my lowest moment in my life.. Can't imagine how my world would be without my parents

I am someone who has lost both my parents and a very dear friend (more than a friend). And after hearing you today I felt like someone spoke my heart...Thanks

You are so true. I miss my dad like hell and still after 2 years I cry alone. Even I have a supportive family but still it happens. I too wish I had more videos of him. Much love to you.

What a wise girl I have seen now. God bless you. I am proud of you. You are a good Therapist ❤

My heartfelt condolences even if it has been more than a few months she passed away! A loss in the family like that of your Mother is really unbearable and it takes a ton of emotional health to recover from the loss! I never knew this is coming from one who makes us laugh through the reels! But I admire the fact that you have brought out your thoughtfull side while paying your due respects! I wish we could bring back our loved ones from the heavenly abode...But Death is the actual bitter truth of life we must admit just like life begins when a child is born! I watched your emotional confession till the end because it gives me a sense of inspiration of how we can keep ourselves up even when we know the loss of that ultimate person is never going to fill the void in our life! That's why I have always made it a point Kanu, to keep beautiful memories that I or my beloved ones could cherish if I die tomorrow or I lose someone very close to me! May God give us the strength we deserve to live with that void!😢

Yes, our loved ones deserve that space.❤❤❤ They just don't vanish like that.....🥺🤗

Thanks for doing this.. Feels Good to listen.. It's been 2 years and I can resonate to each n every bit of what you said ❤

Me too going thru same as my mom is strongest person in the family. Even i missing her lot and i feel that i have done justice to her as deserved.

This video made me cry and you really stole my words. I too lost my mum post Covid and it’s been 3 years for this Dec 2023. We cannot get over this void until we are alive.. this is very hard to digest. Moms are very precious. My deepest prayers for your mom’s beautiful soul rest in peace 🙏🏻Om Shanti.

Beautiful heartfelt words. Truly touching🙏

by making this video, you have helped a lot. This is a big message wanted to share and tell people about grievers. Thank You So Much.

Extremely sorry, sweetie pie. We all just love you sooo much. A big hug for you from Mysore. Yes, all of us stayed to hear till the end. Our parents are always, always with us. It is only the form that changes. Thank you so much for sharing.

Heartfelt Condolences, Dear 🙏♥️ May Your Loving Mother Rest In Peace 🙏♥️

wow. i just saw this video. that was really heavy. but. thank You for sharing, and actually making this video. i am sure it wasn't easy. so for that, i really am grateful and happy for You and wish You great health and joy and everything You need, just enough! also, thank You for doing this video in english, because this way i could understand. i am from europe, Hungary. :)

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and ideas. I too lost my Mother last year on the 22nd of September 2023. Your words have touched me.

You made senior citizen cry . 😢What a wonderful daughter

Never watched such a video for this long. U did make a impact on me. Thanks much.

I am therapist and i am so happy to see this. Thank you for your vulnerability, it means so much in a world where we're conditioned to act like our feelings, our stories, don't matter. So much of love and strength to you especially during those glimpses of the past. ♥️

Thanks for this initiative. It means a lot to people who go through breakups and loosing loved ones

Accept my condolences.may her soul rest in peace. cant agree more on what you have talked about.

Yesterday I’ve been overthinking what would happen to me, my world when such things happen to me. Today I ve come across this video as a good answer to it. Yes, the tip at the end, record videos & photos. Yes, haven’t done it till today, will do it from tomow! Lovely video. Sensible. Thanks for this.

Point taken and thanks for educating about this and spreading awareness!

Really felt vv sad and am in tears right now while you spoke about your mother ,i still feel the tears when i think ofmy loving parents they were way ahead in their love snd forgiveness , stay strong and happy because thsts what your mother wants for you❤❤❤

Lots and lots f love and blessings to beloved proud mom and to such a proud daughter ❤️🙏🌸♾️

I have just lost a very close person and this really helped me. Thanks a lot.

Lost my mother two years ago. What you have said, Kanupriya, is 100% true. Thank you for doing this.

God bless you, i am going through the same pain and understand how it feels. My mom was also a teacher and i also recorded her conversations..so it feels u r speaking my words..I feel exactly the same, everyone has a personal way of handling such painful emotions and its ok..Just hope n pray for healing

Yes everything that you have said is true, I too have walked this path, and felt the exact same things! Nice of you to have shared your thoughts and memories of your mom. I have stopped speaking about my memories with others because they can never understand what I’m going through. Surprisingly, my 17 year old son has been a pillar of strength and my anchor these past couple of years. Nice video, thank you!

Beautiful content.. have watched a lot of ur funny cute reels and shorts.. this one vedio commends huge respect and hats off to you for being so real to help the community. Absolutely loved this clip.

Good that you have spoken about your mom... Mother are irreplaceable. Moms love is true love that we ever had in our lives. As you have great support with your family i think you will be fine soon .. Each and every one has to face this situation in life. Don't worry you will be fine. TC.

Very heartfelt felt video. There is no equivalent replacement but acceptance of the fact and memories are all tat one lives with as life hasn’t ended it’s changed and they are forever present in spirit which is a consolation as we pray their soul now rests in peace with their maker who has called them to their eternal destination. Condolences to you kanu may God give you peace as you go thru the joys of re-living memories with a Smile God Bless

Dear...I watched this completely and I was crying I can't imagine losing my parents and I love them so much....I understand you.... Sending love and hugs my dear....

Thank you for this upload. very very emotional. You are really mature & strong enough to share this message. In my own way i am also doing the same work...just listening to the grievers without any judgement. i wish i could connect with you and work together while listening to people with such deep emotions..yes we all go through the same pain & need someone to share... highly Cathartic. Lots of love for you...take care ❤️

Thank you for pouring your heart out. I lost my father 2 years back. I am still in that excruciating pain deep inside, but forcefully keep a broad smile to the outside world. Whenever I am in pain I see my father in my dreams and when I wake up again I have to face the truth . I wish my dream never ended. I can't even express this. Coping each day with this void is too much. But still I have to. I miss my Daddy every moment in small and big things. Memories are everywhere at every corner and every small things. Love you Baba ! Stay strong dear.

Hi Kanu, Everything you said in the video is helpful and I would follow that (& more) whenever I get in the position of consoling a griever.

Thank you so much my best friend just lost her father....this video is actually going to help me what have to do

Thanks for sharing your experience and making it a learning for others.

May God Bless You, and May God Bless your Mother’s spirit 🙏 We need to talk more about these things in our community, if we can cope with death, we will also be able to better cope with life. Your video made me remember my Grandfather, may God Bless his spirit 🙏

Thank you so much ma’am for this video .

Thank you for this.....I lost my mother to cancer almost 4 years ago....still have not recovered....some pain we just have to live with

So lovely to hear you , a witty pretty girl on hyperactive mode, teasing the beloved always , Love your sharing feelings for your mom... though in a lowest mode in contrast known as joyful n teasing persona, I may be late to watch this video as i got to know you guys only for a little few days, But I m sure " THIS HEARTWARMING VIDEO OF YOU IS GOING TO BE ONE OF MY LIFETIME GRAND MEMORY THOUGH WE ARE NOT BLOOD RELATIVES ". STAY BLESSED DEAR ❤.. Sending lots of love from miles away.❤

It's so true. We can get insensitive and not even realise it. N you are right - it happens when you don't experience the same pain.

Seriously beautiful video! I cried through most of it. Such a sensible thing to do. Talk about your pain. Helps you heal. True 😅😂

This is the kind of video that won't be viral, but we need this. This is the reality that we push away from ourselves on a daily basis. But when such tragedy happens, we are devastated, and everything stops making sense.

It’s great that you realised it within a year. I almost could not grieve until 15years of my fathers death.

U have make me remember my mom 😢my dear mom ❤thanks Kanu & sorry for ur mom too. People who don't have their loved ones with them can feel the huge loose in life. 🙏🏼

Sorry for your loss

I lost my mother in December 2022.. I can understand every word you said.. We need to grieve openly and be kind and compassionate to one another

Your RU-vid snippets are wonderful 🎉 both of you are charmers. May God give you strength to overcome your prrdonsl loss ❤

Every word is so relatable. I remember my papa everyday.

You dealt with it so nice n you shared with others

A deep heartfelt message that you've shared. Take care dear. I lost my brother 15 yrs back and I was expected to carry on like nothing happened. No one who I thought cared ,gave me a chance to speak about it. I know exactly what you are trying to convey.

Such needed reality that needed to be put back in perspective. Even applies with general emotions.

Thank You for these precious words Ma'm - I lost my Mother - 5 Years 4 Months without Her....:( - in every moment I think of Her !!! Mother is GOD !!! - Life is so different now

Sending love and light to you ❤

Her blessings will take you forward in life. More power to you dear. Stay blessed!!!

Thank you for putting this up .

Thank you for sharing this. Stay strong Kanu.