A Daughter Finally Learns the Truth About Why Her Mother Abandoned Her | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN 

Sooo the grandma did manipulate the situation just to abuse them both? That’s weird and sick

Damn, you can feel the truth in her mother voice

Is it just me or does the mom look like keshia Cole's mom

I don’t care what nobody say....Iyanla is doing God’s work. Period!

It hurt the mother deeply to hear that her daughter had also been beaten by the gma. You can see her gasp down in her throat. Horrific!

At least she knows her mom is telling the truth. 😥😔

I believe Leronda. At this point she really have no reason to lie. I think a lot of older people lived by that “honor thy mother and they father” rule that it was detrimental to their own well-being. I think a lot of people of older generations were lead astray by their parents.

People are so evil towards children. Innocent children just trying to live. It’s so sad

So disturbing that you have scream if you see your mom when the real evil is the person who ask you to do that.😢😢😢😢😢😢

I think Kizzy is hurt the most. No mother figure, no father figure, abusive grandmother. At least the boys at some point had each other, she seems like she had no one there for her, and she's a beautiful young lady

I believe the mother because I see this situation going on in my family right now.

I believe this mother 200%. A lot of children go through this with parents. It's sad

I believe the mom. I remember when I had my first daughter. I was 19 with a job. Paying for my own baby daycare..and had applied for public housing. When it came through and as I was moving out.. my mama spazzed out. She basically told me she was gonna call cps on me if I left with my daughter. She had the phone in her hand to call the freaking cops. I didn't know any better about cps and I thought they would just come take my baby..so I left her with my mama. It was 6 months later when someone told me she doesn't have the right to do that and it was point blank kidnapping. I immediately went and got my baby. I still don't understand why she reacted like that and when I asked her she denied she ever did such a thing. Ijs.. I believe the mama

The lack of selfworth in most families makes them think they can destroy eachother without remorse and without respect!!

That’s why the Bible say don’t judge there’s always two sides of a story and then the truth.

Sad😪..I believe it...I believe it...grandmothers taking the baby and saying "you dont know how to care for no baby"....I'm sorry that happened...your MOTher love you Kizzy...I'm wondering if grandma named you...I've seen grandma's do this..still today SOME take over the grandbabies life...STOP IT GRANDMAS!!

Glad they're talking to each other and not at each other 💯

Kensie is such a beautiful girl. Her mom too I can see through their pain. Both Beautiful women. I pray for complete healing for the both of them and her brothers as well ❤️❤️❤️

I wasn't ready for this kind of heartbreak so early on a Sunday morning.

I’m glad the mother was allowed to tell her story

That broke my heart!! I could see the truth of the mother helped her to reveal her abuse she endured. I pray those two have a healthy relationship now.

My grandmother was very similar. She brainwashed my older sister and when my sister finally ran away to her and stayed my grandmother acted like she was some kind of trophy. My grandmother had 9 kids and 18 grandchildren and she definitely had her favorites. She tried it again with 3 of my other cousins but my aunts weren’t having it. She was toxic. Not every mother or grandmother deserves respect and no one has a right to your children but you!

Every video the mom in, everyone say she look like Franky Keisha C mom.

Her Grandmother had a Jezbel Spirit, period.

I'm so glad her mom lived long enough to help heal her daughter with the truth.🌹

Wow wow wow and this is how most of us live our lives with faulty perceptions about the real truth, we then live our lives in these lies, these lies tear lives apart and families apart for years!! It’s so sad 😞 the saddest thing is that each individual has there own story in there head which they believe is true each condemning the person they believe is at fault and that person believes there at fault and it goes on and on!!!! It’s crazy!!! This is why we need to all learn how to COMMUNICATE.. communicate the truth!! How different so many of our lives would be 🙏🏻 x x

The ROOT! of family dysfunction many times starts from the HEADS, wherever that lies.

Wow I’m praying for this young lady. She’s been through it.

What type of foolishness did her mother tell her that was clearly wrong to tell that lie the doctor told her. Kizzy's mother never was given a chance then to get the kids and beat them is just beyond me I will never understand the mind set of some people.

This definitely hits home. I feel this mom, my so call mom was the same way with my son and I've never used drugs because it's always been about control with her and shes still like that with my granddaughter. Some people are just kin not your family. Kin will cause you more pain and heartache than people in the street.

Omg I hope the recycle ends here once and for ALL

You can hear how angry the mother got when she was talking about how she got put out by the grandma. All she wanted to do was have her baby and her own MOTHER stood in the way and made sure that wouldn’t happen

I think they will get close after this

People don’t realize how often this happens in families, I completely believe her story.

I thought that was Keyshia Cole mama for a quick sec

God bless those who have been hurt by their narcissistic grandparents. You're not alone.

Omg this family have me crying every week

Older generations got issues. I know the women in my family do. Never understood why they are so controlling and mean. Want to take over other people lives and tell them what to do. Just plain evil sometimes.

This was very common. People will say they helping you out by taking in your baby but then didn't want to given them back. It was just a way to control you and be dominate in the relationship.

Hearing the mother recount the past was....powerful! I felt her telling the truth!

Grandma just wanted to control everything and everyone. Insanity.

Kizzy is 40 but almost seems like a kid. It’s like her emotional growth is stunted because of the neglect and physical abuse she experienced as a child. I just want to hug her. I hope she and her brothers are well ♥️

I believe the mother...I went through a similar situation with my own daughter & sister only to find out years later that my sister didn't hug her, taught her to believe she was tan instead of mixed (black & white) tried to alter her memories of me & was extremely mean to her. I was involved her whole life however limited by my sister & her husband meanwhile I NEVER gave them custody I just thought my daughter was getting a better education & living a better life than I could provide at the time...I WAS WRONG!

Man my grandmother did this same thing to me and my mother. I learned exactly how she did my mother now. She destroyed my life my solid marriage and now me my husband and my kids are on the streets separate and ripped apart. My mother died at 38 years old alone and beside herself. She completely le herself go. I can't imagine the genuine heartache she must have felt at the time. I was so cold and I didn't understand. Even after I was older. The few differences between me and my mother is that our kids are big and not so easily influenced and we had a happy strong home life and traditional family. My husband got premature Diabetes and we had several impacting factors before she caused us rough waters. The second part was that I am not on drugs. I was able to recognize and define exactly what was happening and exactly how my mother broke down. I fell terrible she had to go through that. My mother didn't marry a great man like I did. I feel terrible for being so cold to her. The heartache I now feel is not easy to bear at times. If I ever feel like I can't cope I'm considering my right to die. The are so many reasons for my childhood trauma one being tribal native American law and the long history of traumatic history with the way we are governed throughout the American system. My grandmother was a white woman and I grew up with white principles private education yet know very well both sides of the coin. It's very sad and when the story can be seen from how my mind projects the past people tend to be shocked it happen right under there noses. Both native and non natives alike they know and feel the injustice but just don't understand the cause and how it's being implemented. I hope they can forgive themselves for the past and build the bond they both deserve be patient with the unhealthy addictions that have resulted and stick together and be strong. I wish you many happy years. My mother died 15 years ago when I was 16. God bless

My grandmother kinda did the exact same this with my mom, when my mom got pregnant at age 16 she had my oldest sister and at that time my grandma would always try to keep her away from her, always said my mom couldnt care for her own child, couldnt do anything right. When my mom would try, my grandma would always push her away, say horrible things to her and was always trying to take over. It happens thank you think... Stay woke ladies, dont let anyone tell you what to do with your own kids or tell you that you are doing it wrong, you know whats best for your own child!

Wow, I believe the momma!

You can see the anger and rage in the moms eyes. I believe that the grandma pit the mom and daughter against each other 🤦🏾‍♂️

Kizzy is so broken and so highly attractive

I commend this show for opening the door for this discussion! I pray for all who have survived this kind of hurt & suffering. Amen! *If you are reading this, you also just prayed. Thank You!

*"LaRonda looks like Frankie."* Yes, we know. Enough! 😏

That last few seconds 😭😭😭😭😭😭. This family has so much pain.

This is sad. And you can tell they both were telling the truth. I gotta watch this whole episode because the pieces I’ve seen this family has been through it

Frankie??? Is that you???

Where the hell is grandma

This generational stuff has to stop. I know this feeling all to well

I don't know who this woman is or how old she is but everything in me wants to hold her and love on her. This breaks my heart so bad. I'm praying for you Kizzy.

It's official! That grandmother was toxic!

My mom tried to take my son. I called my favorite Aunt and she called and gave my mom the business. Thankfully i had someone to help me.

GOD BLESS THIS FAMILY🙏🙏🙏🙏😇😇😇😇PEACE AND UNDERSTANDING

I believe her they honored their parents back then a little more that we did, I know of a situation where the grandmother took her daughters child and didn’t really let her see her and things of that nature. Kizzy admitting to things only validates what Leronda went through

Willie Lynch syndrome stuff going on here. A generational curse. The aftermath of the trauma from slavery and most black families can relate to this all too well. 😔

The grandmother sounds narcissistic. My mom did something similar a while ago when I first cut her off. Would call me and say she was going to kill herself if I didn't come home. Manipulation at it's finest.

Poor little girl. She needs a big hug.

Poor thing. She's so pretty 💖 I hope everything gets better for her! 💖

Damn grandma petty as hell... she was fighting her own demons.. praying for the family

The grandma is the reason why they relationship is like that

She was in so much pain. I just wanted to hug her!

The look on her face when she told her that she been getting hit by the grandma told me all I needed to know I believe her🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾cause I saw all rage in her eyes the min the she said it

My grandmother almost did that to my parents. When I was born my parents were in there late teens like 17 and 18. And they had my brother before me but when I was born they had no idea what I was. I was a surprise baby in both gender and also my parents weren't planning on a second child. So when I was born my grandmother told my parents you are too young to be having two children let me have this one. I know how to take care of kids! I have a stable job and everything. My parents were very close in giving me up but decided not too. To this day I hear my grandmother repeat the story just for fun. I laugh we all laugh but I never thought it was serious tho. I just imagine what it would have been like not to grow up with my brother and than the sisters after me. I would have been lied too and everything it's a big eye opener now.

The last 34 seconds was my life too.

I feel their pain. 😥May the healing balm of Gilead heal these beautiful people right now and walk them into their purpose.

Can i just say that Iyana's hair is just stunning. So beautiful.

This is called Parent Alienation. What the grandmother did. Driving the mother away. It has a name.

I share this same story. Born a "crack baby" & given to family as a newborn. So many people never understood why i never resented my parents for this . My logic is that they could have dragged me around from drug house to drug house, exposing me to the very real hell that other children do. While I did have a rough childhood, including being molested, raped and almost killed (not by the family i was left with), i am still grateful for the selfless decision that they made in hopes of giving me a better life. Sure, she shouldn't have done drugs while she was pregnant. Sure, she should have quit .. it took 23 years but i got my mommy back, clean and sober. I learned to take the pain of her absence, and the things i saw when i lived with her as a teen, and applied that-- so i would never allow my babies to feel that pain. My mom had to go through what she went through to get where she got to. She was on drugs heavy for 26 years, survived suicide attempts, almost being murdered, jail, disappointment and pain. Now, we have the most beautiful mother daughter relationship one could have. And shes an amazing grandma to my 6 babies. I don't blame this young lady for her pain.. wanting answers.. wanting to know why she wasn't enough for her mom to just stop and come home.I get that. But i have learned that all of the pain i experienced made me come , almost to a breaking point-- which turned into a breakthrough.. if you are someone who is mourning the physical and emotional loss of someone on drugs, don't blame yourself and just love them as best you can. Sometimes thats all they need to push harder. My mother also is a rape victim, she was molested beginning at age 3, was abandoned by her mother and left to feed herself by 5.. so much pain she couldn't find her way out of. So many people just disregarded her because of what she was doing, and not looking at why she was doing it. While i would never do the same, i can't judge anyone else for the decisions they've made, knowing i haven't walked in their shoes... I wish you both the best. Don't give up on your mommy 💞

The Mother looks like Frankie, Keisha Cole’s mother! RIP Frankie

She sounds and looks just like Frankie...Keyshias mom...god bless all addicts💯

Girl's gat good skin mayne!!!

Why would the grandmother take Kizzy just to abuse her too???..really sad. I think the grandmother had some serious physiological issues that really need healing in Jesus name! Amen.

She looks just like her mother 🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️

Wow ..The mom looks sooo cool for me

The mom sounds and looks like "😏Frankie"... Keyshia Cole's mom

Is the mother related to Keyshia cole's mother?? Is it me or do they look very identical? What y’all think

Baby, baby I see n gerl the hurt from both sides this is so heartbreaking yet moving beyond this can be initiate the ultimate healing

I've been through the samething with my ma and my kids and its absolutely horrible to have to go through that.

They need to make sure their mom is not related to Keyshia Cole mom lol

You’d think if the grandma wanted Kenzie so bad she’d give her a better life but she’s beating her and not like a whooping you did some she had whelps on her

Poor baby i just want to hug her when she started crying :'(

1:53 those nails though..... I meaaaannn come on.... Is this for real! LOLLLLL

I don't care if she my mom r not she fida get heart attack n dead kos that my child. The brainwash from grandma is heartbreaking

This granny needs to have her house egged sheesh. But I've heard this story many times. My own moms foster grandma wouldnt let any of her moms siblings see or talk to her. She got beat for going onto the porch to speak to her own uncle. She still doesnt know why and shes 46.

I believe the mom I've seen someone go through that i really hope they family found peace

I had similar experiences as a child, and it was horrible! And to this day I’ve never gotten an apology or any rectification for my childhood traumas it’s like they think that because I Am a strong person that it doesn’t effect me but quite the contrary. Although I have healed from that it still has a way of changing a person’s view on life itself I use to think I was paranoid but I’m realizing that I’m not over thinking the issue because it seems to be common placed in our communities. CHAINS HAVE TO BE BROOOOKNNNED!!!!! I can’t express this enough! I have been Blessed to live long enough to see generations come behind me and I’m diligently teaching those who will listen in our community about the importance of being parents and guiding the generations to come we are wounded as a society. Wounds heal from inside out.

Where in the hell is the daddy 🤔

Thought this was Keisha Cole's mom that relapsed

I feel bad that her family went through all the stuff they went through. Better late then never to try to fix the relationship into love. The fact that they are trying speaks volumes on all their parts. It was really tough back in those days.

I’m glad she’s knowing the truth now.

You bout to die if you don’t get MY child? Well that’s too damn bad!!!!. And you weren’t on drugs till the youngest but you steady abandoned all of them🧐???

Keyshia come get your momma!!!

This broke my entire heart

I believe the mother , because my mother and sister did the same thing to me with my son , so sad !